Sex Talk A-Z with Shiloh Hobby with Love Your O...... F for FELLATIO

Get ready to chuckle and learn as Stephanie and I, Shiloh, tackle the zesty subject of fellatio with the zest our listeners love and expect. This isn't your average sex talk; we're taking the giggles and the taboo head-on with a laugh-out-loud journey through history, cultural nuances, and yes, the fine art of oral pleasure. Our quirky anatomical assistant from Key West—a most educational penis-shaped bottle opener—joins us to demystify male anatomy, while we debunk myths and encourage a shame-free exploration of sexuality. Whether you're curious about size, seeking to understand your partner better, or simply in for a good story, we've got the insights that promise to be as enlightening as they are entertaining.

Ever wonder how adult films and media have shaped our sexual expectations? We're peeling back the curtain to reveal the reality behind those scripted scenes and airbrushed images, discussing why real intimacy is far more fulfilling than any performance. I'll even share a resource that's a game-changer for those looking to up their intimacy game: "Jack's Blowjob Lessons." We're here to normalize conversations on foreplay, cleanliness, and the inclusive joy of pleasure. By the end of our chat, you'll be equipped with the knowledge to enhance your own intimate experiences, whether you're single, dating, or deep in the trenches of a long-term relationship. So, brace yourself for a no-holds-barred discussion that's as informative as it is cheeky.

12/30/23

Transcript

Speaker 2: 0:44

two so give me one minute. I gotta go there and go live.

Speaker 1: 0:49

I need some mom, uh-oh, hold on.

Speaker 2: 0:59

So sorry if that's okay, okay, cool, yay, hello and welcome back with sex Talk with Stephanie and Shiloh. We're here today with F4 Felicio. I love it, felicio, and you know, let's just. I'm going to start to kind of make everyone a little comfortable with a joke from the Laugh Factory and this is from Tatuajee13, because I'd like to give credit to whoever did it right. A mother is in the kitchen making dinner for her family when her daughter walks in Mother, where do babies come from? The mother thinks for a few seconds and says well, dear mommy and daddy fall in love and get married. One night they go into their bedroom, they kiss and hug and have sex. The daughter looks puzzledled. So the mother continues that means that daddy puts his penis in mommy's vagina. The child seems to comprehend oh, I see, but the other night, when I came into your room, you had daddy's penis in your mouth. What do you get when you do that? Jewelry, my dear jewelry. I love that and I think that's kind of archaic jewelry. But okay, we'll stick.

Speaker 1: 2:20

Well, you know, I mean, they do say anniversaries, birthdays, christmas, diamonds I.

Speaker 2: 2:29

I don't know why we just do it on certain occasions, but okay I mean, you know, I feel like, there are those people that definitely do it on special occasions, so let's break that I.

Speaker 2: 2:40

Okay. So let's have a conversation about that, because let's just break it down what is fellatio? Just so that people don't know. Don't mix it with it's fellatio, but that's not because it's female, it's. This is the male's penis. Okay, so fellatio is a form of oral sex that involves the use of the mouth, lips and sometimes the throat to stimulate the penis. It is a sexual practice that can be traced back to ancient times, with references to it found in curious cultures and historic texts, and I was explaining to Shiloh earlier that I had found some recent research that, while it goes back so far in the United States, we only have been talking talking not uncomfortably, you could tell since the 1940ss, and so it's 80 years we've been talking about this topic and we're still not that far along in the united states. I mean. So here's the thing. Do we really need to go another 80 not talking about this stuff? You know what I mean. Seriously, come on. No, not at all.

Speaker 1: 3:50

We need to get rid of the shame. That's what we're here for.

Speaker 2: 3:54

We're getting rid of the shame we're sex-educating you.

Speaker 1: 3:59

Yes, I was trying to Sexucation. How about sexucation? I like that.

Speaker 2: 4:03

Sexucation. That sounds fun. Yeah, we're doing sexology, we're studying the sex.

Speaker 1: 4:11

Today we're talking about the penis.

Speaker 2: 4:13

I love it this is our model today.

Speaker 1: 4:14

by the way I have this one.

Speaker 2: 4:17

Let's talk about it.

Speaker 1: 4:20

So here's the penis. He's from Key West, by the way. He even has my name on it. A little gift there.

Speaker 2: 4:27

And it's a bottle opener.

Speaker 1: 4:31

Yes, and it's a bottle opener. Yes, and it and it's a bottle opener. So I mean, you know, we have a lot of fun with the penis, don't we?

Speaker 2: 4:34

there's a lot of penis jokes just yeah, exactly oh yeah.

Speaker 1: 4:38

So when we're talking about the penis, this is gonna be your tip, this is gonna be the shaft. You do have some little testicles down here. You imagine the person that gets to carve this.

Speaker 1: 4:48

There's a machine that does this right, I don't know Somebody's hand carving this and making this for all the vacationers around the world, because you know these are in different places, like somebody is making these, just like there's people that make the vibrators and are doing you know, the cast and then quality control. Just saying somebody gets that job Anyhow, this one Somebody doesn't have a right figure on that one, but okay.

Speaker 2: 5:15

Yeah, so this one I'm sure there's some small, you know, balls but and you know, oh yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 1: 5:22

And just to keep in mind, they do come in all sizes Shapes. Acdc did have that song back in the 80s. You know, hung Got Big Balls it yeah.

Speaker 2: 5:32

So I don't, don't quote me. I don't know, I'm really bad at that stuff.

Speaker 1: 5:36

Okay, I think it was. I think it was, but if I'm wrong, please go ahead and put it in there. I mean, I just remember the song I've got big balls, You've got big balls, he's got the biggest balls of them all. You know anyway, this one does not. So anyways, and also one other thing that we're going to talk about here today is going to be the frenulum which not on this anatomically not correct penis, although he is, whatever he's kind, of penis come in all shapes and sizes.

Speaker 2: 6:04

you know, don't worry about it they all look different, so you know and that's why women need to understand that what might work for one partner isn't going to necessarily work for the other. And I should not say just women. Women, it's person.

Speaker 1: 6:22

Yeah, you know what. You are absolutely correct in saying that, because that is a very, very valid point. We all have a matchup and actually I found some videos. I'll send them to you. There's actually Dr Rachel Ross actually did a video on how to tell what kind of how they're, how they are, how each sex so one for guys, one for women but how you can determine the size of their penis and their vagina. Really, yes, Very, very interesting. I'll share it so we can share the link.

Speaker 2: 6:58

Okay.

Speaker 1: 6:59

Okay, cool, great for you people that are dating. You know you can kind of help you to like. No like do I even want to bother, so but if you do want to bother, fellatio is always fun, so let's talk about the myth stuff and what do you got for myth that we can go out here.

Speaker 2: 7:19

Well, here's the thing. I this, this. I love to do some research on different types of things. So they say that only 45 percent of women they don't like to do oral sex at all. So that's like that to me. Yeah, that's pretty high percentage.

Speaker 2: 7:33

I see a lot of people that say that if you don't do oral sex, that someone will leave you. I don't believe that that's to be true, but I have seen and read that it is. The second reason men will leave a relationship is if they are not getting oral sex. So that's a big deal to me. I think, if you know what I've been reading and the stuff that I read about is I think that maybe women don't really understand what the psychology behind why men need that kind of intimate connection, and so I don't know. I mean I don't understand everything of it, but there is a psychology behind it. But women have the same. So we need to understand each other's and we need to take that time to enjoy. And one of the things that I read and tell me I mean I'm assuming that this is to be true the guy knows if you're into it. He knows your attitude about it. He knows if you're into it.

Speaker 2: 8:43

He knows if you're happy to do it, if it's a chore for you, he knows.

Speaker 1: 8:49

It goes the same way. It's the same way backward. It's the same as the other way. You know, if your partner's not really wanting to do that, you, if they don't want to be there, if they're just like let me just do it for a second, like it's the same.

Speaker 2: 9:03

yes, absolutely, I agree with that yes, exactly, and so here's the thing I think that creating good environments together and what cleanliness cleaning yeah, I was just about to say the very first thing has to be that manscaping, like let's just say, gentlemen, you need to manscape down there and female and female I just heard a story absolutely yeah, I just heard a guy text me or send me a message and dm is like ah, how do I tell my girlfriend of like five years that her, you know, women tend to take not as many showers every day because of our hair and we dry out, so but we still need to take care of down under. So if everyone could just remember that you need to take care of down under, because really that's the key.

Speaker 1: 9:51

Yeah you need to do some landscaping down there. Take care of the property. Yeah, you need to do some landscaping down there, take care of the property so they'll make it accessible. And let's just um, guys, since we're talking about the guys, though, because we're not talking about the women right now, we really are focusing on, men you know just make sure that you're landscaping and you know trimming the bushes makes the tree look bigger and I don't.

Speaker 2: 10:15

I got to go see, I got to see Joe Coy and here in Rancho Mirage and he was talking about manscaping, especially the butthole and the butt and the hairy asshole that you guys have, and sometimes you have hemorrhoids and you get all shit, a lot of shit, going on down under and Bob is Come on as we get older, you know.

Speaker 1: 10:36

It's a big blade.

Speaker 2: 10:37

yes, His little piece on the butt was awesome. I just loved it because it's just so true. It's like the minute you know guys can lay down there and try and look all sexy, but if you didn't manscape good and it's looking all ugly and stuff and not very warm and cool down there, like it's not going to be appetizing. No, no, no, no, no, you got to make it look inviting.

Speaker 2: 11:05

And I think, as we age too, you know, let's just be clear, the penis, everything, all skin starts to hang. Okay, so things are not going to look the same, so it's okay. You know it doesn't have to look perfect. Okay, so things are not going to look the same, so it's okay. You know it doesn't have to look perfect, okay, it's not going to look like that. We got to just adjust and adjust to the fact that, you know, do not use porn. Let's just I got to say this Don't use porn as an example of how to give everything is Photoshopped, like that's the first important note.

Speaker 1: 11:35

Like they should put a disclaimer oh my gosh, she's got a book y'all. That should be a disclaimer on all porn. You know this is photoshopped. This is not. This is not what people really look like. I just want it's theatrics. It's with the like with the media. It's you know. It's basically, you know like an overall. You know, when you think about the media, like we need a disclaimer, like this is not what people look like. You know that this is not what real people look like.

Speaker 2: 12:02

We are not photoshopped no, no, no, and.

Speaker 1: 12:05

And here's the thing I'm not photoshopped, by the way no, I don't do photoshop in any of my photos.

Speaker 2: 12:10

That's why sometimes people go your photos don't look good, I don't care, I don't Photoshop anything Anyway. But what I do want to say is that the whole thing is it's a screenplay. When they're doing porn, they have roles that they need to capture. The guy, the director, has exactly the shots that he needs to get for this particular movie. So, bam straight, they're going to make sure that they get those specific spots and those specific positions and how everything's going to be perfect. Okay, that's the reason why you cannot use those as a foundation, but this has been going around for 20 plus years.

Speaker 2: 12:52

Okay, I don't know if you've ever heard it Jack's Blowjob Lessons. This is an amazing video. I've I've downloaded the book because he goes into attitude. He talks about intimacy in the mail and the psychology around it. He talks about positions and how to make it fun for both of you and how you can. You know he could basically be walking can't even stand because of his legs shaking so much, you know. And then he talks a lot about foreplay. And you know, to me, you know, we got to have places to send people because we're not going to sit here and just talk about all these things ongoing. You know they have to have a place to go and do it in the privacy of their own home and listen and things like that. So this is an amazing reference. The other one, Shiloh. I know that you do it when you do your classes, you do blowjob lessons and courses, when you do your little pure romance, right, no, we talk about it, but I don't do lessons to speak.

Speaker 2: 13:57

Oh, you haven't oh, okay, so back in the day. So back in the day, many, many years we're talking, you know, back when I was beginning. I mean, old school is coming to mind when um, what's his name?

Speaker 1: 14:10

did the blowjob lesson for the ladies on the bananas? Remember that? That in the movie of old school with Will Ferrell yes, that was awesome. And they had the guy that came in and did the. And who was it? God, I can't think of his name right now.

Speaker 2: 14:26

Oh, I don't remember. I can't remember who did it.

Speaker 1: 14:28

It was so, but he was perfect for it.

Speaker 2: 14:30

It was it was awesome, but and here's the thing we used to do courses, so maybe I'll get back into doing something like that. Maybe we could do it as an online gig thing, but we used to get everyone involved in learning how to you know deep through, Ask all those questions and answer them right there for them. What do I do with my hands? What do I, you know? What do I do with his balls? What do I do with his ass? You know, because the fellatio includes all those things down there.

Speaker 1: 14:58

It does. I mean you're going to make use of your hands. You're going to make use, you know, it's not just your mouth, you know, and it's, you know it's your hands, and you know. I mean, you know, think about it in terms of your own body. I mean you know, so to speak, touched. You don't like just, you don't want his mouth right there. You like a little incorporation of the hands, some fingers so just in that sense, or whatever. Please make sure that everything is clean yeah, even your hands and fingers.

Speaker 1: 15:24

Yeah, make sure that your hands and fingers are clean, because I mean you're gonna, you can create a cradle the balls create a what cradle, the cradle the balls, you gotta cradle them oh, I think there's a lot of things you can do with it.

Speaker 2: 15:38

You can do with a lot of things and men are very. Yeah, and men are very. You know they're balls. They're very sensitive about it. Yes, they are. If you get to get down there and start playing and licking and enjoying all the teaching them, all the different things about fellatio is just not about the penis, it's about the balls, the butthole, all that included right and it comes down there worship it.

Speaker 1: 16:01

You know what, just like. Just like us, I mean they, you know, even though men are pretty basic in terms of everything, they still have. They still have sensitive spots on their bodies. They still have sensitive spots on their penis where they like, you know, they, they, there are certain things that they like, just like. There's certain things that you like.

Speaker 2: 16:21

Yeah, and the cool thing about Jack he does talk about the all the different. He's a guy talking about how to give a blowjob to a guy. To me it's the best way because he's a guy, he's knows.

Speaker 2: 16:35

And so ladies go out. The link is in my bio. I don't, it's no money, I'm not selling anything. It's just a video you watch. He tells you what you can do, he gives you ideas there and then you can decide if you want to buy his book and move on forward to different levels of intimacy with your partner at doing fellatio, and to me it's got to get away from. It's not a job.

Speaker 1: 17:01

Right, it is not I can't find it but my favorite book about the penis, dr Sadie. She does Tickle is Pickle and it's a super fun. It's super fun. She does a whole lot of different sexuality books and Tickle is Pickle is one of them.

Speaker 2: 17:21

And for some reason.

Speaker 1: 17:22

I have it, but I don't know where it went to because it disappeared. I have her other ones. She has a whole line of them and they're very fun entertaining. She's got a whole different series, so we can throw things around Well the thing is is that you've got to educate yourself too.

Speaker 2: 17:39

So you got to go out, you got to learn. That's why this is just like a beginning A to Z, giving you a high level. We're not going to be demonstrating here, none of that kind of stuff, but you could definitely go to Jack's Blowjob. He, you could definitely go to Jack's blow job. He's not going to be demonstrating it either, but he might learn some more visual key points. That from a male's perspective, because I think women need to hear that.

Speaker 2: 18:04

So yeah, and fellatio is an amazing add on to give your man, maybe even first thing in the morning before he goes off to work. They love that kind of stuff, makes them be very constructive during the day. And you know it doesn't need to be a 30-minute sesh, doesn't need to be 40. I mean, it can be any kind of sesh you want. So you make it what you want, it with your partner and what you have time for for the day, instead of feeling it as a hassle to be intimate with your partner, because that was what you enjoyed before things got stale or stagnant and the only way to bring up the spark is to just start reading and start doing. I mean Right.

Speaker 1: 18:54

You want him to care about your pleasure, you need to care about his pleasure as well. It's a two-way street. You know what I mean, really, truly. You know you want an orgasm, but you also want your important part in an orgasm. You know it should be equally. It needs to be equally important on both sides, you know.

Speaker 2: 19:09

Nice, yeah, exactly Well. Nice, yeah, exactly well, thank you, okay. So, shiloh, next week let me talk to you about a few things. Business stuff, raffle. We have the raffle link. The link is in my bio. You can check the link there. It takes you right to where the laugh the raffle is. We're doing the raffle till May 12th, which is Mother's Day, and then we will raffle it off on the 14th, which is our next live. On Tuesday, may 14th, we'll raffle off the person's name and then we'll get it out into their little hands before the end of May.

Speaker 1: 19:44

And so I thought it would be a good way. Can you tell us more about this basket?

Speaker 2: 19:48

What's in there? Yes, there's about five different products. I did post a video on instagram, facebook, all over about all the different products that are in it, but it does come with a conch ring, comes with a butt plug, it comes with a vibrator and, uh, we will throw in some uh lube and some toy cleaner, because, of course, that always has to go with that kind of stuff. So, yeah, so some stuff, fun stuff for um our moms out there for a beautiful mother's day, and this basket is being dedicated from schizo kitty and we're so grateful for them out there. Thank you for joining us together and merging and bringing us a basket that we get to raffle to all of our mothers out there. So go ahead and check the link and fill out the information and we'll be on our way and we'll do our little name wheel on the 14th of May.

Speaker 2: 20:45

And I want to thank all those people who have joined us, because I have seen that we've had some joins and we've seen some little hearts and messages. So I really appreciate all of our followers, even on these uncomfortable topics, and that's why it's not here to make you uncomfortable, it's just really here to just have that open, honest conversation that we just normally cannot do and make it so it's not so taboo and it's OK. If you don't like to give little jobs and if you feel it's a job and a chore and all of these things, talk about it and maybe let's see how we can make it less of that. Or maybe it's more of an intimate connection between you and your partner, because guess what? Next week we're talking for G, for G-Spot, so now your female will do for you and now we're going to teach you to do for your female. Hit that G spot, because Lord knows.

Speaker 1: 21:45

It does exist. Oh, we're just going to. We're going to do that. We're going to bust that myth right now. It does exist. We're going to talk about it. We're going to talk about what it is, how to find it.

Speaker 2: 21:58

And it's different on everyone.

Speaker 1: 22:00

So I will talk about that next week though.

Speaker 2: 22:03

Yeah, exactly, so all right. Well, thank you for joining us on today's live sex talk A to Z with Shiloh and Steph, and we welcome you back next week. So don't forget to like, follow and subscribe so that you can get that live notification. Thank you so much. Thanks, shiloh, for joining me. Have a great one, stephanie. Okay, bye, straight.