Thirty-Nine and Feeling FINE!

It is my BIRTHDAY month - and I used this time to reflect on lessons learned, and hopes for the future!

You are NOT going to want to miss this episode - we cover:

• How far women have come - and how far we have to go
• The Power of Reflection
• The Power of Celebrating even the smallest moments
• And the ever moving goal post of success! 

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Hello friend. Ya'll February 20th was my 39th birthday. And dang, I am getting some years under my belt. How. Privileged. Am I. Really how privileged. But with 40 rapidly approaching, I thought I might feel a certain way. Like, that's a big milestone and it's a big one for women that a lot of people feel really negatively about. But so far I am just really excited about life. And the way everything is unfolding. Now I've heard so many amazing things about getting older, mainly that you really stopped giving a shit about what other people think. And you really focus inward on the things that matter to you. And while I'd like to say, that's me caring about what other people think. It's always been a sticky floor of mine. What can I say? I'm a work in progress. But in today's episode, I want to share with you what you can do to feel fine at 39 at 49 at 59 and beyond. And if you're on the other side of the age, demographic, trust me, you want to listen to it as well, because the earlier you can learn this stuff the better, I was just talking with my wonderful sweet mother-in-law Joanna. And she told me that she looks at me and all that I'm doing. And she wishes that she had the confidence and the gumption that I do at my age. That she's in her seventies and she's still learning all the things well. Well guess what we are all learning. And with each generation that. It comes up. My hope is that each generation before yours, before mine is helping to pave the way for everyone coming up behind them so that it is easier so that we can learn faster so that we can thrive. So cheers to feel and fine at any age, but definitely at 39. You are listening to the podcast from now to next, the podcast that empowers women to get seen, get heard and get promoted. I'm your host, Erica Rooney, and I've made it my mission to help you break free from the sticky floors, those limiting beliefs and toxic behaviors to bust through the glass ceiling. I'm obsessed with all things, growth and abundance. And I'm here to talk you through the tried and true secrets to get you to level up your career and your life. We talk about the hard stuff here. Imposter syndrome, perfectionism, fear and burnout. So pull up a seat. Pop in an earbud. And let's dive in. Now I'm a big believer in reflection. In looking back to see how far we've come, because I believe, and I've seen it firsthand how easy it is to look ahead at this ever moving goalpost and just feel like, oh, I still have so far to go. But let's take a quick pause. Let's take a beat and I want to share this one example that is near and dear to my heart. Let me ask you this. Do you know what year a woman in the United States of America could get a mortgage? Y'all. 1974. And I want to let that sink in. 1974. Now while women had quote fair access to rental and ownership, but they couldn't apply for loans for credit because how many people in your life do you know that could outright buy a home with cash, all cash? For me, it ain't that many, right? Like that's a big chunk of change here. Not to mention, especially back in the 1970s, women weren't even making all the cash that we have the potential to make today. Many women stayed at home, or they had jobs that were traditionally lower paying. Now y'all 1974 is not that long ago. My husband was born in 1973. So isn't that wild. I share all of this, because if I am married to a man that was born before women could get access to credit to buy a home. And here I am a ceiling breaker, a woman, a breadwinner, and someone who has bought her own home. Damn y'all look how far we've come. Do we still have far to go? Absolutely. But look how far we've come. So two snaps to all the women. You too Joanna who lived through that world and who have all put one foot in front of the other who have fought to work outside the home who have fought to climb the ladder and who have stepped into their own levels of confidence. So that we, me, you, we can have more equality, more confidence and more security. So I won't step off my soap box. Cause y'all know I like to live there, but I will share with you what I've learned over the past year. I've spent some time reflecting because I do look ahead at all the things I want to do. And I feel just this overwhelming sense of, oh my God. There's so much to do there so far to go. When I really need to be celebrating how far I've come. So first. I have put more care into my mental health than ever before. Previous years. I was all in on my job, but I've really learned that even if my email box is not at zero, I'm still doing a damn good job. The company still runs and I'm not burnt out. I've learned that I can walk away at five o'clock and guess what all of those things will still be there. When I come back at 9:00 AM now, previously, I would've spent hours battling my inbox and my never ending to do list, but guess what that to do list and those emails, they are still there after I rest, after I take some breasts for myself. And 99.9% of the time nothing happens if I don't get to those emails for a day or two. The challenge for me has always been to disconnect, to truly unplug and walk away both physically and mentally. And the one thing that's really helped me slow my brain down when it's spiraling over all the things I have yet to do. Is honestly simply make a list, make a list on a sticky note on a note card in your notebook, by your bed, whatever works for you. But when I organize my thoughts, it opens up a space that allows me to breathe. Think of it like a stepping stone out of a super crowded elevator. Like if you are back to back to back with all the stinky and sweaty people in this elevator, and when you write all your shit down, you get to then step out of that elevator and you leave all those stinky, sweaty people behind. Now, the second thing is the reminder that you do have to slow down to speed up. If you were trying to spin 10 plates all at once 24 7, it is inevitable that they will crash down. You might be able to stay in it for a short period of time, but that's not a long-term game plan. One minor inconvenience, like a sick kid or a work emergency to throw you off balance and all of this plates, crash and chatter to the floor. So I want to ask you what plate can you put down today? Even if just for a little bit, even if just for a moment. What can you put down today? For me this past year, I was trying to be in all the places all the time. And of course I was trying to Excel at them, right. Home work, Tik TOK, Instagram, Facebook threads. And of course, LinkedIn. I even invested in this AI tool that was supposed to help. And while it's interesting. It felt like it took me further away from connecting with the woman that I started, this podcast and business for. I truly just felt burnt out by social media. I felt burnout in general, even writing some of these podcast episodes were a struggle because my creativity was zapped. So the message here is show up where you need to show up, show up where you're filled with energy. Enjoy, do not show up because you think you should have to show up. And this really hones in on the sheds of life, like I used to feel like I should go to every single baseball practice and game and y'all know that I don't. Love him, but watching 20 kids swing a bat does not bring me joy when it's dark and cold out. And I just want to be home by the fire with a good book. So, if you are feeling the way that the sheds, if you are feeling like you were spinning 10 plates and they are all off kilter, and it's only a moment or a slight breeze before they all come crashing down. I want you to stop. I want you to take a breath. And I want you to really ask yourself, what can I put down today? Now, let me tell you, you don't have to put it down forever. So if you feel this sense of panic, like I can't walk away. Don't worry. You can always come back. You can always put something down and then pick it back up later. It's not forever, but slowing down to speed up. We'll give you more balance. And you'll find you're actually doing more better instead of doing more subpar. Now the third thing that really popped out at me from this past year is learning to celebrate the small things. The big things too, but definitely the small things. It's so easy to get caught up in all we have to do and is high achieving ambitious women. It is so easy to just check off the accomplishments and brush past them. Like it ain't no thing, but girl, it is a big deal. I want to invite more of this into my 39th year. And I want to find something to celebrate every day. Now it could be as big as my book launch that will be happening, uh, later in 2024. Or it can be as small as actually getting in a workout and eight hours of sleep in the same day. Now, what I've found is that the celebrations bring more joy. They bring more peace. And they bring more happiness. Really? They do. So by way of inviting more celebrations into my life, I'd love to celebrate yours, to share your wins with me, share them with a friend. They remind me and us that as all of these powerful women that we are, that we can do all the things that we want to do. And it also reminds me how far we've come to back to my point about the mortgages. We must celebrate every day. Y'all life is short and I don't want to wait for a health crisis or the death of a close friend or family member to be reminded of that. Although, this is the truth for many, many, many of us. I want to celebrate today. Now I want to celebrate all the things. But will you also celebrate with me? And before I close it out, I do want to share with you what I want to keep working on and what I am going to invite into my life. And the first big thing is my book y'all know that it's going to be such a celebration and a milestone, and it'll be about October-ish. But guess what? Mel Robbins is endorsing my book and her quote about my book, glass ceilings and sticky floors will be on the cover. So two's naps for that. I am so excited. Next up. I want to get very clear about how I want to make a difference in the world. And how I'm going to do that. So these are some of the things that I'm holding close to the vest right now that I'm not a hundred percent ready to share with the world yet. But as I. I worked through them. I promise I will share them with you, but it really centers on clarity on how I want to feel and clarity of what brings me joy and clarity of purpose. And then finally, I want to find more joy and happiness in every day. I have found that it is so easy to get caught up in the grind. That it's so easy to get caught up in just the daily hustle and bustle. And as moms we know the days are long, but the years are short and I already have a soon to be nine year old and a soon to be six year old and they aren't babies anymore. They are still little. They still want to snuggle with me and hold my hand. And I just want to relish every delicious moment that I can. Because I know there'll be over before I can blink. So with all that being said, thank you. Thank you for being with me on this journey for listening to me and for all of your messages that you send me. I read each and every single one of them and every single one of them pushes me further along on this journey. And they are so helpful on the days that I wonder if I am even making a difference. But you are making a difference in my life. Now, get out there and enjoy your day. Find something to celebrate, even if it's just getting through this short podcast episode and enjoy life. But until next time, stop putting ceilings on what's possible and start smashing through them.