In this episode we speak with Porscha Dillard
Porcha is the Founder of Off The Chain Alliance. Off the chain is a non profit organization that helps with low income minority families from the Inland Empire. They help with programs of grief for families who have lost loved ones, funeral costs, and more. Porscha also talks to us about other programs that her organization offers, like the upcoming active shooter training.
GUEST
offthechainalliance@gmail.com
https://www.instagram.com/offthechainalliance?igsh=ZWI2YzEzYmMxYg==
HOST
https://instagram.com/yeahthatishim?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
PODCAST:
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BOOK:
10 Things Your Parents Should Have Taught You...But Didn't
https://www.amazon.com/Things-Parents-Should-Taught-Didnt/dp/B0BB5CL3MF
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________Content______
00:00 - Intro/Technical Difficulties
04:40 - Tech Fixed/Who is Porshca & Off The Chain Alliance
19:00 - Services Offered/Life Insurance & Wills
27:40 - Natural Burial Cemetery
31:50 - Active Shooter Training & Firearms/Gun Laws (Right To Bare Arms)
40:46 - Support & Supporting/Being A Model
48:55 - Maurice Howard Collab/Current Projects/Me Time
58:04 - Porscha's Empire
In this episode we speak with Porscha Dillard
Porcha is the Founder of Off The Chain Alliance. Off the chain is a non profit organization that helps with low income minority families from the Inland Empire. They help with programs of grief for families who have lost loved ones, funeral costs, and more. Porscha also talks to us about other programs that her organization offers, like the upcoming active shooter training.
GUEST
offthechainalliance@gmail.com
https://www.instagram.com/offthechainalliance?igsh=ZWI2YzEzYmMxYg==
HOST
https://instagram.com/yeahthatishim?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
PODCAST:
https://instagram.com/thee_empire_podcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
BOOK:
10 Things Your Parents Should Have Taught You...But Didn't
https://www.amazon.com/Things-Parents-Should-Taught-Didnt/dp/B0BB5CL3MF
To Support The Podcast
CASHAPP
https://cash.app/$TheeEmpirePodcast
VENMO
https://venmo.com/u/TheeEmpirePodcast
PAYPAL:
https://paypal.me/theeempirepodcast?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US
________Content______
00:00 - Intro/Technical Difficulties
04:40 - Tech Fixed/Who is Porshca & Off The Chain Alliance
19:00 - Services Offered/Life Insurance & Wills
27:40 - Natural Burial Cemetery
31:50 - Active Shooter Training & Firearms/Gun Laws (Right To Bare Arms)
40:46 - Support & Supporting/Being A Model
48:55 - Maurice Howard Collab/Current Projects/Me Time
58:04 - Porscha's Empire
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Yo, what's up, everybody?
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Let's get right into it.
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Hi, everybody.
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Welcome to The Empire.
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We like to engage with
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everybody from pastors to actors,
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rappers to trappers,
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and everybody in between.
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And guess what?
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We have another great guest for today.
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But before we get into our guest...
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Ladies and gentlemen,
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please like the video,
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subscribe to the channel.
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We're working on growing it,
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all those things.
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Share this information, you know, blah,
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blah, blah, blah.
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We like to have interesting
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interviews with interesting
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people throughout the Inland community,
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throughout the world,
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throughout our society.
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And we have another great guest.
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If you guys didn't know,
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my name is Anthony Lee Miles.
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I'm your host.
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And today we have an amazing guest.
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Like I said,
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she's a lovely woman and
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founder of an organization
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called Off the Chain Alliance,
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which deals with, you know,
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they call it in the in the thing.
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It's like a wraparound.
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nature for the community.
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And we'll let her explain a
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lot more about what her
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organization is and everything like that.
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And we would like to thank
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Miss Portia and Dillard to the Empire.
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Welcome, Portia.
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Thank you.
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I'm excited to be here.
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Oh, we're so happy to have you.
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How you been?
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I've been doing well.
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Everybody's nice.
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Oh, you're kind of breaking up on us here.
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Oh, yeah, it's breaking up a little bit.
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No, no.
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It's doing it to us.
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Why?
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Yeah, it is breaking up.
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Yeah, it's still doing it.
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Yeah, it's breaking up.
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I think we might have to do
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a little switcheroo.
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Yeah.
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Except for that, folks.
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Technical issues, it happens.
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Yeah, no problem.
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We'll be here.
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It happens to the best of us.
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It's just kind of how it works.
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But, you know,
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It is what it is.
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It's kind of how things happen,
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you know what I mean?
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But, you know,
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we're still glad to have her.
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Sometimes, you know, technology,
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you never know what you're going to get,
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you know?
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Life's like a box of chocolates.
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You never know what you're going to get.
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Technology will do its thing.
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It'll listen.
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It won't listen.
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It'll...
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It just is what it is.
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And you just have to adapt and adjust.
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And I think that's the best
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part about life and about
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the best part about
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anything is being able to be multifaceted,
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being able to adapt.
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But luckily, we got it right back.
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This is the best I can do.
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Hopefully this works.
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Hey, we can hear you.
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We can hear you.
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So I think that's all that matters.
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Can you hear us?
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I hear you perfectly.
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Oh, yeah, we got you.
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We got you.
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We're good.
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So we're going to keep moving forward.
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And Portia, again,
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I want to thank you so much
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for being on The Empire.
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How has your day been?
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My day has been going well.
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I've just been preparing for
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this interview and
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preparing my board members
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for a couple other Zoom
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calls that Off the Chain
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Alliance needed to be a part of.
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So just business.
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Got you.
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You're preparing for the interview?
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You're ready to spar?
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I'm ready to spar.
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Got you.
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How are you preparing for
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today's interview?
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I just made sure that my skin was glossy,
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my lips are nice and red,
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and that I was sharp with my responses.
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OK.
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How much wood could a
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woodchuck chuck if a
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woodchuck could chuck wood?
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I wouldn't know.
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I think you've been prepared.
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I think you got prepared.
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No tongue tie, no tongue twisters.
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Correct.
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What was another one?
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Sally sells seashells by the seashore.
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Something like that.
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I suppose.
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I bet you know more than I would.
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I don't know.
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I just do the la la la la la
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la la la la la la.
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Were you even acting?
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Did you do acting?
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No, it's just,
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I just like to be heard and
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I like to enunciate.
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And sometimes you have like
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a lazy tongue and, you know,
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I just like to wake the tongue up.
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Got you.
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I don't know why I went
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sexual with that in my mind, but I did.
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I did.
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I was like, okay,
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got to wake that tongue up.
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Wake it up, girl.
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Wake it up.
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Good morning.
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Good morning.
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Good morning.
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Portia,
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for people who may not know who you
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are and the things that you do,
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can you please tell us all
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who you are and the things that you do?
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Well, hello, world.
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Hello, everyone.
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My name is Portia N. Dillard.
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I am a founder and a CEO of a nonprofit.
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It's essentially a
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bereavement nonprofit where I assist
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This franchise minority
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families in the in an
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empire with reference
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services for groups and
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funeral poverty so with funeral poverty,
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if people don't know
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funeral poverty is the
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inability income families
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to afford their funeral out
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a. destroying them financially, you know,
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essentially.
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So we help with that.
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We give them money towards
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their funeral because we
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understand that's very difficult.
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And we also do wraparound
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services for grief,
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which is grief counseling, grief groups,
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listening ears,
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transformational therapists,
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and doing workshops,
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teaching and training them
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about the different life insurances,
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such as term, whole, index.
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Because life insurance
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policies and life insurance
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plans can be very, very confusing.
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And I just like for people to be educated.
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I love that.
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I think being educated on
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these things and these
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matters are very good.
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If you guys can hear us and
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see us in the chat,
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give us a thumbs up in the chat.
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Give us a one in the chat.
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Let us know what's going on.
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That's so cool.
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Thank you.
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You know, I think it's...
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And you know,
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it's crazy because a lot of
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people may not know that this exists.
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And so I'm glad to have you
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on so that way people who
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know this exists can kind
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of get some insight and some help, right?
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And is this,
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do you have to like qualify to
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become like a participant
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for the Office Alliance work,
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off the chain Alliance work?
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So, well, majority of everybody is poor,
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disenfranchised.
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So you have to be a
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disenfranchised minority
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family within the Inland Empire.
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And I've been getting a lot
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of people off of Facebook, Instagram,
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and then people would
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message me and let me know
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someone passed away,
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a young man was murdered,
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a young lady died in a car accident,
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a hard time, the family needs help,
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stuff like that.
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And when I get that message,
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I ask them for the direct person.
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So what I don't do is I'm
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not going to give the
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person the money or
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anything that that message
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me if it's not their family.
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So I like to go directly to
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who I need to speak with,
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and I'll let them know who I am,
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what I do, and what I can offer,
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and if they want to accept my offer.
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And if they do, we prepare.
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Okay, we have three programs.
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So we have funeral poverty program,
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which is when we give them up to $200.
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I can't wait until we're
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able to at least give them
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$1,000 if we can just do
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the cremation for them.
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I would love that.
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That's where I'm working my way.
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That's where I'm working off
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the Chain Alliance's way up to.
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So we can at least fund a cremation.
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We also have our condolences program.
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That's where we create empathy baskets.
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We put big box of Kleenex, lavender candle,
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chamomile tea, coffee mug, teddy bear,
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flower,
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just something to let the people
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know like our condolences.
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We're giving you our
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condolences because death
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is definitely hard,
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but the grief is what really,
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really destroys you.
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And then we have end of life
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preparation program.
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That's when we
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Do workshops,
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educate them on a different
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life insurances where we do
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the grief groups or
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connected with grief counselors,
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anything of that nature
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that help them realize that
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you have to turn your pain
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into your purpose, you know.
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A lot of people give up once
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someone passes away.
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And a lot of time it'd be
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like the person who was the
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breadwinner who took care
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of all the bills and stuff like that,
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or someone who lost their
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child and that's their only child.
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Some people really, really give up.
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And I just want people to
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realize that you're still
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purposeful even though
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someone passes away and you're grieving.
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Wow, I love that.
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And I guess,
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can you give us a couple of
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stories about some people
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that you helped change
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their pain into purpose?
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I would say me.
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Me would be the greatest, primest example.
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My brother in 1998,
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he had asthma and he was
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leaving from home.
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We were in Van Nuys at my
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oldest nephew's fifth birthday party.
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And my brother, uh,
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inhaler dropped out his
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pocket before he left the house.
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He didn't realize it while he was walking.
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He began to have an asthma attack.
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He, um, passed out his lungs collapsed.
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He died in somebody's
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driveway and they found him
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like an hour later in their
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driveway dead.
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Wow.
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So we get back into town,
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me and my mother and I,
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we were all living alone
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Melinda at that time.
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We get back home.
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I say about 45 minutes later,
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we get a knock on the door.
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It's two detectives.
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And they pretty much lied to
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us because they didn't have
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the heart to tell us that
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my brother was dead,
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which I kind of resent
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because it would have just
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fully prepared us.
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Yeah, what did they do?
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They said that my brother
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was in a car accident and
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that we needed to go to the
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hospital to go see him when
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he was really dead.
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And so we lived by the Loma Linda House.
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We lived in the hills.
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So we lived right by Loma
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Linda University.
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And my mom and I,
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we were walking over there.
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And I don't like to panic.
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I'm a person.
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I have to see it sometimes to believe it.
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Or even if it is true,
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I don't really overreact
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like how most people would overreact.
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My mom, on the other hand,
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she was just so driving me
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crazy because I just didn't
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want to believe it.
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I just needed to see it, you know.
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So we get to the hospital.
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We tell them who we were.
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And they put us in this little small room.
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And it was just driving me crazy.
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So I sit down in a chair
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where the chair is facing the door.
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My mom is pacing, pacing, pacing, pacing.
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And I'm trying to tell her to relax.
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But the room filled up with
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about 12 doctors.
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And it was at that point I
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knew something wasn't right.
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And one doctor stepped up
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and he could just hear the pain.
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Hit my mom to her son.
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Her only son was dead.
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But he had to tell her that
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they kept trying to revive my brother,
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but he was already dead
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once the guy found him in the driveway.
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and my mom went ballistic um
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they had her on suicide
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watch you know they were
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just so afraid for her and
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then I had to go identify
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him because my mom was just
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she's too out of it and
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again I had to be the
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composed one because now
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it's like this is what it
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is he's dead so we got to
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do something and the doctor
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asked me to walk back there
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to go identify my brother I
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guess what really really um
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settled me was that when I
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pulled the bag back,
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he had a smile on his face.
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And when we were young,
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because my brother was two
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years older than me,
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and he was born with asthma
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and bronchitis.
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He was born with this.
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So he's been sick.
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He really couldn't breathe
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since he's been an embryo.
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And he used to say to me, you know, sister,
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by the time I turn 20 and
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my lungs don't get better,
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I'm not going to have a long life.
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So the year that he was turning 20,
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January 3rd, 1998,
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was the year that he died.
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So he already told me he
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wasn't gonna live a long life.
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Because it was just his,
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he had bronchitis and
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asthma mixed together.
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He hated that he couldn't do sports.
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He had to take medicine.
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He couldn't hang out.
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He couldn't play too hard
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because he would end up
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having to go to the hospital.
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Yeah.
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So how did that turn into your purpose?
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Because it helped me create
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Off the Chain Alliance.
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Because moving forward,
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I didn't create Off the
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Chain Alliance until 2017.
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But in between that time,
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seeing people walking on the street,
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asking for money towards a
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family member's funeral.
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just looking at GoFundMe,
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just having to help other people.
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I just realized that, you know,
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we didn't give my brother
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his dignity because once my
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brother passed away and we
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had a viewing for him at
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this wonderful funeral home in Southgate,
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we only had a certain
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amount of money to give
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them that they allowed us to pay them.
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And they allowed us to have
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my brother's viewing.
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So we were able to say our
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goodbyes to my brother,
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but my father didn't pay
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the $900 balance off to the funeral home.
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So my mother never got her
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son's earn or his death
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certificate at that time.
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I got his death certificate
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20 years later in 2018.
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So, you know, it just,
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it saddened me that we
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didn't get to give my
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brother no dignity because
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And now off the chain
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alliance is my way of
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paying it forward and
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giving him some dignity and
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also helping families in
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the same similar situation as ours.
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So it became our purpose to
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give my brother his dignity
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and to help other families
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have their funerals without any issues.
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Gotcha.
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And when did you start off
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the Chain Alliance?
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In 2017.
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In 2017?
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Yes.
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Almost 20 years after... Right.
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Because... I'm sorry?
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No, go ahead.
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Because, you know, the grief.
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That's why I say the grief is what got me.
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And the grief is what
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pained me and it made me
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look in and tap into my
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purpose because I became a
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teen mom the very next year
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18 years old I gave birth
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to a daughter you know I
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was um recklessly
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connecting with people to
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feel that emotional void of
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really not knowing that I
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was going through the
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stages of grief because I
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mean he's my my only
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brother I have one older
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sister left I've only had
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that one brother so I i spiraled
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I did.
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I spiraled.
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And I made a lot of horrible decisions.
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So a year after his death,
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you became a teen mom?
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Yes.
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I gave birth to my daughter August 26,
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1999.
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And I was trying to connect
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emotionally with anybody
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that would accept me for where I was at.
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I was extremely vulnerable.
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And yeah, I was an emotional wreck.
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I was an emotional wreck.
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But I had to tap into
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that this had to be for some reason.
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Nothing is not for a reason.
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And I had to focus in and
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just be honest and figure it out.
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And that's what I did.
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And I was like,
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I wanna pay it forward to
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families in similar situations.
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I think that was the best idea.
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Yeah.
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It was probably like a light
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bulb that probably struck
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in your mind like, okay,
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I know other people are
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going through this.
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Let me see if I can help
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them grieve better.
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Right.
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Right.
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How'd you come up with the
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name off the chain of lines?
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That's funny.
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You asked me that.
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Cause honestly, when I first began on this,
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I want to start a nonprofit.
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I just couldn't figure out
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the name for anything.
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And then one day I was
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speaking with rest in peace.
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Her name is her name was
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Gwenda Simpson and,
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she was telling me like, you know,
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just relax and clear your
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mind and it'll come to you,
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it'll come to you.
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And then one day I was just like,
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I connected off the chain with freedom.
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So I was like, okay,
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so if this is a way that I can provide,
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low income,
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disenfranchised minority family,
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some type of freedom, then that's that.
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So I just stuck with off the
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chain alliance because when
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you think about it, you're chained.
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And then when you're off of a chain,
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you have no more,
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you're no longer tied to anything.
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And I just wanted to just be
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that freedom for the
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impoverished families when
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it comes to funeral poverty.
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So it's just freedom to me.
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I like that.
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I like that.
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Getting the shackles off
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everybody so that way they
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can live their best life
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and be free and see the
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opportunities that are there for them.
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I know we kind of mentioned
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a little bit about the
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services that you guys provide, right?
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And how do you guys decide
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and come up with the ideas
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and the concept for what
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type of services to provide for people?
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Well, just what matters.
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People need help with
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cremating or burying their loved one.
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The empathy basket was just
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a way of just saying our condolences.
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You want to get in and hear it a lot,
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but it's just us letting
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them know that there are
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people out here that
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understand and have been
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through what you've been through.
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And you will be OK.
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But this is our way of telling you,
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you know,
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we do see you and we do hope and
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pray that you'll be OK and
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that you're going to get
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through it and keep your head up.
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And then the end of life services,
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the grief groups are very imperative,
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are very important because.
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you realize that you're not
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alone and you have other
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people who understand
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exactly where you're coming from.
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Because some people can
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grieve just for a year.
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Some people grieve for just
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a couple of months.
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Some people grieve forever.
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You know, there's no timeline on grief.
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And people need to know that
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there's other people out
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there that really will understand that.
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because some people like one
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woman I met who has her
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only son he had died 20
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some odd years ago and she
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still had the same amount
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of sadness that she had
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when he first passed away
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you know it's just some
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people don't know how to
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let things go and don't
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know how to grow past and
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beyond where they're at and
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sometimes you get a story
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of a person who went
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through a lot but
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persevered it motivates you
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to know that you can get
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through it and continue on
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And everyone's, like you said,
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everyone's stage of grief is different.
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And what I've learned is that,
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especially through any type of hardship,
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and I think the gift
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baskets and these efforts
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to have a safe space for a
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lot of people is that
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people feel heard and loved.
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And I know that helps a lot
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with griefing is feeling
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like I have a place to go.
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I have people who actually
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care about me and care
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about my situation.
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And I know that helps a lot
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with the thing.
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You know what I mean?
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So thank you for doing this work, actually,
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by the way.
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You're welcome.
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You're welcome.
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It's not done in vain, as they say.
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It's not.
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It's appreciated.
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And one of the programs that
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I thought was really cool that I saw,
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which was the,
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I believe it was the
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support group for grief.
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I thought that was really
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important because I think
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we kind of mentioned it
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that people can sit down
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with other people and talk
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about it together, right?
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I'm assuming that's kind of
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what the support group is, right?
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I think that's actually one
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of the big things that
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people can actually like
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build a community on an
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unfortunate situation,
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but be able to help and
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heal each other through this.
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You know,
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has this always been a part of
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the program or is it
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something new or talk to me?
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Initially,
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when I first began off the chain alliance,
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it was strictly empathy baskets.
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Then when I started getting more traction,
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more people understanding
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where I was coming from,
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the donations kicked in.
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And then a lot of the time I funded it.
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A lot of the times it was
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just out of pocket expenses where
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I would just take my money
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and then give it to the family.
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So then we incorporated the
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funeral poverty program.
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And then the last is the end
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of life preparations program.
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And then the last was the grief group.
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The grief group was the last idea.
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Can you explain what the end
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of life program is?
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The end of life is where we
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have the grief counseling
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or the grief groups.
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And we have the workshops which educate
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the families on the
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different types of life insurance.
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I even want to teach them
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about probate and wills,
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holographic wills,
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anything that prepares them
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for end of life.
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Gotcha.
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So that's kind of one of the
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future things you want to
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do is educate more on life
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insurance and probate for insurance,
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is that what you were saying?
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I want to have them
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understand that if they have a will,
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this is what probate is about,
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why sometimes maybe it'd be
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better if you make sure all
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of your final expenses and
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Anything that your loved one
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is leaving to you that you
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are prepared for it and you
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would know how to either fight for it or,
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you know, where to go,
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how to appeal for it,
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because sometimes families
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fight over material things.
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Oh, yeah.
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So it's just all about preparing for that,
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you know.
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But for the most part,
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disenfranchised minority
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families don't have to
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really worry about stuff like that.
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But I don't want just because.
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a lot of us don't have that
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type of money or that type
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of thought process where
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some of us are that prepared.
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At least it can prepare like
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the future generations.
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So they don't have to go
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through the same thing that
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our current generations are
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going through when it comes
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to loved ones passing away
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and then fighting over property.
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Yeah.
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Estate.
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How important do you think
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it is to establish a will
00:24:16.251 --> 00:24:17.432
and to get life insurance?
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How important do you think
00:24:18.232 --> 00:24:18.732
those things are?
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I think it's extremely
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important because when I'm
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learning about life insurance,
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it's really for the living.
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If you have the right type
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of life insurance,
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it can really provide a lot
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of help for you during
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while you're living.
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And I do believe it does
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assist with helping create
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generational wealth,
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especially if you get the
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right type of policy and
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you know exactly what to do with it.
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and then you know who to
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transfer that policy to.
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I think it's really
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important that people are
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at least knowledgeable
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about life insurance.
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I know, like I said,
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sometimes it's very
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difficult to understand the
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difference and you hear the
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whole is better, term is better,
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index is better,
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but it's just as long as
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you are educated on all of
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them and then you can pick
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which one and help that
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grow and leave that for your children
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or something, you know?
00:25:11.513 --> 00:25:12.454
But I do think life
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insurance is extremely important,
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at least to educate yourself on.
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Yeah, and to have, right?
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Yeah, I mean, yeah, but some people,
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again,
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can't afford it.
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And that's where I'm trying
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to figure out some type of
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program where families can
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be sponsored or something
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by particular people, donors,
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corporations or something,
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and where they can sponsor
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a family for maybe like up
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to a year to let the family
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get on their feet to be
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able to pay for it.
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And then like the family be
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able to take over and pay for it.
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But I do want the families
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to get fully prepared.
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I don't want to have to keep on
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servicing the same families
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over and over because of
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the fact that it's you know
00:25:56.921 --> 00:25:58.280
issue with funeral poverty
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you know a lot of people
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just can't afford dying I
00:26:01.682 --> 00:26:02.563
say it's hard for
00:26:02.643 --> 00:26:03.982
disenfranchised minority
00:26:04.022 --> 00:26:05.022
families to live and it's
00:26:05.123 --> 00:26:06.403
even harder for them to die
00:26:06.423 --> 00:26:07.784
and I think that's what's
00:26:07.804 --> 00:26:10.144
sad oh that's a line right
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there it's even harder for them to die
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That's intense.
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Would you say at least
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making a will would be,
00:26:17.769 --> 00:26:19.230
if they couldn't get life
00:26:19.270 --> 00:26:20.011
insurance right now,
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would you think that a will
00:26:21.432 --> 00:26:22.252
would be the next best
00:26:22.313 --> 00:26:23.253
thing to get for them?
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Correct.
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Correct.
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And there also is wills
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where you have like a
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lawyer draw it up and you have witnesses.
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And then there's a holographic will,
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which California will acknowledge,
00:26:36.022 --> 00:26:36.522
will accept,
00:26:36.962 --> 00:26:38.544
is when the actual person
00:26:38.604 --> 00:26:39.684
writes it out in their own
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handwriting and breaking
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down how they want to
00:26:42.807 --> 00:26:43.968
disperse whatever information
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materials items whatever's
00:26:46.143 --> 00:26:48.023
in their estate whatever um
00:26:48.104 --> 00:26:49.804
and they sign it and yeah
00:26:49.963 --> 00:26:51.163
that's a holographic will
00:26:51.403 --> 00:26:52.424
so if you can't afford for
00:26:52.464 --> 00:26:54.744
someone to a lawyer to draw
00:26:54.825 --> 00:26:55.984
one up for you you can also
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create your own now it says
00:26:57.846 --> 00:26:58.566
it doesn't need to be
00:26:58.645 --> 00:26:59.665
notarized or anything like
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that but I would just take
00:27:01.126 --> 00:27:03.007
extra steps you know um
00:27:03.067 --> 00:27:05.186
just in case just in case
00:27:05.247 --> 00:27:07.887
yeah but yes wills are important
00:27:08.253 --> 00:27:08.513
Got you.
00:27:08.534 --> 00:27:09.094
That's probably the next
00:27:09.153 --> 00:27:09.914
best step if you can't
00:27:09.934 --> 00:27:11.154
afford the life insurance, right?
00:27:11.454 --> 00:27:11.815
Correct.
00:27:12.134 --> 00:27:12.474
Correct.
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I like that.
00:27:15.316 --> 00:27:15.796
I guess there's two
00:27:15.856 --> 00:27:16.596
questions and it's going to
00:27:16.616 --> 00:27:17.656
go in two different directions.
00:27:18.317 --> 00:27:21.959
And so what are some
00:27:22.058 --> 00:27:23.638
programs or things that you
00:27:23.659 --> 00:27:28.340
would like to offer that's in your mind?
00:27:29.201 --> 00:27:29.780
I know some of the life
00:27:29.820 --> 00:27:30.641
insurance stuff we talked about,
00:27:30.661 --> 00:27:31.602
but what's one or two
00:27:31.662 --> 00:27:32.402
things that you would like
00:27:32.442 --> 00:27:34.063
to add to the organization
00:27:34.103 --> 00:27:35.242
to make it better for the community?
00:27:36.508 --> 00:27:39.009
So a lot of the times with the funding,
00:27:39.269 --> 00:27:39.630
okay?
00:27:39.650 --> 00:27:40.830
So we've been doing great
00:27:40.931 --> 00:27:41.951
because one of my board
00:27:41.991 --> 00:27:43.633
members donates a
00:27:43.712 --> 00:27:45.012
substantial amount monthly
00:27:45.733 --> 00:27:46.354
and we've been getting a
00:27:46.394 --> 00:27:49.675
lot of donations and different,
00:27:49.695 --> 00:27:50.957
are they called MPOs?
00:27:51.817 --> 00:27:54.740
Where you can fundraise through the system,
00:27:54.779 --> 00:27:56.560
through the service and
00:27:56.721 --> 00:27:57.961
they'll give you whatever
00:27:58.041 --> 00:27:59.122
people are donating to you.
00:27:59.142 --> 00:27:59.863
Okay.
00:28:00.935 --> 00:28:03.718
Where I'm at is, honest to God,
00:28:04.159 --> 00:28:05.279
in Joshua Tree,
00:28:05.759 --> 00:28:11.263
they have a natural burial cemetery.
00:28:12.144 --> 00:28:13.786
And with the natural burial
00:28:13.826 --> 00:28:15.968
cemeteries are different
00:28:15.988 --> 00:28:17.409
from regular cemeteries
00:28:17.509 --> 00:28:18.951
because you don't embalm the body.
00:28:19.881 --> 00:28:22.422
And you don't bury the body in a casket.
00:28:22.521 --> 00:28:23.722
You can wrap it with the
00:28:23.903 --> 00:28:26.243
organic leaf or a sheet and
00:28:26.284 --> 00:28:28.204
you don't have to dig six feet.
00:28:28.265 --> 00:28:30.105
You can just bury the body three feet.
00:28:30.605 --> 00:28:32.007
So it's more of a natural
00:28:32.047 --> 00:28:34.587
way for you to be sent off
00:28:34.788 --> 00:28:37.368
and you will literally recycle.
00:28:37.821 --> 00:28:40.782
So current cemeteries, you just decompose,
00:28:40.883 --> 00:28:41.143
right?
00:28:41.663 --> 00:28:43.344
But natural burial cemeteries,
00:28:43.384 --> 00:28:44.784
you recycle back into the earth.
00:28:45.505 --> 00:28:47.766
I would love to be able to
00:28:47.826 --> 00:28:50.465
have access to a nice amount of land.
00:28:51.027 --> 00:28:52.787
So instead of me giving the
00:28:52.866 --> 00:28:55.907
families like $200 for a
00:28:55.968 --> 00:28:57.749
funeral service or whatever,
00:28:57.769 --> 00:28:59.069
I would like to offer them
00:28:59.130 --> 00:29:01.390
a plot instead.
00:29:02.070 --> 00:29:02.451
Gotcha.
00:29:02.510 --> 00:29:03.651
In our cemetery.
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In Joshua Tree.
00:29:06.667 --> 00:29:06.887
No,
00:29:07.048 --> 00:29:09.150
I want to create my own natural burial
00:29:09.190 --> 00:29:09.750
cemetery.
00:29:09.769 --> 00:29:12.132
I was saying in Joshua Tree,
00:29:12.432 --> 00:29:14.992
that's where I saw that
00:29:15.032 --> 00:29:16.074
they have a natural burial
00:29:16.094 --> 00:29:17.095
cemetery out there.
00:29:17.535 --> 00:29:18.976
So I would like to replicate
00:29:19.036 --> 00:29:20.717
something closer within the
00:29:20.856 --> 00:29:23.919
Inland Empire and be able to offer plots,
00:29:24.358 --> 00:29:24.680
you know,
00:29:24.779 --> 00:29:26.820
for the families just in case
00:29:27.320 --> 00:29:28.862
they're having a hard time with burying.
00:29:29.522 --> 00:29:30.682
And I know a lot of people
00:29:31.084 --> 00:29:33.285
are not into unorthodox burials.
00:29:33.365 --> 00:29:35.486
things but I was told like
00:29:35.567 --> 00:29:36.326
this is essentially how
00:29:36.346 --> 00:29:38.548
Muslims bury because it's
00:29:38.568 --> 00:29:39.808
just real natural yeah I
00:29:39.828 --> 00:29:41.990
just really would just like
00:29:42.711 --> 00:29:46.153
to eliminate hardships for
00:29:46.193 --> 00:29:47.394
the poverty for the
00:29:47.434 --> 00:29:48.454
disenfranchised minority
00:29:48.474 --> 00:29:49.635
families when it comes to
00:29:49.675 --> 00:29:51.096
funeral poverty and that's
00:29:51.136 --> 00:29:52.157
the only thing that I can
00:29:52.198 --> 00:29:53.097
really think of that would
00:29:53.117 --> 00:29:55.099
be a great is that if off
00:29:55.119 --> 00:29:55.940
the chain alliance could
00:29:55.960 --> 00:29:57.721
get some land and then we
00:29:57.741 --> 00:29:58.741
can create our own national
00:29:59.042 --> 00:30:00.804
burial cemetery and then
00:30:00.844 --> 00:30:02.585
give the families an additional option
00:30:03.233 --> 00:30:04.454
If they don't want to come to us,
00:30:04.494 --> 00:30:05.174
which is fine,
00:30:05.234 --> 00:30:06.115
we can be able to give them
00:30:06.135 --> 00:30:07.036
a little bit tours wherever
00:30:07.056 --> 00:30:07.695
they want to go.
00:30:08.257 --> 00:30:09.237
But initially, yeah,
00:30:09.257 --> 00:30:10.438
I want us off the chain of
00:30:10.458 --> 00:30:11.438
lines to have a couple of
00:30:11.478 --> 00:30:12.598
National Bear cemeteries
00:30:12.618 --> 00:30:13.618
within the Inland Empire.
00:30:14.059 --> 00:30:15.460
That'll be really cool and really hip.
00:30:15.840 --> 00:30:16.520
Hopefully someone will hear
00:30:16.540 --> 00:30:17.661
about this and you never
00:30:17.701 --> 00:30:18.642
know who can hear, right?
00:30:19.402 --> 00:30:20.722
Now that it's out there,
00:30:21.624 --> 00:30:23.243
more people can probably know, right?
00:30:23.625 --> 00:30:24.365
Right.
00:30:24.644 --> 00:30:25.865
If we keep it in, no one knows.
00:30:26.185 --> 00:30:26.945
No one knows.
00:30:27.086 --> 00:30:29.047
So it's out in the universe now.
00:30:29.528 --> 00:30:30.728
And thank you for letting me
00:30:30.768 --> 00:30:31.769
put it out in the universe.
00:30:33.782 --> 00:30:35.285
You know, I'm just the I'm the coach.
00:30:35.744 --> 00:30:36.685
Come on.
00:30:36.967 --> 00:30:40.770
Come on.
00:30:41.392 --> 00:30:41.932
So, yeah,
00:30:42.031 --> 00:30:43.594
that'd be really great to see a natural.
00:30:43.693 --> 00:30:44.414
So and, you know,
00:30:44.434 --> 00:30:45.175
I think a lot of people
00:30:45.715 --> 00:30:46.576
nowadays are really into
00:30:46.596 --> 00:30:47.898
like the natural organic
00:30:47.939 --> 00:30:48.779
type of lifestyle.
00:30:48.819 --> 00:30:50.622
So I think it might be really big.
00:30:50.662 --> 00:30:51.762
You know, it might be really nice.
00:30:51.803 --> 00:30:53.144
And I look forward to seeing that.
00:30:53.184 --> 00:30:53.744
Super cool.
00:30:54.405 --> 00:30:54.826
Thank you.
00:30:54.905 --> 00:30:55.967
And you're open to anywhere
00:30:55.987 --> 00:30:56.867
in the Inland Empire, right?
00:30:56.907 --> 00:30:57.628
As long as it's Inland Empire.
00:30:57.648 --> 00:30:59.589
Yeah, it's just the Inland Empire.
00:30:59.730 --> 00:31:00.530
I mean, of course,
00:31:00.711 --> 00:31:02.712
I wouldn't want it in the
00:31:02.752 --> 00:31:04.153
Mojave Basin or anything
00:31:04.193 --> 00:31:04.953
like that because I know
00:31:04.973 --> 00:31:05.994
it's part of the Inland Empire.
00:31:06.015 --> 00:31:06.655
It's too hot.
00:31:07.236 --> 00:31:08.196
But yeah, yeah,
00:31:08.317 --> 00:31:09.718
I would like a couple just
00:31:09.837 --> 00:31:12.039
for somewhere within Riverside County,
00:31:12.480 --> 00:31:14.301
somewhere within San Bernardino County,
00:31:14.602 --> 00:31:15.603
you know, and yeah,
00:31:16.103 --> 00:31:17.124
and just place them
00:31:17.144 --> 00:31:19.986
strategically and be an option,
00:31:20.205 --> 00:31:21.527
additional option for
00:31:21.606 --> 00:31:23.568
people to bury their loved ones.
00:31:24.451 --> 00:31:25.053
I love that.
00:31:25.073 --> 00:31:26.114
It's super cool.
00:31:26.733 --> 00:31:27.615
Wow, that's so cool.
00:31:28.174 --> 00:31:30.356
You know, like we mentioned before,
00:31:30.376 --> 00:31:31.518
you hear off the chain
00:31:31.557 --> 00:31:33.640
Alliance does a lot of
00:31:33.779 --> 00:31:35.121
different type of things, right?
00:31:35.602 --> 00:31:36.442
And I noticed recently,
00:31:36.462 --> 00:31:37.163
you guys have something
00:31:37.182 --> 00:31:38.984
coming up or talking about
00:31:39.005 --> 00:31:40.286
the active shooter training.
00:31:40.846 --> 00:31:41.747
Can you talk to us a little
00:31:41.767 --> 00:31:43.628
bit about why this?
00:31:43.729 --> 00:31:44.950
Why is it important?
00:31:44.970 --> 00:31:45.770
And why off the chain
00:31:45.790 --> 00:31:47.071
Alliance decided to do this?
00:31:48.501 --> 00:31:48.862
Okay,
00:31:48.902 --> 00:31:50.063
so this will be our first
00:31:50.482 --> 00:31:52.124
aftershooter training and
00:31:52.203 --> 00:31:54.806
our third firearm awareness workshop.
00:31:55.246 --> 00:31:56.047
The thing is,
00:31:56.126 --> 00:32:01.730
is I see how crazy it's been
00:32:01.931 --> 00:32:05.153
with people shooting up grocery stores,
00:32:05.212 --> 00:32:07.535
schools, universities, churches.
00:32:08.434 --> 00:32:09.336
And the thing is,
00:32:09.395 --> 00:32:11.636
is that it's not going to get any better.
00:32:12.458 --> 00:32:14.219
We have to just be honest about that.
00:32:14.578 --> 00:32:15.740
And guns are going to still
00:32:15.779 --> 00:32:17.181
be around whether we want them or not.
00:32:17.653 --> 00:32:21.036
But preparing for an actual
00:32:21.076 --> 00:32:21.836
event like that,
00:32:22.016 --> 00:32:24.096
a lot of people wouldn't know what to do.
00:32:24.557 --> 00:32:26.397
And back to educating.
00:32:26.818 --> 00:32:28.638
Off the Ten Alliance likes to educate.
00:32:29.220 --> 00:32:30.059
And creating these
00:32:30.119 --> 00:32:31.421
fundraisers and giving
00:32:31.441 --> 00:32:32.801
people opportunity to
00:32:32.902 --> 00:32:34.241
attend these fundraisers to
00:32:34.442 --> 00:32:35.823
be educated and to learn
00:32:36.182 --> 00:32:37.644
what to do just in case
00:32:37.743 --> 00:32:39.865
you're in an active shooter situation.
00:32:40.224 --> 00:32:41.546
And it's not too far-fetched now.
00:32:41.865 --> 00:32:43.346
See, before, maybe 10 years ago,
00:32:44.007 --> 00:32:45.647
but now it's not too far-fetched.
00:32:46.192 --> 00:32:46.511
You know,
00:32:46.592 --> 00:32:48.251
people snap at any given moment
00:32:48.633 --> 00:32:49.633
and I want people to be
00:32:49.673 --> 00:32:51.653
prepared because with death comes grief.
00:32:52.634 --> 00:32:54.094
And I'm trying to help
00:32:54.134 --> 00:32:56.253
people be prepared so they
00:32:56.273 --> 00:32:57.255
can protect themselves,
00:32:57.315 --> 00:32:58.674
but also understand, you know,
00:32:59.035 --> 00:33:00.335
these type of situations,
00:33:00.375 --> 00:33:01.615
people pass away and that's
00:33:01.635 --> 00:33:02.615
what comes with the grief.
00:33:02.635 --> 00:33:03.675
That's where grief comes in
00:33:03.715 --> 00:33:06.037
and that's how some people self-destruct.
00:33:06.457 --> 00:33:07.037
So again,
00:33:07.057 --> 00:33:09.497
it's just educating people on
00:33:09.577 --> 00:33:11.278
these situations and what
00:33:11.317 --> 00:33:12.778
to do if you were ever in
00:33:12.798 --> 00:33:13.999
this situation because it's
00:33:14.058 --> 00:33:14.999
not far-fetched for you to
00:33:15.038 --> 00:33:15.798
be in this situation.
00:33:17.034 --> 00:33:17.334
Yeah.
00:33:17.374 --> 00:33:20.115
So what are some of the
00:33:20.234 --> 00:33:21.954
things that you guys will
00:33:21.974 --> 00:33:23.115
be educating people on
00:33:23.275 --> 00:33:24.615
about this active shooter training?
00:33:24.634 --> 00:33:25.135
What's some of the things
00:33:25.155 --> 00:33:26.256
that you'd be educating people on?
00:33:26.796 --> 00:33:27.875
So if someone gets shot,
00:33:28.855 --> 00:33:29.875
so the instructor name,
00:33:29.935 --> 00:33:31.037
her name is Jasmine Burke.
00:33:31.477 --> 00:33:32.957
So if someone gets shot,
00:33:33.017 --> 00:33:34.116
it's called stop the bleed.
00:33:34.257 --> 00:33:35.336
So she's going to teach them
00:33:35.396 --> 00:33:36.958
how if someone gets shot,
00:33:37.298 --> 00:33:39.698
how you stop them from bleeding.
00:33:40.157 --> 00:33:43.138
And then also two techniques to help you
00:33:44.125 --> 00:33:44.445
I guess,
00:33:44.506 --> 00:33:47.107
disarm the shooter or best ways
00:33:47.147 --> 00:33:51.309
for you to escape and then ways for you,
00:33:51.470 --> 00:33:52.569
if you do get a hold of
00:33:52.609 --> 00:33:53.790
some type of firearm,
00:33:54.010 --> 00:33:54.811
what to do and how to
00:33:54.912 --> 00:33:56.211
execute it and save people
00:33:56.471 --> 00:33:57.633
in your surroundings as well.
00:33:58.553 --> 00:33:58.932
Got you.
00:33:59.032 --> 00:33:59.373
Okay.
00:33:59.732 --> 00:34:02.734
I definitely like the bullet
00:34:02.775 --> 00:34:03.835
stopping the bleeding idea.
00:34:04.434 --> 00:34:05.315
The other ones kind of get a
00:34:05.355 --> 00:34:07.016
little dangerous, right?
00:34:07.056 --> 00:34:07.496
We have to like,
00:34:07.516 --> 00:34:09.637
I'm going to stop the attacker.
00:34:09.677 --> 00:34:11.717
Like, okay, that's a certain mindset,
00:34:11.737 --> 00:34:12.398
I think.
00:34:13.538 --> 00:34:15.378
But I think all knowledge is
00:34:15.418 --> 00:34:17.380
good knowledge because you
00:34:17.400 --> 00:34:18.760
never know when you might need something.
00:34:19.019 --> 00:34:20.001
You know what I mean?
00:34:20.601 --> 00:34:21.300
And I thought it was really
00:34:21.360 --> 00:34:23.202
interesting about how you mentioned
00:34:24.061 --> 00:34:26.083
about, you know, people dying from gun war,
00:34:26.244 --> 00:34:27.646
gunfire and stuff like that.
00:34:27.686 --> 00:34:28.487
And then people grief.
00:34:29.106 --> 00:34:31.429
And then it can go two different ways.
00:34:31.510 --> 00:34:32.451
Like some people can use
00:34:33.050 --> 00:34:35.173
firearms on themselves and
00:34:35.233 --> 00:34:37.576
people can use firearms on
00:34:37.596 --> 00:34:40.159
other people from the grief, you know?
00:34:41.010 --> 00:34:43.130
And so this would have made my mind think,
00:34:43.170 --> 00:34:43.871
and I was like, wow,
00:34:43.891 --> 00:34:45.952
so if we kind of can make a
00:34:46.012 --> 00:34:47.152
safe space for people to
00:34:47.172 --> 00:34:52.313
exhale and be able to breathe,
00:34:52.333 --> 00:34:53.114
then maybe they can help
00:34:53.275 --> 00:34:54.434
make prevention from like
00:34:54.514 --> 00:34:56.496
suicide and prevention from
00:34:56.536 --> 00:34:57.356
going out and trying to
00:34:57.396 --> 00:34:59.356
like retaliate or do anything like that.
00:35:00.858 --> 00:35:03.099
When it comes to the firearm awareness,
00:35:03.818 --> 00:35:04.599
what are you guys talking
00:35:04.639 --> 00:35:06.079
about in that circle?
00:35:07.034 --> 00:35:09.375
So with the firearm awareness workshop,
00:35:09.414 --> 00:35:11.335
the instructor is Marcus Hill.
00:35:11.456 --> 00:35:12.617
He has a security guard
00:35:12.657 --> 00:35:14.056
company called Palisade.
00:35:14.797 --> 00:35:16.818
And what we do is we teach
00:35:16.878 --> 00:35:18.918
you how to clean the gun,
00:35:18.938 --> 00:35:22.581
how to store the gun, how to load the gun,
00:35:22.601 --> 00:35:24.222
and definitely how to shoot
00:35:24.422 --> 00:35:25.802
the gun responsibly.
00:35:26.483 --> 00:35:28.184
Because I know a lot of
00:35:28.244 --> 00:35:29.764
people who have firearms
00:35:29.784 --> 00:35:31.985
are terrified of their firearm,
00:35:32.605 --> 00:35:33.425
and that's not good.
00:35:34.219 --> 00:35:36.302
Because again, you know, you,
00:35:36.922 --> 00:35:38.284
if ever in a situation,
00:35:38.304 --> 00:35:39.865
if you have that to protect
00:35:39.905 --> 00:35:41.809
yourself and that was the
00:35:41.829 --> 00:35:43.170
only way it's going to keep you alive,
00:35:43.190 --> 00:35:45.432
then you need to be very
00:35:45.512 --> 00:35:46.634
educated and very
00:35:46.693 --> 00:35:49.177
comfortable with utilizing the firearm,
00:35:49.197 --> 00:35:51.099
the weapon to defend yourself.
00:35:51.891 --> 00:35:53.233
And I think also, too,
00:35:53.293 --> 00:35:54.353
that's important because
00:35:54.594 --> 00:35:55.735
some people do die
00:35:55.914 --> 00:35:56.655
unintentionally from
00:35:56.715 --> 00:35:58.376
firearm because they don't
00:35:58.416 --> 00:36:01.239
know how to properly load
00:36:01.318 --> 00:36:03.320
the gun or properly hold the gun.
00:36:03.460 --> 00:36:05.081
Or they're so they're so
00:36:05.501 --> 00:36:07.202
used to or just for some
00:36:07.342 --> 00:36:09.065
reason program just to pull
00:36:09.085 --> 00:36:10.626
the trigger or to hold the trigger.
00:36:10.746 --> 00:36:12.007
And it's why, you know,
00:36:12.246 --> 00:36:12.907
a lot of people don't even
00:36:12.927 --> 00:36:13.847
know how to pick up a gun.
00:36:13.867 --> 00:36:13.947
Yeah.
00:36:15.407 --> 00:36:17.108
You know, and that's the truth.
00:36:17.367 --> 00:36:18.048
And, you know,
00:36:18.108 --> 00:36:20.110
people don't know to use this and touch,
00:36:20.170 --> 00:36:20.409
you know,
00:36:20.429 --> 00:36:21.951
because you we're so used to
00:36:21.971 --> 00:36:22.911
wanting this to do this.
00:36:23.391 --> 00:36:24.552
And that's dangerous.
00:36:24.693 --> 00:36:25.552
It's very dangerous.
00:36:26.094 --> 00:36:27.775
And again, I'm aware of that.
00:36:28.394 --> 00:36:30.275
And it's just more education
00:36:30.335 --> 00:36:32.398
that people need to have.
00:36:34.298 --> 00:36:34.498
Yeah.
00:36:35.018 --> 00:36:36.139
The crazy part that you said
00:36:36.199 --> 00:36:37.601
is that you I think you mentioned that,
00:36:37.800 --> 00:36:38.101
you know,
00:36:38.141 --> 00:36:39.262
people who have guns but are
00:36:39.342 --> 00:36:39.902
scared of them.
00:36:40.342 --> 00:36:40.943
So that's kind of.
00:36:42.041 --> 00:36:43.043
The purpose.
00:36:43.842 --> 00:36:44.384
Yeah.
00:36:44.764 --> 00:36:45.364
You scared of the thing
00:36:45.384 --> 00:36:46.565
that's supposed to help protect you.
00:36:47.224 --> 00:36:47.545
Right.
00:36:47.626 --> 00:36:49.806
And because they don't, they, they, they,
00:36:49.987 --> 00:36:51.507
they had the money to purchase it,
00:36:52.528 --> 00:36:54.230
but they just don't go to
00:36:54.289 --> 00:36:55.550
shooting range to get more
00:36:55.610 --> 00:36:57.612
comfortable and well-versed
00:36:57.692 --> 00:36:58.572
with their weapon.
00:36:59.172 --> 00:37:00.614
So that's just the whole
00:37:00.693 --> 00:37:01.795
point is just to teach
00:37:01.815 --> 00:37:02.675
people to be more
00:37:02.735 --> 00:37:03.956
well-versed and comfortable
00:37:03.996 --> 00:37:05.277
with their weapon or with a
00:37:05.356 --> 00:37:08.179
weapon because people kill people.
00:37:08.947 --> 00:37:09.208
Yeah.
00:37:09.527 --> 00:37:10.028
Not dogs.
00:37:10.989 --> 00:37:11.489
Not cats.
00:37:12.429 --> 00:37:12.869
People.
00:37:12.990 --> 00:37:13.911
It's once you pull the
00:37:13.951 --> 00:37:15.592
trigger of the gun and the
00:37:15.791 --> 00:37:17.273
gun needs you to pull the trigger.
00:37:17.373 --> 00:37:18.813
So people kill people.
00:37:19.134 --> 00:37:19.373
Yeah.
00:37:19.393 --> 00:37:19.775
You know?
00:37:20.094 --> 00:37:20.635
So yeah.
00:37:20.655 --> 00:37:21.516
Wow.
00:37:21.536 --> 00:37:21.815
That's it.
00:37:21.835 --> 00:37:22.356
That's all.
00:37:23.356 --> 00:37:25.958
Are you a pro-gun or against guns?
00:37:26.679 --> 00:37:27.599
I'm pro-gun.
00:37:28.119 --> 00:37:29.641
I'm pro-protecting yourself.
00:37:30.141 --> 00:37:30.701
Okay.
00:37:31.001 --> 00:37:31.302
I am.
00:37:31.461 --> 00:37:31.981
I'm pro.
00:37:32.601 --> 00:37:33.943
I don't ever want to have
00:37:34.422 --> 00:37:35.804
need something and don't have it.
00:37:36.083 --> 00:37:36.525
You know?
00:37:37.405 --> 00:37:38.505
Because I know it's
00:37:41.317 --> 00:37:42.137
It's America.
00:37:42.697 --> 00:37:44.018
You know, we're in America.
00:37:44.157 --> 00:37:47.239
And I'm not unfamiliar about America.
00:37:47.260 --> 00:37:49.300
And we should have the
00:37:49.380 --> 00:37:50.782
rights to bear arms because
00:37:50.802 --> 00:37:51.842
there's a lot of idiots
00:37:51.922 --> 00:37:54.623
around here murdering a lot
00:37:54.684 --> 00:37:56.545
of needed people because
00:37:56.704 --> 00:37:57.764
they're not comfortable
00:37:57.784 --> 00:38:00.226
with guns and they're anti-gun, you know.
00:38:00.746 --> 00:38:02.427
It's a lot of pro-gun idiots.
00:38:03.708 --> 00:38:06.409
okay yeah you know um I
00:38:06.429 --> 00:38:06.969
think it's one of our
00:38:06.989 --> 00:38:07.710
amendments it's a part of
00:38:07.771 --> 00:38:08.590
our amendment right one of
00:38:08.650 --> 00:38:10.851
our amendment right uh-huh
00:38:10.972 --> 00:38:11.831
um it's the first or the
00:38:11.891 --> 00:38:13.032
second amendment I think
00:38:13.092 --> 00:38:14.172
it's the second the right
00:38:14.193 --> 00:38:15.693
to bear arms yeah which is
00:38:16.153 --> 00:38:16.954
shout out to the founding
00:38:16.994 --> 00:38:17.713
father that's one thing
00:38:17.733 --> 00:38:19.974
they got right um you know
00:38:20.014 --> 00:38:24.456
doing that and you know I'm
00:38:24.476 --> 00:38:25.056
talking a little bit more
00:38:25.077 --> 00:38:26.358
about gun right so
00:38:27.512 --> 00:38:28.072
Do you think,
00:38:28.431 --> 00:38:29.612
I'm not sure if they do it right now,
00:38:29.652 --> 00:38:30.393
but do you think that they
00:38:30.432 --> 00:38:31.373
should still be giving,
00:38:31.393 --> 00:38:32.813
that they should do like
00:38:32.873 --> 00:38:34.173
psychological tests on
00:38:34.233 --> 00:38:35.474
people and maybe it should
00:38:35.494 --> 00:38:36.974
be done like yearly for
00:38:37.014 --> 00:38:38.195
people who want to bear
00:38:38.315 --> 00:38:41.516
arms and have like a right to bear arms?
00:38:42.476 --> 00:38:43.596
Yeah, I think I do.
00:38:43.695 --> 00:38:44.976
I think there should be
00:38:45.016 --> 00:38:46.376
steps in order for people
00:38:46.496 --> 00:38:48.677
to purchase weaponry
00:38:49.177 --> 00:38:50.277
because a lot of people
00:38:50.478 --> 00:38:52.159
aren't mentally stable to
00:38:52.318 --> 00:38:53.759
even handle weaponry.
00:38:54.389 --> 00:38:56.269
But I do know it's a strategy.
00:38:56.730 --> 00:38:57.010
You know,
00:38:57.070 --> 00:38:58.451
it's a strategy for us to just
00:38:58.490 --> 00:39:00.351
purge each other away, you know,
00:39:00.831 --> 00:39:02.512
because in Louisiana,
00:39:02.532 --> 00:39:03.753
the state of Louisiana,
00:39:03.773 --> 00:39:07.094
I follow a gentleman named Gary Chambers.
00:39:07.835 --> 00:39:08.614
He I think he was running
00:39:08.655 --> 00:39:10.735
for Congress or senator for that state.
00:39:10.896 --> 00:39:12.317
And he was saying that the
00:39:12.416 --> 00:39:15.458
governor of that state just.
00:39:16.652 --> 00:39:18.393
signed a bill that July the
00:39:18.474 --> 00:39:19.655
4th in their state,
00:39:19.934 --> 00:39:21.635
an 18 year old can purchase
00:39:21.956 --> 00:39:24.938
a gun without a background, without an ID,
00:39:25.898 --> 00:39:27.659
without waiting, nothing.
00:39:28.019 --> 00:39:29.440
All they have to do is be 18
00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:30.061
and want a gun.
00:39:31.041 --> 00:39:31.400
So,
00:39:31.641 --> 00:39:34.282
and just imagine what type of war
00:39:34.302 --> 00:39:36.264
that's going to be creating and waging,
00:39:36.384 --> 00:39:37.284
what type of war is going
00:39:37.304 --> 00:39:39.425
to be waging within
00:39:39.465 --> 00:39:41.686
Louisiana because of that gun law.
00:39:43.047 --> 00:39:43.148
Hmm.
00:39:45.275 --> 00:39:47.697
You know, I could be wrong,
00:39:47.737 --> 00:39:49.137
and this might just be my own prejudice,
00:39:49.318 --> 00:39:50.980
but I see where you're coming from.
00:39:51.639 --> 00:39:54.782
It seems like, well, in my opinion,
00:39:54.802 --> 00:39:56.282
a lot of people that are
00:39:56.322 --> 00:39:58.043
gun owners or majority of
00:39:58.063 --> 00:39:58.903
people that are gun owners
00:39:58.923 --> 00:40:00.364
seem to be pretty responsible people,
00:40:01.065 --> 00:40:01.686
it seems like.
00:40:02.867 --> 00:40:04.748
You know, majority speaking, right?
00:40:05.007 --> 00:40:05.728
There's probably a lot more
00:40:05.748 --> 00:40:06.809
people that have guns that
00:40:06.829 --> 00:40:08.771
we don't know about that are responsible,
00:40:09.030 --> 00:40:09.710
good Americans.
00:40:10.150 --> 00:40:11.452
It's just those bad apples, right,
00:40:11.492 --> 00:40:13.293
that show up and ruin it for everybody.
00:40:13.833 --> 00:40:13.974
Right.
00:40:14.014 --> 00:40:14.253
You know?
00:40:15.074 --> 00:40:15.235
Um,
00:40:15.494 --> 00:40:16.940
but I wanted to get back into off the
00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:17.862
chain Alliance, right?
00:40:17.922 --> 00:40:20.469
So how do you guys, um,
00:40:22.235 --> 00:40:24.458
look for sponsors and find
00:40:24.498 --> 00:40:25.438
sponsors to support.
00:40:25.858 --> 00:40:26.619
And then also,
00:40:26.699 --> 00:40:27.721
I think you've kind of mentioned it,
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:29.942
but how do you find people
00:40:29.961 --> 00:40:30.643
that you want to support?
00:40:30.663 --> 00:40:31.463
Because I think you've also
00:40:31.523 --> 00:40:32.244
support people.
00:40:32.864 --> 00:40:32.985
Like,
00:40:33.005 --> 00:40:34.545
I think I saw you do like donate some
00:40:34.646 --> 00:40:37.228
shoes to like a shoe drive show,
00:40:37.248 --> 00:40:38.568
like a fashion show.
00:40:39.050 --> 00:40:40.891
So they're two different questions,
00:40:40.911 --> 00:40:41.751
but they're kind of separated.
00:40:42.052 --> 00:40:42.913
How do you find people to
00:40:42.952 --> 00:40:44.434
support and how do you find
00:40:44.474 --> 00:40:45.235
people to support you?
00:40:46.487 --> 00:40:46.887
Okay,
00:40:46.967 --> 00:40:49.489
so how we find some people to support
00:40:49.728 --> 00:40:51.269
us is a lot of the board
00:40:51.309 --> 00:40:52.289
members are supportive.
00:40:52.449 --> 00:40:53.610
Me telling my story and
00:40:53.931 --> 00:40:54.911
being able to get in
00:40:54.951 --> 00:40:56.492
different platforms like
00:40:56.552 --> 00:40:58.952
this and people hearing it
00:40:59.012 --> 00:41:00.393
and asking for the website
00:41:00.574 --> 00:41:02.014
and beginning to donate.
00:41:02.094 --> 00:41:03.755
And then I also do a lot of research.
00:41:03.815 --> 00:41:07.356
I also fill out a lot of grant requests,
00:41:07.396 --> 00:41:11.057
donation requests, sponsorship requests,
00:41:11.697 --> 00:41:13.259
and just see who will
00:41:14.411 --> 00:41:15.673
listen and want to do.
00:41:15.773 --> 00:41:16.614
And I definitely want to
00:41:16.635 --> 00:41:18.657
give a shout out to Altura Credit Union.
00:41:19.579 --> 00:41:20.960
It doesn't matter what I do.
00:41:21.202 --> 00:41:22.603
They sponsored last year,
00:41:22.623 --> 00:41:23.505
probably gave us $500 for
00:41:23.565 --> 00:41:25.467
us to host our grief groups.
00:41:26.155 --> 00:41:27.815
This beautiful couple,
00:41:27.894 --> 00:41:29.576
you actually interviewed them,
00:41:29.635 --> 00:41:31.016
Joshua and Lila Brown.
00:41:31.376 --> 00:41:33.117
They donated their event
00:41:33.157 --> 00:41:35.117
center to me so I could
00:41:35.237 --> 00:41:36.518
host my grief groups there.
00:41:37.057 --> 00:41:38.518
So I do have a lot of people
00:41:38.557 --> 00:41:39.518
that do beautiful things.
00:41:39.599 --> 00:41:41.179
If it's not monetarily,
00:41:41.358 --> 00:41:42.539
it's again like them giving
00:41:42.579 --> 00:41:44.039
me their space or whatever.
00:41:46.014 --> 00:41:47.994
inviting me to places where
00:41:48.056 --> 00:41:48.916
people would like to hear
00:41:48.936 --> 00:41:50.215
my story and want to help.
00:41:50.797 --> 00:41:51.317
So yeah,
00:41:51.896 --> 00:41:53.498
that's how we go about getting
00:41:54.137 --> 00:41:55.079
sponsorships or help.
00:41:55.139 --> 00:41:57.780
I just go and tell a story
00:41:57.860 --> 00:42:00.541
and just fill out forms and requests.
00:42:01.121 --> 00:42:04.041
And sometimes people will
00:42:04.081 --> 00:42:05.202
fulfill our requests and
00:42:05.222 --> 00:42:06.764
then a lot of the times people won't.
00:42:07.483 --> 00:42:09.744
And then as far as how we find people,
00:42:10.967 --> 00:42:12.489
I'll see stuff on Facebook.
00:42:12.510 --> 00:42:14.052
Someone says someone passed away.
00:42:14.072 --> 00:42:16.556
I will inbox them directly and tell them,
00:42:16.576 --> 00:42:17.797
you know, my condolences.
00:42:17.817 --> 00:42:18.978
It's okay if Off the Chain
00:42:18.998 --> 00:42:20.981
Alliance gives you an empathy basket.
00:42:21.001 --> 00:42:23.284
Do you need anything in addition?
00:42:23.344 --> 00:42:24.746
We also do grief counseling.
00:42:24.827 --> 00:42:25.507
I can give you up to $200
00:42:25.507 --> 00:42:26.469
towards your funeral.
00:42:27.710 --> 00:42:28.632
If this is something that
00:42:28.672 --> 00:42:29.773
you are interested in,
00:42:29.813 --> 00:42:30.893
please give me a call.
00:42:31.514 --> 00:42:32.315
And for the most part,
00:42:32.355 --> 00:42:33.596
the people give me a call
00:42:33.615 --> 00:42:36.077
and some people will inbox
00:42:36.137 --> 00:42:37.579
me and let me know a friend
00:42:37.619 --> 00:42:39.721
of theirs or somebody passed away.
00:42:40.362 --> 00:42:41.362
They need some assistance
00:42:41.842 --> 00:42:42.884
and I let them know that's
00:42:42.923 --> 00:42:43.643
perfectly fine.
00:42:43.704 --> 00:42:44.304
I will help them,
00:42:44.344 --> 00:42:45.865
but I need the people who
00:42:46.045 --> 00:42:47.568
actually is going through the death,
00:42:47.688 --> 00:42:48.628
the loved ones.
00:42:50.617 --> 00:42:51.858
I need them to reach out to
00:42:51.878 --> 00:42:53.400
me because there are a few questions,
00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:54.663
of course, that I can ask.
00:42:55.222 --> 00:42:56.985
I don't like to be too
00:42:57.204 --> 00:42:58.847
difficult to give people help.
00:42:59.288 --> 00:43:00.168
I don't like all the red
00:43:00.208 --> 00:43:01.829
tape that other nonprofits
00:43:01.869 --> 00:43:03.092
and peoples and hurdles and
00:43:03.132 --> 00:43:04.413
hoops and applications and
00:43:04.432 --> 00:43:05.134
stuff like that,
00:43:05.193 --> 00:43:08.737
because people are passed on, you know,
00:43:08.797 --> 00:43:10.139
like they really need help.
00:43:10.340 --> 00:43:10.420
And
00:43:10.987 --> 00:43:12.347
They don't need nothing else
00:43:12.786 --> 00:43:14.427
to add more stress to them
00:43:14.467 --> 00:43:15.188
because it's already
00:43:15.248 --> 00:43:16.768
stressful enough where they're at.
00:43:17.588 --> 00:43:18.909
So that's how we go about
00:43:18.929 --> 00:43:19.588
doing it that way.
00:43:19.969 --> 00:43:21.530
I just either reach out to
00:43:21.550 --> 00:43:22.449
the people when I see
00:43:22.489 --> 00:43:23.570
something or people reach
00:43:23.610 --> 00:43:24.969
out to me and I'll respond
00:43:25.070 --> 00:43:25.971
and I'll have the family
00:43:26.010 --> 00:43:27.851
reach back out to me so I can help them.
00:43:28.971 --> 00:43:29.431
Gotcha.
00:43:29.472 --> 00:43:30.192
So what about...
00:43:31.936 --> 00:43:33.797
What about things like, you know,
00:43:33.838 --> 00:43:35.260
like the donating the shoes,
00:43:35.440 --> 00:43:36.239
which you guys did,
00:43:36.320 --> 00:43:37.420
or I think I saw you guys
00:43:37.440 --> 00:43:38.621
like at this outdoor event
00:43:38.641 --> 00:43:39.382
where like these girls were
00:43:39.402 --> 00:43:40.603
like doing like a fashion run.
00:43:40.623 --> 00:43:42.644
You guys were also at a Clippers game.
00:43:42.945 --> 00:43:43.726
So how do things like,
00:43:43.786 --> 00:43:44.385
how do you guys decide to
00:43:44.425 --> 00:43:45.347
do things like that?
00:43:47.027 --> 00:43:48.268
Well, with the Clippers game,
00:43:48.329 --> 00:43:50.010
her name is Ashlyn Dominguez.
00:43:50.030 --> 00:43:51.371
She's a community relations
00:43:51.411 --> 00:43:52.652
specialist for the Clippers.
00:43:52.713 --> 00:43:54.393
She reached out to a
00:43:54.534 --> 00:43:55.235
numerous amount of
00:43:55.295 --> 00:43:56.556
nonprofits within the
00:43:56.615 --> 00:43:57.836
Empire and asked us if we
00:43:57.856 --> 00:43:59.577
would like to attend a game and
00:44:00.063 --> 00:44:02.565
She can give us free tickets
00:44:02.585 --> 00:44:04.246
and how many tickets we wanted.
00:44:04.266 --> 00:44:05.567
So I asked her for 50 and
00:44:05.586 --> 00:44:06.827
they gave me 50 tickets.
00:44:07.467 --> 00:44:08.789
And then once we have that,
00:44:08.829 --> 00:44:10.771
I just ask people like, hey, you know,
00:44:10.891 --> 00:44:11.630
if you guys want to,
00:44:12.112 --> 00:44:13.652
we were donated these tickets.
00:44:13.713 --> 00:44:14.913
And if anybody wants to come
00:44:14.994 --> 00:44:16.715
out and attend, you know, hey,
00:44:16.755 --> 00:44:17.675
I got tickets for you.
00:44:17.695 --> 00:44:18.476
Bring your family out.
00:44:18.496 --> 00:44:19.257
Let's have a good time
00:44:19.297 --> 00:44:20.717
together off the Chain Alliance.
00:44:21.577 --> 00:44:23.539
And then as far as the shoe drive,
00:44:24.059 --> 00:44:25.581
my treasurer on my board,
00:44:25.701 --> 00:44:27.021
that's one of his good friends.
00:44:27.101 --> 00:44:28.882
His name is Rambo and he has
00:44:28.922 --> 00:44:29.744
a nonprofit called
00:44:30.079 --> 00:44:30.920
And I think it's called
00:44:31.041 --> 00:44:33.344
Souls for Souls for Souls
00:44:33.403 --> 00:44:34.204
or something like that.
00:44:34.344 --> 00:44:35.485
And they were having an
00:44:35.505 --> 00:44:37.548
event and he wanted myself
00:44:37.628 --> 00:44:39.751
and Rambo to meet each other in person.
00:44:40.371 --> 00:44:41.333
And that's why it was just
00:44:41.452 --> 00:44:43.335
actually a meet and greet
00:44:43.355 --> 00:44:44.577
for me for the another
00:44:44.657 --> 00:44:46.378
founder of another organization.
00:44:46.498 --> 00:44:47.639
And then just to be
00:44:47.699 --> 00:44:48.942
supportive because I like
00:44:48.981 --> 00:44:49.822
when people come out and
00:44:49.842 --> 00:44:50.963
support Off the Chain Alliance.
00:44:51.554 --> 00:44:52.594
And we just purchased a few
00:44:52.635 --> 00:44:54.715
pair of shoes donated to his cause and,
00:44:54.777 --> 00:44:56.036
you know, just, just another,
00:44:56.277 --> 00:44:57.237
another connection,
00:44:57.679 --> 00:44:58.980
another nonprofit in the
00:44:59.000 --> 00:45:00.199
future to collaborate with
00:45:00.221 --> 00:45:02.501
because collaborations are key.
00:45:02.661 --> 00:45:03.503
And that's what, you know,
00:45:03.682 --> 00:45:05.563
keeps the momentum going
00:45:05.644 --> 00:45:07.166
and keep you showing up in
00:45:07.226 --> 00:45:08.045
rooms that you would
00:45:08.106 --> 00:45:10.068
normally be in because of
00:45:10.108 --> 00:45:10.907
the connections and the
00:45:10.947 --> 00:45:12.309
networking and the meet and
00:45:12.349 --> 00:45:13.349
greets that you're attending.
00:45:14.110 --> 00:45:15.150
So, yeah.
00:45:15.592 --> 00:45:16.833
And then as far as fashion, um,
00:45:18.126 --> 00:45:19.708
On a side note, I model.
00:45:19.887 --> 00:45:21.188
I model for new productions.
00:45:21.389 --> 00:45:21.909
I'm a model.
00:45:22.150 --> 00:45:24.333
I'm a MILF vintage model.
00:45:24.353 --> 00:45:27.896
Say that again for people to hear that.
00:45:28.077 --> 00:45:30.059
I'm a MILF vintage model.
00:45:30.840 --> 00:45:32.742
I just like to show my
00:45:32.762 --> 00:45:34.503
support to some of my girls
00:45:34.543 --> 00:45:36.626
who do their thing and then just to keep
00:45:37.025 --> 00:45:38.465
the modeling side of me
00:45:38.525 --> 00:45:40.306
relevant you know um I do
00:45:40.327 --> 00:45:42.208
burlesque too so all that
00:45:42.947 --> 00:45:45.327
um is just to bring notice
00:45:45.387 --> 00:45:47.128
to me so I can bring notice
00:45:47.168 --> 00:45:48.228
to off the chain alliance
00:45:49.170 --> 00:45:51.050
got you will well we we
00:45:51.090 --> 00:45:52.610
can't we we can't just stop
00:45:52.650 --> 00:45:53.291
there we got to talk a
00:45:53.311 --> 00:45:53.791
little bit about the
00:45:53.811 --> 00:45:54.690
modeling right we're gonna
00:45:54.710 --> 00:45:55.331
talk a little bit about the
00:45:55.371 --> 00:45:58.012
modeling so you said you're
00:45:58.032 --> 00:46:00.313
a milf model right which is
00:46:00.333 --> 00:46:00.992
the mom I liked it
00:46:01.815 --> 00:46:02.094
Right.
00:46:02.155 --> 00:46:02.635
Vintage.
00:46:02.655 --> 00:46:02.815
Yep.
00:46:02.855 --> 00:46:04.215
A milf vintage model.
00:46:04.356 --> 00:46:05.396
Milf vintage model.
00:46:05.576 --> 00:46:07.695
And you also do burlesque modeling.
00:46:08.416 --> 00:46:10.237
Talk to us about how you got
00:46:10.277 --> 00:46:11.016
into this and how long
00:46:11.036 --> 00:46:12.237
you've been doing this modeling stuff.
00:46:12.956 --> 00:46:13.197
Well,
00:46:13.217 --> 00:46:15.518
I just coined that right now as me
00:46:15.557 --> 00:46:16.958
being a milf vintage model
00:46:16.998 --> 00:46:19.478
because my manager from Lou Productions,
00:46:20.318 --> 00:46:22.139
Lou Dowdy, asked me,
00:46:22.259 --> 00:46:23.960
we ready to get back into it,
00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:25.380
getting some photoshoots going.
00:46:25.440 --> 00:46:27.019
And I'm like, well, you know,
00:46:27.159 --> 00:46:28.641
I'm 43 years old and I'm
00:46:28.661 --> 00:46:29.521
very proud of it.
00:46:30.101 --> 00:46:30.961
So, you know,
00:46:31.061 --> 00:46:32.842
I want to I want to represent
00:46:32.943 --> 00:46:35.003
the 40 year old women who still got it,
00:46:35.065 --> 00:46:36.706
that can still do their thing, model,
00:46:36.746 --> 00:46:37.126
whatever.
00:46:37.186 --> 00:46:39.387
So I just wanted to brand me
00:46:39.927 --> 00:46:41.208
much better than just a
00:46:41.248 --> 00:46:43.869
model because it's way more to me.
00:46:43.889 --> 00:46:46.452
And I'm I'm I'm very multidimensional.
00:46:47.012 --> 00:46:49.733
And then burlesque is my
00:46:49.773 --> 00:46:51.255
name is Blaze Star.
00:46:51.534 --> 00:46:52.856
And that's for new productions.
00:46:53.376 --> 00:46:55.597
We began our first I think
00:46:55.637 --> 00:46:57.018
we did our very first one
00:46:57.139 --> 00:46:58.440
in twenty twenty one.
00:46:58.860 --> 00:47:00.161
We did two shows and then we
00:47:00.201 --> 00:47:02.063
did one in 2022.
00:47:02.063 --> 00:47:03.244
We couldn't do a show last
00:47:03.304 --> 00:47:04.985
year because two of the
00:47:05.025 --> 00:47:06.367
ladies got pregnant and
00:47:06.407 --> 00:47:08.048
then a couple of the ladies dropped out.
00:47:08.449 --> 00:47:10.731
But yeah, we just, it's an all Ebony cast.
00:47:12.052 --> 00:47:13.094
And we're the Lubellas.
00:47:13.653 --> 00:47:15.655
And again, my name is Blaise Starr.
00:47:17.858 --> 00:47:18.117
Wow.
00:47:18.237 --> 00:47:19.460
And burlesque is like
00:47:19.599 --> 00:47:21.021
lingerie and stuff like that, right?
00:47:21.041 --> 00:47:21.601
Yeah.
00:47:21.681 --> 00:47:23.222
It's just the, it's just the, yeah.
00:47:24.559 --> 00:47:26.141
it's just like the art of teasing.
00:47:26.161 --> 00:47:28.282
We're not provocative or
00:47:28.322 --> 00:47:30.402
anything like that, but we do our,
00:47:30.443 --> 00:47:32.324
we all are appealing in our own way.
00:47:32.344 --> 00:47:33.644
We're all different shades,
00:47:33.744 --> 00:47:34.846
shapes and sizes.
00:47:35.746 --> 00:47:37.806
And we all bring our own
00:47:38.047 --> 00:47:39.427
little personality and
00:47:39.487 --> 00:47:41.909
twist and our appeal to the show.
00:47:42.469 --> 00:47:42.670
Yep.
00:47:43.090 --> 00:47:43.570
Cool.
00:47:43.929 --> 00:47:44.231
Wow.
00:47:45.130 --> 00:47:50.353
And does like your daughter
00:47:50.393 --> 00:47:51.735
do any modeling or anything like that?
00:47:52.688 --> 00:47:53.608
Or anything like that?
00:47:54.309 --> 00:47:56.550
No, my daughter doesn't do any modeling.
00:47:56.590 --> 00:47:58.152
She's actually a mail carrier.
00:47:58.172 --> 00:47:59.753
Actually, let me not.
00:47:59.793 --> 00:48:02.195
Let me take that back.
00:48:02.614 --> 00:48:03.175
She did.
00:48:03.235 --> 00:48:04.476
She was because my daughter
00:48:04.635 --> 00:48:05.697
is a thick madame.
00:48:05.757 --> 00:48:07.418
She's a cute BBW.
00:48:07.918 --> 00:48:13.402
So I believe maybe in 2000, well, 22,
00:48:13.402 --> 00:48:14.402
I believe she was doing a
00:48:14.443 --> 00:48:16.545
little modeling in LA for a
00:48:16.585 --> 00:48:17.965
photographer out there that
00:48:18.005 --> 00:48:19.306
liked to showcase BBWs.
00:48:21.737 --> 00:48:23.039
Got you.
00:48:23.059 --> 00:48:24.181
I want to go back.
00:48:25.242 --> 00:48:25.842
Thank you for sharing about
00:48:25.862 --> 00:48:26.563
the modeling story.
00:48:26.623 --> 00:48:27.304
Very interesting.
00:48:28.684 --> 00:48:29.585
But I want to go back to
00:48:30.286 --> 00:48:31.929
things that Off the Chain Alliance does,
00:48:31.949 --> 00:48:32.730
because it seems to be a
00:48:32.769 --> 00:48:33.550
little bit bigger,
00:48:34.231 --> 00:48:36.132
just a little bit bigger than just like,
00:48:36.893 --> 00:48:38.315
or I guess just bigger with
00:48:38.335 --> 00:48:38.876
just dealing with...
00:48:40.764 --> 00:48:41.804
grief, right?
00:48:42.264 --> 00:48:42.846
For example,
00:48:42.885 --> 00:48:43.985
you guys are deciding to do
00:48:44.005 --> 00:48:45.686
the first spring event
00:48:46.126 --> 00:48:48.586
honoring and showcasing Maurice Howard,
00:48:49.146 --> 00:48:49.487
correct?
00:48:49.927 --> 00:48:50.166
Correct.
00:48:50.286 --> 00:48:52.168
So why did you guys decide to do this?
00:48:52.307 --> 00:48:53.547
And yeah, talk to us.
00:48:53.608 --> 00:48:54.248
And why Maurice?
00:48:55.708 --> 00:48:57.989
So I don't like the regular
00:48:58.048 --> 00:49:00.469
standard fundraisers, you know,
00:49:00.510 --> 00:49:01.750
that people normally do.
00:49:02.010 --> 00:49:02.909
I just really like to think
00:49:02.969 --> 00:49:04.791
outside of the box and I
00:49:05.010 --> 00:49:06.510
like to collaborate with
00:49:06.590 --> 00:49:07.652
people and fundraise with
00:49:07.692 --> 00:49:09.012
people that understand the
00:49:09.516 --> 00:49:11.219
The ultimate goal is just to
00:49:11.320 --> 00:49:14.083
continue supporting and for
00:49:14.264 --> 00:49:15.204
Off the Chain Alliance to
00:49:15.244 --> 00:49:16.807
have funding to keep
00:49:16.847 --> 00:49:19.110
helping the families with empathy baskets,
00:49:19.952 --> 00:49:20.233
you know,
00:49:20.273 --> 00:49:21.974
donations toward their funerals
00:49:22.235 --> 00:49:23.617
and being able to have the
00:49:23.677 --> 00:49:24.918
supplies and stuff needed
00:49:24.958 --> 00:49:25.920
for the grief groups.
00:49:26.632 --> 00:49:27.612
But Maurice is a really,
00:49:27.652 --> 00:49:28.994
really great friend of mine.
00:49:29.293 --> 00:49:31.653
And we do exceedingly well in business.
00:49:31.853 --> 00:49:32.313
Actually,
00:49:32.454 --> 00:49:35.094
when I was Miss February in Lou
00:49:35.394 --> 00:49:36.195
Productions' calendar,
00:49:36.235 --> 00:49:38.375
I believe that was like 2019,
00:49:38.375 --> 00:49:39.356
I had him paint me.
00:49:39.376 --> 00:49:41.115
So I was just full of body paint.
00:49:41.215 --> 00:49:42.115
It was just red, black,
00:49:42.155 --> 00:49:44.516
and green just to represent
00:49:44.597 --> 00:49:45.476
Black History Month.
00:49:46.016 --> 00:49:48.097
And I saw how well we worked together.
00:49:48.137 --> 00:49:50.097
Our collaboration was always on point.
00:49:50.976 --> 00:49:53.777
And whenever we do an event,
00:49:53.998 --> 00:49:55.338
a lot of people do turn out
00:49:55.438 --> 00:49:56.958
and we are able and capable
00:49:56.998 --> 00:49:58.780
of raising enough money to
00:49:58.960 --> 00:50:01.342
fund the nonprofit for him
00:50:01.402 --> 00:50:02.663
to have something in his pocket.
00:50:02.822 --> 00:50:03.762
So he's just a great
00:50:04.724 --> 00:50:07.425
business person to collaborate with.
00:50:07.465 --> 00:50:08.485
He's a great collaborator.
00:50:09.112 --> 00:50:10.652
And then he used to sit on
00:50:10.672 --> 00:50:11.514
the board for Off the Chain
00:50:11.554 --> 00:50:14.454
Alliance like in 18 and 19.
00:50:14.454 --> 00:50:16.094
So he's familiar with our
00:50:16.135 --> 00:50:17.755
mission and what we want to do.
00:50:17.855 --> 00:50:18.994
And he's watching us grow.
00:50:19.014 --> 00:50:20.074
And then again,
00:50:20.094 --> 00:50:21.036
I don't like to do the
00:50:21.056 --> 00:50:22.215
standard fundraisers.
00:50:22.315 --> 00:50:23.715
I like to do things differently.
00:50:24.416 --> 00:50:25.996
And I like to do things that are needed.
00:50:26.016 --> 00:50:28.797
I love that.
00:50:29.277 --> 00:50:30.036
And of course, you know,
00:50:30.056 --> 00:50:31.757
he does great work in the industry.
00:50:33.150 --> 00:50:35.012
The event's going to be May 8th, correct?
00:50:35.592 --> 00:50:36.213
May 18th.
00:50:36.653 --> 00:50:38.956
May 18th, right, in Riverside.
00:50:38.976 --> 00:50:40.717
Right, at Mind and Meal,
00:50:40.797 --> 00:50:42.639
downtown Riverside at Mind and Meal.
00:50:43.338 --> 00:50:45.960
And then my after-shooter
00:50:46.001 --> 00:50:48.362
training and firearm awareness workshop.
00:50:49.103 --> 00:50:50.485
After-shooter is May the 3rd.
00:50:50.585 --> 00:50:51.445
The firearm awareness
00:50:51.465 --> 00:50:52.646
workshop is May the 4th.
00:50:53.927 --> 00:50:56.028
Okay, so it's going to be a nice day.
00:50:56.048 --> 00:50:57.429
A lot of nice things going on in May.
00:50:57.710 --> 00:50:58.411
Correct.
00:50:59.972 --> 00:51:01.112
Going off with a bang with the...
00:51:02.757 --> 00:51:03.539
No pun intended,
00:51:03.878 --> 00:51:06.019
going out for the bank with
00:51:06.079 --> 00:51:07.641
Maurice Howard's event,
00:51:07.661 --> 00:51:08.221
which is going to be
00:51:08.240 --> 00:51:10.163
basically showcasing his artwork,
00:51:10.202 --> 00:51:10.483
correct?
00:51:10.543 --> 00:51:11.182
And stuff like that.
00:51:11.704 --> 00:51:12.063
Yeah.
00:51:12.123 --> 00:51:13.545
And for collectors, you know,
00:51:13.585 --> 00:51:15.465
to come collect, you know what I mean?
00:51:15.525 --> 00:51:16.286
People, you know,
00:51:16.746 --> 00:51:18.628
they say it's not good to say bye, but,
00:51:18.668 --> 00:51:20.208
you know, we do want people to collect.
00:51:21.478 --> 00:51:23.179
prints collect originals
00:51:23.320 --> 00:51:25.061
because that funding he
00:51:25.081 --> 00:51:26.101
will split half the
00:51:26.141 --> 00:51:27.443
proceeds and that will go
00:51:27.483 --> 00:51:28.324
towards off the chain
00:51:28.384 --> 00:51:29.925
alliance which will be
00:51:29.985 --> 00:51:31.306
super great like I say
00:51:31.326 --> 00:51:32.427
because it'll just keep us
00:51:32.646 --> 00:51:34.027
being able to be stocked up
00:51:34.047 --> 00:51:35.128
with our inventory for
00:51:35.208 --> 00:51:36.909
empathy baskets and at
00:51:36.949 --> 00:51:38.451
least being able to give
00:51:39.331 --> 00:51:40.293
families some type of
00:51:40.333 --> 00:51:41.833
funding towards their
00:51:41.893 --> 00:51:43.394
funerals and then also to
00:51:43.853 --> 00:51:44.833
With the grief groups,
00:51:44.893 --> 00:51:47.335
we need refreshments.
00:51:47.394 --> 00:51:49.135
We need snacks and stuff like that.
00:51:49.175 --> 00:51:50.657
And all that stuff costs.
00:51:50.797 --> 00:51:51.896
And I just need to make sure
00:51:51.936 --> 00:51:53.938
we always have the funding
00:51:54.038 --> 00:51:55.697
that we need so we can do
00:51:55.838 --> 00:51:59.420
whatever our programs do.
00:52:00.119 --> 00:52:01.541
Yeah, to have all the supplies, right?
00:52:01.681 --> 00:52:02.621
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:52:02.641 --> 00:52:03.141
It's costly.
00:52:03.161 --> 00:52:04.021
It's not cheap at all.
00:52:04.081 --> 00:52:04.842
It's not cheap at all.
00:52:05.420 --> 00:52:05.681
Got you.
00:52:05.721 --> 00:52:05.940
You know,
00:52:05.960 --> 00:52:06.842
it's interesting because people
00:52:06.862 --> 00:52:07.981
don't want to use the word bye,
00:52:08.461 --> 00:52:10.163
but I guess we can use the LGBT,
00:52:10.282 --> 00:52:11.302
I guess you could say, or, you know,
00:52:11.322 --> 00:52:13.804
you don't swing this way or
00:52:13.824 --> 00:52:14.565
you don't swing that way,
00:52:14.764 --> 00:52:15.664
but you can't say bye.
00:52:15.764 --> 00:52:16.565
So it's so interesting.
00:52:21.420 --> 00:52:24.181
You are hilarious for that one.
00:52:24.561 --> 00:52:25.601
B-U-I.
00:52:25.860 --> 00:52:27.161
Yeah.
00:52:27.922 --> 00:52:28.942
Not B-I.
00:52:29.101 --> 00:52:33.204
You can't say one of them, I guess.
00:52:33.824 --> 00:52:34.264
You know, Portia,
00:52:34.284 --> 00:52:35.083
I want to thank you so much
00:52:35.103 --> 00:52:36.043
for being on The Empire.
00:52:36.364 --> 00:52:37.065
What are some of the current
00:52:37.105 --> 00:52:37.925
projects that you are
00:52:37.945 --> 00:52:40.686
working on either inside of
00:52:40.965 --> 00:52:41.945
Off the Chain Alliance or
00:52:42.005 --> 00:52:43.407
outside of Off the Chain Alliance?
00:52:43.447 --> 00:52:44.606
What current projects are you working on?
00:52:45.373 --> 00:52:45.853
Well,
00:52:45.873 --> 00:52:48.155
I just recently had a meeting with
00:52:48.315 --> 00:52:51.780
IHP and they want to be
00:52:51.920 --> 00:52:53.340
able to provide me
00:52:53.360 --> 00:52:55.222
volunteers to help create
00:52:55.242 --> 00:52:56.284
the empathy baskets.
00:52:56.423 --> 00:52:57.505
And then they're also going
00:52:57.565 --> 00:53:00.088
to provide me their space
00:53:00.208 --> 00:53:01.789
if I want to host grief groups there.
00:53:02.250 --> 00:53:03.472
So I think that's super,
00:53:03.612 --> 00:53:04.893
super duper amazing.
00:53:05.092 --> 00:53:05.534
And then
00:53:06.630 --> 00:53:07.530
Riverside.
00:53:07.550 --> 00:53:10.512
For people who may not know who IEHP is,
00:53:10.552 --> 00:53:13.295
can you please explain who IEHP is?
00:53:13.554 --> 00:53:13.675
Well,
00:53:13.755 --> 00:53:15.677
IEHP stands for Inland Empire Health
00:53:15.956 --> 00:53:17.057
Care Plan,
00:53:17.338 --> 00:53:19.619
and it's just a
00:53:19.840 --> 00:53:22.181
government-assisted health
00:53:22.222 --> 00:53:24.724
care plan for low-income,
00:53:24.983 --> 00:53:26.726
disenfranchised people who
00:53:26.766 --> 00:53:29.487
can't afford to pay for
00:53:29.588 --> 00:53:30.768
Blue Shield or Kaiser vaccines.
00:53:31.815 --> 00:53:34.978
And so they do a lot of
00:53:35.978 --> 00:53:38.280
community service work, community work,
00:53:38.420 --> 00:53:39.460
community relations.
00:53:40.121 --> 00:53:41.882
And I was super happy to be
00:53:41.983 --> 00:53:43.324
introduced to one of their
00:53:43.784 --> 00:53:44.844
young ladies who
00:53:45.344 --> 00:53:47.485
collaborated with me and
00:53:47.525 --> 00:53:50.648
connected me to two of the supervisors,
00:53:50.827 --> 00:53:52.128
one from Riverside and then
00:53:52.289 --> 00:53:53.349
one from San Bernardino.
00:53:53.829 --> 00:53:55.130
And we had a really great talk.
00:53:55.190 --> 00:53:55.711
So yeah.
00:53:56.092 --> 00:53:58.753
And then Riverside, San Bernardino,
00:53:58.773 --> 00:54:00.954
I think it's called Indian Health, Inc.
00:54:02.121 --> 00:54:05.862
They actually donated $400
00:54:05.862 --> 00:54:07.184
to us last year so we can
00:54:07.224 --> 00:54:09.184
have more supplies for empathy baskets.
00:54:10.105 --> 00:54:11.385
And there's a new gentleman
00:54:11.405 --> 00:54:12.806
now working in that department.
00:54:12.885 --> 00:54:13.887
He reached out to me.
00:54:14.427 --> 00:54:15.186
I told him, you know,
00:54:15.226 --> 00:54:16.728
about Off the Chain Alliance, the story,
00:54:16.748 --> 00:54:17.827
because he just wanted to know.
00:54:18.547 --> 00:54:20.068
And he wants to collaborate
00:54:20.088 --> 00:54:21.128
with Off the Chain Alliance
00:54:21.429 --> 00:54:22.750
August the 30th because
00:54:22.929 --> 00:54:24.670
August the 30th is National
00:54:24.731 --> 00:54:25.570
Grief Awareness Day.
00:54:26.561 --> 00:54:28.081
And we're going to collaborate.
00:54:28.101 --> 00:54:30.181
We're going to utilize IHP's
00:54:30.661 --> 00:54:32.021
space because I asked them.
00:54:32.061 --> 00:54:33.981
So we just, you know, got to, you know,
00:54:34.021 --> 00:54:35.182
go through the contracts and stuff.
00:54:35.222 --> 00:54:36.182
But they're going to let us
00:54:36.422 --> 00:54:37.182
use their space.
00:54:37.722 --> 00:54:38.983
He's going to collaborate
00:54:39.003 --> 00:54:40.164
with Off the Chain Alliance.
00:54:40.364 --> 00:54:41.123
And then we're going to do
00:54:41.143 --> 00:54:44.063
like a sound bath healing circle.
00:54:44.784 --> 00:54:45.804
And that's just, you know,
00:54:45.864 --> 00:54:46.824
for everybody just to be
00:54:46.925 --> 00:54:49.344
able to just relax, sit in their minds.
00:54:50.184 --> 00:54:51.144
And yeah,
00:54:51.184 --> 00:54:53.365
just celebrate National Grief
00:54:53.405 --> 00:54:53.905
Awareness Day.
00:54:55.784 --> 00:54:56.085
Wow.
00:54:56.164 --> 00:54:57.467
I think that's going to be a great event,
00:54:57.487 --> 00:54:58.327
especially the sound bath.
00:54:58.367 --> 00:54:58.927
I've been hearing really
00:54:58.967 --> 00:55:00.510
good things about the sound bath vibe.
00:55:01.090 --> 00:55:03.012
You know, just, you know,
00:55:03.032 --> 00:55:05.434
a lot of the things that trauma,
00:55:06.795 --> 00:55:08.378
it actually sticks to our bodies,
00:55:08.938 --> 00:55:09.778
sticks to our soul.
00:55:09.818 --> 00:55:11.079
And so we have to figure out ways to
00:55:12.144 --> 00:55:12.824
let it go.
00:55:13.626 --> 00:55:14.806
And I think things like
00:55:14.887 --> 00:55:16.427
Soundbath will definitely help, you know,
00:55:16.467 --> 00:55:17.228
and obviously the other
00:55:17.248 --> 00:55:17.989
programs that you have
00:55:18.028 --> 00:55:19.208
about just kind of just
00:55:19.228 --> 00:55:20.150
like having someone to talk
00:55:20.170 --> 00:55:22.771
to can really help heal,
00:55:22.791 --> 00:55:24.411
bring healing and stuff like that.
00:55:25.132 --> 00:55:27.134
You know, Portia, you know,
00:55:27.153 --> 00:55:28.074
we learned some pretty
00:55:28.094 --> 00:55:29.715
interesting things about you today, like,
00:55:29.735 --> 00:55:30.056
you know,
00:55:30.155 --> 00:55:33.498
burlesque model and the work that you do.
00:55:34.277 --> 00:55:38.000
But what's something that most people,
00:55:38.260 --> 00:55:40.601
even close people, don't know about you?
00:55:43.065 --> 00:55:44.266
Um, that's a good question.
00:55:44.286 --> 00:55:46.047
I will essentially say that, um,
00:55:46.788 --> 00:55:47.409
all in all,
00:55:47.608 --> 00:55:49.829
I really like to be with myself.
00:55:50.331 --> 00:55:50.931
You know, I,
00:55:51.090 --> 00:55:52.853
I really enjoy my company to
00:55:52.893 --> 00:55:55.875
the fullest extent and I will,
00:55:56.054 --> 00:55:58.117
I would prefer to be amongst myself,
00:55:59.757 --> 00:56:00.478
but you know,
00:56:00.599 --> 00:56:01.378
I don't know if that's
00:56:01.498 --> 00:56:02.539
something most people don't know,
00:56:02.559 --> 00:56:03.360
but honestly, yeah,
00:56:03.481 --> 00:56:04.961
I really enjoy myself and
00:56:04.981 --> 00:56:06.043
I'm really proud of
00:56:06.697 --> 00:56:08.259
how far I've come and what
00:56:08.298 --> 00:56:10.079
I've accomplished because I
00:56:10.139 --> 00:56:11.621
used to be really, really hard on myself.
00:56:11.661 --> 00:56:13.340
I'm probably like my biggest critic.
00:56:13.942 --> 00:56:15.322
But if I can say something,
00:56:15.342 --> 00:56:16.862
I'm extremely proud of Portia,
00:56:16.922 --> 00:56:19.905
her progress, her strength, her stride,
00:56:21.186 --> 00:56:23.327
her drive and her ambition
00:56:23.447 --> 00:56:24.788
because at a point in time,
00:56:25.887 --> 00:56:26.628
she didn't know what she
00:56:26.648 --> 00:56:27.509
was going to do with herself.
00:56:28.188 --> 00:56:28.650
But again,
00:56:28.710 --> 00:56:31.351
I'm grateful that I do enjoy me
00:56:31.411 --> 00:56:32.791
because for a very long time,
00:56:32.952 --> 00:56:35.132
I couldn't stand the sight of myself.
00:56:37.653 --> 00:56:38.215
I got you.
00:56:38.335 --> 00:56:38.914
I got you.
00:56:39.054 --> 00:56:39.394
Okay.
00:56:39.994 --> 00:56:41.956
How about I'm going to dig a
00:56:41.976 --> 00:56:42.476
little deeper.
00:56:42.516 --> 00:56:43.717
I kind of want to dig a little deeper.
00:56:43.737 --> 00:56:44.818
I want to dig a little deeper.
00:56:46.458 --> 00:56:48.119
Is there anything specific?
00:56:48.179 --> 00:56:48.719
Like, okay,
00:56:49.300 --> 00:56:51.181
I love eating oranges in the
00:56:51.240 --> 00:56:52.842
bathtub or something like that.
00:56:53.641 --> 00:56:55.063
Do you have anything super
00:56:55.103 --> 00:56:57.284
specific that people may not know?
00:56:57.344 --> 00:56:58.804
Super specific.
00:57:00.585 --> 00:57:01.405
It doesn't have to be big.
00:57:01.425 --> 00:57:02.246
It could be something small.
00:57:02.927 --> 00:57:05.007
I love to collect clutch purses.
00:57:06.684 --> 00:57:09.186
I have a gazillion clutch purses.
00:57:09.786 --> 00:57:11.306
Some I haven't even worn yet.
00:57:12.128 --> 00:57:12.487
Okay.
00:57:12.507 --> 00:57:13.128
You're addicted.
00:57:14.148 --> 00:57:14.829
I am.
00:57:14.989 --> 00:57:16.351
And I'm not even addicted.
00:57:16.371 --> 00:57:17.771
I don't have favorites and all that stuff,
00:57:17.791 --> 00:57:19.833
but I just love clutch
00:57:19.913 --> 00:57:21.534
purses for some odd reason.
00:57:21.914 --> 00:57:22.335
Gotcha.
00:57:22.815 --> 00:57:24.255
And remember, you're not buying them.
00:57:24.576 --> 00:57:25.657
You're collecting them.
00:57:26.137 --> 00:57:26.557
I am.
00:57:26.577 --> 00:57:29.059
I have a whole collection of
00:57:29.179 --> 00:57:29.860
clutch purses.
00:57:30.099 --> 00:57:31.201
Gotcha, because we don't buy here.
00:57:31.581 --> 00:57:32.422
We collect.
00:57:33.001 --> 00:57:34.182
We super collect, okay?
00:57:34.202 --> 00:57:34.943
We don't buy.
00:57:34.983 --> 00:57:35.244
Gotcha.
00:57:35.264 --> 00:57:35.824
I was going to say you
00:57:35.844 --> 00:57:36.764
should probably show us some of them,
00:57:36.804 --> 00:57:39.467
but it's probably a tower of them.
00:57:39.947 --> 00:57:41.027
You are so funny.
00:57:41.427 --> 00:57:42.248
Portia,
00:57:42.349 --> 00:57:43.510
I want to thank you so much for
00:57:43.530 --> 00:57:44.510
being on The Empire.
00:57:45.030 --> 00:57:45.831
Let's say 100 years pass by,
00:57:45.831 --> 00:57:46.672
250 years pass by,
00:57:46.692 --> 00:57:47.413
half a millennia passes by.
00:57:50.434 --> 00:57:51.076
What would you like your
00:57:51.175 --> 00:57:52.096
empire to look like,
00:57:52.597 --> 00:57:54.157
whether it's with Off the Chain Alliance,
00:57:54.619 --> 00:57:56.940
helping families, whether it's burlesque,
00:57:57.360 --> 00:57:58.262
whether it's anything in life,
00:57:58.302 --> 00:57:59.422
what would you like your
00:57:59.523 --> 00:58:00.903
empire to look like when
00:58:00.923 --> 00:58:03.025
people look back 500 years from now?
00:58:04.126 --> 00:58:05.228
What would I like in my empire?
00:58:05.708 --> 00:58:08.010
Okay, I don't, I can't really answer that.
00:58:08.030 --> 00:58:08.389
But look,
00:58:08.710 --> 00:58:10.371
I wanted to say this one quote
00:58:10.751 --> 00:58:11.693
that I just love.
00:58:12.253 --> 00:58:13.875
Maybe hopefully they understand,
00:58:14.355 --> 00:58:17.018
but it's retaliate by being great.
00:58:18.101 --> 00:58:20.001
So that's what I have.
00:58:20.601 --> 00:58:23.121
Retaliate by being great.
00:58:24.202 --> 00:58:25.583
Building is difficult.
00:58:27.503 --> 00:58:29.023
Continuing on is difficult.
00:58:29.043 --> 00:58:30.583
Believing in yourself is difficult.
00:58:30.664 --> 00:58:33.563
So just through all the difficulties,
00:58:34.123 --> 00:58:36.864
I resisted and I retaliated
00:58:36.925 --> 00:58:38.244
by being great through it all.
00:58:41.186 --> 00:58:41.585
Awesome.
00:58:41.666 --> 00:58:42.465
Retaliation.
00:58:43.126 --> 00:58:43.646
Vengeance.
00:58:44.246 --> 00:58:44.467
Yeah.
00:58:44.527 --> 00:58:45.806
Retaliate by being great.
00:58:46.317 --> 00:58:47.557
Yeah, I love that vengeance.
00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:50.981
You know, I heard something recently,
00:58:51.001 --> 00:58:51.621
which was like,
00:58:53.842 --> 00:58:55.585
the best way to get back at
00:58:55.625 --> 00:58:57.306
your haters is by doing well.
00:58:58.407 --> 00:58:58.606
Right.
00:58:59.288 --> 00:58:59.568
Right.
00:59:00.568 --> 00:59:01.329
Which kind of reminds me of
00:59:01.349 --> 00:59:02.610
the retaliate by being great.
00:59:03.751 --> 00:59:04.090
Portia,
00:59:04.110 --> 00:59:04.891
I want to thank you so much for
00:59:04.911 --> 00:59:05.713
being on The Empire.
00:59:06.132 --> 00:59:06.632
Can you please tell
00:59:06.672 --> 00:59:07.934
everybody how they can find you,
00:59:08.534 --> 00:59:09.956
reach you, support you,
00:59:10.096 --> 00:59:10.876
support the cause?
00:59:10.936 --> 00:59:11.777
Can you please let everybody
00:59:11.818 --> 00:59:13.259
know how they can do those things?
00:59:13.858 --> 00:59:14.519
Definitely.
00:59:14.619 --> 00:59:15.880
So if you would like to donate,
00:59:16.311 --> 00:59:17.552
You can go on our website,
00:59:17.873 --> 00:59:20.936
www.offthechainalliance.org.
00:59:21.356 --> 00:59:23.117
There is a Donate Now button
00:59:23.157 --> 00:59:25.780
that'll go directly to our account.
00:59:26.260 --> 00:59:27.202
And I want to thank all
00:59:27.262 --> 00:59:28.463
those who have been donating.
00:59:28.583 --> 00:59:31.286
We also have an Instagram at
00:59:31.385 --> 00:59:33.407
Off The Chain Alliance and
00:59:33.467 --> 00:59:35.088
a Facebook Live page at Off
00:59:35.108 --> 00:59:35.949
The Chain Alliance.
00:59:36.110 --> 00:59:37.672
If you want to reach out to me directly...
00:59:38.222 --> 00:59:39.443
You can contact me.
00:59:39.844 --> 00:59:40.463
The phone number is
00:59:40.483 --> 00:59:40.684
909-771-5973 or at
00:59:40.704 --> 00:59:42.284
offthechainalliance at gmail.com.
00:59:52.222 --> 00:59:52.742
Awesome.
00:59:52.862 --> 00:59:53.782
And I'll also have all those
00:59:53.842 --> 00:59:54.744
things in the description,
00:59:54.784 --> 00:59:55.304
ladies and gentlemen.
00:59:55.324 --> 00:59:56.445
I'll have the Instagram in there.
00:59:56.525 --> 00:59:57.025
I'll have the,
00:59:57.045 --> 00:59:58.827
I was going to say YouTube channel.
00:59:58.887 --> 01:00:00.969
I'll have the website in
01:00:00.989 --> 01:00:01.730
there so that way you guys
01:00:01.769 --> 01:00:04.012
can reach out to her and contact her.
01:00:04.692 --> 01:00:05.992
Or maybe if you might know
01:00:06.012 --> 01:00:06.793
somebody else who might
01:00:06.853 --> 01:00:07.875
need some assistance,
01:00:07.994 --> 01:00:08.835
maybe it's not you directly,
01:00:08.855 --> 01:00:09.476
but somebody else,
01:00:10.416 --> 01:00:11.217
connect them so that way
01:00:11.257 --> 01:00:11.898
they can do that.
01:00:12.378 --> 01:00:13.018
You know what I mean?
01:00:13.518 --> 01:00:16.360
And so I want to thank Portia.
01:00:17.081 --> 01:00:18.362
I want to thank all you guys
01:00:18.481 --> 01:00:20.782
for staying and listening and watching,
01:00:20.842 --> 01:00:21.882
even if it's on the playback.
01:00:22.583 --> 01:00:24.264
We learned so much today about Portia.
01:00:24.724 --> 01:00:26.463
We learned about why she started it,
01:00:26.864 --> 01:00:27.184
you know,
01:00:27.264 --> 01:00:28.505
which was an unfortunate thing about,
01:00:28.565 --> 01:00:28.784
you know,
01:00:29.485 --> 01:00:30.585
coming to the conclusion of her
01:00:30.644 --> 01:00:31.864
brother passing,
01:00:31.885 --> 01:00:32.945
but then realizing that she
01:00:32.965 --> 01:00:34.505
had to turn her pain into purpose,
01:00:34.985 --> 01:00:36.146
which is the beautiful side of it,
01:00:36.706 --> 01:00:37.027
you know,
01:00:37.106 --> 01:00:38.367
and wanting to help other
01:00:38.407 --> 01:00:39.427
families who may also be
01:00:39.487 --> 01:00:40.146
struggling through these
01:00:40.206 --> 01:00:41.148
things off the chain.
01:00:41.728 --> 01:00:42.867
And she's been doing great work.
01:00:43.407 --> 01:00:44.168
Things that we've learned
01:00:44.208 --> 01:00:46.452
about programs that they offer,
01:00:46.532 --> 01:00:47.632
like these gift baskets
01:00:47.672 --> 01:00:49.856
that help the grief where people can see.
01:00:49.876 --> 01:00:51.838
I really like her idea about
01:00:51.858 --> 01:00:53.619
the burial site that she
01:00:53.659 --> 01:00:54.880
wants for the natural burial.
01:00:55.262 --> 01:00:56.483
I think that's super going to be cool.
01:00:56.802 --> 01:00:58.144
We also learned that she's a model,
01:00:58.324 --> 01:00:59.586
burlesque model, you know,
01:00:59.606 --> 01:01:01.208
doing her thing out here and everything.
01:01:02.034 --> 01:01:03.873
um but again I want to thank
01:01:03.914 --> 01:01:04.715
her I want to thank all you
01:01:04.735 --> 01:01:06.355
guys for watching um if you
01:01:06.375 --> 01:01:08.496
guys want to contribute to
01:01:08.536 --> 01:01:10.476
the channel the podcast of
01:01:10.496 --> 01:01:11.896
the work you guys can do
01:01:11.936 --> 01:01:12.777
our cash app which is
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dollar sign t-h-e empire
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podcast we also have venmo
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and paypal which is in the
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description um please like
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My name is Antonio the Miles, the host.
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Again, I want to thank Ms.
01:01:27.882 --> 01:01:29.422
Portia Dillard for being on.
01:01:29.443 --> 01:01:31.224
I want to thank all of you guys.
01:01:31.923 --> 01:01:33.025
And other than that,
01:01:33.485 --> 01:01:35.126
we will catch you guys in
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the next episode.
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All right?
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All right.
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Yeah.