The Rising Beyond Podcast
Ep 32: Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser
It is not a question of if your abusive ex will share a false narrative about you but when, to whom, and what will it be about. After working for over a decade with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse I have seen false narratives and lies cause so much distress and have legal implications. So, how can you survive these false narratives?
First, we need to understand that the false narratives do not only come up once you have left your abuser. You are conditioned from the very beginning of the relationship to be a part of these lies. Through strategies of gaslighting, DARVO, and the constant mask they wear in public, the false narrative is a constant.
These narratives seem to increase in intensity after a victim leaves and include anything that will help them avoid taking accountability, saving face, and destroying you. So what are some tips for surviving these types of attacks?
- Know what to expect, remember it’s not if, but when
- Learn to predict the possible narratives
- Increase your inner circle of support
- Choose your battles of who/what/when you defend yourself to
- Defend with evidence and little emotion
- Radical acceptance of what you can and cannot control
Show links:
Couples Therapy is Not the Answer
For more information and to register, click here.
The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse.
Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative.
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If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc
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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/
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It is not a question of if your abusive ex will share a false narrative about you but when, to whom, and what will it be about. After working for over a decade with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse I have seen false narratives and lies cause so much distress and have legal implications. So, how can you survive these false narratives?
First, we need to understand that the false narratives do not only come up once you have left your abuser. You are conditioned from the very beginning of the relationship to be a part of these lies. Through strategies of gaslighting, DARVO, and the constant mask they wear in public, the false narrative is a constant.
These narratives seem to increase in intensity after a victim leaves and include anything that will help them avoid taking accountability, saving face, and destroying you. So what are some tips for surviving these types of attacks?
- Know what to expect, remember it’s not if, but when
- Learn to predict the possible narratives
- Increase your inner circle of support
- Choose your battles of who/what/when you defend yourself to
- Defend with evidence and little emotion
- Radical acceptance of what you can and cannot control
Show links:
Couples Therapy is Not the Answer
For more information and to register, click here.
The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse.
Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative.
Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.
If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc
If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.
If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/
Where to find more from Rising Beyond:
Rising Beyond Facebook
Rising Beyond LinkedIn
Rising Beyond Pinterest
Enjoy some of our freebies!