Unlock the secrets of self-imposed pleasure and control as I, Chastity Queen, take you on a transformative journey through the realms of self-bondage, with a special lens on cock bondage. Prepare to be equipped with knowledge on how to turn the ordinary into the extraordinary, responsibly harnessing household items such as shoelaces and scarves for gratification. My dungeon days have shown me the power and prevalence of these practices, and I'll share why cleanliness is not just next to godliness—it's essential. Hear the stories that will illuminate the psychological effects of cock bondage, helping you understand the why behind the want, all while avoiding the pitfalls of unsanitary and unsafe methods that could put your health at risk.
Feel the thrill of self-reliance as we dive into solo self-bondage techniques, with guidance inspired by a European slave's ingenious designs for safe, personal restraint. For beginners and veterans alike, I'll lay out the lifelines of safety—knowledge of your body's boundaries, an escape plan, and reachable help. Discover the sweet spots for secure self-binding that respect your anatomy, and learn how to step into the exhilarating world of self-bondage with confidence and care. By the end of our session, you'll be reminded that pleasure's true purpose is joy, and equipped with the tools and tips to achieve it safely. Plus, for those eager to deepen their journey, my link tree awaits with further resources to guide your exploration.
Unlock the secrets of self-imposed pleasure and control as I, Chastity Queen, take you on a transformative journey through the realms of self-bondage, with a special lens on cock bondage. Prepare to be equipped with knowledge on how to turn the ordinary into the extraordinary, responsibly harnessing household items such as shoelaces and scarves for gratification. My dungeon days have shown me the power and prevalence of these practices, and I'll share why cleanliness is not just next to godliness—it's essential. Hear the stories that will illuminate the psychological effects of cock bondage, helping you understand the why behind the want, all while avoiding the pitfalls of unsanitary and unsafe methods that could put your health at risk.
Feel the thrill of self-reliance as we dive into solo self-bondage techniques, with guidance inspired by a European slave's ingenious designs for safe, personal restraint. For beginners and veterans alike, I'll lay out the lifelines of safety—knowledge of your body's boundaries, an escape plan, and reachable help. Discover the sweet spots for secure self-binding that respect your anatomy, and learn how to step into the exhilarating world of self-bondage with confidence and care. By the end of our session, you'll be reminded that pleasure's true purpose is joy, and equipped with the tools and tips to achieve it safely. Plus, for those eager to deepen their journey, my link tree awaits with further resources to guide your exploration.
Thank you for tuning into Diaries of a Domme, plus Questions Answered with your amazing Goddess Hostess, Chastity Queen. So today I want to give a task and I also want to discuss the intricacies of that task. I had a request from one of my lovely subscribers to discuss self-bondage, and I have a lot of experience with many slaves and subs who are implementing self-bondage when they are not able to be with their mistress. Or maybe they are a solo BDSM player to start with, or maybe that's how they enjoy BDSM. They don't want to engage in a DS. So this is something that they really have taken to and enjoy, and there are a lot of reasons for it. But first, what I want to do is this I want to give you a simple self-bondage task. To start, I want you to find some shoelaces. Or you can go to the store and buy some shoelaces. Or, if you have some rope, or maybe you have a scarf or an old tie that you aren't using for your day to day work, that can be repurposed. Maybe one that you purchased that you just never wore because it just didn't end up fitting into your wardrobe or it just ended up not being something that you liked. Take something that is in your house, ideally something that you have already, and you can find a gift bag. On gift bags Oftentimes there are handles and they are made of sort of a soft, thinner kind of a rope, and you could use that A number of items in the house you could use for self-bondage.
Chastity Queen:
And today what I want you to really think about is if you are in chastity, taking off your cage now. If you're permanently in chastity, then of course you're not going to do that and you can do something alternatively. But I'm going to talk to those who are not maybe pierced in a permanent chastity right now that want to try some self-bondage on their cock, and cock bondage is extremely popular, and when I had my dungeon at my kinky house, a lot of the men that came in were not initially in a chastity cage, and what the self-bondage did, or when I bound them up their cock in rope or in a silk scarf or in shoelaces, of course make sure it's hygienic. You want these things clean, so whatever it is that you're using, make sure you sanitize them, wash them under the sink with some soap and water, let them dry out and make sure that you do everything in this area of self-pleasuring in a way that is healthy and hygienic, because the last thing you want to do is enjoy yourself and then end up with some sort of a urinary tract infection or end up with a kidney infection, and that actually leads itself into urethral sounding. That's something I want to talk about again in another episode. But I've had clients come in to do urethral sounding and they've admitted to sounding themselves because they didn't want to purchase a set of sounds, and so they've used all sorts of things like golf tees and chopsticks and things that you really shouldn't be putting in there.
Chastity Queen:
And I know that we are inventive creatures. The expression is necessity is a mother of invention. So when you really feel that need, that desire to do something, no matter what it is it could be self-bondage, it could be urethral sounding, it could be anal play, it could be masturbation using certain objects. Beauty is health, and then all of the fun in the world can be had afterwards. So keep that in mind. Very important and that's something I always stress in my podcast is the necessity of safety and health.
Chastity Queen:
So, self bondage find something that you wanna use. If you don't have anything at the house and you really wanna take on the task. Then you can go to a local dollar store, you can go to a hardware store, you can go to a shoe cobbler and you can purchase things like many different lengths of shoelaces and for peanuts. Really, the cost is minimal. If you can repurpose something in the home, even better, it doesn't cost you a darn thing. So once you have your bondage item, and now as far as length, okay, I would say it's better to have more length than less. The reason is, when you do tie it, then you can just put a bow on it, tie it, and if you really want it to be on for a specific amount of time, then you just get a pair of scissors and trim the bottoms of the laces, the rope, the ribbon, the cord, the whatever. And now when I say cord, be careful. I don't want you to be using anything that is too dense, too heavy, too stringent, especially not metal. So nothing metal, nothing with an electrical aspect to it that could pinch or maybe pop out and poke. So something soft, ideally.
Chastity Queen:
Now reverting back to what I was talking about when I had men come in to see me, one at a time, of course, it was rare that I had sessions with more than one man. There were sessions like that for very specific reasons, of course, forced by or whatever the case might be. Whatever the person was requesting, I tried to facilitate or they would facilitate it. So I would sit them down and I would always ask them have you ever tried chastity? And some would say yes, some would say no, and then I would say have you ever tied your cock up with a rope or a shoelace? I am going to tell you that 80% of the men that came in to see me had done it.
Chastity Queen:
It's that sensation for them of denial, of restriction, of submission, even if it's submitting to this fantasy dom in their mind, or maybe a dom and they look at her images online. Or maybe you look at my images online and you don't have a chastity cage and you wanna do something to submit, and so you tie up your cock and you can leave it on for a while, and when you continually bring her up into your mind, it's like a mental edging of sorts. Right, you're mentally edging, you're thinking about her. Then you feel the reaction in your pants, on your cock, you can feel the restriction of those ropes, the scarf, the laces, whatever it is that you have bound yourself up in and you can feel that lust, that craving to break free from the bonds that are tying you up, and it can be a whole mind-body experience. It's a psychological freedom that one gets from doing this. It seems like such a simplistic way to enjoy bondage, just doing that to your cock, but the outcome is so powerful and the benefits are so immense. It might sound like, oh, chastity Queen, you're just exaggerating this, hey, think what you want, but once you've tried it you're going to say, hey, there was something there she knew, she knew, and I know from experience. So this is why I have my podcast. This is why I share my information, because I know the benefits.
Chastity Queen:
To everybody who listens to me talk about BDSM and all of the facets, all of the sides of BDSM that can fit into a vanilla life. Really, you know you don't have to go all in or all out with BDSM. Like seriously, you could be 75% vanilla and the other 25% you'd like to dabble in some kinky stuff. And there is no wrong way of enjoying your body, your sexuality, your mental dopamine release. It's wonderful, it really is to dabble, to explore, to try something new. It freshens your mind, it clears the cobwebs.
Chastity Queen:
So today's task is I want you to find something and I want you to go on. And when you say, well, how do I bind my cock, how do you do it? Well, you can go online. You can look at some instructions. There's plenty of imagery that you can take a look at. There's still pictures on Google of how to do some cock bondage and you know, if something looks a bit too extreme, then forget it, like just go past, don't worry about that.
Chastity Queen:
Start small and you know, some people just having a little ribbon around their cock alone is good. What I like to do is I like to take the rope and I like to hold both ends of the rope and I like to slide it underneath the scrotum okay, right under the bottom of the scrotum and up, and it fits nicely around. And then what I do is I twist it once and then I pull and it tightens around the shaft and the scrotum and then you can take those two ends and start to wrap as you wish Wrap around the balls, but I would wrap around the cock. So once it's anchored by your testicles, right like in behind your testicles, sort of near the P spot so you go in behind, twist, pull and I'm not saying to tie and pull, twist it, and that'll just give you a little tension, right, and then the tie can be done at the very end. So wrap it as you wish, whatever's exciting. You wrap it and then just tie it in a bow. Make sure you don't tie it in a knot.
Chastity Queen:
And also a very key element is this have yourself a pair of scissors, safety scissors. If you can get the small, thin safety scissors that have the round edge, those are ideal. But if you tie it correctly, then you can just untie it when you need to be released. If you don't want the ability to release yourself, then scissors are the option. It could be, you know, your very last option, when you absolutely feel like you can't be tied up any longer than you're allowed, to cut the cord and just open it up and you're free.
Chastity Queen:
Trying to think here be careful not to pinch any nerves. I don't want you to pinch any skin. If it feels painful, you're going to have to tie it differently. If it feels painful even when you try many different ties, then it could be that that's not for you or you need to take it slowly and maybe you know, tie it up, leave it on for a minute and then let it go, like, take it off. So everybody knows their own body. And the most important element, above and beyond health and sanitary conditions, to like wash your hands and wash the implement is listen to your body. Listen to your body and you'll be fine. So that's your task for today.
Chastity Queen:
I want you to give it a shot and you're welcome to write me a little update if you did do this, and I'd love to hear from you. My email is chastityqueen1atgmailcom and you can just refer to this podcast episode about self bondage. Let me know how it went if you wish, but you don't have to. Main thing is enjoy yourself, and I'm going to talk a little bit about self bondage in itself and an example of somebody that has been a slave of mine for a long time, who engages in and I've got a few, actually, but I'm going to talk about one in particular. I want there's more than one I want to talk about, but I think I will limit it to one.
Chastity Queen:
So this man is from Europe and he has set up a system where he is able to tie himself to items to. He's got some metal. I guess I can call them contraptions and he can put his feet into them, his arms into them, and he can safely bind himself and then release himself afterwards and he has all different variations of bondage techniques with those items. Now there is a stand you can get. It's like a metal stand, it almost looks like a microphone stand and you can attach your cock to it. A bunch of different things you can do, but you don't need to spend the money or you don't need to craft something specifically for it. He has some skills. A lot of the slaves that I've engaged with have metal skills. They work with metal welding and that sort of thing, so they're able to create some fun little contraptions.
Chastity Queen:
That, while you are bound to those things, you are still in a safe place because there is an escape. And that's the key. Is you really need to have an escape plan because you're on your own, sometimes the safest position or the most confidence that you have. You could be the most confident man and the most experienced. Oftentimes it's those ones who are overconfident that get themselves into trouble and the last thing you wanna do is to be stuck, bound in a position, naked, and not have a way out right. There is a lot of risk and danger.
Chastity Queen:
So this is why I started off with, at the beginning of my podcast episode here, a safe genital cock bondage, because I don't want you, if you are starting out new, to go full throttle into self bondage because you wanna try it or you're eager and there's nothing wrong with being eager and willing, that's for sure not an issue but you have to go step by step. You really do, and then you can progress as you get comfortable and confident and you realize what is it that I like against my body? What does my body react to? Some people have allergic reactions to different materials, different types of fabric or rope or rubbers, even silicone, some people are allergic. So you have to really get to know your body and listen to it. And the one that I'm talking about, he creates his own devices and he sends me the most incredible imagery.
Chastity Queen:
The key is this and I'm talking about a lot of keys, aren't I? I guess that makes sense, being that I'm Chastity Queen right, I'm a little key obsessed. So the key is have an escape plan, as I said before, have your phone reachable, okay, or have a knot or a tie that you can untie right, maybe with just a pull of the of the wrists you can untie it. And if you have a friend you know that lives close by and you say, and you are both like minded, maybe let them know tonight I'm gonna be doing some self-bondage. If you don't hear from me by, you know 9 pm, then pop on over, use the house key I gave you, you know, as safety and untie me. So that's sort of an extreme case.
Chastity Queen:
But take it slow. You don't need any fancy contraptions, any fancy designs. You don't have to create your own designs at the beginning. You can do something as simple as binding your legs right and I want you to go and look at the safe points on the body for bondage. I want you to make sure that you're not binding anything around the joints, right around the nerves, the very crucial nerves. You don't want to do any nerve damage in the process of wanting to pleasure yourself. The pleasure is momentary, but nerve damage is forever. So remember that is very important to remember that play safe and research is really the key to playing safe. So I'm gonna leave that with you. Think about it.
Chastity Queen:
We can talk more about full-body self bondage later, but you have your task for today. Don't forget to go to my link tree for all of my links. And thank you so much for being a fan, a subscriber, and I really do appreciate you. I appreciate your patience and I appreciate the fact that you understand that I'm in this for the long haul. So this podcast isn't going anywhere. I am taking it further and further and further. There might be moments where you know I've got some breaks, you know a week or so, but I will always get back into it. I love it and I want everybody to really embrace their pleasure, because pleasure equals happiness and I want all of you to be happy. So thanks for listening and I will be talking to you again very soon. Bye, for now.
