Forgiving for Deliverance, part 4, Forgiveness Breaks obstacles and Produces Healing

Welcome Back! I am your host Dawn Simmons, and in this episode of Conquering Our Unseen Enemies  we are discussing how to clear the obstacles to our own healing and deliverance through forgiveness. 

Top Show points:

·      Story of someone who believes forgiveness isn’t necessary and revenge is the answer.

·      We cannot equate our forgiveness to justice.  When we forgive, it doesn’t mean we forget.  

·      When we enact revenge and intentionally set out to harm the other person in response, we are in a worse position than we were before. 

·      Example of a licensed therapist about whether forgiveness is necessary for healing. 

·      “Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for healing, it is a personal choice and may not always be the best option for everyone. 

·      The decision to forgive should be made with careful consideration and support from a trusted therapist or coach.”

·      Forgiveness is something that should be done with support from the Lord, not a therapist or coach who could help you “decide” to make the choice. 

·      There is a lot of nonsense psychology out there and it is designed to focus on self, not the Lord.  When we are only focused on self, we are taking our eyes off the Lord . 

·      Story of someone who had their own concept of what forgiveness should be

·      This person is treating forgiveness like it is transactional.  

·      First, Forgiveness is not granted. Forgiveness needs to be freely given or it is not forgiveness. 

·      Second, Forgiveness isn’t about who asks for it or whoever needs to be forgiven won’t get it unless it is asked for.  

·      Third, if we are the one who committed the hurtful act, we don’t have a right to expect forgiveness from the one we hurt.  

·      Fourth, whoever commits a hurtful act against us does not need to acknowledge what they did was wrong in order for us to forgive them.  

·      Sixth, we do not get to demand compensation for the hurtful act as a part of our forgiveness.  

·      Seventh, we cannot demand repentance of someone else.  That is not ours to demand.  

·      Forgiveness is a process, it may take a month, a day, a year or a minute to get through the process of forgiveness. A painful situation can be broken by spending time with the Lord and allowing Him to move through your heart.

·      Until we get the ugly out, we don’t have room for the beautiful He has to offer.  He will talk to you, comfort you, guide you. Through that, the bondage of ugly will be broken if you allow Him and submit to Him.  

·      You don’t have to rush this process.  He is helping you.  This is what we are commanded to do, but He is not demanding it of you.  He walks you through it so when you get to the place where you begin to see the beautiful, it is genuine and it will be lasting for you.  

·      Submit to Him all you are carrying, and He will gladly take it from you.  He never intended it for you, so He will gladly take it from you.