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Timeless Wedding Trends: Balancing Tradition and Innovation Pt. 2
Are you dreaming of a picture-perfect wedding with all the bells and whistles? Or, do you prefer to keep things simple and focus on what really matters? We continue part 2 in this fun and insightful episode, exploring some of the latest wedding trends and traditions, from over-the-top cakes to sparklers and fireworks, and give you some tips on how to make your big day truly unforgettable.
As we dive into wedding cakes and cake toppers, we'll discuss the age-old question: is it better to have a lavish, all-edible cake, or should you opt for a more practical, budget-friendly alternative like cupcakes or donuts? We'll also delve into the evolution of wedding traditions, such as fathers "giving away" their daughters, and how modern couples are shaking things up with new approaches like walking down the aisle together. Plus, we'll debate the pros and cons of uniform bridesmaid dresses, wedding hashtags, and the ever-popular photo booths.
To wrap things up, we'll discuss the importance of capturing those perfect moments on your big day and how technology has played a part in shaping modern wedding celebrations, including live streaming during the pandemic. So, whether you're in the midst of planning your own wedding or simply love keeping up with the latest trends, this episode is your one-stop-shop for all things matrimonial! Join us for a lively discussion filled with laughs, stories, and expert advice on making your special day truly unique.
Are you dreaming of a picture-perfect wedding with all the bells and whistles? Or, do you prefer to keep things simple and focus on what really matters? We continue part 2 in this fun and insightful episode, exploring some of the latest wedding trends and traditions, from over-the-top cakes to sparklers and fireworks, and give you some tips on how to make your big day truly unforgettable.
As we dive into wedding cakes and cake toppers, we'll discuss the age-old question: is it better to have a lavish, all-edible cake, or should you opt for a more practical, budget-friendly alternative like cupcakes or donuts? We'll also delve into the evolution of wedding traditions, such as fathers "giving away" their daughters, and how modern couples are shaking things up with new approaches like walking down the aisle together. Plus, we'll debate the pros and cons of uniform bridesmaid dresses, wedding hashtags, and the ever-popular photo booths.
To wrap things up, we'll discuss the importance of capturing those perfect moments on your big day and how technology has played a part in shaping modern wedding celebrations, including live streaming during the pandemic. So, whether you're in the midst of planning your own wedding or simply love keeping up with the latest trends, this episode is your one-stop-shop for all things matrimonial! Join us for a lively discussion filled with laughs, stories, and expert advice on making your special day truly unique.
I got one.
Speaker 2:Ooh, tell me.
Speaker 1:Apparently over the top cakes and cake toppers is coming back into the wedding industry.
Speaker 2:Oh really, yep, because I Oh that's what I was gonna ask you, not about cakes in general, but just like your take on like cupcakes and donuts versus like an actual cake.
Speaker 1:I would go to guess and I'm not shocked by this at all Over the past probably I mean before I was a wedding photographer is really when it started coming in. So we're talking like 10 years ago is when cakes were coming out or they were leaving the scene, and then first it went into less dramatic cakes, then it was naked cakes, then it was cupcakes.
Speaker 2:I do remember the naked cakes, and then it was let's just do anything.
Speaker 1:Donuts, like you know, these crazy walls.
Speaker 2:We had donuts, all these different things. There you go.
Speaker 1:But it's economical and looks good. Like I'm still for that, like I'm so into, you know, anything. That's not a cake, a cool way to display it. Two thumbs up on that for me because, yeah, it is economical. But if we're talking in strictly trends, i am not shocked that over-the-top cakes and cake toppers are coming back, because we've been on the naked cake thing for years now. So as years go by, people want to not do the same thing. Because I'm gonna go to guess that a lot of people too this is super generalization People that when they do get married, i'm gonna go to guess that they've had a few people in their lives that have already gotten married. I'm gonna go to guess maybe that's how trends happen, maybe that's how it happens, that's like the psychology here. They've been to a few and they're like, well, i don't wanna do that, i wanna do something different.
Speaker 1:I've seen four weddings where they had, you know, donuts, let's not do donuts, Let's do a really good cake, And then here we go And then everybody starts doing it again. So who knows, that could be the. I think we just figured it out. I'm gonna close this podcast. We're good trends done.
Speaker 2:I was like wait, hold on what, no, but have you so okay? So with the cake conversation, i'm only saying this because I have made. So I had a wedding one time that was running like kind of late And we couldn't for whatever reason we couldn't find the matriotty who was like running the whole thing, and I kind of, you know, my coverage was coming to an end and there was no cake cutting in sight, but the cake was there And so I had my clients cut the cake and they like asked, like is there a specific way we're supposed to do it? And I just kind of followed what I've always seen other people do with the. You know, like we're not stupid, i've done this, you've done this, like we know how to cut a cake, you know, and I always, like you know, if the coordinator offers to show them how, where, whatever, i've watched so many. You know This particular cake was mostly a fake cake And so, yeah, it was like all styrofoam, so I had them cut through styrofoam.
Speaker 1:Oh, I wish I saw that. I was just hearing the noise in my head as you cut.
Speaker 2:Well, they kept going why is it so hard? Like, why is it so hard? And I don't even think my, i don't even think my couple knew that most of their cake was styrofoam. So like, okay when you say like the big, that is hilarious. The big cakes and stuff, right Is? I mean, is it even a thing to have like a five tier cake and have it all cake? Like I don't know if that's like a stupid question because like how, and I know they have like the support that goes up through and sometimes they have the different layers of, but, like for a wedding, it just seems so risky, right.
Speaker 1:For it to all be cake.
Speaker 2:I understand why they're using styrofoam, but if those types of cakes are coming back, are they actually gonna be cake that is really served to everyone, or are we just gonna have the big beautiful cakes that are mostly styrofoam, because those are really expensive too?
Speaker 1:Well, one thing so on that trends tend to come back, but they usually always come back with like a slight twist up there something different, Something better, yeah. Yeah, so maybe that's, maybe you're so, i don't know. I don't know the answer to this. This is a good one, So if anyone is listening and has thoughts on this, would love to know. We gotta post this in the story. This would be good. Good question.
Speaker 2:Yeah, i just I don't know. I know that they can make huge cakes. There are definitely like edible, i mean they have like sculpture cakes, sometimes, like we watch all these different baking shows, so I know it's possible. But for an actual wedding for it to be cut all I've ever seen because I think since I've started my career, mostly I've just seen like the smaller cakes where it's just it's for cutting and that's for photos And then they have some type of other dessert that's rolled out to everybody and whatever.
Speaker 2:I'm not sure that I've ever actually seen a five or six layer cake, that is, cake that is cut up for guests.
Speaker 1:I have not So, but I've also been. I have been photographing in the very as we're going. Talking about trends, i've been in the trendy world of small cake, naked cake. I've seen some bigger cakes absolutely, but not five.
Speaker 2:But were they fake? So are they real or are they fake? You know what?
Speaker 1:I can tell you that maybe one or two of them were fake, mostly with a smaller cake for the bride and groom, and then everybody else got something else.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the small one on top and then the other ones are styrofoam with buttercream. So I have seen that.
Speaker 1:Now I'm thinking about it. I definitely have seen that, but they didn't. I maybe didn't think about it because I didn't see them cut through the styrofoam. So that is like 10 out of 10.
Speaker 2:The coordinator came over to me like are you serious? Oh yeah, no, that would be great If I was the groom.
Speaker 1:I would have loved to see that If I was the groom, that would have made my night. Oh my God.
Speaker 2:That would have been hilarious, Have you seen?
Speaker 1:so? but you did mention isn't it scary to have a cake that big? because it's a risk, Have you?
Speaker 2:seen Just because of the big. It's like such a big event, you know.
Speaker 1:Have you seen? There was a recent video I saw spiraling around on on the instas and the tic-tac about a. It was a huge, huge cake that the two workers were bringing over and it was a. It was a very big wedding and the thing just spilled over onto the dance floor and the bride's face was just, you know, oh my God. And the groom looked at it, started laughing and then the next scene is him with a fork on the floor eating the cake.
Speaker 2:That's just like That's. That's how you handle it. That's how you handle it, Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's how you handle it, because it's like everyone's going to look to the bride and groom like what's their reaction? Like you unfortunately, are running the show on how to handle this going forward So that's but that is a risk always. So I I can only imagine being the worker that moved that cake. I, i personally all I've done is rotated tables.
Speaker 1:I just spin it around and even then I'm I am freaking out a little bit. I'm like usually have someone always come and help me and give a give, a spin on the table and the spin is so I can get like the right angle and the background for the light. Yeah, I, just a fun thing for us photographers is the cake is always in the corner and it looks terrible. It looks from a photography standpoint. that's the way to deal with. I hate taking the picture of the cake in the corner because the light hits the wall and it looks bad and it's just boring.
Speaker 1:So all you have to do is just spin it 360, and then you're facing the room and all of that's blurred out and it looks like this nice, you know, creamy, colorful, fun.
Speaker 2:But if you do that, you open the opportunity for guests to crowd around the table of the cake Like if, if, if the dance floor is in the back and everybody's trying to get photos.
Speaker 1:Oh, so I've never done it.
Speaker 2:When people are like deep in dancing, It's usually still Oh no, no me either I'm saying like they, like they gravitate towards the cake table because they want to take photos and stuff. So if you're, if, if most of your backdrop basically is open space, then the guests are more likely to also crowd around. So then you don't have that like moment with the wedding couple.
Speaker 1:So yeah, there's, of course, there's always that, but I'm I'm even talking about just the cake shop without the bride and groom there, Like. I'll do that on my own. So, but yes, without, especially in a world of having a, we're leaning into private cake cuttings. You'd have to be careful with that.
Speaker 2:Right. So the other another like wedding trend that I saw was not taking dads out of walking the bride down the aisle, but basically the bride having the mom and the dad walk down the aisle so that it's not so, it's not so much like the dad is just giving her away. It's equally as much. The mom And then I. So first of all, yes or no? I say yes, two thumbs up, like both of your parents deserve that moment.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they both raise you. I have nothing against that, literally none at all. It's the, it's the concept of, it's that weird social norm that you're just like well, no, that's how it's done. You know that's I, you know it's. It's a nice sentiment, but when you find out the reasoning why, from history, it's super weird super weird So you know what it is, Brooke, Can you tell us what that actually is?
Speaker 1:And when people say, oh, giving her away, it's sound again in modern culture. it sounds cute, It sounds really nice, But really what it was is. we're talking about Trading cows and stuff for your product.
Speaker 2:Like I said, yeah, we so we had for the listeners.
Speaker 2:Like we had a podcast at one point that I think we're going to have to rerecord because of like the shitty sound quality or something.
Speaker 2:But we were talking about wedding traditions and why exactly fathers give their bride or their daughters away, and for the most part it was kind of like trading your daughter into a family in return for items and livestock and things like that, which I don't know. I don't really understand. But so, to take that a little bit further, i've been seeing this trend of the bride and the groom walk down the aisle together, and I actually had a bride meet her groom at the very end of the aisle and then they walked down together. She walked a little portion of that herself. Her dad also had passed away, so she didn't have her dad to walk her down the aisle, so she walked. It was a gorgeous wedding on a beach, so she walked from this cabin that she was coming out of down to where the guests were and her husband well, her groom was waiting for her at the very end of the aisle And then they walked down together as a couple, which I thought was just beautiful.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I loved it And I wish that people would do that more so that they could have the photos of them coming in together and then also going out together, because it is such a different feel. It's not you're not getting the same photo with your significant other because you have all of these. like, in the very beginning it feels like you have nerves and all of that, but then in the very end, when you're walking the processional is that what it's, the processional you're coming down and you have all of this excitement and looking for another word.
Speaker 1:Energy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like this fresh energy, like you just kissed your person for the first time as a married couple and then you're coming back down, so the feeling of it is such a different vibe And I loved seeing them walk down together And it was kind of like I just thought it was like the sweetest thing, like he was waiting there for her, he took her hand, he walked down with her and then, after their kiss and they walked back out. It was like a totally different feel, but I loved it so much.
Speaker 1:Love it. Yeah, i love it. I love challenging the norm of why do we do the norm? and it's because somebody else did it or somebody told us to, or sometimes it's family that feels that that was the traditional thing. Yeah, some people are. they vibe really strong with traditionalism and certain things are nice, but it's preference. It's all preference because it's all. I don't even think couples know that they can do this. It's almost like you have to tell them like you have the power, you can do it.
Speaker 2:You can literally do anything.
Speaker 1:It's usually the conversation we have, like FYI, because we get the question a lot as photographers, you know, when you talk to your couples as we're approaching the date, like you know, what do other people do, and it's like, well, first off, there's no wrong or right answer here, just to get that off the bat. But if you want to do something more similar to what other people doing, because it's less attention to yourself and you don't want to be the talk of the town, understandable, fine, let's go forward with that, you know. Or if you feel strongly about doing it, but otherwise there are no rules, there are no rules. That is why we are here on this podcast talking about this.
Speaker 2:So yes, your wedding day should be authentically you and whatever that means to you. If it means that, actually, my next question bridal parties. Bridal parties that are kind of I don't think they're phasing out, but I think that there is this push of And I felt it myself too where, you know, i got engaged and I felt like, alright, well, just just because I'm planning a wedding doesn't mean that all of my friends have to put their lives and all of their things on hold, like I. Just I wanted it to be as seamless and easy as humanly possible. It wasn't because I didn't want for our friends to be a part of our day. I literally just felt like, okay, but why? why are you gonna have to cater to me because of this huge event that I'm throwing, you know? so I'm seeing that a lot of brides and grooms and wedding couples are Moving away from the bridal party and, to be honest, i love it. What do you think?
Speaker 1:I Think it, this is, this is such my personality in the mediator. I Think it depends. I think what I okay, what I do love is seeing this push away from having the, the need to make everybody come and give everybody gifts and or go to Extravagant locations and just clean.
Speaker 2:Come to Cabo with me.
Speaker 1:It's so much money that a lot of people especially if you're you know If you're in the wedding party. If you're in a wedding party four or five times in a year, that's a heavy cost. Like that's a like you're not going on vacation that year, i don't know, or you're going on multiple vacations that you didn't choose you didn't choose, yeah, so with friends that aren't really your friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, i think the concept of of Welcoming the most important individuals in your circle to you know, represent as a As a sign that you know this is my important people. I want them here on my day and I'm putting them in my party because letting you know that you're a big part of my life, like that, that general sentiment in the wedding party, good with it's all the baggage that comes with it that I think we just Do because that's what society says to do for some silly reason. I'm so if it takes a shift of, you know, let's remove wedding parties or make them really small to get there to do that, maybe that's a step in that process, to kind of open that up.
Speaker 2:I Think the big wedding parties need to And I don't want to say die out I. I just think that when you have too big of a wedding party, like, like I don't know I don't know how to say this without it sounding rude like if I was chosen for a wedding party with 10 to 12 other girls, is it? is it really feeling that special for me to be a part of that anymore?
Speaker 1:Well, it depends on. So this is where I would put the. I think it we're getting into personality types.
Speaker 2:Some personalities have Yeah, i have two friends, So who can I talk like I can't talk?
Speaker 1:we're too. We're two different types of introverts on this podcast, but we are both introverts. So you and I both have a very close group of friends. I think we can that's what it sounds like we can agree on that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a very small circle, but there are people who are not like that and they have a very wide circle And those are gonna be your big 10 to 12 party. So I think what we need to my my like, big, like push on this is Are you doing it because you really do have a group that large, that large that you want to keep in your circle and showcase them off and make them all feel special, or you're doing it because You feel like you need to, where you've got like four people and you're like well, i can't have this person because We you know, we were college friends, so I definitely need to add this person and it's, you can just go, you can go off the rails And then, why are you?
Speaker 2:that's most of what I've seen, i think, which is why I have like a. I have like a Like because that's what I've seen. It's it's kind of like well, i couldn't have my sister in my bridal party without having his sister and my bridal party.
Speaker 2:Yeah right, and it's like That's not the reason to have them in your bridal party. I think that there should I mean there shouldn't be a limit. I don't want to make it sound because I've had so many like big bridal parties and they're so fun. They're so fun, but I feel like you Especially well, maybe you know what though this might just be speaking to like who I am as a person in general because I'm even like taking less. I'm taking less weddings, but I'm also taking more intimate weddings. So when I think about intimate weddings, having 10 people on both sides of the bridal party, that to me feels like, well, that's most of your wedding. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Man full circle here. That aligns with your brand perfectly. You're taking on less weddings, more intimate weddings, so that of course you feel this way, which is that's a good thing, because your clients should trust you with that, because you are literally living what you're. You're walking. The walk is what you're doing, so that makes perfect sense.
Speaker 2:Just to be clear, i have like two friends. I just thought I don't want people to like drag me. I have like two friends and I didn't have any bridal anything. I didn't have a bridal party. We didn't. We literally asked everybody to wear a black and that was everybody who came to. Our event was important. Everybody matched, everybody was there to celebrate us And I felt like having having a. And my friends took me on a small like. We went for a day in Newport and Chad's friends took him to like a nice dinner for his bachelor party, you know. But we didn't want to make it this huge like. Everybody spend all of this money because we're getting married, like I just I really wanted it to be as minimal as humanly possible, which are the clients that I'm gravitating towards.
Speaker 1:So it does make sense why I would be like big wedding parties are out you know That's, that's, that is you That's so when we say our brand, that's in this world, our brand is us. So that's that's a and you're, you're doing it.
Speaker 2:Right, love that. Can you think of any other trends that you're seeing right now?
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, absolutely. So. I'll kind of we can go a little bit quicker on these too. So some of them are, so I'll talk about that.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, let's do. let's do that, We'll do thumbs up or thumbs down.
Speaker 1:Thumbs up, thumbs down. So what's out or what's in Wedding hashtags? That was a thing for a while. I think that's down Who cares?
Speaker 2:It is Okay.
Speaker 1:According to Vogue, it's down, So that's that's.
Speaker 2:Okay, so if we don't agree, we're going to debate, but other than that, we'll just keep moving.
Speaker 1:Okay, uniform bridesmaid dresses are out.
Speaker 2:I don't really care. I think there are certain styles that look amazing together all as one. There are certain styles I do love the idea, like the one thing that really and this again goes back to being like the easy breezy bride is basically like I'm picking a color, you choose the fit. I think that it's. It's really nice to be able to give your bridesmaids the option to choose. You know, i want to wear across the shoulder or something like that, because not everybody's body type is the same And everybody, if you're to me, if you're spending money on a dress, you should be able to wear it again. So I don't want to pick out the exact, you know dress that you're going to have to wear for my day and never, ever again.
Speaker 2:But as far as the matching as color wise, i've seen like really cool floral ones Like. So I'm thumbs up and down, like I think that you can do whatever you want. You don't even have to have them wear the same color, you don't have to have them have them wear the same style, it don't matter.
Speaker 1:I'd say some form of complimentary is what I would lean on, because it's going to make, but I'm biased, so I'm looking for that for the whole.
Speaker 2:But people are doing that for their whole guests, their whole guest list. They're asking, like you know, please wear bright colors, or please? we asked everybody to wear dark colors and black. I didn't realize that. That's why.
Speaker 1:I did not know that. Oh, i you know a black tie event. You know something like that. That would be the one time. I guess that's the ask. But when it comes to colors, interesting, didn't know. I saw a TikTok.
Speaker 2:Yeah, i saw a TikTok where they basically said wear the brightest colors that you can like, cause their day was going to be so colorful or like shades of pink stuff like that, which I think is really cool. But I think that that should always be the option. The guys, the guys have to be pretty uniform for it to look good. I do like sometimes when I see that the like the groom is wearing a darker color than the rest of the guys, just so that his stands out specifically. But I think it's just as special when they have like a special boutonniere or something that just kind of like takes them a little bit more of a step away from their look. So I say thumbs up and thumbs down, wear what you want, yep.
Speaker 1:On board with that.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Welcome bags into your hotel. That is a apparently outgoing trend.
Speaker 2:It's very cute, but for the cost.
Speaker 1:I think that's the reasoning Really for the cost And I mean it's.
Speaker 2:I've checked into hotels and got one of those bags and I love it. I think it's so cute.
Speaker 1:Can I do this?
Speaker 2:Yeah, You're like I'm almost out.
Speaker 1:Thumbs down almost out. I think it's just an unnecessary expense that a lot of people stress them out with The bride and groom on those last minute details. It's nice. It is nice to have something like a handwritten card. You know, here's a bottle of water. I've seen, you know, advil if you're going to go out and drink, like that's a nice little thing, but it's just. You're usually at the wedding. There's a, you know, some sort of blah, blah, blah, blah, some form of a favor or something that you're giving away. So it's just, it's just a lot of stuff.
Speaker 2:I would say, in lieu of that, give everybody a small folder with the itinerary, the bus schedule, all of that. It doesn't have to be like welcome bags with, you know, his and hers popcorn and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:It doesn't have to be like that You can literally as long as they check into their hotel and they have some idea of what is going on, i think leaving like a little folder or even just like printouts with like welcome, we're so glad you're here, but you don't have to go heavy on like the favors in the hotel because for the most part I feel like, well, no, i used everything that I got. I ate all that popcorn.
Speaker 1:I will say the weddings that I've checked into and got a welcome bag, even if it was a paper bag, but when you get to the hotel and you check in and you see them, because they're on the front page.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you definitely feel special?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you do So. I mean, even so, how about this, If you? we're gonna do I think we've changed the boat. It's either yay or nay, which is what we've got a lot of tonight.
Speaker 2:I think leaving them with something is very nice, whether it's a printout. but I don't think that you necessarily should be putting a major part of your budget towards welcome gifts, If it's stressing you out, then don't worry about it.
Speaker 1:Your guests are gonna. They're gonna get there and head over to your shuttle bus and get over it. So signature cocktails is apparently something that is a trend going out.
Speaker 2:Going out.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:Boo.
Speaker 1:Boo, I think I've seen I like the signature cocktails. Signature cocktails were good with. I had agreed with that.
Speaker 2:We had a Nelly and a Gremlin and I feel like that was there. Like well, nelly ran around our cocktail hour like a freaking nut but that was our way of like of getting Gremlin into our wedding day because he wasn't going to. you know, he's a cat, he's not going to like say hi to everybody. But yeah, i think I think, boo, that it's going out, because I like signature cocktails.
Speaker 1:Signature cocktails, yay, yay. Oh, the other one that's going oh, here's a good, here's not on the list, here's one that we. My personal thing, so something that I've been surprised with. I thought I thought photo booths were going to go out and I've been proven wrong. I continue to see them there And so what I've, what I continue to see, is that we just need maybe it comes from the need to be stimulated, because that's our world now, with like phones and everything. So giving your guests something fun to do. And a photo booth is just. I'm going to very carefully say the word. It's not timeless, but I feel like it's close now. It's been around so long and I feel like every time I've been to a wedding and even if I've said it out loud like, oh, yeah, here's, you know, another photo booth, when you go and do it with the people you're with, it's still fun.
Speaker 1:It is still fun, like it's just, and then the bride and groom get it. They get all the photos, usually whether that's the prints or both the digital's, and then you, as the guest, sometimes get your little three printout photo. I was wrong. I was definitely wrong. And here we are. They're still going.
Speaker 2:Do you think, though, that it's just as good to set up a backdrop with props and have, like, basically, people taking their phone photos, cause I've seen that too, and I think that that's kind of fun, like you just have like a corner where you're not necessarily paying. You're paying for the backdrop, you're paying for all the props, things like that, but you're not paying for, you know, basically, the service of like the printouts and things like that. But if you had a like, oh, like, oh, the wedding hashtag, or if you downloaded one of those apps where everybody could upload their photos to the app and then the bride and the groom or the wedding couple has it, have it at the end of the night, i feel like that's just as good.
Speaker 1:So two thoughts on that, one being, if you do that, i've been to weddings where they had it set up and it was just as fine during the day, but when the sun went down, they had lights installed on this wall and they weren't working, and there's no one there that's going to take care of it, because it's not the venues, There's no vendor to take care of it, It's just a guest somebody And then and that's what. So they were asking me like, Oh, did you know how to fix this?
Speaker 2:And I was like I.
Speaker 1:Well, i quickly looked in the back just to see if I could help And I was like no, i can't, you know, it's just not working. So it's unfortunate, because it was in a dark corner and you just have, and it was green So it's just like dark green. So that was kind of a little like Oh man, that's just such a small little thing, and I'd relate that to during COVID. There were a lot of which is still sort of happening now. Um, not as not even close to how much it was happening, but weddings that were doing the, you know, like a live stream and everyone in their head thinks, oh, super easy.
Speaker 1:But there were so many issues that came up And this was a great example of this is why you hire professionals for things that are only like a wedding, that's only happening once, and each piece of that is either quick and it's only happening There is no time for error And if there is error, someone who is familiar with said equipment or whatever it is. That's what you're paying for as well. And I saw so many people do live streams and so many things came up that were like they'd put, you know, let's just say, an iPhone on like a tripod and the sun is out, and they didn't consider that the phone is going to overheat.
Speaker 1:And when I phones overheat, it literally happened yesterday on a call I was sitting, i was just taking in the sun and I was sitting on the phone with a client and I had the silly cause I had the air pods in but my phone was out of my pocket and it was just sitting on the deck and it was just. It just got hot And then and then what happens is it just shuts off and just says temperature, it's got to cool down. So there, i heard of those stories And then I also heard the wifi dropped, the, you know they quit it.
Speaker 1:Just there's so many things that can go wrong as soon as you add, of add something to your to your day that, unless it's like, i guess the best thing would be the photo wall that you're describing, because there's there's no technology with it, but there just would have to. If there's any form of a thing like a light or something, have a backup plan and assign that to somebody. Make sure that they're responsible to take care of it which maybe you don't want your guests to do. You want them to have a good time. So that's, and then, inherently, that's why you hire people to do it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my cousin had a. she had like a separate room. She got married in this like older house that had like all of the quirky rooms and stuff. She had like a room set up as the photo booth and it was like just a camera with like just like a regular flash camera on a tripod and they it was set to a 10 second timer And so you pressed it and you grabbed your thing and you went in front of the wall and then she got all of those on her camera, basically, and she uploaded them to Facebook afterwards and it was totally fine. So I guess I've just seen it work before and I've seen it like look really good And I don't. I think if you can get the right, if you can get it to work the way it's supposed to work, it it, you don't necessarily need the actual photo booth with the printouts and all of that, because you can share them on on Facebook.
Speaker 2:So, but I'm also of the world of like, how can I save money? and where, like I, i would never pay for something like a photo booth? because to me I'm like, well, we all have our phones, we could all do this thing if I set up, you know, like, and I have extra cameras lying around too. So you know, but that's just me.
Speaker 1:So last one.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Sparklers and or fireworks.
Speaker 2:Fireworks out. I think fireworks are out. I'm I'm good on the fireworks You went.
Speaker 1:Vogue. Vogue thinks fireworks are out too. You got it.
Speaker 2:Oh good, you know me and Vogue were. You guys are pretty tight. Yeah, the sparklers, i, i just, I think it's out. I think it's out, it's fun, it's okay. Does it add much to the gallery? To me, no, besides maybe burning my hair off running through a tunnel backwards. I don't know. You know You also. I feel like, well, you know what? Here's what I'll say. I'm getting a package. Here's what I'll say is, if you have a bridal party that is responsible enough to not get too drunk by the end of my coverage, right, because I usually don't stay until the very last second, i'll stay for about an hour of dancing And then, if your bridal party is the type that will be able to keep themselves together until my coverage ends, take the bridal party out, just the bridal party.
Speaker 2:I think sparkler exits are very overwhelming And I think to do it with every single person in your reception. I don't know That one's out for me, but bridal party, meh, that's not too bad. You could kind of take them out and do a mock exit.
Speaker 1:All here for that. I do love the photos, though Like that's gonna be where we separate. I personally love the sparkler photos, but what I don't like is a unplanned and all the DJs of the world are gonna agree with me when it's like middle, like and it. Just let's remove, let's get this energy ramped up on the dance floor and then we're just gonna cut it and bring everybody outside. I know for a fact DJs hate that. Then they gotta start over and it's tough.
Speaker 2:And then you lose half of your look Because it's not a real sparkler exit either. So, it's kind of like fake for the photos, which is inauthentic.
Speaker 1:It is. They've seen the sparkler photos. I get it. I mean they look. I personally like them. I think they look really cool. I also don't have long hair with a ponytail that I need to worry about getting burned off Luckily short short hair but I still am always highly aware of the drunk guests that are waving it around. So I would agree I would lean towards keep it to your bridal party. If you were bridal parties to people, that makes it tough. So maybe your immediate family, but maybe 175 people with a sparkler.
Speaker 2:But assign 10 people. We're going out at nine o'clock and we're doing the sparkler thing.
Speaker 1:It's so much And it takes a with 100 plus people, like it takes a long time, Like you're losing 10 plus minutes of your wedding And you only get more. Yeah, you only get, you know, maybe two hours of the dance floor, like if that most of the time. So it's one of those things you really got to think about it And if it means that much to you, i'm here for the firework, firework, the sparkler photo.
Speaker 2:Okay, but fireworks Yeah fireworks.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm sure If I could get a couple to like do a dip with fireworks in the background, Oh, I love that. That'd be great.
Speaker 2:But Oh, you just have to have somebody get married at the fourth, on the fourth of July at Anthony's Ocean View. That was the only time I ever had fireworks in my photos And I was. It was cool, but I was like I don't know, is it worth taking everybody out to watch the fireworks?
Speaker 2:Me no, honestly, you know what. Here's the thing. It's not even about the photos. The photos themselves are beautiful. I think. Where I, where we agree on this, is just don't disturb your entire reception for the sparkler and the firework What you did before Exactly.
Speaker 2:All of these hundred and something people, when they get back in they're not gonna have the same energy that they had before they went out. It's just. It just doesn't happen. I don't you know they're filing back in and now they want cake. Or now you know they are gonna sit down for a little bit because they just stood outside and watched the fireworks. So I would be. I'm on the side of. It's a yes for me, unless it disturbs everything in your reception.
Speaker 1:Pretty much agree with that. Yeah, 100%. Yep, i think we've got it down.
Speaker 2:Cause you're right, the photos are beautiful.
Speaker 1:They are, they do. They're just cause when a couple's not gonna be able to do that again, they're not gonna be able to have that. you know, a professional photo with the right cause it's very hard to take iPhone photos with. even if you had a Fourth of July party and you're like, all right, let's everybody get together and do sparkler dip and do that, The iPhone photos are not.
Speaker 2:It's hard to take professional photos of it sometimes It is.
Speaker 1:It's tricky And I'm almost every time there's. I've got it down now, but even still there's always like a little bit of a panic in me when I do it, Cause we only get one shot to do it.
Speaker 2:So And if you're going to do it, get the extra long sparklers so that we have enough time.
Speaker 1:Please, please, the extra long sparkler, for God's sakes. All right, we are at one hour plus So you got any final words for this episode. This, this podcast. We got. I know she got, i should got a big guy there. She was like Oh God, pressures on me.
Speaker 2:No, I think I just want to say that to the people who are already listening to us. First of all, thank you. Like I know, we only have a few podcasts out It's and I'm going to be totally honest Like I give myself the ick when I listen to these back. It's, it's super, super weird to hear.
Speaker 1:It's very weird, it's, it is.
Speaker 2:But I do want to say that we're still working a lot. The audio we're working on like, for example, i literally and I'll just you know I've I've got like the sound barriers and all of that, like we're trying really hard to make it so that this is like the best it can be in your ears.
Speaker 1:I think it's gonna improve every time because we're going to be pushing the envelope.
Speaker 2:So Me too. I got a little scared on the last one cause, like we, i heard so many mouth sounds and you agreed, like we both were. like, why did?
Speaker 1:I, i worked on it for probably an hour and tried all different things. And I literally couldn't get it down to it. If I, if I removed certain sounds this way, then it was doing other weird things And I was like well which one's worse And that's what I had to start doing was like this back and forth, or I could have spent eight hours cleaning it up and I don't have that time for this.
Speaker 2:No, no, but I just want to say thank you, like if you're still listening to us and you heard our mouth sounds and it weirded you out as much as it weirded me out, like thank you for just sticking through it, cause I do think it'll get better every time, but we're still trying to figure out, like the audio and all of that.
Speaker 1:Basically, what she's saying is apologizing for the BS. Hey, there you go, but it's all right because it's all BS, so it's fine, everything So.
Speaker 2:Do you have anything to say before we sign off? No, i feel weird. I feel like we have to have an actual sign off when we're like here doing this thing.
Speaker 1:This is a first time we're doing video, so we'll do more of these and see where it goes.
Speaker 2:So Awesome, i guess we can stop the recording. Beep, beep, and then does this, does it automatically like take.