Everything is BS
From Runner's High to Internet Trolls: A Tale of Two Worlds
Ever felt the sheer exhilaration of a runner's high, that state of bliss when you push your body beyond its limits and feel like you can conquer the world? Or perhaps you've been on the receiving end of an unsolicited, cruel remark on social media and wondered how to react. Either way, this episode has a wealth of insights for you.
Embark on a journey with us as we navigate the maze of health and fitness. We explore our routines, sharing inspiration and how it's transformed our outlook towards fitness. We also delve into the challenges that crop up unexpectedly, like falling ill, and how we bounce back. Furthermore, we discuss our foray into holistic living through clean eating, dabbling in portion control, and even swapping our regular cocktails with mocktails, especially during high-stress events like weddings.
But it's not all sunshine and roses in the world of social media. We've had our fair share of battles with Internet trolls and negativity, a bitter yet inevitable part of the digital landscape. So, we thought, why not share our strategies? We delve into our experiences, discussing ways to interpret and respond to negative comments tactfully, and how we overcome the paralyzing impostor syndrome. We believe in fostering a positive, supportive online community, and we hope this episode empowers you to do the same. So, grab your headphones, and let's get cracking!
Ever felt the sheer exhilaration of a runner's high, that state of bliss when you push your body beyond its limits and feel like you can conquer the world? Or perhaps you've been on the receiving end of an unsolicited, cruel remark on social media and wondered how to react. Either way, this episode has a wealth of insights for you.
Embark on a journey with us as we navigate the maze of health and fitness. We explore our routines, sharing inspiration and how it's transformed our outlook towards fitness. We also delve into the challenges that crop up unexpectedly, like falling ill, and how we bounce back. Furthermore, we discuss our foray into holistic living through clean eating, dabbling in portion control, and even swapping our regular cocktails with mocktails, especially during high-stress events like weddings.
But it's not all sunshine and roses in the world of social media. We've had our fair share of battles with Internet trolls and negativity, a bitter yet inevitable part of the digital landscape. So, we thought, why not share our strategies? We delve into our experiences, discussing ways to interpret and respond to negative comments tactfully, and how we overcome the paralyzing impostor syndrome. We believe in fostering a positive, supportive online community, and we hope this episode empowers you to do the same. So, grab your headphones, and let's get cracking!
health health. We started it would have been funnier if you said hell, hell.
Speaker 2:Well, what the hell? We are chatting about health, not hell, and Brooke and I were just chatting regarding Kelly and I have moved into a new realm of exercise. I'm always like in my mid 30s now and I'm I've, you know, I feel like I've done this so many times and it's like what's different this time, and especially as, as we continue to get older, think people think the same thing. Oh God, another, another exercise health preach here we go, like there's already a ton of those on Instagram and such so.
Speaker 1:Yes, but I think it's more encouraging when you see somebody that you know. So right before we started the recording this podcast, we were talking about health and Chris was saying that him and his wife have been trying to, I guess, implement some healthier routines. So it's, you know, I see your posts and I'm like wow, I'm such a piece of shit, it's just sitting at home. So it's more encouraging when you see somebody that you know able to do it and keep up with it and stuff and also Taylor Taylor's posts. I've been like okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, taylor is definitely the original inspiration there, so I know I want to shout her out really quick. I want to shout out her new. What is it? T Rose fit Yep, Is that what it is? That's it. T Rose underscore fit. So this was a bride of mine, it's a friend of Chris's, a friend of mine too, but basically I've been seeing that she has, I think, started a business. Do you know more about that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so she's certified. She finished her certification in Taylor. If you're listening, correct me if I'm wrong, but it's nutritional coaching. There's different levels of, you know, nutritional coaching and there's who's describing this to me. There's like a nutritionist, which is, you know, someone who goes to school for a few years but that's going to be more tailored to, like, people with diabetes and things with really really particular you know, medical, attached diets and such that you that have very specific requirements. And then there was one more above that, I think, and I can't remember what it was, but anyway, one of what she can, what she's assisting with, is we hit this realm of just, you know, we're just chugging along with our life and feel like we're just getting. We just go through these waves of like trying to exercise a little bit and then just like fall off the horse and it's, you know. And there's always the excuse well, it's, you know, it's October for me.
Speaker 2:Kelly knows I won't do that this year, I promise Kelly. It's like October 1. And all of a sudden around the house is like bowls of candy everywhere and I'm like, well, we got to be prepared.
Speaker 1:Yeah, are you kidding me? Candy is baked goods Like that's what Halloween in the Halloween just rolls right into Thanksgiving, rolls right into Christmas and then a New Year's resolution.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Like the months October, November, December, which is a quarter of the year, is just this consistent eating frenzy? I feel like it.
Speaker 1:I mean just get out your fat pants.
Speaker 2:That's it Seriously so. That's. That's not the reason why we started doing this, but it's a it's just a culmination of like God always feel like we fall off the horse, whether it's like it's always an excuse like, well, it was the holidays, well, we got sick, which is, I mean, you do get sick. And then that's usually what almost always cut me off of any like pattern I had any like consistency was I was sick for three weeks, four weeks, because of a cough. That's exactly what happened this year and you're just not motivated, you feel terrible until the cough goes away and then all of a sudden you're, you've built new habits that are not good, and then you just kind of float along Do you find that when you're sick you eat worse too.
Speaker 1:I mean, I definitely you're on the couch, you're getting better, but I feel like usually when I'm sick I like don't, I don't want anything. That's like bad for me.
Speaker 2:I mean, no, yeah, I would agree with that. Like less, yeah, way less, and it's usually, you know, relatively healthy things. It's like like you just said, it's like soup, crackers, things like that. Where it's not, it's not terrible, it's just, it's just fine.
Speaker 1:So it's really just the eggs like the exercise routine that you lose yourself in when you're sick.
Speaker 2:Which which then directly connects to what I decide to eat. Because I will always find that whenever I have a consistent schedule of exercise, I'm more inclined to make better choices, because I know that if I have to exercise the next day or that day, if I eat something that's really, you know, heavy, fatty, or something that's just going to be like sitting my stomach, fried food, fried food going out, anything like that I'm not going to feel well exercising. I'm going to feel like crap. So I want to avoid that. So I will pick something where I know I won't feel like crap and then so you know, it's the cycle and then you continue to feel better. So this was definitely the most amount of the most consistent I've seen. Kelly went into this hard. She went, you know, she went into it and she's seen her workout with Taylor.
Speaker 1:I'm like go girls, I love it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's super impressive. I mean so much so. Or I reflected on myself and was like wow, I'm a piece of shit. I'm just like I need to get myself off the couch and she's just crushing it Now.
Speaker 1:I'm looking at both of you going, wow, I'm a piece of shit.
Speaker 2:It's just a cycle of people going well, so in a good way it's, it's. It's always that wall. You hit though like wow, let me reflect on myself.
Speaker 2:And yeah, she, I just saw Kelly was just consistent, just so consistent and like really dedicated. And then I, over just four or five weeks, I watched her ability to handle stress change. I watched her just like overall demeanor, her just not that it was bad, but it's just like just in general, everything seemed more good, way that I'll use this word again steady. It's just like a steady feeling versus like crashy, like you know, really excited and really like oh man, this is like I'm so tired, just like so I'm going to. What do I do when I'm really tired or I'm exhausted from a day? I'm going to have a glass of wine or something because I deserve it at the end of the day.
Speaker 2:And you're not, you're not over, you're not quite crazy, and it's just. It's so easy to fall on this like daily habit and all of a sudden it's like one month a year, two years and especially, as my doctor put it, you know, when you're in your, when you're in your 30s, usually you're like you're cruising right, you're on like cruise control of life, or like you know you're working, you're generally, you know, a lot of people are relatively healthy and just kind of just going day to day and then that's. Those are the crucial years that you make your habits, that you really get into your habits that follow you into your 40s and 50s and 60s. I don't know, not to make it sound scary but, it's okay.
Speaker 2:So this is, this is it today, and yeah, so I jumped on board with this and it's no, it's not a crazy fad, it's just it's just literally tracking.
Speaker 2:The hardest part is tracking what you eat and you have to commit to it in the beginning, especially in the beginning. Just, the overall goal in my mind is eventually I'll I'll get really good at knowing what's what and then just kind of not have to track every single thing every single day, or I will, I don't know, but I'm going to go with later in life that the you know distractions and stuff that probably wouldn't happen as much, but at that point I would have built so many good habits that it would be okay to do that. So right now I do track everything that I eat, which I've done more multiple times. I just never stopped because I didn't have a coach to help me with it. So I was just read so having Taylor was a huge help Just gave me a full you know plan and said this is where you should stay within and is that tailored specifically to you.
Speaker 2:Ha, that's.
Speaker 1:I know, I know she's got it, she's got it right.
Speaker 2:Tailored nutrition, so it is. So, yeah, it's based on your age, weight, you know, male or female, all those things are slightly adjust where you are and where you are in that counter.
Speaker 1:So now she giving you like a workout thing too, or she strictly nutrition, and then you're. I think you said you run right.
Speaker 2:No, yeah, so I do a bunch of different things. So, okay, she gives there's guidance on fitness. So the actual exercise part it's, you know, at a minimum 10,000 steps a day, like that's where you should be, just just like a basic. I'm in trouble. It's actually. What's so funny is it sounds so ridiculous, but it adds up as you walk around during the day, just like in your house. And then if I, if I'm not doing a lot of walking for the most part of the day cause of them on my computer a lot, I mean it's like a 20 minute walk, 30 minute walk at the most, and if I cut out time that I'm looking at my phone from that, like it's an easy confined time, I can definitely do so it's a it's, and then all of a sudden you just look at it over a week and then a few weeks and so forth, I can tell you from just my diet change, which is there's nothing crazy, it's whole foods.
Speaker 2:I'm just eating like, not a lot of processed things. I'm eating more protein than not for my specific plan and there's, but there's still, you know, healthy carbs in there. Just, everyone's afraid of that word carbs, but it's just. You know it's like oats, beans, legumes, bread, whatever you know. Wherever. You can get the most of your foods from whole fruit, vegetables. It's pretty straightforward. And then you want to make the most of your calories, so you don't want to. You have something like really rich. You know you're wasting. You're getting calories but you're not getting the appropriate nutrients like protein and your carbs and your fats. You need all the Right, so you just Sorry.
Speaker 1:So do you have a schedule change with the diet too? Like, do you wear normal people? Normal people, no, there's no normal. But where people would usually eat breakfast, lunch, dinner, have you changed that to have like snacks in between where you're kind of grazing a little bit, or yeah?
Speaker 2:So okay, so for my specific plan. So part of all of this is just so instead of just like talking numbers and such actual like motivation to do this. June was one of the hardest months that I think I've ever encountered in my career and there's no direct particular reason other than I took on a lot of work. There was a lot of few stressors in there. It was the peak of, I'll say my, the busiest part of my schedule as far as weddings go this year. So it was June and October and all of that, combined with bad eating habits that were just habits from the months prior, just all came together and I was just having. I didn't really have an enormous amount. I have anxiety, just like a lot of people do, but based on the stressors of the day and so forth, but I was getting them noticeably more than I had I was just getting Like panic attacks or just anxiety in general.
Speaker 2:There was a few panic attacks in there that were all of it coming together and I was like I think if I overextended myself, this is too much. But I knew I wanted to do all the things. I felt good about it, but I just felt panic attacks without knowing why. And then what do you do? As I said to you, you're like this is when really bad habits start and you're like I need a beer. This is stressful and you think it's very innocent.
Speaker 1:No, but it's an escape. When you keep doing it, it's an escape.
Speaker 2:That's what you're looking at and what happens is you start feeling out of control Because you're really starting to depend on, depend on outside things substances, food to make you feel better, when really you're not attacking the underlying problem. And the underlying problem is A first of all, I've got to get those things in order and figure out a way to manage all of my jobs, but then, secondly, I'm not working at my peak performance for all of these things that I've added to my life, because I'm not giving my body the right fuel. I'm eating crap and it's spiking my sugar and making my sugar drop, and I don't even have diabetes. But you know those things are happening because you can feel it.
Speaker 2:And then I wake up and need five cups of coffee and then convince myself I need more coffee. And then you get the jitters and then that's all part of it.
Speaker 1:Well, it's funny because I do the same thing. The only it sounded like you, farted.
Speaker 2:I was just gonna say that's when I've been really awkward. All I did was move my chair. So it is on video. Oh no, you can see me literally move the chair.
Speaker 1:Woo, okay, Just in my headphones it definitely sounded like a full lot of fart.
Speaker 2:It's because I wasn't like a really deep, serious conversation.
Speaker 1:Those footy- Like we have someone interviewing on here, or something.
Speaker 1:No, that was hilarious. No, but it's funny how you say that, because I do the same thing and I have those panic attacks and, like you said, I'm not at my peak, but for me it's almost like I'm willing to let everything else in my life come after my work. You know what I'm saying my peak during those times where I'm really struggling. That goes to my clients and then the brunt of the panic attacks, the anxiety, the crying, the shitty eating, that all happens on my own time. So it doesn't necessarily affect my work, it affects my daily life, because I don't know about you, but when I walk into a wedding it's like I'm a robot. There's nothing else in my life matters.
Speaker 1:My phone is on an airplane, basically, and I just am like okay, just got to get through this day and in the best way possible, but then when I come home I absolutely crash. So I was going to ask you do you see a difference in your performance at weddings? In a physical sense, I know, mentally you give everything that you have. You're all there for every single wedding. You're not lacking. But in your body, do you feel better Even the day after? You know how normally we have wedding hangovers even though we didn't drink, but we're dehydrated and sore. Do you feel physically better? Or have you not had a wedding yet to see the difference?
Speaker 2:I've only assisted a wedding since I've taken on this new diet, and on top of that it was only a few days in.
Speaker 1:How much time have you been doing this so far?
Speaker 2:So it's interesting, there's kind of two parts to this. Kelly started it almost two months ago and we started we changed our whole, like dinner, like what we cook and everything. And it's nothing crazy. Like I said, it's literally just a highly focused on getting a lot of things that are natural. So it's just like fish, you know, chicken, whatever, but there's not a lot of. We're not using an enormous amount of oil. We're not doing these crazy heavy butter half and half recipes. It's just very particular with like a grain and a veggie. It's really one of those three that were rotating.
Speaker 1:Just clean eating yeah.
Speaker 2:It's very, it's very clean eating. I can definitely say that. So I wasn't eating the right portions, though. I was just having whatever we made. So because I had no, no, I had no baseline. So, okay, well, that was. We started that like almost two months ago, but for me particularly, it's only been about, I mean, a week and a half since I started this. So, oh, it's more minimal. Yeah, so for me, and my cutoff, yeah, yeah, this is not a three month project, we're talking so, but it's okay, because I can tell you how much better I feel after, say, 10 days, so 10 solid days of this, and then a wedding was in between that.
Speaker 1:And you were assisting the wedding, did you wake up sore the next day? I just had a wedding on Saturday and, dude, I woke up on Sunday like something's got to change because I do not like it. It wasn't even I had like a headache because I obviously was dehydrated. It was a really hot day and whatever. But the running around, the squatting, like I don't think people understand how much like a 10 hour day actually takes a toll on you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know. And so the next day I wake up and I'm just like I'm dead, like Chad he's like he's always like I didn't plan anything for today because I didn't know how you would be.
Speaker 2:That's actually kind of sad, but it's. I don't know if there's going to be any way to like avoid that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I. So there were some interesting variables where I didn't prepare correctly, as much so I was actually starving and at the wedding I was, my stomach is. Kelly was eating itself actively and I was like, oh my God, it's only 730.
Speaker 1:That's the worst feeling.
Speaker 2:But it's because I had I actually increased my calories, so then what I was eating, so I'm actually doing more portions during the day with more calories at the end of the day. And it hit me on that day that the day at that wedding, I was like, wow, I was like I feel like I ate a huge breakfast and still had stuff and I'm still starving. So the other variable would be the wedding was really late, so it was a 230 for me. I left at midnight and it was in Terry Terry town, new York, so two hours away roughly from Rocky Hill, and yeah, the next day I was dead. So but but this is the one thing I can say so far on this, because it is a pretty rapid change over just simply 10 days is a, just to just to try it.
Speaker 2:Over the past like month and a half, two months, our alcohol consumption has come dramatically down. We're way down. So we're, on average, probably one drink Kelly's, but Kelly's had, since Father's Day, I think, maybe two drinks. So yeah, which is that was June.
Speaker 1:Is she a wine girl? Kelly looks like a white wine, like Prosecco girl.
Speaker 2:She loves white wine and Prosecco, so you nailed it so we can do red wine. We love red wine and you know. But she's digging the mocktails. They're actually really good. That's the thing it's like mocktails are actually.
Speaker 1:So the thing about cocktails is like I don't even really care if they have alcohol in them, I don't care if I feel them or anything, it just feels kind of fun to like have a mocktail.
Speaker 2:Yep. So you know you're spot on and it's just so funny, it's a. I think you don't realize how much of a social thing it is until you pull, take a step back and then pull that whole concept out and you're like, oh, like, do I really like this? Do?
Speaker 2:I do, I drink like that's what it is, that's what it is yeah, so we, so I've I really pulled back to alongside during that, during that time period. So over the past two months, I've probably had, like, maybe, like we'll say, six, six drinks Over the past six, seven, eight weeks. It's really not, it's pretty good. Um, yeah, I compare, relatively speaking. Like I said, we weren't going crazy, but it was like a drink every other night, like just be yeah, sometimes. And then in the winter it was like a glass of wine every day which seems and could be completely harmless.
Speaker 1:Um, Well, I think for red wine, it's like supposed to be good for you, but I don't. They've I don't know, but outweighs the bad.
Speaker 2:I think that's it. So recently, this and this is all anybody listening, it was just opinion. You know it's that's definitely something you want to talk with your doctor with, but my doctor had told me that like yeah you know there's that the red wine daily is good for your heart and so forth, and yeah, there are health benefits. But they've recently even pulled back on that study and said like yeah, actually alcohol is, I mean, it is poison, like it's it's poison.
Speaker 1:So, and it literally is your, you know your.
Speaker 2:You are slowly damaging your liver, so it's a and that's your liver's job. But every day, though, that's the, that's the question every day, what does that do? And it's and unfortunately, it's all about genetics too. Like some people can handle it, some people are going to be. I mean, there was I just saw a video with a lady who was she looks like she's a hundred years old and she's being interviewed and it was going around YouTube and tic-tac and such, and they were asking her what's the secret to longevity? And she said she's had a Dr Pepper every day. Like, yeah, and have you seen?
Speaker 1:that one. I've seen that too, and I was like what?
Speaker 2:And she said her doctor said it was going to kill her and she was like you know what? They died before me.
Speaker 1:I was like my God, yeah, that's pretty crazy yeah.
Speaker 2:So genetics is part of it, absolutely, but as a general whole, you know it's, I can definitely all I can say, so I'll I'll step off the, the whatever it is the platform here talking about this.
Speaker 1:As a general, this is not a medical podcast. No, it is not.
Speaker 2:This is just so far what I can tell you how I feel, and it is steady, that is the word. I don't have any more crashes. I'm able to handle stress a little bit better.
Speaker 1:And panic attacks in the last week and a half.
Speaker 2:None, none, none, no. That's. That was not normal for me, and what did that look like for you when you had them?
Speaker 1:Like what did it? Was it abnormal for you to be getting that many panic attacks? And like what did that look like? Were you like shaky, sweaty, like kind of like just reeling in your own brain?
Speaker 2:Cause when I have panic attacks.
Speaker 1:I feel like my brain is like, oh my God, you're going to do me, oh my God. And it's just like telling me in my head and I'm like, am I okay? I like to feel all right.
Speaker 2:It's, it's scary. When I that's, it is, it's a little scary. I had it was like stress being buried so much, so fast, that I would instantly get a headache in the front part of my head and it would just it would just like explode. I was just sitting there and then it would just like I can just feel my whole everything just getting very uncomfortable very quick and it was like what is this? And it was just like I don't know how to make this go away. And it was just. It happened a few times in a very short period of time, like, let's just say, two weeks, happened like four times and it was like this isn't normal for me, this is not okay.
Speaker 1:So that sounds like my normal actually.
Speaker 2:Different levels, different levels, but it's for me. I'm generally a very, you know, tight be lose my coffee keys everywhere I go, just like so. For whatever your norm is, that's like, you know, when it jumps off the room it's scary because it was like why is this happening all of a sudden, and it was like, oh, so I need to take control. If there's anything I can take control of first, it's okay. I've got all of these different jobs, all of these different responsibilities have taken on. It's a lot of work, you know, and I haven't changed any of my habits from from before. So of course I'm going to be stressed out. I have to change something to to fit in all this stuff. So what's one thing that you know you can start with? Well, your diet and exercise, that's. We've proven, pretty proven that if you really focus in on those, you're going to feel better, or at least partially. So that's where I started and I feel great. So I probably will not stop, at least for now.
Speaker 1:So I'm glad for you, I'm happy for you, thank you.
Speaker 2:I'm happy for you and Kelly.
Speaker 1:I feel like, you know, I don't know a couple that can do that together is solid. You know me, chad works out. Like every night he's like you want to, you want to work out? I'm like, no, sorry, I'll be on the couch. But usually but usually it's because I'm like I'm editing well into the night, like I basically plant myself on the couch and I'm just working forever. So like when he asks me to take a break, usually I'm like sorry, I can't, you know, but I should. Yeah, I do, I should.
Speaker 2:So it's it. It's incredible how much it's. You know it's the runner's high, that's like a good way to describe it after you do a full exercise and sucks and then, but then you feel so much better.
Speaker 1:I've never had that either.
Speaker 2:I hear people talking about runner's runner.
Speaker 1:Have you ever had it?
Speaker 2:Put so much a like, a like, a runner's high where I'm like, oh my God, it's not this like proliferating like there it is. It's like that, it's just more over after I'm done with the run and I've cooled off and my face is not like a cherry anymore. Um, I you know.
Speaker 1:I feel so funny that happens to you, because it happens to me too.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:I've heard that the runner's high isn't really like a high at all, but it's like when you get to a point in your run where you are Like it's almost like it doesn't hurt anymore, you just keep going and. I've never had that.
Speaker 2:It doesn't happen to me every time, but sometimes usually about for me it's like a half mile and it's like in my warm-up, still like I'm half mile in. And if I'm listening to music and a good song comes on, it's just like, just like I'm, I'm, I'm still warming up and they're like you need to, you know, get get there a little slower. And I'm like, nope, I'm ready now, and then I can just, you know, I got a burst of energy. That's that would be the closest I've had to that. I would love to know other people that share that or about any other description of a runner's high. Maybe that's a question Do you have a runner's high? That's what we should be putting out there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I also think that maybe I'm doing it to myself Well, because when I run I don't like running on the treadmill, I just don't. I feel like it's boring. But then when I run outside and I have like music in my headphones, I feel like I can never turn it up fully because I'm a woman and I'm afraid I'm going to get snatched, so like you know, it's like I have to be aware of my surroundings so I can never just like.
Speaker 2:You are in those woods.
Speaker 1:You are, yeah, yeah, no, but even in like even in, like cities and stuff like that happens to you know, so it's. I don't know. It's just kind of scary because I feel like I just need to be aware of my surroundings at all times so like to let myself just like fully get like deeply immersed into my run, like I know.
Speaker 2:I feel like I'm so paranoid. And that's like one of my favorite things too when it comes to exercise Like I love. I love running with no purpose, just like some music on and it's. I don't need to do full sprints or anything, I just do a light jog.
Speaker 1:Can you hold on one second? My mom is calling One second.
Speaker 2:I love this. Oh, I can do this too. I can work.
Speaker 1:Hi, mom, you're on my podcast right now.
Speaker 2:I'm on your what.
Speaker 1:My podcast. Can I call you back? Yeah, okay, love you. She didn't even say bye, she was like nope.
Speaker 2:I'm out of here. She was like, yeah, all the podcasts. That was funny.
Speaker 1:I thought she was going to do something funny, but she was just like, okay, bye, without even saying goodbye. Yeah, no, we should definitely figure out what, like, the actual definition of a runner's high is, because I've always I've envied the people who could do that and get to that point of like, okay, I've been running, and now it doesn't hurt anymore, because when I run, boy does it hurt like constantly.
Speaker 2:So let's see. Well, we don't even have to wait, let's just see. Let's just see what health line says. A runner's high is a brief, deeply relaxing state of euphoria. In this case it occurs after intense or lengthy exercise. They report feeling less anxiety and pain immediately after the run. See, I don't really get it. I don't know if I get it after the run. I just, I mean, I, like I said, after I come down from the run and like maybe even after my shower, like I feel so much better.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you just feel good to know that you did something Like you just feel, no, I actually really do feel better, like I physically, like I physically am like, wow, I feel great.
Speaker 2:Maybe that's it, I don't know.
Speaker 1:Hmm, well, if anybody knows like let us know, I guess. Let us know, this is not a medical podcast, so can we talk about? Can we talk about the?
Speaker 2:cover of our podcast via Albu Mark.
Speaker 1:Work.
Speaker 2:It's just going to be the simple.
Speaker 1:We're going to have stethoscopes around our necks. Can we talk about something that's been bothering me?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we can, let's chat. That's what we're here for.
Speaker 1:Okay. So I made this video the other day. That was just like googly eyes of my plants. It was Halloween stuff and I'm starting my Halloween DIYs because I'm excited for it, and maybe it's just me escaping my issues and hyper-focusing on Halloween, but that's what I'm doing currently. So I posted that video and I posted it on my Instagram and my TikTok and then which, like I don't TikTok, I don't know anything about TikTok, I just, when I make a video, I just put it on both platforms. See where it goes. That one ended up taking off to the point where, like, more people started to go to my profile and they saw this video of me bringing cricket into my house. You've seen it? I have.
Speaker 1:Okay, people are so goddamn mean, like, they're so rude, like most of the comments. Most of the comments were really nice. Most of the comments were like oh my God, your dog is the dog from up. You can't prove it. Like you can't tell me otherwise. You know. Most of them were like, really like, I love this video. And then you have these people coming out of the woodworks to be like, wow, what a piece of shit for introducing her cat that way to her dog. Like how traumatic for the kitten and whatever. And I'm like, oh well, sorry, like I was just like I don't know. I tried to explain like in a few comments, like well, cricket came from a house with big dogs and Nelly is so gentle with gremlin, like yeah, she was excited, you know.
Speaker 2:Like I even had somebody like comment on it and was like I love Goldens and all, but this Golden is seriously lacking training which, like All, right, so, okay, yeah, the this is always a fun topic and the internet and social media, which we have talked about just not you and me, but just like in general, how many conversations has the word social media come up with is just such a gross place, sometimes full of the individuals that hide behind their keyboard and love to just share their excuse, my language, the fucking opinion, and can make other people they don't realize what they can do to other people by saying that, because there are real people on the other side of your comments. So, yeah, and I just the first thing I always think to myself is wow, like you took the time to take a second and actually respond with something incredibly negative towards somebody else's video Like how miserable are you.
Speaker 2:I think that's, yeah, that's I. Just. You have nothing else going on, and that's number one, that's just, that's fine. But there are people who love to troll as well. No, they say terrible things and that's I mean. That's a known thing. But regardless, regardless, if and you and I have talked about this If anytime you put anything out in public, there's going to be people who are going to just share their negativity and place it onto you because of their A own insecurities and B they're just not nice people. Yeah, there's that too. So, and the good news is, if you are putting content out to the world and hey, it's not First of all, I love your video is just simply you introducing your cat to your dog, which is in your home, and it's Like Again, I Sorry, I didn't do it the way you wanted me to.
Speaker 1:Nobody has any other context.
Speaker 2:Well, that's the thing. Everybody thinks. They have such a strong opinion and their way is the right way. So, instead of just trying to understand that, hey, it doesn't matter what you say because you're hiding behind a keyboard, if you're the person putting out the content in case you're in Brooke and it's getting that much attention and it's going we'll say, quote, unquote, viral then that's great and you just have to know that the more.
Speaker 2:When you start getting negative comments like that, what that means is you're just hitting. You're hitting a lot of people where I think I described it in the dice example, where if you roll, if you don't want a one on a dice, and you're rolling it 200,000 times, you're going to get a lot of ones. Yeah, you're going to get a lot of ones. And if you only focus on the ones, you're going to be like, wow, that sucks, I got that. Did you see how many ones I got in those 200,000 rolls? And it's like well, yeah, you rolled the dice 200,000 times. There's only so many options. It's kind of like people out there. There's only so many nice people that are willing to share some good comments and realize that it's just a friendly home video of you with your dog and your new kitten, instead of just blasting you with just terrible things to say.
Speaker 1:I could understand if somebody commented on it and was like, oh my God, this is so cute, but maybe if you don't know that your dog's temperament is like this or something like that, you might want to introduce them a different way. I get it. I don't know, and not everybody does everything the right way. It just made me feel so weird, to the point where I'm having companies reach out to me trying to license that video so that they could sell it to other companies and stuff, and I'm like, but the more people who watch it, it just makes me feel like I've gotten enough comments telling me that I'm such an irresponsible piece of shit for introducing them that way and I didn't even do anything.
Speaker 2:I literally brought her in Also. You're never going to meet these people. You're never going to meet these people. What are they going to do?
Speaker 1:But it just makes me feel so I get it. I get it.
Speaker 2:You're never going to please everybody, no matter what you post. It doesn't matter what content you post. I've seen the endless videos online of like I'm going to post. Here's my bottle of my water bottle. Here's a bottle. Here's a photo of my water bottle on this desk. Tell me, I'll just wait for a million comments and see why I'm a piece of shit because I did this. Yeah, so it's going to happen. It's going to happen. That's it. That's the world we live in. So the easier that you can kind of just I don't even know, I'm not saying words the easier.
Speaker 1:The easier way to do that.
Speaker 2:Yes, thank you. The easier way to handle this would be to just know that if you're putting stuff out there, it's going to happen, yeah, and just have an auto response, or an auto response but a message at the top, like Parker here, because I don't like a disclaimer.
Speaker 1:No, it's okay, Like a disclaimer, you know. Like it's like at the very time, you know I wish so. I didn't even know, like this is how little I knew about tiktok. Okay, like my Thing. I don't even know what viral means, but like it's, it's popping off, okay, and I like I don't know anything about anything. So when those messages were coming through at first I was like I Don't even know how to delete these comments. I literally don't know anything. So I was trying to figure it out and I'm like, okay, there's just like comment after comment on how I'm such a piece of shit. And then like, but like it's so stupid Because right next to it I have a video of them snuggling. And I'm like, okay, can you just just look at the rest and I get it Like you might not want to introduce a kitten to I don't know a ratwiler or a German shepherd or a bigger breed, just a bigger breed in general.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying because they're mean or whatever, just a bigger breed. Even a golden retriever. Who's never seen a kitten, right? Who's never seen a cat? Look at my other videos, like Nelly, since she was a puppy, has I don't know. I mean, I'm just going on a rant here, but it's just like Just keep your shit to yourself, like who cares, you know. And then it got me into this whole like we were talking a little bit about the imposter syndrome before we started today and this isn't really like imposter syndrome, but it's more the thing of like Well, why would anybody want to put out content like that? Like at all, this is like the cutest video Literally ever. It's like it's like A golden retriever meeting a kitten and being so excited and like that's being neck, like, met with negativity, like I would have never thought. I would have never thought so. Now I'm just like it's making me almost like everything that I post. I'm like should I even do that? You know, I don't know.
Speaker 2:I Understand, understand that thought process of you. Know now you're gonna question every single thing that you pose with your animals because, but it, if it gets to that point, then maybe it's time for a break. If you're like I, the stress is too much, maybe just pull back from posting content for like a couple weeks. Yeah, you know, let just sit on that for a moment or Really dive into the fact that that was just a video that really went. You know, took off. So you're gonna have the negative comments most of the time. Videos don't just go viral, even for the biggest accounts in the world. They don't just go by, you know, they're gonna hit their fan base. So, yeah, you're gonna hit your fans with that, people that love to see you share your dog, cats and Quick.
Speaker 1:Yet I've gotten a lot of positive ones, like I don't want to. You know, it's just like every once in a while it's like Like someone commented on it was like this is the perfect video to show you what not to do. It was like, oh my god, every time I had one of those come in, I was just like, oh, I'm such a piece of shit, like you know.
Speaker 2:But After a while.
Speaker 1:I feel like you know people going to my profile and actually following me and seeing, like the friendship that Nellie and Cricket have, I think they understood more. Like I don't know, I was also holding her and protecting her.
Speaker 2:It's not like I just like opened the bag and was like cricket jump out, like Nobody had any context other than and they go hold different Conversation on that if you don't have a lot of context with just short snippet videos, then you can make all these assumptions and that's a whole problem in on itself.
Speaker 2:But yeah, you'd, if you're gonna put that content, you just have to know that that's a risk and once you start really Understanding that there's gonna be people like that always, you just kind of shake it off yeah, just move on. And also these people, even with you know, comments of like you know that most people were fine with that, but even at the end of the day, you know who, who are these people and like, does it matter? Yeah, like you know it doesn't mean the negative comments, like it really you're not gonna see them. You're not gonna see them and that's Unless. Unless you're building like a really tight community that you're, you're trying to foster, then being, you know, getting affected by the negative comments is just it's tough. I know it's tough because I know it's easier said than done. Just to me tell you, you know it's it's, it's not a big deal, but when you're constantly reading those comments, it's, it is.
Speaker 1:I'm something that's so fucking stressful. Well, like and and like, I think I'm just used to like you know, we take pretty pictures, we post pretty pictures of weddings and whatever, and you would have to be like the biggest dick in the world to be like, oh my god, look at that bride, you know, and like make negative comments. So like that generally doesn't happen. When I post like my Actual work, it's like it's kind of weird. Like when I was in my early 20s, I used to be like, oh yeah, like if I, just, if I just have like one thing go viral, maybe I'll be like a worldwide photographer and whatever. And then, as it started to like you know, my stuff started to like gain traction, I'd like kind of pulled back and was like no, that doesn't actually sound like it would be like good for me.
Speaker 1:For Me, the one who has four anxiety attacks a week that doesn't sound like it would be in my best interest. And now I post the literally the cutest video in the world and I'm getting this like hate and I'm just like, have you ever had like I Don't even really want to say like haters? Like I don't even think that's what it is. I think it's literally just people trying to like educate other people on like, yeah, you shouldn't do this with a kitten and a dog I Guess this is situational. But like, have you ever had like comments, like Public comments, on your stuff, where you're like, ooh, I don't really know if I want that to like live there?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm trying to think of a good example. And we got called out for one of the Lens and Light workshops in one of the comments and someone made a sarcastic, sarcastic comment that we weren't diverse enough.
Speaker 1:Oh, really yeah.
Speaker 2:So, and it wasn't even a this was the first. Again, this is the. No one has any context. That was the first time I had put something together like that, so it was just a collaboration of photographers that had a specific skill set that I met with and Felt that they would be good instructors. Yeah there was no, there was no malicious intent in there. But when you read only the comment yeah, and you look at what I was Advertising, it could look bad. Right, but what did you do, did you?
Speaker 1:delete it.
Speaker 2:No, I just commented back and just said you know, come, come check it out for yourself, something like that. I don't know, I don't even remember what I said. I don't remember what I said, but I just it irked me for obviously a second, then I got nervous and then it was like oh, another good thing to remember too is that People's attention spans are really short, like really short, and we are shown with so much content every day, like an infathomable amounts of content that right.
Speaker 2:No one will harp on a single topic for that long anyway. No.
Speaker 1:No, and the people who commented on like the video negatively like I could tell it was like they Like it came up on their for you page, they watched it. They were like, oh fuck this girl, they've left a comment. And then they just kept scrolling because even when I commented back like oh no, it's okay. You know, I figured that it was alright in this specific situation, because she came from a house with big dogs and whatever they never said anything back, they never replied or anything. So it's just like they just wanted to leave the video and I just wanted to leave it and I just wanted to leave it and they just wanted to leave the negativity and then, like, keep moving with their day and like in my brain it was like, oh, but this is gonna live here for a little bit.
Speaker 2:You know yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't know that's tough.
Speaker 2:It's annoying that that there's so much. There's so much negativity with what social media could be and how much it can affect an individual person, but this is just a great lesson and what you write actually does matter. So yeah it's. It's a good idea to. We get lost in the virtual world.
Speaker 1:People get lost doesn't it feel so weird? It feel like even us just like doing this and looking at a computer and like talking.
Speaker 1:Overweigh forever yeah because we realized that we could do this and it actually sounded better doing this than when we were in person. So, like why would we meet, you know? But like it's just like that, that social interaction piece, that like Like who I don't know? I just I'm just like annoyed because it's like who Is literally whatever, whatever, it doesn't matter anyway, people are so negative. It's just it's. And it's funny because, like, I generally tend to lean on like the pessimistic side and so like posting like a cute video and then like seeing the comments and being like what the fuck? You know, I'm just trying to bring joy here.
Speaker 2:Like are you? Serious, you know yeah, yeah, that's so. It's a good reminder. Oh, it's what you, yeah, which is like I If you are in a business and you're posting stuff and or you're working towards a goal and you start getting negative comments, it means that you are starting to reach the people, that's that was what I was told so and that was really good advice Well.
Speaker 1:I think I would.
Speaker 2:You are only getting Positive comments. Maybe you're not pushing hard enough, which sounds silly, because no one wants negative comments, but it means you're. You're getting yourself out there, just which is a good thing.
Speaker 1:It is good, it's just scary. I know, just scary, but anyway, I have a DIY one that's going viral that has no negative comments besides like oh, you could have made these glow in the dark. Which is like, yeah, my mom told me that too, thank you. You know what is it? It's the googly-eyed one.
Speaker 2:Oh is it?
Speaker 1:Yes, it's going nuts and I actually just did a like a floating candle DIY. So your recommendation of like taking a break for a little bit I probably won't do that, but Cuz it's like, it's like popping off on Instagram take advantage of it. I know, I know I'm trying to sit through the discomfort, but like I'm not gonna lie, every once in a while I like look through the comments, I'm like, oh, are people talking shit?
Speaker 2:you know but now I know how to lead it, so I just delete them.
Speaker 1:I'm like deleted you know, yeah, I don't really have anything else today. I just have been kind of, I Guess, since that I'm like trying to up my confidence within my social media presence because I just Like even talking to these licensing companies and stuff I was just saying to my best friend she was like, yeah, the thing is, is like you being so concerned about the negative comments Like I personally wouldn't do it because I feel like it's just gonna eat at you, you know? Yeah, so I don't really know. And do you know anything about licensing a video? I posted an Instagram yesterday. Nobody responded. I'm like I need to know if I, how do I do this?
Speaker 2:Licensing a video.
Speaker 1:Yeah like they want to license my video, for a Few companies reached out to me and they want to license my video for 50% of any proceeds made from that video. Which like fine, because I'm not making any money on it otherwise. But at the same time I'm basically signing away my rights to the video, like I still own it, but they own the rights to be able to sell it and distribute it.
Speaker 2:And I need to talk to a. It sounds like you need to talk to a professional. Oh, I know it's the worst, because if you're actually concerned, then no one's gonna be able to answer that better than a lawyer.
Speaker 1:So yeah, listen, I went to the reddit lawyers and I was looking at what they said and they said don't do it. So yeah, I don't know, do you? Have anything else this is like a super short episode it is.
Speaker 2:It's a very short episode. Um, I Really I'm gonna put a little marker here, so we just take a sec. I Didn't realize this button. By the way, this mark flip button is very helpful because Search through. So I don't know if you have that on your screen, I Don't have.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, mark clip.
Speaker 2:Yep, so if you click that, it just makes a mark, so that I. Can look back and see that's where we're like I cut. So I clicked that right when your mom was on the phone, just in case we were Keep it she's like oh bye peace. Yeah, I don't other than that. I mean haters on the internet, that's. I think we got it covered. That was that's. That's pretty much it. Yeah, that's okay. Um, it's okay to have a short episode, because we have today's that'll go and then this will go the next week.
Speaker 1:So Okay, yeah, I don't really have anything else.
Speaker 2:I don't either. Maybe it's part of August. August is a very like.
Speaker 1:August is like a slow, hazy month.
Speaker 2:It's a great way to describe it slow, easy, yeah, it's like in the middle.
Speaker 1:It's like towards the end of this, the summer, but I feel like September really ramps up because people get excited for fall, but August is just kind of sleepy. You know, it's kind of how I feel right now.
Speaker 2:So I know I told you about my energy level has been like steady, but it doesn't mean that I still don't get.
Speaker 1:I'm like so you're still gonna fall asleep on the other end of the computer?
Speaker 2:the other than the computer. I mean, this is the wrong thing, oh.
Speaker 1:Your phone. That's a couch hey, look at you.
Speaker 2:So if I sit right there that's a very dangerous, because the Sun 2 light comes through just a little bit right there.
Speaker 1:It's just a nice warm nap.
Speaker 2:Oh, and the best is in this spot, right here, february, because right now, because right there's there's a building out the windows right now it's huge high windows in December, in January the Sun stays behind the building, unfortunately, so it's pretty like it's not dark in here, but it's not bright light, right. And then February, when the Sun just gets high enough, it starts peeking over that building and it's like midwinter cold. You're tired and it's like windows, it's like it's really so warm. I've joked and said I'm gonna get a lawn chair and just park up right here and just like start my tan. I think you could. It feels like you could because it's just it's so warm, but right now it can be almost hot. Ac is cranking here, so well.
Speaker 1:Anyway, I don't know what else to say. Wow, I have, I've started up my Halloween DIYs. So if you want to look at those, you can look at. I am Brooke Brady on Instagram and tiktok. I am really, really, really getting into the Halloween spirit this year. I just posted one about floating candles. I have my googly eyes. I have a lot of DIYs prepped and prepared and I'm excited to share. So I am Brooke Brady on Instagram and tiktok.
Speaker 2:Perfect.
Speaker 1:You got anything you want to promote?
Speaker 2:No, I'm not, you know.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna leave this one all on you today's your Usually it's like, and I'm like it is yeah, yeah no, we got yours, we got, we got to talk about your DIYs.
Speaker 2:So your question, that game.
Speaker 1:I'm just hoping the Dollar Tree is gonna sponsor me one day.
Speaker 2:You never, never seen, you know, never say never.
Speaker 1:I'm doing like daily trips of the Dollar Tree. Yeah, you should, they should be supporting you.
Speaker 2:you're supporting them, so true, true, that, alright.
Speaker 1:Well, I guess I will talk to you Next week sounds good.
Speaker 2:We'll be recording sweet Bye, bye.