Ever wondered what makes fatherhood such a rollercoaster of emotions? Join us, Kenny Cotman, Lewis Crawford, and Tom Ramage (the Jersey Guy), as we embark on the very first episode of our podcast, kicking off with some heartfelt congratulations to Kenny’s sister Kendra on her engagement. We bare our souls about the joys and trials of being dads. With Lewis beaming about his grown children’s accomplishments and Tom sharing the pure bliss of Star Wars marathons and swimming lessons with his little one, this episode is a cozy fireside chat about the essence of fatherhood.
Remember the times when a simple hike or building Legos together felt like the best bonding moments with your kids? We dive into how these activities evolve as children grow, and how the humor, open conversations, and shared experiences shape their adulthood. Personal stories reveal the life lessons and support we pour into our children, emphasizing the transformative power of overcoming conflicts and the unique dynamics of parenting, whether full-time or part-time. This chapter is a testament to the enduring love and connection that define parenthood.
Ever chuckled at a classic dad joke or pondered the origins of Father's Day? We take a humorous yet insightful journey through the history of this special day, starting with Sonora Smart Dodd's tribute to her Civil War veteran father and its official recognition in 1972. We share our musings on how Father's Day stacks up against other holidays, the importance of quality time over gifts, and the simple joys of family traditions. With stories that range from nostalgic memories to the quirks of parenting styles, we wrap up with Father's Day wishes and a light-hearted farewell, setting the stage for more engaging conversations in episodes to come.
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Ever wondered what makes fatherhood such a rollercoaster of emotions? Join us, Kenny Cotman, Lewis Crawford, and Tom Ramage (the Jersey Guy), as we embark on the very first episode of our podcast, kicking off with some heartfelt congratulations to Kenny’s sister Kendra on her engagement. We bare our souls about the joys and trials of being dads. With Lewis beaming about his grown children’s accomplishments and Tom sharing the pure bliss of Star Wars marathons and swimming lessons with his little one, this episode is a cozy fireside chat about the essence of fatherhood.
Remember the times when a simple hike or building Legos together felt like the best bonding moments with your kids? We dive into how these activities evolve as children grow, and how the humor, open conversations, and shared experiences shape their adulthood. Personal stories reveal the life lessons and support we pour into our children, emphasizing the transformative power of overcoming conflicts and the unique dynamics of parenting, whether full-time or part-time. This chapter is a testament to the enduring love and connection that define parenthood.
Ever chuckled at a classic dad joke or pondered the origins of Father's Day? We take a humorous yet insightful journey through the history of this special day, starting with Sonora Smart Dodd's tribute to her Civil War veteran father and its official recognition in 1972. We share our musings on how Father's Day stacks up against other holidays, the importance of quality time over gifts, and the simple joys of family traditions. With stories that range from nostalgic memories to the quirks of parenting styles, we wrap up with Father's Day wishes and a light-hearted farewell, setting the stage for more engaging conversations in episodes to come.
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Speaker 2:Hey everybody, kenny Cotman, lewis Crawford.
Speaker 1:And I'm Tom Ramage, the Jersey Guy.
Speaker 2:Yo, what is going on my peoples? So first time recording Gonna be up now YouTube.
Speaker 1:If you're watching us on the video. We changed our setup a little bit. We got a nice couch.
Speaker 2:Try to make it easier for everybody to see us. Yeah, hopefully, man, I'm hoping that this comes out pretty spiffy.
Speaker 3:We'll see what happens, yeah, yeah. Yeah, listen, it's trial and error, people, so We'll figure it out eventually, yeah, so.
Speaker 2:This is part one. All over again, us trying to figure it out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah. That video adds a whole new layer to everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it does.
Speaker 3:Hell yeah, it does change the dynamic a little bit, a lot of it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, a lot of it For sure. So real quick, I just want to give a quick shout out before we we start, to my sister, kendra. She's uh, she and dave got engaged be married next year. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Thank you, dave, and also my sympathy. Yeah, she's gonna be like you motherfuckers, like just kidding no, he's not. No, he's not, but yeah, all right. So today's episode is about fathers. Yeah, dads for father's day, so happy Father's.
Speaker 3:Day to you guys.
Speaker 1:It's coming up and to all the dads listening yeah. If you're listening, it'll be Wednesday, so it'll add past yeah, so Right right, right.
Speaker 2:So it'll be a little late for us, but still, it's good.
Speaker 1:It's good so, yeah. So I think it would be a good topic, because we're all fathers, kids are at this different stage of life. Louis, your kids are older, your kids are older but younger.
Speaker 2:They're in their mid-20s. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then I got a little six-year-old, soon to be seven, you have a little tyke.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly that is great.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we are different, and that's what's good about it, because we're all at different stages of life. Right, we all have we're different stages of life, you know right, and we can all in some way or another kind of identify with each other yeah you still have to catch up to us oh yeah, oh yeah we're ahead of you. As far as that's not, that's a bad thing, but we can help you out when that shit comes around.
Speaker 2:For sure, just make sure you give us a call be like yo, bro, this is what you.
Speaker 1:A lot of my parenting has been seeing other parents and going. I'm not doing that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like, don't do the mommy dearest thing, no more, no more, no more. You don't want to do none of that, none of that kind of stuff, man. No, but you know, I tell you, for me, you know, being a dad, being a father, yeah, yeah, like, I guess we'll say the, the, the goal and goal, what made me makes me happy, is that my kids were able to, you know, just survive. Yeah, you know, they live on their own, they, you know. One is married, andrew my youngest. He's married um samantha's and samantha, samantha, samantha's in the military. Jason is, uh, is, a licensed electrician. You know what I'm saying. So it's like I did it right. Maggie, my youngest, she's still in school, in college, but you know still that she's figuring it out. Yeah, she's figuring it out. So you know, at least they. You know I make the joke because of Big Daddy. The Adam Sandler flick says you know I can wipe my own ass, you know. So, so, exactly, so you know that's where I'm at with it.
Speaker 1:I had him saying that shit, and then he would say after me too yeah, that's the freaking greatest shit ever man for sure yeah, but guys, so what you knew?
Speaker 2:what's well, actually, tom, first, because this was you know, this was your idea, so good idea, by the way.
Speaker 3:Yeah, this is a good one, yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So then, what is your favorite thing about being a dad?
Speaker 1:and you know your whole outlook uh, you know, I, you, I mean there's different layers to it, right? So like one layer is like you know me and him, we, we have fun together. You know I get to enjoy some childhood stuff. We, you know we play together together. We were, you know he's into the same stuff, we're both in the star wars now.
Speaker 1:It's a lot of fun you know, yeah and uh and, and just like teaching him you know, and then you know, knowing that, like I'm hoping, like the lessons I teach him, as you know, a father, now that as he'll get older, you know he'll learn some wisdom from me.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean yeah, yeah, definitely, yeah, definitely, bro, that's the idea. That's kind of cool.
Speaker 1:It's cool being, you know, just doing the whole dad thing, yeah, yeah, yeah. Being there for all his things, going to his. You know, like on the nights we're not recording, on the Friday nights we're not recording. We go to his swimming lessons. He was doing sports for a while he, his swimming lessons.
Speaker 2:You know he was doing sports for a while he kind of he's not a sports guy, he's like me, he is, he's doing swimming, that's a sport. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I mean like yeah, not the football, not the baseball.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's a great, but that's a great body, sport right.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, full body cardio, everything.
Speaker 3:It's just cool. So that'll be his thing. That's all you might start doing. When he goes to high school He'll start doing you know he'll be in the what are they?
Speaker 2:Tournament of races. He just kicked him straight through Junior high school. He said shit high school, high school he's gonna get a fucking scholarship. Yeah, that's what he, and today was actually His last day of school. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, oh my god and. Tara's. She's on the PTA.
Speaker 2:She's on the PTA board now. My mom was on it.
Speaker 1:She's like the corresponding secretary.
Speaker 2:My mom was on the PTA.
Speaker 1:You know, congratulations to Tara.
Speaker 2:She just became.
Speaker 1:You know she's a corresponding secretary.
Speaker 2:Nice Congrats, that's sweet. Pta board. Yeah, really yeah yeah, yeah. That's good, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Are you the PTA dad? The fees, but I yeah yeah, you don't go to the meetings like the one at the beginning of the year and I went to the one where she got sworn in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's probably better that way. It'd be like a lifetime channel movie.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, he's the dad on the pta yeah, yeah well, you know it's funny, one of the one of my friends um one of the parents. He, he works, uh, he works for the. You know, one of the the this I'm trying to word it without saying yeah At my job the company that we service he's at the job site that I go to. He's also, you know, his kid and my son are in the same school Okay nice. You know, it's cool, you know, we saw him today, you know, but he's a class dad with his wife, so it's kind of cool yeah.
Speaker 3:It's nice. It's nice when my parents are involved like that with their children. You know it's, you know it's good, right, right, seriously. I mean, my mother was in the pta growing up. She was always involved in something in my more in um, you know, grammar school and and tara coached basketball and she coaches basketball. Wow, I didn't know she liked basketball, that's crazy.
Speaker 2:Well, now for you then, what is your favorite thing? Or, or I don't know. I liked basketball, dude, that's great.
Speaker 3:Well, now for you then what is your favorite thing? I don't know. I think there's a lot of things for me. I think all of it really, when you think about it, because at each stage there's always something that happens they're growing, they're learning and they're getting to the next stage. Every stage has something that's your favorite, and then, of course, you have other stuff too. What goes with it. But when they're young adults now they're doing good, and my son's going to have another baby, so I'm a granddad.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm saying. I was going to say you're a granddad now, so you got to experience that too.
Speaker 3:So that's a whole other layer, which is a lot better than being a dad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3:I don't mean that in a bad way, no, grandparents it's different when you're a grandparent Right you kind of because, depending on how you were brought up, you're still that better than you would have been before your own kids, because now you know everything. You're not that you know everything, but you kind of you know how to approach this because you didn't the first time or the second time depending on how many you had.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I think, I think it's, it's all interesting, for sure, you know well, I think the grandparent thing would just be groovy, because you could teach him or her how to be the uh, you know, do the annoying shit to the parents yo yeah because everybody almost.
Speaker 2:Well, you haven't probably said it yet. You know, don't worry, when you grow up and you have your kids, you'll see what I'm talking about. You know, I hope your kids do this to you. Well, that's my mom used to say, that you know, and yeah. So then now it's going to be one of those things says, yeah, I going to teach the grandkids to do all the shit that you did to me, your little bad shits, I mean, you know all the good, funny stuff.
Speaker 3:Right, right right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I used to have my kids with their mom. We'd be in the store and I would have them fake farting and then, mom, you're so nasty and I'm like laughing at the other side of the aisle, yeah, yeah yeah that was the good stuff you know? Yeah, it was funny. Man, what is your? What are your favorite moments so far? Because what Chase is? How old?
Speaker 1:10 he is.
Speaker 2:I have to think about that he's gonna be 7, 7, he's gonna be 7. Yeah, for real, you took him out of high school.
Speaker 1:I mean 7, though wow, he turned 7 in a few couple weeks wow, happy birthday.
Speaker 2:A couple of weeks Wow, happy birthday, belated birthday, yeah. So then now, so far, what's your favorite thing? Or I guess we'll say, like, what's your favorite activity that you guys have together Activity?
Speaker 1:I have to think about that. Well, we do a lot of stuff together. You know, it's funny because he's like me, he's I don't know, I don't know if he he's like me. He gets into things and then he's like, moves on to another thing Right.
Speaker 2:So like we're into stuff together, like we were hiking, together and then he got sick of hiking.
Speaker 1:I'm like all right.
Speaker 2:So he's doing Legos. We build Legos together.
Speaker 1:You know he's doing gardening with me now, right.
Speaker 3:You know, we do Spanish.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, dabble in a couple things and then move on to another thing. That's what I like doing. It's one of those things. Like you know, that's just the way he is.
Speaker 2:Well, what about the Halloween stuff, the Roblox stuff?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, we do that together.
Speaker 2:Is that something that he looks like he's going to stay really getting into? Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. He said he has a YouTube channel too, right?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, he was doing it for a while.
Speaker 2:It kind of fizzled out, he might get back on again, he's like I'm going to make a video and then we never know.
Speaker 2:I'm good. I don't want to do that. I'm tired. Today, my favorite thing with my children is literally everything that they do right now the jokes. I'm the fucking funny guy, so I love all the dumb shit. We talk to each other. You know what I mean. It's just, it's hilarious because it's them being able to just relax. You know, and we're just, we all bug out, we talk shit to each other, oh my god they're adults, so that then you know they get the jokes you know.
Speaker 2:And yeah, we're just we, we all are the funniest people we know. You know what I mean I love.
Speaker 3:I love doing that with my kids too, as well and we always did it, and movies was a big thing for us music, yep um, but see being silly and just singing together in the car right, yeah, we always did that, you know that was always great. Um, it was just good being there now. I was see I was a part-time dad, though because, I only had them on the weekends.
Speaker 3:I only had. I was only with jen and rob. Jen for two years, rob was about maybe six months so and then I we were separated, so then it started where I was having them on the weekends. I did that for a long time, actually, until they graduated high school, went to college and then my son eventually came to live with me when he went to college and, um, which was great to have him there and that helped my relationship with him as well when he came to live with me. So that's something special that I remember.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I remember, because we had a big blowout Right right, right, right, and it was because of me. I was an idiot.
Speaker 2:You heard that, Rob. You heard that he admitted it on record.
Speaker 3:Yes, but at the same time it, yeah, made us closer right sometimes that happens and we never done that with each other, ever again, and I I hope that we never do it, because we we know how to bring certain things up and talk to one another without having to get the other one upset right, you know what I mean. So like you said, the relationship with them starts to change because they're adults now and you know it's, it's different right, it's different conversation with them and, yeah, it's a different.
Speaker 2:The conversations are way different. Yeah, you know, it's not like you're sitting there trying to have the birds and the bees conversation yeah, you know what I mean or sitting there, so you know, right now mom doesn't like when you do this is like well, you know, you shouldn't have fucked that up like. You know better than that.
Speaker 3:You know I taught you better you could be blunt with them now and they won't get upset, or right?
Speaker 2:yeah, because now, they know you, they understand who you are, the person.
Speaker 3:Can I just give you, can I?
Speaker 2:say something. Don't take this the wrong way, but yeah this is my observation, and well, see, you say it a little nicer, actual whatever. Oh, yeah, no no, I just say, I'm like yo listen yeah, uh, this is what the fuck it is.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I lead up to that. Yeah, I start off nice and then I do the yeah, no, no, no.
Speaker 2:I say I say in nice, I say that's the one thing too I will say for all the parents and whatnot. It's always how you say shit right, okay, so that then you can yell and scream all you want but at the same time, if you use a monotone voice, just stay.
Speaker 2:You know, tom, that's not a good. I fucking dare take your ass back in your room and let's rethink this shit, because you, that's not gonna fucking happen. You know, if you turn around, say thomas, I said no, they'll let you like. You know what I mean, yeah yeah, that's what we say, dad.
Speaker 3:All you had to do was look at us yeah and if you turn around and you look at them, they said that would be like the worst, because they knew yeah, yeah, yeah but, nothing ever really happened after that yeah, it's all he really needed to do it was funny.
Speaker 1:I think you know what I mean. When I'm being serious with Chase, my eyes get big, right, he's like stop doing that thing with your eyes. I love it Because I'm like you need to my eyes get big when I'm.
Speaker 3:Yeah, show the audience your eyes, yeah yeah, yeah, and it's not.
Speaker 2:that's not constipation, no, I'm like All right Not that it couldn't be you. Yeah yeah. All right, so we did. That's funny. Stop doing the eyes thing. We could go back to that in a sec. Where did Father's Day start? When?
Speaker 1:did it start? Oh, yes, yes. So let's get on with the topic.
Speaker 3:Let's get a little history. We got excited and shit. That's what we're talking.
Speaker 1:It's our podcast. We do what we want, that's right. That's our fucking podcast. Fuck that shit.
Speaker 3:Father's Day, all right A day and it was celebrated every third sunday of june. Uh, now, it was actually uh, founded or proposed by sonora smart dodd who came up with the idea. She did it for her dad and proposed it, uh, in 1909, inspired by the newly recognized mother's day holiday that just happened, oh so Mother's, day was recent too. Mother's Day was before it, but it was already a holiday See. It's so fucking good. And she did it to honor her father who was a Civil War veteran William Jackson Smart.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, I know no fucking guys are like oh, they have a Mother's Day, how can we get a Mother's?
Speaker 3:Day. Well, oh, they have a Mother's Day. How can we get a Mother's Day? Well, I'm going to tell you why, but it was a woman who did it, I know. I know it was a woman who did it and the reason she did it was Wait wait, there was a comedian right and he said something I'm not going to tell you who the comedian was? Yeah, he said that Father's Day was 18th on the list. Oh, and your mama? Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're 18, yeah, yeah, we're number 18 after arbor day.
Speaker 2:They don't even know what the hell arbor day is yeah it's funny, no shit. So you know how they have a national women's day right I forget when it is.
Speaker 1:It was a few months ago national women's day, right, and there's always a guy goes oh, how come there's not national man's day? And it says there is a national man's day and the day it's searched the most on Google is on National Women's Day.
Speaker 3:Really, of course it is Okay. Well, hang on, there's no.
Speaker 1:National man. Oh, there is oh nice.
Speaker 3:So let me finish. So she did it for her dad, william Jackson Smart, who was a Civil War veteran. Right Okay, to honor her father, william Jackson Smart, civil War veteran, and raise his six children as a single parent. The day has since been adopted by many of the country's social. Yeah, president Richard Nixon, I just jumped off to the wrong place I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:She wanted to honor her father, william Jackson Smart, a Civil War veteran who raised six children as a single parent. The first Father's Day was celebrated in Spokane on June 19, 1910. Okay, okay, but it wasn't, and of course I apologize. Right, right, Went to the wrong paragraph earlier. Father's. Day did not become an official holiday in the United States until 1972.
Speaker 2:And that's when you said Nixon.
Speaker 3:Richard Nixon actually signed it into law then, so we've only been celebrating it Now. I'm sure people followed it in this country, yeah yeah yeah, because it was already something that people followed, but it wasn't official yet until the actual, you know the president made it official yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2:So now, you know, get on the other little, we'll get a little bit serious. Fathers I don't feel are appreciated the same the way that moms are. You know, absolutely. And you know, everything's always mom, everything's always mom, mom, mom, mom. I was gonna say before the comedian he says, the comedian says why is it that when all these celebrities and the um, sports stars and whatnot, they get up there, thank you mom, I love you. Mom. What the fuck happened to dad? Right, because dad was the one that threw the ball with you, that ran with you, that gave you the advice, that told you how to fix the cramp or do whatever it was to, you know, to get you there to help you sing proper, or was your manager, whatever, and you go and thank mom, fuck that hooker. That's, that's what the that's what the comedian said. That's that bullshit. Well, he didn't say it like that, but he said it a lot nicer.
Speaker 1:But uh, you know it was it's one of those things, you know. You should just make it National Parents Day.
Speaker 2:There we go well, but then yeah, but then it's one of those things. It would be like Christmas for us. That's true. You know what I mean, because when we just buy each other gifts, you know what I mean it's your anniversary. So he's saying to make a National Parents Day Instead of Father's Day and Mother's Day Instead of just combining it.
Speaker 3:Boom oh right, you see, but here's the thing. But no, I usually don't do anything for stuff like that when it comes Like I'll get Tanya flowers for certain things like. Mother's Day or whatever, but I wouldn't normally do that because she's not my mother.
Speaker 2:Well, no, we're talking about when he's kids like for Chase that.
Speaker 3:Chase is little. Oh right, when they're little like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I'm not talking about Mike when we were just doing it. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, oh, I apologize.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, definitely, yeah, no, I feel you on that, not that I wouldn't do something nice, but I feel you turn around and you're doing that something nice for them because of blah blah days, because you know which day it is and you're like saying hey, yeah.
Speaker 3:Happy Mother's Day. Yeah, no for sure you know, happy Father's Day, or whatever.
Speaker 2:You know she does it for me too, but I miss her the surgery. I apologize. Yeah, no, no, no, give her, like you know, high five. All right, go get. That's what you're gonna hear. I want to go to brunch. You know I don't want to cook dinner tonight, you're not my mother.
Speaker 2:The fuck, that got to do with me. Kids have moved out. You better go talk to your children's. I got shit to do with me. I'm hungry. Oh my god, yeah, yeah, yeah, dude, they're gonna come out. They're gonna be like what really? I hear him like I said oh the, my sister wife thinking like, really, motherfucker, my mom. She's like, oh, yeah, yeah, and you said that shit on fucking youtube. You little motherfucker, oh wow yeah she'll curse me in spanish and everything yeah, yeah, now we understand yeah no no god, what else?
Speaker 3:so the thing I think I like most now, too, is being able to kid around with my kids and you know, and joke with them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's gotta be cool when they're adults.
Speaker 3:When they're adults like that, especially when you know I can send them funnies on the phone or something like that.
Speaker 3:And they know what it is I'm talking about, you know? Oh, I remember one time this is something I remember. This is a memory, a very good one. As a matter of fact, I had them for the weekend. They were both teenagers and I guess Jenny was like 14, maybe 15. Robbie was like 12 or something like that, and they wanted to go to movies. They couldn't figure out what movie they wanted to go see and it couldn't make up their mind. They were like, oh, forget it, I'm picking it, we're going to see a movie. We went to see Gladiator.
Speaker 3:That was like the best movie.
Speaker 2:Wait a minute, that's how old Gladiator is now. Yeah, bro, oh my god. And they were like when we came out Of the movie theater.
Speaker 3:They were like that movie Was on, they were Bucking Because we all loved it, right right, that was a great movie, you know, and they had all kinds of questions because of the different things that were going on, because they were younger then, so they didn't understand, you know. So that's one that always stands out on me, that's funny.
Speaker 2:I didn't even realize that Gladiator was that old it's old.
Speaker 3:Oh my God, One of my favorite movies, by the way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is. If you haven't seen that movie Tom you need to watch that man.
Speaker 2:I don't know if Chase is old enough yet, so I wouldn't say watch.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no, not with him.
Speaker 1:He's all like I want to watch Terrifier. I'm like fuck no, terrifier, that's the goriest movie.
Speaker 2:But I don't know, man, because was she, you saw it? Did you see it already?
Speaker 3:No, no it doesn't matter, you don't let him watch it.
Speaker 2:My daughter Samantha, her bedtime stories. She was watching. She was watching Harbor Flakes, bro. Yeah, like she was watching.
Speaker 1:Terrifier is the goriest I've ever seen. Really there's people who are when they, when they, when they did the testing. There's people who vomited in the movie theater.
Speaker 2:No way. I'm not going to see it now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, brutally, I'm not even gonna say brutally graphic on the show and we like that.
Speaker 2:Oh, we like the evil dead stuff.
Speaker 3:Yeah you know we're the evil dead yeah, from that generation right yeah, so and that to me was like, for me that was the most. And even now, when we saw the other one, when we went to see the new one, which I thought they did a great job, yeah, and it was just like the movie, and it was like, oh my god, this is nuts. Uh, just the way it was, you know, and it was brutal yeah, you know, but that one is, so it's blatantly brutal to the point where it's like right it's just doing it on purpose like
Speaker 2:it's obviously all right, so no kids allowed to that one.
Speaker 3:No, okay, so don't take, don't take no, please don't do that to your child.
Speaker 1:Yeah, don't do that, dad thing yeah, yep, you will become Arthur Klein.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's fucking great, that's funny as hell. So now dad jokes, are dad jokes a gift or what?
Speaker 3:Well, it makes up for all the other shit. It's weird. You just start telling these fucking cheesy jokes.
Speaker 1:What is that? I just started telling cheesy jokes out of fucking nowhere.
Speaker 2:Bro, I'm telling you right now you start telling these corny fucking jokes.
Speaker 3:I don't tell dad jokes so much, except I always do the. That's what she said stuff.
Speaker 2:I'm always doing that. I can't help you. That's what she said.
Speaker 3:I am I am totally it's crazy.
Speaker 2:I'm all day dad jokes, yeah, you're good at them. It's crazy. I'm all day dad jokes, yeah you're good at them, you're doing good, yeah, yeah, I do all the dad jokes. I like the. That's what she said. But I try to control myself.
Speaker 3:I know, but I can't help it.
Speaker 2:Sometimes it's like open door, you know yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what she said, just like that. That is the funniest shit, man, that is the funniest shit. I love dad jokes. I mean, I love dad jokes. You know what it is. I don't even think that it's so much the dad jokes. I don't even know why they call them dad jokes, because there's some times that people will say that joke who are younger, and it's a fucking dad joke. I repeated like that's such a dad joke. You didn't like my fucking delivery.
Speaker 1:Now it's just like, corny, we're automatically. Just do I know you, yeah right. Do I know you, yeah right right.
Speaker 2:Do I know you? Yeah, I don't know you. I did that shit. What if?
Speaker 1:your dad is like Tom Papa or Bill Burr.
Speaker 3:Yeah, right, right. Oh my God, Can you imagine they don't have that joke Can?
Speaker 2:you imagine if Bill Burr is your father? That guy is a maniac. Oh dude, that is fucking hilarious, and he's a father too.
Speaker 3:And daughter I mean I know how I was with my kids, right? Oh, you mean like being funny and stuff. Yeah, I was. I'm sure my kids could tell me stuff that I can't even remember, right? Yeah, I've forgotten about it. Yeah, I should say, and it would be like that, do you remember?
Speaker 2:the time did you do?
Speaker 3:yeah, no, I don't remember.
Speaker 2:That's damn funny yeah, I'll leave you like that. Yeah, oh, yeah, oh yeah, I remember yeah, no, I think the coolest thing in, even with the kids as they've gotten older, that, no matter how much of an argument or disagreement that there was, just like you said, that we're able, were able, have been able to discuss and fix and move on for it, that we from it, that we've been able to grow.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what I mean, and, like I said, when you make it's crazy, but when you feel, see how you contributed to someone's life and that they had hopefully become a better person, better people they knew, then you can sit back and you have that grin on your face. You know what I mean. You're like yeah, that's the shit, just to get them better.
Speaker 3:Right, you want them. The whole job is to your kids.
Speaker 2:Should be better than you in the sense where they get higher and make more money.
Speaker 3:Exactly, they're smarter than you. You want that you want that.
Speaker 2:You just want to keep doing it and they'll do it with theirs and all right, so on and so on, and just keep going on. Yeah, that's exactly you have to. You know, and I don't think that well, I'm lying, I don't think that I have any regrets with my kids. You know what I mean. Like I think I I tried my best all the time to to, I mean fine, you know, only because of the way life was at that moment, monetarily, maybe not be able to do. You know, that may be, if anything, a regret, you know, but uh, as far as who I am with and or to them, I don't important part, right? Yeah, you know what I mean. And it's funny, bro, because my daughter said that to me too.
Speaker 2:Man materialistic stuff yeah, right, that's what she said. She says it wasn't about the materialistic things, right, you know?
Speaker 3:it was like that either. I mean, of course they were young and they wanted a certain thing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, they're like really little, that's no, they're like oh, I want yeah, no fucking the he-man play set.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, right, no and I like.
Speaker 2:Well, that's what christmas is for.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean like that kind kind of thing. That's what a holiday is for your birthday or whatever. Go ahead, finish up, though.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm just saying so that then you know now so my daughter has said that to me, you know. Oh, you know it was. It was never about what you gave us monetarily, it's how you spoke to us. It was how you know what you taught us how to deal with people when you were there for that kind of advice or you know whatever. Even now, as an adult, I'm like, well, I'm glad I was there, I love you. You know what I mean it's like, because it's it's that that's something special, man, because it makes, because then I see how people are with my kids, you know, and as a dad super proud of all of my children, you know, yeah, I get what you feel like.
Speaker 3:When I look at my son Robert, my daughter Jennifer, she's, you know, clean, now she's able to. You know, obviously still an addict, but she's, you know she's doing well. She's been clean for a while, she's good and then I look at my son Robert, and I'm amazed, like you know, what he's doing and how well he's doing, and he's got his family going on, Right. Yeah, it blows my mind, you know. I'm like, cause you sometimes like did you show you my kid?
Speaker 3:Right, you look at you and you're like but you already know why you are or where you are in your life, for whatever reason, cause you know, you realize later on, you were the one who was responsible and you're the one who so, so, however difficult or however easy it was, right, whatever, yeah it was really up to you, you know.
Speaker 3:So eventually I was. I was late bloomer, so eventually I got there. But um and so when you see your kids do better than you, like that yeah, and you're like, wow, that's awesome. Yep, and I'm also good because and for you to get jealous because there are people. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. And for you to get jealous Because there are people out there that do?
Speaker 2:that it's so ridiculous, because that's what you want. You know what I mean, but no matter how smart they are.
Speaker 3:They still love you the way they did Right, because you're that. That's my dad. You know what I'm saying. What were you going to say?
Speaker 1:No, I was just agreeing with you. You know, it's just cool when you get to see them. No, no, no, no, no, I was just, I was agreeing with you, you know. So, yeah, but no, it's just cool when you get to see them grow up.
Speaker 2:That's the cool part.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you get to see you know, them just grow into like a man or a woman, a woman.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I'm thinking for me. Yeah, yeah, yeah, chase, but yeah, it. And, like you said, you have so much more, so many things to look forward to. You know what I mean. That you don't even realize yet. You know what I'm saying. Things that he's going to say and to do, yeah.
Speaker 3:We paid a water bill in this house. You want to get out of the shower please?
Speaker 1:I think the thing is is out of the siblings, out of all you know, out of you know, my brother and Tyra has a very big family. She's got many sisters Right, she's got brothers, so like they had their kids before. What we did, so like I feel like it did give us a little advantage because we could see what was like what worked for others and what didn't work, or what parenting wasn't good, mm-hmm, you know.
Speaker 3:Right, yeah, listen, you can do the best you can. You're gonna fuck up. There's gonna be. You're gonna still have those memories where you wish you didn't do certain things or said certain things. But that's the whole process of being a parent and learning through it. Our parents had to go through it, right, and theirs. You know, like the same thing, the progression goes both ways right, good and bad. You learn. You know, like the same thing, the progression goes both ways good and bad.
Speaker 1:You learn you know everybody, it's all. Parenting has to be tailored to exactly each. You know dynamics. There's so many different family dynamics, just personalities, and you know it's just yeah, yeah. Well, I'll say, some people say, oh, I parented this way, but that doesn't work.
Speaker 2:That doesn't work for that, for that kid, or you, or just yeah right because if you don't do it properly, then that's gonna show anyway, I mean, yeah, well, I mean, see, all that and for me, all those teaching techniques and how to do this and the raising kids is, is a bunch of bullshit in the sense not that it's bullshit because it does work for some people, certain things work for some people I'm saying it's bullshit to say that that's how you should do it as a whole. Agree with that, because your delivery, your way of doing things like I said before, you know it's the way you say things that you know it won't click with your kid. And don't forget kids are people too, you know I'm saying have their personalities. They have the way that they understand things. Like we all learn differently. Some people learn by actually hands-on and doing it. Some people need to see the end product and then have all the parts there and they can build it. You know what I mean. Other people need to work with.
Speaker 3:Everybody visualizes everything differently.
Speaker 2:Right. So then you know you have to. You have to understand that about your kid. You know what I'm saying and that's why I say that you know it's bullshit to turn around and say, oh no, you need to do it like this. I was going to say that I am a super firm believer also of that. It takes a village to raise a child. You know what I mean. So it's who you surround yourself with is who are going to help you raise your kid.
Speaker 3:It was kind of like the way I was growing up. Yeah, I don't think it's as much now as it was right, but because we nobody now talks to their fucking neighbors, you know what I'm saying. But also with your family, though, because, like right, I always went to see my cousins in the summer. We visited my aunt and my uncle right he's very close, even though we lived in different places in in the country or whatever.
Speaker 3:But they like if I was with my aunt and uncle, whatever was going how my parents were going to handle it, my aunt and uncle, whatever was going, how my parents were going to handle it, my aunt and uncle could handle it. Yeah, exactly, not that they would, but that was the level.
Speaker 2:was on because I felt the same way with them that I did with my parents.
Speaker 3:Maybe even worse, because I'd be like I don't know, don't fuck with me.
Speaker 2:Did you ever have that where if you got in trouble and somebody else saw you and they would drag you and whooping your ass on your way to the house, and then your parents are like now they're embarrassed so they will whoop your ass again? You know, nobody beat me on my way to my mom, but they would rat me out, said then when my mom heard about it, whatever I would get the. You know, depending on what it was that I did, it was either don't do that, a fucking gang, or it was like you know, I was getting the beat because I embarrassed her. You know what I'm saying. You did that in the street. No, but I'm, I'm. I. I do believe that you know.
Speaker 2:And, like I said, yeah, you know, being dads are so underappreciated. Yeah, doing all that shit, but at the same time, like I said, it's all of us. You know, being dads are so underappreciated. Yeah, doing all that shit, but at the same time, like I said, it's all of us. You know what I mean and I think that being a dad and teaching our kids that they do need help, you know what I mean. Don't be afraid to ask for help, you know, don't be afraid to go and do. And you know, just conquer your dreams, like go, do them. You know, just conquer your dreams, like go, do them. You know, make it happen, make your life what you want it to be. You know, I think that's our job. You know, not taking away from moms, don't get me wrong, but moms are more. You know they're the nurturers. You know, you know the nice ones. You know, oh no, honey.
Speaker 3:Not all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it depends on the mom. You know I try to be nice. You know I'm trying to be nice, but you know it's like. You know moms are the ones that are like. You know no baby, you know, be easy, it's okay. Nurturing, nurturing. You know dad's like get the fuck up, dust off and get your ass back out there and do it the fuck again.
Speaker 3:See, I was actually more afraid of my mother than I was my father. Well, she was more of a discipline. My father was really working most of the time. Right, so if we're talking about fathers, let's talk about my father, not my mother. He worked. My father broke his ass for us when we were growing up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:I mean, he worked. He worked for the TA, he, he was in the National Guard at the time and he was a superintendent, right. He was doing all three of those things, um, and he worked his ass off and he and then, of course, eventually he retired and everything. But as a dad, he I have one thing I have to say he was always. I don't really have a bad memory about right, right in the sense that I got my first. I did get my first ass whooping from him, um, because I was playing with matches in bed my father seriously in bed man in fucking bed, my father.
Speaker 3:My father turned me over, smacked me on the ass a couple times and I remember till this day. Yeah, I never played with matches again, of course dude um, but here's the funny thing he ran to the bathroom because he had to throw up because he had to hit me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I remember you told me about that.
Speaker 3:He had to hit me because he was abused when he was growing up. So, he kind of broke the cycle. He didn't do it His parents were alcoholics, but only his mother was abusive, so he broke the cycle as far as that was concerned.
Speaker 2:So it was something that he didn't want to do, but he felt that he had to, and I'm glad he did, because it it, it solved the problem.
Speaker 3:Right, right, right. Yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah, um, I was curious and obviously I was too young to understand the, the ramifications, even though I knew it was. I was. You know what? I mean right yeah you're a child like that, you know you're not getting the same way an adult would get it. Yeah, yeah, so that's kind of, but he had to make me understand.
Speaker 2:Yeah, shitting that out right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I get it.
Speaker 3:I was right as rain after that bro, I'm sure you were, bro.
Speaker 2:No more matches in the bed. What the fuck.
Speaker 1:Oh my.
Speaker 2:God Jesus Christmas. What are you going? What about your?
Speaker 3:dad.
Speaker 2:Seriously, we're talking about Father's Day.
Speaker 3:We might as well include them in the conversation.
Speaker 2:This is where I make the funnies half black and half African. So I got two dads. I got two dads. So when my parents divorced, I would like weekends, or every once in a while, whatever I would go and hang out with my father. Then my stepfather was there and they were know they were both that they were. They're me, I guess. So I'm them. You know what I mean.
Speaker 3:Just that kind of like yeah, like I'm that.
Speaker 2:You know they're both kind of like, you know, laid back and mellow that sarcasm, whatever, that's cool. You know my dad, he's fucking hilarious, my father, he's hilarious because he does the ha ha, ha, ha ha. Yeah, oh, he does that. Yeah, like that kind of shit now because he's older. So you know he's always done that. Ha ha, ha ha. Go ahead, try that shit. You know what I mean? He won't say that, he won't curse, he won't cuss talk about this shit outside. I'm like but why you gotta be like?
Speaker 3:you know what I mean, why you gotta be that way, yeah he said it real calm and smooth, like I said.
Speaker 2:He said it in that nifty monotone voice. You know whatever, but I knew what the fuck he meant. You know, my sister lives in. She like I don't remember, like I don't think he ever did that, like that, you're too fucking old, mister. Oh yeah, come on, let's talk about this.
Speaker 3:I just had a cool.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry so, like you know, but I Nothing but literal. You know, good, happy, funny thoughts, you know I mean it's like anything else. You know there's that time. You know they didn't buy me, love them both.
Speaker 3:so happy father's day, that's good, that's awesome yeah, you know, keith, jesse, I just had a really cool memory, um, we were growing up, we lived in an apartment building. My father was a superintendent so he would have to wheel out the garbage. He used the hand truck. So you come out of the basement and then up a big ramp and you take it out and put it out to the curb right and you used back then it was the aluminum cans, it was the metal. Yes, it was the aluminum cans, it was the metal cans, it was the big heavy-duty ones right, and you lined them up and then the city came and they took them and they dumped them. They never put them back in place, they always threw them back across the sidewalk.
Speaker 3:They never put them back in place. Anyway, my father would sack them up a certain way at the gate. So these are things I remember. But I remember him always giving me a ride on the hand truck on the way down. Yeah, you know, he put me on the hand truck and I would go down. That was really cool yeah, yeah yeah, and then I remember being able to hang out with him ride my big wheel and going up and down that ramp oh, yeah, yeah yeah, come back in and go into the basement yeah right.
Speaker 1:I hung out with my dad a lot when I was younger right, it was cool that's interesting but yeah uh, yeah, my father, he uh, he used to be on like Boy Scouts with us, so we used to go like camping and stuff like that. It was always fun. And then they kind of let my brother go, even though he was like too young, but he came anyway, so it was fun. You know my brother used to come.
Speaker 3:Nice.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so we used to do scouts and stuff like that. Yeah, so we used to do scouts and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:It was always fun. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's great man. What else did you want to talk about with Father's Day, bro? Because I said this was your podcast. Yeah, yeah, we kind of like dominated.
Speaker 1:Sorry, no, no, no since this is a group. I came up with the idea, but it's not like I own it.
Speaker 2:No no.
Speaker 3:Well, you know, I got to be honest with you. Do you really let me ask you a question? Yeah, when Father's Day comes, though, do you feel like? Do you feel any different than you did when it came, when it didn't come or it wasn't there, or anything like it? To me, it's not really a big deal in the sense that, okay, it's Father's Day. Yeah, I appreciate my son calls me, my daughter calls me, whatever, Right, and I appreciate that, but I feel, you know, to me it's not as big a deal as it is to most people. Being a dad is really just more important.
Speaker 2:You know Right, and that's more important.
Speaker 3:The holiday is not that big deal for me. You know what I mean. No, we just you know, especially because we're 18th on the list.
Speaker 1:I want to spend the day with my kid. Right, my wife and kid. That's it, we're going to go chase. He just saw it, because Inside Out 2 is coming out.
Speaker 2:He wanted to see the first one.
Speaker 1:So what's the first one? So we're going to go see.
Speaker 3:You know we're going to go to the movies. Right, You're going to go see Inside Out 2.
Speaker 1:It's a cartoon. The second one. During the day Tara's parents are going to come over, we're going to have bagels or whatever.
Speaker 3:Nice, are you going to let them have popcorn with butter on it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you will. Well, what do you call it? The Cinemark? It's not real butter.
Speaker 3:It's fake butter, it's vegan. The butter in the movie is not real butter either, bro Trust me.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm saying. The only thing I think is if I and it's funny, because it's not even milk, it's not even butter, it's fake butter but they have like an additive in it that comes from dairy for the liquid, if you add the liquid, the popcorn I don't know. Wow, I was thinking popcorn, but I don't know. Oh my God, we're already in split.
Speaker 2:Wait, wait. I mean come on, let's just. That was a good one.
Speaker 1:So the liquid butter is not vegan, but the dry stuff they put on it this is flavoring.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's artificial flavoring. It's cheaper. That's fucking hilarious bro.
Speaker 3:So you're saying the one one, the movie theater, is also vegan.
Speaker 1:It is, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so dude that is the best shit in the world, the only.
Speaker 1:Thing that is has dairy and I said is the liquid and it's mainly oil. It's mainly oil but there's dairy in it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but I love it when I go, I'm putting it all over my pocket one minute. I know this is see, I don't do it.
Speaker 2:I don't put it on. This shit will kill you. Yeah, no, that's what.
Speaker 3:I'm saying I don't care, I love it.
Speaker 1:But for me? I don't. We don't do gifts, I don't.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't do that shit, then fuck, yeah, go buy me something right, and then that's you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, no it's just, it's father's day, it's not yeah same thing mother's day. Like you might get flowers, you go out for brunch, you know what?
Speaker 3:I mean it's not like a yeah like you said, I would like to spend time. You go out with your wife and the kid and you just go out and spend time with them and you make it a party for both of you, not just for you, right, yeah?
Speaker 1:that's like for Father's Day or Mother's Day. If we want to go out for breakfast, we go to our. I guess I'll give them a free plug. Simply Green Cafe, we go in Ramsey. It's never like super busy.
Speaker 3:I mean there's always a lot of people there. That's not the one with the shitty blueberry pancakes. No, no, no, that one's out of business. The one that went.
Speaker 1:That was the worst pick First time I brought him to a place I was open.
Speaker 3:I was trying a vegan dish.
Speaker 1:You went to a good place with me and you're like I like this and I brought him to the second place and they fucking used chickpea flour Instead of it was horrible, because I probably made it With free too, yeah. And he hates chickpeas. I hate him so. But now, this is Listen, I was trying to be open to you right there.
Speaker 3:I fucking love it the first place I bought you yeah, that was good, even the place where we excuse me, don't lose that thought where we had the Chinese food that day, the vegan Chinese restaurant yeah yeah, I had the, I had the wonton soup and it was just the noodles, or, however, it was fantastic it was really yeah, yeah, oh, is that veggie heaven it might have been yeah, I'm not sure, but simply, green cafe is like a okay little diner place.
Speaker 1:You know it's a cafe, you know you eat diner food, they have breakfast your wife likes it. She doesn't mind yeah we get the tofu, I either get tofu scramble. Chase gets pancakes.
Speaker 2:They just you know they're egg free sweet it If you go there for breakfast if you go there for Mother's Day or Father's.
Speaker 1:Day there's people there, but it's not like you're going to fucking wait a half hour 45 minutes.
Speaker 3:Now, if it was Mother's Day, you would have to wait two hours. Yeah yeah, no shit, that's what I'm saying that is fucking great.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is guy, yeah, it is.
Speaker 3:Yeah, let's see, I don't know.
Speaker 2:There's about a 45-minute.
Speaker 3:Father's Day. Oh, we have an over here. You want to sit by the water?
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly it's a perfect view. Well, it's supposed to be nice, bro, on Sunday. It's supposed to be nice Like beautiful day out.
Speaker 3:Well, saturday is too.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, no, no, I'm talking about Like just for Father's Day itself. So then it's, you know, go outside, you know, just Be outside this.
Speaker 3:Saturday, by the way, let's interrupt.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's right, it's the.
Speaker 3:Rock.
Speaker 1:Hill Run and Ramble 15th.
Speaker 3:Yes, it's at 9k, starts at 9, I believe yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, for everybody Too. Listening, it's for Blood cancer we had.
Speaker 3:Susie on with us. We did an interview About it. She was awesome With us. Come on, do that. Thank you, susie, so I will be doing that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, tomorrow. Yeah, obviously, everybody will be hearing this on Wednesday Instagram.
Speaker 1:Yes, I will make sure we post it.
Speaker 3:We'll get it up there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll be there too.
Speaker 3:I'm going. Yup, kenny's going as well. Maybe next year? Yeah, you can come with.
Speaker 2:You can bring. The whole tribe, bro. Yeah, I gotta put in a better house, yeah, that's alright, it's all.
Speaker 3:Good man, it was kind of short notice too, because we kind of sprung it on each other, so yeah, so with that, sir Tom, what's the last thing you want to finish up?
Speaker 1:So no, that's it. I ain't got nothing. I ain't got nothing about Father's Day I got nothing.
Speaker 3:I'm Father's.
Speaker 1:Day out. I'm not talking about, I'm fucking this shit.
Speaker 2:We're good, yeah, well, excellent then.
Speaker 1:So happy Father's Day, gentlemen, to everybody out there, to everyone out there, fellas all of the fellas, my homies, our homies, our brothers, everybody have a hope.
Speaker 2:You guys had a, had a great Father's Day and, uh, happy Father's Day to you guys again.
Speaker 3:So love, peace and hair grease live long and prosper, go vegan hallo. Live long and prosper, go vegan Holla.