Walking the Entrepreneurship Tightrope: Work, Family and Everything in Between

Curious about the tightrope walk between fatherhood and entrepreneurship? Brace yourself for an enlightening episode of Dad Puzzles, where our guest, David Van Beekum - co-founder of TWEVA, navigates this complex maze with us. We explore the journey to his innovative venture, Tweva and discuss how teamwork and communication are crucial to juggling family and work effectively.

Have you ever wished for a magic wand to manage your work and family schedules? Our experience with shared calendars might be your enchanted answer. We journey through the perks of using technology like Google Calendar in coordinating and communicating better within our family. As we step out of our comfort zones, we also encourage dads to let their children explore alternative career paths and embrace fresh opportunities. 

Our discussion takes a deeper turn as we ponder the eternal question of maintaining a balance between work and family. We highlight the essential art of mental switching between work and family time and the need to prioritize family over work. Drawing from our experiences, we share nuggets to achieve this balance, including syncing with your spouse and setting boundaries. All this and much more awaits in our lively and enlightening episode. So, plug in and join us as we solve the Dad Puzzles together!

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Welcome to Dad Puzzles Everything Dad. If you're questioning yourself about dad functions, duties and life in general, you've come to the right place. Parenthood can be tough. Learning to juggle caring for your baby with your career and also keeping things fresh with your partner can be a struggle, but we're here to make things easier with helpful tips for making the most of your situation. Being a dad may seem like a puzzle, but it's one you can definitely solve. Now here's your host, Dr Suleiman Ijani.

Speaker 2: 0:43

Alright. Hello, Welcome to Dad Puzzles. We are very fortunate. Today we have the privilege of welcoming a truly remarkable individual to our show. He's not only the co-founder of TRIVER, a groundbreaking technology company, but also is a devoted family man, David Van Beekum. He has passion for innovation, digital marketing expertise and also a heartwarming commitment to the fatherhood. So, David, please join us today and share your unique journey and insights. My friend, Thank you.

Speaker 3: 1:21

Hey, thanks for having me on the show. It's always a journey. We talk about the journey in entrepreneurship and in running your own business and trying to keep the family going at the same time. You understand that's a lot of work, isn't it? Absolutely, absolutely. Yes, sir, it really is. I've been doing it. I can't remember. It was 15 or 16 probably when I had a job with someone else.

Speaker 3: 1:53

Then I started a little company on my own. I was just a web design, web hosting, probably the beginning stages of the internet. I didn't have a family yet, but I just loved that freedom of being able to work from sometimes my home. Sometimes I would meet clients at their locations and we would talk a little bit about what they're looking for. But I kind of just got started in that way and then eventually did that so much that I kind of burned myself out. I had about 18, I think it was like 17 or 18 projects in a month. Wow, I was just building all these, like you know, is it database here? It was a WordPress over there, right, and I just told my wife I said you know, I'm like this is it's so much. Can we build something so we can focus on one project and partner with people? And by that point already had we already had our first kid.

Speaker 3: 2:51

And you know we talked about the risks. There are risks that you take when jumping out on your own, but finding the right partner, you know that could be a risk, absolutely. But I did it right after. I mean, I was self-employed on my own journey before that, but I really wanted a partner, a business partner. So we started looking around and we found different people to work with and some of them worked and some of them didn't, and we tried a couple different ventures, but this one that we're working on now, tweeva, is kind of a combination of business partners that we worked with before and they were in the restaurant industry.

Speaker 3: 3:35

Okay, and what had happened was we were sitting around in the restaurants and it was an Italian restaurant and up came Domino's Pizza commercial and I just laid back, I just said, hey, how dare they put this in your restaurant? You know, do they know who you are? Right? And then we kind of jokingly about it and said you know, wouldn't it be cool if we could have, you know, a TV that was just for you, you know, something that you could control, and it wouldn't show, maybe, ads for Italian food?

Speaker 1: 4:07

It would just show everything else.

Speaker 3: 4:09

So that kind of led us on to the journey of building out a small business TV network for small businesses. And then we added on later influencers. Okay, because think about an influencer, right? They're creating all this content and they are trying to get followers, they're trying to become known somewhere.

Speaker 3: 4:31

You know, this is what I do. Look at me, look at me. And so I said what if we combine those two? You know, it's really hard for an influencer to get on TV, right, it's hard enough to have them to build a social network, but they can, and there is a space for that, but they're very, very hard for them to build credibility on TV because they're not going to run a 30-second ad, right, right. So we figured if we could build out a TV network for that small business and the influencer, we can kind of combine the content creation piece and then the business owner needing content together into a privately closed but yet public system, right, and so that's a kind of overview of the journey. Nice, but that's. You know, where we're at now is just expansion, and meanwhile we're trying to keep the family and the kids and the soccer games and all those crazy things.

Speaker 2: 5:31

That was actually. My next question is like how do you manage to buy and sell this, my friend?

Speaker 3: 5:36

My wife.

Speaker 2: 5:37

Okay, okay, teamwork yeah.

Speaker 3: 5:40

Yo, my goodness. Yeah, you need the teamwork. Yeah, when I'm over here building, you know why doesn't this code work or what's wrong with you know somebody can't upload a certain type of file to their TV I'm over there working and she's doing the million other things with the kids and making sure that they have everything that they need to do for school. You know I'm definitely second in that piece, but we do it as a team. You know we've had those discussions before where I might be working too much in this section or I feel like she might be taking too much on her side. Right, and it really is a balance that you need a lot of communication with. Have you found that too?

Speaker 2: 6:25

Absolutely. And also you know another key part I think it should be about understanding. I mean, you know it's nice and it's very helpful when she understands, like your case, Because sometimes you know some folks maybe they're not on the same page, they will just think maybe you're just slacking, you don't pick up on helping the family. You know so, but when they're you know your partner understands, then you both kind of you know like help each other. You know like relentlessly, because you know where's the goal. You know, yes, beautiful.

Speaker 3: 6:55

It is, but I do have the male brain and I've heard before. There's this guy that came to our church once and he said the man's brain works as in a six drawer dresser and you take the football and you put it in whatever drawer that the man is thinking about or working on, right Like it may be a work drawer and then a sports drawer and a family drawer.

Speaker 3: 7:19

And I would say that I tend to have one of the drawers that I would prioritize over the others. So you do need that balance in there to be able to say hey, you know, if you didn't go to the last soccer practice, you didn't go to the last soccer game. You want to make sure that you're there for the next one and you have to. You know, those are the very important things that you don't get second chances with.

Speaker 2: 7:43

Absolutely absolutely.

Speaker 3: 7:44

So it's like, even if you're building something that's huge and amazing, you know, everybody thinks that they have a great project, Everybody thinks they have the great business. But you don't want to have that regret. I don't think later. Absolutely yes, sir, I gave it all and I have this money or this riches or this business, but really, yeah, yeah, you lose the family, you lose the kids, and what are you going to say when you're on your deathbed Is like wow, I'm really grateful for that. I created an efficiency.

Speaker 2: 8:18

Yeah, no, no. So it really you have to have that work yeah, you have to have that work balance. Nice, nice. Now, you, being the tech enthusiasts, you know what have you come up with? Something that kind of enhance your family life, or just a parenting experience from one of those different, you know, like gadgets or technique, you know like the fancy stuff.

Speaker 3: 8:39

Yeah, I don't think I've invented it yet, but I have thought about things.

Speaker 2: 8:42

Okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 3: 8:43

So I wanted to build like. This was years ago, before they really had the touch screens. I think when the iPads first came out. I wanted one of the iPads just plastered on the wall when you first walk in and where you could check the family calendar and scribble a note here or there something digital. But with little kids when I was really it just it never happened. And you know now that we all have cell phones and stuff, we do use a shared calendar, which helps a lot. You know, when I'm booking appointments and sitting down with people and teaching about Tweeva or trying to raise capital and investors, I can see, oh, what's going on Third Thursday of the month. Oh, yeah, okay, yeah, I mean I know when these events are. But when my football is in the work drawer, you know the mail brain's like, okay, yeah, I got a block. And then you have to look at that calendar and make sure.

Speaker 3: 9:38

So you know if we're meeting up with the cousins on Friday night. Shared calendar a shared Google calendar is really, really helps.

Speaker 2: 9:47

Really helps.

Speaker 3: 9:48

So sadly I didn't invent that, but yeah, right right.

Speaker 2: 9:51

But that's a good idea you're sharing so that dads can incorporate that, so that in the future you might look at your calendar and say, oh yeah, sure, you know Thursday I'm available because you're looking at your like you call it the work drawer. You know which is your calendar, you know like your work calendar, but then you forget the family event here. You know there's something scheduled already, like yesterday, for instance, I had a. You know I had a. You know like that is appointment with my daughter and thankfully it was away from my other. You know you know like work schedule, so I was safe. But if you have the family calendar, definitely that could have saved me. So thank you, this is a good idea we'll have that.

Speaker 3: 10:28

Yeah, I have like four or five you know different email addresses and accounts and then in my Apple calendar and they use work with all kind of calendars you can just sync them all and I change the colors on them. So you know this company is this color and this the family is this color, and just one glance it's not like, oh, I didn't know what we were doing. It's like come on, honey, you know the wife's brain. I've heard you know from the same guy who talked about the drawers. They are like a gumball machine and they have all the gumballs in there.

Speaker 3: 11:01

Those are all the things that are happening in her mind. They're all together. She can process multiple things at once and it's an incredible, incredible thing that they can do. But we tend to not work that way. So that gives me a good view of what's going on in the family side, without you know, without saying what are we doing or asking 17 times. That seems to reduce a lot of stress. When I know what's going, how the work life is being planned out Saturday mornings, you know when soccer games are, that definitely helps.

Speaker 2: 11:36

Awesome, awesome, my friend, thank you, and you know, like you've mentioned about, you know, like you know, stepping out of your comfort zone when you're sharing knowledge with others. You know, I think you know in your bio, you know, like I saw, you know, like you mentioned that. So how has that impacted your perspective in terms of the family life and what do you advise dads to look into when they're sharing their expertise, when they're stepping out of their comfort zone?

Speaker 3: 12:02

Well, I would say that that expands anyone's view. You know, I think everybody lives in a little bit of a box. Right, you're good at this and you've done this for five or 10 years and everybody knows you. Is that Right? And then when you start expanding that box a lot more, you get larger ideas of where you and the family can go. Or you might think well, if I do this, my child can probably go my same direction.

Speaker 3: 12:34

That's not, you know, that's maybe old school view you know the you know construction person, they would get their kids in construction.

Speaker 2: 12:43

Right.

Speaker 3: 12:44

But in my case it was technology being behind the computer screen and not really being in front of everyone else. And you know, I just kind of look at my kids differently now. I think, wow, you know what did? I think they could do, and what? Now that opens the idea of what they could possibly do. You know how big of a voice could they be in the world with the digital communication? I was always wanted to program a platform to allow people to be the voice. That was fine with me. I wanted to be that quiet person, but it does expand your worldview and your idea of where your family could be. And because you just haven't thought about that. But this is weird is for me it was like years and years and years. When I was a kid, when I was five or six years old, I'd be running the control board in my church way in the back you know, way, way, way in the back.

Speaker 3: 13:43

My dad did the same thing. My mom was a choir director, so she was a little bit more out front, but I don't think she'd ever thought well, one day, you know, my son will be doing podcasts and you know so. For me it just I teach my kids. Now it really you can pretty much do anything, because it takes all these different types of characters and type of personalities. It just matters Either if you're forced into doing something that you're uncomfortable with, or just taking that first step into it and starting, and then it's not as uncomfortable. The thought is really the worst part, really right you?

Speaker 2: 14:23

know, yes, and that initial step, you know step, that's where you're like sweating and everything, but after that you're good, right?

Speaker 3: 14:29

Yep, yep, I was in a presentation yesterday and my, you know, I was up on stage and I was talking to a group of small businesses and I said the view you, everybody has, like a 4k camera, mm-hmm, everybody has a fork. Do you remember, like 10 years ago, when you had like a camera and for TV quality You'd have to be like on your shoulder, right, maybe you know? Okay, well, calling the, calling the big, the big guns, and then you have a big, big halogen lights. Oh man, and it was, I guess it was maybe a little bit more uncomfortable to be in front of that. But now you have 4k camera in your pocket, right? It's not a matter of can I do it, can I not? It's, oh my goodness, can I, you know, can I get over the idea of doing it Right? And that's completely different All right?

Speaker 2: 15:16

Oh my yeah, man, can you share some interesting anecdotes or lessons you have learned from just running the tree for a while, also being a dedicated family person?

Speaker 3: 15:27

Well, a couple of things that you have to do is be able to turn on and off. I heard this from another senior. He was a, I believe he was a CEO at a large insurance company and I was friends with his. Well, he was a kind of client friend, my age and His advice was if you're gonna run your own business or a large company and have a successful family, most of the time people will pick one, they'll pick one over the other, and what you need to be able to do is turn on and off mentally, as in you're sitting there, you're talking oh how is the game today? Or how's practice, or how's school, what did you do on that report card?

Speaker 3: 16:10

And when the phone rings and it is important enough to answer, you have to say give me just a few minutes. I want to hear that. I want to hear that. Get up on the phone Maybe, walk to the back of the room or walk out of the room, right, do you? Yelling and screaming, you know, bring your, bring yourself back to where your family lives, right, sit down and act like nothing happened, absolutely, and go right back into it, because it's a little good for an extreme.

Speaker 2: 16:38

Go ahead, yeah, if you bring that stress into the family.

Speaker 3: 16:42

Now it's oh, I hate that, I hate that thing that dad does. It changes him, you know. And so to be able to turn out on and off and the same thing in the business world is, if something's happening in the family, you, you almost need to say okay, for right now, these 10 or 15 minutes of end of any meeting, it has to be a hundred percent. Take that football, put it into the work drawer, close it and then just focus on it. Because as men, I think we need to be able to be very focused Without letting those bleed from each side into each, each side, into each Right. And then at some point, when the kids are older, you can teach them that Concept and they would understand it a little bit better.

Speaker 3: 17:23

But you don't when they're younger. You don't want to have those bleed into each other. Oh, that is a good idea, you know it's a good point, but I I've not perfected that. You know it still does bleed a little bit back and forth to me and I have to be reminded of it. Hey, you know we're at the dinner table and I'm like yeah, but this is so exciting.

Speaker 3: 17:41

Yeah, I know, but it's not that exciting to them.

Speaker 2: 17:44

You know right, it's more of what they're excited about Mm-hmm. The secret nowadays I'm finding is like To kind of put it away like the phone like actually no, you know, like no sound away, because a lot of times, you know emergencies happens all the time. So I think if it's too critical it will always get to you anyways and you know you're not gonna miss. You know like they can leave a message, anything you know like anyways, you know, but yeah, they think that has been working better for me. But also the example you've provided if you happen to have your phone and be something critical, you know Just go ahead and you know like address it but also kind of, you know, create that compartment, you know I think that's a good idea we have yeah, and my wife always says the bank closes at five or six.

Speaker 3: 18:28

She said it doesn't matter what happens. You should have thought about that six days ago, seven, twenty, thirty, forty days ago, right? So why are you open till ten o'clock at night or eleven o'clock at night? Oh, you know, you're teaching everyone around you that you're still open, and so I do take. You have to take both sides, though, right. If you're running a startup, you're building something new things happen.

Speaker 1: 18:52

You'd need to be able to take that.

Speaker 3: 18:54

But let's say you're hanging out with your wife and you're watching your favorite you know TV show or something to relax right again. You don't be talking on the phone in the bed yelling and screaming at the person on the other line. You have to take that somewhere else. Come back. Everything's good, Absolutely All right. Where were we on that show?

Speaker 2: 19:12

No, where were we in the old version of? Seinfeld or something.

Speaker 3: 19:16

Right right?

Speaker 2: 19:16

No, I'm happy, my friend, I'm happy to hear you speaking this because you, you, you have lived it. You know like we have lived it, so this is good. You know that can relate to what we're talking about. That's, that's fantastic.

Speaker 3: 19:27

Yeah, I know if I've heard that when I was much younger, that probably would have helped a lot of the stress in the family or things that happened. And you have these long-term discussions or our two hour conversations about hey, I know this is important, but the family is is more important and it it really is in the end of it all. You know it really really is that the family is what your most of us guys, that's what we're working for.

Speaker 2: 19:57

Isn't it?

Speaker 3: 19:58

Absolutely Like. Well, like like, your podcast is about dads, right, that's, that's what we want, so yeah, we want stability yeah it's, it's number one. That's really what we want. And the side is, maybe I can just do it better. You know, I want to build this company, this business is something, because I want to do it better than everyone else, mm-hmm. And so to keep those balanced, you really it's very hard. It's like two, five gallon buckets or it's like two, you know. You know it's like trying is a balancing act.

Speaker 3: 20:31

Maybe more like spinning the spinning plates on the broomsticks.

Speaker 2: 20:36

You know, I think also, you know, I think you know so far what I'm getting so far. I Like the idea how, like you can be on the same page with your wife, you know, for instance. Okay, so, honey, this is my startup. You know I need to really be there at the moment so we can help each other, but of course, I will not miss, let's say, three games or something like that. You know we have these, these marks, you know. So this is good. We, you, you, you understand each other and you help each other to achieve it. Because if the other part does not Understand and we don't dedicate our time enough on the startup, you won't go anywhere. And when there's no money, the family also breaks right, and so, like you said, it is a bonus. You know we have to try to. Yeah, it is.

Speaker 3: 21:18

I usually don't wear business clothes to the meat, to the meetings. I usually don't wear them to the soccer games, right, but last night it just went longer than we thought. Then my phone died and because I was streaming through my computer to you know and and then I didn't know where anybody was, I came home, I dropped off my stuff in my business clothes, just walk right onto the field and everyone's like they didn't even recognize me because he used him in like a sweatshirt. You know I don't care about my hair. You know I'll care about sure.

Speaker 3: 21:47

You know I'm just hanging out and they're like, oh well, hi there, and but what's priority? Just be on time. It's 15 minutes, five minutes early, whatever it was, just be there because you're gonna. Are you gonna? What's? What's better when you're older, saying I was always there. So I mean there's always problems at work because we mature, we under, we dream in the beginning, oh, we're gonna be this.

Speaker 3: 22:12

We're gonna do this, we're gonna do this. And then when you get old, later you realize like, yeah, it wasn't really. You know, I was dreaming a little bit, it wasn't exactly that that. And and what better than your wife to say, hey, this could, this is a problem here and we need to fix this. And you have to be able to say she's my helpmate, she's making a great suggestion, even though it goes against, because the the football is in the work box. So take the football out, put it in the family box, have that discussion. Ultimately it'll be the best Most of the time, you know, depending on the situation, but most of the time is probably gonna work out for the good.

Speaker 2: 22:49

Mm-hmm. Awesome, my friend. You have a clear passion for helping small businesses succeed. So how does this align with your role as a father so far?

Speaker 3: 23:00

So helping small businesses. I'm hoping that I would help many other fathers in their small businesses too. That if we're talking, you know, dads to dads, most of what we just talked about is that time management and you know to Eva lives on the side of advertising. So if I can help somebody become a More of a community expert is what we call it in the Tweaver world. They may work a little bit less. You know it's not gonna. We don't teach time management, so you're gonna need a coach for that. You're gonna need somebody to walk you through that side. But what I always wanted to help is small businesses gain recognition in their communities using TVs and Okay, early in my business world that was always a struggle for me, like it was just being recognized because I was so far in the background, and that's what caused a lot of that friction between Do I, do I work extra, do I spend the family time?

Speaker 3: 24:01

And so I guess what I would say is if you can become more of Community expert where you live, you can maybe work a little bit less. You know you have your customers set and you can take that extra time at night To spend with the family.

Speaker 2: 24:17

Okay, okay and and my friend, how do you? You know what you do, the more you know with the tree for an hour. How is the that relationship with, let's say, my case doing? Let's say patronage? They say approaching the local businesses in the community and be like, by the way, I can spend it. You know like, do an ad for you for this much, whatever, every month and stuff like that Is that is that. You know like, do you see any little? You know like similarities with a patronage, with a different podcasting, or you know like YouTube channels.

Speaker 3: 24:46

Yeah, it's, it's a huge. Tweeva is a huge platform for content creators and the reason is because we don't have programming, so we don't have, like you know, whatever channel. You have channel 11, and they might have news at six o'clock, but before six o'clock they have Advertising and then they have their 30 minute shows or one hour shows. We've a is a community Generated TV channel, so we don't have 24 hours around the clock programming. We have what the community gives us and then we also have what the business gives us. So we actually have 24 hours, or maybe just that total of 22 hours, available All the time, because we are waiting on people in that community to create content, right? So let's say we put in 10 or 20 screens, we would. We go to an ice cream shop. You'd see ice cream, you'd see the weather, you might see a few things that the mayor uploaded and, hey, come to this holiday party, you know. Or come to the parade on this day, but you'd keep seeing the same thing until content creators start to add.

Speaker 3: 25:54

Now I see this leaves a huge piece for video podcasters like yourself, because, okay, I'm not necessarily a big sports guy. If I Go to the bar and I'm sitting there, you know, talking with a friend or something. I'm not what. What catches my eye is might be something in the news or something tech or something business. The problem is most bars don't have that. They don't have something that I would be interested in.

Speaker 3: 26:22

Tweeva brings that into the public space, okay, okay, that's where it would benefit you and every other content creator, because unless I'm at the bar and I'm searching dad Suggestions, dad podcast, which it would it's a small percentage of people that know that they have a problem and then they actually start searching that. It would be more of a beneficial for you to title something that I would read up there suggestions for small business dads and Mm-hmm and run that and I may scan that TV. It's like hey, click that barcode in the where's my finger here, click the barcode or the QR code down here in the corner, mm-hmm and you would then find the longer term, the longer version of the podcast. Right, you have to go to three minute clip. So that's the idea, but it's not a 30 minute show, it's a quick three minute clip and then maybe a contractor would create a piece of content.

Speaker 3: 27:21

Hey, this is how you lay bricks in your backyard or pavers in your backyard and now you're like, oh, is that guy? Well, it's Tweeva. You know that it's local, you know that it's gonna be something in your town. So that's how we're trying to create that network to allow you and me and right anyone else with a 4k camera in their pocket To be able to create content and share it, and they're building out being that community expert.

Speaker 2: 27:49

So Excellent, excellent Thank you. So this is fantastic, this is beautiful, sir, and and so so, how far you know so far, how does it? How does living in Florida you know so far? Let me see that's kind of you know. I was trying to see how you being in Florida, I think is you know with with the weather and everything else you know they created, you know like a unique family, you know like experience there. How do you recommend that to our listeners so far, oh, oh well, florida's, yeah, florida's a vacation state of.

Speaker 2: 28:21

You know this yeah.

Speaker 3: 28:22

It's like the Florida vets. But I was originally from New Jersey, so me and my wife were both from New Jersey and you know it was cold. You get your seasons change there. But we were both a little bit. We're not like that high, crazy fast New York, new Jersey. We were always kind of looking around like we just didn't feel like we belonged to that. And so she moved down to originally work with the Dolphins and she really wanted to go work at SeaWorld and that long-term didn't pan out correctly.

Speaker 3: 28:59

But we started building business and our friends here in Florida and it's a lot of fun. We used to have Disney, you know little cheaper tickets, and we would go float around in the water park every other weekend and get a little ice cream and you know what it felt like. You're on vacation every couple of weeks. That was a lot of fun. We loved doing that. But I think during COVID they kind of closed off the tickets and stuff like that for what we had specifically. But it's always a nice place to have family. I mean, I think you can build your family wherever you're at, I don't think it matters.

Speaker 3: 29:36

Find a couple of local things to do, create those little memories like ours, was float around in the tube, and then we would go get an ice cream and you know what, For $13 on a Saturday afternoon. The kids absolutely loved it. And what do we talk about when we can't do it? Oh, remember when we used to get those little Mickey sprinkles on the top and the big thing of whipped cream, and so they loved it. But it doesn't have to be here. You have something like that wherever you are.

Speaker 3: 30:06

Create a little bit of a tradition, something to do with the kids. If it could be a zoo or a state park and bring ice cream or something that they can go back to and remember what they were doing. You know your work is incredibly important but, like two hours, it really isn't that long out of a weekend to spend some time to do those specific things and those events. Changes. You get older. Right now, sometimes we go exercising and we'll be on our road bikes and there's a trail down here. They just paved over the railroad tracks and so now there's 30 miles of running, walking, biking, and so sometimes we do that. But yeah, definitely create some memories with the family by doing those things either in summer or in the fall.

Speaker 2: 30:58

Awesome, awesome. My friend, I know not much time left with us, but so far do you have any other nuggets or wisdom to dads in terms of you know, from your experiences you know, I know we have spoken about how the technology we can make useful to our families and stuff like the calendar situation. Any other things that you want to share that you think will be useful to us as dads?

Speaker 3: 31:24

Protect your little ones. You know that's always a thing with the internet. You know, when I grew up on the computer it wasn't well, we didn't have internet, and so we've seen several stories of how people are accessing different parts of the internet and they stumble across something. And so I would say it's very, very important from very early on to, as they get older, to have a filter, have something parental filter on there, because you are the one, you are the father and you are supposed to protect your family, and that is like number one protect them, and then you can bring them what you want. So if it's this kind of music or if it's that kind of artist, you can say, hey, this person is not right because of this, or this person is not right because of that, or this is a wrong way to connect with you know, like somebody in a video game. But that's number one.

Speaker 3: 32:22

We never really had unfiltered access, so I would. That's number one. You want to be able to teach your children how to connect to the world as they get older. So, as a dad, that's number one for me, seeing where the internet has evolved to Number one protection, because then after that you can go connect them where you need to. Hey, this is a networking group over here. It's not necessarily dad, I'm networking, I'm playing Roblox or I'm networking, I'm playing what's the other? Shoot them up games and they think, by putting the headphone on and the microphone, that I'm dad. I'm hanging up with my friends. Yeah, but the best people aren't always in there.

Speaker 3: 33:02

You know, and so we have to remember, as dads is, we can handle it. We're 30, we're 40, we're 50. They can't, their brains can't process it from seven, eight, nine, 10, 11. Even remember when you're 16 or 17 and you're curious, be the one to bring them through. I would say either the fire or bring them outside of the gate of what you're bringing them in, hold hands, bring them out and then bring them back in and teach them hey, this is what was wrong over here, this is what's wrong over there. And you'll be astonished by the benefits of that when they're older, saying yeah, yeah, I just wasn't thrown out there. You know, it's like leaving your kid in a mall, just saying, okay, have fun.

Speaker 2: 33:47

Yeah, you don't know what's going on. You're right.

Speaker 3: 33:50

Yeah, so I would leave with that and build a strong family, build a strong business. Business is just friendship with money. So start with your family, build it there and then continue your growth. That would be my best nugget.

Speaker 2: 34:02

Fantastic. Thank you, sir. And what one of the questions I was asked by the price. Prior prior guests was saying like what do you think is you know why dad's will say things that they will not do like you know? She was wondering why dad's will say things that, but they don't really go for it.

Speaker 3: 34:20

But they will say things like say things, is it a goal?

Speaker 2: 34:24

I guess, in terms of advising or running the family, they will say let's say, you know, like a supposed to exercise, or we're supposed to like do this, but then themselves they will be like on the other side of the town.

Speaker 3: 34:38

Why do we do that? We, we probably might have our mind in that, in that drawer, right. And so we're thinking, hey, I need to give advice, I have the best you know advice for this piece right now. But then we probably have a loss of Organization of our time. Like if we really could see forward what would happen if we exercised 20 minutes a day, or 20 minutes every three or four days. It would be different. We have very short term. Get things done now. You know, I don't.

Speaker 3: 35:11

I sometimes say to my family I don't talk that much, but when I do, it's important, because we'll sit and think about that thing for a while and then say, okay, guess what? You know, it's very good to exercise, yeah, but they haven't been thinking about that for 16 hours. You know, right, we were. But I think, as dads, that's part of that community where we should really hold each other accountable for those kinds of things. But it's kind of weird, don't you sometimes think that as guys, we just think, okay, you have it under control and I have it under control and everything's good right.

Speaker 3: 35:46

But we both think like well, maybe I'm better than this, I learned better than that person, but nobody's talking. Women will sit down and say, oh golly, my husband this or my kid this, and they start talking back and forth.

Speaker 2: 35:59

They're missing, that communication right, right.

Speaker 3: 36:02

So somehow we need to there. I use the word evolve because I doubt that will happen in the male brain here, but we can slowly teach ourselves to become a little bit better In that case. But I, but ultimately I think we know where we want to go, but sometimes it's just it's we don't exactly know how to get there or take that first step, and there's fear involved. I don't know. I I tend to do that too like this is a great idea. We should be doing this.

Speaker 2: 36:34

I think we'll keep it that in mind. I think it's a great. You know we need to work on that. We need to To have that involvement, you know, and do better with our communications and such. And my friend, do you have another question to the future? The next guest as it dad, like you know what kind of question you like for them to answer.

Speaker 3: 36:53

That's I didn't. That would withdraw me off a little bit. I don't know exactly what I would ask the next person, but Okay, I would have a lot of questions to ask, but I'd have to think about it.

Speaker 2: 37:09

Please, please, and let you know I share with me and then I will share in our description down the road. You know like when we produce the, the episode and also is any other new product. Or you know like you know you know like projects or initiatives that we should look out for that you're working on.

Speaker 3: 37:25

Yeah, I'm actually launching a another version of Tweeba out there that will help us on the social media side. So, okay, you know chat GPT everybody's talking about chat GPT and how the AI can help us and certain things, and so what I've done is I developed an API to chat GPT to be able to help us create Social media content. So every single day, if you're a small business or you're a you know you're in a small business it's gonna ping you every day like, hey, I Just created a great social media post. And if you're an Italian restaurant, it's gonna create something about Italian chicken, parmesan, you got a trite and crusted and this, and that it's getting.

Speaker 2: 38:03

Linguine on the side.

Speaker 3: 38:06

Please take a picture of your dish and send it off to up to 10 social networks. So I'm really kind of building that piece out. It's gonna be extremely affordable for those small businesses, because that's what I see Out there is I can't keep up with social media, it's too much Right, and so we're working on this project and trying to get it out in the next month, probably by the new year, thank you, so that would be nice.

Speaker 2: 38:28

So we are really looking forward to it. And how can people reach? Reach out to you, my friend.

Speaker 3: 38:35

You can visit the website at Tweebacom, or you can email me at Dave at Tweeba, tweebacom. Or just hit up. Hit us up on any kind of the socials. I mean, we're on all the socials, so I just find us at Tweeba. Awesome, awesome, and I'll be sharing all this information also in the description.

Speaker 2: 38:56

So thank you so much, debbie, for taking the time being with us. I really looking forward to seeing the great growth with your startups and it's amazing. Thank you again for being with us today, boss.

Speaker 3: 39:07

Thanks for having me. It was a lot of fun to talk about family life and Thanks for listening to dad puzzles.

Speaker 1: 39:14

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