Redefining Fatherhood: Jeff Wickersham's Journey to Foster a Community of Role Models

Ever feel like you're navigating fatherhood without a compass? Meet Jeff, a visionary dad and the founder of Warrior Dad, who's on a mission to chart a new course for fathers everywhere. In a world teeming with distractions, from the lure of a quick drink to the endless scroll of social media, Jeff's story is a beacon for dads aiming to be more than just the family's provider. He's here to talk about his ambitious goal to guide a million fathers by 2053 in becoming the rock-solid leaders their families deserve.

Our conversation cuts to the heart of what it means to be a dad today, tackling personal and professional challenges with a fresh set of weekly missions. It's about pushing boundaries, setting the bar high, and showing up consistently. We share tales of self-doubt monsters and how to slay them with a shield of self-identity and a sword of community support. The journey of fatherhood is fraught with pitfalls, but with the right tools and mindset, every dad has the potential to rise as a 'warrior dad,' ready to conquer the world's challenges and inspire the next generation.

But what of the vices that shadow us, the habits that can tarnish our legacies? This episode doesn’t shy away from the tough discussions on alcohol, pornography, and gambling. It's a raw look at the impact of our choices and the power of example we set for our kids. Jeff opens up about his own path to sobriety and its profound effect on his family. By the end, you'll be inspired to not only dream of a better legacy but to actively forge one, ensuring that the echoes of our actions will resonate with strength and resilience long after we're gone. Join us as we redefine what it means to be a dad in today's world and how every small step can lead to monumental change for generations to come.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Welcome to Dad Puzzles Everything Dad. If you're questioning yourself about dad functions, duties and life in general, you've come to the right place. Parenthood can be tough. Learning to juggle caring for your baby with your career and also keeping things fresh with your partner can be a struggle, but we're here to make things easier with helpful tips for making the most of your situation. Being a dad may seem like a puzzle, but it's one you can definitely solve. Now here's your host, dr Suleiman Ijani.

Speaker 2: 0:41

Welcome to Dad Puzzles. Today we have a special, extraordinary guest. He's a father like myself, like fellow fathers here, and he's a visionary founder of Orion. Dad Jeff's wish is to be a wikisham. His mission is nothing short of remarkable and I don't want to talk much about what he's doing. I would rather have himself speak about his great goals that he has for us. So please welcome today to Dad Puzzles. Today, jeff, thanks for having me. Yes sir, yes sir, can you please share with us, because we have this goal of uplifting lives of one million dads and also to have a brighter future for, subsequently, for kids, about two million of them by 2053. I don't know, this is awesome, man, and you have so much more going on. Can you please explain yourself what's going on? Who are we up to?

Speaker 3: 1:31

Yeah, it is a bold, big, audacious, and I like to call it a mission, right, not a goal, because a mission is a must, and that's my 30 year time horizon. That's where I'm headed. I'm just not satisfied where society and the world is headed. Okay, anger, polarization, hatred, all these things and I got to thinking in the beginning of 2023, how do we change the trajectory of where we're headed and how do we change that?

Speaker 3: 1:57

We change it with dads. Specifically, we change it in the families. Right, I feel like the family structure, the family foundation, has been eroded over time. Right, it's like the beach. Right, the sand's just getting washed away and dads don't know how to truly stand up and be leaders and be authentic and be vulnerable and be strong, but be caring and loving.

Speaker 3: 2:20

And there's so many vices out there, whether it's alcohol, porn, gambling, social media, all these distractions that are taking away from who they are as the leader of the family, and they truly are the tip of the spear for their families. And so many dads are stuck in a rut. They're just trying to get through the day. They're focused on work more than family and many are lone wolves where they're in that cave. They're fighting the demons, the dragons, those things that you face, that I face, that we all face, right by themselves. I want to bring those dads out into a community, into a brotherhood, because if the dad changes his daily actions, his intentionality and pouring into his family, all of a sudden the family dynamic changes and that's how I love to say, it takes only one dad to change that family tree forever.

Speaker 2: 3:13

That's fantastic, and I think that's where you mentioned this about being leading from the front, correct.

Speaker 3: 3:19

Yeah, we need to lead from the front right, and many I see it everywhere in society where so many times we're passively going through life, and I'll share. I wear a pink wristband on my right arm. I lost my mom a little over nine years ago to breast cancer. The fragility of life, two by four, smack me upside the head like we get one trip around the sun in this thing called life right. In addition, as dads, we only have our kids under our roof for 18 years. You have limited time, Absolutely. So what are you doing with that time? How are you setting them up for success? How are you creating leaders? How are you giving them the tools, the strategies, the tactics to thrive in life? And many times it's the things we didn't have. I teach my sons about things that I never even knew about until I was in my 40s. They're learning that at 10 and 12 years old.

Speaker 3: 4:11

I imagine how amazing that's going to be when they have a 30 year time horizon. So we need to be that tip of the spear. We need to lead from the front. Stop listening to what society says related to dads don't matter or men don't. It's so far from the truth and it's time we break free from those chains of sedation and we have that inner warrior inside and he's just waiting to get out. It's that itch on the back of your neck that, no matter what, you just can't scratch it. And that's your potential. And until you start that journey of realizing your potential, you're always going to be frustrated, you're always going to be depressed, you're always going to be anxious, you're always going to be thinking that something is missing, that leading from the front is so important. And then the family follows.

Speaker 2: 4:57

Oh, that's magic, Very beautifully said. And also I remember, a while ago, one of my very first guests, Dr Clarence Lee. He shared how, as far as following by as following our dreams, by living our dreams that is actually the best thing that you can do to our kids, Because that's what it is Like you're living like now, like you're teaching your kids things that you just found out yourself at this age. So, with learning, there's no, really there's no end to learning. We're all going to learn until the end of our time. So we're going to keep living like doing our best to be the best dads and also sharing that education with our kids going forward. That's beautiful, my friend. Thank you so much.

Speaker 2: 5:37

So so I know you mentioned that with your with the warrior dad, which is what, like your major project at the moment. You want dads to be uncommon, because lately things have been normalized in terms of being really not a good dad, and I think you want people to be, to be. There's a word that you mentioned in terms of, let's say, unapologetically, man dad. This is what I'm supposed to do, regardless of what the society says. That is, that's very beautiful. Can you explain further about that?

Speaker 3: 6:10

I think it's just such a great mantra to live by. I say dare to be uncommon. Right, and it is daring to be uncommon. It's easy to go the path of everybody else and I've taught my sons multiple times you see the path going that way. Choose to go the other, because the other is where you're gonna find progress. If there's a path through the forest, choose the darkest path, choose the darkest point and enter it. Where there's no path, and create your own path. That's a life to fulfillment. That's a life of thriving and mediocrity. Average common is everywhere.

Speaker 3: 6:48

It's so easy to just punt life, but I know, based upon the last deep conversation I had with my late mother, when you get to the end of your life, the thing that's gonna matter is the legacy being remember being uncommon, changing that family tree, giving your kids the tool, strategies, tactics to thrive. That's what's gonna. You're gonna remember and you'll have regrets when you are on your deathbed if you don't chase that best version of yourself. People don't worry about failures or chances they took that didn't work out. When they're at the end of their life. They worry about those chances they didn't take or maybe those moments that they could afford into their family, but they chose work over that or social media over being present with your kids. So daring to be uncommon. I just think that's a powerful way to live and we need more uncommon people in society. We need more uncommon dads to show the way for their kids. That's how we change the world together, as warrior dads.

Speaker 2: 7:52

That's awesome. And also I think you mentioned how you want us dads to focus on yourself first. So what are the key principles that you or ideas you want us, as dads, to really have them so that we can make yourself better, so that, in turn, we can make that change, share that change with our families?

Speaker 3: 8:11

Yeah, great question. And it's counterintuitive, right? When you hear I should improve myself first, you're like shouldn't I provide for my kiddos? Shouldn't I focus on them? Shouldn't I happy wife, happy life put myself? It's not true. You will be a worse version of yourself. You will not show up as the most powerful leader, dad, husband, man that you can be when you focus on everybody else.

Speaker 3: 8:35

I want you to take care of yourself first, because when you're in shape physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally you can run at a fast pace, you can bring energy to your kids, you can be more attentive to your wife. You can do all these things versus the other way feeling crappy about yourself, you're struggling mentally. You can't go up the steps without being out of breath, right, you don't have energy. You've got to take care of yourself first. When you do that, man, you operate from a different perspective. And I'm not saying do it all day, every day, but control.

Speaker 3: 9:09

I like to start with the foundation, control on the bookends. What do you do at night? What do you do first thing in the morning? That's what we can control. We can't control the chaos that happens throughout the day, but if you can control how you wind down, how you prepare for a great night's sleep, wake up in the morning, stack seven wins in 1% of your day, which is 14 minutes 24 seconds. Man, you're gonna be an energetic, powerful force and the family's gonna feed off of that, and we need to be that warrior. And what warriors are in shape, physically and mentally. Warriors go to battle and fight every day. We need to embrace that warrior mentality and then we get up and we start attacking, and then our kids do, then our wives do, and then we're like almost a sports team as a family, and then we're all supporting each other, cheering each other on, and it's amazingly powerful to watch the dynamic change.

Speaker 2: 9:59

Oh, that's beautiful. So those are the key practices in terms of taking care of both ends of our days and like making sure that we have a good mentality, which comes with being active. That's beautiful. What are the activities Like in terms of? Is there any particular activities that dads can do in terms of, let's say, exercises? What do you recommend for them If they cannot afford going to the gym? Things that they can do themselves, maybe at home, or something, or activities with kids. Is there anything you recommend for them?

Speaker 3: 10:28

Yes, I have three non-negotiables that I've done every day for the past six plus years. One is first thing you wake up, drink a full glass of water. Our body has made 60 plus percent of water, vital organs 70 plus percent. Drink a full glass of water, that's gonna hydrate the system. Longest stretch of the day you go without water is when you're sleeping. So you gotta rehydrate the system. Number two you gotta move. That could be going up and down the stairs five times. It could be going for a walk. It could be 10 burpees. I do pushups, air squats and sit ups every morning to get the body, to get the energy naturally moving. We are meant to move but yet, as men, we're sitting almost all day long.

Speaker 2: 11:10

It's gonna be a diverse yeah.

Speaker 3: 11:12

So you wanna change your energy, change the dynamic of moving. In the morning you got water, you hydrated the system, you got movement. Last one is meditation. Right, we got Physical repping, now we need to get a mental repping. Could be as simple as just breathing. Six, count in through the nose. Two, second, hold seven seconds out. Do that four times. That's a minute of meditation. I've meditated for six straight years at least ten minutes a day. Why it's mental reps? It gives me the ability to pause when something happens, right, and step in between that stimulus and response, right, victor Frankel in his famous book man search for meaning. He says that's the true freedom in life. Right, something happens. Instead of being reactionary and thought flying off the handle, we choose our response, right. So, water, movement, meditation, those are three things you can do anywhere in the world. I don't care if you're on vacation, traveling for work, and you get some semblance of progress before you let anything else come in from a an input perspective.

Speaker 2: 12:09

Oh, that's beautiful, Thank you. And also, how can folks they say want to, if they want to follow these, to learn this and more by joining your group? The worry dad. You know what they. What are they expecting to gain by by by being with you, my friend?

Speaker 3: 12:25

Yeah, three, three staples that I I say are essential to success in life. Energy You're gonna dial in your energy. You're gonna play at a higher level than you've played in some time, right, or maybe ever. You're gonna get consistency. I like to say consistency is the ultimate force multiplier. Right, you're gonna do these things day in and day out, right?

Speaker 3: 12:46

So many times we do things for a week, two weeks, three weeks, and then the results aren't there. We give up, right, but you might have been a week away from actually hitting your target, right? Consistency, day in and day out. When we show up consistently, then we step into the best version of ourselves. And, lastly, you're gonna be held accountable. If you're not showing up, I'm gonna be on your butt to show up, because as adults, especially as men, we get to Be dads and there's not really anybody holding us accountable. Maybe, if you work for somebody, there's a little accountability there, but it's pretty easy just to be average and not get fired. Now I hold you accountable to to chase the best version of yourself day in and day out. So those are our three kind of staples to the warrior dad experience.

Speaker 2: 13:28

Okay, so, like normally, like the challenges that we face as dads normally will be Taking care of the family, making sure that we are there for them and making sure everybody is doing better in there In in the aspects where they school for kids and wife, with the projects, etc. And also we have our own personal growth that you mentioned, which I love, the those, those things that you mentioned that we can do to better ourselves. And then you also have our career as aspects. So we have all these three things going on with us. So how do you, as a warrior dad, put that intentionality and balance into all that?

Speaker 3: 14:05

Yeah, we set on a weekly basis three missions, and again, I'm huge on land.

Speaker 2: 14:09

Goals are corporate speak.

Speaker 3: 14:12

Goal missions are a must, and I love the power of the number three. Okay, we set one big domino to knock over personally. Do we ever strategically think on a weekly basis hey, what's one big domino I need to knock over this week? Many times we don't because we're just busy, we're going right. What's one big domino we want to knock over professionally? And then what's one big domino you want to knock over? That's uncomfortable, maybe we procrastinate on it.

Speaker 3: 14:36

So we strategically think about that on a daily basis. We get it into our messaging app, right, our chat, because you put it in there, you're 42% more likely to achieve those things. Right, but that's strategic thinking. Hey, what do I want to do this week in those three areas? Then you put it in, then you chase it, then you get that stuff done. Right, it's one thing to say it and so many people, so many dads, say something, but then they never do it. Absolutely. That erodes the trust that their wives have in them, right, because they say something, then they never follow through. So I love personal, professional, uncomfortable missions on a weekly basis and that gets you a movement in those three areas that you had mentioned.

Speaker 2: 15:15

That's beautiful and I think this is important because a lot of times we have things that we have to do them because they're urgent and they're important. So the things that you mentioned, that we have to track them over every week, those are things that are important but we haven't put the urgency because there's no deadline on it. So by placing this deadline on a weekly basis or daily, that's beautiful, it pushes them into the quadrant of. This is necessary. They have to be done. That's beautiful, my friend. That's beautiful. Yes, sir, I like how you use the word mission, by the way, not the goals, that's good.

Speaker 2: 15:46

So another mission is about eliminating this negative self, like self talk a lot of times. You have some personal demons, so how do you normally, you know, fight that? How do you encourage dads to fight that? What are the means that you have to share with that? So two ways right. One is you got to define who you're going to be.

Speaker 3: 16:04

What's your identity? You ask a hundred dads who they are, they 99 would say I have no clue. Identity. Who the heck? I'm a dad, right, okay. But who do you want to show up as in that dad's capacity, that husband capacity? How do you want to show up from a work capacity, with their career or own in your own business? Who are you? And then, how do you want to show up from an energy perspective? So defining your identity is an absolute game changer.

Speaker 3: 16:27

Why so many times we rely on how we feel? Well, when you rely on how you feel, many times we don't feel like doing the things we're supposed to do. So what happens? You don't take action. Then what subsequently happens?

Speaker 3: 16:41

Your identity arose, right, you feel crap. You're about yourself. You look at yourself in the mirror and you're like man, I'm a failure day in and day out. That's that hopelessness, that's that just depression that so many Dads fall into. Right, I like to flip it around. Say identity first, then you take action upon your daddy and then you know what you feel good about it. You start to spiral up. So you got to find who you are from identity perspective, okay, okay. Then you've got to feed that positive wolf, that positive dog, all day long when you feel that self-doubt creeping, when you feel and we all have one or two negative, automatic, negative beliefs that we've taken from childhood. I had one that I wasn't good enough, mmm, that I wasn't worthy, mmm, I fight that demon, that dragon. I still do it to this day. He's never gonna go away. I know that. But I got to feed the positive side. So, being around Groups of dad specifically that are on the attack, that are fighting right, I'm the tip of the spear for the warrior dad experience. I lead by example, I get those dads moving and then it starts to build. The other is feeding your mind with positive Self-talk and I listen to YouTube videos from some of the greatest motivational speakers in the world While I'm in the gym, while I'm in the shower, while just before this I was cooking breakfast, I had less brown Tony Robbins, eric Thomas cheering me on why? Cuz? It fires me up. And I feed that positive wolf, versus how so many dads operate.

Speaker 3: 18:11

Mm-hmm, they're scrolling through social media. You got comparison theory of everybody's highlight reel. Mm-hmm, they're looking at the news that it's toxic, it's all negative. Mm-hmm, they're checking email and just scrolling through it. They know you got to feed that positive wolf, right. That will help Propel you to be stronger, to to be bolder, to be more courageous. And it's amazing how, when you do that, especially early in the morning, mm-hmm. It lights you up, so defining your identity. Who are you, mm-hmm? And it and it can be Somebody in the future. Right, you can future pace your success, right? That's how I want to show up as daily and then feeding that positive wolf, that positive dog, day in and day out, mm-hmm, it makes you a powerful force.

Speaker 2: 18:54

Well, that's beautiful and because actually, by the way, you should not feel Alone on this aspect. Many folks that actually went like when you're learning about a subject, you get to a point where you feel like because you don't know how much you don't know yet you get that uncomfortableness. So people that feel very comfortable with the subjects, they most of the time, whether they they can be knowing the subject or they can be the not knowing as much that they don't even face what, what if so, it's good that you do worry about yourself being better so you push yourself to do better. And one of the things that really I use it to, also among Listening to folks, is trying to remember that big picture like why am I doing this?

Speaker 2: 19:40

We are doing this because of the impact, like making the impact on somebody that in turn can impact their families and such and the community, essentially me. When I remember that I'm said that the negative stalk, that the negative Self-talk just dies down. But it's good to really continue with exercises and and listening to the dispassive talks. I think that's very important and because some people they have it in a way that is Very severe, that is a disease, like he goes into depression and such like. They hear that the negative talk and to the point where they need medication or like, is Like you have.

Speaker 3: 20:19

Yeah, here I've worked with dads. Yeah, that have been on anxiety medications. Yeah, when we've dialed in the bookends, yeah, they've gotten completely off the anxiety medication. See, because they're controlling Some semblance and typically anxiety depression falls in. Where they wake up, they go to negativity. They're looking at the news, they're looking at what they got to do today and it just spirals out of control versus Stacking wins, feeling progress, feel momentum, feeling good about yourself that you can do right without that medication piece, right. So it's been amazing to watch that transpire and those dads transform through being in that space.

Speaker 2: 20:57

That's beautiful, my friend, and I'm happy that we're in this space, we're doing this and so that we can only become better, better fathers, better communities. So, my friend, we have these societal issues where sometimes, dads, we are pressured to do things that let's say they're not necessarily Good for us, or just the common misconceptions. Can you talk a little bit about that? And how does the warrior dad Talk about this issue?

Speaker 3: 21:23

Yeah, we're inundated as men, as dads, with vices. You watch a football game, there's alcohol is everywhere, gambling is everywhere and maybe you have half dressed women dancing around as as well. And those are the big three, right? Alcohol, porn and gambling. When you go down that path, you're gonna get an immediate dopamine hit. But, man, it erodes of of who you are. Right, you might feel good in the moment and that's why it's so addictive and so dopamine producing, but then you have the regret afterwards. That's not truly who I am, but so many people are just stuck in the matrix. I like to say where they're just. This is the way I should act. Hold on a second. Is that truly the way you should act? And I've gone through each one of those three areas personally. Right, I gave up alcohol two years ago. Why? To set the example for my two teenage sons that there's a different path. I just had two weeks ago, my oldest son was at a party with alcohol and tobacco and vaping. He asked me to pick him up early. He said dad, that's not me, he made that choice.

Speaker 3: 22:27

In the moment, we're sedated to just be these buffoon dad, bod, right, and it's just not the case. Man, be the best version of yourself, that leads to fulfillment, that will lead to happiness at a different level than you have ever felt in your life. And those vices, they're out there for a reason, right. They're so addictive, they're so just eroding who we are as men. So you got to watch out for them. You got to get around others that are doing that path, that virtuous path of stepping away from them, being the best version. When you're around that group, it's a lot easier to say no to those things. Yeah, they're just out there in their mind, fields for dads to navigate, and many times they're just struggling with that component.

Speaker 2: 23:16

My friend I was actually making it official here as I was speaking to you I have been approached by Fox with the gambling, because in sports whether it's football, soccer, I think nowadays we're taught with the MMA as well we have a lot of gambling. So I've been saying no to them because I don't want to create a problem to fathers. My goal is to create positivity in that, because if people lose their homes or their life savings and all these things, what am I going to tell? Like what? I'm going to be responsible as well. So I'm with you, my friend no gambling, no alcohol. Yes, sir, perfect, my friend. So that's that. That's beautiful. And what about? We have these issues of creating legacy, because some people they will court the Bible, for instance, in terms of like children, like you're trying to create that effect that is not going to only last for you, but also your kids and your kids as well. So how do you? What's the warrior dad's legacy goal?

Speaker 3: 24:12

Yeah, it's that one dad changing his family tree forever. And I go back to the late conversation with my late mother. She was scared she was going to be forgotten. Imagine being at the end of your life and that's what you're so fearful that I'm just going to be forgotten. And I remember the conversation like it was yesterday. It was nine plus years ago and I was in the car I was taking her down to University of Penn for a radiation treatment and I didn't know it, but the Patan was passed from her to me in that moment.

Speaker 3: 24:42

Looking back, I connected dots right. I love Steve Jobs Stanford's commencement speech when he says, hey, you just got to have faith and belief that, looking back, the dots will connect. Looking back, I told her that your positivity, your hope, will live on through me and my two boys, and it is so at the end. If that's what we're worried about being forgotten today, you need to start creating that legacy and I feel like, as dads, it's our duty. As dads, we have been gifted with one of the most amazing things ever Greatest gift I've ever been getting given is having two sons. We need to set our kids up. We need to give them those things we didn't have strategies, tools, tactics. And I'm not saying material things, I'm saying how do they embody grit, hard work, effort, tenacity, relentlessness, those type of things? That's what we need to instill in that next generation, because, I will tell you, I am that one dad that will change my family tree forever and the legacy is going to last generations after generations, and this is why the 1 million to 2 million is so powerful.

Speaker 3: 25:48

Imagine that. Three generations down the road and it's 16 million people we've impacted. Then we've made a dent in the universe. We've made a change in the world for good and for families to play all out and be so connected and love each other the way we truly want to. But so many times we're sedated, we don't know the roadmap, we don't have the system. Life's kicking our butt. There is a different path, right Back to that word. It's an uncommon path. You've got to have the courage to step through the door. But if you have the courage to step through the door, I will teach you the strategies, tactics and tools to leverage yourself, but also to share with your family and your kids and your wives to do the same thing. Yep.

Speaker 2: 26:34

That's beautiful. I know you've shared this is like a couple times about your mom. May she rest in peace. So was she the only one that raised you? Can you tell us a little bit about your parents?

Speaker 3: 26:45

Yeah, no, I had great parents growing up. My dad is still around. I'm impacting the generation up now because he's working out with me a couple days a week and he sees a lot of his friends dying because they stop moving, they stop being active.

Speaker 3: 27:00

He's 77 years young, he's still driving. He's been a volunteer fireman for 40-some years. He's still driving a fire truck, still active, still positive as far as from an energetic perspective. And while he took the Hope side from my mother, I would say the positive side came from my dad. He's known as positive Paul. Hmm, right, always upbeat positive, and that's a great dynamic that I was able to take from both of those sides of the of the equation.

Speaker 2: 27:28

Oh, that's beautiful. I have one of the question. One of the guests she. I had asked her what question would you like to ask for me to ask the next guest? There's a dad. She said that what is the moment that made you, what is that one particular moment that made you feel like, oh yes, I have to be the best father, I think, for you. Go ahead, my friend.

Speaker 3: 27:51

Yeah, I would say there's multiple moments, but I'll pick one out.

Speaker 3: 27:54

That Started me on this journey and I left corporate America a couple years after my mom passed and opened up a Gym local boutique gym because I was always into physical fitness and multiple iterations.

Speaker 3: 28:07

Here I am with the warrior dad, but I remember back in the gym I was still doing the things I had done in my 20s and 30s and I remember it was a Friday night and I hung out and played cards with the buddies and drank beer till 2 30 in the morning, woke up, need to teach a fitness class at 8 am, went to kiss my wife before I left and she asked me. She said I gotta be honest, how are you gonna go teach a fitness class when you reek of alcohol, mm-hmm. And I said whoo, that's a powerful truth bomb. You sent my way. And those kind of moments were moments to say wait a second. Is this example I want to set for my sons? This is the example I want to set for my family and my legacy, and that that's one example that kind of pops out that definitely always, always resonates with me.

Speaker 2: 28:52

Okay, so what are the questions would you like to share? To ask the next dad in our podcast about fatherhood Sorry, this is yeah.

Speaker 3: 29:00

No, I would say what are you doing? What are you doing to impact others around you? Mm-hmm, on a daily basis? Okay, right, that's a powerful question to ask yourself, and so many times I mentioned this a couple times in the podcast we're just go-going, we're busy. We're not intentionally like giving energy to somebody. We're not intentionally saying hey, have a great day. He asked hundred people, 99 will say how's your day going? That's good. Yeah, I don't want good.

Speaker 3: 29:26

I want great, I want amazing, I want epic, I want legendary, and people look at me like I got two heads when I say those sort of things. But that's. I got the ability to wake up and breathe air today. What else I got? The ability to hug and kiss my sons and my wife. You know how awesome that is right. It's just amazing. And too many times we're missing those micro moments because we're focused on BS. That doesn't matter. Mm-hmm, we're hey, got an opportunity to have another day. That's amazing.

Speaker 2: 29:55

That's amazing, my friend. So this is really it's been an inspiring talk and I really appreciate you coming to our podcast today and you being the driving force of of warrior dad. I hope folks can look you up and join you and learn from you as well, because we need that knowledge to be passed on. So thank you so much for really sharing these, these valuable insights with us and for us as dads. Really, we have to remember all the great points that that you have mentioned and People. Please go ahead and follow Jeff at his Website, warrior dad, and get my subscribe and he will send you some information and you will definitely get some more info there as well and visit us on dad puzzles. That come as well and I sign up. We are preparing some great newsletter that can be, but be really helpful to you and the community as well. Thanks so much for listening to us today. Thank you.

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