63. How to Tell Your Child About Their Anonymous Donor?

In this short solo episode Adele O'Connor proud donor egg mama and fertilty coach, discusses the best strategies for introducing donor egg children to their origin story. This episode was inspired by a question from her community: Once you have a child conceived via donor egg, how do you actually introduce this to them? My donor was anonymous and I have only very basic information about my donor. I don’t want my children to resent me.

You will learn:

• Addressing the fear of potential resentment from donor egg children due to the use of an anonymous donor.
• Providing resources and practical advice for making the conversation natural and age-appropriate.

Key Points:

• Start Early and Be Honest: Introduce your child’s story from a young age to normalize their unique origin.
• Use Resources: Utilize storybooks and professional support to help explain the concept in a child-friendly manner.
• Focus on Love and Openness: Emphasize love, validate their emotions, don't make it about you. 
• Create an open environment for questions and emotions.
• Remember this is not just a one off conversation but an evolving dialogues that continues as your child grows and moves through each stage of development.
• Highlight the importance of integrating the story into family traditions and seeking professional support if needed.
• Encouragement to connect with other donor-conceived families for support and shared experiences.

Additional Resources:

Mentioned books: "The Pea That Was Me" by Kimberly Kluger-Bell, "The Search for the Magical Egg" by Becky Morrison, "The Journey to You" by Natalie Hart, the amazing series of books called