Elevating Women Leaders Beyond Self-Doubt and Limiting Beliefs - Part 1
May 22, 2024
Hank Eder / Nicole Majik
Unlock the secrets of transcending self-sabotage and achieving fearless authenticity with Nicole Majik, the leadership and empowerment strategist with a golden brain, on our latest Home Business Success Show. Delve into her Alchemy of Transformation program, where cognitive behavioral therapy meets neurolinguistic programming to empower women leaders and sales teams to reach unparalleled success. Nicole brings a blend of scientific rigor and metaphysical insight, providing a rare perspective shaped by her own life-altering experiences. Her approach is not just about professional triumph but also about aligning one's life with true passion and purpose, a journey she's navigated firsthand.
The perils of pride and greed in business are often underestimated, but we tackle them head-on, spotlighting Seven Deadly Business Beliefs that could be holding you back. Nicole's strategies invite a deep reflection on the very foundations of your business ethos, challenging you to question the evidence behind your infallibility and reconsider what true success looks like. By fostering humility and redefining wealth, we pave the way for collaboration and a more holistic vision of achievement. If you're ready to recalibrate your business mindset for lasting success, Nicole's insights are the catalyst you need. Join us for an episode that promises to reshape the way you navigate the business world.
Unlock the secrets of transcending self-sabotage and achieving fearless authenticity with Nicole Majik, the leadership and empowerment strategist with a golden brain, on our latest Home Business Success Show. Delve into her Alchemy of Transformation program, where cognitive behavioral therapy meets neurolinguistic programming to empower women leaders and sales teams to reach unparalleled success. Nicole brings a blend of scientific rigor and metaphysical insight, providing a rare perspective shaped by her own life-altering experiences. Her approach is not just about professional triumph but also about aligning one's life with true passion and purpose, a journey she's navigated firsthand.
The perils of pride and greed in business are often underestimated, but we tackle them head-on, spotlighting Seven Deadly Business Beliefs that could be holding you back. Nicole's strategies invite a deep reflection on the very foundations of your business ethos, challenging you to question the evidence behind your infallibility and reconsider what true success looks like. By fostering humility and redefining wealth, we pave the way for collaboration and a more holistic vision of achievement. If you're ready to recalibrate your business mindset for lasting success, Nicole's insights are the catalyst you need. Join us for an episode that promises to reshape the way you navigate the business world.
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Hank:
Welcome to the Home Business Success Show. Join us as we speak to home business entrepreneurs for tips, tricks, do's and even don'ts for running a successful home business.
Hank:
Welcome everyone. I'm Hank Eder, also known as Hank the PR Guy, host of the Home Business Success Show, and you're listening to bizradious all entrepreneurs all the time. Our guest today, Nicole Magic, has a unique blend of academic prowess, including a bachelor's degree in biology and chemistry. A bachelor's degree in biology and chemistry and a master's degree in metaphysics, coupled with real-world experience as a financial advisor, nicole brings a wealth of knowledge to the table, but it doesn't stop there. As an accomplished leadership and empowerment strategist, nicole has honed her craft to create a life-changing program the Alchemy of Transformation.
Hank:
This program goes beyond surface-level change. It's about awakening your true potential, erasing limiting beliefs and guiding you towards a life of fulfillment without compromise. Nicole's expertise has taken her to various platforms, from radio shows to local TV and even to the travel channel for appearances on shows like the Greatest Mysteries, Smithsonian and Beyond the Unknown. Join us as we delve into Nicole's strategic approach, combining the alchemy of transformation, cognitive behavioral therapy and neurolinguistic programming techniques to help you overcome self-sabotage and turn obstacles into opportunities for success. We'll be doing this interview in two parts and we'll be taking a deep dive into overcoming seven deadly beliefs in business. Welcome to the show, nicole Hi.
Nicole:
Hank, thanks for having me. So good to be here.
Hank:
You're welcome If you would just give us a few words about what you do, so our audience can wrap their brains around it.
Nicole:
I used to be a chemist, so I was a leader in chemistry, and I take that leadership and conscious leadership skills, world life experiences, near-death experiences as well, and bundle them all up into the alchemy of transformation, where I help women leaders and sales team leaders to go ahead, ahead and embrace their true potential, living fearlessly authentic and harnessing the trueness of their business, aligning it with their passion, their sole purpose, and achieving that success that they deserve.
Hank:
That's a lot of things to bring to the table, because some people would consider some of those things being kind of opposites, which sometimes, as we know, opposites can really attract.
Nicole:
True. Yet I have this thing that they call the golden brain, so I operate using both sides of the brain and I incorporate that so I can make things make sense for a whole lot of people. So that's why I can have an eclectic audience and still be able to tap into their needs and be able to bring them to where they need to go.
Hank:
Very cool For our audience. As far as I can recall, the golden brain is the ability to tap into the left side of the brain and the right side of the brain, equally creative side, and the analytical side, and I don't remember what the percentage of people that have been found to have a golden brain are. Can you remind me of that?
Nicole:
Oh, it's been so long since I went into that, but it's a very low percentage. I don't know if it's less than 5% or something. I can't remember right now, but it's a very low percentage. I don't know if it's less than 5% or something. I can't remember right now, but it's low.
Hank:
Yeah, I seem to be recalling, now that you mentioned it, maybe around 5%. Well, let's move on, and I want to ask you about this Helping people overcome obstacles is a very big part of what you do. When I spoke to you recently, we discussed seven deadly beliefs in business. What are those and what are some of the ways we might overcome them?
Nicole:
Well, let's go through them and we're taking a spin on the seven deadly sins—pride greed, wrath, envy, lust, gluttony and sloth. So we're looking at those. So we'll start off with pride. And when we look at pride in business, it is the belief that in unassailability right that you're not liable to doubt, attack or question. And for the listeners out there you can kind of put into perspective, especially if you work in corporate America, think about some of the bosses that you've had.
Nicole:
Maybe you've had a boss or a manager or a coworker even that felt that they're invincible, my way is the only way. So that's kind of that belief is I know everything or my way is the best way, even though they can acknowledge there are other ways to do things, their way is the best way. So this basically stems from an inflated ego, the desire for superiority, and the behaviors that get displayed are they feel the need to be dominant. They're unwilling to listen or collaborate with others. They dismiss others' input. Their ego gets in the way by refusing to admit their mistakes or any weaknesses that they might have. So they insist on being the sole decision maker. Therefore they need to have that control right. Yeah, I think we can all think of somebody that we've encountered in life and in business Right.
Hank:
I just want to bring up this one thing. Many, many years ago I probably was 23 years old, I was a reporter and I was leaving one venue of the newspaper and looking around for finding a different one and I interviewed at this one paper, a very small paper somewhere in South Florida, and I had been interviewing for a graphics design position, which was like a 180 for me because I could do it, but I was a reporter. But I went to that interview and I was met by a very unpleasant man and he told me there's two ways of doing things here the wrong way and my way. The next day I called for the graphics art position. I said I couldn't work for that person. Yeah, so I know right where you're coming from.
Nicole:
Yeah, those are the people that make people run and hide. You know, they have this cognitive distortion with this overestimation of their own abilities and the underestimation of risks. So a question I like to ask debunking questions, right? So what is a debunking question that we can ask about this is you know what evidence actually supports my infallibility, right? So we're looking at this from the self. And where might you act in those ways?
Nicole:
If you feel that you need to control things or you have to do it, or if it's going to take too long for someone else to do it, that you're going to have to do it?
Nicole:
That's the way it shows up in my clients, where it's like, oh yeah, I do have that, I do have that.
Nicole:
And if you're an overachiever, really take a look at the awareness around this, because there is that sense that I have to do everything in order for it to be right, or people have to do everything my way in order for it to be right. So what evidence supports my infallibility is what you can ask yourself. Or how have past failures challenged that belief that you have, that you know everything has to be done, that one particular way we can reframe that belief by really embracing humility and acknowledging that there is value in diverse perspectives. So getting curious around what other people have to offer and then determining does that help the situation. So the action that you can take is actively seeking feedback which might be a really bad F word for some people in that situation feedback and input from others, because the feedback is not an attack on you, it's a collaborative effort to then elevate the whole team. So just remember that. So that's how you can practice humility by actively seeking that feedback and be open to constructive criticism and cultivate that spirit of cooperation Right Now.
Hank:
I found that some of the best leaders are the ones who do surround themselves with very competent people, and they listen to them. They're not like standing there cracking the whip and being the last word on everything. So, yeah, yeah.
Nicole:
Exactly Because when you're in a position of true conscious leadership, you want to hear what other people have to say, because that is going to be a guiding force to go and grow and develop a business in a way in which that maybe this one person hasn't thought of, because we're not perfect. And fostering that collaboration and acknowledging that there are strengths in others and bringing that inclusivity into that environment allows for people to express themselves authentically and be in that vulnerable space to throw out an idea, and maybe it will be great and maybe it will not be good at all, but to be able to throw that out and be in a safe environment to even discuss it is super important for that.
Hank:
Okay. Well, for the sake of the time that we've got, let's move on to number two. What's the number two?
Nicole:
Number two yeah, so perfect timing too, because that was wrapping that up. So two is greed, the belief in insatiable acquisition. So if we look at that in business, the belief is more is always better and that success is measured by material wealth. And is that really true? Well, some people have that belief that that is that it's rooted in the fear of scarcity and the pursuit of status at the same time. So it can originate from that scarcity mindset where individuals believe that resources are limited and one has to accumulate and maybe even hoard, so it's like a hoarder mentality to ensure that personal security and success are solidified in their world. So it's reinforced by different societal cultural messages that equate to wealth is success, wealth is power, wealth is value. So you're associating your wealth and worth.
Hank:
That's like that other definition of the golden rule Whoever has the gold makes the rules.
Nicole:
Yes, indeed For sure. If you think about whether it's your behaviors or people that you've worked with, think about the people that kind of hoard the resources you know, the people that exploit others for personal gain. We're prioritizing profit over ethics, and my favorite is I've known so many people, especially in the sciences, when I was a chemist. People would withhold information from others to feel or hold like it's like job security or something that I have to be needed. So therefore, I'm going to withhold the information so that I'm the one that people are coming to and I'm the one who's looked at as an expert, instead of allowing for that transparency and collaboration.
Hank:
That is specifically a scarcity mindset, because there's really enough information and there's enough of everything really to go around for everyone. But I also saw that I mean I noticed that 40 years ago in jobs that I was working in and I believe that today it's a mindset that's part of the older world that's dying away, with some of the people of my generation, for example. Yeah, absolutely.
Nicole:
It's sad, actually it's sad to think that people have such insecurities and you're going to start seeing that some of these overlap and they feed into each other. So it's this propagation and propelling and just amplification of this negative type of situation which just brings that person deeper into that snare. So when you're exploiting others for personal gain or taking advantage of employees, customers or suppliers for personal profit, if you're disregarding people's well-being or rights, that's this, it's all about the greed. So the cognitive distortion that goes along with that is equating that wealth to worth disregarding the human cost right. So it's that zero-sum thinking which assumes that you know if someone else is going to gain, then someone else has to lose. So I have to be in that situation to be in the game.
Hank:
I told that to one of my clients yesterday or the day before. You are a winner. Nobody else has to lose in order for you to continue winning.
Nicole:
Exactly yeah.
Hank:
Anyway, let's check out number three All right.
Nicole:
So number three is about wrath, the belief in vindictive justice right. So those who wrong me must be punished. Revenge is justified in this belief. So when you look at people who are behaving hostile, right, Hostile behavior towards competitors, micromanagement, that the people that foster a toxic work environment, those are the people that have this way of thinking, that you know, if I'm wrong, there's a certain amount of entitlement that they believe in for themselves because they have had trauma and pain and hurt in the past. So it stems from unresolved anger and the desire for retribution.
Hank:
Who hasn't had unresolved pain and loss in their past. But there are ways to move beyond it, to make it. You know, so many people think that where they've been is where they are. It really is not.
Nicole:
Right and then they propagate that forward. So it's that cognitive distortion between the blurred lines of justice and vengeance like which is right. Right, we can go into superheroes and super villains at this point. But the debunking question might be you know how does retaliation serve the greater good? It doesn't, and what alternative approaches promote resolution instead of you know what you're doing because you're overlooking long-term consequences. So, fostering a culture of forgiveness and conflict resolution, prioritizing constructive dialogue Again, sometimes it goes back to that feedback. Again, sometimes it goes back to that feedback.
Nicole:
So implementing mediation and conflict resolution is going to be the biggest part of this and understanding.
Hank:
Yeah, before I ask you about number four, I want to say that I've heard people say that forgiveness it is sort of for the other person but it's more for ourselves, because if we don't forgive, we're allowing that person to live rent-free in our brain and we're using up our valuable time and energy on that person. So through forgiveness and just letting it go, we can move on to something else.
Nicole:
Right, and sometimes we're unforgiving because we're still seeing some of that within ourselves. And if you look at that type of situation somebody who is trying to retaliate and lashing out in anger it sparks that in you. So that's why things get amplified and magnified to a point where it's explosive, and magnified to a point where it's explosive. So allowing yourself to forgive the other person and yourself is really the way to go. It's true, you give your power over if you're not able to do that.
Hank:
Yes, you give away your power to others that way. Let's get into number four.
Nicole:
Ooh, big one Envy, right Envy. When people are in the state of envy, there's this belief in their own inadequacy, so the I am not enough comes out, or the belief that I must have what others possess because their success diminishes mine. So that kind of goes along with that. You know, zero mentality, right, a little bit about that. And so if you're looking at it as I'm not enough and I want what others have because I don't feel adequate enough to get there, I don't feel skilled enough to get there, it's rooted in that insecurity and also something that I see a lot in my clients the comparison to others else. Like if you start a business and you're looking at somebody else who is successful in that business, you're looking at that person like, oh, they got there and it was so easy for them.
Nicole:
And you know you compare your greatest perception of that person to your lowest perception of yourself and it's it doesn't equate at all, because you have no idea what that person went through, the work that they had to do, where they started off to where they are now and what's going on in their life right now, either because nobody knows that with you either, and you look at it and you're seeing. You know I've had all these challenges and all this stress, and maybe I had health issues or family stuff, and you know, I started with nothing. Maybe, and maybe you'd think that that person started with nothing, but they might have started with a hundred thousand dollars backing them up. You don't know. You don't know where they're at, so it's incomparable.
Nicole:
So the behaviors that people elicit under this is undermining peers, sabotaging competitors, obsessing over rivals achievements, right. And if we think about I mean I'm going to date myself here, because when I was young it was the big Tanya Harding and Nancy Kerrigan, right, the figure skaters where Tanya whacked Nancy with her leg with a baton and took her out of the competition, well, guess what Tanya did too Took herself out of the competition. So you're obsessed over rivals' achievements to the point where you're going to do things that are just not right and they're not humane either. So ignoring your individual strengths, fixating on perceived shortcomings, is the cognitive distortion that goes along with that.
Hank:
You know, it's very interesting that envy is caused by a lack of self-esteem and this notion that we're not enough, because you know we want these things. But then sometimes we find faults in others and we lash out at others, and so many times, whatever it is that annoys us about someone else is something that we're not facing in ourselves, that we have unresolved issues about and have to let that go, and once we do, then we're not dealing with that particular deadly habit or deadly practice.
Nicole:
Yeah, and really reframing it to cultivate gratitude and celebrate other successes as more of an inspiration rather than a threat or an attack on your own ability. So shifting that focus to personal goals and development and setting those milestones for yourself based on your own progress rather than those external comparisons.
Hank:
Very cool. Well, you know we're pretty much running out of time for part one here, so if you would please tell our listeners where they can find you and how they can connect if they would like to work with you.
Nicole:
So you can connect with me on magicllccom or my marketplace is also NicoleMagiccom, and if you want to just set up a quick 15-minute is-this-right-for-me, call it's NicoleMagicasme.
Hank:
And I'd like to tell our listeners that magic is M-A-J-I-K, m-a-j-i-k. Well, thanks for being here with us today, nicole, and to our listeners, don't miss part two of this interview with Nicole Magic next Wednesday on the Home Business Success Show right here on bizradious. Remember, you can achieve success, freedom and independence in your own home-based business. I've done it, nicole has done it, and you can too. I'll see you next week. This is Hank Eder, wishing all of you a fabulous day of home business success.
