As life throws curveballs, it's the candid stories that remind us we're not alone. Join Ryan & Kelly as they lift the veil on the personal journeys that define them, from the heartaches and joys of parenting to the freedom of embracing one's truth. This isn't just any heart-to-heart; it's a raw and real exploration of the pivotal moments that lead to self-discovery and the complexities of relationship dynamics. Ever wrestled with the decision to expand your family or found humor in impromptu choices? We've been there, and we're digging into these life-altering decisions with humor and honesty.
Picture this: You're navigating the maze of personal achievement, but the reflection staring back at you is tough to decipher. This episode peels back the layers, offering a glimpse into the challenging yet rewarding path of self-improvement and the importance of life coaching—accreditation price tag and all. Through the lens of Kelly's life as a coach, educator, and military spouse, she share the unique trials of solo parenting and the relentless pursuit of passion. Whether you're a dream chaser or a career shifter, there's a thread in this tapestry for you.
Ever considered the impact of mentors or your children's pearls of wisdom on your life's trajectory? As we wrap up, these influences take center stage, along with a deep dive into the fresh waters of a sobriety coaching career. It's about the dance of sacrifices and celebrations—the milestones of marriage, childbirth, and the profound lessons nestled within our failures. And because we all need a break from the serious, we'll have a laugh over pickleball discoveries and debate the virtues of mocktails for those times when family trumps indulgence. So, grab your favorite non-alcoholic concoction or traditional cocky, and let's embark on this journey of friendship, support, and personal growth together.
As life throws curveballs, it's the candid stories that remind us we're not alone. Join Ryan & Kelly as they lift the veil on the personal journeys that define them, from the heartaches and joys of parenting to the freedom of embracing one's truth. This isn't just any heart-to-heart; it's a raw and real exploration of the pivotal moments that lead to self-discovery and the complexities of relationship dynamics. Ever wrestled with the decision to expand your family or found humor in impromptu choices? We've been there, and we're digging into these life-altering decisions with humor and honesty.
Picture this: You're navigating the maze of personal achievement, but the reflection staring back at you is tough to decipher. This episode peels back the layers, offering a glimpse into the challenging yet rewarding path of self-improvement and the importance of life coaching—accreditation price tag and all. Through the lens of Kelly's life as a coach, educator, and military spouse, she share the unique trials of solo parenting and the relentless pursuit of passion. Whether you're a dream chaser or a career shifter, there's a thread in this tapestry for you.
Ever considered the impact of mentors or your children's pearls of wisdom on your life's trajectory? As we wrap up, these influences take center stage, along with a deep dive into the fresh waters of a sobriety coaching career. It's about the dance of sacrifices and celebrations—the milestones of marriage, childbirth, and the profound lessons nestled within our failures. And because we all need a break from the serious, we'll have a laugh over pickleball discoveries and debate the virtues of mocktails for those times when family trumps indulgence. So, grab your favorite non-alcoholic concoction or traditional cocky, and let's embark on this journey of friendship, support, and personal growth together.
Thank you. You actually grabbed this for me when you were out. You were doing God's work for me because. I'm a mom and I don't get out of the house much. Try shopping for clothes when you have two kids like crying in the background.
Speaker 2:
I don't know how you do it. I mean like one was a lot and now it's like damn two and like ryan's all over the map, or I guess, your husband's all over the map you know what?
Speaker 1:
it's a lot, but there's always somebody who has it worse, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2:
and I gotta say one thing that I will admit, gonna honest, I thought I wanted you to have that third one that you kind of did, but selfishly I'm like, no, I don't want to share her with any more kids.
Speaker 1:
I know, I know it's such a hard thing to say you're done right now. I'm like, yeah, I'm not having a third, but like tomorrow, yeah, you might think differently. I'm going to be questioning it all over again.
Speaker 2:
That is the thing that I love about you. You're always like, ah, maybe, maybe not, like you never know. You just kind of go with the wave of like how you're feeling that month, that week.
Speaker 1:
That second.
Speaker 2:
That second.
Speaker 1:
I'm so impulsive, it gets me into trouble. Oh yeah, impulsive, it gets me into trouble oh yeah, tell me a little bit about the last bit of trouble you got into.
Speaker 2:
Oh gosh, the last bit of trouble, I got into?
Speaker 1:
yes, it's been a while since I got into real trouble, is there? Is there a time that you are wanting me to mention?
Speaker 2:
well, I mean, you have always said that you get your way with your husband and I'm curious to hear about the last time that he was like no, kelly, no, you asked for something and then eventually he gave in oh no, he never tells me no, so I I don't.
Speaker 2:
Uh, yeah, sorry, I can't give you what you're fishing for there okay, so he's always accepting on whatever you decide or whatever you want or whatever's in your Not always initially Like he might say no and then I just work on him for a few days until he says yes.
Speaker 1:
I don't ever take no for an answer.
Speaker 2:
Oh wow, I know Well, now that you nabbed a good one, I'm definitely in the market, but I think I wanted to really kind of dabble in the girls again. I don't know what your thoughts are on that. I'm definitely feeling the girls. It's hot girl summer this summer.
Speaker 1:
It is, it's always hot girl summer.
Speaker 2:
It's just being like bisexual is always very difficult. I think you kind of know from like me explaining to you like it's just so many different options out there.
Speaker 1:
Well, it sounds actually like you always have a scapegoat, because, I mean, as a straight woman, I would be like I'm over it, I'm done. I don't want to talk to another guy. Yes like I'm I'm over it, I'm done. I don't want to talk to another guy.
Speaker 2:
Yes, but I didn't have, like you know, the chicks to go to. That I was interested in.
Speaker 1:
But if I did, I'd just, I'd just switch over. So yeah, I totally can see where you're coming from yeah, you know what I think some things that we talk about could be perceived as controversial. You don't have to agree with everything we say and you? Don't have to like everything we say.
Speaker 2:
Exactly. We speak our truths Dang. I like the sound of that. Well, speaking of our truths, today we are gravitating into the mocktail. It is my favorite drink when I was back in the day drinking. I'm a basic Carrie Bradshaw, cranberry, cosmo, crisp, bright Citrus. It's called Mingle Mocktails.
Speaker 1:
Was that your favorite?
Speaker 2:
It was actually I got it from my mom and then, like she even kind of was inspired by the Sex in the City show. Oh yeah, it's just like a staple Cosmo. I mean mean, don't get me wrong, like I've evolved into like appreciate the spicy margaritas, the non-elk, obviously, right now I have the white claw.
Speaker 1:
It's the vodka plus soda plus real juice. I've never had this before because I actually hate um watermelon stuff. Oh shit, it's the first watermelon drink I've had in probably 10 years that I like.
Speaker 2:
I knew I messed with you.
Speaker 1:
I didn't want to make you feel bad and say that, but you like it.
Speaker 2:
I do like this don't lie to me I, I promise you, I'm not lying. You know, I tell the truth okay, so wait, how do you know you like it if you just cracked it?
Speaker 1:
I'm not gonna say how.
Speaker 2:
She might have had one before we started. Cheers to mocktails are messy Cheers Kelly's going to be a little messy. I hope that you have fun with being messy, because you've actually divulged that you might want to take a little bit of a break from the booze.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 2:
And that wasn't me right, that wasn't me pushing.
Speaker 1:
No, you've never pushed it on me. Sometimes I just don't feel like it's serving me, Like tonight. I'm going to have fun.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
But then I'm going to go home and take care of the kids.
Speaker 2:
I can't even imagine Like I see you and how busy you are with the kids. I'm like this is real, Like you are an adult.
Speaker 1:
I don't feel like an adult. I never will isn't that funny I'm a young-hearted person I've always been kind of immature, I think for my age it doesn't matter what stage of life I'm in, I just always am a little bit immature but that's what I like about you, because I'm still a big kid.
Speaker 2:
I mean, we divulge about the peter pan effect with fernando, don't you love him?
Speaker 1:
I love him.
Speaker 2:
It was so nice to meet him yeah, I mean I feel that that peter pan effect of not wanting to I didn't really explain it, but not wanting to grow up, it's very relatable to me and you you don't have to grow up, listen here's.
Speaker 1:
Here's what I do. I will never let my kids down. I'll never be late to picking up my daughter. I mean, unless there's an emergency, I will never be late dropping her off at preschool. Um, I will never let her down. I don't know if that's me being an adult or me just caring so much.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, you're just always been that kind of friend, daughter, now mother. You are super empathetic. You really check in on those people that you share the bond with. So as a mother, it's no different being an empath is so painful though I know I've heard from you you're not an empath is that bad? I don't know. Is that a bad thing?
Speaker 1:
no, I think if we were both empaths, we would not have a good business relationship. Yeah, because we'd just be like oh my gosh, are you okay? Right are you okay? Like every second, we'd be worried about each other and I need someone who doesn't worry about me yeah and um, it just makes it a little more light-hearted now do you think me?
Speaker 2:
not being an empath is kind of selfish I've never thought that because, you're not, you are selfish I'm gonna admit to that.
Speaker 1:
I'm going to admit, but you notice, you catch yourself yeah and even if you don't make it right, like that day, maybe like a couple weeks later, you do oh, this episode.
Speaker 2:
I'm gonna be asking you some hot questions. I want to get you, you know, open you up. I know it's going to be rough right now. You know you're going to have to answer a lot of questions that you do not want to open up about.
Speaker 1:
Okay, I'm ready, let's do it.
Speaker 2:
Okay, kelly, what's one thing in your life that you are doing wrong right now that you could fix and you would fix, but you're not holy shit.
Speaker 1:
I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. I don't think that anything is really a mistake, but I have goals that I've been trying to work towards and I keep failing time and time again because I'm not willing to put in the work that was a good answer because I like how you introed.
Speaker 2:
I'm not doing anything wrong. I believe that you're doing the best things that you can right now, given the circumstances in this new baby right.
Speaker 1:
I, I think, for me, I'm not doing anything wrong for me. Now, if somebody said like I'm upset with you, you're doing this wrong, I would take that into consideration and that's when I would do some reflection and maybe change.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
So I don't know, is there something that you think I could do better?
Speaker 2:
No, honestly, I think that, given the new circumstances new location, new baby, two of them, your husband's not always home. You got a new business the podcast. You're doing so much and I want to commend you on that, Thank you. But I only ask that because everybody is in their heads and I feel that I could probably say like, oh, I'm doing like five things wrong that I want to fix, but I can't really identify. It's kind of something that you would have to think about overnight to kind of really understand. Like what are those habits that I could improve?
Speaker 1:
Like you said, yeah, exactly yeah, and it's been hard. Yeah, exactly yeah, and it's been hard. My husband was away on military orders for the last 20 days, essentially, so it has been difficult caring for the kids by myself. Yeah, I mean it gives you an understanding of what it's like to be a single mother in some degree, in some degree and I've thought about that.
Speaker 2:
People have said that before and I'm like, actually I have no fucking idea what it's like to be a single mother in some degree in some degree, and I've thought about that.
Speaker 1:
People have said that before and I'm like, actually I have no fucking idea what it's like to be a single mother, because I'm not having to make ends meet right per se like that's a good.
Speaker 2:
Okay, I take that back.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, exactly I just want to put that out there, because people try to like say that all the time but it's just not, that's not valid.
Speaker 2:
No, no, and cheers to you bringing that up. But so some people don't know this about you, but you've been a life coach, being a military wife traveling all over the United States, being there as a support system for other wives that have moved into this new you know community, if you will, and then, on top of it, you know, your education is in you know teaching. So, like with that, being a life coach and really going through so many different experiences, moving around the country, creating a new community each time, what would you if you had to put a price on it? If you were in my shoes who wanted to take a life coach accreditation program with Jay Shetty? Best-selling author. Motivational speaker. Award-winning podcast host. Speaker. Award-winning podcast host what price tag would you put on a life coach?
Speaker 1:
accreditation program through Jay Shetty. You know what? I don't think you can put a price on something that you're very passionate about. If the credentials are very good and qualifying, I'd probably throw like $10,000 at that.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
If you're really serious about it and you really want to do it, I would.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I think it's just give me your advice on this as much as I want to do this program for being like a sober, curious mentor, sober sobriety coach, because you know, I'm only in this for two months so I can't really say that I'm an expert on it, but I'm very passionate about it and I have been passionate about it for many years and have gone in and out. So for me to take this to the next level with this accreditation programs, that is recognized, do I commit to that or is this another? Oh, I want to do this, I want to do this. It's like I feel like I'm kind of all over the map.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, and you've always been that way, and I'm exactly the same way as you. But I think that this is in line with what we are trying to do.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
So I would say go for it.
Speaker 2:
All right, just find that, find the funds.
Speaker 1:
So how much is it? You didn't say.
Speaker 2:
It's 7,600.
Speaker 1:
Okay.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I mean you do have to interview to get in. So I had the first initial interview. So in a couple of days I'll hear back. We'll see what happens.
Speaker 1:
I'm such a fan of Jay Shetty, so I think that the information would be very valuable.
Speaker 2:
Well, I'm glad that you are on board with it. Why do you think you haven't been able to commit to a career that?
Speaker 1:
well, I hate playing the blame game, but I'm going to play the blame game right now. Moved seven times in the last 10 years.
Speaker 2:
Yes.
Speaker 1:
Uh, actually I think eight now.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
So I've had to first get people to hire me, even though they can look at my resume and see that I'm not around long.
Speaker 2:
Right.
Speaker 1:
Um, and I put so much work and effort into it, and then I have to leave.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
So I don't know that it's been a commitment issue for me as far as work goes. I think I've been committed to my husband.
Speaker 2:
Right, and that is a commitment.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I committed to him and I've followed him around for his career.
Speaker 2:
And I look up to you guys. I want to find that special someone or something, whether it be a career, a spouse. I mean him himself. He didn't choose to be traveling all over the world.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, well, he kind of did and we talked about it and it sounded like an interesting life and I did have a lot of excitement for it and I never lost that excitement. But I did always have to put my career on the back burner and you know that's part of the reason that we have moved home to Pittsburgh. We're not going to move again.
Speaker 2:
Right.
Speaker 1:
So I have to like get it out of my head now.
Speaker 2:
Yes.
Speaker 1:
That like I'm on the back burner because I'm not anymore. No, I that, like I'm on the back burner because I'm not anymore. No, I don't have to leave again, thank God. Yeah, I'm so excited. Thank you for bringing that up.
Speaker 2:
I didn't. I didn't bring that up to be shady, I know myself. I mean, look at me, how many careers have I been on? And I don't have the military spouse that you do forcing me to go anywhere. I'm just like trying to figure it out. But tell me about a time you felt the most joy and excitement. Was it a trip? Was it an event? Was it a feat, an accomplishment?
Speaker 1:
Yeah, so there's a few that it's so corny, but probably my wedding day and then the two times that I gave birth.
Speaker 2:
Your wedding day was magical. Yeah, I mean, I didn't see the birth, but I'm sure that was just as exciting.
Speaker 1:
We should have filmed it.
Speaker 2:
Was it hilarious.
Speaker 1:
It was pretty gory, very gruesome, oh my.
Speaker 2:
God, what was your biggest failure to date and what did you learn from it?
Speaker 1:
I don't know if I'm ready to open up about it.
Speaker 2:
Okay, well, we can postpone it. Who are three people that are very influential to you?
Speaker 1:
Okay, honestly, you are one of them.
Speaker 2:
Really. Yes, yeah, you've always just followed your heart and you make you don't have to say that things happen.
Speaker 1:
No, I'm not just saying that. Um, you are influential to me, my old boss. Uh, when I worked at earth fit and Buford, South Carolina, and why were they? Um, he kind of was like a mentor for me. Yes, um he invested in you invested in me and I'll never forget how that feels. I learned a lot. And the third is probably my three-year-old daughter. She teaches me so much every day.
Speaker 2:
That is so cute.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 2:
I love her. I mean, she's like a little genius brainiac. And I know everybody says that about their child. But like you can tell, because me and you were like the B students, yeah, like she seems like a, like a brainiac.
Speaker 1:
I think what it is is that kids are just a lot more intelligent than people expect them to be.
Speaker 2:
Well, that was pretty good. What question would you have asked yourself if you were in my shoes asking these questions right now? Say you were Ryan right now.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 2:
What would you want to ask Kelly?
Speaker 1:
Nothing, I'm trying.
Speaker 2:
You're good at this. You're the question girl Always. You're like get me my notes. Let me look at my phone.
Speaker 1:
How much more time do we have here?
Speaker 2:
I'm done being in the hot seat. Oh my God, you love being in the hot seat. Get me out of the hot seat. Okay, let me ask you a financial question.
Speaker 1:
Okay.
Speaker 2:
Do you have a monthly budget strategy?
Speaker 1:
No.
Speaker 2:
Apparently, 50% needs to be fixed as your mortgage, your rent, and then you know those fixed costs such as, like car payment. All that needs to be in that 50% chunk. But like we're talking about all fixed costs, like all subscriptions, everything that is coming in, so 50%.
Speaker 1:
Okay, so maybe like a car payment too. Yeah, okay, car mortgage living groceries all that.
Speaker 2:
And then apparently five to 10% needs to be in savings, five to 10% needs to be in investments, and then 10 to 30% is fuck you money.
Speaker 1:
And when I say fuck you money is like you know, I'd say that that's in line with, like what?
Speaker 2:
we try to do.
Speaker 1:
Like I'm not the one that makes up those rules or follows them.
Speaker 2:
You're a little bit more of the spender right.
Speaker 1:
I just am not good with numbers.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I know you have so many strengths that you right now feel like you are kind of in this like quicksand of a place that you want to get out there more and try to like utilize, as you know, out there more and try to like utilize, as you know, a life coach, as a trainer, as you know, somebody that really is focused on helping others and I think, as a mother, it's tricky because you want to give your kids the best life.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I'm just always helping them I never, even have time to help myself most of the time, but I do have a passion for helping people.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, maybe get some more. You know childcare and be able to utilize those strengths.
Speaker 1:
Let's do it.
Speaker 2:
Thank you, Kelly, for opening.
Speaker 1:
Oh, you got a little on there Wrong pipe, here I am getting messy.
Speaker 2:
Thank you so much for getting messy with me today. I really appreciate your friendship and I think that you're gonna definitely do some interesting things in this year you are too, but let's do it together. All right, we're gonna do it together.
Speaker 1:
Cheers thank you for listening to.
Speaker 2:
Mocktails are messy with ryan frank Frankofsky and.
Speaker 1:
Kelly Mazgorski Cheers.
Speaker 2:
What's your favorite tool that you have used as a mother?
Speaker 1:
My vibrator.
Speaker 2:
You're so nice. Can I just tell you I went to play pickleball yesterday and I saw a vibrator on the ground, did you?
Speaker 1:
Yeah, it fell out of somebody's panties? I don't know. Oh my gosh, was it one of the remote control ones?
Speaker 2:
It was a little one and I'm like what the Ah, oh my God, okay.