Supremely Full Of It Podcast
On The Spot With N.I.M.E & DY3R partII
Ever found yourself pondering what makes a woman truly good in the eyes of today's society, or whether honesty should always be non-negotiable in relationships? Well, strap in, because we've got Dom from the school of hard knocks to the kingdom of healing joining us to unpack these very questions. Together, we're challenging the norms with a hearty debate about traits like nurturing, femininity, spirituality, and the ever-changing landscape of gender roles. Expect to walk away from our candid conversation with a fresh perspective on the delicate dance of appreciation and peace in modern partnerships.
As we navigate through the murky waters of dating and finances, we weigh the importance of financial stability against the rich tapestry of relationship dynamics. Dom lends his street-smart wisdom to the discussion, highlighting the societal pressures men face and the elusive balancing act of meeting a partner's expectations while pursuing personal goals. We're not just talking numbers here; delve into the emotional and mental implications of money matters and how they intertwine with the quest for love and stability.
Wrapping things up, we leave you with a shot of motivation to embrace the imperfect beauty of life and tackle the privacy issues that accompany intimacy in relationships. With "Healing to be Healthy" as our mantra, we invite you to join the conversation and share your own experiences with us. So, come for the engaging debate, and stay for the insights, humor, and wisdom that only a conversation with someone like Dom can provide.
Ever found yourself pondering what makes a woman truly good in the eyes of today's society, or whether honesty should always be non-negotiable in relationships? Well, strap in, because we've got Dom from the school of hard knocks to the kingdom of healing joining us to unpack these very questions. Together, we're challenging the norms with a hearty debate about traits like nurturing, femininity, spirituality, and the ever-changing landscape of gender roles. Expect to walk away from our candid conversation with a fresh perspective on the delicate dance of appreciation and peace in modern partnerships.
As we navigate through the murky waters of dating and finances, we weigh the importance of financial stability against the rich tapestry of relationship dynamics. Dom lends his street-smart wisdom to the discussion, highlighting the societal pressures men face and the elusive balancing act of meeting a partner's expectations while pursuing personal goals. We're not just talking numbers here; delve into the emotional and mental implications of money matters and how they intertwine with the quest for love and stability.
Wrapping things up, we leave you with a shot of motivation to embrace the imperfect beauty of life and tackle the privacy issues that accompany intimacy in relationships. With "Healing to be Healthy" as our mantra, we invite you to join the conversation and share your own experiences with us. So, come for the engaging debate, and stay for the insights, humor, and wisdom that only a conversation with someone like Dom can provide.
I.
Speaker 3:Yo supremely full of it, ha ha and we are here. Here, we are here. We are here, we're here.
Speaker 1:Why you are you doing, hey man, listen listen listen bro, you got it All right Even another thing man.
Speaker 3:I ain't got nothing. I never got nothing, bro you know supremely full of it podcast.
Speaker 1:Back with another episode a bit of why you fly.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I be she boy die and I'll be your boy nine and we back in here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, man, we got a special, special, special guest today, part of the supreme team. Yes, sir, from the school of hard knocks, oh To the kingdom of healing. Oh, the big homie Dom. Yeah, what's going on, man? What's?
Speaker 2:going on. What's good? What's good, what's good for having me man, peace, love and healing so you know, we did an episode like a few weeks ago.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm and it was called on the spot with nine men diaries, yeah, yeah and uh. We kind of like doing that, so we decided to have the male version of that show today.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:So that's why we got the homie Dom here, man, how you doing today bro.
Speaker 2:I'm blessed man, how y'all brothers feel down we here, man, we're here, we're here.
Speaker 1:You ready for, uh Uh, the male version of these questions? Let's go All right. Okay, question number one what is your definition of a good woman?
Speaker 2:My definition of a good woman. I definition of a good woman a good nurturer, mm-hmm, a good, nice, feminine woman, the Nice spiritual woman, woman that can take care of the household, take care of the kids. When, when you say spiritual, what do you mean by that?
Speaker 2:Like she got a good, like a good great spirit like not not necessarily like she don't have to be Like religious or not like that, but right, like a good spiritual host and woman like, okay, that's as well kept. Right, that's a good spiritual host and woman, right, that's it. Yeah.
Speaker 3:Man, I like the uh, the feminine side of it though, bro, you know I'm saying like I think we losing that aspect of women right now.
Speaker 1:You say that they'll be losing that. So wait, do you agree with that?
Speaker 2:They'll be losing that right now yeah, in a sense, because a lot of women be and It'd be a lot of it follow us too, because we Not putting the woman in her right position to be feminine.
Speaker 3:Okay, yeah, I mean, yeah, I feel that okay, so I do.
Speaker 1:Let me ask both you all this then yeah, please, if we're losing that, right, what are we gaining?
Speaker 3:We gained in another dire man. Wow, I just tried to say it in the way that you know.
Speaker 1:I mean All right, look, what I'm saying is a compliment, though I'm a great person, you're a great man.
Speaker 3:Okay, that's what I think we gain and we don't need. A man needs something other than himself, he needs an opposite side. Okay, we, we in society today, bro, like we put in you know I'm saying square pigs and around whole, bro, okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 1:next question Can a can men truly be honest with women?
Speaker 2:Depends on the man. For real, I think, depends on the man. I, I man can, if he, if he choose to that, and then if he respects, respects this woman, then yes, he can be truly honest. But Is this is a lot of me and they Don't know what it is. Like they. They don't want to be honest with a woman.
Speaker 1:Okay, do you think is it possible that men lie to protect the woman's feelings, or or should men lie to protect a woman's feelings?
Speaker 2:No, you shouldn't. You should never lie, because I mean the truth. I mean the truth. I said you free, I mean, but you should never lie like or it could open up more problems.
Speaker 3:I don't know, but I'm lying sometime. Mmm, yeah, yeah, I said it. Yeah, I said it, bro, I'm lying sometime, bro. Now, look good, peep. This the natural question I'm the bag. No, no, no, but this ain't about anything that's like That'll fold your relationship or nothing. Sometimes you lie, sometimes just to Not hurt they feelings over issues that ain't important. I give you an example. She say, dire, I made you something to eat. You eat, said fools. He says it good, what do you say?
Speaker 3:If it's nice what do you if you don't like it? What do you say, bro?
Speaker 1:I'm gonna say it's I.
Speaker 3:But but it's not all right, though, it's trash. Do you tell her it's trash, or do you say it was good, but, and then you tell her maybe next time add this, add that, blah, blah, blah. You still lie.
Speaker 1:I would just say no. No, I would just say I appreciate it, but so and so was it. You know, I'm saying yeah, I was good. Yeah, I was that. I appreciate it, but it was a little too salty.
Speaker 3:Okay, that's cool, but that's not what she asked you. She asked you. Is it good? That's a yes or no question? No, there's not.
Speaker 1:Yes, it is not. With women, it's never a yes or no.
Speaker 3:That's what she want to hear. Yes or no? Is it good or not? If you say I appreciated it was a little salty, she blout, was it nasty? Then what you say, yes.
Speaker 1:It was nice, I'm just like they knit.
Speaker 3:Oh, okay.
Speaker 1:The show's about him, I'm just asking you a question.
Speaker 3:like you know, go ahead, you're supposed to.
Speaker 2:I mean, I would say like no, it wasn't good to say no, no, I wouldn't, it's the, it's the tone, in a way, how you say it. But I was just letting no, respectfully like. No, it wasn't, baby, it wasn't. I think that you can maybe do this or To make it better next time.
Speaker 1:Okay, but will, she said well, then cook it yourself there next time?
Speaker 3:That's why you lie.
Speaker 2:That's why you're not a better thing.
Speaker 1:I think the better way would be say babe, I Wasn't feeling, so let me show you how you know I like this, so that way she won't say, well, cook it yourself next time, because you're giving, you're trying to help her out Right, but I mean, I just think lying is easier, bro, but women won't but women won't honest deal.
Speaker 2:They want the truth. They say, they say they say, they say they wanted, but they, they still, would rather have the truth.
Speaker 3:Okay. So if your girl asks you if she looks fat in her outfit, you're gonna say yes don't look at me.
Speaker 2:This you look fat in your outfit. I mean you got a Tell her I'm lying, so you gonna call her chips. No, I'm not gonna call it again. Again, I say it's the tone and how I'm not.
Speaker 1:You gotta, you gotta tell her like see, I've been asked that before and I say you know you a little fluffy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, see, I wouldn't say that you disrespect.
Speaker 1:Okay, no women, man, they they, they, they feel things.
Speaker 2:When we say stuff to them, they feel, they feel it. Okay, so now I wouldn't say that.
Speaker 1:All right, yeah, I wouldn't say that either. Next one Do men look for traits of their mother when looking for a wife?
Speaker 2:Hmm, yeah, I would say some men do, some men do, and I say a lot of men do. That was like I, raised by their mothers, I didn't really had a father's in their life. Okay, so yeah, cuz they.
Speaker 1:Okay, you saying that, so let me ask you this then if a man is raised by just his mom, right, and he sees what he sees her growing up doing everything, when he gets older and and he looks for his wife or girlfriend or whatever you want, do you think he thinks that a woman should still do everything?
Speaker 2:mm-hmm, I think that too, because, again, once they would, they had a father to show them how to Be there for a woman, how to provide for a woman. You know, that's, that's our job to provide, protect. So if, if, the if the man?
Speaker 2:if his father, if he didn't see witnesses father there Taking care of his mother, yeah, if he didn't, if he didn't see see, uh, it's a father there taking care of his mother and she doing everything then he not gonna know how To be there and provide and protect her, so he gonna expect the woman to do all the things that he was really supposed to do.
Speaker 3:What.
Speaker 1:I'm just playing now.
Speaker 3:I got some. I'm just messing with you, okay now. So I Do feel that I do think that, uh, the only time that you should be looking for a woman that had traits of your mother would be if you had a good mother. You know what I'm saying, because not everybody has the type of mother that they would want. You feel me so, I don't know. In some cases, man, um, I believe that single mothers don't do a great justice to their son sometime. Okay, they don't know how to take. They don't know how to make a man a man. They know how to make somebody a good citizen in society.
Speaker 2:Because a lot, of, a lot of mothers raise their sons as they, little boyfriend as they. They try to raise them to the man that they yes, yes. That that they won't. It takes away. It takes. It's a detriment to the child to the boy for real they call them husband, sons.
Speaker 1:I Think if you look for traits of your mother, then you should be raising a two-parent household, so so you can see how your mother yet Interacted with your father right. Yeah, so that way you would have a sense of knowing what, how you would want your woman to interact with you. Mm-hmm, that's just how I feel.
Speaker 3:I feel you, I agree.
Speaker 2:I agree.
Speaker 3:You need it. You need the best example possible, right yeah?
Speaker 1:All right. Next question Are men raised to know how to treat a woman?
Speaker 2:No, I don't think so, cuz For one, a lot of a lot of men are being raised without their fathers. So when you don't have that had a father figure in the house showing you and you not if you don't have that model, that male figure in the household that you can take after of and you can learn from and learn how to see how he's treating your mother, see how he's treating a Woman, then you really don't learn.
Speaker 1:Okay, um, I, okay, we, we said that. Well, we just said that. You know, some men are being raised without their father, right? So they're being raised by a single mother. I think the single mother is raising men on how to treat a woman, but not Not what's received back from a woman. Like growing up, we're always told you pose a whole to door open for your woman, never walk on the outside of you. But can any of us say that our mother said that we're supposed to receive so-and-so from a woman? Thoughts I'm cooking the day. Let's go.
Speaker 3:So my thing is this, bro who is the one that's teaching you to open the door for your woman, or walk on the inside, or pour the cheer out for her when you take her out? Who's teaching you that, though, it's supposed to be the father Right? Okay, so the woman ain't teaching you that, but if they not raised with a father who teaching them? Okay probably a uncle or a cousin or something Okay. So my point is so you don't have many women teaching their sons how to treat women?
Speaker 1:I think they're being told on what they are supposed to do as a man in a relationship.
Speaker 3:I agree, now we're getting somewhere. Bad. Yeah, they are Okay. Yeah, so if if, repeat what you just said, bro, repeat that, because I mean that was a bar.
Speaker 1:I think women are teaching men on what they're supposed to do as men in the relationship.
Speaker 3:But, on the flip side, not teaching you what you should receive as to what you just said before, right, so a lot of our teaching on relationships where they coming from man.
Speaker 1:Okay, dom, let me ask you this Do you think women teach their daughters on how to treat a man, or do they just teach them on what a man is supposed to do for them?
Speaker 2:I think a lot of them, a lot of them. They teach them what a man is supposed to do for them.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:So they teach them how you're supposed to treat your, treat your man, especially when you have a good man that's doing everything, providing, protecting financially. They just, they just talk what you should be receiving in the relationship and receiving from the man. But they don't they not teaching them how to keep that man, that good man, when they, when they get, when they get him?
Speaker 3:See, I think they told more. So, like you know, yeah, you're going to get you, they need to give you XYZ. But then tell them, well, you should do XYZ for them, but not until you get a ring. So they want you to get from point A to point B without anything in between. You're not going to get that ring if, if, if, that man don't see that you have a potential to be a wife.
Speaker 2:And a lot of them, and if he ain't doing that, then go ahead to the next one.
Speaker 3:Like one of the worst things I've ever heard a mother tell their daughter is to go out and have fun.
Speaker 2:Huh.
Speaker 3:Cause that says to me go out here and sit on as many of them as you can until you find that one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, a lot of mothers teach their daughters to be promiscuous.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like a lot of them.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, a lot of them Go ahead and they be right with them. They be right with them. And they, and a lot of them, a lot of daughters, they saw their mom. That's what they saw their mom doing. A man coming running in and out the house, a different man running in and out the house. Okay, and I'm, and they, I'm just using him for this. I'm just using him for this. That's what they being taught so a lot, a lot of women on social media. That's what they.
Speaker 3:So they teach them how to have a meal to pot dude. Just take different qualities from a bunch of different men to feel like they got one solid guy.
Speaker 1:Okay, next question that's going to be a dude's you to hear on the feedback on that one and a lot of.
Speaker 2:and you want to keep going and I was talking about the, about the, about me being taught and a lot of it and a lot of it come from because the father didn't have his father or didn't have or didn't have nobody to teach him the way. So that's why he not teaching his, his son away, and it's just trickle on down on down the line.
Speaker 1:Okay, so it's like a cycle.
Speaker 2:It's a cycle. Okay, that's why we break. Break all the curses man, break all the chain.
Speaker 1:Next question should a man date even if he's struggling financially? No, no, okay, no, why not?
Speaker 2:Cause if you struggling financially, then you, you struggling to take care of yourself and then don't have kids, and then you struggling to take care of your kids. So why are you out here trying to date? You can't provide can't mean you can, and I know providing and protecting it ain't, it ain't just all financial All right, cause women got their own bag now yeah.
Speaker 2:But, but, but, if, but, if, if you can't provide financially, then you know it messes with our mental too, all right, and you not going to be there for a woman mentally, spiritually, emotionally. It's just, if you ain't financially, if we ain't financially together, then we should not be out here dating, cause it's a lot, it's a it's a lot to go into that.
Speaker 3:Man, I think male or female if you broke, if you dating? Anybody. Your priorities are trash, Okay, Trash bro. Because on the on the male end, like he said, what can you do to help anybody? What can you do to sustain yourself? Don't, don't mess around and have a baby. It's wrong. You feel me, you can't take care of them. But on the female side, if you broke most of them, if you dating and you broke, looking for somebody to save you, save yourself.
Speaker 1:Okay, let me ask both of you out of this, then I want you down. If a man can pay all of his bills but he has nothing left left over, so he still be dating. No.
Speaker 2:Cause I just feel like we need to be all the way right, we need to get right and and it goes back to being because if you, if you pay all your bills and then you broke after that, that's still messing with your mental, Like it's still going to mess with you, mess with you mentally.
Speaker 3:Okay. So, I don't know, man, I think you, you can do your thing. Man, Get out here and get it in. You know what I'm saying. As long as you can take care of yourself, I think you're cool. But at the end of the day, man, like if if you're going to date somebody and y'all in a in a relationship, y'all there for each other.
Speaker 2:But it's a distraction too, because you you paid all your bills and stuff, but you still trying to get right at the same time and then out here dating, especially trying to date multiple women. It's a distraction. You ain't going to never be able to get right because you too distracted by trying to chase, trying to chase and date multiple women.
Speaker 3:I remember that just mean the date at the house. You know what I'm saying. Come on through, get some of this cooking. We go Netflix, kick it. You know what I'm saying? My my thing, nah, nah, nah. Just hear me out, man, hear me out. I'm just saying if you paid all your bills and you just ain't got nothing else left, that lets me know that your priorities are straight and your head is on your shoulders. You not out here going to the movies and kicking it and clubbing, and then your deep in hell get cut off you doing what you need to do first.
Speaker 1:What you can. Take a woman out on a date on a movie. That just mean you got to find a woman.
Speaker 2:That's cool with being a homebody.
Speaker 3:She might be like it's cool, we can kick it at the house. You know these women, you know they just had that list. Yeah, I can kick it at the house man, women ain't getting out the car, that just mean you got to go find your girl at the library, bro, but at some point don't you think she going to get tired of coming to the house and not doing nothing, you going to get tired of it.
Speaker 1:It depends, it depends.
Speaker 3:But it may give you another fire to go out there and get more, though More what?
Speaker 1:More bread.
Speaker 2:Oh okay, you know what I'm saying but you still distracted, though you still distracted.
Speaker 1:So basically, what you're saying is, if a man does not have his finances together on a certain level, if he does anything else, it's a distraction from building up what he needs to build up, and that includes dating a woman. Okay.
Speaker 3:See my rebuttal to that is this what is enough for a woman?
Speaker 1:I think, that depends on the woman that you're dating.
Speaker 3:But that's what I'm saying. Like, most of them move to go post all the time. You could have extra to take them out on dates, but then they going to be like well, your potential is you should be doing this, or you need to go get a better job, or you need to be making this XYZ amount of money. I don't think you could ever win that fight, bro.
Speaker 2:But what about what you want, though? What is your standard like for yourself?
Speaker 1:We going to get to that. We going to get to that, but okay, here's the problem with that, though. Men are the aggressor when it comes to dating. Basically, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't know too many women that approach men. So when men approach women, we technically give them the leverage, so we're coming to them, so we have to somewhat, I hate to say, is impressed them enough, because just having a conversation nowadays isn't good enough. You need to give them some type of experience too, because you were supreme dude. I'm saying that, I'm just saying so we still give them the leverage to some degree to say that well, we need, I need to go out on dates or whatever.
Speaker 2:And you don't even got to be nothing extravagant. You go for a little coffee there or something and just talk.
Speaker 3:That was on that list. Bro, you ain't going to get no coffee, you can go. That was on that list.
Speaker 2:You can go on a coffee date. That's how y'all can talk more versus being out.
Speaker 1:You can talk more and jumping out of a plane.
Speaker 2:That's what they want.
Speaker 1:All right. Next question, bro, All right. Do you think in today's world men appreciate a good man?
Speaker 2:Say that again.
Speaker 1:In today's world? Do you think women appreciate a good man In general, as a whole, in general?
Speaker 2:as a whole. Yeah, yeah, I do, Because they want us for real. They they, yeah, they do.
Speaker 1:They do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, how I think, and then it depends on.
Speaker 1:Let me ask you this how they Is being a good man rewarded.
Speaker 2:I mean Hexy. Now I mean, no, I mean.
Speaker 3:Hexy now man.
Speaker 2:I mean no, I mean no, but but you just say that they appreciate him though. I mean, but we don't need to get no rewards for that, because Because that's what we're supposed to do, right, that's something that we're supposed to do. That's from God, that's God's order for us to do you just Go ahead, keep going, keep going.
Speaker 2:That's what we're supposed to do, right? It's just like, just like a mother, a mother ain't rewarded, like where is a mother's reward on Mother's Day? So? And they don't even need you, and I don't think I mean, I don't think no One man, a mother should be celebrated every day. It's like a good father should be celebrated every day Okay so I was about to.
Speaker 3:No, he cleaned it up, bro, he said it, he said it right there, it goes both ways. It goes both ways.
Speaker 2:But if Go ahead.
Speaker 3:The issue to me is society sees things only one way, though there are more holidays that are catered towards women, mothers, women, Valentine's Day, all that Way more holidays are catered to them. Father's Day is the least celebrated holiday ever, bro. I can give you some holidays that's celebrated more than Father's Day. Bro, give me one Arbor Day. What's that? Who? Arbor Day, yeah, what's that? What is Arbor?
Speaker 1:Day.
Speaker 3:Exactly, I felt you just made that. No, I didn't. What day is it though? Arbor Day follows, like on number 18 on most celebrated holidays. Father's Day followed at like number 30, something Arbor.
Speaker 1:Day, yeah, arbor Day. What is that? Have fun with that, I'm not gonna Google that you got to.
Speaker 3:It's like a drinking holiday, but guess what, celebrating more than Father's Day, we not even gonna discuss Christmas.
Speaker 1:No, that's not Exactly, we did that already.
Speaker 3:So, yeah, the reason why I say men should be not necessarily celebrated but appreciated for what it is that they do, is because when you are appreciated, you do a better job. If you want me to do a good job taking care of you wife, girlfriend appreciated things that I do.
Speaker 1:Okay, you said that it's what men are, it's what we're supposed to do, right? Okay, so let me ask you this Is everything that a man is supposed to do in a relationship. Basically, husband duties.
Speaker 2:You said that again.
Speaker 1:Everything that a man is supposed to do in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Are you supposed to do the same thing? Is it called husband duties?
Speaker 2:So are you supposed to do the same thing?
Speaker 1:Yes, why I keep stumbling over this, the things that a man is supposed to do just as being a man, which you consider that husband duties. I mean, yeah, okay, so why do some women say that's a wife duty, so you got to make me a wife for me to do that man? What was my pots and pans there? Because I'm cooking, I'm cooking.
Speaker 3:Answer me On the spot when I'm in diet.
Speaker 2:That was a tough one. I mean, yeah, got me on that one.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean, you gotta think too, like, as a husband, you're supposed to pay bills, right? Right, you're supposed to buy groceries. You're supposed to provide, you're supposed to protect. When you go out with your girlfriend, she expects you to protect. She also expects you to provide when you go on this date. They expect that if they come short on their rent, even though they're not living with you, they should be able to come to you and say, hey, I need half. You're supposed to do that too. Not to mention, let's not talk about the fact that they already didn't gave you the box the box which is the only thing that you should be getting after getting married. So you didn't already gave that up. So now you're talking about I'm not cooking for you, because that's a wifely duty, but you just broke me off yesterday.
Speaker 2:Which was a wifely duty, wow.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so they pick and choose the job that they want to do. They pick and choose. I'm not doing that because I don't want the responsibility, but all the responsibility fall on you, not to mention if they got babies.
Speaker 1:Damn. Okay, you over there. All right, let me ask you this you said that there is no reward for doing what you're supposed to do. So growing up, you don't think when their mother do something, most fathers be like go there and thank your mother. Go, thank your mother, but when the father does something, he don't really get a thank you because that's what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 1:And you asked me you saying Do you think that happens? Yeah, so women get rewarded, but for men, that's what we're supposed to do. So why get rewarded for something that you're supposed to do?
Speaker 2:You said why get rewarded for something that you're supposed to do? Not necessarily like rewarded, but just like appreciated, I would say we just want to know that we are appreciated.
Speaker 1:Okay, do it. I'm assuming you're a good man, so does it, I am. Does it, I'll just play it. Does it pay to be a good man? So does it pay yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It does.
Speaker 2:It pays because you the responsibility, like being a good man, like the, the, the benefits you get with being a good man such as you can Like. You got more and I don't want to tell like that, but you got more power, you got more, more, more leeway from being a good man.
Speaker 3:I would say, without appreciation, that don't pay to be a good man, because that's all you got. That's it.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm just going to move on. No.
Speaker 3:No, what do you think? And then?
Speaker 2:Do you think it paid to be a good man?
Speaker 1:In the long run, yes, but at the beginning most likely no, because I mean doing what we do we we see a lot of videos and we talk to a lot of people. Most good I just say we're good men. Most good men come across as boring.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So that's why I say in the long run yes, but in the beginning no, because, like I said, everything that a man does as just being a man is a husband duty. So we're expected to do that. But I don't know how many people you know, but most of the people that we know and that we've talked to and videos that we've seen, if you ask a woman what they want, they will describe a good man, but they only do that after they actually date their type. So they they have two separate rules for two separate people. Like, the good man has to prove himself and jump over all these walls and the hurdles, but the guy who they didn't describe really don't have to do all that.
Speaker 2:That mainly be the men that they got all the money that they because that's what they usually tend to go for the men they got a lot of money, but that's it though. No, not even money, bro Like that could be it, he could, he could just pay for everything, but he can't. He ain't there for him mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
Speaker 1:That's one aspect. He's fun, yeah, but what I'm saying is, even if he don't have money, if he's just fun, if he make her feel some type of weight in her stomach, even though she, even though she knows he got kids, but he ain't never got them.
Speaker 2:They don't care about that, right, he's fun, yeah, he's fun, or he got money.
Speaker 1:Right. So that's why I say, in the long run it pays to be a good man.
Speaker 3:Let me say this, then, real quick In my opinion, it pays to be a good man in the eyes of God, bro, but here on earth, bro, it don't pay, because the trash me and have more fun.
Speaker 1:That's true. So when I said the long run, you really mean the long run for show.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because that's the only tour stop approval.
Speaker 1:That's the only the up room, didn't you Damn Go ahead?
Speaker 2:I mean because that's the only approval yeah that we need.
Speaker 3:That's facts.
Speaker 2:That's facts.
Speaker 1:Okay, next. Next question what does it mean for a man to say that they want peace?
Speaker 2:Man I know. For me, I think peace is Peace from a woman.
Speaker 1:Or peace from a woman, peace in his life, anything, okay. What does it mean when you say you want peace, if that works?
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm just I'm at ease, like I'm. You know, we, we, we creatures of habit, so Just I'm in my own element Like I'm. I'm to myself, I can, I can find peace. For me, peace is like a, it's a state of mind. Like it's a state of mind Like I'm at peace. Like I'm I ain't got no distractions, I ain't I'm blocking out all type of noise. Like I'm away from things that I don't want to be around. Like I'm at, I'm at peace, okay.
Speaker 1:That was too easy for you. What? What do you mean? What do you want when you say you want peace in your relationship? I'm back cooking again. Let's go.
Speaker 2:Peace in my relationship. I would say or we can, communication Like we got a good. We got a good communication, like we able to talk to each other. I know it's going to be disagreements and stuff, but how we handle those disagreements, like is it? Are we yelling back and forth for each other? No, that's not peace. Are we talking to having a a dog conversation together, we having a good adult conversation together and we able to resolve the issues or the disagreements that we're going through? But, and just you know, being able to love on your, on your, on your partner.
Speaker 3:Are you coming over here Do?
Speaker 1:you guys have something to say Back to that. Here's my brother.
Speaker 3:No, I mean no, because peace to him is going to be peace to him. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I mean but but to the general question what do you think it means for a man to say that he want peace?
Speaker 3:Peace to me is being able to come home to a household that's not in chaos.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 3:You know, being able to have a safe space to be able to share your feelings with your woman without being gaslit.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 3:A place where you know I can come home and decompress from my hard day at work. A place of where I can be honest and you take what I say for what it is and not create something else.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:See my peace. I see I find peace like going to the gym, being in solitude by myself.
Speaker 1:So you can only find peace? No, I'm not.
Speaker 2:I'm not. I'm not saying that, but when I'm, peace for me is basically when I'm in solitude.
Speaker 1:But we saying in a relationship, though not just you, yeah, like, yeah.
Speaker 2:So what you're saying?
Speaker 1:is.
Speaker 2:Being able to be, to come home and where you can decompress and Be by yourself, yeah. No, but. But I mean relax, talk to your woman if you need to.
Speaker 1:If you need to.
Speaker 2:Yeah, talk to your woman if you need to get, if you need to, if you need to talk, but or or, or be with the kids, or Okay, let me ask you this do you think it's peace when every time you want to go out with your friends, it's, it's some type of argument? No.
Speaker 1:That's not peace.
Speaker 2:Like an argument from her.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like you always going out with your friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or or who you go out with.
Speaker 2:No, that's not peace. It depends on like, how? Like is it an argument, argument, or is she expressing her, her feelings, like like babe, I really don't like you going out?
Speaker 1:But that's all the time, though. That's what I'm saying All the time. It's never okay. Enjoy yourself, be safe.
Speaker 2:I mean, I too, man, you know, women are fun police bro. What do you mean?
Speaker 3:Enjoy yourself and be safe.
Speaker 2:What I mean. But how many women I mean. But how many women go? I mean I mean women that's gonna do that. That's gonna be like go ahead, enjoy this song, oh, okay.
Speaker 1:Like not a now, not a now Okay.
Speaker 3:My thing is on the peace aspect that you're trying to go out and do something. It depends on whose peace we talking about, Because if you got a decent woman, if she expressed some issues with who you going out with, then I think that you may need to consider what she's saying. Because there may be some things that she see that you don't see. True. Now, if she just don't want you to do nothing, then she is the fun police.
Speaker 2:But then I had to go back to what have you done, Like what you been doing, to make her always want to nag and tell you about going out? Like what are you doing have you put her in a position to? Are you making her feel comfortable? Are you checking in when you go out, or you just going out and having a ball and coming back all hours of the night? Like what are you doing to put her, to make her?
Speaker 3:feel this way, but sometimes it ain't true. It could be the people that surround you, though. True, you know it could be. You know your childhood homeboy that you grew up with. She know too much about him. She know that he step out on his old lady, but then you going out to kick it with him without her involved, that's a problem. So it ain't always you, but I agree with him too. Like sometimes people go out and do stuff, man, and when they gone they gone, and most of the time it's them trash dudes I was talking about perform.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you know women they think that like if I see him always stepping out on his woman, he always going out with him.
Speaker 1:What is he?
Speaker 3:doing yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay when I'm not with him.
Speaker 1:Okay, let me ask you this when you asked for peace, even though you're not peaceful, no, okay.
Speaker 3:Ask hypocritical, then I'm on Okay.
Speaker 1:You gotta give peace.
Speaker 2:Right, you gotta give respect in order to get your respect.
Speaker 1:My thing is you have to be a peaceful person and bring peace to ask for it, because your life can be chaotic. But then you tell me that you want peace but you don't bring that. You bring chaos. Next question oh, this should be a good one who is asked to do more in a relationship, men or women?
Speaker 2:The man is. Explain yourself, but come back to that's what we supposed to do. I mean, that's what we supposed to do. That's what we supposed to do.
Speaker 1:Do more in a relationship far as what Like financially or who has to bring more to who is asked to bring more to the table.
Speaker 2:The man, like I said, because that's what, that's what we supposed to do, that's what we supposed to do, that's what we were ordered. That's what we were ordered from God to do, because we a man, that's what we supposed to do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because we. A man, yes. That's what we supposed to do.
Speaker 2:Yes. And questions asked and you, as a man, you should hold yourself to that standard, to that high standard. I know I do.
Speaker 1:I mean I get it, but I just think we, like you just said, is what we're supposed to do. Everybody know what we're supposed to do, right, right, okay.
Speaker 2:So that takes you back to if you ain't right, you shouldn't be out here trying to date or getting to know relationship.
Speaker 1:Okay, let me ask you this, then If that's true, why? If you hear some women talk, or most women talk, they always say they baby days a bum, they baby daddy trash, or they wish they never. You know why is that.
Speaker 2:And a lot of that. A lot of that because the relationship ain't work out. And then and a lot of men too, if the relationship don't work out, then when he lead the relationship, he lead the kids too.
Speaker 1:Is it possible to leave the relationship, but not the kids? Yes, okay, okay, yeah, so you can still be a great father, but not be with the child's mother. Yeah, okay, okay, good answer.
Speaker 2:I'm a prime example of it. Big facts I got three kids and three different households. Okay, I'm still a great father to my kids and I was in a relationship with my youngest son, but it didn't work out. But that don't mean I turned my back on my kid, cool.
Speaker 3:I want to go back just a little bit, bro, just a little bit, when you was asking the question like what a man is supposed to do, and then you ask who does more?
Speaker 2:right.
Speaker 3:I think, when we ask that question or we think about that, that we lose sight of the duties that have been placed on you as an individual. When you compare who does more and who does less, that's where you lose sight of the bigger picture.
Speaker 2:Okay, you know what?
Speaker 3:I'm saying no matter who's doing more at the time, it still gets 100% done. Facts Okay, when y'all work together, and that's where I think you lose sight of what's more important in the relationship. Sometimes I may be doing 80%, you may be doing 20, but the 100% gets done. Sometimes where you're going to do more and I'm going to do less, but the 100% gets done.
Speaker 1:So what you're saying is I asked a bad question. No, no, no.
Speaker 2:I took the question as financially though but just take the financial out of it. We can still come together and work. Just like you said, if one person doing 80 and one doing 20, then 100% gets done.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because even financially I could be 100% the breadwinner today. You dry trucks right, so you doing 100% today, but you get off your truck in the middle of winter and slip you, hurt you at home, laid it up for six months.
Speaker 1:There ain't no such thing as hurt. I'm still going to work.
Speaker 3:I hear what you saying Spying, broken area but I'm just saying somebody got to pick up the slack until you get back to what you can actually do. So is she willing to pick up the slack, because you're injured, to make sure that the 100% get done? Well, she don't date no broken niggas though, I'm just being difficult.
Speaker 3:Obviously that's going to run out and the reason why I'm out that up is I've seen that in my own mom and dad. My dad was a truck driver. He gets injured, not driving a truck, but what was he doing?
Speaker 1:He got injured twice.
Speaker 3:Fixing the transmission on somebody's car fell on his face, messed him up. Another time he got injured playing basketball with me. He tried to go up and I swatted that mess and he came down towards ACL.
Speaker 2:I'm just being honest, you understand. Yeah, he can't hurt.
Speaker 3:He was out with the torn ACL for a long time, couldn't work. Mom had to go pick up a job. She didn't have to work before, though, but guess what? She went and picked up the slack Women I see today. When that happens, bro, they gone, they gone to the next guy that can take care of them. They just keep moving and keep moving and keep moving, bro.
Speaker 2:What about the light with the kids, though? Do you think it was X to do more for us with the kids?
Speaker 1:I would say the woman, just because the man is meant to work the most. So I would say the woman.
Speaker 2:That's just me. Yeah, I would say the woman.
Speaker 3:I agree with both of y'all. The woman is asked more, but the way I came up I didn't ask them to do anything. When I saw something that needed to be done, I just did it.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:That's just how I've seen it.
Speaker 2:Especially if you got a household with two working parents.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it don't get them there.
Speaker 2:But just because we supposed to go out and provide that on me, it gives the man zero responsibility, no responsibility with the kids.
Speaker 3:I agree with that for sure.
Speaker 2:You still got it because the woman they expect from birth the woman there all every day with the kid Off and on, they don't get no breaks. Then when they do get a break, they really don't get a break because they, thinking about the well-being of the kid, like what's the kid doing?
Speaker 3:Now I guess the question, in my opinion, would be who should be willing to do more.
Speaker 2:Dall, I would say both you should be trying to outdo each other.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 2:Not in a competitive like in a more positive way. It should be like a generosity Serving.
Speaker 3:Yeah, serving each other.
Speaker 2:Y'all should be trying to outdo each other on serving.
Speaker 3:You'll snap back about the pop.
Speaker 2:I think that would keep the or is that in a snap?
Speaker 3:Yeah, it is, but it ain't nothing. Him talking about the pop boy, he's talking about the good bro.
Speaker 2:I think that sustained the relationship more. You a hater, I'm sorry, but you a hater. Yeah, I think that has sustained the relationship more For sure.
Speaker 3:But I think that mentality is cool. They both should be willing to do more, but the man should be willing to do more no matter what, though, the reason why I say that is because females, we're supposed to no, no, no, no, it ain't because we support.
Speaker 3:Well look, yes, the reason why I'm gonna say that is because we are more physically capable than they are. Mentally and physically, yeah, when it comes to hardship, we handle those things better. When it comes to actual physical labor, we handle those things better. When it comes down to getting the job done, even when you're tired, we handle those things better. So, yes, you should be willing to do more as the man. But I agree with him, we should be in a healthy, competitive nature to serve one another and now do each other.
Speaker 1:Okay, next question Do you think men can have standards and boundaries in today's world? Now, when I say standards like standards, and a relationship like what you will put up with what you won't put up with yeah, I think you Boundaries is like don't go through my phone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think you should. You should have Me and should have standards and boundaries. But can they, though you said, can they? Yes, can they? Can they, are they allowed to?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:With society it's deemed to like they. You can't have standards or boundaries, but you should, though Everybody should have standards and boundaries, why?
Speaker 1:can't you have standards?
Speaker 2:Why can't you have standards?
Speaker 1:It's a man's shame for having a certain standard or a boundary.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. Why you feel that? Because in most cases, the woman is the prize, is the catch. He's letting it out real quick.
Speaker 3:Why you holding it in? Man? I want to be rude. Let it out, man, Go ahead.
Speaker 2:But a man should know what he want, though that's basically telling us that you can't have what you want, Like you can't.
Speaker 1:Okay, I mean, I just have you ever seen this or even heard this? If a man says I don't want you like some women, they will put their hands on you, they would push you, hit you or whatever. And you tell them like yo, don't touch me, if I'm not touching you, don't hit me in my arm because I ain't hitting you. And they say stop acting like a. You know that's a standard or a boundary, Right, do you, is she? Is she right for saying stop acting like a. B?
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:No, because they. If it was vice versa, you know they. They get mad if we. I call them out of their name, right, call them out of their name, and they sit around and call each other that all day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a term of endearment for them. Yeah, or I mean, or they or you listen to the rap.
Speaker 2:You listen to the rap songs they get. They get a little rapper calling that all day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but then they would say he not talking to me.
Speaker 3:I don't know man a standard or a boundary man? If a man had one man, they consider this being shallow.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 3:A shallow man. But a woman can have a boundary and she just knows what she wants for herself. And the reason why you can't have a standard or a boundary is because women don't believe that they cannot not be wanted. Everybody want them and there's something wrong with you if you don't.
Speaker 1:Do you have something else?
Speaker 2:to add Go ahead.
Speaker 1:No, I don't have nothing else to add. I don't get in enough trouble as it is.
Speaker 3:You are always in trouble, yeah.
Speaker 1:So okay, do you have anything to ask us? You already a supreme team member, so you can't ask can I get on? Because you already on, so just don't ask that question.
Speaker 2:What do you think about the standard and the boundaries?
Speaker 3:Get in trouble.
Speaker 1:Get in trouble. He has. I was hoping you change the question but I'm going to give you a story, a short one.
Speaker 1:A few parts ago we did a show called Package Handler. It's when I had a conversation with a woman who said she had kids. But she said she don't date men with kids. But then I said okay, that's cool, I don't have kids, but I would date a woman with kids, but she can't have more than one baby daddy. That's one of my standards and boundaries. She judged me on that, saying why does that matter? A real man would accept that woman and all that she brings. You see how I had a standard.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she just went over it like I get that matter, so I would say no.
Speaker 3:Okay, but that gets to my point, though, where I said the reason why she had an issue with that is because your very statement de-cued her.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's the only reason why she had a problem with that.
Speaker 3:It de-cues her yeah.
Speaker 2:But every man should have a standard and a boundary, no matter what, because that shows you know yourself, you know who you are, you know what you want.
Speaker 1:Exactly, and you know what you don't want.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what you don't want.
Speaker 1:Well, you got something else to add.
Speaker 3:I mean I don't want to keep it going, but I did have a question Go ahead man, and this is for you, dyer.
Speaker 1:This ain't about me, this is about him. This is his show.
Speaker 3:He's going to answer the question too. Do you believe having a boundary of keeping your girl out of your phone is a good one?
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 3:Okay, what about you? I don't say that again. Do you believe having the boundary of keeping your girl out of your phone?
Speaker 2:is a good boundary. It's a good boundary I don't get me in trouble.
Speaker 3:Nah, we about to talk.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Me personally, I don't believe going through the phones.
Speaker 1:For the record, I don't believe in that either. But okay, since you want to go into this phone like a man.
Speaker 2:You shouldn't have to go through your woman's phone and your woman you shouldn't have to go through your man's phone.
Speaker 1:I think if you feel the need to do that, then you're in the wrong relationship. Yeah, you're in the wrong relationship. Now what Naye?
Speaker 3:Okay, hear me out, it ain't about going through the other person's phone all the time, though I've seen cases where maybe somebody's phone rang and they picked it up to answer it, the partner got upset. Or you've seen videos where somebody sitting next to their person eating food and they go to grab something else and they snatch their phone away real quick. Yeah, see, that's because that's what you had Exactly. So my question is if there is nothing to ever hide, why would you go into my phone and be a boundary? Because it's?
Speaker 3:privacy, y'all just about to say that, and if you ever get married, privacy does not exist.
Speaker 1:I agree.
Speaker 3:Does not exist when you marry.
Speaker 2:Because you become more.
Speaker 3:So what are we talking about? Privacy for?
Speaker 1:We ain't married, we ain't married now.
Speaker 3:But I'm saying remember you said you got to play. To play, bro. You got to practice how you want to.
Speaker 1:I don't agree with that. But there's a difference between using my phone and going through my phone.
Speaker 3:Even if they wanted to go through your phone, even if they just wanted to go through it, why would it be a big deal if you never had anything to hide?
Speaker 1:though, because that makes me feel like she think I got something to hide. Okay, I mean, I get what you're saying, but if you ain't got nothing to hide, no yeah, I get it, go ahead and go through it, but what am I doing that cause you to feel like you need to go through my phone?
Speaker 3:And that's the conversation you have to have. But why would you tell her she can't though?
Speaker 1:No, I'm never going to say no. What you doing? Get off my phone. You going to pay the bill? I ain't going to say that, but still, what am I doing to cause you to think that, yo, I need to?
Speaker 3:go through his phone, and it might not even be nothing you're doing. It could be something that somebody else's boyfriend or girlfriend did. That's when that's okay. But that's where I say sometimes you have to let things happen because it may not be you, but if you've set a boundary and say no, you can't go through my phone. This is privacy, this is mine. Stay out. You already didn't set yourself up. I feel you.
Speaker 1:Look, I don't have no lock on my phone. You feel me? Mine is just a swipe away, I do.
Speaker 3:I do have a lock on my phone.
Speaker 2:I got a lock on my phone.
Speaker 1:I'm the only good man here. No, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2:The only reason I got a lock on my phone is if I was ever losing or something, and then somebody finding, they just can't go straight through it and try.
Speaker 3:Mine is facial recognition, but she has the code she can get in my phone. I'm getting her phone right now too, all right.
Speaker 1:Yo, I'm hilarious, any final words.
Speaker 3:Nah, man, I said that. I thought you said that my bad.
Speaker 1:This is his show. I apologize.
Speaker 2:I appreciate y'all brothers for having me. For sure, it was a joy man. Okay, all right, a conversation.
Speaker 1:So usually at the end of the show we like to end the show with a motivational quote. You got one. I mean I could come up with one real quick.
Speaker 2:All right go. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah Go ahead the heel and the healthiest version of yourself is the best version of yourself. Okay, Okay. God, we healing man.
Speaker 1:Today is a beautiful day, even if you came across dead roses, because you had to be alive to see the roses. Yeah.
Speaker 3:That's what I got All right, I feel it.
Speaker 2:I feel it, bro, you're alive.
Speaker 1:That's more of the story. That's a good one, bro.
Speaker 3:That's a good one man. I feel it. It's cool, bro. It's cool. I ain't really got one man, I just got to wear it to the wise man. If you ever want to get married, privacy is out the window Stay open. All right, okay.
Speaker 1:So if you don't want to stay open, just be single Facts. Yeah Well, man, hold on, hold on, stop it. Stop it real quick, stop it real quick. Down, shout out to your shirts and stuff.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, for sure, you know what I'm saying, Shout out to the top bro, the healing to be healthy man, the healing to be healthy, is more than a brand, it's more than a destination, it's more than a journey, it's a lifestyle. Tap in.
Speaker 1:Where they tap in at.
Speaker 2:Like Instagram or oh yeah, you can go on my Instagram at I am king dom or Facebook king dom dire Okay.
Speaker 1:That's what it do.
Speaker 3:That's what it?
Speaker 1:do. Okay, now I'm breathing music. That's what it do.
Speaker 3:Okay, they call me dire and I'll be your boy. Nine.
Speaker 2:And I'm Dom King, so it's a free me, so we out.
Speaker 1:And you got to put your head blow up through the show, bro. Hey, hold on, bro. All I'm saying is why do I only have no lock on my phone, but y'all got locks on your phone, but I'm easily accessible. I don't have my phone in the bathroom, my girl for hours, whatever.
Speaker 2:I leave my phone around, but if she was the ass like what's the code?