Shelf Life

Can men and women just be friends, or is the friend zone an inevitable pit stop on the road to romance? Join your favorite dynamic duo, as we dissect this love labyrinth with the wit and wisdom you've come to expect, and with special insights from Supreme Team. Our chat zigzags from the hilarity of forgotten New Year's resolutions to the earnest debate about whether unrequited love can turn victorious. And don't worry, we don't just scratch the surface – we're digging into the nitty-gritty of the friend zone, revealing the raw truths behind those "just friends" relationships.

Ever wondered if that friend of yours secretly pines for more? Or maybe you're the one caught in the web of platonic purgatory. We've got your back as we share tales and tackle listener stories of navigating the treacherous waters of the friend zone. With N.I.M.E dropping knowledge on the fine line between buddy and babe, and yours truly, Dy3r, weaving in personal anecdotes, we're crafting a narrative that resonates with anyone who's ever loved from the sidelines. Get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even shed a tear as we explore the complex dance of emotions that is the friend zone.

We're not just here to entertain; we're here to inspire. Picture life's successes as the end zone and anything less as sitting on the bench – it's time to get in the game. So, gear up for a rollercoaster ride of friendship, affection, and the big 'what ifs' of relationships. Remember to hit us up with your own friend zone chronicles; we're all in this together. Let's turn the page on those unspoken desires and maybe, just maybe, find a way to break free from the friend zone's clutches once and for all.

Transcript

Speaker 2 0:26

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Speaker 3 0:33

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Speaker 2 0:35

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Speaker 3 0:46

Podcast. Back with another rendition. Yeah, another one. They call me Darry and I'll be your boy N9. What do N9 stand for again?

Speaker 2 0:54

Noise in my ear.

Speaker 3 0:55

You ain't never want to get that check.

Speaker 2 0:58

I might be, a little tinnin' out of this or something right. Is it tinnin' out of this or no? What's it? Called Tinnin' something.

Speaker 3 1:05

I don't know Tinnitus. I just think it's tinnitus. You got noise in your ear.

Speaker 2 1:09

Yeah, the issue is, I'm the noise in your ear.

Speaker 3 1:14

What's your name? It shouldn't be N9, then should it? Yeah. It should be noise in your ear. When people say noise in my ear when they say N9, that means I'm the noise in their ear Okay.

Speaker 2 1:28

You're not changing my name after it's been this long bro. You know what I'm saying. I just always wondered. I'm not only noise in my ear on this podcast, though, I'm also noise in my ear on iTunes, on Spotify. I got music out there, bro.

Speaker 3 1:42

You want to talk about that for real?

Speaker 2 1:43

You know what I'm saying yeah, yeah, yeah, let's go on and put it out there. I got music out there too. You sure you want to talk about that. Go listen to your boy Float Nimde. Noise in my ear on iTunes, spotify, youtube and all that. I also got noise in my ear music studios Waiting on something else to pop off though. I'm just putting it out there. I also mix and master folk. You know what I'm saying. I do that too.

Speaker 3 2:08

Waiting on something else to pop off too.

Speaker 2 2:09

We're going to make this pop too.

Speaker 3 2:11

You know what I mean. I don't know why you got your hat on right now, bro. Oh, I forgot about that.

Speaker 2 2:16

You see what. I'm saying Dang, you brought it up, my bad Trash. Maybe it's a New Year's resolution now it's after. Christmas now bro.

Speaker 3 2:25

I forgot. I did start it, though. Motivational bro, it's over. Yeah, because I knew you forgot, because I knew you forgot, and you forgot your hat on for some reason I do man. Anyway. So let's just get to the show, man.

The Concept of the Friend Zone

Speaker 3 2:40

Let's get to it. I was watching something a few days ago. It was about this woman who pretty much found her husband, but he was in the friend zone for like 20 years and she was like in her late 40s and she finally decided to be with the guy who was in her friend zone. But if you go all through YouTube, you will find people saying that the person that you should be with is in your friend zone. So, first of all, what is the friend zone?

Speaker 2 3:38

The friend zone is an area that is taped off with caution tape. It's an area that you stand, that you cannot pass through, don't pass go, can't pass go. The friend zone is an area where a female will keep you.

Speaker 3 3:59

Is it just females? No, no.

Speaker 2 4:02

Men do this too, but it's an area where you will keep someone sitting at until you are ready for them. That's what it is To me Now. You don't always get out of that caution tape. You're not always there. Sometimes you're just there and you will die zoned you will die.

Speaker 3 4:23

Zoned, yeah, okay, that's never heard that term before. I think. I always say that the person who don't want you give you the best compliments, and I think if a person don't want you, they will give you all those good compliments. They're nice, sweet, intelligent, blah, blah blah. But I just think we're better off as friends, so they will put you in the friend zone.

Speaker 2 4:54

But, see, I think friend zone is a little more deeper than that, though, because the person in your friend zone most of the time you act like you're in a relationship with them, but you're not I can see that you push the boundary of friend zone or of a friend.

Speaker 3 5:14

You know what?

Speaker 2 5:14

I mean you push those boundaries, bro. So it's a little more to a friend zone than it is to just be in a friend?

Speaker 3 5:22

Do you think the friend zone is you giving the other person the attention that they would get if they was in a relationship minus the physical interaction? Yes, okay, can you still have the emotional connection as a person would have in the actual relationship in the friend zone?

Speaker 2 5:45

Yes, that's double different, ain't it? Yeah, that's why friend zone in this trash.

Speaker 3 5:52

You're selfish, so you think there shouldn't be a friend zone. No.

Speaker 2 5:56

Why not? Because, like I said, the friend zone pushes boundaries of being more than just a friend.

Speaker 3 6:05

Can you be used in the friend zone?

Speaker 2 6:07

Yeah for sure. That's why you're in the friend zone, because you can't be used. Is it name one female that has a guy in the friend zone that doesn't do something for them in some type of way, and they continue to be friends.

Speaker 3 6:32

You stumped me there. I don't have anything for them. Okay, what's the difference between a man who puts you in the friend zone versus a woman who puts you in the friend zone?

Speaker 2 6:52

In my opinion, they're pretty much the same. The gold is the same. The gold is the exact same.

Speaker 3 7:02

This is how I look at it when a woman puts you in the friend zone you kind of have everything that they're looking for, but you're just not physically attractive to them. So they will do everything, kick it with you, go out to dinner, movies and all this other stuff, but you can't touch them. Now, if a man puts you in the friend zone, he's still liable to try to smash. So I think that's the difference.

Speaker 2 7:41

I mean, but women do that too, though. I just watched a video the other day where this YouTuber was talking to a woman and he said are you single? She said, yeah, I just got out of a relationship. He said, okay, that's cool. She was like actually I got a deal appointment this afternoon.

Speaker 3 8:00

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 8:01

And he said with who she was like my best friend and he had to bust her butt one day. That means you wanted to do your best friend before now.

Speaker 3 8:12

Is it really your best friend, though?

Speaker 2 8:15

I don't think the opposite sex would be best friends ever. All right, I'm being honest, bro, you can't be. I feel you. You have something that I want and I have something that you want.

Speaker 3 8:31

What if that's just how y'all met and y'all strictly became friends? Then there was no physical attraction at whatsoever.

Speaker 2 8:40

Then you could be friends. Okay, best friends. You Never Close friends. There's no way you could be best friends, close friends. You be close friends, okay, but best friends no Okay, especially if both of y'all got other relationships.

Speaker 3 8:57

Yeah, that makes it hard.

Speaker 2 8:59

Yeah, you're not best friends.

Speaker 3 9:01

Puts a strain on it. All right, how do you get in the friend zone? If you could name one thing, how would a person get into the friend zone?

Speaker 2 9:17

You can get into the friend zone, dating you one or two dates. You know what I'm saying. Y'all trying to get to know each other. You know, on either end you see some things in that person you like that and some things that you don't like which you like yeah, I can't really be in a long term relationship with this person, but we could be cool. But there are qualities that I do like about that person, so I like them to stick around.

Speaker 3 9:45

But then they would mix, like eventually they're going to mix the physical interaction with it. Maybe, and that will kind of ruin the whole friend zone?

Speaker 2 9:52

Yeah, maybe, but remember it's your best friend.

Speaker 3 9:58

All right, I think you can get in the friend zone. If I mean, it's kind of like what you said, if, like y'all, y'all kick it and you see more of a buddy buddy with them than a whole you know, trying to build something intimate with them but at the same time, if the person don't find you attractive but they can have fun with you, that's going to make you be in the friend zone. And to her to you.

Speaker 3 10:38

You probably going to think I probably got to show her. You know, I'm saying that I'm the one for her or him.

Speaker 2 10:48

But most of the time when I see people friends on, it comes from like let's say, there's a guy that likes this girl.

Speaker 2 11:00

She know he into her and from the very beginning she's not into him, but she likes the things that he does for her, Like she'll never have any intention on moving forward with this dude at all. Sometimes you friends on somebody and you give them hope that it could be more than that down the road, even though you have no real intention on being with them. But isn't that kind of like using them though? For sure, because but that's why we use the term friends, best friends Because it's you want them to feel like they're a part of your life, because you don't want to let them go.

Speaker 3 11:46

I say say you have a person in the friend zone, but the person that's in the friend zone doesn't wait around for you and they go out and they're dating or whatever. Is it possible for the other person to get jealous? For sure, A lot of times that's what happens. But why are you jealous if you put a person in the friend zone?

Speaker 2 12:17

Because a lot of the benefits that you have you don't have no more, and sometimes you become an individual that sabotages relationships. Yeah.

Speaker 3 12:32

But if you want all those benefits, shouldn't you try to get a person to try to be in a relationship with them?

Speaker 2 12:43

I would think so, but, like I said, you may not be attracted to them, but you like the benefit that come with them.

Speaker 3 12:54

All right. Is it possible to get out of the friend zone?

Speaker 2 13:01

I know my story in the beginning about the dude who is yeah, in my opinion yeah, but my question is, why would you want to be? That was a good point. My thing is, if you friend zone, just keep it moving.

Speaker 3 13:18

I feel like if you friend zone, that means you will always be second place.

Speaker 2 13:22

Or you were friend zone long enough because that person knew you weren't leaving and they were able to have their fun. And then, when they were done, now you're available. In my opinion, it's like you sitting around and you waiting on the scraps. Yeah.

Speaker 3 13:43

Okay. Is it fair to come to the person who you have friend zone and talk to them about the dates that you've been on or the relationship that you're in right now? That's not working.

Speaker 2 14:03

It's only not fair if, okay, it is fair. Why? Because if you realize that you're a friend zone, you don't have to put up with any of it. True, but you do, because most people in the friend zone want that. They want to be with them. You know what I mean. So they try their best to just be there for them and I wouldn't want to waste my time with that. What's your for? Maybe? Maybe, I mean not towards it but you know what I mean. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Maybe I mean it'd be emotionally hard for real, but I mean I couldn't do it.

Speaker 3 14:50

Yeah, but that goes back to you saying that that is selfish, because if you know a person likes you, right, but you don't like them, but you keep them around and then you really expect them to be cool with hearing you going out on dates and all this other stuff, that selfish.

Speaker 2 15:11

What bothers me about the friend zone is that the end zone is always moving.

Speaker 3 15:20

Explain that.

Speaker 2 15:21

Man, the goal post gets moved all the time, bro, you and the friend zone. They may even tell you you know, we can't be together because I X, y, z. So you go work that out, you bring it back to them, but we can't be together because of this now and because of that now, because you don't do this, because you don't do that, this is going to keep moving, bro.

Speaker 3 15:45

All right. But what if, like, they tell you that you know this is why I'm not really feeling you, but then you hear them talk about a person that has the exact same thing that you have, for the reason why they didn't want to date you. But the other person had it and they want to date them. Wouldn't that hurt?

Speaker 2 16:06

For sure, but it should be enough information for you to know that this one ain't it Right.

Speaker 3 16:14

Because I think people they choose not to see it Like they come up with reasons why they don't want to date you Instead of thinking about reasons why they should date you.

Speaker 2 16:30

But just say no and let's keep it moving.

Speaker 3 16:35

I would much rather a woman tell me I just don't like you. Like don't give me all your nice. You have a big heart, you're caring. I just don't feel it. No, nigga, just say you don't like me. I don't need none of this sugarcane. Just say, dyer, I don't find you attractive.

Friendships Between Men and Women

Speaker 2 17:02

Yeah, I feel that I'm fine with that. I mean, that's cool, Just keep it one-handed. My thing is friendships between men and women. Men are difficult because nine times out of ten they lopsided relationships, Super lopsided relationships.

Speaker 3 17:29

It's hard. I'm going to talk about this, but I hope people don't get mad when I say this. It's hard to go out with a woman who you're just friends with, right, well, that has friends on you and something pop off and then they will probably still expect you to die for them. Yes, that's hard. Yes yes, yes, yes. So I just think, if a woman friends on a guy, the guy should look at her as another guy.

Speaker 3 18:14

That'll never happen though, but I mean that's how it should happen though. That's how it should happen, yeah, because you're not going to get benefits from me that you would get from a boyfriend. I'm going to give you the same energy I get my male friends. I don't talk to them every day. I'm not going to talk to you every day.

Speaker 2 18:37

Right, but there's still things that you would do with them, that you wouldn't do with your male friends.

Speaker 3 18:44

I mean, if that part yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 18:46

If the invitation is given and we didn't even talk about cheating and nothing but if the invitation is given and let's say they friends on you.

Speaker 3 19:03

Probably you asking me like what was? Like? I said that's that second place, I'm just getting because I'm around. If you really wanted to give it to me, I would have been guided, and nine times out of 10 probably, she was in an emotional state.

Speaker 2 19:24

So you turning it down, so you will be the good friend that she's looking for. Yeah, okay.

Speaker 3 19:31

Yeah, because the good friend and, like I said, I'm second place. Like if you really looked at me in this moment, you first place. No, no, no, I be not, because my thing is this Nothing about me has changed since the first day that you met me. The only difference is you in a vulnerable state right now and I'm here.

Speaker 2 19:56

Who wins, you or them?

Speaker 3 19:59

I would say me.

Speaker 2 19:59

Okay, so you would win because they don't want to be with you anyway. You see their true colors, you see what they're looking for. You see how they're treating you, and what you're telling me is that you wouldn't do it because you'll be the good friend.

Speaker 3 20:14

Yeah, I feel you yeah For that, because, like I said, I'm not, that's just some of them, because I'm the good friend. And two, if I put this thing up, I'm just saying it's supreme over here for me. He said it hey man, you the yellow tape gonna fall down I'm saying it's gonna be some white chalk around, no, but like all, right oh man. Okay, since you brought that up, say you do knock it out, right? Do you go back to being in the friend zone or are you more now?

Speaker 2 20:54

Hmm, I mean, that'd be difficult, though, man. Of course some people don't want to be more.

Speaker 3 21:01

I think the person who got friend zone is going to want to be more Right, for sure, and then the other person going to be like nah, that was just you, just there for me.

Speaker 2 21:09

I mean the way you talk. It could be the other way around, huh.

Speaker 3 21:12

Always is. It's a supreme over here, supreme. You know, what I'm saying, man, but all right, why do you think the person who I was talking about in the beginning finally saw that they sold me? The person who they were supposed to be with was in their friend zone?

Speaker 2 21:38

Because they tried everything that they shouldn't have been with. That's it, so Tried everything else. In some cases, man, this friend zone that you get with later on down in life, it's like a last resort.

Speaker 3 21:55

Yeah, that's what I said.

Speaker 2 21:56

second place but you tried everything else first.

Speaker 3 22:02

You gave the wrong people the best of you, and then you decided that the last person standing was going to get the rest of you the nerve of these months.

Speaker 2 22:12

Which means, in my opinion, you better cherish this dude, because in most cases, if y'all around the same age, he could still go out here and get something a lot younger. He probably had his financial peak too, but then you used yourself up, threw yourself away all these years, and the person that you say that you should have been with is right there in front of your face the whole time.

Speaker 3 22:40

That just goes back to something that I always say, bro, we don't like the blessings that we are given because what they are delivered in. So what has changed for you to see the person in the friend zone and decide? You know what? I'm going to give them a try now.

Speaker 2 23:11

One situation could be survival. Some people put themselves in situations to where the only thing you got is that person that's always been there for you.

Speaker 3 23:22

And shouldn't that mean something If a person is always there for you? Okay, let's just speak for the woman side right now. If women want security and all the other stuff, right. If you see that a man in your friend zone is always there for you, that should count for something.

Speaker 2 23:43

It should, but he ain't fine.

Speaker 3 23:46

Or he ain't tall enough. He's boring. Y'all best start liking these boring niggas out here, because we winning, out here, still we winning.

Speaker 2 23:57

Bro we up. Boring means peace, stress free, and every time her situation blow up she wants it to be peaceful again. She called the one that knows how to be still.

Speaker 3 24:11

All right, this is the same way, for if a man friends on a woman, if he goes years and all this other stuff, and then he finally said her and be like you know what, I'm gonna give you a try.

Speaker 2 24:29

I think it's the other way around, man. If a guy want what he want, bro, he ain't friends on you to save you for later. And that's why I say both sides, when they friends on, is different. Yeah, a female friend zone, somebody that they really want, but they ain't ready yet, sit you on the shelf, pick you up later. In most cases, when a guy friends on a woman, he really don't want to be with her for real, because if he really wanted her he would have tried to have her.

Speaker 3 25:03

Yes, true, you don't really hear a lot of men friends on women. No. Like, if a man have a female friend is they probably grew up together with mutual friends. They became friends when one of them was in a relationship and then the other one got in a relationship and they just take some bays or whatever. But can you be friends with somebody for so long that, even if both of y'all are single, you don't look at them in that way?

Speaker 2 25:41

Look at them in a way of trying to be with them. Yeah. Yeah, I mean that's possible too. Okay, yeah, that's possible, man, but in my opinion it's in that scenario. It's not viewed as a friend zone to me, though it's just friendship.

Speaker 3 25:58

Okay, also, there's a difference between friendship and friend zone. Yeah, so yeah, they really come close.

Speaker 2 26:04

Yeah, that's just friendship to me.

Speaker 3 26:07

So friend zone is when one person likes the other person, but they're not really feeling that person, so they just say we could be friends.

Speaker 2 26:15

No, I don't even consider that friend zone. They don't even consider that friend zone any of the world. Friend zoning to me is you putting someone in a space in your life to hold on to them for later on, for you to benefit from. But how long is later on, though? Some people are going to keep you in the friend zone as long as they can, I don't know how long that is.

Speaker 3 26:43

But so if you've been friend zone for 20 years, why would you still try to be with this person? Okay, what's your friend zone? Do you actually stop trying to be with that person, or do you still try to be with them? You still throw hints out there, or do you just stop?

Speaker 2 27:18

all together In my mind, you and the friend zone, because they keep giving you hope that y'all could be together at some point.

Speaker 3 27:32

That's how I see that. What is hope? What is hope? Yeah, what is this hope you will talk about?

Speaker 2 27:40

Just subtle things. Like y'all not together but you go over there and watch movies and she lays in your lap, all right. Or she's rubbing your shoulders and talking blah, blah, blah. She's starting to start to notice that in the third spending time with you, as if y'all are together, okay, and the only thing that you're actually doing is feeling some type of void that she has in her life at the moment.

Speaker 3 28:13

And that's the attention. Yeah.

Speaker 2 28:16

Because if her head is in your lap and you start jumping, I mean, even if you don't jump, her being comfortable enough to even do it.

Speaker 3 28:27

Yeah, that should also say something You're this comfortable with me G.

Speaker 2 28:34

Why don't you want me? Because your values, your views, your principles may all be things that she's not ready to put to the side right now. You may have expressed I don't really want to be with somebody at a party like that, right, that drink as much as you do, that, do this, that in the third, and she ain't ready to put that down yet. Okay. You know, I, just you know, I. And, like I said, when I see friends on, I see feeling the void for the other person.

Speaker 3 29:09

If you spend months and years in the friend zone and the person is telling you like, say, the person is in relationships throughout the years or whatever, and you hear everything that they don't like and you hear everything that they do Like, like, they come to you and say if they would do X, y and Z, I will love that. If they didn't do ABC, I will love that. And you sitting there soaking all that in, why wouldn't the other person be like? You know, this person knows everything that I like and dislike. They are perfect for me.

Speaker 2 30:05

Most and see this, this one, like the friends on thing, and that's why I say men and women can't be friends, bro. For real. That's why most females fall into the trap of sleeping with a friend, Because that friend knows everything about you. That friend knows how to comfort you when you're going through something. That friend knows what to say when you're going through something. That's exactly why old girl in that video said I got an appointment this afternoon.

Speaker 3 30:41

Because do already knew, like he knows, everything about you.

Speaker 2 30:45

If a man want to smash, he will wait 20 years to get it. If he want to smash that bad, he will wait until that very opportunity to get through there, but why?

Speaker 3 30:58

Because it's not the same as it was 20 years ago. In your eyes it might be, Bro, she done been dug out flipped and this.

Speaker 2 31:07

This may be true, but that don't mean that you might want to. You still want to be with her, though. I'm just saying.

Speaker 3 31:13

All right, you said, guys will wait that long. Why wait that long for some?

Speaker 2 31:22

That don't mean he waited. He was probably doing him too.

Speaker 3 31:25

Yeah, but.

Speaker 2 31:27

To say you can or you did Okay.

Speaker 3 31:31

If you wait in 20 years just to say, yeah, I did that. They ain't the same flex as was 20 years ago. Be. I mean, I understand that too, because right now, all she probably want to do is missionary, but 20 years ago it was. She better know that, being gay on the knees 20 years ago she was jumping off dresses and ceiling fans.

Speaker 2 31:59

My thing is, though, like it don't mean you want to be with him after that. You know what I mean. Yes, in all reality, she's the one losing. Okay, I'll tell you this when you friends on somebody that you supposed to be with, that's good for you. You, the one messed out on 20 years, or however long it took you to figure this out. You, the one wasted that time because that good dude and entertain other people that enjoyed themselves, and because you want to run these streets.

Speaker 3 32:42

I think if a person check all your boxes, right, you had to spend some time with them to know that they check your boxes and then you put them in the friend zone because you say that you're not that physically attracted to them. Physical attraction is the first attraction that comes. That comes basically Like they see you across the room because they find you attracted so they howl at you. That person had to get close enough for you to see that they check all your other boxes. If you don't find them attractive, why? I mean, you kind of just answered it earlier but why keep them around? It makes sense to Like. I know we always say if you find somebody good, you hold on to them.

Speaker 3 33:44

You keep them because good people are hard to find, but if you know that this person likes you, then that's just being selfish.

Speaker 2 33:58

Yeah, to some degree, and it's some degree and, like I said, that's a friend zone situation. That's not a friendship. Okay. Because, like I said, friendships go both ways. You know, if you cook good and I'm hungry, I'm coming with groceries, that's a friendship. But if you always calling me talking about let's go hang out and kick it and I'm always going to my wallet, that ain't. That ain't a friendship.

Speaker 3 34:28

All right, you said something early about her laying her head in his lap. What, if they like on the couch but in separate spots? Is that the same thing?

Speaker 2 34:42

Is that? I mean that could be friendship, right there. I mean it ain't physical. You know what I'm saying. How many times have you heard like I don't know if you heard it, but I have that. Females that have the other guys in their life you know what I'm saying? They mess with the other guys. You get my point. Guys that mess with guys, they'll have those friends Bro. I be afraid to say the wrong words, bro, I be afraid to say the wrong words bro. Can I say it Go?

Speaker 3 35:22

ahead, gay men. Okay, thank you, I appreciate that Somebody gonna get canceled.

Speaker 2 35:27

I appreciate that, but They'll have a best friend just like that. Yep. To come to find out later on that they sleep with each other too, though.

Speaker 3 35:37

Wait, what you mean? Sleep like they lay in the same bed together, nah, or they?

Speaker 2 35:43

share juices. They do straight stuff.

Speaker 3 35:45

Okay, you said straight stuff.

Speaker 2 35:49

That's worse than what you said.

Speaker 3 35:50

Oh is it.

Speaker 2 35:51

I mean okay, my bad. They do heterosexual activities? You still digging oh, that's what I said. I don't know what to say Because they do that stuff too, what you mean? No, I'm talking about somebody who I guess they can do whatever they want. But okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 2 36:12

Nah, you right. Okay, they can do whatever they want to do, because you do got bisexual out there, I got you. But my thing is you think or she has you think that that person don't like the opposite sex at all. That's why they're your best friend and that's why it's okay for you to have this male best friend, but to come to find out that child been sleeping with each other for the longest time.

Speaker 3 36:38

If you're sleeping together, then why don't you all just try? I think that's one of the issues. If you're willing to do all this with this person, what's so hard would try. I know why people don't want to try, but just they always say I don't want to ruin this friendship. But shouldn't you be friends with somebody before you date them?

Speaker 2 37:14

I mean I mean not all the time, but I mean that that that calls for a better relationship, though in my opinion is to be friends.

Speaker 3 37:25

But okay, friends, but knowing that we're moving towards a different, towards another goal.

Speaker 2 37:32

And guess what? Some people believe that and they come to find out that they're in a friend zone Because they never move forward to have a relationship together.

Speaker 3 37:46

Is it because of the other person putting them in the friend zone, or is it because they didn't make a move?

Speaker 2 37:52

It could be just say, just say everything that one of the parties said the other party needed to do happened and they never move forward and they say I think we should just be friends, Friends zone.

Speaker 3 38:09

But you say that at the end friends zone.

Speaker 2 38:13

Straight friends zone, moving that goalpost again.

Speaker 3 38:19

You ever do. You think the person who was friends zone, the person that they was trying to date, had rules for them Well, had standards that they couldn't meet right. And then the person who's in the friend zone sees all the type of people that they date and you know that I mean this is going to sound kind of bad, but you know you're better than them. But they came up with reasons why they didn't want to date you, but the same reasons don't apply to the other person. Wouldn't that make you feel some type of way?

Speaker 2 39:10

For sure I mean for anybody that care about their mental health wouldn't let that happen for too long.

Speaker 3 39:22

Is it fair for the person who was friends zone to move on right and then the person who did the friends zoning get mad that they moved on?

Speaker 2 39:44

I mean to them it's fair, but no, it's not fair.

Speaker 3 39:48

Okay, what would that tell you?

Speaker 2 39:49

That would tell you off-rip that you put me on the shelf until you were ready to pick me up. You don't want nobody else to have me, and even if you didn't want to be with me, you only cared about what I did for you. You don't want to lose that.

Victory and Friend-Zoning

Speaker 3 40:09

Yeah, yeah, that's whack All right. Is it a victory to finally get the person that friends on you?

Speaker 2 40:25

Is it a victory? Yes, I mean, in some cases it might be.

Speaker 3 40:29

No, it's never a victory Hold on.

Speaker 2 40:31

Well, in some cases it might be, depending on who the person is, that friends on you. They might not be the type of person we talk about as far as just running the streets, so it may be a person that's like we just need to be friends. I'm working on me, I'm taking time off, and then they go two or three years single and then one day they're like okay, yes, I'm ready. That's a victory.

Speaker 3 41:01

I hear a splash in other people though.

Speaker 2 41:04

See, I ain't talking about that type of person. I'm talking about somebody that's really on. Let me put this to the side for a minute.

Speaker 3 41:12

What sex?

Speaker 2 41:13

Just all of it.

Speaker 3 41:14

Okay, all right. If you saying that they being celibate all these years, I understand that that's a victory. Okay, yes, that is a victory.

Speaker 2 41:24

But what you talking about?

Speaker 3 41:26

Yes, if you put me on the shelf for that long and then all of a sudden, I've been seeing you over the years you dating this person, that person, this person baby day number. If you get to two, we are done. But yeah, your limit, right, you get to all that. Yeah, yeah, that's all that. That's definitely not a victory. And then you come to me and you say you know why don't we just try, try what?

Speaker 2 42:02

And after you had all these kids, probably by some guys that don't want to take care of their kids, and then you want me to pick up the slack, because you know what the type person I am, uh-huh. Ain't none, that's off the chain.

Speaker 3 42:15

Uh-uh. Uh-uh, I would. You could have just had all your kids by the good guy off-rid Bruh All right, what if I forgot what I was about to say, what we just call this podcast, the forgetful podcast, because we always forget something. Oh man, what, if? What if you get friends on and then you move on, you still doing your third disem, and then does that mean that you stop liking the other person?

Speaker 2 42:57

I mean A, that's a D Pause.

Speaker 3 43:02

Damn, just go ahead, nah, man.

Speaker 2 43:09

You probably never will stop liking that person, bro, but at some point you got to let it go. At some point you got to let it go, spray, I mean, because you won't never be able to move on because you stuck on something else. Right, right.

Speaker 3 43:25

All right, last question. Last question, say you and a friend zone and the guy that she picked to like one of the guys that you see her with, it looked like a pit bull. You know, what I'm saying. She tells you she don't like you because you're not in shape or whatever. But then you see her with a dude who wears skinny jeans and his stomach hang over his belt buckle. What would that tell you? All right.

Speaker 2 44:06

I mean that straight up, tells me she on some nonsense and I really wouldn't want to deal with that because you don't even know what you want. You know you strike me as somebody that say one thing and do something else. Right.

Speaker 3 44:18

That basically says this rule applies to you.

Speaker 2 44:26

And then you would have to ask herself is there something else? She's not telling me that she dislikes with me, because that's what she told me.

Speaker 3 44:34

But, like I said, the people who don't want you would give you the best compliments, Any last words.

Speaker 2 44:45

Nah, man you ready for the moaty?

Speaker 3 44:51

For some reason I want to say pause when you said that I don't know why but, yes, I'm ready for the moaty. Yo.

Speaker 2 45:03

You made it. A pause, though you made it one though.

Speaker 3 45:10

You ready for the moaty? Hey, we saying that for now.

Speaker 1 45:14

You ready for the moaty? Yeah, yeah man, oh shoot, oh my God.

Speaker 3 45:27

Do you have a moaty?

Speaker 2 45:29

I do. I got one. I just made it up to Okay you go, I'll Okay you go.

Speaker 3 45:36

You go. My moaty is this you can't have gratitude with an attitude.

Speaker 2 45:48

Oh, that's, it yeah. Okay, I feel it.

Speaker 3 45:49

I'm giving bars out here, I feel it bro, my moaties is hard. Pause, that's it.

Motivational Quote and Friend Zone

Speaker 2 45:54

That's it All. Right, man, that was crazy. My motivational quote is if you haven't made it to the end zone, you and the friend zone. So, before the game starts, just quit, just quit.

Speaker 3 46:13

Yeah man, oh good, show man. Yeah man, all right. Well, uh, I'll be your boy Dyer, I'll be mine Supreme League, fubby Park.

Speaker 2 46:27

Oh man, oh my God, moaty, oh my.

Speaker 3 46:30

God, the friends on stand up, ooh, everybody. And the friends on stand up.

Speaker 2 46:35

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Speaker 3 46:43

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