Supremely Full Of It Podcast
Fighting comes easy.
The conversation gets real as we probe the necessity of conflict and the double standards that often plague our communication efforts. Why should coming home feel like entering a battleground? We scrutinize the biblical recommendations for loving your partner, the potency of tone, and the destructive effects of guilt-tripping. Throughout the dialogue, we reach a consensus that kindness, clarity, and directness are the cornerstones of healthy exchanges. And we don't shy away from the tough questions, like whether manipulation tactics like seeking forgiveness instead of asking for permission can truly coexist with trust.
As we wrap up, we reflect on the importance of self-awareness and intention in our words, drawing on ancient proverbs and our own 'Modis'—those little sayings that remind us of the power of positive thinking. We even lighten the mood with an inside joke, because who says profound discussions can't have a bit of fun? Finally, we leave you with a challenge: to actively make choices that reflect your values, every single day, without solely relying on a higher power for moral direction. Join us for this heartfelt, humorous, and sometimes hard-hitting journey through the ups and downs of relationship communication.
The conversation gets real as we probe the necessity of conflict and the double standards that often plague our communication efforts. Why should coming home feel like entering a battleground? We scrutinize the biblical recommendations for loving your partner, the potency of tone, and the destructive effects of guilt-tripping. Throughout the dialogue, we reach a consensus that kindness, clarity, and directness are the cornerstones of healthy exchanges. And we don't shy away from the tough questions, like whether manipulation tactics like seeking forgiveness instead of asking for permission can truly coexist with trust.
As we wrap up, we reflect on the importance of self-awareness and intention in our words, drawing on ancient proverbs and our own 'Modis'—those little sayings that remind us of the power of positive thinking. We even lighten the mood with an inside joke, because who says profound discussions can't have a bit of fun? Finally, we leave you with a challenge: to actively make choices that reflect your values, every single day, without solely relying on a higher power for moral direction. Join us for this heartfelt, humorous, and sometimes hard-hitting journey through the ups and downs of relationship communication.
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Speaker 4:I was at work today like flow. That's what it do anyway. Supremely full of it podcast. Supremely full of it podcast.
Speaker 3:Man they called me dire, and I be your boy, nine Float anyway. Yes, sir, what's going on, man, how you doing, I'm good, I'm good, I'm chilling, good day, good day, chilling.
Speaker 4:Yeah, let me ask you a question.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:You remember back when we was kids and Like we used to use the bathroom Okay, and like we used to pull our pants all the way down. I never did that you ain't never do that, never did, never. No, they never had to yank no, okay. Well, I saw that today at work. Yeah, with a grown person. Yes, grown man, all right, grown man, okay, ankle in it right now.
Speaker 1:Mmm.
Speaker 4:And I was like I can hold it. Yeah, I mean I.
Speaker 3:You, you wouldn't be afraid if you had to run away. You couldn't bro.
Speaker 4:My thing is, at a certain age I don't like my stuff out in public.
Speaker 3:He was airing it all out. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4:Like I walked in and I was like Nope to the ankles, I Can hold it okay, okay.
Speaker 3:For some reason I can hear the door right like you walk in. It's like Real quick though quick turnaround and keep it moving. But I was just like I'll just wet myself, like I was. You know I'll just wet myself, let me leave. No, no, no. My thing is if you're gonna do that, why do that at his start, at a urinal though?
Speaker 4:Why not a stall? I don't know, but he, he was straight ankle. Hmm straight ankle. That's probably his nickname in the hood straight ankle.
Speaker 3:He got naked to use a urinal.
Speaker 4:It's hard out here. Anyway, we got an action-packed show today. Oh, we really don't have an action-packed show today, but, uh, a friend of mine, he sent me this clip on the Instagram supremely full of it on on the IG, and I want to talk about it, mm-hmm, because I feel like men and women can learn from it.
Speaker 3:Okay, all right, that's what we about, right.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that, that's the problem.
Speaker 3:No, nobody want to get better. I'm in these streets, man but they just want niggas.
Speaker 4:Yeah, they will 30 plus niggas.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you can't have a vocabulary these days, right, I'm saying niggas.
Speaker 4:Alright, okay, okay, let's act alright, bring it back.
Speaker 3:Yeah, let's bring it back.
Speaker 4:Hey, nigga, like the, the clip, basically the first clip, well, actually the only clip is for, like, women, mm-hmm, but I think we could tie it all around right to everybody. And this is one of those clips where we put everything on God and stuff.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:So without further ado.
Speaker 3:Let me see if I can pull it up real quick.
Speaker 2:It's one time my husband was coming home for dinner. Dinner time is very important to us. One particular day my husband was late and I could feel myself getting a little bit like You're late. And holy spirit said when he comes in this house, you make a choice of how you're going to greet this man, holy spirit says, because you have no idea the things he's had to fight today. So, even though you don't know why he's late, when he walks in this house you greet him like the king he is.
Speaker 2:Then I hear the door turn, the key coming, and holy spirit said it's almost time and he comes in this house. You decide if you are going to be the type of woman who brings life or you bring a knife. So he walked in and I greeted him, I hugged him, I let him know I was so happy to see him and he just melted in my arms. He said let me tell you what happened today. But I've had to deal and it broke me down because there's a scripture, proverbs 31 and 11. It says the heart of her husband, safely trust her when you in.
Speaker 4:I Okay, well, first of all, Holy spirit got bars. Mmm, what the Holy Spirit say. It said you can either bring life, Mmm or a knife, mmm, that's a bar, that's life or a knife, all right, alright, anyway. What's your thing about that clip?
Speaker 3:Um. Most of them carry knives.
Speaker 4:He come out swinging, you know.
Speaker 3:Uh, all different kind too, right you know, um, now I mean um, where she had to say about how you approach a situation is cool, mm-hmm, I Can respect the fact that she thought about what she was gonna do before she did it.
Speaker 4:Okay, um, and you okay, my thing is this why is it always war, mm-hmm, before peace? And not peace before war.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Like she said that you know her husband was running late.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:And she's, she started to feel like why is?
Speaker 1:it right, mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Like why? Why is it? The first thing that you want to do is fight.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3:Um, because I carry a lot of knives, bro. Well, my thing is this, bro, like if she felt some kind of way about him being late. Mm-hmm, it's not. It shouldn't be a problem for you to ask why he's late right, but it's how you ask it. Yeah, you know is. Was it the Holy Spirit or was it her conscience? I? Was saying that the ladder One of a Lot of times, like you say, you know we put too much on God. Mm-hmm, there's no way to know. You know what it is right.
Speaker 4:But I Am thankful that she thought about it before she did it but I Just think, like, why is that, like the first thing that you do? Mm-hmm is you get mad like you don't know if the man ran traffic.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:He ran to a burning building to save a dog you don't know.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:So the first thing that you want to do is argue.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:Why but see my I question a lot of times like do you really know the person that you would? Do you really know your, your long term boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you really know your long term husband away? Right, because, at the end of the day, if it's not his norm to be late, if he has good reasons for Things that that arise and show up in your relationship, you should know his character by now to know that he wasn't blowing you off on purpose.
Speaker 4:Why? Well, just why. Why is it so hard to talk first, bro, like be mad after you get the reasoning? Why they're late, right, then you could be mad. Yeah but if they late, shouldn't you be wondering are they okay?
Speaker 3:There are plenty of other reasons why you should be worried instead of I'm gonna choke this nigga when he get home.
Speaker 4:Right, right, yeah, right.
Speaker 3:Let me sharpen my knife Right, like why.
Speaker 4:Why do we, as people, don't, don't give out the benefit of the doubt?
Speaker 1:mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:We are selfish, bro. Mm-hmm. And that's basically what it boils down to. You can care less about what's going on with somebody else. Long as you get what it is you need, long as it don't affect you.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Yeah, but I Just think, if you, I'm gonna say this women would get a lot more out of a man if they knew how to talk to him.
Speaker 3:Agreed.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, and that could probably be said for men too.
Speaker 3:But like.
Speaker 4:I said the video was about a woman, so we're gonna bash her for right now. We not bashing her because she did the right thing Right, right, a kind of word can go far. Show her concern before anger can go far.
Speaker 3:Shoot me a little concern before I get there, though Don't just be stewing in your own thoughts until I walk through the door, making up your own backstories. If I'm supposed to be out working six and it's 6.45, you don't think that you should send out a SOS or a bat signal to see where I'm at.
Speaker 4:She probably think you should do that.
Speaker 3:But it may not be a situation where I actually can. Or have you ever been in a situation where you were working so much that you looked at the time and be like, oh snap, I was supposed to be done a long time ago, nah?
Speaker 4:That's a bad example.
Speaker 3:I've done it before.
Speaker 3:I've done it to where, like you know, with me being a barber, I cut here and then I'm done cutting. Then I find myself like, say, if I'm done 15 minutes early and my last client talking to me, we talking from me shutting down to walking outside, locking the door and then standing by the cars and having a conversation I look at my watch like we been out here 45 minutes, nah, but I will say my wife will say you all right, see, I'll be like I'm on my way right now. I got called up talking Right.
Speaker 4:But at least you wasn't met with where the hell you at yeah.
Speaker 3:No, I ain't getting that.
Speaker 4:Who is she?
Speaker 3:Who is she Like? Just think, oh, since you brought that up, I seen a video. Go ahead, bro.
Speaker 4:Just think you late coming home and, like your wife seeing you, a test message already to my where the hell you at. You got off at so and so time. Can you imagine the feeling of pulling up to that house knowing you just heard or seen all that? Will you just sit in your car for a minute and just be like just decompress, breathe Like I'm leaving one war to go fight another one Like okay, that brings up another thing.
Speaker 4:Why should you have to fight in your own house? We all grow. We should all know how to talk to somebody.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah. So for those women that do show concern or do bring peace to the man coming home, there are some situations where some men don't feel like they should explain anything that they do anyway. So some women get caught in a situation where they feel like that because some men put them in that position. That's true.
Speaker 4:You know, I've seen it before.
Speaker 3:You know, hey you late. Where were you? I'm grown. That's the response they'll get.
Speaker 4:Well, they probably got defensive.
Speaker 3:Could be.
Speaker 4:Yeah, could be you know what I'm saying, Because some like that's just being grown. Some people don't like answer another people, but if that's the case, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship.
Speaker 3:That's true. That's true, Especially, you know, since she was talking about the Holy Spirit, especially since the Bible tells you to love your wife like you love yourself. And if you want to ask her where she is, why she late what she doing, you got to answer the same question, brother.
Speaker 4:Okay, let me ask you this If say you call somebody, right, Well, say you call your wife or she call you and you don't ask the phone. 20 minutes go by, you call back and the first thing you hear is why you didn't answer your phone.
Speaker 3:I don't want to be talked to like that.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I don't, that's what I'm saying. A kind word will get you everything.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean you just been like I called you earlier. You all right, you get my message on my call.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:And just listen to their response.
Speaker 4:Don't talk, fly like. Your phone ain't working Now. Unless that's how y'all play, I can understand it If I'm calling you back and you hit me with the why you didn't answer your phone. Who you with Like, don't like, have me feel like I'm on the first 48 or something like that.
Speaker 3:I mean, but those are interrogation tactics that will make you go do exactly what you saying I'm doing.
Speaker 4:That is a proven fact.
Speaker 3:If I'm in trouble for cheating, I ain't cheating, guess what?
Speaker 4:That is a proven fact.
Speaker 3:You know, I mean, I'm not that guy, but I used to be. Okay.
Speaker 4:That's why I say it is a proven fact. I understand.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:For sure. I just you know, I don't know, man, the way you talk to people, man. Like you said, man, it go a long way. You get what you need. You get a response. You get understanding, you get clarity and then you can move on with whatever happy situation was supposed to happen before they got there. All right.
Speaker 4:Do you think it's easier for people to fight over and just having a civilized conversation?
Speaker 3:My thing is, most people would rather the other person feel guilty to get what they want than to ask for it straight up.
Speaker 4:Give me an example.
Speaker 3:Okay, all right, I'll give you one. Let's say she loves to go to Cold Stone. Okay, the ice cream spot, she wants to go there, she loves going to Cold Stone. But then stand saying hey, babe, it would make me happy if you would take me to Cold Stone, instead of saying it. That way she'll come at you and say you ain't took me nowhere in two weeks. No hold on, no hold on Wait, wait, wait.
Speaker 4:I got to be honest now that's how it be and my girl plays sometimes.
Speaker 3:That's cool. If y'all play, y'all know each other. You know what I mean. But it was funny that you did that, because I told a day like man.
Speaker 4:It's been a minute since you took me somewhere.
Speaker 1:But in all reality.
Speaker 4:I don't have to go nowhere, I'm just playing with her.
Speaker 3:But some people be serious with that you don't get comfortable, I was just playing.
Speaker 4:I was just playing. That's funny. Some people don't. It'd be real, it'd be serious and it's like just ask, don't make me feel guilty about anything, just come to me.
Speaker 3:It's like just ask, because some people that you try to make feel guilty about it. It generally just slipped their mind, bro. They go on with life. They haven't thought about it. It's not for any particular reason, it just happens and that you know.
Speaker 4:You shouldn't. Guilt tripping, shouldn't be your go-to move. I can't tell you how much I hate guilt tripping when it's done seriously. I can't stand it. Don't make me feel bad for not doing something. If you want something, tell me, just ask. I can't read your mind, but I know you do like doing certain things. I know you like having certain things, but if I'm not doing it at that moment, then don't come to me and be like we ain't done so and so in a while you don't like me no more. You don't like spending time with me, no more. Don't guilt trip me into doing something.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we live in a society, man, where more people would rather ask for forgiveness than permission. I've heard this somewhere. Very true.
Speaker 4:I don't know where I heard that from, but whoever you stole it from, yeah, yeah, probably me, or the one I got it from, mr Guillotine himself. I ain't talking to him about that, yeah, so.
Speaker 3:I mean, that's who I got it from. Okay, and it makes so much sense. Yeah, that's what people do nowadays Rather do what they want and then ask for forgiveness later, than ask for permission and get a know.
Speaker 4:So I mean, don't ask for forgiveness if you already know that. You know what I'm saying. This ain't cool.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Because you doing what you want to do. Yeah, you did it. That comes with the aftermath, that come with consequences. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Sure do.
Speaker 4:So I just think it's easier to actually talk.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Instead of don't talk at me, talk to me.
Speaker 3:Talk with me.
Speaker 4:If I feel like talking Niggas man. Hey, the world won't niggas, Okay, Niggas. But I just think, if, if that's how you want to add every time he's late coming home. If that was me, I'd be late coming home almost every day, Mm-hmm. And if she asks you why I'm like because I don't want to.
Speaker 3:I don't want to deal with that. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4:I come home 45 minutes before bedtime. Mm-hmm, I'm taking all the OT that they can give me.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:I've heard of people going home to a crazy house and go right back to work, bro. Yes, I've heard of that. That's insane.
Speaker 4:All right, Pulitzer, you come home as soon as you come, as soon as you walk through the door, you get jumped on.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:So you expect me to eat my food with all that negative energy that you just gave me?
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:With seasonings on this joint.
Speaker 4:Right, and then you expect me to go to sleep with you in the same bed.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm, get rid of all the pillows and pillowcases.
Speaker 4:And then if I don't, if I turn my back towards you because I'm comfortable that way.
Speaker 3:You got another knife.
Speaker 4:Right, that's another problem. Oh, you don't want to look at me.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:You don't want to cuddle tonight?
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:No, nigga I don't, absolutely not.
Speaker 3:No, I don't even know who you are right now.
Speaker 4:All because you was late. No, no, it's not because you was late, all because she wanted to fight over just having the conversation.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:The problem is people don't know how to talk to one another. No more.
Speaker 3:Have you ever just wanted to call Constantine because you arguing with your girl and she seems possessed?
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 3:You ain't never wanted to do that. No, because we need to find somebody with some magical ability to get rid of this demon. You got going on. I've literally seen a woman foam at the mouth before In an argument, bro.
Speaker 4:I would probably laugh.
Speaker 3:It was insane.
Speaker 4:I would probably laugh. That's my defense mechanism. To make it worse yeah, it really is. I'm sorry, it really is.
Speaker 3:My defense mechanism is to make it worse.
Speaker 4:At a certain point I just start laughing like all right, bro, this is what you want to do. Oh man, because if I'm not laughing that means I'm trying to calm myself down, you trying to figure it out? No, I ain't got to figure it out, okay, that's why I'm trying to calm myself down, because when I stop laughing, all right, it's on yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3:War.
Speaker 4:Yeah, no, me laughing is very peaceful.
Speaker 3:No, it's not yes it is To you?
Speaker 1:yeah, but to them.
Speaker 3:Yes, it is you cussing them out every time you chuckle.
Speaker 4:My laugh come from my gut when you say hee hee, they hear bee, bee, bee, bee, bee. You remember the wood?
Speaker 3:Man yeah, but not really Okay.
Speaker 4:You remember the tall ball here to do slim? Yeah, you remember his laugh.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 4:Okay, well, that's how I laugh. Let me hear it, I got to have some to laugh at.
Speaker 3:Come on, man Just pull out the acting skills.
Speaker 4:I don't have that.
Speaker 3:Come on, man, you can do it.
Speaker 4:I'm just a real nigga. All right, this one for you, kid, go ahead.
Speaker 3:I just gave it to you, pause. That was the laugh right there. Kanda.
Speaker 4:Okay, all right, that was. That was a low level, low level, haha okay, purposely.
Speaker 3:So your laugh is a fake one, to make it even worse than it being worse.
Speaker 4:No, no, no see the problem is I really laugh at him, like I really be like like I'm at watching the day to pill special, okay, and then I just be like I, alright, g, anyway. Um, oh man, I found well our Resident supreme Bible thomper.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Nine Zilla. Oh yeah, for sure, that's. That's you, in case you didn't know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, for sure who nine Zilla was. Yeah, I just you know okay.
Speaker 4:I roll with it anyway. I Proverbs Chapter 21, verse 19.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:It says it is better to live in a desert, in a desert land, then with a contention and fretful woman. What did you think about that? What do you think that?
Speaker 3:means All right. I put it to you like dude yeah, some versions say desert, some versions of some versions of say wilderness, but right, in any case, you know being deserted. Mm-hmm mean no shelter. You know, I'm saying no water, no food mm-hmm. You wandering, you dealing with the elements, animals, anything that could kill you? Mm-hmm, it's saying it's better to go fight the bear, bro, than to fight your wife or your girlfriend. Whoa that.
Speaker 4:Bible code.
Speaker 3:That's deep bro.
Speaker 4:Do you? Do you think that just means that? Well, that just shows how much power Women have. Any time for sure, yeah for sure, like I. Think okay, say you off, work right.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm and.
Speaker 4:And the house is peaceful mm-hmm everything cool, you having a good day. You know I'm saying, and then your wife come home. Mm-hmm and all of a sudden, you just feel. Mm-hmm like everything, just was just like.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:And she didn't say no, she just looked at you mm-hmm like how was like why you got to deal with that.
Speaker 3:I don't I For real, but I don't bro. Okay, that's for real that's personally, don't do with that Okay.
Speaker 4:what if? Why would a man have to do? Why would any person have to deal with that?
Speaker 3:you should, and that's exactly why I created my own deserted place in my household. I Got my own room, not where I sleep, but where I can go to lock the door.
Speaker 4:And you can't lock the door like you really can't lock. Yeah, yeah, lock that joint. Nobody comes in.
Speaker 3:And what's crazy is my door is like frosted glass. So I see people standing outside the door and I just look at it. I see they hold shaping everything. I know who it is to. What do you want to be like? No, yeah, what do you want?
Speaker 4:Leave me alone but If, if it's better to do all of that mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:I know Christian women mm-hmm who hard to deal with some of them are the worst.
Speaker 4:So why like? If they know that, why you coming like with all that animosity?
Speaker 1:G mm-hmm, I don't in translation.
Speaker 4:Your house Should be your safe haven mm-hmm. No, it's not gonna be all coax and smiles all the time, but it should be better than outside for sure. Yeah, it should be. You know, I'm saying you should go outside to find what you should be having on the inside.
Speaker 3:Y'all focus should be fighting everything on the outside in the first place right.
Speaker 4:It's just when it says being in the desert like you, you rather die of dehydration mm-hmm and it sit there and hear your woman say to Hear your woman talk about why you didn't pick your draws up, like that's crazy. That's that's crazy.
Speaker 3:Pick your draws up.
Speaker 1:I think the good one. Brad, I think you're like the world don't, don't do you trifling.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying that's crazy, no man. Another one says it's better to Live in a corner. What is it better to live in a corner of a house top? Yeah, then in a white house with a brawling woman.
Speaker 4:No, nobody likes a fighter. No no like do you do? You know how like it's stressful.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, mm-hmm everything.
Speaker 4:Just just having a simple conversation turns into a fight. Mm-hmm and you just sitting here like how do we get here?
Speaker 3:See what I do most of the time, like when me and my wife having a conversation and I'm not. I don't have clarity on what she's saying. Mm-hmm, I'll just ask her what did you mean by that, instead of me assuming right that she meant something different?
Speaker 4:but what if she's not willing to explain it? Will she just be like, oh my god?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'll get mad is that when the nigga come out of you, not all the time?
Speaker 3:No, okay, most of the time I you know. If you can't explain to me what it is you saying, then what you said is what you said. If you're not trying to ease my mind with what you said or me taking it the wrong way, that's exactly what you meant.
Speaker 4:I Sometimes I just be like, that's what you said, okay.
Speaker 1:Hmm.
Speaker 4:Okay, cuz I got said I, I have thick skin, mm-hmm, I take bars every day.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean I do too, but I Don't. I shouldn't have to take stuff bouncing off my skin from you though, yeah, I get it, I but sometimes, man, because if you doing something just to try to hurt me, you won't win this one, and that's what I be trying to say to these muckna. But the issue is, I don't want to do that to you, so my question would be why would you do it to me, right?
Speaker 4:Why? Okay, If you are in a relationship with somebody, with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife why would you purposely try to say something to hurt their feelings?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Do you ever do that on purpose? Nah?
Speaker 4:Okay, nah I.
Speaker 3:Because I'm cold. What no, Bruh? Please explain this, bro.
Speaker 4:I have no idea what you're talking about, what I mean by when I say that I'm cold. If I'm really trying to hurt your feelings, I'm going to hurt your feelings, okay.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 4:Like, I will turn in the 50 cent. I will go at you until you are in career. Yeah, until you are no more. Okay, yes, all right.
Speaker 3:Yes, was that a jaw rule punch line Nah.
Speaker 4:That's just me. Okay, I know I'm a cold person. If I want to hurt your feelings, I am going to go all in.
Speaker 3:I guess the question is have you though To a?
Speaker 4:woman that was dating. Yeah, no, okay.
Speaker 3:No, you're a good guy.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean just because.
Speaker 1:I can take a lot.
Speaker 4:I know that. But I also know everybody doesn't have my skin and I also know that once I start I'm not going to want to stop pause. Wait, was that pause?
Speaker 3:I'm just going to do it again.
Speaker 4:I think that's fine, that's cool.
Speaker 1:They come making archives and like he didn't pause right there. Oh, dang Dang.
Speaker 4:You know what I'm saying but yeah, speaking of both people, you know what I'm saying, being mean and whatnot. There's another one that I think will help, because people always telling me it's not what you say, it's how you say it, right, right. So Proverbs, chapter 21, verse 23. Yes, sir, he who keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Yeah, but tell me your version of that.
Speaker 3:Read it one more time for me, brother. I probably got to pull it back up. Yeah, read it one more time. I got quite a few thoughts on it.
Speaker 4:He who keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.
Speaker 3:Be slow to speak. Okay, be slow to speak, you know, if you can't keep control of what it is, you say then, you will say anything. It's not telling you not to speak. Just be slow to it and take some thought into what you're about to say before you do it, okay.
Speaker 4:The hood translation to that is watch your mouth. G yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:Like, if you can't control your mouth, you can't control nothing.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:But you got, I mean yeah.
Speaker 4:Like they always say, think before you speak. Some people like me don't have that gift, but I know when to go left or straight or go right. You know what.
Speaker 3:I'm saying you can't make a contradictory statement like that at the same time. Yes, I can. You did Somebody without the gift. Yeah, but I know when to do it.
Speaker 4:Yeah, Because I think, like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:But that just mean that the times that you don't want to do it, you don't on purpose.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 3:You just did it just then, didn't you? Possibly I can see it watching.
Speaker 1:Man it was spinning like this what did you just say to me? Hey, we should all control ourselves.
Speaker 3:Yeah, for sure. Like if you don't have nothing nice to say, just watch.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:Let it go. I'm saying if, say, y'all was getting the argument and you had nothing nice to say, so you were just like. You know what? I don't have nothing nice to say to you right now. So I'm just going to walk away.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean plenty of times.
Speaker 4:But do you think telling somebody I don't have nothing nice to say to you right now will start an even bigger?
Speaker 3:problem. It'll start a problem too, because now they want to know what you was going to say to them, Right? So you want me to be disrespectful, so that's why I wouldn't say nothing. I would say this Out of all the years I'd been married, Brian never cussed my wife out. Brian Never said because I'm not going to.
Speaker 4:Well, you can't say it because you don't cuss, so you can't.
Speaker 3:That doesn't negate the fact that those words still come to the frontal lobe of my mind. You know what I'm saying and I just still don't. I mean, everybody didn't slip up. You know what I'm saying here and there, but I've never, I'm not going to call my wife out her name.
Speaker 4:I mean, yeah, I've never done that Like I haven't Like, like, if I'm dating somebody, I've never called them to be word while we was in a situation. I've never done, I've never called them a whole nut.
Speaker 3:No, I ain't did that either, but the worst name I've ever called my wife is her name.
Speaker 4:That's deep pause.
Speaker 3:Now she know I'm heated though if I just keep calling her Tina, but I ain't never gonna do that. I got control of that and, like I said, I think about it, don't get it twisted.
Speaker 4:I be like, why you acting like?
Speaker 3:a All right. All right, tina, all right. You know what I mean. Everybody think of stuff that they shouldn't.
Speaker 4:But then they be want you to say it too, like, no, say it, say it, but you gonna say it. Say it, but you gonna say it, say it, but you gonna say it. If I do this, just know you asked for it. So after I say this, I'm gonna go on about my day. Okay, I'm gonna let you simmer on that, Because you asked for it.
Speaker 3:Nah man, I just take a different approach. I understand, Say what you gonna say. Say what you gonna say. I love you, Nah see.
Speaker 4:And I let that be that. See, now you gotta let that supreme that's come out of you. No when I'm showing you we. You ain't worth these bars.
Speaker 3:What I'm showing you is, even though we're gonna do what we're gonna do right now, if anything else, it should make you feel bad.
Speaker 4:What should make you feel bad?
Speaker 3:At the fact that you want me to say something crazy to you because that's what you're doing or that's what you wanna do.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 3:I'm taking the high road.
Speaker 4:Me taking the high road is me laughing?
Speaker 3:Like nigga, you just hee hee in the high high.
Speaker 4:Cause I'm enjoying myself, cause I'm enjoying myself. Give that your system.
Speaker 3:Come on, dang Come on.
Speaker 4:You do that too. Nah, I don't say that, don't patronize me. I be in my head like go ahead, come on.
Speaker 3:Bring it. Yeah, all right, remember this when it's time to go eat, though.
Speaker 4:All right, I'm good, I'm good Cause I know. Look, I'm not saying this is me in my relationship now, but I know you doing all this right now and you saying all this. I could trump all of this right now just by saying I'm gonna go kick it with my dude. I could trump all that by saying I'm gonna go to the movies by myself tonight or I'll steal my back. Turn to eat.
Speaker 3:You ain't even washed them, knives man.
Speaker 4:I can take it Anything else, man, Because people are. They already think we talking about our relationship.
Speaker 3:I do Sometimes. Nah, I had brought up a video, bro. I talked about a video earlier bro.
Speaker 3:I just want to talk about it real quick before we wrap this up, since we talking about how women handle stuff. Sometimes I mean men do some wrong stuff too. But this video stuck out to me. It was a woman recording her and her family about to eat cake. Okay Right, husband sitting next to her kids, all around the island, she passing out the plates. They wondering, like, whose birthday is it? I think it was the dad's birthday or something, but the way that this played out was weird, cause people was confused. She likes the candle, kids like can I blow it out? She like nah, we'll let daddy blow it out, since he said happy birthday to such and such. She was like yeah, I went through his phone and he said happy birthday to I forget the lady name. She says we're all going to seeing happy birthday to her, since she's a part of the family now, so they all sing happy birthday. And the dad looked at her and he said you sick, you really sick.
Speaker 4:Niggas can't have friends, bro. I thought it was cold workers.
Speaker 3:My thing is whether they was friends or not. If she was a cold worker and it popped up on Facebook, you just hit the little happy birthday and sent it off you know what I mean. My thing is why are you involved with kids in your nonsense?
Speaker 4:What do you just call it? The botchering yeah.
Speaker 3:You're the botchering.
Speaker 4:I don't. First of all, you gotta think how petty she actually is. She went through his phone right. Then she probably went to Kroger's to get a cake. She probably had it specially made too. So that means she has to drive to Kroger's to get the cake Drive back home. No wait, first she had to go to Kroger's to get the cake and the plates.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:Because you know she ain't keeping them plates. Get the plates stand in line, pay for the stuff, Drive back home. Have everybody be in the same place at the same time.
Speaker 3:Put candles on it and lick the mugs. And same happy birthday.
Speaker 4:Instead of doing one simple thing.
Speaker 3:Hey, ask them a simple question. Simple question that you involve the kids and to y'all.
Speaker 4:And the bad thing is, it was probably a blizzard that day and she still did all this. She priced it. Oh, I can't stand these hoes.
Speaker 3:And then I think one of the kids that was recording, I think it was like their oldest daughter or something. She was even confused because she was even talking at the end like Mom, what are you doing? I thought you was doing something else. What is?
Speaker 4:this, that, how do you fight that? You know what he probably did. Mom, he probably left that chaos and found himself at the bar with said person. They shared some drinks. He told her what happened. She probably put her hand on his arm like this and said you don't deserve that.
Speaker 3:It's one possibility. It's the only possibility. The other one could be she may have done so much, bro, that he's just like you know what I'm cool. This is it.
Speaker 4:That's crazy.
Speaker 3:If you would take it this far, then just have a conversation with me. We ain't got nothing, no more. He would rather go out there in the desert or the wilderness and pay child support for all it was a lot of kids to around this table than to deal with what he's dealing with at home.
Speaker 4:Because it was easy for her to fight than to have a conversation. Some people are used to war and when they get peace, they don't know how to handle it.
Speaker 3:It's crazy in this man.
Speaker 1:All right man.
Speaker 4:You ready for the Modi?
Speaker 3:Ready for the Modi man? Yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 4:Let's see what I'm going to go first. My Modi is this. It came in loud too One heart and a positive attitude can go a long way. That's it.
Speaker 3:Okay, that's what's up. That's what's up. My Modi is think before you speak, because if you speak before you think, you are doomed to fail.
Speaker 4:I just think, man, I mean I ain't ready yet. You know what I'm saying? I was trying to my bad. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:I thought you was going out with it.
Speaker 4:I was going to slide you for what I was saying. All right, let's see the show All right, go ahead.
Speaker 3:I don't have nothing for you Inside joke.
Speaker 1:Go ahead bro, oh man Bring it here, bro, bring it.
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 4:They call me there. I'll be your boy, now Supreme in full of it pocket.
Speaker 3:Float.
Speaker 2:And we got we got here.
Speaker 3:Yes, sir, bring life or knife. Holy spirit got bars man. Stop putting everything on God and the Holy Spirit to do the right thing, even with the bars.
Speaker 1:Yes, sir, so this cake.