Supremely Full Of It Podcast
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Sex on the first night. Would you or would you not? We breakdown all things that may or may not come with it. Special gust, the homie J-Will.
Sex on the first night. Would you or would you not? We breakdown all things that may or may not come with it. Special gust, the homie J-Will.
Hey yo, supremely full of it, hey yo.
Speaker 2:Supremely full of it, Ha ha.
Speaker 3:Yes, looking real bald-headed in here today.
Speaker 1:Yes, sir.
Speaker 3:Yes, sir, we back Three baldies in the building Supremely full of it podcast Back with another episode. You know what I'm saying. They call me Dyer and I'll be your boy. Now we got a.
Speaker 2:I ain't bald spec nigga. I got my man. What you mean? I ain't bald man.
Speaker 3:You bald like Super Saiyan level Got me looking like Krillin over here.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying Krillin over here.
Speaker 4:You know what I'm saying Krillin Destructo.
Speaker 3:Dix, anyway, knocking the headphones off. Oh man, anyway, oh man, supreme, we Full of it podcast. We got a special, special, special guest Special. He is responsible for 0.5% of the supremely full of .5?
Speaker 2:.5. Who does this math?
Speaker 3:I'm just saying he is the middle man of how me and Nam got to know each other.
Speaker 2:Yes, sir, yes, sir, yes, sir yes sir, giving you your flowers he put the band together. Yes, he did. Yeah, yes, he did. And he's been saying he is no Diddy, though.
Speaker 3:Wow, I'm just saying I gotta put that out there and he's been saying that you know we need to have the originator on the show. The reason to be full of it. Okay, ladies and gentlemen, saints and sinners, nick Nags and Scallywags, my fellow bald-headed community, yes, yes, yes, we got the homie J Will in the building J Wazeel.
Speaker 2:Yes, sir, what's happening J?
Speaker 3:Will.
Speaker 4:What's good man? Yes sir, I'm here finally.
Speaker 2:I'm here. I'm mad he got the best introduction than anybody we ever had on the show.
Speaker 4:Well-deserved, Better than mine too, Well-deserved. Well-deserved how you doing man, I'm good, man, I'm good, I'm here, I'm ready, you ready, I'm ready. Dog, you ready, man, I'm ready.
Speaker 3:All right, I just got to like before we get into the show. Right, right, I'm going to start off with something easy, okay, okay, you know how the music industry is trash right now. Right, yeah, basically, don't you think it would be better off if we went back to selling CDs instead of streaming? Mmm, because when you sold CDs, people went out and bought hard copies and stuff, still got my books in the closet. Exactly, yeah, but with streaming, it's easy to get. You know Numbers. That's very true, very true, very true. So I think If we went back to Selling CDs, half these musicians Wouldn't be out right now.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I agree, music sounds better Off a CD too.
Speaker 3:Yes, it do In my opinion. And don't you miss the dangers Of. Yes, it do, in my opinion. And don't you miss the dangers of while you're driving you open up your book.
Speaker 4:Oh man, it was hard.
Speaker 3:And then you got to find you know what I'm saying which one to pick, and then you got to take it out while you're still driving and then put the other one in. But if it don't work, take it out, rub it on your leg, that's the worst part and then put it back.
Speaker 2:Oh man, is your CD player Not accepting that joint? You're like Bro. I wanna hear this. It keeps spitting it back out Like nope, nope, yeah Dang.
Speaker 4:Them was the days, man, them was the days. It don't be the car that didn't have a CD player. You had to put the tape in there and plug it to the portable and hope the anti-skip Don't make it skip.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Good times man.
Speaker 4:Good times yeah.
Speaker 3:I forgot to add something to your intro. What's that man? The only nigga alive that believed Tupac is alive. I'm not the only one.
Speaker 4:I'm not the only one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he ain't, I'm probably the only one you might know, but I ain't the only one. I never told you. I believe it too.
Speaker 3:Wow, anyway, today's show, that's not even a, that's not even whatever. You know, he dead, nah man, he in heaven. Blessings, okay, blessings.
Speaker 2:I don't know about heaven, but okay, I'm just saying I don't know. But you, I don't know, man, I can't say where somebody at All. Right, my G. You know, If you believe it that's dead.
Speaker 3:So you know, we're all 30 plus men. You know what I'm saying we don't live, don't do it. You are still in your 30s.
Speaker 4:Hey, man Still further along than others.
Speaker 2:I'm about to cross over here soon, but you ain't there yet, though Don't mess this show up Two months.
Speaker 4:I'm crossing over. You know what's so funny, though? We all 30 plus, but I'm still the baby in the room.
Speaker 3:You're too big to be saying that. Hey man, hey man.
Speaker 4:I got to keep it where I can keep it. All right, I ain't going to be able to say that too much longer With no baby here.
Speaker 2:Hey, man, it's a little bit, I didn't know you was younger than him.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I didn't know that A couple months.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 3:Okay. So you know I was thinking about life one day and about how you know, the dating scene changes from age group to age group or whatever. So I'm just going to ask the first question. Okay, straightforward, mm-hmm, is there a problem with smashing on the first question? Okay, straightforward, mm-hmm, is there a problem?
Speaker 2:with smashing on the first night you meet somebody.
Speaker 4:I'm not answering first. I personally, in my elder years, don't think it's a problem. Why not? Because we grown. We grown, I mean, if the vibe is there, if everything's flowing the way it's supposed to flow, why not?
Speaker 3:No, uh-huh, you're second what Stand on business? All right then. Inside joke All right then, is it a?
Speaker 2:problem with smashing on the first date? Hold up then. Inside joke All right then. Is it a problem with smashing on the first date? Hold up, wait.
Speaker 3:Before, let me preface this for you yeah, please do. If you take the spiritual aspect out of it. Well, you know, I no, because I know you.
Speaker 2:I mean it depends On. It depends on, in my opinion, man, like if you really feeling that person or not. I think that should be the deciding factor whether or not smashing on the first day is important to you or not. Should it be important? If it's important to you. I don't think you should, because the way I see things is, if you let me smash on the first day, I don't see you as somebody I could be with long term I don't me me personally.
Speaker 3:I don't see anything wrong with smashing on the first night. If if you didn't come into it trying to do that because you know how some people show up and the only thing they talk about is sex, then I don't see a problem with you smashing on the first night. But if you go into it like the whole build up to the date was just sex talk, then you know what I'm saying it may be a problem.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I don't view you as a female. That, I think, is worthy of my time for real Worthy.
Speaker 4:Yeah, for sure, okay, so, but hold on With the pushback from what you said.
Speaker 3:Okay then, uh-oh, talk back to me, uh-oh.
Speaker 4:About. You know you don't see them as a long-term. Yeah, in my younger days I've smashed on the first day and we've actually gotten to a relationship and we was years in, so it didn't hinder our relationship.
Speaker 2:Okay, let me ask you this Younger years versus what you know now, though, what I know now, what you know now, would you still do the same thing With the same person, or just Just, would you view them the same way that you viewed them in your younger years? Or would you look at them now and be like, if she let me, man, I just don't think she. You know what I mean.
Speaker 4:Knowing what I know now, I would probably think twice about it. Now I ain't going to sit here and lie and say I wouldn't do it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3:But it would definitely be a second or third thought that crossed my mind before I took it there yeah, okay, let me ask y'all this then what would be an indication that the person that she was talking to was willing to give it up on the first night if there was no talks before about sex? That's the hard hitting questions over here, I mean indication that they want to give it up even though there's no talks about it.
Speaker 2:Sometimes you can just pick up on that vibe, bro, like the way that you know I'm saying they might touch you, you know I. Like the way that you know I'm saying they might touch you. You know, I mean the way that they they behave in. You know what I'm saying. And and sometimes, even if you don't talk about it, somebody who talks about what they not gonna do.
Speaker 3:Often, oh yes, they lying it probably comes across as I want you to you know what I'm saying Exactly.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean yeah, like you said, you know If they're real Touchy feely, you know If it's the first date, and they say hey man, you know. You think you wanna spend A night tonight.
Speaker 3:You know, what I mean. If you laugh at all of my jokes, I think you wanna give me some, and all of my jokes, I think you want to give me some and all of them, all of them, because you ain't that funny you just might be funny, though I am
Speaker 3:hilarious. Okay, what edit aisle two please? No, never mind. I was gonna say what do I always say? I am the funniest person in my entire family and I got some jokesters in my. I always say I am the funniest person in my entire family and I got some jokesters in my family.
Speaker 4:But I am by far the funniest one.
Speaker 3:I've only met three people in your family, that's all you need to know, then you know what I'm saying. That's enough evidence right there. Say, I'm pretty sure this has never happened to y'all, because y'all is y'all. But what if, like, a woman, wanted to give it up to y'all, right but, but she was trying to respect her on a different level? Do you think that would make y'all look uh silly?
Speaker 4:no, I've done that before. I've done that. I've been in that boat where I knew all I had to do was put my two cents in and it was going down. But the vibe wasn't there. That's all she worth is two cents, amen. I said the vibe wasn't there. Go ahead, the vibe wasn't there, man.
Speaker 4:And I knew, you know, once we finished with the date, I'm like, yeah, I'm going to go ahead and delete this number. I knew it, she stank or something. Nah, she didn't stank. You know, have you ever Been attracted to somebody and then the more they talk, the more unattractive they become? Oh yeah, so that was the case. So I'm like, yeah, this ain't going nowhere.
Speaker 3:This ain't it. I was just thinking like, like One day I was, like you ever like Wanted to date somebody, and when you did date them, you kind of realized why they always got cheered on. Yeah, yeah, like they did all this talking. Like you know, I'm always cheered up, I do X, y Z for my man. But then when you date them, you like, yeah, where is this at? Yeah, I see why.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying so, yeah, you know that, you know that. So, yeah, yeah, I don't know bro. I Nine times out of ten, bro, if I ain't trying to On the first day, bro, like I said, it's because I'm really trying to Trying to build something with you, cause, like I don't want to be in a situation when, like I get too attached, too quick Over. You know what I'm saying, you know, oh, you get sprawl quick. That ain't what I'm saying, that is not what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Oh weak in the knees over here.
Speaker 2:No, no, that is not what I'm saying, but I may not want her to be attached too quick either. I'm trying to learn you for real. Okay, okay, let me. Have you ever been in a situation where you was messing with a female? It didn't work out the way you wanted it to, but it was hard to get rid of her. Yes, okay, I don't want that situation. Come on, dyer, you can't tell me you ain't had a slashed tire or two, bro.
Speaker 3:No, I wish a mother what? No, I've never had A broke window or something, man. No, I've never had that before. But that don't mean that my stroke ain't clean, though you feel me.
Speaker 2:Moving on.
Speaker 3:Hold on G. Nah, hold on G. You mean to tell me. An indication of your stroke being clean is if you got a broken window at some point in your life or some slashed tires.
Speaker 2:Hey, babe, come break everything. No, I'm just saying. It was to the point to where they couldn't see themselves without you.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:I've had that.
Speaker 2:And since they can't see themselves without you, you can't be with nobody else.
Speaker 3:No, I've never had that. I've had a woman say that even if you get a girl, I'm still going to try to yeah okay, I've had that, I can.
Speaker 2:Even if you get a girl, I'm still going to try to.
Speaker 3:Yeah, okay, I've had that. I can dig it, but my property has never been damaged. I've definitely had a kick door too. I've had a key card too, Because I'll be dating them. Hood chicks.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean some of them. You don't know they are until you talk to them when you find them at. Sometimes you don't know they are until you talk to them when you find them at. Sometimes you don't know where you found them.
Speaker 4:They disappear. I'm just being honest.
Speaker 2:They there and then they don't go away Because you know hood people go to non-hood places too.
Speaker 3:Non-hood places is crazy. Okay, all right Okay.
Speaker 2:So back to the host mentioned first. Hey, you go to the other side of town and don't realize that the bus go over there, True?
Speaker 3:You know, Okay, Say, okay, say you're back in your 20s. Would you still view it the same way? Like you know, if I smash you on the first night?
Speaker 2:you may be easy. No, I ain't thinking about that in my early 20s.
Speaker 4:My 20s I was. I was outside dog, so if I got it on the first day or first date, oh yeah, you was trash to me. That was in my early 20s dog Okay.
Speaker 3:Even if she gave you, even if she had substance, you would still think she was trash.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I was different as a young man Tough crowd, I was different dog, I've definitely evolved. I was different.
Speaker 3:So do you think in?
Speaker 4:that time frame. You may have passed up on something In my early 20s, yeah. Just because she let you in between. Not off the top of my head. I can't think of none. No, okay, yeah, not off the top of my head.
Speaker 3:I can't think of none In my 20s. Okay, this is my general thinking. I've never thought, just because a person gives it up on the first night, that they're easy. I took it as you know what you want Now, depending on how good it was. No, I take it back Depending on how much you knew was going to make me think. Hmm, how many times have you done this? G Right, like if she using two hands on me the first night. I'm like yo, how many times? B? Who taught you that?
Speaker 4:Right, right, so let me ask you this Let me push back on this one, okay. So you said, just because you know, let me push back on this one, okay. So you said, just because you know you had it on the first night, you didn't think of her, no different way. Nope. Now what if she brought out all the tricks, everything from A to Z? I mean, it's the first 24 hours I done been in the room together and she done brought out everything.
Speaker 3:Then I'm going to think, like, like yo, she's done this several times right, so you're still not gonna look at her no different, though I'm gonna still look at her as she know that she know what she won't, but I'm gonna look, I'm gonna look at, like she's probably done this a lot of times and she's I don't want to say she's easy, because that would cheapen my. You know I'm saying w, but but.
Speaker 2:But you don't think it's easy on the first night.
Speaker 3:I mean, some people just fall for that dire charm. Oh, you know what I'm saying? It was Supreme before Supreme was a thing.
Speaker 2:What size hat you wear, bro? Bro, here you go bro, I'm just saying boy.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying oh blimp head muggle. I'm just saying oh blimp head. I'm just I'm just saying, bro, it's Same thing. Okay, did you answer the question, nigga?
Speaker 2:Uh, I did. Uh, what was the question I?
Speaker 3:don't even remember the question.
Speaker 2:I mean, I thought I answered, but I don't know.
Speaker 4:What about my rebuttal? You didn't answer that one. Okay, when you said what If she First night, you get it on the first night and she bring the whole bag of tricks out?
Speaker 2:Oh, oh, I'm talking toys lube everything First we— why she need lube in her toys.
Speaker 4:I don't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was in the bag, okay it was in the bag. It was in the bag.
Speaker 2:All right. Nah, I'm definitely going to look at it a little different. Yeah For sure. Why? Definitely Because, bro, experience come with doing something. Bro, right, how much experience you got in your early 20s though.
Speaker 3:That's why I say if you start, you know what I'm saying doing all that, I'm like yo Don't ever do that again, pause, pause.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm just saying. I'm just saying, at that age, bro, you looking like, bro, how many you know what I'm saying? Like, how much you know, like, when did you start? Okay, all right, like I'm definitely going to think about that.
Speaker 3:All right, If okay, now say you in your 30s now.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:And you met a woman who didn't want to give it up. You know what I'm saying on the first night. But y'all let's say okay, we all are not late 30s, late 30s. Do you think you would look at her differently? Or you'd be like girl you 30, 38. You should be giving that thing up, do you think? I'm not saying that you should, but I'm just saying that's exactly what you just said. What I'm saying is would you think that, since you're in your late 30s, no, I wouldn't.
Speaker 4:I've actually honestly never gone in on a date thinking I'm going to get it the first night. That was never the train of thought going to the date. If I offered to take you on a date, it's something about you that I'm feeling, so I want to explore that a little more, Okay.
Speaker 2:I feel that I mean in my 30s. I ain't thinking about that. I mean because at this time, bro, you got some age on you, so I'm already. I'm already going in knowing that you done, did a thing or two right. You know what I'm saying like I yeah, you, I know you did a thing or two okay.
Speaker 2:I just care to believe that I'm the only one you ever done that to. That's all I'm thinking. So you're going to lie to yourself. Yes, I'm not doing that. Yes, sir, the whole time. I don't want the imagery, the illusion. I got to act like I'm him.
Speaker 3:I'm the only one. I don't know who taught her this. That's me the whole time.
Speaker 1:I got her wanting to do new stuff. You know what I'm saying it ain't new at all, that's just.
Speaker 2:That's how I want to see that. Now you know All right.
Speaker 3:I don't think when you were in your late thirties like I would still think of you the same way In general. Like you you came into this knowing what you wanted. Like I would still have the same train of thought as I did back in my 20s. But say, say you wanted to have sex on the first night and she didn't want it, would you look at her differently? Like would you keep talking to her?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:You would Did the date go good.
Speaker 3:I mean sure yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah, the date went good, yeah, I would.
Speaker 3:You would be scared that you came across kind of thirsty trying to have sex and she didn't Nah nah, I think Muggs is so blunt nowadays she'll let you know if she was thirsty.
Speaker 4:I don't think so, at least the people I've come across.
Speaker 2:But most women think everybody want them anyway. Yeah, so it wouldn't even matter. She would be mad if you didn't want to have sex with her the first day and mad at you if you did want to have sex with her the first day. So it don't even matter.
Speaker 3:Well, excuse me using what you just said, if you don't want to have sex, you would be in somebody's group chat like girl.
Speaker 2:He didn't even try nothing. He lame, right, he must. I can't say that word go ahead oh, I hate when you do that.
Speaker 3:all right you, you get right there.
Speaker 2:Not today, not today.
Speaker 3:You know what? No, I'm not going to say that, not today, all right, but if you did try to do something and she didn't want to do nothing, you would be in somebody's group text again. Man, he was thirsty. Yeah, he was hot in the pants. All this other crap.
Speaker 2:Hot in the pants. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Anyway, that's what I think. For sure, I agree, I don't think a woman Would just tell you when you trying to make a move, yo, you being thirsty.
Speaker 4:I don't know, man, I don't know. I think I think nowadays, bro, that the roles have flipped as far as what, as far as the what's the word I'm looking for. Like as far as what? As far as the what's the word I'm looking for. Like, as far as if she would let you know if you're thirsty or not. Like I think there are more women who are out here that are more dominant. So if Dominant as far as what, as in I don't think nowadays the guy has to try to smash on the first night. I think there's a lot of females who have taken on that role and they'll let you know. I'm trying to get something tonight.
Speaker 3:Okay, this is going to sound weird, but don't you think it's safer that way?
Speaker 4:Okay, this is going to sound weird, but don't you think it's safer that way? Safer as in it cuts out the middleman in the guessing game.
Speaker 3:I mean that. But also, if she makes the move, then it's kind of hard for anything to come back onto you. You see what I'm saying? Yeah, that's why I'm saying yeah, that's why I? Said it's safer. I can see that.
Speaker 2:It's safer, but in my opinion, that's even scarier, though, than me pursuing somebody else, bro. How is it scarier, Bro, if you that type of female that's that aggressive? Bro, bro, what are you doing Monday through Sunday? What?
Speaker 2:you mean Exactly what I just mean, if you are being aggressive towards me, or you approaching me, or blah, blah, blah, x, y, z, bro. That's scary to me, bro, because nine times out of 10, women can pretty much have sex with whoever they want to have sex with. All they got to do is stand on the corner point at it and say, do you want some, and somebody gonna say yes, yeah. That's what's scary to me about it, bro. It's to me it's no longer a a prized possession, bro. You know what I'm saying? It ain't valued like it used to be valued. That's my thing. Yeah, man, it's not like it used to be.
Speaker 4:No, Because women are trading it just for money now, bro, they didn't put a price on it.
Speaker 2:Kidney's starting to hurt. Hey bro, it's scary to me when I see an aggressive woman, bro, so there's no more 90-day wait.
Speaker 4:Man where they at Okay.
Speaker 3:Would you be mad if a woman made you wait 90 days or said that you got to wait a certain amount of time to get this?
Speaker 4:Nah, not in my older years. No, as long as we vibing and we good, I'm cool, I can wait.
Speaker 2:I don't even want a time limit on that, bro. Let's just rock out together and see where life take us, bro. True, but you know what I mean.
Speaker 3:But if she did put a time limit on you, wouldn't be like thinking she had sex with somebody else?
Speaker 2:That would cross my mind, yeah.
Speaker 3:Exactly, definitely would That'll cross my mind.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, definitely It'll cross my mind, okay.
Speaker 3:Alright, you know what I'm gonna say, since we just went this route. What if y'all was Doing some things or whatever? And then you tried to get her To do something and she said I did that for my last guy and I didn't like it. Keep that to yourself.
Speaker 2:Just say no, no, no explanation.
Speaker 4:Speak.
Speaker 3:No, what is you like? I don't want to do that, because I did that for my last guy. I just told you I like to believe that you, I'm the first person that you've ever been with?
Speaker 2:No, that wasn't.
Speaker 4:Keep that to yourself. Just tell me no man listen, don't explain why. Don't just say no, why explain it?
Speaker 3:I'm just saying, I'm just saying no, just say no. No, y'all ain't with that.
Speaker 4:No man, I'm cool.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 4:That's going to kill the whole vibe. All right, how would you feel about that?
Speaker 3:I would stop everything that I'm doing and say thank you for tonight's evening. I had a good time. Text me or call me when you get home. That's what I would do. Yeah, because everything has just went. Yeah, that's what.
Speaker 4:I want to know.
Speaker 3:Hit it with the brother, and not the eye. Yeah, I'll take it back too. All right, then Pound it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, we done. Alright, I should have asked this In the beginning. I got something for you. Nah, go ahead.
Speaker 2:Ask your question first Would y'all look at her differently.
Speaker 3:If y'all had sex On the first night, I am you gonna look at her differently? Yeah, for sure. I don't know, bro. I am I gonna look at her different? Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4:I don't know, bro, I am, I don't know. Like I said, it depends now if it's just straight regular sex. I probably won't.
Speaker 3:But like I said, what is regular sex that's just missionary.
Speaker 4:I need to know what that is too missionary backshot, you know, just regular stuff missionary backshot, just regular stuff.
Speaker 3:Missionary backshot.
Speaker 4:Just regular stuff. That's it, Like I said. Now she pulls out the whole bag of tricks, Right. Then that's when I start thinking what are we doing here? Okay?
Speaker 2:My thing is, I go back to the point that I don't think you value yourself, bro, and that's what I'm looking at Like. I cannot be the first person that you've done this with, so you.
Speaker 3:so you automatically think, if she had sex with you on the first night, she's done this with other people.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 3:So it can never be you? Of course not. Why don't you love yourself?
Speaker 2:That's how I'm no, I do, and that's why I want to save myself the heartache. Bro, my thing is like and I? I may have been the first one, but at the end of the day, man, like, if, if you value yourself, man, you're gonna, you're gonna take care of yourself too. You just know me. Three hours ago, all we did was share a cheeseburger, mmm, and took a walk in the park.
Speaker 3:Hold on G.
Speaker 2:And you parted. Like the Red Sea, hold on G.
Speaker 3:Was that an inside jab? Because you said cheeseburger.
Speaker 2:No, it wasn't, but that fits Every time you say cheeseburger, now I think it's an inside jab.
Speaker 3:No, I was just thinking back.
Speaker 2:I mean, you took them to McDonald's or something.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying. I'm just saying, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying, you know, okay, we didn't share a cheeseburger, we had the two joints. You know what I'm saying, you know what I'm saying, the double cheeseburgers, the double cheeseburgers With cheese. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying All right, I'm just saying like bro, that's how I see that man what if you spent like, let's say, three, four hundred dollars on a date, the first date?
Speaker 2:I can't even answer that question.
Speaker 3:Yes, you can. You going to?
Speaker 2:as far as this show, I'm just saying I ain't never did that Go ahead, though?
Speaker 3:Would you be expecting to have sex on the first date?
Speaker 2:Me personally, like I'm, like I'm, like I'm, I will, bro, I don't expect anything on the first date. All right then, I just want to have fun.
Speaker 3:What do you go into the first date thinking?
Speaker 2:I'm just going to have a good time.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we vibing today. That's it. That's it. You know, food, drinks, conversation, whatever activity we're going to do for the day, and we're just going to rock out with that.
Speaker 3:We're just going to rock out with that.
Speaker 4:Do you think it is safe to say that a first date? You plan the date but you let the woman dictate where the date goes Indirectly, because I'll ask you know what might she want to do, what activity she's into, and then I'll kind of just build a date around that so she indirectly, you know, set up the date. Yeah, you want them to have a good time too, okay.
Speaker 3:All right. What were you going to ask?
Speaker 2:Oh, all, right, Now this is true, right, I ain't about to put nobody out there, but there's a situation that I know of right. There's a situation that I know of right. It was a female that apparently was decent at this time, right, but she was the type of female that whenever she would have a boyfriend, she would get his name tattooed on her. Okay, let me. Now I know the person that was dating Said girl, and that person Actually was feeling her. When I met her, I seen, you know, the tattoo On the neck. I'm like, ooh, okay, she got a name on her. Not a big deal, right, that's something you can get covered up, get removed, right. Then she took her jacket off, got a name on her. Not a big deal, right, that's something you can get covered up, get removed, right. Then she took her jacket off, saw another name on her forearm.
Speaker 1:Bam.
Speaker 2:Another name. I'm like, ooh, two tattoos to cover, okay, all right. Well, this person, did you know sleep with him or whatever? Came back to me. I was like man. She got one on her back, she got one on the cheek, she got one on the leg. It turned out to be like nine or ten different names. Oh, starting line up Nine or ten different names, bro, practice squad, how would you view said person?
Speaker 3:To be honest with you, my G, when I saw the first tattoo, I would have asked who was that. She would have said an ex or something. Yeah, I would have been like is he dead? She would have said no, that would have been the end of us, right there.
Speaker 2:Okay, why Now the? Reason why I brought this up is because everything we was just talking about some of these women are sleeping with on the first night. They just didn't get tattoos, so that's why that beat in my mind when I get it on the first date is without seeing the names. I'm seeing the names, bro, Okay.
Speaker 3:Okay, you saying that If she wanted to give it to you on the first night what you doing and you really feeling her Like you, you quarter her and everything.
Speaker 2:I'm not saying that I wouldn't.
Speaker 3:No, g, hold on, I'm not saying I'm about to answer you.
Speaker 2:I'm not saying I wouldn't have indulged in the moment Indulge but what I'm saying is I can't look at her as somebody that I could be with though. Okay, would you look?
Speaker 3:at yourself differently, yeah, why.
Speaker 2:Because I, honestly, because he indulged, thank you.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I did. Your flesh is weak.
Speaker 2:Huh I'm just saying your flesh is weak. Huh, she took a piece of me that day, Took a whole piece of me that day, bro.
Speaker 3:So how about you? What happened? Would you look at her differently With the tats? Nah, just like period. If you had sex with a girl on the first night, would you look at her differently? Nah, not really bro, not really, not really. You look at it differently. No, not really, bro, not really, not really. So this whole myth of you know, if a woman gives up on the first night, the man gonna look, gonna think that she a hoe.
Speaker 4:That's not really true not, I don't think not anymore. Like I said, I've done it and I've gotten relationships with girls.
Speaker 2:So it didn't you know, it didn't, it didn't sway anything, okay all right, I see, but what deters me, though, bro, is like okay, have you ever had a situation where they give it to you the first night, but then also try to make it seem like it was because of you? Like I've done this because it's you. Like that's the type of talk I definitely don't like. Yeah, I don't you playing with me now?
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's, I'm still talking that. That makes me feel like I just had sex with your representative and not you, because you still talking this. Yin yang, talk to me yin yang yeah, old school, that's not what I was good, I know okay all right, you know what man?
Speaker 4:Let me ask you this Okay, so if you go on a date with a girl, how much history do you need to know about her? Like, do you know about any of her past yet? Because what I'm getting at, say you know about her past, say you know she's given it up on the first date a couple times, but when it gets to you, you know everybody that second life. Now all of a sudden she ain't doing that no more. Now you got the weight. But you know Mike, tim and them got it on the first night.
Speaker 3:Now you, you got the weight, and what hold on a minute, hold on, wait, what dude off the wood say what's that? When you was trying to have sex and she wasn't letting him? And she's like man, you like the nigga Earl here, or something like that I forgot what he said. The boy name was yeah, but that's kind of like what it is.
Speaker 3:Nah, yeah, like I would kind of feel yeah, I know I'm prettier than that thing, yeah, yeah, yeah, I would looking prettier than that thing, yeah, good, yeah, I would kind of feel like why are you doing this now, G Right, like here's the problem that, oh, facts, yeah, to connect to what you said. Okay, if in my opinion, I could be wrong, but this is just my opinion. If in my opinion I could be wrong, but this is just my opinion. If they don't see a future with you, they probably going to be quick to give it up. But if they actually see that you have substance to you, they could actually try to build something with you.
Speaker 2:They will make you wait. I think they give it up to who they like. If they make you wait, they don't like you. That's how I see that especially in a situation where they are giving it up to tim. You know will and dyer.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying if they are doing that, yeah, okay if they are doing that, then they come to you.
Speaker 2:they ain't feeling you like that. They like you for other things, yeah.
Speaker 3:That's why they make you wait. Yeah, that's how I see that. I dig it.
Speaker 1:I dig it.
Speaker 2:Now maybe you might have a female that turned it around and like I ain't doing that no more, and it may land on you. But I said it might land on you, it, but it might fall on you. But my thing is this Stand on that, stand on that, don't hit me on some. I want to wait till I get married. And then one Saturday evening you like, hey man, I just let's just go ahead and stand on what you were talking about.
Speaker 3:All right, saying that if she didn't want to stand on it. And then you got Like you got to know her better and you understood why she said it, so you wanted to stand on it. You don't think she would go out, and you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I actually do. It's cool, she already gave you an answer. Okay, you know what I'm saying. You just helped me out, alright, okay.
Speaker 3:I uh.
Speaker 1:I want to have a little fun real quick.
Speaker 3:Have some fun. Yeah, I mean this— Pause, thank you. No, I ain't pausing nothing. I want to have some fun, don't?
Speaker 1:say it like that man.
Speaker 2:Why you say it like that. I hooked up to the board, bro, did you?
Speaker 3:Yeah, because I want to play this video and I just want to get y'all input on this.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, and she apologizes, admits she's wrong and promises Okay, if you meet a woman and she apologizes, admits she's wrong and promises to change, dump her immediately, because it might be a man, women never do that.
Speaker 3:Okay, that's funny. What's y'all thoughts on that? That's funny, that's funny.
Speaker 4:That was not what I was expecting. That was good, that was real good, that's funny.
Speaker 1:It is definitely not the norm, right, okay, it is definitely not the norm.
Speaker 2:Right, okay, it is definitely not the norm. Um we? We live in a society where accountability is out the window, so when you do find somebody that is willing to apologize, it's like a unicorn bro okay.
Speaker 3:Do you think it's an apology when they say I'm sorry that you feel that way? That's not an apology.
Speaker 2:That is not an apology, that's straight sarcasm.
Speaker 3:No, but with. They don't feel like they did anything wrong. So they're saying that they're sorry for how you feel it don't matter.
Speaker 2:You still putting it on me, though. Yeah, you still making it my fault. That's because they don't feel like they did anything wrong, but you're still making it my fault. That's because they don't feel like they did anything wrong, but you're still making it my fault. Whether you feel like they did anything wrong or not, it ain't your job to decide that. I'm telling you you did something, yeah.
Speaker 3:So a person should apologize even if they don't think they did anything wrong.
Speaker 2:Yes, Because just because you feel like you didn't do anything wrong don't mean that the other person don't feel like you didn't do anything wrong, right? So how do you fix that? Do you think you can give your woman the same reply by saying I'm sorry about the way you feel, you think that's fine?
Speaker 3:Are you asking me that for real? Yes, Remember who you're talking to.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying I want some emails.
Speaker 3:It's me, my J yeah, I want some emails, it's me. I just feel like, okay, we always say the best apology is change behavior, correct Facts If you don't think you did anything wrong. What can you change if you don't think you did anything wrong?
Speaker 2:Don't do what they told you you did, whether you feel like it's wrong or not. I mean, how hard would it be just to change? Not doing that one thing?
Speaker 3:Okay, I'll give you an example.
Speaker 4:What if that one thing is holding them accountable for something, then you got to hold another issue.
Speaker 2:That's a bigger problem.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:I'll give you an example. I don't like when my wife, or any girl I've ever been with, to call me bruh. I can't stand that G Don't call me bruh. Or bro None of that, dude, none of that stuff. Don't call me any of that. Now, is it wrong for them to do so? No, but I'm telling them I don't like it, right? Okay, so change it, call me anything else.
Speaker 4:All right. But you know they do say the hardest thing for somebody to do is apologize and ask for help.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's the hardest thing for somebody to do. Yeah, all right, I'm going to ask this, and this is the last question that I'm going to ask anyway. If, in general, we all think that it's hard for women to apologize and accept accountability, why do we try so hard to be with them?
Speaker 2:It's wrapped in your DNA, bro. Okay, it's just wrapped in your DNA, man. You want them. It's because it's a piece of you that you don't have that you need the yin to your yang.
Speaker 3:And vice versa.
Speaker 2:Okay, Now let me ask you this Do you think you could go through life without having one?
Speaker 3:Without a woman.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:What you mean not have one? Do you mean like being in a relationship or the touch of a woman?
Speaker 2:Having one around in any capacity. No, I agree Facts. No matter how much turmoil these knuckleheads give you, you still let them hit you over the doggone head.
Speaker 4:Yeah, every time.
Speaker 2:Women. That's, I love you. You know, I love you, knuckleheads. I want to put it out there. Yeah, pause.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 4:What do you call them? On Baby Boy? Unstable creatures, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2:Let me ask you this when do you think the disconnect is? To have a successful relationship, though?
Speaker 4:I think nowadays, like I said when I said, the roles is kind of flipped. I think there are more women who want to prove that they don't need a man. So they're always butting heads because they want to prove to you they don't need you. Versus, what's the word I'm looking for? Versus, embracing why they were created to do all the things you can't do to make you whole.
Speaker 3:I think the disconnect is basically we live in a society where we all want to do everything by ourselves.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 3:That's just it. We don't need each other, but if we do get somebody, they supposed to like. What's the word Enrich our life? Not make it easier to some degree, but enrich it.
Speaker 2:I think one of the major reasons is equality. Oh, here you go, I'm gonna explain to you why equality, in my opinion, destroy relationship. Yeah, the issue is, if you are a woman that want to be equal to a man, if said man make you equal, you lose protection. True, you lose provision, yep Covering. You lose all of that Because everything that you don't want to do as a woman that he can do he's not going to do Because you want to be like him. Equality destroyed that because men used to hold women to a regard of being a I don't want to say being a weaker vessel. So you want to protect them, you want to make sure they're safe. When a cruise ship is going down, they take the women and children out first.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Nowadays I'm getting in line.
Speaker 3:Hold on, wait. I heard a joke about that. They said why do you think? When things are in trouble we always say get the women and children out of here.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:It's because men, so men can figure out the problem.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying we're being asked to give our lives to somebody that we love, that are not willing to give what that man needs, though.
Speaker 3:Another disconnect, another thing that happened as far as a disconnect, women started to make more money than men. Not as a whole, but for some people Like some pockets in the world.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:Not in general, because we still make more money than women, but when women started to make money, that's when the whole I don't date brokies came around and I don't date broke niggas and stuff like that. I'm a boss chick, but you a cashier at Walmart. That's the type of thing that caused.
Speaker 2:But that still, in my opinion, is the whole equality situation. Yeah, because at the end of the day, you make more money. Now you feel like you got power where you're in control, right? You don't, because men don't care about your money Can care less. I'm not saying in a sense that if you working together with somebody, yeah, but I'm just saying you got females that make so much money that they don't want to date somebody that's broke, but then you get one that has money too, you think you're going to control him, right?
Speaker 4:That's true. A man will date down and help his girl build up, but ain't no woman dating down to help him build up? Of course not.
Speaker 2:And if she does, it's an illusion of building. Yeah, it's about control at that point.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I was going to say because we have somebody on the show.
Speaker 2:Yes, speak on it.
Speaker 3:Who accidentally told us yes, the type of man that she goes for, uh-huh, uh-huh, and let's just say she don't date her income.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 3:No, gotcha, she dates below her income yeah.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:For control? I would say yeah, because when she mad a real nice one, ooh, bring an emoji, bro. I'm just playing, I'm just playing, I'm just playing, you don't the?
Speaker 1:moaty bro, I'm just playing.
Speaker 3:I'm just playing. You don't know what button it is. Do you this, dude? I do.
Speaker 2:I just want to marinate on what you just did. What did I do? Keep going, I'm done. That's why I said bringing the moaty, are you sure?
Speaker 3:Yeah, all right, man, you got Nope Because I said what I had to say during the show Straight, like that. You know what I'm talking about Motivation, man, motivation, motivation. I don't know if you know this or not, but you know, at the end of every episode we try, we try To give a motivational quote To lead a people with Right. You got one.
Speaker 4:Motivational quote To lead a people with Nope Let me be honest.
Speaker 2:Nope, that's it All. Right, I got one, you got one. You know I'm going to make mine up real quick, I just made mine up.
Speaker 3:Okay. Okay, ladies, if your man ain't acting right, get you a bald head, woo. And if he is bald head and he ain't acting right, he ain't bald head like us. We didn't choose this life, this life chose us.
Speaker 2:This one for the ladies too If you want a real man, think about becoming a real woman first, mm.
Speaker 1:Bars.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, well, j Will man, you was here, bro. Yes, sir.
Speaker 2:I'm here, man In the building. They call me Dyer. You said your name. Yeah, now be your boy. Nine J Will Supreme today. You know, I had a name for you today too. All right, bro, it's cool, I got you All right. I got you All right. I had a good time. Though Trick I got a bald head, mm Bald head in all caps, mm.