Supremely Full Of It Podcast
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Is there an such thing as being single for too long?
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Speaker 4:Supremely full of it. Podcast Take four and we still in this. Yeah, we still here, and I am still dire and we still in this. Yeah, we still here, and I am still dire.
Speaker 3:I be your boy now. I'm tired bro. I'm tired bro.
Speaker 4:Oh God, All right.
Speaker 3:We act like we don't know what we're doing.
Speaker 4:How long have you ever been single? How long have you ever been single?
Speaker 3:Again About two years man, Two years yeah.
Speaker 4:Okay, again. What did you do during those two years?
Speaker 3:Man, I was raising my boy. Man, I was a single father at the time. Man, Single father at the time.
Speaker 4:Kudos to you, yeah, kudos to you.
Speaker 3:Mother rant. No, I'm just playing, go ahead. Wow yeah, I'm just playing Go ahead. Wow yeah, I was going to put it out there. It happened Again. It happened. All right, I'm sorry. Yeah, anyway, I just got in my feels real quick, it's cool.
Speaker 4:The longest I've ever been single.
Speaker 3:Yeah, please answer.
Speaker 4:Please answer the longest I've ever been single was four years.
Speaker 3:That's a long time time. It depends on what you're doing during those four years.
Speaker 2:Hmm, let me ask you, okay, what?
Speaker 3:were you doing for those four years day walking, hmm all right.
Speaker 4:Okay, you want to bring the modi in? No, okay all right, you say that you was, uh, raising a kid or whatever. Right, I was day walking. Is there a such thing as being single for too long?
Speaker 3:I think so. I think so for real. It depends, though, like if being single too long it'll, if you want a date, it makes it harder for you to find somebody. You get set in your ways, you get used to somebody, not you know. Know what I'm saying. Being around, yeah, possibly spending up your money.
Speaker 4:But all right, let me ask you this when people say they are single, does that mean that they're alone?
Speaker 3:You know what? I interpret that as being alone. Okay, but some people don't.
Speaker 4:But when I say they walk. That's what I was going to say. If, if, all right, why would a person be Be single? For how can I rephrase this? If you had to, if you had to.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Put a time limit on being single. How long would you think somebody who is fresh out of a relationship would be single for?
Speaker 3:I don't know if I could put a time limit on it, man, but I say you need to be single long enough to get over what you just left my problem with what you said is I don't think you would truly know if you're over something until you're in a new situation, okay.
Speaker 4:Like you don't know that you're healed from something until you're dealing with somebody new, you don't know that you're healed from something until you're dealing with somebody new.
Speaker 3:But isn't that kind of using the other person as a crash test dummy?
Speaker 4:Aren't we all crash test dummies?
Speaker 2:I ain't.
Speaker 3:Mm-mm. But I'm just saying like, what, if you okay for me to know that I'm over this person, I need to try something new with somebody else. What if I find out I'm not over a said person and then I waste new person's time?
Speaker 4:Well, that's when you have a conversation with the person saying that you know, I'm fresh out of something and I'm still dealing with X, y and Z problems, and I'm still dealing with X, y and Z problems. But if you're still interested in getting to know me, just know that these are my boundaries and I'm standing on them.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 4:It's up to that person to stand on.
Speaker 3:I agree, you need to put that up front.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:But I think all you're doing is compounding more issues.
Speaker 4:I just think all right. If a person is single for too long, do you think they miss the feeling of being wanted or desired?
Speaker 3:I'm sure that come up. And then you got some people. Man, that's just like. You know what. I'm cool, I'm going to sit down, I'm going to be straight, keep it moving. I don't know, some people take time just to be like. You know, I'm working on me.
Speaker 4:What is working on me really means? What does working on me really mean? Like, because some people could say that just to get you off of them.
Speaker 3:So what does working on me really mean? You may be one of them dudes we talked about that shouldn't be dating because he ain't got nothing. You might want to work on that. You might have some emotional issues, some depression, some blah, blah, blah. You might need to work on that. You might need to work on stabilizing yourself, but would you really?
Speaker 4:know that, that you've succeeded in working on that, if you haven't used it on other people, so to speak.
Speaker 3:So we using people now I'm just playing.
Speaker 4:We all being used. You using me right now, just like I'm using you Pause. You ain't using nothing over here hey, go ahead.
Speaker 3:Hey, bro, I'm just saying like I don't know man, I just I, I'm, I'm a firm believer.
Speaker 4:Bro, like you really shouldn't waste other people time right, but if you had that conversation, then everything that happens after that is, as you say, their fault agreed, okay agreed.
Speaker 3:If you had a conversation, they agreed to it. That's cool but, I still think that you compounding issues if you're still dealing with somebody else or dealing with what happened to you before.
Speaker 4:Okay, if in my opinion, if you're single, okay, if you're single for like more than two years probably. To me that kind of looks like something I don't want to say you're not looking for a relationship, but there's a reason why you can't find a relationship.
Speaker 3:What do you think that reason would be?
Speaker 4:I don't want to say because you don't want one, because I believe that everybody wants to be in a relationship. Everybody wants that feeling of being wanted, desired, somebody to share ideas with, or whatever. Blah, blah, blah. But it's probably because I don't. That whole single by choice thing you mean to tell me if your type came up to you, if you single by choice and you didn't want a relationship, if your idea man or woman came up to you, you would still turn them down because you don't want to be in a relationship right now.
Speaker 3:If it's something that you actually want. I don't know, I don't know if they're I don't know. Bro, that single by choice thing a lot of times people say it is because they can't find something, like you said, what they actually want. They can't find something like you said, what they actually want, they can't get. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 4:If all right, say you single for like six years.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:And somebody asks you like why are you single, and the best thing that you would say is I'm working on myself. Don't you think that would make the other person think like it's taking you 60 years to work on yourself. What is wrong with you?
Speaker 3:It could have been you. It could have been you. Now are you saying in the perspective of somebody that wanted to be with that person, no, or are you just saying anybody?
Speaker 4:Now, are you saying in the perspective of somebody that wanted to be with that person, no, or are you just saying anybody? I'm saying if a person say a person told you that they was working on themselves, but they've been single for six years, you wouldn't think yo, what was wrong with you then If you've been single for this long and you've been working on yourself for six years?
Speaker 3:I mean, at some point, if you want to be in a relationship, it becomes an excuse. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. And if I would say a friend, I ain't going to lie to you. I'm going to be like, hey, bro, you are not doing a good job at it, right? Because at some point, if you still working on some stuff that I know that you've been working on for six years, you ain't working on nothing.
Speaker 4:Or you're not able. You may need some professional help, probably, yeah, for sure. Yeah, yeah, I agree. If, like, like I said, when you're, if you're working on yourself, you will not know if what you are working on is actually worked out until you're in a situation Like you're talking to somebody, you're dealing with somebody I'm not saying you're being with them, but you're spending time with a person.
Speaker 3:You will know for sure if you working on something actually worked out. Yes, if you were with somebody else. That's what I'm saying. But what I was saying is some people will use that immediately after getting out of something that they just got out of. You know what I'm saying. And then you putting another person in a situation, geeking their head up, and you ain't over your last one.
Speaker 4:Okay, is it a? This is a funny type because I've lived through this before.
Speaker 3:Okay, speak on it.
Speaker 4:Nah.
Speaker 3:Nah, I don't speak on it, brother.
Speaker 4:When people are single for a long time and they are out daywalking, does that give you, does it give the person that's daywalking a reason to be in a relationship when they're daywalking?
Speaker 3:I mean, I would think daywalking would probably cause more issues, though. Why is that? Day walking will probably cause more issues though? Why is that? Because that's another instance of why would I get in a relationship if I can get what I want?
Speaker 4:anyway without being in one. Yeah, so like if you already getting, if you getting the attention that you would get in a relationship when you're day walking, there's really no reason for you to get in a relationship.
Speaker 3:That's true In some cases. Yeah, that's true Some. But some people get tired of daywalking man. What if you daywalking with the same person? Then you in a relationship, bro, send a text jumping out the window Inside.
Speaker 1:Joke, wow, send a text jumping out the window.
Speaker 3:Hey, I just thought it was you just said See cats out here thinking they be day-walking they in whole relationships Wow.
Speaker 4:Send a text, man, I'm going to tell you these things. I hate you bro.
Speaker 3:Wow, all right, did I do something to?
Speaker 2:you. No, I'm just saying Some people that are daywalking really want to be,
Speaker 4:in a relationship Nah nah.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying Ain't nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 4:It's an illusion that's, that was wild, that was wild, wow. Side note don't tell your friends everything, okay, don't you ever tell them that hey man, it's cool man so when you, when, when you have been single for a long time, right, are you hesitant, like how hesitant are you to get in a new relationship?
Speaker 3:yeah, very man, like I said, you get used to just doing you so?
Speaker 4:does that mean that you're not willing to like, say, you have a system in place, a routine. Are you not willing to change that routine for the person?
Speaker 3:Compromise gets very difficult, right when you get used to something, right when you're in a relationship, man. It's a lot of give and take, man, and sometimes when you single too long, it's some things you can't give up on.
Speaker 4:Should I ask you like what?
Speaker 3:I cannot explain it. Let's say if there's something that you do as a hobby, let's just use that. For example, you do as a hobby on a particular day, right, but you get in a relationship and this is a day that she wants to do something else, okay what you gonna do if you been in a bowling league bowling every Thursday for the last two years, she asking you to quit bowling. Are you going to throw your ball away or are you going to throw her away? You're probably going to throw her away, bro.
Speaker 4:Yeah, because I love my ball.
Speaker 3:You're probably going to throw her away.
Speaker 4:Well, all right, if you've been single for so long and you get in a relationship, does do you automatically think that, since this person wants to be with me, they accept my routine?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean you should accept my routine.
Speaker 4:So all right If you've been single for so long and you get in a relationship mhm do you? Do you make room for that person? You got to, you got to. But what if your routine is so you know, saying strict? Mhm that you well, you had to make room for them if you got that close to get in a relationship with them mhm or if you don't have room for them.
Speaker 3:You, you got that close to get in a relationship with them, or if you don't have room for them. You were single too long. You loaded up all your time doing other things, which I understand.
Speaker 4:Okay, we just had this conversation. You said something on one episode about the Bible, saying something about, if you single, focus on God more, or something like that. Oh, yeah, because if you're not, because if you're in a relationship, you're not going to focus all the way, or something.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean, but I it was really speaking towards you know what I'm saying being married or whatever, but it was just saying that, um, if you're a single, you could focus more on God. When you're in a relationship, you're going to tend to the things of your wife, and vice versa.
Speaker 4:So is it really a problem with being single for too long?
Speaker 3:No, it's not a problem, but it is a problem if you really don't want to be single, though I think dating changes every couple years. What you mean, what do?
Speaker 4:you mean.
Speaker 3:Expectations. It changes often Like One thing man, look we old enough to when we first started dating bro. Things could just be so simple. Ice cream Park Movie ice cream park movie.
Speaker 4:That was back in the broke nigga era, though not necessarily we all got. You know, I'm saying we eating scrimp steak and lobster over here I get that, but expectations are still different, though.
Speaker 3:See back then you could take somebody out, and they just enjoyed the fact that you took them somewhere and did something. Nowadays the women are dictating what they want you to do for them on first dates. So in the next 5, 10 years, where we going to be?
Speaker 4:I'm hoping the men tell the women where we want to be taken, because it's our turn Yo we up. I don't think that's happening. Be taken because it's our turn, yo we up.
Speaker 3:I don't think that happening?
Speaker 4:no, it's never gonna happen.
Speaker 3:I don't think that happen.
Speaker 4:We don't we don't stand on our square long enough for that to happen when did the Cheesecake Factory become McDonald's?
Speaker 3:because that's where we at bro.
Speaker 4:I don't know, but we ain't seeing her in a minute, I hope she got somebody I don't get it bro. All right when, okay, say you are single, mm-hmm, let's give another number four to six years.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:But you want a relationship Right. But you can a relationship Right. But, you can't find one, does that say?
Speaker 2:something about you yeah what does it say?
Speaker 3:they say you picky, you got standards really yeah, for sure, even if, like you know, that's why I say the longer you go, bro, the harder it is to get back into the game I think, but that's not because you picky, though.
Speaker 4:Like I don't think somebody will go six years and just be like on Tinder.
Speaker 3:Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, I don't think but after a while you realize there are certain things you're not giving up, you're not compromising on okay that that's like me.
Speaker 4:I'm not dating a smoker. You mean to tell me in six years, all I ran across is smokers. That ain't what.
Speaker 3:I'm saying but there's gonna be other aspects that you're not gonna deal with. True, but for argument's sake, this ain't that oh like nothing on you and your relationship I gotta be my I'm just just hear me out I'm just saying get ready to hit the pause if if things didn't work out, there's going to be something that you're going to take away from this relationship that you're not going to go for in the next one that is true so at that point you single three, four, five, six years, but you're not giving nothing up.
Speaker 3:No more man. Either you do this or I'm gone, or either I do this and blah, blah blah. That's where you're gonna be.
Speaker 4:It just to clarify I just to preface my comments. The relationship that I'm in now is my last relationship Right. If this doesn't work, I'm day walking again.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:Now saying that I am not. I agree with you, but it's not that extreme for me because the thing is that I may not say that I won't. I'm not going to find that in too many other people like I probably can go date four different people and not see that that I'm not you know what I'm saying going to accept anymore. So it's not that extreme. For me, A woman, though it could be something small, but they would take it to an extreme probably.
Speaker 3:But you, okay, but hear me out.
Speaker 4:I don't want to.
Speaker 3:You're going to an extreme now when you say if this don't work out, this is my last one, that's not extreme. How extreme can you get? Say, if this don't work out, this is my last one, that's not extreme. How extreme can you get that mean that you're done with certain stuff that you're not going to put up with, no more. I'm done with relationships. Why that's?
Speaker 4:extreme. There's no need for me to be in another one.
Speaker 3:That's extreme, though.
Speaker 4:Okay, yeah, if you get a divorce, you going to get back out here in these streets. We ain't talking about me nah. My nigga nah, nah, my nigga, nah, my nigga, niggas don't wanna talk now. We ain't talking about me, nah.
Speaker 3:I put it to you like this. I ain't saying that wouldn't be the case, but what I'm saying is I'm not just gonna say you know what I'm done on relationship period though you will go, bro.
Speaker 4:You dire let's go day walking. I'm already out here in these streets, I'm already out here I'm just saying, you know, in it out.
Speaker 3:In my opinion, it's all based on age bro okay it's based on age and experience, bro, like at this stage, being 40 years old. Go ahead, just Keep going, keep going. I'm just saying, bro, there ain't a lot out here that I'm putting up with, no more bro.
Speaker 4:Okay, I don't believe that. Okay, what I mean by that is the older you get, the more accepting you are to certain things, in my opinion.
Speaker 3:Nah, you just find somebody else is done with everything, like you are. What do you mean? Done, done? As far as we're not going to play these childish games like how we're playing them now. All I'm saying is, bro is, as you get older, bro, you just don't want nonsensical drama in your life, bro, you want peace bro. You just don't want non-sensual drama in your life, bro, you want peace bro.
Speaker 4:You can find peace anywhere, can you? I'm not going there, yes, can you. What I'm saying is this the older you get, I think, the more you're willing to settle. No I think the more you're willing to settle. No, okay, I mean, if you found someone who was 40 and they've been single since they was 30, you're not going to be like what's wrong with you? G.
Speaker 3:Of course you're going to ask, you're going to, you're going to wonder that, yeah, and what?
Speaker 4:if she just say I couldn't find somebody, no, I'm not going to wonder that, yeah. And will she just say I couldn't find somebody, no, I'm not going to settle for certain stuff. Mm-hmm, you mean to tell me in 10 years? Mm-hmm you couldn't find one guy that you didn't say I don't have to settle.
Speaker 3:Let me ask you this In all reality, the only person that you can't say that about is the person you with now. Why is that? Because anything before them didn't work out, for whatever reason.
Speaker 2:Okay, work out for whatever reason.
Speaker 3:Okay, so moving forward, the things that made those relationships not work out, you keep on your list of things that you don't want to deal with, so your list grows as you get older, though, but should it, though, because you're older, more miles on you, you're more seasoned, so should you really be like you know I'm not doing X, y and Z, having the same standards that you had back when you was in your twenties. Nah, you're not going to have the same standards but, you're going to have more.
Speaker 3:You had less standards when you were younger, true, but it should be the other way around, in my opinion yeah, but that just means, if you have less standards as you get older, that mean you just letting people do whatever they want.
Speaker 4:As the years go. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is you're more traveled, right. You have more baggage as you get older, right? So, if you have more baggage as you get older, Well.
Speaker 3:I don't know. In my opinion, as you get older, you lose baggage. I don't know what world you live in. Yeah, you lose it, bro. I'm about to lose some in two years. That's different. See, you're talking about kids.
Speaker 4:I'm talking about All of it. I'm talking what you mean all of it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you lose baggage, bro, you start to let stuff go.
Speaker 4:I was about you keep saying that I'm gonna ask the question now. Anyway, as you get older, you're more damaged.
Speaker 3:Agreed. But that's exactly why, if you were an older car, you're not going to let somebody with less experience drive you and tear you out the frame.
Speaker 4:Wow, that's the terminology you used.
Speaker 3:Yes, you don't treat old classic cars like new ones, old classic cars like new ones.
Speaker 4:I just so basically, what you're saying is there's really no such thing as being single for too long.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you can be single for too long. Yeah, you can be single for too long if you want to actually be in a relationship at some point. But what if you do but?
Speaker 4:Okay, let me ask you this. Let me just ask this flat Do you think everybody wants to be in a relationship?
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 4:Why I?
Speaker 3:don't think everybody wants to be in a relationship. No, why? I don't think everybody wants the responsibility of caring for somebody else.
Speaker 4:Do you think that's what relationships are nowadays? Caring for other people, that's all it's about. Do you think in today's world?
Speaker 3:Not in today's. I mean no, Not in today's world, but in today's. I mean no, not in today's world, but what it's supposed to be. Yeah, You're supposed to care for somebody else and you say people don't want that. No people giving up.
Speaker 4:So there are some people out in this world that really have no desire for being in a relationship.
Speaker 3:Yes, I know a couple of them right now. Do they have?
Speaker 4:OnlyFans. No, then how can they?
Speaker 3:have. Well, let me say they're not women, though I'll say that.
Speaker 4:I can agree now.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm. Okay, please explain.
Speaker 4:I just at one point in my life I felt I was happier, not in a relationship.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Not because I was a day walker, but because I could come and go as I wanted.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4:Every time my phone blew up it wasn't something that I did, or somebody wanted me to do something. I had to come here, go there, blah, blah, blah. Right, so I can understand that. So that brings up this question who you think cares about being in a relationship, more men or women? Oh, men for sure.
Speaker 3:Men care about that. Men care about being in a relationship more than women, yes, and you said for sure, like okay, why? Um men are genetically made to want to care for something and provide and protect and to and you know, I'm saying that's just how we made up, bro, and that's how most men are raised. We can get a dog, you can get a dog, and some of these dudes that I'm talking about that's what they own. Okay, who are you thinking? So you're telling me women care about relationships more.
Speaker 4:They get more validation right okay, yeah, tacos, I don't. To be honest, I think men don't care about most men wouldn't care about being in a relationship.
Speaker 3:Let me ask you this Is there more men out there that want to be with one person, or do you think there's more men that want to day walk?
Speaker 4:I think there's more men that want to day walk, you think?
Speaker 3:so, yeah, I disagree. Why do you disagree? And this is just straight off statistical facts, bro the men that day walk have multiple kids with different women okay which means that most of the women are sleeping with the same dudes, which means there's a higher number of men without children that want to be in relationships, bro you don't think that turns people, turns the men away.
Speaker 4:Knowing that most women have multiple, I ain't going to say that.
Speaker 3:I take that back, but that's what I'm saying. The number of men that actually day walk is smaller than the number of men that actually want to be in a monogamous relationship. It's just there are more women that want the same guy. Okay.
Speaker 4:My point of view is this Using what you just said if most of the, if a small portion of men is having sex with the same, if a small portion of men is having sex with most of the women, most of the women, I really think in today's world you get everything up front, so there's really no need to be in a relationship. Yeah, that's why I said I don't think men care about relationships more whose fault is that, though?
Speaker 4:it's women's fault, yeah it's their fault, because, well, I'm not saying that. Saying never mind, um, no, I'm not saying it. I'm not saying that Never mind, no, I'm not saying that. I'm not saying that it has something to do with a cow Moving on, yeah, moving on. In today's world, like I said, you get everything up front, so there's no need to be in a relationship, but if you're in a situation, ship mm-hmm can you still say that you've been single for years, even though you're dealing with somebody?
Speaker 3:what's the situation ship?
Speaker 4:somebody that you kicking it with mm-hmm that's all. That's all you're going to say that's it, somebody that you are just kicking it with.
Speaker 3:I can't consider that single, though, because they're dealing with somebody.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I can't consider that single Situationship means maybe, maybe not.
Speaker 4:So you think when a person is single?
Speaker 3:that means that they have absolutely nobody that they talking to.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 3:What world you living in. I'm not saying no. I'm not saying you're not right, I'm just saying a situationship in itself means you don't know if you on or off. For real.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 3:I'm not even talking about day walkers. You can be a day walker and be single.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:But situationships mean that there's a possibility. You know either way.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:I hooked up to the thing again, okay. I'm going to play this video. I'm going to change the subject, that's why I'm playing this video. And, uh, I'm going to see what you think about it, cause I don't want to talk about day walking, no more.
Speaker 1:Date a man that doesn't have any female friendships.
Speaker 2:Bingo.
Speaker 4:I'm going to start it over. Here you go.
Speaker 1:I don't want to date a man that doesn't have any female friendships Bingo. I don't want to date a man who only gets input from other men and who has all women in two categories your mother or your aunties, or someone I want to sleep with. You have to have a broader spectrum on women and their value in your life if you're going to be with me Totally.
Speaker 4:That's how I'm going to play. It was like a minute long.
Speaker 3:She sound crazy.
Speaker 4:Explain.
Speaker 3:She sound crazy. Explain, she sound crazy. Um, she don't want to date a man that don't have female friends. There's only one reason why you won't date a man that don't have female friends why is? That because you got a ton of male friends. That's the only reason why you don't mind him having a bunch of female friends. Because that's the only reason why you don't mind him having a bunch of female friends, because you ain't trying to give up yours, but she said, alright, me personally.
Speaker 4:I have about three female friends.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:I've had them for years. Nothing has ever happened between us, Nothing whatsoever. My girl has met. Well, she's met two of them.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, nothing has ever happened between us. Mm-hmm, nothing whatsoever.
Speaker 4:My girl has met. Well, she's met two of them. Mm-hmm, I mean, I can, I don't. She said that she don't want to date a man who only gets advice from men.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:There's a saying out there and it holds true. Not everybody are like this, but the majority are single. Women keep single yeah keep women single. I don't know if you've seen a video, bro, of this dude on this show with his girl and she's trying to get him to confess to him cheating on her. Okay, he's like I didn't cheat on you. Blah, blah, blah, x, y Z. Well, the chick she had a chick try to seduce him. So they had the chick on the video. Is this Mari?
Speaker 4:No, okay, so they had the chick on the video.
Speaker 3:Is this Mari? No, Okay, had the girl on the video and she was like, yeah, tell him what. You told me how he came on to you and blah, blah, blah, Y'all did X, Y, Z and the girl was like, yeah, I told her blah, blah, blah and dude like why you lie, and she was like, well, the reason why I lied is because I don't think she deserves you. She wanted her shot at him.
Speaker 4:That just mean you a stand-up G man. You got women willing to lie over you.
Speaker 3:Listen, but why did she do what she did?
Speaker 4:Survival of the fittest bro.
Speaker 3:Nah man.
Speaker 4:I got to get yours because this the crazy thing about it.
Speaker 3:If I'm not mistaken, he knew the other girl too, but it was supposed to be a situation where he was sitting down with her to do something special for his girl, and then that's what it turned into. Old girl actually wanted him for real, but the two girls was cool though. So I don't understand. I'm going to be honest with you. I don't want any female friends. Okay, point number one they're not fun. Okay, I'll just say that they're not fun. Point number two I in all reality bro any opportunity that a man could have at some point when he's at his low.
Speaker 3:All you're doing is opening yourself up to some issues.
Speaker 4:All right, I see where you're going with that. My only issue with the whole video was you can't say you want a man to have female friends, right? You can't say you want a man to have female friends, right? Mm-hmm. Are you going to start thinking something is going on with them when you get an attitude about something?
Speaker 3:For sure.
Speaker 4:Because during the video I didn't play it, but she said that she has guy friends that she cooks for and they cook for her.
Speaker 2:Nah.
Speaker 4:Nothing has happened.
Speaker 3:Nope, she a lie.
Speaker 4:Nope, because my thing is if you say you want a man who has female friends, are you going to start thinking stuff when they like go to the mall, to the movies, or do you have parameters over it?
Speaker 3:Let me ask you a question have you ever met a woman in your life that hasn't had a double standard?
Speaker 4:Not at all. They are born with double standards.
Speaker 3:There it is, they are conceived, and I'm going back to my original statement. She don't mind him having female friends because she's not letting go of any of her male guys. Do you Do?
Speaker 4:you All right. Men and women think the same way when it comes to friends. We think either they smashed or one of them want to.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4:What would be something that can be shown or proven that nothing is going on between them two or nothing will go on between those two?
Speaker 3:I don't think there's anything that you could show. At the end of the day, you just you just subjected to with the person, the who, the person that you're with values, if the person that you would hit you with an ultimatum boom. Now you got to make a decision, bro True.
Speaker 4:But I mean, I don't like when this is me. Ultimatums make me itch.
Speaker 3:I mean for sure they suck. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4:But what do you value more? Okay, what if the person was like man? They was here way before you.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 3:So, Go be with them.
Speaker 4:But what bro like? What do you you?
Speaker 2:itching right now.
Speaker 4:No, what I'm saying is like it. I get it, yeah, but at the same time, like like they was your friends for years, mhm mhm yeah, and now this person come around that you only been with for six months and they saying yo, it's either me or them then it is what it is.
Speaker 3:You got choices to make. Mhm, it sucks, but you got choices to make all I can say is this bro. I don't encourage no man to go get advice on his relationship from another woman. That's why I said she's tripping. I understand that part. She's tripping it's only because she don't want to get rid of her friends.
Speaker 4:Okay if she asked Okay, say you come into a relationship with female friends or, on the woman's side, male friends, and the person you with is fine with the ones that you have now. Is it cool to go out and make new ones? I'll say it for you Hell, no, it ain't okay for you to go make new ones. It's hard enough dealing with these.
Speaker 3:I hear what you're saying, but what she's saying is she don't care. You know why? Because she's making new ones. That's why I said everything she talked about. Bro, that's that she lying? I don't want to hear that. And then wasn't there some girls in the background talking about? Yeah, that's what I'm saying at that point no. No, never.
Speaker 4:What if, like all y'all, kick it together?
Speaker 3:I still do.
Speaker 4:I mean, that's up to y'all, that's up to y'all you don't feel comfortable telling me like I don't like it, period, I don't like it.
Speaker 3:No, I'm just being honest with you. Even for me, though, like if I know how I would react, I can only assume how somebody else would react. You know what I'm saying. That's just where I sit with it. You know what I'm saying. Like I would never try to put myself in a situation where I'm asking another woman about my relationship or talking nonsense to another female about my wife though yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 4:You know I'm saying that's insane bro, you shouldn't talk about your relationship to the opposite sex period. Yeah, I, I agree with that. Like well, trouble wise anyway yeah, that's that's whack especially all right, what if?
Speaker 3:and hold on. But let me ask you this though but what about the? I cook for them, they cook for me, though.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that's crazy, that's wild.
Speaker 3:That's insane. You can't tell me that she's not on some bull bro.
Speaker 4:That's like, can you imagine coming over and she cooking and you're like, oh man, you throwing it down and then, dude, flush the toilet and come out the bathroom. Oh, desmond here, I didn't Desmond. Yeah, desmond, that's his name. I didn't know he was here. I thought you was cooking because you knew I was on my way over.
Speaker 3:Desmond sound like a dirty mackerel.
Speaker 4:Hi, desmond, that'd be crazy.
Speaker 3:Nah, that ain't happening, bro. All right, mm-mm. Well, it was something I wanted to ask you, but I forgot man.
Speaker 4:All right, I'm going to give you three seconds and then we're going to bring in the moe. Yeah, Three, Hold on man, hold on man.
Speaker 3:You need to get nervous when you start counting three.
Speaker 4:Hold on, man, hold on man, you need to get nervous when you start counting um, dang man, it's gone bro, just say yeah, yeah yeah, okay, yeah, man it is what it is in closing, if you're single for too long, it will be harder for you to get in another relationship because you are stuck in your ways and you feel like nobody is worthy of your time.
Speaker 3:But some of y'all may need to be single for a while, because then maybe you won't make the same dumb choices you was making before you won't make the same dumb choices you was making before.
Speaker 4:But you won't know that until you get in another relationship and said dumb situation comes up. All right then. And then you ask them do you have a rubber or not? Oh my God, back to day walking. If not, you can't get no love.
Speaker 3:No glove, no love. What you got, man.
Speaker 4:The hardest part of this show Love the people that is in your life now and if you get anybody new, no new friends.
Speaker 3:I'm going to put it to you like this.
Speaker 4:That made no sense whatsoever.
Speaker 3:Hey, man, it is what it is. I'm going to put it to you like this you can't have a Chucky doll and have a friend to the end.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 3:All right. It is what it is, bro. We got to make it up.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that was a yeah that was something.
Speaker 3:They called me dire I'll be your boy now. It's a pretty full of a podcast yeah.