Supremely Full Of It Podcast
Wide range conversations from 2 people that know they are supremely full of it.
Supremely Full Of It Podcast
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Is there an such thing as being single for too long?
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Speaker 4Supremely full of it. Podcast Take four and we still in this. Yeah, we still here, and I am still dire and we still in this. Yeah, we still here, and I am still dire.
Speaker 3I be your boy now. I'm tired bro. I'm tired bro.
Speaker 4Oh God, All right.
Speaker 3We act like we don't know what we're doing.
Speaker 4How long have you ever been single? How long have you ever been single?
Speaker 3Again About two years man, Two years yeah.
Speaker 4Okay, again. What did you do during those two years?
Speaker 3Man, I was raising my boy. Man, I was a single father at the time. Man, Single father at the time.
Speaker 4Kudos to you, yeah, kudos to you.
Speaker 3Mother rant. No, I'm just playing, go ahead. Wow yeah, I'm just playing Go ahead. Wow yeah, I was going to put it out there. It happened Again. It happened. All right, I'm sorry. Yeah, anyway, I just got in my feels real quick, it's cool.
Speaker 4The longest I've ever been single.
Speaker 3Yeah, please answer.
Speaker 4Please answer the longest I've ever been single was four years.
Speaker 3That's a long time time. It depends on what you're doing during those four years.
Speaker 2Hmm, let me ask you, okay, what?
Speaker 3were you doing for those four years day walking, hmm all right.
Speaker 4Okay, you want to bring the modi in? No, okay all right, you say that you was, uh, raising a kid or whatever. Right, I was day walking. Is there a such thing as being single for too long?
Speaker 3I think so. I think so for real. It depends, though, like if being single too long it'll, if you want a date, it makes it harder for you to find somebody. You get set in your ways, you get used to somebody, not you know. Know what I'm saying. Being around, yeah, possibly spending up your money.
Speaker 4But all right, let me ask you this when people say they are single, does that mean that they're alone?
Speaker 3You know what? I interpret that as being alone. Okay, but some people don't.
Speaker 4But when I say they walk. That's what I was going to say. If, if, all right, why would a person be Be single? For how can I rephrase this? If you had to, if you had to.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4Put a time limit on being single. How long would you think somebody who is fresh out of a relationship would be single for?
Speaker 3I don't know if I could put a time limit on it, man, but I say you need to be single long enough to get over what you just left my problem with what you said is I don't think you would truly know if you're over something until you're in a new situation, okay.
Speaker 4Like you don't know that you're healed from something until you're dealing with somebody new, you don't know that you're healed from something until you're dealing with somebody new.
Speaker 3But isn't that kind of using the other person as a crash test dummy?
Speaker 4Aren't we all crash test dummies?
Speaker 2I ain't.
Speaker 3Mm-mm. But I'm just saying like, what, if you okay for me to know that I'm over this person, I need to try something new with somebody else. What if I find out I'm not over a said person and then I waste new person's time?
Speaker 4Well, that's when you have a conversation with the person saying that you know, I'm fresh out of something and I'm still dealing with X, y and Z problems, and I'm still dealing with X, y and Z problems. But if you're still interested in getting to know me, just know that these are my boundaries and I'm standing on them.
Speaker 3Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 4It's up to that person to stand on.
Speaker 3I agree, you need to put that up front.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 3But I think all you're doing is compounding more issues.
Speaker 4I just think all right. If a person is single for too long, do you think they miss the feeling of being wanted or desired?
Speaker 3I'm sure that come up. And then you got some people. Man, that's just like. You know what. I'm cool, I'm going to sit down, I'm going to be straight, keep it moving. I don't know, some people take time just to be like. You know, I'm working on me.
Speaker 4What is working on me really means? What does working on me really mean? Like, because some people could say that just to get you off of them.
Speaker 3So what does working on me really mean? You may be one of them dudes we talked about that shouldn't be dating because he ain't got nothing. You might want to work on that. You might have some emotional issues, some depression, some blah, blah, blah. You might need to work on that. You might need to work on stabilizing yourself, but would you really?
Speaker 4know that, that you've succeeded in working on that, if you haven't used it on other people, so to speak.
Speaker 3So we using people now I'm just playing.
Speaker 4We all being used. You using me right now, just like I'm using you Pause. You ain't using nothing over here hey, go ahead.
Speaker 3Hey, bro, I'm just saying like I don't know man, I just I, I'm, I'm a firm believer.
Speaker 4Bro, like you really shouldn't waste other people time right, but if you had that conversation, then everything that happens after that is, as you say, their fault agreed, okay agreed.
Speaker 3If you had a conversation, they agreed to it. That's cool but, I still think that you compounding issues if you're still dealing with somebody else or dealing with what happened to you before.
Speaker 4Okay, if in my opinion, if you're single, okay, if you're single for like more than two years probably. To me that kind of looks like something I don't want to say you're not looking for a relationship, but there's a reason why you can't find a relationship.
Speaker 3What do you think that reason would be?
Speaker 4I don't want to say because you don't want one, because I believe that everybody wants to be in a relationship. Everybody wants that feeling of being wanted, desired, somebody to share ideas with, or whatever. Blah, blah, blah. But it's probably because I don't. That whole single by choice thing you mean to tell me if your type came up to you, if you single by choice and you didn't want a relationship, if your idea man or woman came up to you, you would still turn them down because you don't want to be in a relationship right now.
Speaker 3If it's something that you actually want. I don't know, I don't know if they're I don't know. Bro, that single by choice thing a lot of times people say it is because they can't find something, like you said, what they actually want. They can't find something like you said, what they actually want, they can't get. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 4If all right, say you single for like six years.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4And somebody asks you like why are you single, and the best thing that you would say is I'm working on myself. Don't you think that would make the other person think like it's taking you 60 years to work on yourself. What is wrong with you?
Speaker 3It could have been you. It could have been you. Now are you saying in the perspective of somebody that wanted to be with that person, no, or are you just saying anybody?
Speaker 4Now, are you saying in the perspective of somebody that wanted to be with that person, no, or are you just saying anybody? I'm saying if a person say a person told you that they was working on themselves, but they've been single for six years, you wouldn't think yo, what was wrong with you then If you've been single for this long and you've been working on yourself for six years?
Speaker 3I mean, at some point, if you want to be in a relationship, it becomes an excuse. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. And if I would say a friend, I ain't going to lie to you. I'm going to be like, hey, bro, you are not doing a good job at it, right? Because at some point, if you still working on some stuff that I know that you've been working on for six years, you ain't working on nothing.
Speaker 4Or you're not able. You may need some professional help, probably, yeah, for sure. Yeah, yeah, I agree. If, like, like I said, when you're, if you're working on yourself, you will not know if what you are working on is actually worked out until you're in a situation Like you're talking to somebody, you're dealing with somebody I'm not saying you're being with them, but you're spending time with a person.
Speaker 3You will know for sure if you working on something actually worked out. Yes, if you were with somebody else. That's what I'm saying. But what I was saying is some people will use that immediately after getting out of something that they just got out of. You know what I'm saying. And then you putting another person in a situation, geeking their head up, and you ain't over your last one.
Speaker 4Okay, is it a? This is a funny type because I've lived through this before.
Speaker 3Okay, speak on it.
Speaker 4Nah.
Speaker 3Nah, I don't speak on it, brother.
Speaker 4When people are single for a long time and they are out daywalking, does that give you, does it give the person that's daywalking a reason to be in a relationship when they're daywalking?
Speaker 3I mean, I would think daywalking would probably cause more issues, though. Why is that? Day walking will probably cause more issues though? Why is that? Because that's another instance of why would I get in a relationship if I can get what I want?
Speaker 4anyway without being in one. Yeah, so like if you already getting, if you getting the attention that you would get in a relationship when you're day walking, there's really no reason for you to get in a relationship.
Speaker 3That's true In some cases. Yeah, that's true Some. But some people get tired of daywalking man. What if you daywalking with the same person? Then you in a relationship, bro, send a text jumping out the window Inside.
Speaker 1Joke, wow, send a text jumping out the window.
Speaker 3Hey, I just thought it was you just said See cats out here thinking they be day-walking they in whole relationships Wow.
Speaker 4Send a text, man, I'm going to tell you these things. I hate you bro.
Speaker 3Wow, all right, did I do something to?
Speaker 2you. No, I'm just saying Some people that are daywalking really want to be,
Speaker 4in a relationship Nah nah.
Speaker 3I'm just saying Ain't nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 4It's an illusion that's, that was wild, that was wild, wow. Side note don't tell your friends everything, okay, don't you ever tell them that hey man, it's cool man so when you, when, when you have been single for a long time, right, are you hesitant, like how hesitant are you to get in a new relationship?
Speaker 3yeah, very man, like I said, you get used to just doing you so?
Speaker 4does that mean that you're not willing to like, say, you have a system in place, a routine. Are you not willing to change that routine for the person?
Speaker 3Compromise gets very difficult, right when you get used to something, right when you're in a relationship, man. It's a lot of give and take, man, and sometimes when you single too long, it's some things you can't give up on.
Speaker 4Should I ask you like what?
Speaker 3I cannot explain it. Let's say if there's something that you do as a hobby, let's just use that. For example, you do as a hobby on a particular day, right, but you get in a relationship and this is a day that she wants to do something else, okay what you gonna do if you been in a bowling league bowling every Thursday for the last two years, she asking you to quit bowling. Are you going to throw your ball away or are you going to throw her away? You're probably going to throw her away, bro.
Speaker 4Yeah, because I love my ball.
Speaker 3You're probably going to throw her away.
Speaker 4Well, all right, if you've been single for so long and you get in a relationship, does do you automatically think that, since this person wants to be with me, they accept my routine?
Speaker 3Yeah, I mean you should accept my routine.
Speaker 4So all right If you've been single for so long and you get in a relationship mhm do you? Do you make room for that person? You got to, you got to. But what if your routine is so you know, saying strict? Mhm that you well, you had to make room for them if you got that close to get in a relationship with them mhm or if you don't have room for them.
Speaker 3You, you got that close to get in a relationship with them, or if you don't have room for them. You were single too long. You loaded up all your time doing other things, which I understand.
Speaker 4Okay, we just had this conversation. You said something on one episode about the Bible, saying something about, if you single, focus on God more, or something like that. Oh, yeah, because if you're not, because if you're in a relationship, you're not going to focus all the way, or something.
Speaker 3Yeah, I mean, but I it was really speaking towards you know what I'm saying being married or whatever, but it was just saying that, um, if you're a single, you could focus more on God. When you're in a relationship, you're going to tend to the things of your wife, and vice versa.
Speaker 4So is it really a problem with being single for too long?
Speaker 3No, it's not a problem, but it is a problem if you really don't want to be single, though I think dating changes every couple years. What you mean, what do?
Speaker 4you mean.
Speaker 3Expectations. It changes often Like One thing man, look we old enough to when we first started dating bro. Things could just be so simple. Ice cream Park Movie ice cream park movie.
Speaker 4That was back in the broke nigga era, though not necessarily we all got. You know, I'm saying we eating scrimp steak and lobster over here I get that, but expectations are still different, though.
Speaker 3See back then you could take somebody out, and they just enjoyed the fact that you took them somewhere and did something. Nowadays the women are dictating what they want you to do for them on first dates. So in the next 5, 10 years, where we going to be?
Speaker 4I'm hoping the men tell the women where we want to be taken, because it's our turn Yo we up. I don't think that's happening. Be taken because it's our turn, yo we up.
Speaker 3I don't think that happening?
Speaker 4no, it's never gonna happen.
Speaker 3I don't think that happen.
Speaker 4We don't we don't stand on our square long enough for that to happen when did the Cheesecake Factory become McDonald's?
Speaker 3because that's where we at bro.
Speaker 4I don't know, but we ain't seeing her in a minute, I hope she got somebody I don't get it bro. All right when, okay, say you are single, mm-hmm, let's give another number four to six years.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4But you want a relationship Right. But you can a relationship Right. But, you can't find one, does that say?
Speaker 2something about you yeah what does it say?
Speaker 3they say you picky, you got standards really yeah, for sure, even if, like you know, that's why I say the longer you go, bro, the harder it is to get back into the game I think, but that's not because you picky, though.
Speaker 4Like I don't think somebody will go six years and just be like on Tinder.
Speaker 3Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, I don't think but after a while you realize there are certain things you're not giving up, you're not compromising on okay that that's like me.
Speaker 4I'm not dating a smoker. You mean to tell me in six years, all I ran across is smokers. That ain't what.
Speaker 3I'm saying but there's gonna be other aspects that you're not gonna deal with. True, but for argument's sake, this ain't that oh like nothing on you and your relationship I gotta be my I'm just just hear me out I'm just saying get ready to hit the pause if if things didn't work out, there's going to be something that you're going to take away from this relationship that you're not going to go for in the next one that is true so at that point you single three, four, five, six years, but you're not giving nothing up.
Speaker 3No more man. Either you do this or I'm gone, or either I do this and blah, blah blah. That's where you're gonna be.
Speaker 4It just to clarify I just to preface my comments. The relationship that I'm in now is my last relationship Right. If this doesn't work, I'm day walking again.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 4Now saying that I am not. I agree with you, but it's not that extreme for me because the thing is that I may not say that I won't. I'm not going to find that in too many other people like I probably can go date four different people and not see that that I'm not you know what I'm saying going to accept anymore. So it's not that extreme. For me, A woman, though it could be something small, but they would take it to an extreme probably.
Speaker 3But you, okay, but hear me out.
Speaker 4I don't want to.
Speaker 3You're going to an extreme now when you say if this don't work out, this is my last one, that's not extreme. How extreme can you get? Say, if this don't work out, this is my last one, that's not extreme. How extreme can you get that mean that you're done with certain stuff that you're not going to put up with, no more. I'm done with relationships. Why that's?
Speaker 4extreme. There's no need for me to be in another one.
Speaker 3That's extreme, though.
Speaker 4Okay, yeah, if you get a divorce, you going to get back out here in these streets. We ain't talking about me nah. My nigga nah, nah, my nigga, nah, my nigga, niggas don't wanna talk now. We ain't talking about me, nah.
Speaker 3I put it to you like this. I ain't saying that wouldn't be the case, but what I'm saying is I'm not just gonna say you know what I'm done on relationship period though you will go, bro.
Speaker 4You dire let's go day walking. I'm already out here in these streets, I'm already out here I'm just saying, you know, in it out.
Speaker 3In my opinion, it's all based on age bro okay it's based on age and experience, bro, like at this stage, being 40 years old. Go ahead, just Keep going, keep going. I'm just saying, bro, there ain't a lot out here that I'm putting up with, no more bro.
Speaker 4Okay, I don't believe that. Okay, what I mean by that is the older you get, the more accepting you are to certain things, in my opinion.
Speaker 3Nah, you just find somebody else is done with everything, like you are. What do you mean? Done, done? As far as we're not going to play these childish games like how we're playing them now. All I'm saying is, bro is, as you get older, bro, you just don't want nonsensical drama in your life, bro, you want peace bro. You just don't want non-sensual drama in your life, bro, you want peace bro.
Speaker 4You can find peace anywhere, can you? I'm not going there, yes, can you. What I'm saying is this the older you get, I think, the more you're willing to settle. No I think the more you're willing to settle. No, okay, I mean, if you found someone who was 40 and they've been single since they was 30, you're not going to be like what's wrong with you? G.
Speaker 3Of course you're going to ask, you're going to, you're going to wonder that, yeah, and what?
Speaker 4if she just say I couldn't find somebody, no, I'm not going to wonder that, yeah. And will she just say I couldn't find somebody, no, I'm not going to settle for certain stuff. Mm-hmm, you mean to tell me in 10 years? Mm-hmm you couldn't find one guy that you didn't say I don't have to settle.
Navigating Relationships and Situationships
Speaker 3Let me ask you this In all reality, the only person that you can't say that about is the person you with now. Why is that? Because anything before them didn't work out, for whatever reason.
Speaker 2Okay, work out for whatever reason.
Speaker 3Okay, so moving forward, the things that made those relationships not work out, you keep on your list of things that you don't want to deal with, so your list grows as you get older, though, but should it, though, because you're older, more miles on you, you're more seasoned, so should you really be like you know I'm not doing X, y and Z, having the same standards that you had back when you was in your twenties. Nah, you're not going to have the same standards but, you're going to have more.
Speaker 3You had less standards when you were younger, true, but it should be the other way around, in my opinion yeah, but that just means, if you have less standards as you get older, that mean you just letting people do whatever they want.
Speaker 4As the years go. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is you're more traveled, right. You have more baggage as you get older, right? So, if you have more baggage as you get older, Well.
Speaker 3I don't know. In my opinion, as you get older, you lose baggage. I don't know what world you live in. Yeah, you lose it, bro. I'm about to lose some in two years. That's different. See, you're talking about kids.
Speaker 4I'm talking about All of it. I'm talking what you mean all of it.
Speaker 3Yeah, you lose baggage, bro, you start to let stuff go.
Speaker 4I was about you keep saying that I'm gonna ask the question now. Anyway, as you get older, you're more damaged.
Speaker 3Agreed. But that's exactly why, if you were an older car, you're not going to let somebody with less experience drive you and tear you out the frame.
Speaker 4Wow, that's the terminology you used.
Speaker 3Yes, you don't treat old classic cars like new ones, old classic cars like new ones.
Speaker 4I just so basically, what you're saying is there's really no such thing as being single for too long.
Speaker 3Yeah, you can be single for too long. Yeah, you can be single for too long if you want to actually be in a relationship at some point. But what if you do but?
Speaker 4Okay, let me ask you this. Let me just ask this flat Do you think everybody wants to be in a relationship?
Speaker 3No.
Speaker 4Why I?
Speaker 3don't think everybody wants to be in a relationship. No, why? I don't think everybody wants the responsibility of caring for somebody else.
Speaker 4Do you think that's what relationships are nowadays? Caring for other people, that's all it's about. Do you think in today's world?
Speaker 3Not in today's. I mean no, Not in today's world, but in today's. I mean no, not in today's world, but what it's supposed to be. Yeah, You're supposed to care for somebody else and you say people don't want that. No people giving up.
Speaker 4So there are some people out in this world that really have no desire for being in a relationship.
Speaker 3Yes, I know a couple of them right now. Do they have?
Speaker 4OnlyFans. No, then how can they?
Speaker 3have. Well, let me say they're not women, though I'll say that.
Speaker 4I can agree now.
Speaker 3Mm-hmm. Okay, please explain.
Speaker 4I just at one point in my life I felt I was happier, not in a relationship.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4Not because I was a day walker, but because I could come and go as I wanted.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4Every time my phone blew up it wasn't something that I did, or somebody wanted me to do something. I had to come here, go there, blah, blah, blah. Right, so I can understand that. So that brings up this question who you think cares about being in a relationship, more men or women? Oh, men for sure.
Speaker 3Men care about that. Men care about being in a relationship more than women, yes, and you said for sure, like okay, why? Um men are genetically made to want to care for something and provide and protect and to and you know, I'm saying that's just how we made up, bro, and that's how most men are raised. We can get a dog, you can get a dog, and some of these dudes that I'm talking about that's what they own. Okay, who are you thinking? So you're telling me women care about relationships more.
Speaker 4They get more validation right okay, yeah, tacos, I don't. To be honest, I think men don't care about most men wouldn't care about being in a relationship.
Speaker 3Let me ask you this Is there more men out there that want to be with one person, or do you think there's more men that want to day walk?
Speaker 4I think there's more men that want to day walk, you think?
Speaker 3so, yeah, I disagree. Why do you disagree? And this is just straight off statistical facts, bro the men that day walk have multiple kids with different women okay which means that most of the women are sleeping with the same dudes, which means there's a higher number of men without children that want to be in relationships, bro you don't think that turns people, turns the men away.
Speaker 4Knowing that most women have multiple, I ain't going to say that.
Speaker 3I take that back, but that's what I'm saying. The number of men that actually day walk is smaller than the number of men that actually want to be in a monogamous relationship. It's just there are more women that want the same guy. Okay.
Speaker 4My point of view is this Using what you just said if most of the, if a small portion of men is having sex with the same, if a small portion of men is having sex with most of the women, most of the women, I really think in today's world you get everything up front, so there's really no need to be in a relationship. Yeah, that's why I said I don't think men care about relationships more whose fault is that, though?
Speaker 4it's women's fault, yeah it's their fault, because, well, I'm not saying that. Saying never mind, um, no, I'm not saying it. I'm not saying that Never mind, no, I'm not saying that. I'm not saying that it has something to do with a cow Moving on, yeah, moving on. In today's world, like I said, you get everything up front, so there's no need to be in a relationship, but if you're in a situation, ship mm-hmm can you still say that you've been single for years, even though you're dealing with somebody?
Speaker 3what's the situation ship?
Speaker 4somebody that you kicking it with mm-hmm that's all. That's all you're going to say that's it, somebody that you are just kicking it with.
Speaker 3I can't consider that single, though, because they're dealing with somebody.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 3I can't consider that single Situationship means maybe, maybe not.
Speaker 4So you think when a person is single?
Speaker 3that means that they have absolutely nobody that they talking to.
Speaker 4Yes.
Speaker 3What world you living in. I'm not saying no. I'm not saying you're not right, I'm just saying a situationship in itself means you don't know if you on or off. For real.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 3I'm not even talking about day walkers. You can be a day walker and be single.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 3But situationships mean that there's a possibility. You know either way.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 4I hooked up to the thing again, okay. I'm going to play this video. I'm going to change the subject, that's why I'm playing this video. And, uh, I'm going to see what you think about it, cause I don't want to talk about day walking, no more.
Speaker 1Date a man that doesn't have any female friendships.
Speaker 2Bingo.
Speaker 4I'm going to start it over. Here you go.
Speaker 1I don't want to date a man that doesn't have any female friendships Bingo. I don't want to date a man who only gets input from other men and who has all women in two categories your mother or your aunties, or someone I want to sleep with. You have to have a broader spectrum on women and their value in your life if you're going to be with me Totally.
Speaker 4That's how I'm going to play. It was like a minute long.
Speaker 3She sound crazy.
Speaker 4Explain.
Speaker 3She sound crazy. Explain, she sound crazy. Um, she don't want to date a man that don't have female friends. There's only one reason why you won't date a man that don't have female friends why is? That because you got a ton of male friends. That's the only reason why you don't mind him having a bunch of female friends. Because that's the only reason why you don't mind him having a bunch of female friends, because you ain't trying to give up yours, but she said, alright, me personally.
Speaker 4I have about three female friends.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 4I've had them for years. Nothing has ever happened between us, Nothing whatsoever. My girl has met. Well, she's met two of them.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm, nothing has ever happened between us. Mm-hmm, nothing whatsoever.
Speaker 4My girl has met. Well, she's met two of them. Mm-hmm, I mean, I can, I don't. She said that she don't want to date a man who only gets advice from men.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3There's a saying out there and it holds true. Not everybody are like this, but the majority are single. Women keep single yeah keep women single. I don't know if you've seen a video, bro, of this dude on this show with his girl and she's trying to get him to confess to him cheating on her. Okay, he's like I didn't cheat on you. Blah, blah, blah, x, y Z. Well, the chick she had a chick try to seduce him. So they had the chick on the video. Is this Mari?
Speaker 4No, okay, so they had the chick on the video.
Speaker 3Is this Mari? No, Okay, had the girl on the video and she was like, yeah, tell him what. You told me how he came on to you and blah, blah, blah, Y'all did X, Y, Z and the girl was like, yeah, I told her blah, blah, blah and dude like why you lie, and she was like, well, the reason why I lied is because I don't think she deserves you. She wanted her shot at him.
Speaker 4That just mean you a stand-up G man. You got women willing to lie over you.
Speaker 3Listen, but why did she do what she did?
Speaker 4Survival of the fittest bro.
Speaker 3Nah man.
Speaker 4I got to get yours because this the crazy thing about it.
Speaker 3If I'm not mistaken, he knew the other girl too, but it was supposed to be a situation where he was sitting down with her to do something special for his girl, and then that's what it turned into. Old girl actually wanted him for real, but the two girls was cool though. So I don't understand. I'm going to be honest with you. I don't want any female friends. Okay, point number one they're not fun. Okay, I'll just say that they're not fun. Point number two I in all reality bro any opportunity that a man could have at some point when he's at his low.
Speaker 3All you're doing is opening yourself up to some issues.
Speaker 4All right, I see where you're going with that. My only issue with the whole video was you can't say you want a man to have female friends, right? You can't say you want a man to have female friends, right? Mm-hmm. Are you going to start thinking something is going on with them when you get an attitude about something?
Speaker 3For sure.
Speaker 4Because during the video I didn't play it, but she said that she has guy friends that she cooks for and they cook for her.
Speaker 2Nah.
Speaker 4Nothing has happened.
Speaker 3Nope, she a lie.
Speaker 4Nope, because my thing is if you say you want a man who has female friends, are you going to start thinking stuff when they like go to the mall, to the movies, or do you have parameters over it?
Speaker 3Let me ask you a question have you ever met a woman in your life that hasn't had a double standard?
Speaker 4Not at all. They are born with double standards.
Speaker 3There it is, they are conceived, and I'm going back to my original statement. She don't mind him having female friends because she's not letting go of any of her male guys. Do you Do?
Speaker 4you All right. Men and women think the same way when it comes to friends. We think either they smashed or one of them want to.
Speaker 2Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4What would be something that can be shown or proven that nothing is going on between them two or nothing will go on between those two?
Speaker 3I don't think there's anything that you could show. At the end of the day, you just you just subjected to with the person, the who, the person that you're with values, if the person that you would hit you with an ultimatum boom. Now you got to make a decision, bro True.
Speaker 4But I mean, I don't like when this is me. Ultimatums make me itch.
Speaker 3I mean for sure they suck. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4But what do you value more? Okay, what if the person was like man? They was here way before you.
Speaker 2And.
Speaker 3So, Go be with them.
Speaker 4But what bro like? What do you you?
Speaker 2itching right now.
Speaker 4No, what I'm saying is like it. I get it, yeah, but at the same time, like like they was your friends for years, mhm mhm yeah, and now this person come around that you only been with for six months and they saying yo, it's either me or them then it is what it is.
Speaker 3You got choices to make. Mhm, it sucks, but you got choices to make all I can say is this bro. I don't encourage no man to go get advice on his relationship from another woman. That's why I said she's tripping. I understand that part. She's tripping it's only because she don't want to get rid of her friends.
Speaker 4Okay if she asked Okay, say you come into a relationship with female friends or, on the woman's side, male friends, and the person you with is fine with the ones that you have now. Is it cool to go out and make new ones? I'll say it for you Hell, no, it ain't okay for you to go make new ones. It's hard enough dealing with these.
Speaker 3I hear what you're saying, but what she's saying is she don't care. You know why? Because she's making new ones. That's why I said everything she talked about. Bro, that's that she lying? I don't want to hear that. And then wasn't there some girls in the background talking about? Yeah, that's what I'm saying at that point no. No, never.
Speaker 4What if, like all y'all, kick it together?
Speaker 3I still do.
Speaker 4I mean, that's up to y'all, that's up to y'all you don't feel comfortable telling me like I don't like it, period, I don't like it.
Speaker 3No, I'm just being honest with you. Even for me, though, like if I know how I would react, I can only assume how somebody else would react. You know what I'm saying. That's just where I sit with it. You know what I'm saying. Like I would never try to put myself in a situation where I'm asking another woman about my relationship or talking nonsense to another female about my wife though yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 4You know I'm saying that's insane bro, you shouldn't talk about your relationship to the opposite sex period. Yeah, I, I agree with that. Like well, trouble wise anyway yeah, that's that's whack especially all right, what if?
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Speaker 3and hold on. But let me ask you this though but what about the? I cook for them, they cook for me, though.
Speaker 4Yeah, that's crazy, that's wild.
Speaker 3That's insane. You can't tell me that she's not on some bull bro.
Speaker 4That's like, can you imagine coming over and she cooking and you're like, oh man, you throwing it down and then, dude, flush the toilet and come out the bathroom. Oh, desmond here, I didn't Desmond. Yeah, desmond, that's his name. I didn't know he was here. I thought you was cooking because you knew I was on my way over.
Speaker 3Desmond sound like a dirty mackerel.
Speaker 4Hi, desmond, that'd be crazy.
Speaker 3Nah, that ain't happening, bro. All right, mm-mm. Well, it was something I wanted to ask you, but I forgot man.
Speaker 4All right, I'm going to give you three seconds and then we're going to bring in the moe. Yeah, Three, Hold on man, hold on man.
Speaker 3You need to get nervous when you start counting three.
Speaker 4Hold on, man, hold on man, you need to get nervous when you start counting um, dang man, it's gone bro, just say yeah, yeah yeah, okay, yeah, man it is what it is in closing, if you're single for too long, it will be harder for you to get in another relationship because you are stuck in your ways and you feel like nobody is worthy of your time.
Speaker 3But some of y'all may need to be single for a while, because then maybe you won't make the same dumb choices you was making before you won't make the same dumb choices you was making before.
Speaker 4But you won't know that until you get in another relationship and said dumb situation comes up. All right then. And then you ask them do you have a rubber or not? Oh my God, back to day walking. If not, you can't get no love.
Speaker 3No glove, no love. What you got, man.
Speaker 4The hardest part of this show Love the people that is in your life now and if you get anybody new, no new friends.
Speaker 3I'm going to put it to you like this.
Speaker 4That made no sense whatsoever.
Speaker 3Hey, man, it is what it is. I'm going to put it to you like this you can't have a Chucky doll and have a friend to the end.
Speaker 1All right.
Speaker 3All right. It is what it is, bro. We got to make it up.
Speaker 4Yeah, that was a yeah that was something.
Speaker 3They called me dire I'll be your boy now. It's a pretty full of a podcast yeah.
