From First Date Laughs to 'I Do.

Ever wonder what it's like to look across the dinner table and suddenly realize you're staring at your future spouse? This episode takes you on a heartfelt ride with our special guest Randall. 

Transcript

Speaker 3 0:21

Hey yo Supremely full of it. Hey yo Supremely full of it, Ha ha.

Speaker 1 0:33

What it do, what it is what it should be done, Supremely full of it podcast. Hold on If you ain't gonna say you need to write stuff down, bro.

Speaker 3 0:47

What is that? Okay, do it again. You don't remember it, do you?

Speaker 1 0:51

what it is, what it should be done. Alright, alright, dude we mess up English over here you do yeah, all the time Supreme Reef of it podcast back with another episode. I am the one who cares. They call me dire. You wanna keep going back with another episode. I am the one who cares.

Speaker 2 1:06

They call me Dyer. You want to keep going? Hey man, all right, all right, all right, I'll be your boy now, all right.

Speaker 3 1:17

I got a special name for you at the end of the show Wow, that's all I can say.

Speaker 1 1:20

All right, all right, you're going to have to bleep something out then, all right.

Speaker 3 1:23

All right, you're going to have to bleep something out then All right, okay, all right, all right.

Speaker 1 1:27

Anywho, we got a special guest today. You know what I'm saying. We like to show appreciation to people who actually rock with the podcast. You know what I'm saying. So, without further ado, supreme Team Affiliate. What we got? We got the homie Randall. What's going on? Randall, randall?

Speaker 3 1:46

What's going on this email?

Speaker 1 1:48

Randall, yes, sir.

Speaker 3 1:50

Oh, that's what it do. I want to know that's what it do, and that's a good nickname Email Randall, that's cool. Email.

Speaker 1 1:56

Randall.

Speaker 4 1:57

Yes, sir, what's going on'm?

Speaker 1 2:03

here man, I'm here with him.

Speaker 3 2:08

I quit bro. Well shit, I'm here with you.

Speaker 1 2:11

I quit yes, all right, g, whatever man, let's just get straight to the show. Yeah, you know how people always ask you. Like, once you get a certain age and you're not married or you don't have any kids, they always ask you why don't you have something? Y'all ever heard that?

Speaker 3 2:35

Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 1 2:36

Okay With you, randall. How old are you? 29. 29. And you're married, right? Yes, sir, how long you been married?

Speaker 4 2:46

Been married for about going on four years now.

Speaker 1 2:50

So let's say you pretty much got out of the dating game quick yeah you can say that Okay. You can say that why? Okay, how long did you and your wife date before you proposed to her?

Speaker 4 3:06

We did it for a little over a year. A little over a year.

Speaker 1 3:13

A little over a year. At what point did you start thinking?

Speaker 4 3:15

about marriage with her. I kind of went in thinking about it, not only with her, but it's kind of what I was ready for.

Speaker 1 3:21

Okay.

Speaker 4 3:21

Like I was like okay, I did my thing.

Speaker 1 3:25

I think your whole phase was already for it. Okay, like I was like, okay, I did my thing. I think your whole face was already over with yeah, yeah it was definitely dwindling.

Speaker 4 3:32

I have to say, okay, it was simmering for sure, but all in all, when it came to her, I was like okay, this is my area, this is something I can definitely settle down with.

Speaker 3 3:44

Okay, this is my area. This is something I can definitely settle down with. How did you know that she was the one.

Speaker 4 3:48

She definitely had a good head on her shoulders for sure. Everything that I was looking for in a woman, just like I said good head on her shoulders. You know what you want in life, just some of those simple things.

Speaker 3 4:00

Okay, gas her up, gas her up on the show. That's what it do. He Gasser up, gasser up on the show.

Speaker 1 4:07

That's what it do. He got to go home tonight All right. So you, you're basically what people say dating to marriage. Yeah, because some people don't date to marriage, they just date to date. But you actually dated to marriage At this point. Okay, yes, okay, um, what? At what point did you know like, yes, this is the one that I'm going to marry it was okay.

Speaker 4 4:40

So after we moved in, what? When we moved in, I was like, okay, this will tell it all. To be honest, with you. Because if I can just live with this person through thick and thin, how it is in the vows, okay, then I think we can make it work.

Speaker 2 4:57

Okay, you know.

Speaker 4 4:59

So I'd say not too long after we moved in.

Speaker 1 5:02

Okay.

Speaker 3 5:03

So is it? Was it? Let me ask you this when y'all moved in together, there's certain things that each person do that somebody else don't like. How did y'all fight that? We just did it Like you squeezed the toothpaste in the middle.

Speaker 2 5:17

I don't like that. You know what I'm saying Like that's conversation.

Speaker 4 5:20

Oh yeah, Okay, oh yeah conversation.

Speaker 1 5:25

Oh yeah, okay, oh yeah, a little bit left.

Speaker 3 5:28

You know, milk left in the jug. Yeah, I'm just saying, yeah, that earth. Yeah, I'm that type.

Speaker 1 5:31

Yeah, don't squeeze it there yo roll the end man that's correct.

Speaker 3 5:39

Yeah, gotta have enough toilet paper for the next person, for sure, for sure, for sure. Okay, since you brought up toilet paper, I got a text from somebody, bro, and it was random over or under what the uh?

Speaker 1 5:52

the toilet paper over?

Speaker 3 5:54

yes, sir, okay yeah, we can all be friends now.

Speaker 4 6:00

Whoever's under is a weird individual yeah, psychopath is what they call them nowadays.

Speaker 1 6:07

All right, um, why? Why did you? What made you say you know, attracting or attracted to was poor?

Speaker 4 6:39

It's not that it was poor, it was more like okay, I think I'm done in the same game. Okay, I think I'm done in the same game. Okay, I think I'm done in the same game, and then um a little more to that. I was pretty much just done. I was just done with the same game overall overall. There was another something else you had said too.

Speaker 1 6:57

You repeat that one more time for me maybe that's, uh, the the quality of women that you was messing with or was trying to mess with you. Did you not like that? Was you having bad luck with women, or something?

Speaker 4 7:12

No, it's not that I had bad luck with women. I definitely had my fair share. I wasn't here in Dayton, I was up in college.

Speaker 1 7:18

Okay.

Speaker 4 7:18

So I was having some fun up there.

Speaker 1 7:20

Watch what you say yeah, hey, I did, I was being honest.

Speaker 4 7:26

I had some fun. But once it was all said and done, it was done for sure Okay, and I seen what she had brought to the table, I was like, okay, I could bring, I can definitely match that, I can definitely match that Let me ask you this, since you are married now, um, did you miss Any of the past?

Speaker 3 7:44

Yeah, I gotta.

Speaker 2 7:44

I now do you miss any of the past, yeah, I gotta ask.

Speaker 1 7:48

That's already something I would ask.

Speaker 4 7:50

Go ahead, I'm glad you asked

Speaker 3 7:51

it no, Okay, Okay, Some people would be like man I miss Daywalking Wow.

Speaker 1 7:58

G Hold on. I did not say that, what I know you didn't. I'm just saying that's what we doing. That's what we doing. That's what we doing. G. I didn't say no names.

Speaker 3 8:10

Wow, I just said some people miss day walking.

Speaker 1 8:13

I never said you weren't the only day walker, but I don't know who said it, though you did To some person that could come across as me saying I'm not dying.

Speaker 3 8:26

Could you?

Speaker 1 8:26

refresh us on the Daywalker time. For our viewers, the Daywalker was nine back in the 2000s when you had a shag.

Speaker 3 8:33

Why you going to bring me in.

Speaker 1 8:34

I did have a shag, though I did have a shag bro with the curls in that joint.

Speaker 2 8:39

You know what I'm saying. Reminiscent Because I'm bald-headed.

Speaker 3 8:43

now you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 8:44

You know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying, but you know, yeah, yeah, whatever bro, oh you, wow, yeah, wow. I don't even know.

Speaker 3 8:55

I just had to ask man, you know Cause you know my dude right here Sound like he happily married.

Speaker 1 8:59

I just wanna know. You know what I mean. Alright, okay, how long did you Well when? Okay, how long did you well, when you proposed? How long did it take for y'all to get married?

Speaker 4 9:12

About a year. It was pretty quick Once we set our dues. You know we talked to the parents got everything situated and honestly it was said and done in the next two years.

Speaker 1 9:24

Was there a reason why y'all moved as fast as y'all did?

Speaker 2 9:28

Yeah.

Speaker 4 9:29

We knew we were one for each other for real. Okay, we knew it, we knew it. The tolerances we both have for each other, like just what we've been through. Personally, I've clicked with other people, but not like that, that's what it's done she's clicked with other people, but not like that. That's what it does. She's clicked with other people, but not like that, or at least from what I understand.

Speaker 3 9:46

Right Randall, giving the people hope, man, because this thing getting crazy.

Speaker 4 9:51

I gave you a little something else. The nice guys definitely take time, but if you a nice guy out there, give it the time, you'll get yours.

Speaker 3 10:03

You'll get yours.

Speaker 4 10:05

That's what it do, just don't change I used to be a nice guy what happened.

Speaker 1 10:13

Do we got time?

Speaker 3 10:14

uh, yeah, we got plenty.

Speaker 1 10:15

No, we don't bro plenty of time I've been hurt oh you know what I'm saying? That's all that's, all that's all I'm saying anyway, all right since, since y'all been okay, I have this, saying that marriage is just a continuation of the of boyfriend and girlfriend stage. Do you think anything has like really changed since y'all been married about y'all relationship?

Speaker 4 10:47

the improvements, just what we can do better for each other. Okay, but in this relationship, this marriage. We push each other like it's more of a I know you can do that and and some some qualities is more like a like you know what. How about this? It's just a suggestion. Sometimes it could just blossom to some way better, okay did you?

Speaker 1 11:13

did you ever see yourself get married at a younger age? Or did you say, well, maybe after college, out, maybe in my 30s or something? Or did you always know you was going to get married early in life?

Speaker 4 11:27

I never knew I was going to get married, but it was definitely an experience I wanted Okay, which brings me kind of to my spirituality of like, of what it means to be married, be a father figure and all that good stuff. But I never knew I wanted to. But the experience, that love, that connection, was something I wanted to experience and I knew I could do that.

Speaker 3 11:54

but love her, not a fighter okay, okay since you been married, have y'all ever had a situation where it was like you know what? This ain't it.

Speaker 1 12:10

One time. Hold on, you don't have to answer, I'm going to be vague about it. I'm going to be vague.

Speaker 4 12:18

It was one time, but you know how like I'm trying to find the best analogy for this you can't be mad at him for too long, pretty much. And the best thing I say about us we've hurt and said some hurtful things, but it ain't been like that one thing. That one thing you know. You know you can't come back from it back. You can't come back from yeah, it's been close, yeah, it's been close and it's been some hurtful times, but that one time we knew it was just like we couldn't hurt each other like that it was too much, we had invested in too much.

Speaker 3 12:56

We love, we felt it's like what's no, see? I think you get to the point, to where it's like see, I've been married 15 years now and I'm about to turn 40. So it's like when we argue, we say hurtful stuff, but it's funny now, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, like F you, yeah, f you. You know what?

Speaker 2 13:15

I'm saying Yep.

Speaker 3 13:16

And then you just laugh at each other, like all right what you want to eat.

Speaker 4 13:20

The weird side eyes. Like the weird side eyes. Like you know somebody's going to eat the bread and you just turn.

Speaker 3 13:24

Yeah, yeah, what you want to eat, man.

Speaker 1 13:26

That's beautiful how was your day.

Speaker 3 13:27

You know what I'm saying, that is so toxic it's beautiful.

Speaker 1 13:31

Yeah, it is toxic.

Speaker 4 13:32

And that's how it was with our relationship kind of early on yeah, man, and kind of how it is. It's four A lot of people are kind of done. Sometimes I feel like at this point or it's just wrapping up. But if you can find that in the beginning oh, you're good, Some things you can find like that in the beginning you ain't got nothing to worry about.

Speaker 1 13:53

Okay, sid, I'm going to ask you this question because this is just my belief. You say that y'all was engaged for just a year, right, mm-hmm, okay, okay, there are people out here who've been engaged for about three, four or five years. My thinking is, if you've been engaged for that long, you're probably not getting married. Do you think that people, that people do be engaged for that long and still get married? Or?

Speaker 4 14:26

Yeah, well, that was for me Sorry.

Speaker 1 14:31

It's for whoever.

Speaker 3 14:32

I think, think you, some of them still do, I. I just think you wasted a lot of time, though. Okay, you waste a lot, and then then my next question would be what was the hold up? Who had the hang up, or who did what?

Speaker 1 14:47

okay, because my thinking is like what Randall said if we engaged that following year or six months after that, we gotta do something. Because if we wait years and you still my fiance, I'm comfortable that ring is just saying one day yeah, it's kind of like that poster date.

Speaker 4 15:12

That ring is just saying one day yeah, it's kind of like that poster day yeah it's just like just alright, when the day comes, you got it and then you get in the argument.

Speaker 1 15:22

You got the ring like, so that shows you that it's gonna happen. Okay, this means something right.

Speaker 3 15:30

I just don't know when yet yeah, yeah, yeah, we're building for it Right. I know it's been eight years, but just give me a minute. It's been the best eight years of my life.

Speaker 1 15:39

Okay, I want to spend another eight with you.

Speaker 4 15:45

You don't want this to end, right Dang, oh snap, okay, I got Dang.

Speaker 3 15:49

Oh snap, okay, all right, I got a question. Okay, since you I wouldn't say newly married four years is a long time, but in my mind freshly married Did you feel any pressure? No, she didn't give you no pressure. No pressure, okay.

Speaker 4 16:07

Funny pressure.

Speaker 3 16:08

Okay.

Speaker 4 16:09

You know we just been been how about today, you know, be a good time to do it now those funny jokes, yeah, yeah yeah, no pressure. Okay, no pressure. If anything I was, I was more timid ass than you know, than anything that's what it do.

Speaker 3 16:24

That's what it do.

Speaker 1 16:24

Okay, did. Did you have some type of presentation when you proposed to her, or do you just get down on one knee at dinner or something?

Speaker 4 16:33

oh, I had it laid out okay, I had laid out.

Speaker 1 16:36

Do you want to say what you did? Oh yeah, I would love to go into the story.

Speaker 3 16:39

I'm about to get in trouble okay, I'm about to get in trouble, bro, oh yeah hey because it was horrible. Now, go, go ahead, go ahead. Yeah, nah, let's do it, okay, mine is a story.

Speaker 4 16:55

It's the happily ever after beginning yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.

Speaker 4 16:58

So look. So, like I said, I was 10 in the beginning and I'm at my heart racing now and I was ready. I was like, hey, is it okay? I got the okay. Now we were planning a trip. Well, they were planning a trip to go down to Tennessee or Kentucky, but anyway, we were going to go to the Ripley's Aquarium. Well, that's what they were planning. And I was like, hey, I don't want to take it away from the family, but would this be okay to do it here? Is it possible to set this up? You, I don't want to take away from the family, but would this be okay to do it here? Is it possible to set this up? You know, given her past relationship, I want to make it. I want to make this like it's we together forever.

Speaker 4 17:42

We ain't never going to have to go back to that.

Speaker 2 17:43

We got this, I got you.

Speaker 4 17:47

So that was my whole mindset. So I get to go ahead and get. Okay, so ended up going to, like I said, ripley's aquarium and there was a few um, there's a few like specials going on that day, but one of them was the mermaids and then it was the stingrays. Okay, so once we left the mermaids, it was the stingrays, we got in front, and so her parents had ended up talking to the aquarium getting it, so the scuba diver would come down.

Speaker 2 18:28

Okay.

Speaker 4 18:29

And put something on the glass and it says out of all the fish in the sea, you're the one for me fire.

Speaker 3 18:38

Okay, okay, I was not playing, okay, alright, hey, you taking notes, you writing that writing this down. No, no, you're not, I'm just gonna put an A hello. Now I'm just going to put an A no, it's good, it's good, it's good, hello.

Speaker 1 18:52

No, I'm just going to put a yo you ready?

Speaker 2 18:56

It's me, whatever.

Speaker 4 19:00

Polished and everything.

Speaker 2 19:01

So she said yeah, but yeah.

Speaker 4 19:02

So ultimately she said, yeah, they put it on the glass, okay. And so she ended up having to turn around, and at that point the scuba diver put on the thing, and then they turned back around. They asked for volunteers to go up and do something, and so that's ended up how we got up there.

Speaker 3 19:17

And in the video.

Speaker 4 19:18

I'm the only person raising my hand, okay, but I had no idea that there was hundreds of people behind, at least a hundred-something people behind me. There's a food court behind us too. So, anyway, she does say I get on one knee. She says I do, and we're all excited. Scuba's like waving and everybody's like yeah, there's pictures flashing.

Speaker 1 19:38

It was great bro, it was cool.

Speaker 3 19:41

Randall putting it out there for everybody Such a standard tie, if you have a chance to go out, go all out, do it.

Speaker 1 19:49

That's what it do. All right, we're going to be watching Family Guy. I'm just going to be like bruh, bruh, bruh.

Speaker 2 19:57

I'm not even going to open the case.

Speaker 1 19:59

I'm just going to be like bruh. Anyway.

Speaker 4 20:03

The wine.

Speaker 1 20:04

Is it at least from?

Speaker 3 20:05

Jared.

Speaker 1 20:07

Yes, if I can afford it. Okay, if this podcast blow up, no, all right. I ask that question because do you think women care, like, if a woman really wants to marry you? Do you think the presentation matters?

Speaker 4 20:29

To a certain extent. Yes, To a certain extent. Yes, To a certain extent. Yes Doesn't have to be the greatest, but some thought has to go into it, Some thought.

Speaker 1 20:37

But didn't you think about it? Because you went out and bought a ring to marry her. So you did think about it.

Speaker 4 20:44

It could be a promise ring, she don't know she, it was all about the delivery.

Speaker 1 20:48

I'm in my 30s. I ain't promising nothing.

Speaker 4 20:56

But see, without the delivery of the ring.

Speaker 1 20:58

You know what I'm saying. Okay, let me ask you this Do you think your wife would have just said yes, if she rolled over from sleep or whatever, and she just saw you there like this, will you?

Speaker 3 21:12

marry me. Yes, okay, that's all I'm saying, because I think, think, but it'll show up 15 years later she gonna look at her friends like what's your, what's your man do for you?

Speaker 4 21:23

oh, oh is this.

Speaker 3 21:24

What that's right I forgot. I'm trying to help you, brother, that's I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 21:28

I'm trying to help you, man. You, that's all. I'm sorry, bro. I'm trying to help you, man. I'm sorry. I've made mistakes in my life.

Speaker 3 21:32

I'm sorry, I've made a few mistakes bro.

Speaker 1 21:37

I'm sorry, I didn't think it was my fault bro.

Speaker 4 21:41

It's all good man, Wait, wait.

Speaker 3 21:43

Oh, was that?

Speaker 4 21:44

It's all good All right, it's coming, I'm happy for you, Rachel.

Speaker 3 21:50

I'm happy for you, brother.

Speaker 4 21:52

I'm afraid to ask the question back.

Speaker 2 21:56

It's so good, man. Well, you're married, yeah, yeah, yeah, I love you, that's all.

Speaker 3 22:03

I'm going to say my fault, G my fault.

Speaker 4 22:08

You got me over here crying bro.

Speaker 1 22:10

Oh my gosh, my fault. I love it Because I remember. Yeah, my fault, I love it.

Speaker 2 22:16

It's cool, bro. It's all good.

Speaker 1 22:19

Skip this episode. My fault.

Speaker 3 22:22

It's all good, bro. Yeah, man, okay, I got some things in the works, bro. It's cool. 15 years later, he's friends. I gotta step my game up it's a milestone.

Speaker 4 22:35

You know what I'm saying. But you're living comfortably. Yeah, man, you're living comfortably.

Speaker 1 22:40

You know y'all ain't going nowhere and then yeah, yeah, sugar it up yeah it's too late. The damage been done already.

Speaker 2 22:50

I see, it's been late.

Speaker 4 22:51

The damage has been done already.

Speaker 3 22:53

I see it's been some time. Hey, Dyer, you see what to do and what not to do sitting right next to you.

Speaker 4 22:58

That's all I'm saying. I just know you look real uncomfortable right now.

Speaker 1 23:03

I am my fault, bro. I really did.

Speaker 3 23:07

I'm hot. I'm getting hot for you. It's my fault. G you in bad shape right now. This episode fire it's cool.

Speaker 1 23:19

For real. Okay, let me ask you this. Okay, Let me ask you this Knowing what you know about marriage, did you always think marriage was for you Because you said that you wanted to experience it? But did you know that marriage was for you before you got married?

Speaker 4 23:41

Well, I take I did. Well, people should take their relationship seriously, right?

Speaker 1 23:48

And so yeah, to answer your question yeah, Okay, Did y'all do like any premarital counseling or anything?

Speaker 4 24:01

Inadvertently and we were—it's not like we opposed the whole idea Like I didn't—my options were open for anything Like I didn't I was. My options were open for anything Like I wanted to do it right and I wanted to, you know, just be as authentic and real about it. My aunt and uncle are actually very heavily in that. They've done it plenty of times and even they got a Facebook page about marriages and stuff and marriage counseling. So yes, marriages and stuff, marriage counseling. So yes, they did marriage counseling and they did the whole initiation.

Speaker 3 24:34

I can't remember what it's called but the whole ceremony Okay, okay, they start to finish. Okay, that's what's up.

Speaker 1 24:41

Do you think marriage? Do you think marriage is for everybody?

Speaker 4 24:50

No, I'm not going gonna say the next comment nah bro just like how some people shouldn't have kids, not everybody should be getting married. There you go that is true, very true.

Speaker 3 25:02

Pretty much, I think marriage can be for everybody, but not at the point they are in their life, though. You got some change in it, though mature for sure.

Speaker 1 25:13

I don't think marriage is for everybody why, wouldn't it be for everybody, because some people just don't want to be tied down. Some people like their freedom, like I've actually had these conversations Some people think it's easier being a parent over being married.

Speaker 3 25:40

Yes, I agree. Hmm, yeah, I agree. So, you know, when you a parent man, you love your kid unconditionally. Right, but being in a relationship and being married, you have to choose that person every single day, yeah, even when they piss you off?

Speaker 1 26:01

Yeah, mm-hmm, all right. So if you don't think marriage is for everybody, what will be left for people to do? That's for both of y'all.

Speaker 4 26:21

Playboy philanthropist.

Speaker 3 26:23

No Iron man, no Bruce Wayne in it. That's what's up.

Speaker 4 26:28

Yeah.

Speaker 2 26:33

Hmm.

Speaker 1 26:37

Okay, I mean is, marriage may not be for everybody, but do you think everybody can love somebody to the point where they want to take care of them, if that makes sense? Like love them until death, do them part basically yeah, all right, Basically date them for the rest of their life, not be married, but always have that way out.

Speaker 4 27:10

Hmm, I think you should only be dating like, just dating whoever you want, whenever you want. If you want that, put out the door okay if in the back of your mind that you ain't you kind of immature, you ain't ready for something serious, for sure okay and if you are? Ready for something serious. That's got to be done quick. That's got to be done quick. Alright for real.

Speaker 3 27:32

I think, you should be upfront, man, don. That's got to be done quick. That's got to be done quick, for real. I think you should be upfront, man.

Speaker 1 27:36

Don't waste people's time. Yeah, I feel you Definitely Don't waste people's time.

Speaker 4 27:40

Okay, some women can fish that out quick. Yeah, okay, they don't want to be on game.

Speaker 1 27:45

All right, reynolds, let me ask you this then, bro.

Speaker 4 27:54

If your wife said no, when you propose to her, is the relationship over with you know, I've. I see I'd be wondering what happens after. I'll say it for you?

Speaker 1 28:01

hell yeah, you have to. You ain't saving this room for the next time, right? But some people do.

Speaker 3 28:13

But what if there's a good reason why she says no?

Speaker 1 28:17

Like what we ain't ready financially.

Speaker 3 28:23

What if? All right, playing devil's advocate, right? What if she just says you haven't reached your potential yet? Nah, we done G. But that could mean so much though Exactly we done Nah.

Speaker 1 28:40

What is my potential here and who are you to tell me what my potential is?

Speaker 4 28:45

Why haven't you told me about this potential?

Speaker 1 28:48

And have you tried to help me reach this potential? She in my marriage.

Speaker 4 28:52

she came up to me and have you tried to help me reach this potential? She, she in my relationship, my marriage, she came up to me. Hey, like I was saying earlier, suggestion, just a suggestion, and you even got to be like betty yourself.

Speaker 3 29:03

You stink, it could be betty yourself, king Mm-hmm Betty yourself, prince. Yeah, for sure, but Mm-hmm.

Speaker 4 29:08

Bet yourself.

Speaker 3 29:09

Yeah, prince, yeah for sure.

Speaker 1 29:11

But you just can't say that and not show me something.

Speaker 4 29:14

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 29:19

Like, you just can't say you need to increase your income. Okay, since you're saying that you have any suggestions. Okay, you just can't say I'm tired of dating real niggas. Yeah, true, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 29:32

True, and it takes a strong. I think it might take a strong person to even take the no and then try again. I'm not going to lie. I feel like some dudes just be like whatever.

Speaker 2 29:43

On to the next one.

Speaker 4 29:44

Some guys are ready for the next one anyway.

Speaker 1 29:54

I mean. The reason why I say that it's over is because of my ego. I ain't going to lie. I'm honest, like do you know how hard it is for a man to say I want to marry this person, I want to spend the rest?

Speaker 3 30:11

of my life with you.

Speaker 1 30:12

I'm going to buy a ring. Ask your parents, parents Plan some stuff. We love each other, we live together and you tell me no.

Speaker 3 30:24

You should never propose, unless you have an indication that that's where y'all headed anyway. There should be something.

Speaker 1 30:31

I get it, but still I'm just saying, if it ever happened, I mean Like why are you with me? Right, like what else am I supposed to do? Like Jay-Z said, what more can I say to you? You heard it all.

Speaker 3 30:43

There are some relationships, though, where one person wants to get married, the other one don't, though. And if the one that told you they don't want to get married.

Speaker 4 30:50

Tell you, no, that's your fault if you still pursue, you're kind of burning yourself okay.

Speaker 1 30:58

Well, I'm going to hook up to the board real quick because I want to play this video now. Now, you're going to have to do some bleeping, okay. I'm just telling you you're going to have to do some bleeping, okay. So I'm just telling you you're going to have to do some bleeping.

Speaker 2 31:16

More editing. I mean it's only like one bleep.

Speaker 1 31:19

I think One bleep, okay, you know what? I'm saying it's not a serious video, but I just think it's a good video to play Cool.

Speaker 3 31:27

Well, let's not talk until the video's over.

Speaker 2 31:29

Okay, all right, make it easy for me. Okay, hold on.

Speaker 2 31:34

I'm going to play it for you, because when I woke up it was my birthday. But the reason why I'm getting a divorce because when I woke up it was my birthday my wife didn't acknowledge my birthday. My son didn't acknowledge my birthday. I went to work. My coworkers didn't acknowledge my my birthday and my manager called me in and said Mario. I said fuck, I get in there. And she said happy birthday. I said oh, thanks. Then she said you want to get some lunch? And I was like okay. And then she was like you want to go back to my place? And I was like all right. So I went back to her place and she was like let me step in my room, I'll be right back. She got back five minutes later and my kids, my coworkers, my wife was all there to say happy birthday with a cake and I was on the couch butt naked.

Speaker 3 32:34

So the reason so where are you going with this man?

Speaker 1 32:47

so, uh, since I got two married men here, my question is do y'all go into marriage thinking divorce is not an option?

Speaker 3 33:02

Yes.

Speaker 1 33:06

Why.

Speaker 3 33:08

If divorce was an option going in, you shouldn't have started.

Speaker 4 33:14

That one foot out.

Speaker 3 33:15

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 4 33:15

One foot out policy. Okay, yeah, you, I agree Okay.

Speaker 3 33:21

My thing about what you just played, bro right.

Speaker 1 33:24

I'm just trying to you know, provoke thought.

Speaker 3 33:26

He sounded like he'd been married a while.

Speaker 2 33:29

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 3 33:29

Sound like his kids has kind of got some age on them, right? Your birthday wasn't acknowledged before this one. Why did you take this one to do what you did? Because he was tired. He was tired. He'd been wanting his boss for a minute. I guess, yes, he has been ready. That was his opportunity.

Speaker 1 33:49

He was there butt naked real quick. All she said was she'll be right back.

Speaker 3 33:58

He's been reading the wrong signs for years at this job, bro.

Speaker 4 34:01

Oh man he clowning? Either that or he's just been waiting. Yeah, it was time.

Speaker 3 34:07

It was time.

Speaker 1 34:08

So with the video, do y'all give y'all wife grace to mess up and not be ready to leave so quick.

Speaker 3 34:25

I'm petty.

Speaker 2 34:26

You know, I'm petty bro. Yeah.

Speaker 3 34:28

I'm the person that you know. If you play me on my birthday, don't acknowledge it, then I just make sure all y'all birthdays don't mean nothing to me all year. That's how I play them games. He said don't mean nothing Don't mean nothing to me bro.

Speaker 1 34:43

Okay.

Speaker 3 34:43

Yeah, ask about me, you know.

Speaker 4 34:47

You know I'm a Scorpio, so sometimes a little give back is fine. I teach.

Speaker 1 34:51

Hey, I'm a Scorpio, so sometimes a little give back is fine. I teach, hey, that's what I do. That's why we always yeah, yeah. I can't wait to air the show.

Speaker 3 35:02

Ask my kids how Christmas went.

Speaker 1 35:04

I already know. I already know, you already know, man.

Speaker 3 35:08

Okay, yeah, man, up, you already know man. Okay, yeah, man.

Speaker 1 35:11

So if y'all been married for so long, do it still? Is it still important to celebrate holidays and birthdays like y'all did when y'all was just dating? Oh, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 4 35:27

Oh yeah, because, like you, with the same person for years, same day, waking up, same routine, sometimes not always the same way, but you get the same same everyday, especially if you got kids, it's the same same stuff. So yeah, definitely, keep it definitely keep it fresh if you can.

Speaker 3 35:45

It's very easy to get complacent, very easy to get um comfortable. You know what I mean, and yeah, and women start thinking. Yeah.

Speaker 4 35:59

Not my wife yeah.

Speaker 3 36:00

And as the years go on, it gets easier and easier to do yeah All right man.

Speaker 1 36:09

Good, it's a good show man. I feel like we've made nine very uncomfortable. I'm good man. I feel like we've made nine very uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 36:15

I'm good man, I'm good, I got plans. That's all I can say. I got a plan.

Speaker 1 36:19

Let's hope so. Yeah, I just yeah, I got a plan.

Speaker 3 36:23

Alright, I deserve it.

Speaker 2 36:25

You know what I'm saying. I ain't even gonna lie to you. I deserve it.

Speaker 3 36:28

I've been throwing shots at this man for the last three or four episodes. I deserve it. I've been throwing shots at this man for the last three or four episodes.

Speaker 1 36:35

I get it, I understand, but, baby, can I just say I just want to tell you how supreme I am. I hit you with a straight and I didn't even know I was doing it. Yeah, you did I didn't even know I was doing it, just like with the cheeseburger thing.

Speaker 3 36:50

I didn't know I was doing it either, but it happened.

Speaker 1 36:53

Okay but to be honest with you, I think mine hit hard Pause.

Speaker 2 36:58

All right, that's what's up. I think mine hit hard. That's what's up, real hard, it's all good.

Speaker 1 37:04

Pause. What are?

Speaker 3 37:05

you doing.

Speaker 1 37:07

Anyway, any final words, marry men.

Speaker 3 37:12

When you going to join the club.

Speaker 4 37:19

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 37:21

How long has it been? It'll be two years in July.

Speaker 3 37:24

That's what it do.

Speaker 4 37:25

Congratulations, man It'll be two years in July. So Let me ask you this real quick, okay, is the ceiling getting higher, like and what I mean by that is is like when y'all do y'all you know birthdays or just day-to-day things, it feels like y'all relationship is at its peak, or is it still gonna? Or is it like we can still climb and get?

Speaker 1 37:51

better. I mean, as long as that's kind of a. For me that's kind of a weird question, because I feel like as long as we're still growing as people, we can still you know what I'm saying improve.

Speaker 3 38:07

Are you the type that's like I don't want to get married until everything feel perfect?

Speaker 1 38:11

No, because if that was the case, I shouldn't even be in a relationship because I'm damaged as hell. So no, I'm not. If I say I don't want to get married until everything is perfect, that's like me saying I'm not going to go to church until I get my life together. When you go to church to get your life together, For sure.

Speaker 1 38:35

Yeah, you got to have that foundation for sure, like you um off that question you had but I will say you shouldn't get married until you have some type of foundation set, some type of structure, some type of foundation set, some type of structure, some type of structure for your life and for the people that's going to be a part of your life.

Speaker 4 39:04

Because those foundations can make it perfect pretty much. I feel like you know. I feel like you know, with those foundations it doesn't have to be perfect there.

Speaker 4 39:13

But if you got all, the right parts to build your dream house, everything you need, why not? That's kind of how I was. I was just like man, financial, spiritual, eating. All of it, the foundation. Was there? All of it, the foundation was there. Yeah, so these little things, I'm like man this could really, it should really become a some big old trees, a redwood tree. Yeah, it could really grow into something tall man, that's what's up, that's what it do man, I'm trying to get me caught up out here y'all.

Speaker 1 39:46

What you mean that question? Yeah, y'all didn't think I had bars for it.

Speaker 3 39:51

Hey look, I just got to find out.

Speaker 1 39:52

Especially you. But, bruh, I just got to know I'm solid over here. I'm just waiting on the text of you jumping over a broom. I mean you going to be there because you got to line me up Like jumping out that window.

Speaker 3 40:04

You got to line me up at the wedding. At the wedding. Yeah, I, I got to cut here at the wedding.

Speaker 1 40:09

Yeah, because I need to come out doing this Inside joke. Bring in the moe bro, he's going to be behind you still.

Speaker 4 40:19

Bring in the moe bro Dang man oh my gosh, bro, that's great.

Speaker 3 40:24

Niggas, anyway, niggas.

Speaker 1 40:30

Like you already know, randall, you know what I'm saying. At the end of every episode, we try to leave the people with some bars for the week. So, as you being the guest, would you like to come with something?

Speaker 4 40:46

Oh yes.

Speaker 1 40:46

Okay.

Speaker 4 40:47

And I honestly wish I could do it for every episode, because I'm like I got something. It do it for every episode because y'all I'm like y'all ain't gonna know Between a week I got something. It was just for a second, so I got you real quick. So remember to give your man some credit. We not always perfect, but we try.

Speaker 3 41:07

Mmm, I like that.

Speaker 1 41:09

You know what? Let's just leave that, yeah.

Hilarious Podcast Guest Apologizes

Speaker 3 41:11

I'm not following up on that. Yeah, I'm not following up. Yeah, I'm not even even though next email.

Speaker 1 41:16

Randall took the cake, yeah bars, bars, good show man.

Speaker 3 41:23

Yeah, for sure, for sure, for sure. Let's do this again yeah, press the button yeah, I know, I know. I forgot, for real. I ain't even gonna lie, I did. You got the pins. Who know, like the old, press the button yeah.

Speaker 4 41:34

I know, I know I forgot. For real, I ain't even going to lie, I did, you got the hands zoomed out like the whole TV.

Speaker 1 41:38

Nobody else hear that.

Speaker 4 41:41

I wasn't going to say that. I can kind of hear it.

Speaker 1 41:43

Yeah, I forgot, I forgot man Randall, thanks for coming, of course. Yes, sir, it's pretty full of a podcast man.

Speaker 3 41:50

We good For sure I'm going to leave you alone today, man, all right G, I got you next time.

Speaker 1 41:56

No, you, hey, you was turning red.

Speaker 3 41:59

I ain't bro. You was hilarious, bro, Hilarious. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 42:04

When you said something, it instantly came back like oh, my fault. G.

Speaker 3 42:10

Like oh, my fault, g. No, you do it, bro, I got plans. You got plans.

Speaker 1 42:15

That was a real apology, like my fault G.