Supremely Full Of It Podcast
Late-Night Cereal & the Art of Second Chances
Ever found yourself rifling through the pantry for that perfect cereal at midnight or wrestling with the idea of second chances in love? We try to breakdown the work that goes into getting a second chance.
Ever found yourself rifling through the pantry for that perfect cereal at midnight or wrestling with the idea of second chances in love? We try to breakdown the work that goes into getting a second chance.
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Speaker 1:Ha.
Speaker 2:Man mean what you say and say what you mean, bro, supremely full of it podcast Back with another episode. They call me Dyer. I be your boy Nine, oh man.
Speaker 3:How you doing I feel the hurt.
Speaker 2:Hey man, how you doing.
Speaker 1:I'm good bro, Never mind.
Speaker 2:If you would have said I'm doing better than you, I'd be like have a good night.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cut the show. Cut the show. Have a good night Cut the show.
Speaker 2:Because, yeah man, we struggling bro, yeah man, life be lifin'.
Speaker 1:All the time.
Speaker 2:Even when you wanted to stop moving for a few minutes. Yeah, it's going to keep moving and then all of a sudden Bam, I'm on the way. Wow, woo Okay.
Speaker 1:I'm talking about you know, hey, hey. Life, it hits you like.
Speaker 2:I'm on the way, I'm here for it. Just know that I'm about that action. Okay, I'm about that action, I'm coming. Anyway, how was your day, man? My day good bro, good, good, better than yours All right G.
Speaker 1:Oh man, my bad. Do you eat cereal for dinner sometimes?
Speaker 2:Yeah, g. Oh, man, my bad. Do you eat cereal for dinner sometimes? Yeah, sometimes.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you got. To. What type of cereal do you eat for dinner? I eat old people stuff Like what Honey bunches of oats.
Speaker 2:That hits old people.
Speaker 1:Frosted mini-wheats. Frosted mini-wheats Frosted mini-wheats Raisin Bran.
Speaker 2:Raisin Bran good though it's still old.
Speaker 1:Raisin Bran Crunch I ain't had that one in a minute Raisin. Bran is like cardboard. But what's better than Raisin Bran Crunch? Is Raisin Bran mixed with honey, bunches of oats, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Try that, bro. I haven't had cereal in a minute. You want some I'm more of a organic oatmeal person.
Speaker 1:What is organic oatmeal? It's just organic oatmeal. It's not just oatmeal. What's organic? What does this mean? What are you buying Okay? What does this mean Like what are you buying Okay?
Speaker 2:you remember, a few pods ago I said that you know I'm a plant-based organic guy. Now, right. So, basically, organic means well, the less ingredients the better. Right, right, I feel it Right. So when you go say you get like regular oatmeal, it's going to have ingredients that look like a wish list of stuff.
Speaker 3:But when you get organic oatmeal.
Speaker 2:The only ingredient you're going to see is organic oatmeal.
Speaker 1:Okay, I got you. Yeah, I got you. I don't. The only oatmeal I can eat is the instant oatmeal.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what it is. It's instant too.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what's up. I think the stuff you get in the little cardboard, can I? Can't do it Cardboard can. Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I can't do it bro, Okay.
Speaker 1:Because that oatmeal turns into boogers. It do, bro, it ain't right. That's all I know.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's get to the show. You said something turned into boogers. It do, man. That's remarkable.
Speaker 1:It turns into porridge. You know what I'm saying. And porridge is boogers.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I can't do it bro, okay, whew. Anyway, that was funny. It bro, okay, Whew. Anyway, that was funny, I'm hot, All right.
Speaker 1:Why is it so hot in here?
Speaker 2:bro, I don't know Sheesh. Anyway, you remember the song by Player, not Player. How do you pronounce it? Player, player, yeah, player, back in the what the 90s.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Cheers to you. Yeah, you want to sing that song, no.
Speaker 1:I know what you mean, though. Yes, you don't want to sing it? I don't. I will be playing some music on this pod soon, though we shall see, yeah, I'll be doing that song.
Speaker 2:Anyway, you remember the song though right, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah cheers to you.
Speaker 2:Yes, cheers to you For giving me A chance. You know what I'm saying and they had a dance to go with it you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, for sure, kill it, oh snap yeah.
Speaker 2:Anyway Bow, so Bow One, two, three yeah. That's how they that's how it used to be. So Cheers For giving me another chance. Why would like? How would you act if you wanted to get another chance, after you've probably messed up the first chance that you had to be with somebody?
Speaker 1:How would you act?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You would probably go above and beyond man. And for real, for real, you'd probably become a pest. For real.
Speaker 2:But wouldn't you have to do that even like? Wouldn't a person your ex have to give you some type of hope that there was a chance that you would get another chance?
Speaker 1:Not necessarily, but most of the time you probably do. You probably do got a little hope that things might work out. But some people just persistent.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but at a certain point, though, you're just fighting a losing battle. Right, that's true.
Speaker 1:That's very true. Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted a second chance after it was over?
Speaker 2:Yes, I wanted a second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, tenth, eleventh, twelfth, dang chains after it was over. Yes, okay, second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, tenth, eleven, twelve. Yeah, I've messed up a lot in my past and this was all with one individual yeah, okay, yeah, you just never figured it out.
Speaker 1:It's not.
Speaker 2:I never figured it out it's not that I never figured it out, it's just I knew who and what I would have to be to be with this person. And at that point in my life I wasn't ready. It's not that I wasn't ready, it's that I didn't want to be.
Speaker 1:Okay, I got you yeah. I got you. So let me ask you this so was it that you wanted a second chance, or is it because you just? How can I explain it? Because if you wasn't ready to be what they wanted, right then why would you subject yourself to doing the chance dance?
Speaker 2:hands.
Speaker 3:Well, probably because I you know when you realize how good somebody is, and you really don't want them to be with nobody else.
Speaker 2:So you. So you expect them to stay with your ignorant butt, even though you're doing the same old thing over and over again okay so I kind of feel like that was it, like I know that this person's good, right right, you don't find too many good people.
Speaker 1:That is true, that is very true. So is it safe to say that some people they do the chance dance not because they actually want them, it's because hold on, hold on. I don't think I'm saying that right. Um dang, I don't know how to actually word it are you saying they?
Speaker 2:they don't want nobody else to have them?
Speaker 1:yeah, they don't want nobody else to have them, but they okay, here we go.
Speaker 2:They don't have any intentions on actually doing right by them I can't say that because I always had the intentions to like I like. I knew I wanted to okay but I just wasn't ready to commit to it okay, I can see that, but when? All right let's, let's just go from the beginning. What, what would you do to get another chance After?
Speaker 1:depending on how you messed up the first one.
Speaker 1:I think most of the time people start with what they used to do that the other person liked. Okay, like, if it may be that favorite restaurant. You know what I'm saying, that you took them to before and they took them in a while. You may try that you may do all of the pet names and the talking that you wasn't doing before you're doing it now. You know what I mean. You might be standing outside their window with a boombox and a mariachi band, you know what I'm saying behind you, You're going to try all kinds of different stuff.
Speaker 1:I think nowadays, though, what people do the most of is try to use other people to get it done.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, I think it all depends on how you messed up the first chance you got, okay. Okay, I think it all depends on how you messed up the first chance you got. Okay, because, like say, let's just go with cheating.
Speaker 1:All right, for sure.
Speaker 2:Say you cheated the first time and the relationship ended.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:I don't think the other person is even going to give you a chance to show that you want to do better, to get another chance.
Speaker 1:That's a tough one, though, because once trust is lost, bro, it's really hard to get that joint back.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's me personally. I don't think you can get trust back.
Speaker 1:Never.
Speaker 2:yeah, I never looked at it like that, but yeah, yeah, I mean because the only way the person is actually going to trust you or even act like they trust you, is if they know everything that you're doing. So that means you may go have to turn on your location now. I don't know about you, but I think that's overkill. Do you location Now I?
Speaker 3:don't know about you, but I think that's overkill.
Speaker 1:Do you? I mean what's? I don't Me personally, bro, I don't think anything is overkill that the other person is telling you to do if you want that person back.
Speaker 2:I don't know my G.
Speaker 1:The reason why I say that is is because if you do it person back, I don't know my G. The reason why I say that is is because if you do it, you signed up for it. So I don't even know if it's overkill because you trying to get your good graces back Now. The question is are you willing to Now?
Speaker 2:okay, that's different. If y'all broke up because you cheated, then yeah, you may have to share your location, but at the end of the day, what is that really going to do? Is the person that you cheated on going to show up everywhere that you at?
Speaker 1:I think that dude turned the person that got cheated on into something they shouldn't want to become.
Speaker 2:Right A probation officer.
Speaker 1:Dude Good terminology, thank you, Thank you. Yeah, that's a good one. Yeah, I don't have the time. I don't want to have the time to do that. I don't have the time. I don't want to have the time to do that. My thing is if I ask you a question, you should just be honest about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's that easy, and you could either choose to believe me or not.
Speaker 1:Facts, okay, say a person was trying to get back in the door after verbal abuse.
Speaker 2:I think that's one of the easier issues how, just by saying I'm going to do better.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, I'm just saying it's easier to change how you speak to somebody. Okay, that to me is not a hard thing to do. You think about what you're saying before you say it, anyway.
Speaker 2:Most people do.
Speaker 1:I think that's an easier one to come back from.
Speaker 2:But does that mean that you gotta? I don't want to say talk to them like you are or holding back, but like what? If they like, do something to make you mad. Do you still express yourself?
Speaker 1:yeah, you just gotta fight.
Speaker 2:but but if you do express yourself and you getting this second chance, don't they be like? Well, there you go again, yelling and cussing at me when you said that you would never do that again, so don't you still take that risk of doing?
Speaker 1:that I just think you got to find another way to express yourself, so you just write it down, if that's what it takes. But even if you wrote it down if it's disrespectful you know what I'm saying it ain't going to take that easy either. It kind of in a lot take that that easy, either. It kind of in a lot of cases, man, it kind of sucks for both sides.
Speaker 1:It really do that's why if if you break up with somebody, that that getting back is is rough yeah, and the question mean can you ever really get back, is the question, and do you want to get back? That's another good one.
Speaker 2:Like you got to remember why y'all broke up in the first place.
Speaker 3:Hmm.
Speaker 1:I mean, but is the person they got broke up with for something they did really thinking about that more than the person that broke up that did the breaking up?
Speaker 2:No, I don't think so. I think the person who messed up all they really thinking about is getting back.
Speaker 1:So is it? Is it safe to say, okay, so for for somebody that's that's a one-time offender, right? Do you think that most likely they have the better chance of actually fixing it, getting a second chance, versus somebody that got the fourth one, fifth one, sixth one?
Speaker 2:depend on what they did, like some people. Once you get cheated on once, that's it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, for sure. I mean, let me ask you this If you got cheated on, is it one time for you, one and done?
Speaker 2:Now, yes, okay, it wasn't before.
Speaker 3:No, okay, okay why.
Speaker 2:Because I was done.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:You know what? I ain't even laughing at you, because I've been in the same boat. Yeah, I've been in the same boat, man.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I mean, some people have that whole logic of once a cheater, always a cheater.
Speaker 1:Right, I don't believe that. I don't believe that either.
Speaker 2:But getting cheated on is hard boy.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree. Even though I've done it, it's still hard.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I've been there.
Speaker 2:I've been there.
Speaker 1:It is difficult, yeah, very difficult, um, difficult to the point to where, like you kind of question your worthiness, like you question, um, how can I explain it, man? Like like it kind of, it makes you question your worth sometimes.
Speaker 2:I don't know. See me. And a friend had this conversation today, bro Mm-hmm. He was saying how at this point in his life, if you cheat, then you should just break up. You know what I'm saying? Because clearly you're not happy with the person that you're with. But I don't agree with that Because I believe if it's because a person cheats, that really don't mean that they want to break up with you. That just means they still want to come home to what they have. But they just wanted something different.
Speaker 1:still want to come home to what they have, but they just wanted something different. I question did you ever really love that person? To begin with, though?
Speaker 2:So you don't think a person can cheat and still love a person?
Speaker 1:I think I question that person's ability to love the person they say they love. Okay, Because the way I see it, if you truly love that person, it should have stopped you from making the mistake you made, I agree, and the person you wish to love you enough that you should be able to take that to them. What that I cheated? No, that you've had thoughts of.
Speaker 2:Oh, nah, that's nah. Then you're going to end up sharing your location and I need your Instagram password and all this other stuff.
Speaker 1:No, no, no. You just had a discussion of you know what I'm saying Like I'm being put in a position like to want something that I'm not getting at home, so we together got to fix that.
Speaker 2:But depending on who. Okay, let's say, the man said that to the woman right now, depending on the woman she probably, by the way then you need to go.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying and if you make that statement, man, man, whatever come from that, that's on you, okay.
Speaker 2:Oh, now it's on them. Yeah, that's on you. Okay.
Speaker 1:Because I or that person need to say you know what? I can't do this with you, no more.
Speaker 2:Okay, that's, I can see that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that that could be what you know. Dude, that you was talking to meant Okay.
Speaker 2:All right, no-transcript. And that's always a start? I don't think so.
Speaker 1:So what do you think you should do? Just make everything new, because starting fresh is never a real thing.
Speaker 2:All right, I'm going to give you an example. I'm going to use my life. I was dating a woman.
Speaker 1:I hope she was.
Speaker 2:I'm not falling for that one again.
Speaker 3:That was close.
Speaker 2:Close, close, okay, I've grown Okay. Anyway, I was dating a woman.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:And we tried the whole not having sex thing before marriage.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:But before we became boyfriend and girlfriend we was getting it thing before marriage, right, but before we became boyfriend and girlfriend we was getting it in, yeah, yeah, and then when we got together she didn't want to do it anymore because we wasn't married.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Okay, cool. But then when she wanted to have sex, it was perfectly fine. It was okay when she wanted to do it. But when I wanted to do it, I was holding her back from everything that God had for her. Hold on, hold on. I'm not done yet.
Speaker 1:All right. I'm ready to you know, like double-dutch but I'm waiting to jump in there.
Speaker 2:Okay, when we broke up she was throwing it at me, mm Trying to get you back. Yeah, like, like, literally throwing it to the point where I'm like yo, we not supposed to be doing this.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So you know Staying on business, right, so you Staying on business.
Speaker 2:So you know it was a lot if I'm saying it.
Speaker 3:Right right.
Speaker 2:So, right, right, so, but my thinking is you can't give me what you used to give me, and then, if we got back together, you just going to take it back, you just going to take it away again. So my thinking is this If you're going to try to get back with somebody, understand why y'all broke up, what caused y'all to break up, what led to the breakup, and then, yes, do what y'all used to do, but have some boundaries on it.
Speaker 2:Okay, I can dig it, because doing the same thing that we used to do probably won't be good enough to get us back to where we were.
Speaker 1:We may have to just tear everything down and start over.
Speaker 2:But is there a such thing as starting over? No, but okay. No, but y'all not going to be moving as quick as y'all Like. Just because y'all got back together don't mean that things go back to the way that they were.
Speaker 1:Right. My thing is a lot of times like maybe that was that pressure, you know what I'm saying Like she was trying to put pressure on you to marry her and that's what she was using against you.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm, because it didn't.
Speaker 1:she didn't care about doing the wrong thing in her mind when she wanted to Right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I was all for doing the wrong thing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yes, you were Indulged a little bit. Just a little bit, a little bit, just a little bit. Okay, let me ask you this though how did that make you feel though?
Speaker 2:What.
Speaker 1:Which part? Okay, let me ask you this, though how did that make you feel, though what which part? At the fact that, okay, you y'all was messing around before, right, then she says no and then yes again when she? How did it make you feel like the back and forth, though I?
Speaker 2:didn't like it, like this episode that came about me cool. Uh, nah, I'm just playing. But uh, when we first met, I had just got baptized okay so I'm like, okay, this is what we're supposed to be doing so I, I'm going to try that Cool.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:But when I met her, like when we started talking, she always started the whole physical thing.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:And then when we got together, you know it was still there. But then one day, no, we shouldn't be doing this, because you know and I'm like, okay, cool, I'll do my best. And then all of a sudden, she wanted it. Yes, then, when I wanted it, the power of Christ compelled me. The power get thee behind me Satan.
Speaker 3:The power of Christ compels you the power of Get thee behind me, Satan.
Speaker 2:Throwing the wall in there, Dang. You know what I'm saying. So I mean, at a certain point.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but how did it make you feel, though it?
Speaker 2:threw me off.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying. Like it literally throws.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's very confusing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's confusing. When she won it, it was fine, but when I you know what I'm saying initiated, it turned into you're holding me back from everything, god has for me. That made me feel like, then why am I with you then?
Speaker 1:G. I didn't make you open your legs. You did that on your own. Yeah, but I'm like why am I with you then? She being this fly traps you.
Speaker 2:Anyway bro Cheers to you, bro.
Speaker 1:Cheers to you when Ask me about my life, bro, cheers to you when ask me about my life, brother, huh, ask me about my life since you shared.
Speaker 2:Uh, we, we did that on the last pod.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was. It's too easy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that was, that was. That was a good one, that was a good one, you know. Email.
Speaker 2:Randall that that was a good one.
Speaker 1:That was a good one, you know email Randall.
Speaker 2:Shout out to Randall that was a good one, anyway. When, all right, why do people think if a second chance is so important, why did they mess up the first one? Like did they take the first chance they got? They didn't appreciate, like they didn't take it seriously.
Speaker 1:Some people don't think about it until it's over with Okay, because even though you're trying to get that second chance because it broke up, you had multiple chances within the relationship too. Mm-hmm. And sometimes the person that's doing the most damage is looking at the other person like they got a dummy on their forehead, because they may feel like man, I ain't going nowhere, I can do what I want.
Speaker 2:Me personally. I feel like once you start thinking that somebody will never leave you, you kind of left them Okay. Because that makes it sound like, no matter what you do, like this person not going to find nobody better than you.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And they probably won't in certain situations.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:In certain areas in life.
Speaker 1:Is there anything besides cheating that you see not being able to come back from as a second chance?
Speaker 2:If you hit me.
Speaker 1:Ah, that's a good one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if you, if you like, put your hands on me, then like, even if you like, say you gonna do it, all I'm gonna say is, if you do that, you gonna have a problem, and then you can have a problem.
Speaker 1:And then you can go from there. I've had that type of situation before. We've heard. We've heard, not that one in particular. I got another one. You like them rough, don't you? I told you, I got smacked me across my forehead, bro. You know what?
Speaker 2:I'm saying you like them rough.
Speaker 1:But there was no physical violence yet. You like a fighter dog In this situation. No physical violence. But the issue was they wanted me to hit them, okay, and it was like they was just in my face, like well, hit me, then Hit me. I'm like. I crossed my arms, like what do you want? Like I can't do this, bro, I can't, I'm scared. She was going to press charges, bro, I'm scared, bro, like no, I'm not doing that. Some females, bro and it blows my mind, I've never heard this come from the guy's side but some females like it, we're getting hit. Yeah, I literally had somebody tell me if they don't hit me, they don't love me.
Speaker 2:I just know women like to be choked.
Speaker 1:You choke people. I've choked people. You got to how, though?
Speaker 2:Oh, you just put your hand like this, yeah, and then you put your thumb like in, the, like in the middle okay okay, and then you just squeeze a little bit.
Speaker 3:All right, then, depending on the position you in, do you?
Speaker 1:can you give them two? Okay? And then, if the thumb feels an adam's apple, do you just squeeze all the way?
Speaker 2:You evacuate, you get all women and children, you get dispersed and then you come back with gasoline around the house.
Speaker 3:Oh man.
Speaker 2:And then you just start sounding like Eminem. When the cops came through me and Dre stood next to a burnt-down house with a handful of gas and a handful of matches. Still we found out yeah, wow, you went left with that one didn't you.
Speaker 1:I'm just because it was just popping in my head, bro, you thinking it's a nice thing going on and then you just heard the voice pop out. Like you too rough.
Speaker 2:Boy, I can't stand you. Oh, that was extreme. Anyway, I'm gonna hook up to the board, Okay alright. Cause that was extreme, because that was extreme, woo okay.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna play this video. What blows my mind is that you actually literally showed me how to yeah, yeah. I'm just saying what you need to do is apply pressure on your index finger, just in case you know what I'm saying. Wrap the pinky inside, okay, wrap the pinky alright, alright, dude, you got experience with this.
Speaker 2:I'm a I'm uh, it's a short video, all right so pay attention all right, I'm gonna see if I can start from the beginning not finding love, here we go.
Speaker 3:You're probably not finding love because you're the problem, and god is protecting other people from you.
Speaker 2:So, word, you're having trouble finding people because you're the problem and God is protecting other people from you. That's crazy. How would a person come to terms with that is protecting other people from you. That's crazy. How will the person come to terms with it? Like they are the problem.
Speaker 1:The reason why they can't find nobody. I think part of the issue is most people don't come to terms with that. Okay, they always act like it's better for them to believe it's somebody else.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm going gonna ask this question I. I pretty much kind of know what you're gonna say, probably, but do god really care about your relationship like that?
Speaker 1:probably not, do I think he care about your covenant in marriage.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:But you know, I don't, I don't think so. We wouldn't have free will if you couldn't do what you wanted to do. True, true, okay, but that's a. That's a very interesting way of looking at it, though Some people can't find nobody because you messed up.
Speaker 2:Okay, me and you really don't believe in soulmates, but for the sake of this episode, if you passed up your soulmate, do you think you're going to find somebody else?
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 1:So if a person If the soulmate thing was real. Okay, I think okay, let me backtrack. Okay, I think. Okay, let me let me backtrack.
Speaker 2:Yes, but in the event that soulmates were real, you wouldn't have what you were supposed to have okay, I think certain people's soulmates are ugly, but they don't know that because they think that their soulmate is ugly, so they don't look at them or they don't pay attention because they're ugly.
Speaker 1:I remember you saying in another part what's best for you could be wrapped in something that you don't like. I know you didn't say it to that effect, but you said because of what they wrapped in.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, you right, People don't like. People don't don't like the blessing that they receive because it's not wrapped in what they don't like or something like that, mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah, I just think if let let's just use the video, say God is saying you're you're the problem. Are you going to have a conversation with God Like all right?
Speaker 3:tell me how.
Speaker 2:I'm the problem, or or are you just going to say send me somebody who will accept me for me?
Speaker 1:Ooh, that's what you hear. That's what you hear more than anything else. Yep Coming from the other people.
Speaker 2:Somebody that can handle me, ooh, when you don't handle nothing but luggage. But we can continue.
Speaker 3:Mm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what you hear all the time, bro, and that's that's crazy that you are willing to to be the type of person that I'm just gonna call you messed up okay you're a messed up person, but you wanna ask for somebody to deal with your messed up ways at the same time that you want to be able to say that you love that person.
Speaker 2:That's trash, bro yeah I, I don't never want to think my girl like puts up with me yeah, yeah, no doubt, no doubt yeah, you know what? Saying Like you should never want somebody to say, yeah, I put up with him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2:So if you want somebody to handle you, that means that you don't really plan on calming down or changing or anything Right?
Speaker 3:And I'm like bro.
Speaker 2:At what age do you want to do this?
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:And it blows my mind that you want somebody to deal with how you are now, but then you want a person to come to you correct with everything that you want them to have.
Speaker 2:That's whack, but don't ever think about the person that you want. What type of person do they want?
Speaker 1:exactly but, you know, I'm just, I'm just spitballing out here what's a when it comes to something else, that you wouldn't give somebody a second chance?
Speaker 2:for Messing up money. Okay, Because, like me personally, I put security over everything.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm Okay.
Speaker 2:And if you messing up the money? What did Big Worm say? Playing with my money is like playing with my emotions.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:And that's really true with me. So if you messing up the money because you're irresponsible, Mm-hmm. We're not telling you what to do, mm-hmm. Well, I'm showing you, I'm trying to help you with it, we're not telling you what to do. Well, I'm showing you, I'm trying to help you with it, and you just keep doing the same thing, you know what I'm saying Hitting.
Speaker 2:What's the website she in and fashion Nova and forever 21 when you 35, and stuff like that that, yeah, we don't need to be together because clearly we're not on the same journey. What blows my mind, too?
Speaker 1:that, yeah, we don't need to be together, because clearly we're not on the same journey, mm-hmm. What blows my mind too, man, is like you say you want a husband Mm-hmm. But you don't want to hear no either.
Speaker 2:You don't hear no from a boyfriend.
Speaker 1:But I'm saying but at that point they can say you know what I mean, we ain't married, which is true, yeah, but if you can't handle hearing no, why do you want a husband?
Speaker 2:Why do you want anybody in your life?
Speaker 1:And then they'll say well, I want somebody to protect and to provide. Well, how can a husband protect you and you can't hear no, because a part of his protection is telling you no, right, no, don't step left, step right and depending on the person.
Speaker 2:some people need protection from themselves.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 2:That's facts, bro. That's facts.
Speaker 1:So let me ask you what's one or two things that you won't give a second chance for. I would say, if you got to have some type of, you got to have a spiritual background.
Speaker 2:You have to yeah, like, you have to, yeah, like, like.
Speaker 1:you have to have one already established even even if you didn't have one throughout the dating stage. Once it's established, it has to stay established okay, because in my opinion, that's the only foundation that we can fall back on when things get sideways. Okay, that's the only thing.
Speaker 2:We can go read and then be like okay, well, that's where I messed up okay, I I don't know if this is what you're saying, but this is how I'm taking it. You before me, you don't have to have one, but while we're in a relationship together, you have to be working on one.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Okay, Okay, yes, Because my thing is you don't have like. Yes, I go to church, but my flesh is weak.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:But you have to be open to having a relationship. You just can't say no, that's not for me.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, I get what you're saying, yeah and you got some people that's out there that'll tell you straight up, like I don't believe in that and that's cool. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. It's just, that's just my preference, right? That's cool for you. Yeah, for sure, I think I don't handle disrespect. Well, okay, you might get a couple of them off, but especially if I'm not the type of person that just be walking around disrespecting you, calling you out your name and stuff, right, because if you willing to disrespect me, you don't love me. That's how I see that.
Speaker 2:Disrespect you on purpose or accident. Period Okay, disrespect you on purpose or accident period.
Speaker 1:Okay because, even on purpose, you thought about saying it before you did what if she like?
Speaker 2:what if she says I didn't mean to say that, like I'm sorry, like as soon as she say it, she just apologizes, like immediately.
Speaker 1:I'll let you have that one, just one. I'll let you have that one, just one. I'll let you have that. But a repeat offender. You're doing it on purpose. Now you're playing with me, tough crap. Yeah, you're playing with me. At that point, bro, I can't do it, because if I slip up and call you the B word and you don't like that, and then I'll just say the B word and say I'm sorry, I didn't mean to say it right after I said it, you're not going to take that well.
Speaker 2:If you get a second chance, do you feel like you're walking on eggshells?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you should feel like you're walking on eggshells. Yeah, you should, for sure.
Speaker 2:Walk softly, nigga.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I need to know how seriously you taking this chance. I didn't gave you.
Speaker 2:So does that mean that you have power or leverage over there?
Speaker 1:I am open. I'm just playing who is it?
Speaker 3:I'm just playing you, he-man, I have the power.
Speaker 1:And I'm going to be honest, man Like I wouldn't want to make you feel less than that's not in my nature. You know, what I'm saying. That's not in my nature, but a byproduct of somebody doing the wrong thing that really want to make it right with somebody else. They walk on eggshells even if you're not asking them to.
Speaker 2:Okay, this is my last question. When you are working on a second chance, do you come across or or at some point, do you feel like you're kissing the other person's butt?
Speaker 1:To some degree. Yeah, to some degree. Yeah, um, I don't want to say you should feel like that, but, but, but you are going to feel like that, though you did something goofy.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:You owe me. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:All right. So I probably shouldn't have said kissing, but I probably should have said should you swallow your pride? For sure, Okay, you got to.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying. So you swallow your pride For sure. Okay, you got to.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying. But can the other person take advantage of you wanting a second chance? Now that's trash, Okay.
Speaker 1:And people do that. That was actually the question I was just about to ask you. Okay, but that's trash, bro, that ain't right.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying, and it's a lot of people that use people like that, okay, and then they still end up breaking up with them.
Speaker 1:But you were that person that dude was talking about in the video. Full sucker yeah.
Speaker 2:Okay, man.
Speaker 1:That's you.
Speaker 2:Bringing the motive man Do. We got one this week.
Speaker 1:Well, you know, Randall killed the last one. You know what I'm saying. Got one this week. Well, you know, Randall killed the last one. You know what I'm saying. I'll let you go first.
Speaker 2:Alright, alright. Old keys can't open up new doors.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, okay, that's what's up. Um, this is why you should go first, because that pressure some people ain't built for that pressure.
Speaker 1:The right key won't open rusty locks.
Speaker 2:What? Nah, give me another one, give me another one. Nah G Nah, give me another one.
Speaker 1:Oh, man, I got one Good. If you do write in your relationship to begin with, no second chance needed. Nah, don't play me, bro, that's good.
Speaker 2:All right, bro, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 1:You a hater bro.
Speaker 2:I'm just going to let you have that. I'm just going to let you have that.
Speaker 1:You a hater bro.
Speaker 2:Mm man, it was a good show man, I'll be your boy 9.
Speaker 1:Dyer, that's John Jacob G. Do the show man, I'll be your boy. Nine. Dire, that's john jacob jingo heimer smith what his name is my name too. Whenever we go out, the people always shout there go, john jacob jingo heimer smith.
Speaker 2:That's like an old 1929 horn name you don't remember that back in the day. No, who? Where'd you get that? From John Jingles.