Rewrite Your Life: Changing the Narratives That Hold You Back

Welcome to today’s episode of the Work It Like A Mum podcast. In this episode, we will explore the transformative power of understanding and reshaping your subconscious beliefs with Fela Rosa, a seasoned career and spiritual life coach. We also explore practical strategies for identifying and overcoming the hidden beliefs that may be holding you back from living your best life.

Tune Into This Episode to Learn:

• Journey to Life Coaching: Listen to Fela's personal and professional transformation journey and how mastering her subconscious beliefs propelled her from corporate success to a fulfilling career as a life coach.
• Understanding Limiting Beliefs: Learn what limiting beliefs are and how they unconsciously guide most of our behaviour and decisions - often to our detriment.
• Origins of Core Beliefs: Delve into how many core beliefs take root in childhood and continue to influence our adult lives, from our self-esteem to financial decisions.
• Effective Techniques for Change: Discover effective and accessible techniques, such as journaling and guided meditation, to help you identify and alter deep-seated beliefs.
• Healing Your Inner Child: Explore how many foundational beliefs are formed in childhood, shaping our attitudes towards money, success, and self-worth and influencing our adult decisions.
• Building a Life Aligned with Your Desires: Gain insights into consciously creating and reinforcing new, positive beliefs that align with the life and career you truly want.

Why Listen?

By understanding the subconscious beliefs that shape your reality, you'll be equipped to:

• Break Free from Old Patterns: Learn to identify and modify the subconscious beliefs that limit your potential, opening up new possibilities for success and happiness.
• Enhance Personal and Professional Growth: Apply the insights and techniques we discuss to improve your professional life and personal relationships, moving towards a more fulfilled and balanced life.
• Empower Yourself with Knowledge: Understand the science and psychology behind beliefs and their transformation, empowering you with the knowledge to take control of your narrative.

Featured Quote:

"Subconscious beliefs are the silent narrators of our life story. Changing them can rewrite your script." - Fela

Connect with Fela Rosa:

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• LinkedIn
• Website
• Podcast: The Corporate Warriors Podcast

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Transcript

Elizabeth Willetts: 0:01

Hey, I'm Elizabeth Willits and I'm obsessed with helping as many women as possible achieve their boldest dreams after kids and helping you to navigate this messy and magical season of life. I'm a working mom with over 17 years of recruitment experience and I'm the founder of the Investing in Women job board and community. In this show, I'm honored to be chatting with remarkable women redefining our working world across all areas of business. They'll share their secrets on how they've achieved extraordinary success after children, set boundaries and balance, the challenges they faced and how they've overcome them to define their own versions of success. Shy away from the real talk? No way. Money struggles, growth, loss, boundaries and balance. We cover it all. Think of this as coffee with your mates, mixed with an inspiring TED Talk sprinkled with the career advice you wish you'd really had at school. So grab a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, make sure you're cosy and get ready to get inspired and chase your boldest dreams, or just survive Mondays.

Elizabeth Willetts: 1:07

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Fela Rose: 2:20

Yeah, totally. So my journey was, let's say, pretty standard, I would say, in terms of, you know, grew up in a really nice and a small household and my parents, we didn't have a ton of money. We always had what we needed but we were never rich or anything. So I think pretty early I've seen other people driving around with nice cars and all of that. I was like, oh my God, I want to have that too, driving around with nice cars and all of that. I was like, oh my God, I want to have that too. So I started to work really hard at school, even though my parents, they were never pushing me or anything, so it was really coming from me, which is kind of perhaps a bit unique. I was going to my studies, like always, super motivated because I had this big vision for my life to be a corporate woman and really successful and all of that. So I went through my life hyper motivated, probably in comparison to others that more get pushed by their parents to do something, and ended up in the corporate world just as I had planned, went through different stages there. I was predominantly marketing and marketing, but always with the international aspect to it. So I'm from Germany, but basically my studies were in English and French and I was always like reaching out or trying to be with the internationals, and all because I found it super interesting and probably there's some adventurous side to that as well. So I was starting my corporate career in marketing in a smaller business and then, basically every two years or so, switched companies because I was still, you know, very eager to advance and I found out real quickly, also for myself, without even doing the research, that you have to basically be self-motivated and hop around a little bit to have those salary increases and whatnot. So I have seen quite different types of companies, which was really interesting as well, like small ones where change is a little bit harder to implement, and then to stock exchange listed companies and then even working in a startup or scale up basically that was investor funded. So I have seen quite different environments and, yeah, I was super motivated to get ahead quickly and with that comes a lot of self work, which is something I figured out along the way.

Fela Rose: 4:33

So in the beginning, you know, when you're entering career, you think, oh, now I know everything, I finished my studies, I was a great student, so now the doors will just open for me magically or something like that, which obviously is not the case. And I was a great student. So now the doors will just open for me magically or something like that, which obviously is not the case. And I was then trying to figure out what it is that I need to learn. So of course it was more skill-based. Let's say so, how do I need to communicate, or how do I need to, you know, dress or negotiate and all of these things. So it was very skill related and then the skills already helped a lot.

Fela Rose: 5:04

But at some point I figured out that it's not only the skills, because the skills will only bring you so far and that's how we also get to the negative beliefs, right? So of course you can learn skills. But if it doesn't feel right, yes, you can push through it and just learn how to communicate and do it, even though it feels super awkward and wrong. But that's not ideal, right? And the other people? They feel it. Let's say you're in a salary negotiation for a new job and you really have this bad gut feeling about asking your money's worth. The other people will feel that, right, I mean, you can only fake that to a certain extent. But let's say the interpersonal, like the energy level and all of that. Right, I mean you can only fake that to a certain extent. But let's say the interpersonal, like the energy level and all of that. If the other side, the HR people, are really good and trained and all, and not just you know, mere beginners, they can feel that you're insecure and it will not give you the same results. It will be the negotiation will go very differently, let's say, in comparison to somebody who is very grounded and rooted and really knows and feels their value.

Fela Rose: 6:08

So that's when I started to look a little bit outside of that pure skill box of career advancement, let's say. And that's when I encountered all of the idea of negative beliefs and I got more and more interested in those things. And it's when I in my private life then switched also my focus a little bit to not only read books about careers and stuff but go more into the area of life coaching. Which is kind of funny, because before that I was like, oh, life coach is so weird, like who wants to tell me how to live my life. That's what I thought a life coach is life consultant telling me what to do. And I was like who could ever say they're a life coach? That doesn't make any sense to me, but it's just I didn't understand the concept by then, right? So yeah, and that's how I basically got more and more interested into those things.

Fela Rose: 6:58

And to finish that up, my first thought was like, oh, that's so great, you know all that information that I have. Now I want to share it with people, specifically with women, because I could see just so many limiting beliefs there. And I was a leader by then. Already I had my own team and then I figured out well, okay, so the next learning process for me was basically to understand you cannot force somebody to learn something.

Fela Rose: 7:23

I mean, I can try to share as much as I know and as much as I can and enable people, but ultimately, first, let's say, the amount of people is really limited that you have access to, even in a corporate environment, even if you're a department leader, depending on the size of the department, you can only do so much.

Fela Rose: 7:41

And then, on the other hand as well, while you're still in that corporate environment, obviously there might sometimes be some, let's say, some collisions between should I really develop those people that much, because then they might also leave? Right and I also have this interest of keeping the good people in the team. So I could just see that there was kind of a limit to what I could do there. And then, you know, I made this crazy decision to just stop everything and go on a journey of an eight-month spiritual life coach certificate and in my mind, I wanted to use that to help in the career coaching with a more holistic approach to it, to help and enable women, but also also men, to overcome the negative beliefs and to really live up to their full potential and thereby create the career that they actually love right, and not the career that they think they're supposed to have or anything like that. So really to focus on the inner work first, and then you can create in the outside what actually suits you as a person so what sort of limiting beliefs, then?

Elizabeth Willetts: 8:47

because you mentioned a lot about limiting beliefs, so people might not have heard this term before. What are limiting beliefs, and could you give us some examples?

Fela Rose: 8:55

yeah, sure. So limiting beliefs they come in many different shapes and sizes and I don't want to nail them down to let's say oh, oh, those are the five limiting beliefs, because you could do that. It's like a hierarchy. But the very baseline ones they're not really relatable when you first hear about them. So I want to more start about, in general, negative beliefs.

Fela Rose: 9:15

So it could be that during your childhood, for instance, you obviously children observe a lot, right, they create observers and they make their, draw their own conclusions, conclusions. So that's how a lot of beliefs that we have start to get ingrained in our brains without the parents even knowing right. It's not about the parents doing something wrong or not, it's just natural. That's what children do so typically. A very typical example that probably your listeners have also heard already is like parents fighting about money.

Fela Rose: 9:47

So a conclusion from the child could be money is bad, or money brings distress, or you know, which is not at all what the parents ever intended to teach their child, but it's something very deeply ingrained. So let's say you have that kind of belief deep deep down in your subconscious and the way the subconscious works is like 95% of all our decisions are really really manipulated or like guided by our subconscious. But since it's subconscious, we're not aware of it, right? So we all have all those reasons above in the conscious mind, how we justify what we do, but really what is guiding us is the subconscious below. So, meaning, if you have that belief, you created that belief that money is something bad. You cannot be great at salary negotiations, right? Yeah, because it would mean if I ask for more money, I'm getting a worse person than I was before.

Elizabeth Willetts: 10:40

Mm-hmm right?

Fela Rose: 10:42

yeah, that's just like one example where, like you know, people on social media talk about money mindset and sometimes feel so what? What does it mean? Of course everybody wants more money and the reality is not the case. That's not the case. Yeah, if you learn that rich people are bad people, who wants to be a bad person?

Elizabeth Willetts: 11:01

so how do you change that then? If you basically spent 18 years of your life in a house, we'll use the money example with parents that are fighting over money or money is maybe quite scarce, maybe your family don't have a lot of money, like you mentioned yours, and therefore money is tight. And in those situations often you can. You know people argue about money. How do you let go of that? You know, if it is that deep in your subconscious, can you change it?

Fela Rose: 12:35

yeah, you can. It does involve some. This is what I call the inner work, right, because it's in the subconscious. You can't only change it. I think the, the speed of change and everything is very individual. You cannot really say, oh, it takes you four weeks to change a negative belief in the positive one. But really, as for most of our personal development, the first and most important step is already to acknowledge that there is something and to figure out okay, there is some kind of negative belief to it and you can get to that. And this is I mean I tell you it from my perspective as a spiritual life coach. So the tools might be a little bit different in, let let's say, more systemic life coaching, but there are tools like journaling questions.

Fela Rose: 13:16

So you start real easy and I start to ask my clients questions that they write down in a call moment just by themselves, right, where, like how have your parents talked about money at home? What was like this one money incident that comes to your mind when you just close your eyes, you know you relax, perhaps a guided meditation, and you're like there's like this one moment in time where you made a, came up with a belief about money and what comes to your mind is normally the thing that we work with in the life, coaching them so, and then the most astounding things might come up. So especially the topic of money can be really complex. But then already you have this first indicator and you and you always go with this as, let's say, in first layer. Depending on how many layers you have, that might be a longer process, but some people might only have one or two, so it can be pretty quick as well. It really depends on how deeply ingrained those are and how bad, difficult it was for you as a child.

Fela Rose: 14:07

But then already you have this awareness, you're like, oh okay, I completely forgot and it's something that we don't think about all the time, right. So it's like oh right, there were a few instances where my parents thought about money, right, and then you start writing them down. Or you're like how did your parents behave? Like perhaps one part was more the spender and one part was more the saver, and there were a lot of clashes in that.

Fela Rose: 14:31

So it could be as a child you took position and you were like, oh, my dad is right or my mom is right or I need to protect somebody. So the those things come up in those, let's say, for example, in meditations, guided meditations or internaling sessions, and then you bring that normally back to you know your coaching session, and you go then really into this moment again and basically oftentimes let's say in this example that I was giving, it would be related to your inner child. So all of a sudden you're doing inner child work, even though you're talking about money, mindset right, and you can then basically heal this wound of the inner child through different mechanisms. So you're like okay, you can, for instance, do a guided meditation very specific to that individual and who would record as a life coach?

Elizabeth Willetts: 15:22

do you record the guided meditation or is it something?

Fela Rose: 15:26

oh no, we do them in life, basically like in one coachings. You would do them live. Yeah, I know, like all you know, I know the answers to the journaling questions of my clients and then I can go in very individually. So it's very only for them, basically. And we go into this situation again, we travel there, so to speak, and we heal that wound and we explain to the child what they've seen and the conclusion that they've drawn. That's not reality, that's just what we thought back then would, for instance, keep us safe. Right, if I protect my mom, then I'm safe because you know she's the nurturing person in the relationship, or something like that. So I feel like I have to do as she does in order to stay loyal to her and in order to not get abandoned.

Fela Rose: 16:09

Know, right, it gets quickly very deep, but basically you heal that wound of the inner child and then in that situation, as example it's not always the same, obviously, but then you would go back and be like, okay, what would be new beliefs that we want to ingrain? And then you kind of start to create this, let's say, new identity, more by choice than by accident. Right, like you understand that what you thought before was just a interpretation of facts, but it wasn't necessarily the truth. And you start to understand or really consider are there other truths out there? Are there also rich people that are good people? Are there people that spend a lot of money for charity and really do something good with the money they have?

Fela Rose: 16:50

And you start to create a more positive belief and understand perhaps money is neutral and it really depends on what I do with it. You can do something bad with it, but you can do something good with it as well. So you know, you start to really erase that negative belief in a sense, where you put a lot of also some. You heal the wound, but you put a lot of asking questions that create some doubt around it, being like is this really true? Can you be a hundred percent certain that this is true? Is there no way, like, let's say, you're in in front of a court, could the judge say this is a hundred percent true?

Fela Rose: 17:24

you know, sentence closed and it's not. It never right. And this is when people open up to being like okay, but if that's not the only truth out there, what is my truth that I want to believe that is helping me to create the life or career or, you know, relationship, whatever that I want around it. And then you work on um, you know well, how would a person that thinks that actually act? How would a person that thinks that actually, you know, feel about it?

Elizabeth Willetts: 17:57

and then you'd like train yourself a little bit but you can only do that, you think, once you've healed an old wound.

Fela Rose: 18:04

Yes, yeah, yes, otherwise, like overriding isn't really possible. That well, I mean it's, it's the best. Obviously you can do other things too, and then again it depends on how bad it was for you, like your experience. It doesn't have to be bad, bad like in a. You know I write a book about this situation. It's like how the child felt in this situation so interesting?

Elizabeth Willetts: 18:26

because I guess, yeah, like you say you know, I follow, for example, people that say you know, on Instagram. This is how you can save money, this is how you can make money, and it sounds great. But I guess it is all that surface level, isn't it? And if you deep, deep down, we probably all have some sort of beliefs about money just based upon how we were brought on. It's going to be really hard to, I suppose, really act on that and see it through. Would you say that without feeling like a fraud? Is that sort of how people come to you? Maybe they've been trying to be somebody and it's not worked for them?

Fela Rose: 19:01

Yeah, I mean the people that come to coaches in general are already in an awareness stage where they're aware that you know either something's not right right and they want to change something. They're already a bit more conscious about the fact that there's something going on right. Most of the people out there I mean everybody even if you do a lot of inner work we all have subconscious beliefs. The question is do they serve you, do they help you create a life that you actually want to live? Right? You cannot be without subconscious beliefs. Everybody has a subconscious and it's really more about shaping it in a way so that you can live the life that you desire. But, as I said, the people that come to coaches, they are already at a certain awareness stage and we can do so much with podcasts and whatnot to educate the general public, but overall, there are plenty of people out there just depending on you know what, in on all the you know different sections of your life, which is why it's called a life coach, right?

Elizabeth Willetts: 19:59

it's like, yeah, I was gonna say so, we spoke about money. What is it that people come to you about part which parts of their lives?

Fela Rose: 20:06

so I, let's say, position myself as a career coach and spiritual life coach. Yeah, because I have made so many experiences throughout my career and I really think that it makes sense to help people to create a career that they like going to. You know, I don't want to want to blindside anybody. I think Monday morning everybody wants to stay a bit longer in bed. It's not really about that to that extent, but so many people hate going to work, right? And then I'm like, well, we work like 90,000 hours in our lives, shouldn't we at least kind of like it? You know, yeah, it's so much time and life energy that we put there.

Fela Rose: 20:44

So I specialize, let's say, in the career coaching side and use the tools of the life coaching to help people there. And so the topics that people might come is definitely also money mindset, but it's about, you know, getting help in creating that vision like what inspires them. Sometimes they completely lost touch with what they actually want because they're so influenced by the outside, like what the parents said you should do and what friends say you should do, and really don't know anymore what they want themselves. So it can be about creating an inspiring vision as well for their lives and a roadmap, how to get there, and then you know. While doing that, you normally figure out where the blocks are, and then that's where you go in and try to heal old wounds, and that can be literally anywhere.

Fela Rose: 21:29

It's not very specific. It's's very interesting because you know how we do one thing, we do everything. So everything is connected. I think it's really hard to say, oh, I'm only a career coach, because perhaps you have a very, very hard time doing, let's say, the networking and it's like the one thing that we need to do in your industry to get ahead a bit easier. But then it could be a relationship topic. Really you know what I mean. So it's all connected and the good thing is that once you start treating one part of your life, it has very positive ripple effects in the rest of your life because everything is connected. You're this one person. You're not a completely different person at work and then a completely different person at home. That's something we think is possible, but it's not really.

Elizabeth Willetts: 22:14

Yeah, so how long do people form beliefs for? Is it something we form our entire lives, or they tended to be formed in early childhood?

Fela Rose: 22:23

Most of them are in early childhood. I mean, the first years are the most, let's say, influential ones. Yeah, so the first three years which is also why some of the psychologists say that, you know, first three years are super important to make sure your child has the right surrounding. But then I recently read until age seven, or something like that. You're still very open to everything new, but it's not limited to that, right. I just want to be clear.

Fela Rose: 22:48

It can also be that you thought something and then you, you know, you did your own work in terms of reading self-help books or whatnot, and you kind of shaped something else, but then you ran in a completely different direction and you're still not happy. So it doesn't have to be in childhood all the time, you know, it's just when you get mad, yeah, and for the example of money, very often that has something to do with how, how family treated it, and you can then either go in the same direction or complete opposite direction, but most often you don't go into the direction that you want to go to, you know so you're?

Elizabeth Willetts: 23:22

you're expecting, aren't you, your first child? Yes, do you feel quite a sense now? You're so aware of this, a sense of responsibility, that you don't impose negative beliefs on your child.

Fela Rose: 23:34

That's something you're very aware of yes, but I'm also aware of that. You cannot impede it, right? So I think the biggest part is already in teaching your child, like you know, whenever they're ready to understand as well, to be like we always tried our best, obviously, as parents, like nearly all parents do, but I think the empowering part is really to understand that nobody's stuck with anything in this life and we can still change anything, we can still heal anything. So I think that is the empowering part to it. You know it's not about being the perfect parent, because we cannot be.

Fela Rose: 24:12

If I teach my child you know something great about money, I might be missing out somewhere else or, like you know, they may just conclusions that I have no idea about out of situations, right, because children tend to protect on their own everything that's happened on the outside. They feel kind of they're responsible for it. So you cannot create the perfect childhood in my experience. But you can enable and empower your children to know that they have the power to change their lives and that there's tools and things that whenever they encounter something and they have a challenge, they are not the victim of the situation, but they can always get into, let's say say, a creator mode of their life where they make decisions on their own, and even if the decision is wrong and the challenge arises out of that exact situation, then that's an opportunity for growth. So it's really more about mindset for me. Yeah, really.

Elizabeth Willetts: 25:05

I'm just thinking, like you know, you think, gosh, there's all this probably happened to me as a child. But then you suddenly think, oh gosh, I've probably imparted some you know, potentially negative beliefs on my own children as well. But I think it is just about that, maybe awareness and totally and it's not at all possible to.

Fela Rose: 25:20

In my opinion, that's really just me talking. I don't think we should try to be the perfect parent, because it's not possible, it's unattainable, it's a new negative belief that you then, as a parent, have, yeah, and then you're probably super stressed because you try to be perfect all the time and we just know humans aren't perfect. So we can just show our children that we try to do our best and give them the perspective that there's they are always the creator of their lives, basically. So for me personally, that's my goal.

Elizabeth Willetts: 25:48

Let's say yeah, sounds like good you. It's like raising somebody to be independent and know they have that, I guess, very well. So if someone's listening to this and they maybe you know, obviously it sounds like the best way to do it properly would be to do it with a spiritual life coach like yourself. But is there some things that people can do? If they feel they have bad habits, potentially, or things maybe aren't quite self-destructive in certain parts of their lives or things don't quite go how they'd hope or planned? You know, how can they uncover what then maybe negative self-beliefs that are holding them back?

Fela Rose: 26:24

I think it really depends on the person. So what my go-to thing is always start with self-education. Right, just follow a little bit also your interest there, because I think that's part of your intuition, guiding you to what is relevant for you at this point or not, and it could be podcasts, like this one, it could be youtube videos, it could be self-help books, it could be talking to people that you feel do not have the same issue. And just I personally love to talk to people with just more life experience as well, because I feel they have a certain calmness to themselves. They went through so many things already that it's very helpful as well to talk to people that have, you know, 20, 20 years or 20 years older than myself, for instance. And then, yeah, and then I personally since I mean from the spiritual side, right, I believe in intuition and all of that I would just like be follow your gut and what feels right is probably the right thing at that point in time. Yeah, there are many streets that go through Rome. How do you?

Elizabeth Willetts: 27:23

say that, no, I like it. I've been reading another, like a manifestation quote you had, but it's all about the universe as well and so trustingly, a bit like that intuition, what sort of meant to be meant to be. But it does sound like there is quite, it is very true that there probably is quite a lot of inner work that a lot of us probably need to do to achieve a certain level of you know what success, whatever success looks like to you yeah, totally.

Fela Rose: 27:51

And uh, the good thing about what you just said with the manifestation coach that you're reading about and the universe. So for me, it all then comes back down to your trust in life. Do you trust life? Yeah, you know, because if you trust life, then you trust your own process. But if you start to not, you feel like you have to control everything. Then you will figure out that you cannot control everything. There's a lot of things that you just cannot control, like, even if I eat super healthy, for instance, I can increase my probability of staying healthy, but there's no guarantee, right? You know what I mean. So it's like, at some point you do have to trust. You cannot control everything. You cannot, certainly cannot control the outcome. So it comes back to trusting, and then trusting and letting go of that complete control gives you so much more ease, and then you're back in your joy, you know, and then it's more fun, and then you know, then you actually start liking the process again yeah, that's really good advice.

Elizabeth Willetts: 28:52

So tell us how do you work with people then, and what sort of packages and things and programs do you offer?

Fela Rose: 28:58

yeah, so right now I just started really going out on social and all of that, so everything is pretty fresh still. Right now I'm working one-on-one based, but I'm currently trying to set up first classes and stuff, because I know not everybody is either ready to have a personal coach or also ready to make the investment. So I'm currently trying to figure out what would be the great, a good next step for some workshops and online programs to get people more you know into the actual doing part. So, like podcasts, they are great and I think they give a give a great idea and they help people to find what might be the right next step for them. But then actually doing the work is then the next step and this is what I'm trying currently working on to make it also more accessible so that people really can feel, oh wow, I did something you know for a few hours and I already felt this transformation. Yeah, it's like a locking enjoy.

Elizabeth Willetts: 29:54

It's all reminding of it, probably isn't. It's like that hypno. You know getting hypnotized and then you know you go really deep down into someone's soul and unlock something in them and you know ideally, yeah, and then, like you know, hopefully it transforms, but it does sound. It's so, so deep inside somebody, isn't it subconscious?

Fela Rose: 30:13

yeah, and it's also not. You know and it's also important to say that we're not therapists no, there's, there's a line and, you know, negative beliefs can be also formed by real trauma, and this is something that a therapist would need to take on and need to take a good look at. But let's say there is just plenty of people that don't have, luckily, those really, really bad childhood experiences and there's just small wounds here and there. You can still live a perfectly functional life. But if you do it in our work anyhow, then you know that just opens up so many more doors.

Elizabeth Willetts: 30:49

Absolutely so. How can people find you and connect with you and learn more about your services?

Fela Rose: 30:54

I am on many different platforms. What's your favorite? The best one is definitely Instagram. My account is called Corporate Warriors Because I want to. You know, for me it's so funny because I created that name and in my mind it was like this idea of warriors of light, you know, like this whole thing around that. But then you know, of course you can also see that completely differently if you have no idea what I'm doing. So for me it's really about creating, you know, a work-life balance that you like, etc. Etc. So on instagram and I'm not to be found under corporate warriors I'm most active on instagram and on facebook, but I'm also on LinkedIn and potentially even TikTok TikTok's like a new one for me.

Fela Rose: 31:39

I just recycle that, to be really honest with you, so I don't create new content that is specific for the platform. But I was like let's just try to increase the reach. Let's try it yeah, exactly, but really instagram, facebook, linkedin are probably best platforms and obviously I have a podcast that is on the podcast platforms and youtube yeah, oh yeah.

Elizabeth Willetts: 31:59

What's your podcast called? Uh, the corporate warriors podcast. Brilliant, lovely. We'll put all the links in the show notes. And do you have a website as well?

Fela Rose: 32:05

yes, it's corporate warriorsio. I do not have the dot com, I mean unfortunately. That's right. Corporate warriorsio. I do not have the com, I mean unfortunately.

Elizabeth Willetts: 32:11

That's right, corporatewarriorsio. Well, thank you so much, fela, for joining me today. It's been such a fascinating conversation Really happy to be here.

Fela Rose: 32:20

Thank you so much, Liz.

Elizabeth Willetts: 32:23

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