074: Sex Educator and Pro Domme Lola Jean on Fetish Wrestling, Choking Methods and Squirting Misconceptions (aka Why Squirting Sucks)

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Lola Jean (@lolajeandotcom) about her work as a sex educator.  She's known for holding the World Record for Highest Volume Squirted, but this conversation steers away from that (after first touching on why squirting can be annoying) and dives into her work as a fetish wrestler (aka "play fighting" using jiu jitsu moves). 


No frills sex education: what does that mean? Working the social media algorithm as a sex educator. All the courses Lola Jean has on her website from choking to masturbation to play fighting, and more. (1:18)

How did Lola Jean get to where she is as a sex educator, squirting icon and fetish wrestler? (6:58)


ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy): differentiating non-monogamy, just “being single”, and situationships. Figuring out what you want by dating all types of couples and relationship dynamics. Sex and love addicts anonymous (SLAA). Attachment styles. (9:27)

Squirting: how does it feel to be known as a squirter? Fetishizing and red flags.  What should we know about squirting? When trying to do it, figure out WHY you’re trying to do it. Who is it for? (17:30)

Broad vs specific response squirting. (22:04)


Why squirting actually sucks. (25:24)

Fetish Wrestling: Different types of choking (Fantasy Choke, Blood Choke, Air Choke). (29:51)

What does a fetish wrestling session look like? Power dynamics? Vetting process? Types of fetish wrestling sessions: fantasy, semi-competitive, full competitive, lift and carry.  (35:53)

What is the psychology behind fetish wrestling? What's in it for both the provider and the client? (41:56)

Sex workers' self care after sessions. (44:30)

Where to find Lola Jean:

Website: lolajean.com

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