Episode 075: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play

Elle and Vee chat with Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) who is a sexologist in Australia. She also owns her on dildo sex company, Madame Dahlia (@madame.dahlia).

Being sexually attracted to others while married. (2:03)

Healthy sex life in marriage and now divorced. (8:14)

Using the lifestyle app Feeld to meet partners and always saying yes. (11:43)

Sex club tips and lessons learned. (14:31)

Going to sex clubs alone vs with a partner. (18:28)

ENM nuggets: fostering communication, honesty and self reflection. (23:35)

If a previously discussed boundary feels right in the moment, should you push it? (26:40)

Common issues brought up in couples relationship therapy: reigniting desire in a longterm relationship, and the misconception of mismatched libidos. (28:13)

How do partners with mismatched libidos navigate a conversation to get on the same page? (31:29)

Pleasure languages, spontaneous vs responsive desire... or in other words, an Ellle vs a Vee. (34:07)

Books that have helped on a personal sexual level and journey into non monogamy: Polysecure, Come As You Are, Mating in Captivity and other self help books. (36:46)

Seducing yourself: Madame Dahlia dildo company, connected pleasure vs vibrator play. (40:45)

Ebbs and flows of sex and how to get out of your head. (45:04)

How to foster desire: sensual and simple pleasures. (48:58)

Using social media to look at erotic art. (53:50)

How male orgasms differ physiologically from female orgasms. (57:12)

Kink: turned on by pee play / piss play. (59:49)

Letting go of the messiness of sex, and dissociation from masturbation. (1:02:18)

Website: bridgetscholessexology.com.au