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In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. Alhamdulillah, lord of the worlds, and peace be upon you. And peace be upon you and the master of the messengers. Alhamdulillah, the Fasr 5 is the first of all and the system. In the name of Allah, peace be upon you and blessings be upon you. May Allah the Almighty grant us the blessing, may Allah the Almighty grant us the biscuit, and may Allah the Almighty grant us the year.
Speaker 1:Alhamdulillah, mashallah, very interesting and many of the eminents who sometimes choose to be a prophet. We actually pray because Ustam Nair and prophet, and myself and Mashallah, many of the others who are sitting here, who are an active part of this center, we meet a lot of different types of problems. One of the problems we meet a lot of times is that, for example, when people go through their skill-making, when people have different relationships, as Mashallah said, and not only different relationships, but also some relationships that should not be different, for example, between the parents and children. So this relationship, love, as mentioned earlier, is actually a lot about how love can actually go along. Something so beautiful that's what we connect love with we connect love with something beautiful.
Speaker 1:Something so beautiful, something so extraordinary, can actually go and get a person in a very, very bad depression and completely on the way, and if that's the case, allah the Almighty, that's one thing, but also that it can drive, for example, love can drive a person to self-mortar. Love can drive a person to actually really really many wrong things too. So something that I think about today, prophet SAW, that we go a little deep with that. It is, of course, from the Islamic angle, that what Prophet SAW has named love and how our relationships should be, and I think that it can, at the beginning, just get a little on a very, very simple and simple formula for Prophet SAW, but also with why it is that we end up in this, where people get out of their relationships. So at least the thought about it, prophet SAW, is very, very nice.
Speaker 2:And we come in on some examples of how love goes from being something good to being something that is really, really bad, and also to hurting people, and relationships.
Speaker 2:Let's take that one, if we want to build it in the meantime. We'll do it like this Because the name of love we hear from our brother Mansoot that it can both be good for the person and it can also be something that is really bad for the person. And we also get angry that we have ridden with examples of love from the time of Prophet SAW and if we discuss three different types of relationships, we take the relationship, we take the family, ie the parents and the sisters, and then we take the friendships and we take the love that connects in our own words. Can you try to compare us a little with how we can try to understand how love can end up being something that is really bad, healthy as bad?
Speaker 3:Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, it's a really interesting topic and I can see that the brothers sitting here, they are a little bit behind and thinking right. It's a little strange topic, but if you now put a real lens on, a real angle on it, then I think that everyone can relate to it, because right now you think that love is nothing to me to do. Some people connect with what we have heard about relationships and people are a little bit down. There are no women and some people connect with when you say love, the first thing they think about is the wife or the girlfriend or whatever it is. Some have love for their teachers. Some also have love for work, for example.
Speaker 3:You can have love for many things, but what I notice about the Borsarvi and the Bormansudden is when does it start to become unhealthy? When does love begin to hold on to some of the things that are unhealthy? Because we also learn that, for example, if you just share a little bit more, prophet Ali SAW says to the nearest meaning, he says that I have to warn you to be with and live too much. That is to be with and to be with is too much. We all know that it is unhealthy and harmful, and it is harmful and harmful. You also hear from Prophet Ali SAW's biography and it says that sometimes they smile as much as you could see their teeth, but they are also harmful. It is extreme that you do too much, and sometimes you do too much of something that is harmful. If it is actually, if it is not going to happen that you will be able to carry out something that is harmful, something that is not harmful, then you actually have to be careful. So there are a lot of scenarios in our lives where we think that this is for the best of the scientists or for my child's best, because I keep my child or I keep my family or I keep some of them, but basically we are actually in the process of hurting them. We can just talk a little bit about it a little bit, but that is the scenario. That is the angle we have to have on it.
Speaker 3:One thing I have never heard about. I do not think we should talk about it. People know what I am talking about and what I am not talking about, but it is the additional things. It is not something crazy. When do we start to strangle the screw a little too much and when is it going to be crazy and when we have the different expectations, when I give something to one, when I give him so much love, he also has to give something back, and where is it going to be crazy?
Speaker 3:And some of these things I had hoped for in Charlotte, we can open up some of the things that we all know and some of the things that we all have been a part of, or at least heard of how it went crazy. And when you start to open these things up, the feeling is that people have not had a bad intention. They have had, they have meant it is a good intention and it is actually a love intention, but it has still gone crazy. So that is what I hope that when we go from today, that we have learned a little or at least got some ideas about where we should hold on and what kind of attitude and how we should act in these different situations. So let's take a quick talk, so can we drift into it.
Speaker 2:Very, very nice. Now we got a angle on, you can say, a place. I was out asking for it here in the middle of the door, and what was connected with a relationship love. It was also about unhealthy love, and what was connected with unhealthy love was that you were going to love something that was not good for you. When you ask a man who has a partner, you are not good for one, but you are loved by the heart. There is conflict. Do you know that?
Speaker 1:No, I don't.
Speaker 2:Very nice. You don't do it. I'm three. No, no good drink. It's the indisputable view. But in Niveau, both families. How can one be unloved, how can one be for them? And friends yes, I have heard about friendships that don't last long but grow from each other. But how do you see the relationship between friends and love? I think it's very interesting to hear more about it, so you need to add me and get more words and examples of this relationship.
Speaker 1:Bismillah, I can tell you that this is very classic. We are talking about people when they get married. So we say to them I don't see them. There are some people here I don't know, but you don't see them. You don't see them, but you know they don't call anymore After a while, before they got married.
Speaker 1:At that time we were young. So people said he has found someone he should marry. So he gets blinded. You say he gets blinded by love. That means a lot of people when they get in love they get blinded. They get blinded by a lot of things and, as a neighbor, they get blinded by all the mistakes that the other person can have and that's what makes them burn a lot of lives. They get used to a lot of people. They create conflicts between themselves and their parents because they have set a goal that the person I am going to marry is the person I am going to marry. And many times people because they are in love, it's just a phase. It's a phase.
Speaker 1:Many times people are in love with their love, people just feel like a form of peace and that's what they want. So many times they get told to marry or to give a good advice that you know, you simply don't start or press on their buttons because they don't explode. And then it turns out that you lose friends, you lose relationships with your family, and then you get married and you keep a dead body. But think about how the love is going to be. You take money. We hear from people that I can't come because I have extra guards, because they want to have a dreamer or they use us From the sisters. It's often that they, because of their love, start to get away from Islamic rules Because their husband wants to say that she wants to take her and she doesn't want to take her and she has a limit. Think about how many camels a man has to close and how many camels a sister has to close. Because of what? Because of a person who they think is theirs. And then I will name myself, if I have just told you so you can start. Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they name themselves here in one of the Hadiths. They name themselves when you love someone.
Speaker 1:Now, the meaning of the Hadiths is when you love someone, then love them mildly, for one day it can be that that person hates you. And when you hate someone, then hate them mildly, because you don't know, one day it will be that person you love. That's where we fail. We go all in. We go simple, all in. What do we do we? We put everything loan money, buy a house, spend a million, some take a helicopter trip up to get something. Is there nothing we have heard people do? But we just talk about the details. And then there are so many things, a half million is burned and then people can see back. Now you move together.
Speaker 1:So all this, slowly, this love that has been built up and you know you have had each other that we come to hold each other in our hands and look into each other's eyes every day. And it's the first time you meet a friend to teach you when did the love come from. Try to see all that love. It can be really crazy, all that you have built, because in the end you have just built a fantasy up in your head, something you think is love. And that's where we fail a lot of times, because we have built in the picture that it is love. Is it true? Come home and say what are you going to eat? I have made 10 rules for you. Convince she thinks that a man. He comes home, he takes his socks and puts them on the spot. It will not happen, right? So notice that many times now it's just that part of man and woman we take off.
Speaker 1:Of course, we have, then, come a little into some of the sayings and experiences that we have had between parents. So try to think on what it is inside of you that you give everything to the woman and she gives everything, simply what she can for the man, and what it is inside of you that you are a gift, what is happening to you as a love. And, of course, it is banned because we have been so many you have given that you do not believe in it anymore, and it does not just move away from this, it also moves from other sub-handlers. It begins to get more and more from other sub-handlers. It is really, really annoying that you start doing it this way Because you hit the wall, because you did not have a balance and you gave it. Simply you gave it all in.
Speaker 1:Now it is the experience that I have had on people, because people look so happy when Marcella Indis is given and three, four weeks later they go down and mumble a little for themselves and say she is 30,. He is 30, and that is we do not know. It is just the image. After him it is reality, and I would say our age, generation and the heart. It was another love. I do not know what it was, but the sub-handlers were another love. Is it true that they have held each other? But now I think that there is much more to give up on love. Love is not enough to be a gift. There is no way to do it. So it was never really love. What was it like?
Speaker 2:If we just connect a comment to the love of the couple, then it comes to think of this example that our brother is subjected to from the Prophet, the son of Allah this more love, mild, where what I would say you hear out there and as you make media films and others, it is to say to yourself that you should love hard, you should love higher, you should not be bored, you should find the only one, and the only one is often the one you have the strongest feelings for. And because you start with building strong feelings, our brother tells us that it is just about getting to some really big challenges, because brotherhood does not need a lot of men, but a lot of men who are oppressed in love and have never expected to turn back to friends and family and give all their time to this love. And the love develops to the point that the love should be given to you and you can find out at that point that it is not a Muslim I have fallen in love with. Maybe it is. We have a lot of different cultures. She wants to have a big brother, where I come from a very traditional family, and then you throw yourself out in whatever the one or the other is dreaming about and what our brother Monso tells us is that you borrow money. You do not agree with it. We have to have it. All the maldiwans, big brothers, girls it's just about saving up if the princess is going to be happy, so I will not want that.
Speaker 2:Well, I think it is an interesting perspective when the Prophet of Islam gives the example of loving mildly, because that has never been known. Have you ever been told by the media and the people you know that you should love mildly? And someone can tell me how to love mildly? I don't know if it is our parents that have been better than we have. Interesting in any case, we will get back to the questions because, brother Naim, now we got a little more to relate to and we got to talk about the relationship. I think we need to understand how love can change the way a family is. So for parents, for children, these children are sisters. The sisters in between grow up, share the world. Some of them are in the kitchen. The one sister is sleeping up and the other one down, something like that and suddenly, many years later, you talk to each other From kitchen to so long distance. That has been possible. There is one if you want to dive a little into family life and how a love can sometimes become unborn or directly banned, what do?
Speaker 3:you think, mr Nørnhoff? Mr Nørnhoff, I would like to connect a comment to what you have just said About our older generation and us. Now, I am a little older than many of you who are sitting here, but the biggest difference I have noticed in the older generation is that the older generation is not because they have never been unborn, but what you see is that they always had a gender difference. And what was that? The gender difference was that if they were unborn they would have had a little gender difference. But then there was still some things that worked. That is to say, the man went to work, the mother made food, the bread was fried, the dishes were paid and the guests came. Then you were still a family.
Speaker 3:But the tendency we see now is that it is completely out of the box. We can risk meeting brothers I know myself they have been up to date with their king, but they don't have a car. It was the king's car. We don't want food in the house. I haven't eaten because I haven't talked to my king in a week. Then I won't eat. The king lost his phone because he was the one paying the bills. That is the level we are at now. Where in the older generation there were practical things that worked, but now, because it is the same brother who is called Nivndegg. So try to think of the picture on the one hand where you give it to the whole helicopters and travelers, and then the other picture because then you get up to date and then the phone and car oil is here and you are completely at the top level. You don't have to take my shoes, it is completely at that level. So it is from one extreme to the other extreme and that can be implemented in other places.
Speaker 3:We see now if we have to put a little family in it. We also see examples of parents who are so over-protected from their children because they say this is my child and he shouldn't have any friends, and you keep them really isolated in relation to all their surroundings because you want to put them in a position and that is what happens and that is what the children are. It can be up to 14-15 years old that they are out and then when they get 16, 17 years old, they go to the gym and then they get a little eye for the Norwegian, but I can also get a little self-care and then they get a little work and from the sisters. They meet some friends and they get a little group. They think the Norwegian. There are also some who start to get some other thoughts and keep one, not because it is wrong, but then as soon as they start to get 17-18 years old, then the parents start to get the most out of the group because they are no longer under their control and then they get bored of it because they had simply put all their eggs in the same basket and now that was the child that was supposed to be this direction and turned around. Some also have the same expectation for their parents, for their friends, because they simply have gone over the line. But then you really have to take care of it. And that was a little what Mansoor said that we should never, ever be so extreme in our approach to things.
Speaker 3:Think about it. If Prophet Nasir or Muslim say that you should never be extreme in your religion, your self-respect, and say Allah, you should never be so extreme, then you should also have balance. So why don't you have balance in all your other things? Today we see young people when you train and after 2-3 years you see the man with a good look because then you have tried it, so that balance and that acceptance, so that things don't change just like you are referred to as the case, that the authenticity of the changes.
Speaker 3:It can be that you get another day and then you have to cooperate with someone, but if you have burned all your brothers because you suddenly had found someone, because they get friends, then it is actually a real big problem. If now I have a friend, it is, and you get friends with your brother, your little brother, he gets friends with you because I am your friend, I also get friends with him. But after half a year you brothers, you get good friends again. What about me? You family, you are not alone. And that is also true that people get friends with someone because their family is friends with them. But after those two who were, they get alone again, but then they are still friends. So it is actually important that you think about us really, really well and use this as a formula for our whole relationship with each other, in our family, our friends, our acquaintance, that you keep a level so it doesn't take over.
Speaker 2:Very, very nice and thank you for that, because it makes me think about how it is. When we are born, we have all been small babies when we came to the world. All our time with our parents, all our time. And then we slowly get closed out in institutions and communities. And then we grow up and then we have a balance between going to school and the rest of the time in the family. And then we get older and we can get down in the forest without a clue and we start being friends and over the years we start giving more and more time to friends. Can you feel me? So you grow up and you want to spend more time with your friends. You think you are more exciting than just sitting at home.
Speaker 2:And what happens when you are 16, 17, 18, 20 years old? Then you start thinking about the future. It can be that you are too much in love. It can be that you are too much in love. It can be that you are a person that is to say you love a girl. But it can also be money, it can be a life of a band, it can be the work, it can be a lot of things. So it is like the love. It is like pulling up and down depending on what it meets in its life, and at the start you also love your husband and wife a lot, and then you get a little fat and then you start loving children a little more than you love your wife, or just as much, or whatever it is, and then later on, the children are also being described. So it is like we are always looking after the next and the new thing to love.
Speaker 2:Can you imagine? It goes up and it goes down. So what is the real balance? How do we meet, meet the love of the band in our lives? How can we ensure a balance that is healthy for us and healthy for all the relationships we need to have? We need to go to school, we need to have friends, we need to do sports in the morning, we need to be gifted, we need to love our children and our wife, we need to have a job we love to do. So we need to help ourselves to do this a little bit more, because when we leave, we might have some people who have these connected pieces of love in our lives things that are not going well, families that you do not talk to, something that is unhealthy in a couple of relationships. It can be a lot of things. So what is a good balance?
Speaker 1:I think a little bit about my daily life. I also think a little about what I have learned running from the earth and trying. I have just noticed that a lot of people fall into this field because they give a lot of love and then they do not get. The same as Genkjell. We see that, for example, whether it is the wife or the children or whether it is friends. Some people give a lot of love and then they do not get the love back.
Speaker 2:Can I take one? Yes, I can not do that. The first 10 years of my life, who has given the most love to whom? Parents for children or children for parents? I think Children for parents, yes. Others, yes, friends. Parents for children. I also think that parents offer everything, whether it is the sleep time, burden it is not easy to give children.
Speaker 1:They give them everything they have in their head Without expecting anything again, I think, all the brothers and sisters and that is what it tells all people from a child he is born and the mother and father do everything for him. That is why Allah SWT is saying that you should be good to your parents and because this relationship is so strong and parents do a lot for the children. But now it comes about the expectations. Of course they expect something again. What do they expect again? That when he grows up he will take care of me. It is a expectation they have. They have a expectation that when my child, he will trust me, he will take care of me, because I do not go to the playground, he will take care of me.
Speaker 1:And then you can see today, families, we do not have to go far. All of us sitting here, we know our own relationship with our parents. I have a connection that is almost 10 years old. We call it a preteenager and the reason we call it that is because it was already preteenager, because in the old days it was a little different, because when you were a little old you got one on the lamp. From saying it like that, it doesn't have to do more than that anymore and that's not good.
Speaker 1:That's what another side of the story says. But notice that today the children are very old. They don't care about their parents. They care about their children. They don't care about their parents. They also want to be a part of their parents. Then the children start to be a little older and then their sisters turn to their sisters. Then they say, okay, now I'm hunting my dream job, now it's love. You don't notice that love is something moving. It's moving. First it's from older to older, then it's sisters, sisters, sisters. Then it's school friends. You just hang out, play the Playstation, check out the internet cafe, and today it's not a dream.
Speaker 1:It's finding a day, taking strange selfies with those strange, strange movements people make on social media, and it's so much that you get surprised by a Muslim today. And the Muslims we're talking about today, they are the worst. There are some who have been offered a day because what we call the sea porn. People have been offered a day. Do you know why? Because, hunting that love, people have filmed their names and sent it to people, and the same people who actually share it in so many groups that today they are starting to be sisters or brothers from the Christian community, the people, the rest of them. They are going to die Because they have. They have hunted this love. It's a love affair, it's also a stuff. Love is also a stuff. So try to think about it. Then you hunt another kind of thing. You hunt this love for love. You hunt that you simply want to have it here. Then it's man and wife okay, then you give everything for them. Then you say wife, wife, wife says man, man, my man, cheb-b-l-e-d-r, k-p-u-s, r-n-t-r. Halal haram. We like it, we have to have it. Well, we love our children. That's what we do today.
Speaker 1:Allah, you ask people brother, why do you buy a house? He says, brother, there is a place for the children. Brother, do you know how to buy a house? And I can try. I have a day. I can have people for the family. I can have people elsewhere who have a relationship. I don't mix in their relationship. What they have, what people have, I live. For example, I can tell myself I live for a life with my brother. I have not, alhamdulillah, been forgiven for that, but I just tell generally that it is like that.
Speaker 1:It is really many times that people they forget Allah. It's really, really sad because they try to say when you are lying there and there is no love the wife has lost, the children have lost, the friends have lost, you have no money, you are a pump in everyone else's eyes, you have nothing to be, no success in the world, nothing to be then you turn towards whom? Then you turn towards the only one who really loves you, allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. And you know what, brother. He loved you without, without having anything to gain. He doesn't want your money, he doesn't want you to give that. You should do something for him. He didn't want anything at all. Everything he has, what he has put on you, it is for your own sake. Make your salary. For your sake, recite the Qur'an, keep away from haram, for your own sake. Allah is free for everything. Then he loved you. He loved you without any concern. All other love. It is concerned. It is concerned inside. There is something for something, but Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala's love. It is so clean. It is so clean and the result of Allah's love is clean.
Speaker 1:And those people who love you now ask me what is the solution? The solution is that day we place Allah and Prophet Muhammad SAW in the middle, before we choose to love Sayinah and we say who we love and choose to love I love you a lot with Allah and Prophet Muhammad SAW and with the Prophet and Omar meaning-wise. And I love Omar meaning-wise. And he says I love you with all of you, but not with you. And Omar is not complete with you and Omar Sayinah, omar Ibn Khattab, he says and I love you, put your hand on and say I am the Messenger, and Omar loves me more than himself, more than himself. He loves me.
Speaker 1:And that is the problem of Prophet SAW. We love each time the choice between wife and my sister. Now I am talking, it is not personal with any sisters but every time the wife says please, can we not just do this, can you not take it to the bril? I know it is a bit of a mix, but come now, for my fault. Then you think, of course, for your fault. I forget Allah and Prophet. All for your fault is not what we do today. And then where is the loyalty hand for SAW?
Speaker 1:And that is the problem today. Why we land in Rannashten, why we end in Kuwait and we are all down and down, it is because we invest in the wrong of the love. If we have done this from Allah, we will be rejected, even from all of us. You know what I have, allah, that is what I have, that is what I live after. And the wives or the men of the women? Alhamdulillah, there is something better in waiting. Allah SAW says what you think is good for you is not good for you, and what you think is not good for you is not good for you. And Allah knows and you know. Nothing means this. That is what I am telling you. If we just live after this principle, that we should stop living for people and we should start living for Allah, and that is the first. And that is not true. Allah loves all our God and it is. You know, I have been gifted and everything else is just dropping. Now I am gifted and now it is. I am on Instagram and I am on Facebook and now we are posting a lot of pictures.
Speaker 1:If people stop being like this and start talking about each other and saying now, my wife and I, we are going to be together in the middle of Christmas. Don't worry about that mindset. You just need to get her to cook for us. I use it every time. She doesn't say I can be cold, but I use it every time. I do it and make it the same food for me. She doesn't know that there will be a free meal, but, brocef, try See. Romance isn't romance. It's romance. You know what they're talking about. You know, if you do this, you get angry. I buy this, I buy this. I buy this. Just explain and do something to that person. That's why we should be together. That's the love for a person who never kills himself. The death continues. The death is a new beginning for us. That's the love for the same parents and children.
Speaker 2:Masha'Allah, did you get that that sounds? It sounds like there are many relationships of love that end in this world, but we don't lose the relationship. So that's why Brocef says remember to live a life, to find a love that can continue Into the next life. That's not life, inshallah. Brocef says two things. Brocef says as we have to explain to us. The first thing is to do this with others without expecting anything. It feels almost impossible when I'm sitting here thinking about it. If I do something for someone, I hope they will do it for me. If I'm paid for a friend, so he'll take a little bit of time to explain to me. Does this mean Do something without expecting anything? And the second thing is to do Allah, subh'anahu Wa Ta'ala, to explain to us, to a kind of person from His love. If you could try to explain these two things.
Speaker 3:BismillahirRahmanirRahim. Let's start with the last thing. That's my name. What I understood about the Holy Sura and what Marshall has really, really well done, and the way I understand it and what we all should live after, is that I imagine that you have a prism that every time you have to do something, if you want to have this love, this awareness, then see it through their glasses. What would they have done? Because if you do that, you won't be able to trust anything. Don't you know that sometimes you do something and say I wouldn't have done this. But when you live after you want to do something and you want to do it as Allah has commanded us and as Prophet Nalaitha you have done, then you won't be able to trust it. And also, if it is something you have great desire for he says you want to have a great car, you want to have a great house, but if you keep away from it because you think I have nothing to do, I don't have anything to do, I have nothing to do because I can get it, but the peace and the trust that Allah gives you, you want to be able to feel when you let go of something for Allah, because that is the true love. When you do something for Allah, as Allah has created us out of His love, and when we do something for Allah to love, allah will give you something back.
Speaker 3:And the other misunderstanding we have is that we try to get all the love of Allah in this world. It is the biggest mistake we make. It is the biggest mistake we commit. We think that everything we want, everything our heart desires, we have to fulfill in this world, and that is a completely wrong premise, because Allah has not allowed anyone to fulfill all their desires in this world. It cannot happen. It can't happen. Prof Interlister Duslam explains this to many of you. We are created to have more and we want more, but it is not the reason that our wishes will be fulfilled completely. So it is a wrong premise that we live after and that is because we are being fed with things around us.
Speaker 3:We see people who do these things. They take one thing, they let go of it. They let go of it third, fourth, fifth, into the fact that they have tried everything and time has passed and death is coming and banks are there and there is time running from it, and then they wish that they had got this time before and someone had told them or they had lived after these rules. But, alhamdulillah, allah has given us the opportunity for this. We sit here and we listen to these things.
Speaker 3:So take away from this, because from this it is Allah and His Prophet, his Prism. See it through their eyes, what Allah has said, what Prophet Al-Islam has said, then you will not believe it and then you will not lose anything. But, unfortunately, something is much, much better. There will be people who will come on the day of the day and they will say can you remember that day? You did this and that because it was not like this and that. So there is something that is waiting for us which is much, much better. And we also do it ourselves. In this world. There are a lot of people who make these mistakes and end up in problems Because we are still waiting for the return or when we have been all the way through. Why not all of us, from the beginning, live after these principles? Because we all live after something. All people have a certain goal they look up to, but all of us, from the beginning, live after Allah and His Prophet Al-Islam. Then we will not believe it. And then there was the other question.
Speaker 2:I think you actually got the answer, but this is to do something for others without expecting anything again. What goes on and why is it important? Because I think we always expect something from each other. It is almost unethical, or what?
Speaker 3:It is completely right. It is very human. It is very human to do it. We say if you do something for yourself, then you do something for me. But again, what are you living after? What is your mindset when you do something for someone? Is it because if you do something for someone, they also have to do something for you? But that is why a lot of relationships go into pieces today. That is why if a father expects that he is now serving his children, then they have to take care of me when I get older. And they don't do it.
Speaker 3:And if you have a relationship with your friends and say now I do this and then they have to do it for me, or my wife has to do it for me, and when they don't do it, then the world will be in a hurry. But if your mindset has been that you only want to do it, you don't want to do anything for yourself, it is the only way. And you say I just want to have it from God. I don't want to have anything for people. You do it for a good cause, you don't want to have anything back. There is no clause about all the good things you do, but then your relationship will still be the one that is with people. You don't want to get touched by these things.
Speaker 3:But one thing is certain when you do something with your pure intention and you say I don't want to have anything back, then God will give you something back. So what do we want anyway? Do we want people to give us something back, or does God give us something back? So what do these people want? I want to have something back from God instead of getting something back from people.
Speaker 3:So there is a great wisdom in doing things and not expecting something back, because then you get something back from God, because Allah SWT says that one of my servants or a human, I want to help him. So who do I want to help me? Him I have helped, or Him who has created him and created the universe? Of course, I have to have Allah on my side, and that makes me want to know what my mindset is, because Allah SWT says I am with my human being, who is with me. So if we think about Allah and say I do this for Allah, then Allah will give us serious status. If we are just happy and we do it for people, then Allah will say fine, I am giving this to people, then you will get nothing from me. So that is very much what we think about our intention.
Speaker 2:Very very fine. I have one last question. When we all leave here half an hour or whatever it is now, and those who are at home, they are knocking. They are knocking for their Facebook app and knocking at this session and we may be sitting with a love that has been banned in the parlor relationship, maybe without the partnership, it can be that we have relations in the family that has been banned. You don't talk to your parents, they don't talk to anyone. You have one of your sisters that no one talks to. It's hard to get what it can be, but it can also be friends you have laid back. You have had some close friends. You don't talk to them anymore, a certain friend where something might have happened or not happened, but unfortunately it ended in a bad way and we are going to see how we can help ourselves with the banning of these three important relationships the real thing, the family and the friends. And if there is a banning, how can we change that to a vaccine instead? I would like to comment on that.
Speaker 1:I think that the state has changed. It is more simple. Prophet Muhammad SAW has changed his mind. If you love, you love you love with Allah. It means that Allah loves Allah. For example, there is a man in the process. I think it is a right way to do it. There is a man in the process. I don't love my wife anymore. I don't feel like I am being forced to do it. It happens many times. Many of these things are wrong and many of them come up to the overflow. So we have had the idea of what love is, because we love love with premises.
Speaker 1:I was married to you. You were a worker and you were responsible. I didn't know that you would be a guy who didn't do the cleanup. I don't talk about myself. I would like to name it. I am not allowed to speak in a foreign language. You are not the type to have changed. I have expected that you would like a supermodel every day. There are no expectations that you have.
Speaker 1:The parents have changed my children. The parents see that the child is stupid. He is getting older. People come to the overflow. People get angry. The parents are very upset with the child. The parents and the parents are very different, but the parents are also different. We are very different.
Speaker 1:I think it is a lot of things. The child said that he doesn't love her anymore. I don't feel sorry for her. She is not the kind of woman I am. She is not anymore Because when it is worth it, she says she loves her. She is not the kind of woman he is. I hear what I say. I don't love her anymore. She says she loves her. I don't love her anymore.
Speaker 1:I am trying to explain. I explain what concept love is. It is not based on true love. It is based on what you want to see. What you want to see. Love is actually respect. It is just no longer. Respect is for forgiveness. Respect and forgiveness is for forgiveness. I don't mean that. It is that you see that if it is your wife, or from the wife of a man, or from the parents of the children or the sisters, that there should be this person who is stupid, there should be this person who is stupid. How good are we to give people and accept them? From whom? From Allah SWT. Not for yourself, because when you remove yourself and place Allah SWT as a start, it becomes much easier for you. I call for example today to a brother. I said to him Brother, why don't you get along with your mother? He said I don't care.
Speaker 1:I said, brother, it is your mother. Do you understand? Why can't you just go over to her? I said I don't want to get along with you, but it is just your mother who tries. She is standing and waiting for my dream to come true. I am pleading to do that.
Speaker 1:If you are stupid, you should imagine that they have gone away and put a kiss. What would you say to them? Do you understand? It is your heart that is melting. All these people, for example, can be stupid.
Speaker 1:Think about the chance that we may first know to be friends with them when they are dead. That is what people trust most and that is what our parents think about us. If we have a good relationship with our parents, think about the next, the trust we want when they are better than us. We should think about the fact that it is true, alhamdulillah, we have the power to simply go back and pray for the blessings and get this forbidden love. If we call it to a love that is a vaccine love. We have control over that by ourselves. It is just about all the people waiting for who to take the first step.
Speaker 1:If you and your wife, their relationship has gone into pieces, they do not feel threatened, and that is what happens to us. We had expected that. It is a supermodel catwalk and you name it that we are getting married with, and she had expected that. But he is responsible and he can do a lot. He is super healthy and some men are not like themselves, but what I am saying is that what is in it is that you simply need to communicate and to give and to take the first step. It is actually love, very simple love is simply that you accept that people have mistakes and mistakes and you are on the background of it. Therefore, you should accept it. It is actually over life. If you do it, all relationships start to go well. Understand that. It is a microphone.
Speaker 2:Can I repeat the last part?
Speaker 1:Yes, In the name of Allah, I am saying that you respect and love people, even though you know all the mistakes they have. But for the sake of Allah, let me give you an example. Let's think about man and woman. If you have a person who is extremely shy and uncomfortable with you, but you know well, if you make him, then it is maybe the mercy that Allah has planted. If you make him, this person may not go at all. For example, if you are a friend or say he is not talking to you anymore, then think about it. You are maybe the last thing that keeps him with you. Maybe he is a mother or she is a mother. Do you remember? So it should be taught that sometimes people accept that people are not perfect or be with the hunt for the perfect love, because it does not exist. It has never existed before. It only exists when it is not there. It does not exist among people.
Speaker 2:Very, very nice. Try to like the day of the MNA if you have something you would like to share, I think the brothers have been good about it.
Speaker 3:I will just end it, but just to end this point. We see this with because we fight a lot with it and we see it a lot these family relationships. Family relationships, it is simply brothers and sisters. I write it behind the ear If my relationship with my closest family is good, then choose to get love from Allah and His Prophet, and if my relationship with my closest family is not good, then it is just too much. How good I am towards others my friends, my colleagues then I also have eyes. It does not mean anything.
Speaker 3:I have also ended up with one thing I heard from one of our teachers. They told me here for not so long since. They said one of the things that damages one is invisible. For example, if you drink water, then there is nothing. But if you start to drink something alcohol or something then it is still fun to damage one. Maybe after a few years, then it has a damage one. But if you take a glass of wine and you drink it with it, then you are finished with it within 5 minutes. You are finished.
Speaker 3:And they said, one of the things that damages a person with it is when he cuts the bond with his family. Allah says when you cut the bond with your family, then I cut the bond with you. So it is something that damages a view. And if we have someone in our family who we do not talk to, who we have a hatred for, we are not concerned about the fault or the fault of our own try to get the bond, not because of them but because of the bond between us. Allah will be with us. So if we go from today just with the lesson that I have to try to create a bond with my family, those who come from my mother's, those relations I have from my mother's side, then we will see how Allah's love and blessing will come to us from the family. Allah gives us understanding and gives us the ability to practice these things. It is very good to sit and listen to these things, but if I am not used to my brother or my sister or my father or cousin, I go home and take the drink. If I do that, then I have something to be out of here, if I have to end here.
Speaker 3:If we look at the life of the hampers, they said that every time, or they say every time that there is a Quran verse down, the hampers have been conquered. They said listen, I have not yet got the other verses that have been put down in my life. Now, now there have been more verses, so I have to be ashamed even more to practice them. It was the way they had it, the way they heard from Prophet An-Nasir. Our way today is we want to hear something new every day, every week. If it is just a hampers we have heard before and it is being restored, then we are already beginning to give up and it is starting to be a little sad. But it is not what we want.
Speaker 3:To be ashamed of All the good things we do not hear. It is some little knowledge we create for ourselves or we give it shape. On the day of the domes we say you learn that you need a good relationship with your family. You learn that you need to love people for others. Did you do it? If you have not done it, then we have a problem today. Then they would stand there and say he heard me ten times, he knew it, he got it. Every time he would go to the mosque. The imam said it to him, the brothers said it to him, but he did not practice it. So it is the mindset we need to have when we come here and when we take other places. Let us practice our religion. Our religion is not theory, it is practice. When we practice it, then we will see the fruits of our DNA, and it is only possible. So may Allah give us understanding and give us the opportunity to practice what we hear. That is the most important thing. So I will end it here.
Speaker 2:Mashallah, it was today's lecture. So two strong challenges from our brothers here. The first one, that has just been mentioned If we want to go beyond my family and those who are with me, then we need to practice our religion, practice Islam. It is not just about without a thought, it is simply something that is terrible for us and a way to go beyond the life of the band. And the second challenge, and we can all take it together, If we do not experience it in our families, then I am sure, brothers and sisters, that we know someone out there who has been friends with someone, if not their whole family, one who does not talk to his brother or his sister or his father or his mother, is unambiguously asked.
Speaker 2:So I am asking here, from the point that it is the way to a band of life, a band of love, help them, give them the challenge we have received here. It is that you are allowed to establish that relationship, and why? Because it is something you do for the sake of God. And what do you offer? You offer your ego. You do not let anything stand in the way. We give it to a time in our family, without seeing how bad we must be, that someone has been against us. Okay, so we take it. I know I will think about someone. I am sure you will do it. I will do it, inshallah.