And this is why every moment, every decision, every action you take matters. Because it's not just about you, it's about the people around you. Your impact on the world and future generations.
And are you fully taking every opportunity to be the best version of yourself, not just for yourself, but the people around you.
All right. All right. Welcome to the best life blueprint, you guys, where I discuss the secrets to step into your best, most fulfilled, helpful life of your wildest dreams. I gotta admit, , I'm a little nervous. I haven't recorded a podcast in about three months. I took a semi unexpected break over the summer.
Hashtag children. But I am back. I am feeling called again to start this up because honestly, I missed it. I miss talking to myself through zoom and then recording and editing it and , spitting it out into the world for you guys. I missed it so much. Here's the deal though. I'm gonna be completely honest with you as much as I loved.
So the previous version, my podcast hurts like a mother, as much as I loved, like African love the title. Let's be, let's be real. It's cute, but as much as I loved, the content and the meaning behind wanting to share moments of motherhood and stories, I felt like it wasn't my true authentic self coming forward in terms of my mission, my mission to serve you and my mission to encourage others to be as hopeful and happy as possible because let's be real again.
Yes, motherhood, parenthood, wonderful, amazing things, super challenging, all of the above. However, there is more to life than being a mom, , maybe this is a controversial topic. But there is more to life than being a mom. And yes, motherhood is a part of my life, but there is so much more to it. That I want to talk about with you. So that is why I renamed the podcast, the best life blueprint, because I want to share all of the secrets beyond motherhood to step into your just best life possible.
And we're going to do that together. I'm still going to be keeping a very special Monday session called Hurts Like a Mother Monday. And I'm going to be bringing some badass moms on the show to just be honest and open up about real life mom stuff.
But. The meat and potatoes of the Best Life Blueprint are going to be more health focused, because that is my jam. That is my reason for being on this planet, is to share all with you. So I'm just going to be real invulnerable with everyone through this journey, because that is what podcasting is. It is a journey.
Like any other health journey, business venture, whatever you want to call it. And this brings me to my why. So... My heart absolutely hurts when I see people not living up to their potential or giving up on their dreams, not believing in themselves, and this manifests as unhealthy behaviors, chronic disease, mental health disorders, like the people that want to make all of these changes to their lives, but they give up constantly.
These are the people that I hope to one day touch in some way and somehow. I want to give you the tools to step into . The life of your most wildest dreams. Because I know I am on my way to that. I'm not there yet. These are baby steps. But you know what, I know if I'm on my way, you most definitely fucking are too.
And you definitely can be. And so I want to share my passion for my own journey with you. With hopes that everybody feels that fire that I feel to step into their best life possible. So yeah, so we're gonna talk about all things health, but also we're gonna talk about Obstacles to getting there, and the struggle.
Because the struggle is not sexy. It is not, you guys. Like, if I was to come on here and be like, This shit is hard. You wanna know why? Like, you'd be like, why do I wanna listen to this? But it's part of life. The struggle is life. But without the struggle, there is no rainbow at the end of the storm.
There is no gift waiting for you. I'm not saying one day you're gonna wake up and there's like this beautiful gift and like, that's the end of it. The journey is the gift. And that's what I am learning. It's a hard, hard lesson to learn, but the journey is the true gift, and it never ends, you guys. You might think, oh, when I lose the ten pounds, I will be happy.
When I lose two dress sizes, I will be happy. No, . When you find yourself through the journey, Of being your most ideal, optimal self. That is the true gift.
And it's hard for you to see that unless you go through it. So my, my hope is that I just nudge people towards that journey. Step into it. Embrace the suck. Embrace the journey because that is where the true gift to yourself is.
I felt that one. I hope you did too.
So I met with a friend yesterday actually. And this friend wanted to meet with me because... She was just told a few days ago that she has cancer. And I'm not gonna tell her story because that is her story to share. But this meeting made me really think. What would I do if I had the same diagnosis? What would I change?
Would I change anything?
And I thought of the Tim McGraw song, Live Like You Were Dying. No, I'm not gonna sing. You know, he goes like, skydiving, rockin mountain climbing, that whole deal. , he was living with no regrets in this song. And would I do the same?
The answer is, I would probably live the way I'm living now with a few tweaks.
I think I would still focus on trying to fuel my body as best I can with whole foods from the earth minimally processed, that whole deal. But also, I would want to choose Activities that would support my joy and support what really lights my fire because it's hard to truly appreciate the statement.
Life is short because
the days are long, but the years are truly so short and it's really hard for me to remember this. , days like, like this morning when I was trying to get the kids out the door to catch the bus and they all were coming at me with different demands. Why aren't you doing this? Mom, you still haven't done this for me, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom.
But when I think about
What if I don't wake up tomorrow
or worse?
what if one of my children don't wake up tomorrow?
What would life mean to me then? And what would life mean to my children?
And this is why every moment, every decision, every action you take matters. Because it's not just about you, it's about the people around you. Your impact on the world and future generations.
And are you fully taking every opportunity to be the best version of yourself, not just for yourself, but the people around you. That is what my work is about.
, as a health coach, a registered nurse, a mom, a wife, a daughter, a friend.
And I think about, say I did get a cancer diagnosis tomorrow, would I go balls to the wall crazy and, , eat ice cream at every meal, quit my job, I would definitely quit my night shift job, that's pending, fo sho But no, I wouldn't eat ice cream for every meal because that's going to make me feel like hot garbage.
You know what I would do? I would go out and get that 500 juicer I've been eyeballing for a year. I would juice the shit out of, out of so many, so many vegetables. ,
and I would , call old friends and meet up with friends and take my mom out to dinner.
,
I'd probably write my children letters
About how proud I am of them. ,
I would say the things that I. I'm too busy to say in a normal day.
I'd probably hug my husband a little longer. I
guess I'd have sex with him more often, too.
He'd like that one. Ethan, if you're listening, I'm sure you smiled at that one. But why is it that we can't live that way right now? Besides money, money to go on vacation, spur of the moment, money to take that trip to Europe you've always wanted to do. Why is it that you can't live like you're dying?
Or can we? And what action can you take today , to start living that way?
So my friend, she wanted to meet with me specifically to talk about nutrition and cancer. And while I am not an expert in the treatment of cancer,
I told her we could go down the rabbit holes of
, eating no sugar, living a stress free lifestyle, eating alkalinizing foods.
But here's the thing. You have, on one hand, all of the activities in your life that bring you joy. For this friend, she talked about cycling, and how she just gets on a bike and goes for a ride, and she feels alive, you guys. If you could think about the one thing in your life that you just feel so alive, and it brings you closer to your true self.
That is cycling for her. But for her to go on a long cycle ride, on a perfect, low carbohydrate, cancer treatment approved diet, that would mean it's going to affect her cycling. So would I, would I say you need to eliminate , all sources of sugar. That would kill her joy of cycling to a degree.
So while there is a textbook living answer in related to cancer or losing weights or just living a healthful lifestyle, there's a textbook answer. It might not be the right answer for you. and your joy.
It ultimately comes down to focusing on serving your body and not serving the world around you. What I mean by this is, what are you doing today to serve your body? Because your body needs a few basic things in order to function optimally. Your body needs sleep. Good quality, undisturbed, social media free sleep.
That's why , I recommend turning screens off, putting your phone down an hour before sleep. Your brain needs less stimulation before you go to bed. You need quality sleep, seven to eight hours. I know this is hard for a lot of people, but it's the truth. And it's research supported. Your body needs good nutrition from whole unprocessed foods.
The American food system is atrocious. It is fueled by the greed of making money, not to support the health of this country. and it's so hard to be a consumer in this country because we don't know what to believe. But if you can slowly reestablish your relationship with whole Unprocessed foods.
This will change your world. I promise you,
your body needs connection with other humans. We cannot do this alone. We live in such a secluded country. We are filled with people shoulder to shoulder across America. We are not connecting with each other.
Human beings need laughter. We need joy. We need to know that we live in a community that will raise us up when times are tough. That's why
so many communities across the
World. That live into their nineties and hundreds, they do so because they're bonded with their friends and their families live next door or in the same home. There's a reason why longevity is tied to connection.
And this is why social media is a, is a wonderful thing because it does provide a way to connect us in a disconnected world.
So, send a message to a friend today, just reach out to someone and say hi, thinking of you, and I bet they're going to appreciate it and you're going to feel good too. Your body also needs quiet.
If you think about how many times you have to make a day, I'm sure, I don't know the research, I'm sure you make 10, 000 decisions in a day. Starting from, am I waking up right now? Am I getting up? Am I looking at my phone? Am I brushing my teeth right now? What toothpaste am I using? I don't know if you have three different flavors of toothpaste in your drawer like I do.
What am I feeding the kids for breakfast? What am I eating for breakfast? Am I eating breakfast? Am I getting coffee today? Is it tea? Is it mud water? Think of all of the minute decisions. Your brain is overwhelmed. And then turn on technology on top of that. We are overstimulated. We don't all have ADHD.
We're overstimulated as fuck.
Your brain needs quiet. So taking those moments, even one to three minutes to start, where you literally don't do anything, you turn your phone off, sit on the ground, breathe. If you want to take it one step further, turn on a five minute meditation on YouTube. If you want, if you want my favorite channel, I'll send it to you.
Just let me know. We need quiet to process all of the garbage in our heads. And in the world, when was the last time you took two to five minutes to just sit and be? Not sit and do anything, not multitask, just sit and fucking be.
Your body also needs movement. We were not made to sit in front of a computer, tapping away all day, and then walk to our cars, drive home. Walk into our homes, eat dinner, and go to sleep. No, our bodies were made and designed to move.
And although evolution is great, we have evolved to be sedentary humans. And with that sedentary lifestyle comes modern disease conditions. So get up, move, even if it's a ten minute walk after you eat.
If you think of the caveman, the caveman would get up and go hunt for food. He'd be lifting boulders, fighting tigers. Running away from bears, like, all of the things. Okay, this is not historically accurate, but you know what I'm saying.
The caveman moved his body to live, to survive.
And yes, many years have passed since caveman age. We are not, we are not, Modern day cavemen. However, if we go back to the caveman basics, like moving your body, eating whole foods from the earth, so much of all of this modern day garbage of like, heart disease, diabetes, anxiety, depression, all of that shit would melt away.
So I challenge you, how can you live like a caveman today?
How can you start living as though you were dying tomorrow? What would you say to someone that you haven't said yet? But that you would say to them if you were dying tomorrow.
I thank you for taking the time to listen to this today, and I hope you tune in to the next one. I am here for you, so if you have a topic that you want me to speak on, or you want to be one of the badass moms that come on my podcast, let me know. I would love to have you. Please share this episode with a friend if you felt it resonated with you.
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