Understanding Our Nervous Systems

We're taking a deeper dive into polyvagal theory & co-regulation because understanding our nervous system can aid in managing moments of panic or stress.

Inside the episode:
Polyvagal theory, proposed by neuroscientist Stephen Porges,  simplifies the nervous system's response to threats into three states: fight, flight, and freeze. Unlike the common four-state model, which includes faun, freeze, and variations of fight or flight, Polyvagal theory focuses on these three primary states. 
 
Co-regulation, where calm signals from trusted individuals alleviate threat responses, is another method we can use to help get our brains and bodies back online. In professional settings, trusted colleagues or managers serve as co-regulators. Lack of co-regulation contributes to feelings of isolation and heightened stress in workplaces.

When co-regulation isn't immediately available, individuals can employ retrospective techniques, recalling moments of safety and creativity to soothe their nervous systems. These practices, documented in an "SOS note," aid in re-regulation and problem-solving. 

Notably, the urge to rush through soothing processes impedes progress. Adhering to Phil Dunphy's adage from Modern Family— "Slow is smooth and smooth is fast"—advocates for a deliberate, unhurried approach to achieving a calm, creative state conducive to problem-solving 

Homework:  Make a SOS note.

• Think about that relaxed state where creativity has come to you. What were you doing? What were the conditions for this? Write that down so you can reference it when things are bad so you don’t have to try and figure out how to feel better in that moment.