5 Steps to Overcome Your Fear and Create a Growth Mindset. S4E62

Have you ever met someone who was doing the thing you've been dreaming about doing and thought, she's so brave?
I wish I could do that. Maybe you thought they are more qualified, more talented, more experienced, more fill-in-the-blank. The truth is, they probably aren't any more qualified than you.
They've just learned to master their mindset and overcome their fears.

In this episode, I dive deep into overcoming fear and doubt to create a growth mindset. Through personal anecdotes and practical tips, I'll show you how to break free from the chains of self-doubt and step into your full potential. Whether you're looking to start a new project, make a big life change, or simply improve your daily mindset, this episode is packed with insights that will help you on your journey.

Here are some Bible verses just to give you inspiration:

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." - Joshua 1:9

"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will." - Romans 12:2

Join me as I explore:

• The common misconception that others are more qualified or talented.
• The reality that fear and doubt affect everyone, even those who seem confident.
• The importance of mastering your mindset to overcome fear.
• Practical tools and techniques to shift into a growth mindset.
• Personal stories of overcoming fear and doubt, especially in writing my book.

When you listen to this conversation, you'll gain inspiration to:

• Recognize that fear and doubt are natural but can be overcome.
• Understand that success is subjective and personal.
• Implement practical tools to shift from a fixed to a growth mindset.
• Appreciate the importance of remembering your 'why' and reframing your thoughts about success.
• Embrace your unique talents and strengths to step into your purpose.

Thank you for joining me on this journey. I hope my story encourages you to overcome your fears and doubts and to create a growth mindset that will propel you towards your goals.

Transcript

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Have you ever met someone who was doing the thing

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you've been dreaming about doing and thought, she's so brave? I wish I could do that.

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Maybe you thought they are more qualified, more talented, more experienced, more fill in the blank.

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The truth is, they probably aren't any more qualified than you.

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They've just learned to master their mindset and overcome their fears.

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That's what we're going to talk about today.

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So grab a pen and paper. You're going to want to take some notes on this one. My friend. And let's get into it.

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All right. So as I shared in the teaser

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intro, and a lot of times we look at other people and we think, oh my gosh, I wish I could do that, or she's so brave. You know, they're more talented, they're more experienced, they're more qualified than us to do the things that we want to be doing.

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But fear holds us back.

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And here's the thing.

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Those people you see doing things, they're afraid. It's just like you and I are. They've just learned to master their mindset. They've learned to get into a growth mindset and not stay stuck in the fear mode.

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And

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I want to share with you five things that I've learned. There are tools that I put into my toolbox to overcome fear when it steps in.

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Fear that will keep me stuck from achieving anything I want to do in my life. And last week, you may have heard on the podcast that I am in the process of writing a book.

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First time ever writing this book. And let me tell you, every single day I have to overcome the battle in my mind.

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You know, self-doubt creeps in and I think, how can I even write a book I can't even spell?

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And my grammar is atrocious.

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Not to mention that I can't even pronounce words like atrocious correctly half the time.

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And some days imposter syndrome kicks in and I think, who am I to write this book? What if it's horrible?

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And then fear. Fear pops in all the time. This fear of what do I spend all this time and invest?

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I invested in a coach and writing program and do all this work. And no one buys the book.

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Then why?

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And these are just a few of the things that creep into my mind every day. Every day. And I could let all of these doubts and fears keep me from writing this book.

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But do you know what? I don't?

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And I show up every day now, almost every day

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at my laptop. Despite all of these fears and doubts.

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And

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again, I want to share these with you today. The tools that I use so that I can show up and sit down at the laptop and work.

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And there are things that I do to overcome my fears and to get into that growth mindset that's needed to do anything

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out of my comfort zone.

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And most of these tools are things I've collected over my almost 58 years of life.

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July 4th is my birthday, by the way.

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So the fireworks. When you're watching fireworks, think of me. For those of you in the United States. But anyway, I digress.

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so it's

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these two other things I have collected over the course of my lifetime.

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Many of these tools have came from my days in network marketing, when I had some fabulous leaders and mentors who taught me how to overcome the fears that I had when working in that business. And they're all tools that you can now put into your own toolbox, and you can pull out any time you want to achieve something new,

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and you're about to step outside of your comfort zone.

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Use these. Any time that fear creeps in,

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and any time that

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that doubt is keeping you from achieving the greatness that you're meant to achieve in this world. So are you ready? This is where I want you to pause this podcast. If you need to go, grab a pen and paper so you can jot these down.

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Okay, let's jump into it.

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So number one,

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the number one thing is to remember your why.

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What's your deeper purpose for doing this thing that you want to do?

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For me, that deeper purpose for writing this book is I know in my heart and my soul that the eight phases that I teach in my Discovering Your Calling academy and the process, they're unlike anything else out there.

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And I know that when they're implemented, they can change lives.

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And I know that when I write this book, it will reach more people than I'd ever be able to coach in my lifetime. And I have a feeling deep down that it can possibly change lives, might even save some lives, and it can build better relationships. It'll just make for a happier, more joyful, fulfilled people.

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People that will make an impact on the world. I know it can have a ripple effect,

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and that's the thing that I have to keep in my mind when I'm wondering, why the heck did I decide to write this book?

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and when you look at this,

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I want you to do there's an exercise we actually do inside of the discovering your calling process, and it's become affectionately known as the Peeling back the onion.

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And anybody that's ever worked with me for any length of time knows about peeling back the onion layers. And basically what it is, is we keep asking, why does that matter? Then why does that matter? And then why does that matter? Until you get to the root of the deeper why that why that makes you tear up.

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Hence the onion.

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And it's the why that makes you cry.

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Remember, that's

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the why that's going to keep you moving forward even when doubt and fear creeps in. So what? Is that why that makes you want to cry?

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Keep that in mind.

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That's number one.

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Number two. The second thing you can put in your toolbox is

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change your thoughts about what success looks like.

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Here's what I have to think. Sometimes when I think about writing this book, that you know what? I may not write the next bestselling book.

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I may not write a book that thousands of people will read.

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But what if I write a book that just one person picks up

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and that one person reads this book

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and it changes their lives?

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If that's what happens, and that's the only thing that happens,

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then you know what? I feel like I will have succeeded,

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and society may be telling you that success

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only happens if you're making 6 or 7 figures,

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you know, in your business or in your career.

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Maybe success is having a certain title,

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or that success only comes if you're wearing a size four

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and that ship is long sailed.

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For me.

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So

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instead of looking at what society tells you, success looks like.

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Rethink that. What does real success look like for you?

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And when you can reframe that, that may help you feel like you can do this.

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So what will that look like when you do the thing you are afraid of?

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It's success looks different.

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So how can you reframe what success looks like?

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How can you change your thoughts about what success will be for you if you go do this one thing?

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Maybe it's just helping one person.

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The third tool you can put into your toolbox. When fear and doubt creep in and your imposter syndrome is raising its ugly head,

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is. Remember, you were created for this,

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and some days I just need to sit down before I get started on anything else I do.

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after my Bible time, my quiet time is to pull out my Cliftonstrengths 34 report and read it.

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And this reminds me of my superpowers. And how if I don't do this thing, then I'm wasting my talent.

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And if you ever feel like you're not qualified,

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then I encourage you to go back and review your natural talents and strengths.

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So if you've taken the Cliftonstrengths assessment from Gallup, just pull out your Cliftonstrengths 34 report and really read in,

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read that part that's exclusively about you, the part that's highlighted about you and your top five.

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And if you haven't taken the Cliftonstrengths assessment yet, then

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head over to Gallup and just take the full Cliftonstrengths 34 report if you need support on that.

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Reach out to me

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and as you're looking at and reminding yourself of your superpowers and your talents that are unique to you. Remember, you're one and 33 million.

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There's no one else on earth that has your talents, that has you or experience, that has your

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gifts, your spiritual gifts.

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There's no one else out there. So if not you, then who?

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So remember, you were created for this.

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The fourth tool

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is.

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I truly believe

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that if God put something in your heart to do, then he has equipped you for that. And sometimes for me,

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So I dig into my Bible and look for reassurance.

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And remember, God is calling you to do this thing.

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Here are some Bible verses just to give you inspiration.

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Joshua 119 says, have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.

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Proverbs

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356 says, trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

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In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

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Romans 12 two says, do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is his good, pleasing, and perfect will. Those are just a few that I love but find those Bible verses.

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Find those quotes. What is it that will help you stay inspired?

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And again, remember, if God put a dream in your heart, he has equipped you to achieve that dream,

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but he expects you to do the work. It, as the saying goes, and John Ortberg actually wrote a book on it. If you want to walk on water, you have to get out of the boat.

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Which leads me to the next

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step, the next tool that I want to share with you. And that's just get into action. Number five, just get into action and do it. Afraid.

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This, my friend, is the most important step. You've got to get out of your head and quit thinking about doing something and just do it.

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Mel Robbins talks about taking action in five seconds.

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if you Google online, you'll see lots of different people talking about a 22nd rule. Nike, of course, says just do it. You pick is it. Just do it. Is it five seconds of bravery or 20s of bravery?

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The goal is just to get into action.

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My writing coach

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tells us to write just one sentence. If you do nothing else that day, she says, just write one sentence and I'll be honest.

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Last night

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it was Saturday or no Friday, and I hadn't done any work on my book yet. And I was feeling really guilty. And I thought about her saying, just write one sentence.

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So around 7 p.m. last night, I sat down at my computer and thought, I'm just going to write one sentence. Well, you know what? An hour later, I had a thousand words typed up.

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So what's one action step

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you can do today to move from fear to action?

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Maybe. Is it? Write one sentence for that blog. That email. That book that you need to write. You've been wanting to write.

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Is it? Call one person and offer to help them with the problem you feel called to solve. This, by the way, is another step in the discovering your calling academy is.

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Just go out there and try it. Just go out there and offer your services.

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Maybe. Is it? Do you need to buy a book that would teach you how to do the thing you want to do?

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Is it you need to fill out a job application for that job that you've been dreaming about, but you've been scared to fill out the application because you don't feel like you have all the qualifications.

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Just fill out that book application.

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Let them decide if you're qualified for the job or not.

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Or do you maybe need to call a mentor or reach out to a mentor and say, can we just have coffee so I can get inspired by how you've achieved this?

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I don't know what that next step is, but I have a feeling you do.

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So I would encourage you to think about that. Like, what is that best next step that you've been avoiding that would just get you into action.

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And I promise you, once you get into action,

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things will start to flow.

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Things will start to happen. And sometimes you can't stop when you're in action. Just like that snowball rolling down the hill.

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But you got to take that first step.

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So my friend, these are just a few of the tools to overcome fear, doubt, and all those things that can keep you stuck. And here's the bottom line I want you to know and remember that fear is normal. When we step outside of our comfort zone.

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But you have to learn to move through the fear and get into that growth mindset to get unstuck.

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Otherwise, you'll never achieve the big things that God has placed in your heart. The big dreams that you have for your life.

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The big things that you're equipped to go out and do. Just step through that comfort or step through

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the fear and out of the comfort zone.

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So,

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my friend,

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what is that big goal that you've been putting off because of fear?

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And which one of these tools do you need to lean into right now?

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Is it remembering your why?

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Is it changing your thoughts about what success really looks like?

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Is it remembering who you that you were created for this? And review your Cliftonstrengths 34 report.

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Is it digging into your Bible and looking for a reassurance?

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Or do you just need to do that first step and get into action and do it?

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Afraid?

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Now something else that helps is having an accountability buddy.

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My husband is who I hold accountable to. I tell him daily, okay, this is what I'm going to work on today for my book, and I'm writing this book for him. That's something else to think about. Didn't include this in here, but maybe that's number six. Who are you doing this for?

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Is it for your child to set an example? Is it for your spouse?

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is it for your grandma because you promised her you would do this thing on her deathbed? Like, who are you doing this for?

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I'm doing this for my husband because he keeps pushing me to do it in a good way. So I, I ask him to hold me accountable.

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so who can be your accountability buddy?

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You know what else? I'm doing this book.

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I consider you my

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accountability buddy

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for writing this book. That's why I share shared on the podcast that I'm writing a book, because now you and everybody else listening to this podcast is now can hold me accountable. You have permission to ask me, Sheri.

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How's the book coming? When's the book coming out?

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And I want to do the same for you. So if you have a big dream, a big goal, let's stay accountable to each other. So feel free to reach out to me. You can find me on Facebook and the DMs and or send me an email at Sherry at Sherry Miter Coat Kokum and just say, hey, this is what I'm working on.

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Hold me accountable, Sherry.

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And bottom line is my friends

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and my friend, I want you to remember that you have been called

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and created for such a time as this.

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And if it's not you, then who?

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There's a mission that you feel

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drawn to. Do a problem you see in the world that no one else even sees. Sometimes

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an impact only you can make based on your gifts, your experience, your talents.

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So just do it. Afraid. Take that first step and just

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do it. Take Nike's advice and just do it. I believe in you.

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I can't wait to see what powerful things you are going to create in this world. And I appreciate you for holding me accountable to write the book.

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We'll catch you next week with some more tips to help us both live in to our greatness.