How to get honest about where in your life you are holding yourself back
How you are manipulating situations by downplaying what you want
How to get out of your own way starting today
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Remember that, you are worthy. You have value. You get to take up space in this world simply because you exist. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, convenience you otherwise. If that idea or vision for your life is in you, then it is for you.
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How to get honest about where in your life you are holding yourself back
How you are manipulating situations by downplaying what you want
How to get out of your own way starting today
Use my code JACY10 to save on your order of Gut Personal Supplements! Visit www.gutpersonal.com and take their online quiz to get personalized recommendations of supplements for your gut health needs! I recommend starting with the Miracle Worker! It is my favorite and will literally TRANSFORM your sleep.
Remember that, you are worthy. You have value. You get to take up space in this world simply because you exist. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, convenience you otherwise. If that idea or vision for your life is in you, then it is for you.
⚡I would love it if you take 30 seconds to leave a 5 star review and a rating sharing why you love this podcast! If you have left a review, please share it with a friend!
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Hi and welcome to the have the Audacity podcast, where we are all about living our own version of our best life.
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My name is Jacey. I'm a multi-passionate human obsessed with personal growth, and I want you to come on this journey with me, where we share our stories and learn tools, tips and tricks to live the life we were always meant to live. So let's lean into the uncomfortable celebrator highs and embrace our lows, because all of it's important. It may get a little messy, but it's time to have the audacity. Hey, audacious human, I'm so glad that you're here for today's episode. I have been thinking and I really wanted to challenge you with this question, and it was a reminder that I needed, and so I thought I'd hop on here, give us a little pep talk and a reminder that's needed, and that is I want you to think about. Are you afraid of the bigness that's inside of you? Like, where in your life are you playing small? If you listen to a podcast called have the Audacity, then inherently there you have bigness in you that you know wants to come out, or maybe you're even living in your bigness. You have big goals, you have audacious goals, you have audacious dreams and visions for your life and things that you want to accomplish, and it's big and it's bigger than the people around you, and maybe you're the first person in your family to do this and so nobody gets it. Nobody gets it around you and your immediate circle You're the first person. Well, let me just say, first off, I get it Like I do get it and this is coming from my mentor really challenged me to think about where am I playing small and where am I intentionally making myself smaller to make other people around me more comfortable? And I think that is so. That's something that is can be very identifiable. I'm no, I'm not alone in experiencing that feeling before you know, being in a situation where you do make yourself smaller to make the other people around you more comfortable, and that's not to say that everybody deserves full access to you or everybody deserves, deserves full access to your dreams. That's not what I mean, but think about it. You're in a meeting.
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Is there a time you wanted to say something but you didn't, because you knew your perspective would make the other people around you uncomfortable? Do you have an idea, maybe something that even fell out of your will house? That is not something. You're in a relationship. You have an idea and you want to share it, but you don't, because you're like what will people think who? People think that I think that I am. What if I make them feel like they're incompetent? Or there I said, they didn't have the idea? Like we start going through all these things and then we don't say it. We don't say it because we don't want to make the people around us uncomfortable. Look at how often do you do that.
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Now, I'm not saying you walk around and you tell people I you're doing it wrong and you speak over them and your way is the highway. But you know, right now, while we're having this conversation, you can think of a time that you played small. Maybe you show up on the internet and Maybe you aren't showing up authentically as yourself because You're concerned about how people may perceive you in your bigness. Maybe you haven't told anybody that you're like yeah, I want to. I want to scale my business to a million dollars Because nobody around you has that kind of money. Now, like who do you think you are? You just greedy? Well, like, okay, that's a them problem.
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This all comes back to Controlling what you can control and, honestly, if you are Playing small and making yourself smaller to fit into a situation or to keep people comfortable. That's you manipulating and controlling the situation. That's that's a hard truth about it is that you are Manipulating the people around you by playing small, by holding back, by being the version of yourself that you think they want. That's manipulative. That's a hard truth. I know that stinks doesn't feel good, it's uncomfortable. Today's conversation is slightly uncomfortable but it needs to happen because it's the truth and I care about you too much to hold back from that. I Hope you're vibing with today's episode. I just wanted to hop into here real quick and tell you about that day, just collected.
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Without further ado, let's dive back into today's episode. If people are threatened by your bigness, your greatness that's inside of you, by your potential, that's a them problem, that's not a you problem, and that's what I want to remind you today. You control it. You can control. You can only control yourself how people perceive you, they're thoughts about it, how it makes them feel. You have no control over that. It's all about your intention behind this, and you listen to this podcast because you care about people and you want to make a difference in this world in Whatever way that looks like that. You have this inherent desire for more in your life and you can only control your intention to find it. So don't misconstrued what I'm saying to be Malicious, because it's not.
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But too many people who were put on this earth to do amazing things with their life and I don't mean amazing in being the curing cancer or Anything like that, like amazing in Whatever that looks like for you. You were put here to do something amazing that only you can do in your life. But if you're playing small, how do you think you're gonna reach that? How are you going to impact all the lives that you're meant to impact if you're playing small Now? I don't think everybody should be entrepreneurs. I don't. The world needs everybody. We need everybody. We need everybody to live out their full potential in each of their occupations that they do and who they interact with with their life, anytime they're interacting with people.
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And we're not gonna get it right all the time and that's okay, don't ever. I don't ever expect myself and I don't expect you to get it right all the time. But I've noticed in conversations with people and I really got it called out on myself about how we often play a small because we want to keep the other people around as comfortable and it's time to stop. It is time to stop right now. Like we're done you and I are done right now, and it is going to be so uncomfortable. You're gonna come across a moment and I know you're thinking of fun right now and you're like okay, the next time, so-and-so, says this, like I'm Going to stay, and you're like, oh, I don't want to do that. You're like I Don't know. I don't know my stomach's feeling really tight. I just don't know, like if I can do this, but like, remember that harsh truth if you Are being a version of yourself that you think will make others comfortable, that you Manipulating. That's the truth and, honestly, does it feel good? Does it feel good a place small? Are you thriving? Are you Living your best life? And if maybe right now you're not playing small, you're like oh yeah, I've been there because it's something Every single human can relate to.
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At some point in your life You've played small. You made yourself small to keep other people around you comfortable when that's not your job. So even if right now you're listening to this, you're like whoa, I identify with that. I'm not going through that right now, thank goodness. Here's your reminder to keep going because inevitably, what's gonna happen with the cyclical nature of life is You're gonna come to a point in the future where you start subconsciously playing small and you're gonna need that reminder. It's gonna be making yourself smaller, playing small in a new way, because it's a new version of you and New level and there'll be new problems and new things to overcome. It's a never-ending process, but this is your reminder to look for it and to ask yourself when playing small.
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I really hope that this hits home that this resonates with you, because I care about you a lot and the world needs your greatness, and the world can't access your greatness if you're playing small, and that is a reminder Just as much for me as it is for you. Now, before I go, I have to remind you. I want you to always remember that you are worthy, you have value, you get to take up space in this world simply because you exist. Don't let anyone, including yourself, convince you otherwise, and if that idea or vision for your life is in you, it is for you. I'm rooting for you. Step into your power, and I can't wait to start too soon. Thank you so much for listening. If you love this episode, I would love to hear from you, so share it on Instagram and tag me so I can personally Thank you for getting this message out. I'm so grateful to have you on this journey with me. So until next time, remember to have the audacity.