78 | Take Yourself Seriously: Moving Past "One Day"

After two long months I am back from moving across the country.   In this episode I give you a quick update on my recent move to California and start off by revisiting past discussions on imposter syndrome in the previous episode. Today's episode is going to focus on shifting from a 'one day' mentality to 'day one,' encouraging you to make mindset and attitude changes that support goal achievement. This episode also highlights the importance of taking yourself seriously, despite external doubts, navigating negative comments from others, and incorporating non-negotiable daily tasks. Lastly, I touch base on the  significance of kind self-talk and maintaining faith in God throughout the journey. Yes it's hard, but you can do hard things!

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Hey friend, welcome to the restored mind podcast, where we are going to be talking about various life topics surrounding mindset transformations. These topics are coming from a faith lens and will propel you into a life of peace and joy. My name is Caroline, wife, mom of three, daughter of the one true king. Host of this podcast and certified light coach through the I am system by Painting Vehicles Incorporations. My hope is that this podcast brings God's light into your life and you break free from the chains that are holding you back. Friend, it is time to shift your mindset into one that will help you flourish. Ready? Let's go. Hello and welcome to the Restored mind podcast. My friend, my name is Caroline and yes. I am back. I am excited to be back. It's been two long months of being away. If you are new here, welcome to the restored mind, family I'm excited to have you here. I hope that you'll stay for the long haul, but if you're only here for this episode, I hope that you find it to be inspiring and encouraging to you. And if you are returning listener, welcome back. I'm excited to have you back. I've missed you, my friend, stepping away for as long as I have because of this move. I realized that I love what I do and. It just made me appreciate the fact that I'm able to do this so much more. But if you're new here, just to fill you in the restored, mind was started out in North Carolina and then my husband's work. Relocated him. And so we spent our summer moving to the west coast. Now we are currently in the state of California and it has been such a wonderful journey. My friends. I spent time with family, which was refreshing. But also we spent time in the desert and that was also very mindblowing as well. and it gave me a different perspective on God's love, which I'm so excited to share with you and future episodes. But for now to get things going. I am going to recap what I talked about in the last episode that I released. Which was sometime back in may. And in that episode, I was talking about imposter syndrome. And I shared with you my journey on it and also gave practical things that you can do. To help you overcome with those intrusive thoughts? And I know that we all. Have had intrusive thoughts at some point in our life. So if you are struggling with imposter syndrome, My friend, I would encourage you to check out that episode and I hope that you find something in it that would be helpful to you. encouraging or even inspire me to you. This week, we are going to talk about the mindset and attitude that you need. That will help you get past the quote. One day phase of reaching your goals. So when I say the one day phase, what I'm talking about are the thoughts and goals. You have, that's been tucked away in your mind and categorized as one day, right? as in one day, I will have my own business or one day I'm going to get back in shape. Whatever that one day is for you. That's what I'm talking about. If it's pressing on your mind and you really want to do it. But you keep pushing it back to the one day. I'll get to it. Kind of a thing, But just a refresh. And the reason why I'm bringing this up is because I released an episode a couple of weeks ago. Now, maybe even a month or two ago, that is titled one day or day one taking the first step. It was inspired by a note that I wrote down in my journal a few years ago when I started my fitness journey. It was one day or day one. And there is always going to be a one day and a day one and everyone's journey, no matter what it is. So this week, we are going to chat about the mindset and attitude that will get you past the quote, one day phase of reaching your goal. And that's always something that I find interesting in conversations I have with friends where they have this dream or this vision that they want to achieve. And it usually ends with yeah, one day I'll do that, you know, and it makes me think, well, why not now? My friend, I believe that your mindset and your attitude truly matters when it comes to building a 2.0 version of yourself, which is just me saying that you're bettering yourself, yes, it's going to take a lot of physical work. But the biggest driving factor is your mindset and your attitude. Because it sets the foundation for everything else. That's going to come along. When you set a goal, you only see the end results most of the time. And that is why, when you have conversations with your friends or family members, your spouse, whoever may be about goals that you have, or that they have, there's always a big picture. That's usually the end result or the idea of where you want to be. But the work required to get there is typically an afterthought. And honestly, I believe it's severely under estimated. Especially if those goals are life-changing and what I mean by that is. They are not currently a part of your normal daily routine. So, whatever that looks like for you, it's going to be a lifestyle change. Now the question is how do you get out of the one day phase or that dreaming phase? Well, my friend, you have to begin by taking yourself seriously. Own the change you want to happen in your life. These changes could be considered weird or not something that you would normally do. in the eyes of the people that know you. And that might be a little strange for them, which we all get because in, I com with my dancing shoes on one day and just say, Hey, I'm going to start dancing. My husband probably be like, Yeah, but you can't dance. And it's true. I can't, but that doesn't mean that I can't learn. And so even though we might seem really weird to him, to me, if I'm really going to put my mind to it, it's something that I can definitely achieve and do. And the same thing goes for you. So what you want to do, the change that you want to happen in your life, you have to own it. And while they may look weird to someone else, as long as you are serious about this change and you're taking yourself serious, doesn't matter what anyone thinks, even if they laugh at you. And they might even say things like you've changed and Those kinds of comments could make you rethink how you move forward and the next steps of your journey. Because a lot of the times we don't want to be labeled as someone who has changed. but the truth is that in order for you to grow out of something, You have to change something in your life, right? don't let those comments stop you from your growth, especially if it's going to better your life. it might become uncomfortable because we don't like to be associated with change. And especially if it is seeing the coming off in a negative perspective by someone that we know, but here is the truth. There is good change and there is bad change. Good change is something that's going to benefit your life. bad change is going to spirial you down into chaos. And typically when you are striving to live a life of peace and joy, You, my friend are aiming for change. That's going to better your life. So when your friends or your family member, your spouse, they start telling you that you're changing. If you know that it is going to benefit you positively in your life. Don't let those comments stop you from your growth. Remember that when you are doing something out of the ordinary, it's going to be something that you wouldn't normally do. So they technically aren't lying. Because in order for change to happen, Change has to happen. And sometimes staying the same won't fix that. when you are doing something out of the ordinary, it's going to be something that you wouldn't normally do. So in a sense, those comments that are saying you've changed. It's not necessarily a bad thing. And you shouldn't take it as a bad thing. You should acknowledge it and simply say, yes, I've changed. I'm changing. I'm growing. And that's something that you own up and, and try not to run away from, especially when you're getting comments from those who are not understanding it, even if it's coming From a malicious place, you have the opportunity to change that into something positive. By acknowledging that you've changed and expressing how you've enjoyed the changes in your life. And that's how you can take back control of that conversation. The reason why I say that is because if you are taking the time to make these changes in your life, And you're showing up every day, adjusting what is needed, pushing yourself and putting in the work. They're only going to see the results and experience a sliver of your journey what I mean by that is the people you interact with most will be the ones that witnessed the lifestyle change. Everyone else around you is going to only experience a fraction of the work that you did. And they're probably start asking you questions too. Like, what are you been doing different because they want in, and a piece of that win two. So you're probably asking, well, what if no one understands me? For me. I know that when I started this journey and not a lot of people understood. And I was made fun of, because I was not known to be the girl who would go and lift weights or do something hard and challenging. Physically. And so it was kind of a head-scratcher for the people around me and I wanted their support. So I can understand if you would want support from the people around you too. And then there's a disappointment when they don't quite understand why you're doing what you're doing. So. If you're wondering, well, what if no one understands me? The only person. My friend who needs to take you seriously is you and coach. If you decide to hire one, which by the way, if you are searching for a life coach, I'm your girl. My friend, I am a certified life coach through painting miracles, incorporation. And if you are ready to break mindset barriers so that you can meet your goals, tap on the link in the show notes to work with me. No matter how far you are in your journey. I truly believe that everyone needs a coach at some point, even coaches need coaches. So, yes. What if no one understands me? Doesn't matter. You are the only person who needs to take yourself seriously. And the coach that you hire should also be taking you seriously. Another question you might have is how do I get my friends and family to take me seriously? My friend, I have to be honest with you. And say that you cannot get anyone to do anything that they aren't willing or wanting to do. But the moment you take yourself seriously is the day that you set the tone for how others will perceive you. And so, yes, that also means that in the beginning of your journey, you'll be getting comments that can be discouraging. And like I said, those comments might be things like you've changed or for me it was fitness and a lot of people thought I was starving myself, but I wasn't, I was just. Relearning nutrition in a way that would help me understand it and not be so afraid of carbs. Because that's what I was afraid of. And my fitness journey. Those comments definitely made me feel like maybe I am changing too much, but I needed that change. I needed to grow apart from the comfort that I had, and that's how the growth happened. And so the same is true for you. Yes. You've changed those comments that you're getting might. Be cause something that is discouraging to you, but switch it around and make it into something positive. Yes, you've changed. Yes. You're learning and yes, you're growing. they might not get it right away, but they'll be watching you, and you're, either going to inspire them or offend them because you are now in a different league than the ones around you. now don't get it mixed up. Don't get prideful here and fall into the trap that you are now better than the ones who are not doing what you're doing. See, the best influence that you can have is to remain humble and keep leading by example. So yes, in a way you are in a differently, because you've now moved from one day to day one. But you will come across many challenges along the way that is going to put you in a day one category. And that is something also that you should be welcoming in your journey. Okay. So now you have decided to take yourself seriously. You have put aside the fact that you're getting comments from friends and family who don't quite understand. Y you want to have this change in your life. So we're past that now, right? What is our next step? Well, our next step would be to lay out the foundations that are going to include your non-negotiables. Those are goals, daily tasks that you want to aim for every single day. And that's how you begin the process of taking yourself seriously and moving out of that one day phase into. Day one. when you start to lay out these foundations, you'll realize that some of the things that you were doing prior is no longer going to be important in your life enough for you to keep it around. So maybe you start switching things out instead of going straight for a coffee every morning. Perhaps maybe you're taking in more water in the morning and drinking your coffee afterwards. It's about making these small changes or habit stacking as James clear talks about in his book called atomic habits. I highly recommend that book. If you haven't read it yet. It has helped me understand the reason why. I was having these repetitive. Behaviors that were going against the habits that I wanted to build and work into my daily routine. And so. He dives a lot more into it, but I would just say that when you build this solid foundation, make sure it includes your non negotiables and have boundaries. Sometimes when you say no to yourself or your friends, it is not an indefinite no And we have to get ourselves out of the mindset and thinking that when you say no, it means no forever. My friend sometimes no can mean no for now, but maybe yes. Later down the line and that's okay. Because right now you are working on taking yourself seriously. Right? So yes, lay out the foundations, make sure that you are. Committing to habit changes that are realistic for you, and also include these into what makes sense for you in your daily routine. One of the biggest downfall I hear in conversation amongst friends and family. And the reason why they're stuck in a one day. Mindset is because of the inner dialogue that they have with themselves. So my friend would encourage you to focus on your inner dialogue. I think about Proverbs chapter 16, verse 24, I came across it when I was fasting and I was realizing how harsh my words were at this time when I was fasting. And so Proverbs 16, 24, I am reading it from the English standard version. It says gracious words are like a honeycomb sweetness to the soul and health to the body. So I'd have to ask you my friend, are you speaking kindly to yourself in the goals that you want to meet? And while the words of others may not sound like gracious words or sweet, like honey, Are you able to drown them out and focus on the goals that you have at hand? Because ultimately they're not going to be the ones putting in the work that you would be to obtain the goal that you want to make, the changes that you want in your life. So I would encourage you. To speak kindly to yourself. Words of wisdom are spoken with not only truth, but with caution. And what I mean by this is that. you can be honest with yourself without putting yourself down. Yes. Be honest, but don't call yourself names because you've messed up. Don't call yourself names because someone else called you that name for changing we're moving past that, right? That's what this episode is about. taking yourself seriously and moving past one day, because today is day one. When you began to take yourself seriously. Others will follow suit. Now it might not happen right away, but it will eventually cause they're going to see the changes that you've been doing. The goals that you've been meeting, how much peace is now in your life, how much joy you have. And I'm not going to lie. Everybody wants peace and joy in their life. We are all searching for peace and joy in our life. But where does this peace and joy come from? It's exciting and, and exhilarating when we are meeting our goals and. Being able to stay in a routine and break bad habits. But my friend. Let me remind you to keep your eyes on Jesus. Because it is in him where you find rest, it is in him, where there is so much. Joy. And peace, despite all the things that are going on. So yes, work towards your goal work towards those habit changes that you want to happen. Move past the one day phase and get into the day one phase. but do not do it without. God. Do not do it without him because he is going to be. What truly in ultimately sustains you when you are at your lowest of lows on your journey. yes its hard in the midst of all the things that's happening because outside our goals. They're still life. That you have to live, but don't live it without God. And yes, it's hard. It's so much easier said than done, but my friend, you can do hard things. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to listen in on this episode. I meant what I said. You can do hard things, so don't let the daily challenges stop you from reaching your greatest potential. If you are ready to take the next step in your journey and are finding that you are in need of help and would like someone to keep you accountable, call I would love to offer you my life coaching services. Click on the link in the show notes to get started there. You will also find links to my social media pages where you're able to connect with me as well. My friends, I look forward to speaking with you again next week here on the restored mind podcast. Go in peace.