Why is it that menopause often feels like a secret struggle women endure alone? Join me, Queen, as we embark on a raw, heartfelt exploration of menopause's emotional and physical rollercoaster. We'll uncover what it means to say goodbye to monthly menstruation and how this significant life transition can reshape a woman's identity. We look at the critical role mothers, aunties, and grandmothers play in demystifying menstruation for young girls, setting the stage for how they’ll later approach menopause. This episode is not just about biology; it's about shared experiences and the stories that shape our understanding of womanhood.
Menopause isn’t just hot flashes and mood swings—it’s a profound shift felt in the heart and home. We dive into the unspoken mental and emotional challenges women face, from heightened stress to fluctuations in sex drive, and how these changes ripple through their relationships. This candid conversation aims to foster empathy, especially from men who might be puzzled by their partners' transformations. By sharing insights and personal experiences, we call for patience, support, and a deeper understanding of this life stage. Tune in for an honest, compassionate discussion that promises to bridge the gap between confusion and comprehension.
Why is it that menopause often feels like a secret struggle women endure alone? Join me, Queen, as we embark on a raw, heartfelt exploration of menopause's emotional and physical rollercoaster. We'll uncover what it means to say goodbye to monthly menstruation and how this significant life transition can reshape a woman's identity. We look at the critical role mothers, aunties, and grandmothers play in demystifying menstruation for young girls, setting the stage for how they’ll later approach menopause. This episode is not just about biology; it's about shared experiences and the stories that shape our understanding of womanhood.
Menopause isn’t just hot flashes and mood swings—it’s a profound shift felt in the heart and home. We dive into the unspoken mental and emotional challenges women face, from heightened stress to fluctuations in sex drive, and how these changes ripple through their relationships. This candid conversation aims to foster empathy, especially from men who might be puzzled by their partners' transformations. By sharing insights and personal experiences, we call for patience, support, and a deeper understanding of this life stage. Tune in for an honest, compassionate discussion that promises to bridge the gap between confusion and comprehension.
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Welcome to A Queen's Opinion. My name is Queen, my voice, my opinion and your listening ears and your listening ears. We are continuing our opinion on health and wellness, and this episode is called menopause. Do you wonder why it's called menopause? Could it be that when a man realizes that his woman is going through this tremendous change in her body, Her behaviors or moods change hair falling out short-tempered these changes can make a man pause and ask themselves the question. You know the question should I trade her in for a new model or not? Trade her in for a new model or not? Menopause can be confusing for both men and women. To some men, they can't handle a woman going through such a life-changing event. Some men complain that their partner is too sensitive or she is mean as hell. I understand why some men may feel this way. Maybe they're not taking the time to understand what she is going through. So I wanted to take just a little bit of time to give our men an inside peek into what it means to go through menopause. I want to share three main points of menopause from a woman's perspective.
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What does menopause mean to a woman? First, the monthly menstruation period stops, or the monthly friend, as my grandmother called it stops coming. This is a blessing to some women because we don't have to worry about getting pregnant. Our bodies stop releasing eggs to be fertilized. We don't have a need to purchase feminine products every month because the friend stopped coming. On the other hand, it is scary and very sad because you realize you can never birth children again. Some women feel child birthing is one of the main justifications that make you a woman and separates you from being a man. Women are caught in a weird spot, realizing menstruation timeframes. When it starts, we are way too young. I wanted to say that slow we are way too young.
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Menstruation can start as early as 10. Yes, you heard me correctly as early as 10 years old. At this age, children and girls don't understand why this is happening to them and what it means. It's also the time mothers, aunties and grandmothers have to sit the young child down to answer all the questions and explain how to take care of your monthly friend requirements. We are told that now you are moving to a stage, stage one of becoming a big girl. We explain what private parts are on their bodies. We tell them that they are going to be a big girl, but they have to go through step one first, and there are many steps to becoming a big girl. And now they will experience step one and mama will guide them through the process. We teach them about all the feminine products available and how to use them. Regarding their friend as you can imagine, fathers are not part of this conversation and how to use them. Regarding their friend as you can imagine, fathers are not part of this conversation. It makes them so uncomfortable to think about their daughter or granddaughter starting their administration. This is when men get their first glance at the process.
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For women, during this menstruation journey, Our hormones are raging and behaviors begin to change. Fathers are going to be challenged, for sure, by all the women in the house. Number two what happens to a woman's behavior or moods, mental and physical changes during menopause? Just asking this question is triggering, because we just want understanding from people around us, not questions. We get cranky and patience is short yes, very short. Sometimes we are feeling stressed out. We're feeling stressed about everything from the job kids, husbands, the house, pets, friends just everything. Our hormones are taking over the body and our sex drive has changed baby.
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Now we are stressed about the husbands yes, you, the husbands. Why? Well, we know his patience is wearing thin and he might be asking the question about trading in the old model wife for a new girlfriend. He wants more sex, or asking you to keep the current flow in the bedroom, but you have no desire to have sex or make love. Both of these activities are a no for you. We understand how important sex is to a relationship, so we do what we have to do to keep that damn peace.
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Men don't realize that our bodies are not producing that sugar and honey elixir they are used to in the bedroom. Our sex drive is not the same. In addition to our bodies not producing the bedroom elixir, we are peeing more often, having hot flashes and sweating out our clothes and hair. This alone would make anybody frustrated, irritable, mad, upset, sad and depressed. So we ran to the doctor's office to seek a little relief for the menopause symptoms. He tells you hot flashes and sweating is all normal for menopause. You need to drink more water and stay hydrated. And in regards to sex, oh my goodness, just get some lubricant from the drugstore for moisture. What the hell? That's what I'm thinking right. Then, finally, he writes you a prescription for hormone replacement to help you stabilize your hormones and hopefully increase your six drive, irritability and energy. We can get a break. Your six drive, irritability and energy. We can't get a break. And in the same fashion, the hairstylist tells us our hair is thinning. Your hair is thinning, it's dry. Ooh, it look like it's falling out. What All these changes are due to menopause. Our hormones are taking over the body and the mind. Anxiety or depression has kicked in and we don't know if we are coming or going. We feel lost and alone because we think no one understands how we feel. Our mind is cloudy and it takes us a few minutes longer to receive, analyze and respond to questions. Our mind is saying please get the fuck out of my face right now, but we respond with a more pleasing and acceptable answer.
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Number three what does a woman need as she goes through menopause? What do we need? She needs patience, understanding and that unconditional love. She needs to know that she has a man by her side that is going to be understanding when she tells him I'm not in the mood to make love. Or she may say something like I don't feel like making love or having sex tonight, something like I don't feel like making love or having sex tonight. She needs a man to step up and help her out a little bit more, just a little bit more. In the house, you can prepare dinner for the kids. You can wash the clothes, dry them, separate them and put them up. She may ask you to even help the kids with their homework. Take them to the practice, football, cheerleading, soccer, tutoring, wherever they need to go Just do. What does a woman need? What does a woman need as she is going through menopause? She needs your support with all aspects of her life. She needs to know that you are going to be her ride or die man by her side. You won't judge her, criticize her or drop her for a new young thing. What does a woman need? She needs you to understand that she is changing physically and mentally. She needs you to understand that she has no control over her body changing. This is something that all women go through. What does a woman need? She needs you to give her grace.
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Do you wonder why it's called menopause? The word meno means month in Greek and meno means minus or less in Latin. The word pause means to interrupt. This is what menopause does to our lives. Menopause interrupts our bodies from head to toe, left side, right side, front and back. Menopause causes our minds to pause and put cloudy thoughts in our heads. Menopause puts a pause in all areas of our lives, every day, month and year. Well, my opinion is this Menopause means a monthly pause or monthly interruption of life as we know it. We must learn to adapt to the change and start a new phase of our lives. A new phase of our lives.
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