Lindsey and Britt's Melbourne Adventures – Sound System Culture, Mick Harvey, and Mystery Picnics

Lindsey and Britt are back with another exciting episode, sharing their recent experiences in Melbourne, Australia.

First, they talk about a fun scavenger hunt picnic made by Amazing CO., where they explored Melbourne neighborhoods while solving clues and enjoying delicious vegan snacks. Amazing Co operates in several cities all over the world! Check them out.

Britt also shares his experience attending a sound system event, a widespread cultural phenomenon that started in Jamaica and now across the world, which involves dancing to music played through a massive sound system. Learn all about sound system culture HERE and HERE.

But it's not all fun and games. As parents, Lindsey and Britt also discuss their struggles to find alone time and prioritize their health amidst busy schedules and parental responsibilities. They share some helpful tips and insights on how to make time for self-care and why it's so important.
They also express their love for cute Australian slang, adding extra fun to their travels.

The amazing NTP Jamie Jett has given loads of gut health tips to Britt and Lindsey, including the Adrenal Cocktails they mention in the ep. Listen to her recent interview HERE and take a look at her services HERE.

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Transcript

Lindsey: 0:15

Hello everyone and welcome to yet another episode of the Can We Start Over podcast. My name is Lindsay and my name is Brit and we're coming to you from bed cuz it's cold where we are in Australia.

Britt: 0:29

And it's a mighty comfortable bed, I must say.

Lindsey: 0:31

And there's really no other workable space here because our child is sleeping in the room by the kitchen. And the living room is where some other children that we know well because there are other children, that's where they're chilling. And the bathroom's kind of small. So we're here. Yeah. In bed. In

Britt: 0:51

bed. It's pretty nice. We're just holding these mics, so if it sounds a little noisy. Sorry. Sorry. We're holding the mics in the bed. Yeah. Yeah. So today, uh, it is just a little freestyle just to let you know how we've been, what we've been up to, how we're feeling.

Lindsey: 1:06

Yeah, it was fun. It was fun. I'm glad every time we do one like this, I realize that it's been a little while since we just like talked. Yeah. Other than in bed for a few minutes in the evening or the morning or when we're trying to talk at any point in the day and we're constantly interrupted by three kids.

Britt: 1:24

Right. We used to like, Have fun like friends, you know, and like chat about shit. We now, it's kind of hard. It's like our other asshole friends are like yelling at us, but dude, bro, check this

Lindsey: 1:34

out. Imagine we're trying to say something funny to each other, or even just interesting or even just dumb. And then every 30 seconds someone's like, Hey mom. So like, um, you know that one episode of Ducktails. You know, you know that one episode of Dog Tales? Why? Why do you think that? Like soil grows vegetables

Britt: 2:00

and you know what, I love that they ask so many

Lindsey: 2:02

questions. It's amazing. It's great. It's so good. I love

Britt: 2:05

their questions, but it can be annoying when we're trying to, um, have a relationship with each other. You

Lindsey: 2:11

know, wife, I wouldn't call it annoying. Yeah, I would just say, and I guess it can be annoying. I would just say it's. Uh, a little distracting. It's a distraction. Yeah. Yeah. And then in the evening, we're kind of tired, so then we go to bed and then we talk on a podcast and we share it with you. Yeah. So that's what we did with this episode. Pretty loose. Just chatting. We need to re

Britt: 2:35

revisit our own relationship episode maybe. Yeah, yeah.

Lindsey: 2:38

It's true. Take our, it's about time. Yeah. Take our own advice. Thanks for being here. It really means a lot and we love sharing these with you. Um, we love your feedback. Also, let us know what episodes do you like most. Do you like the travel episodes? Do you like the interviews? Do you like the one-on-ones where we just chat? We wanna hear what you like, and if you're feeling this, send it to a friend. Rate it, review it on Apple podcasts. That stuff really helps. It really helps it get seen and that's how why, how, why we can keep doing this darn thing and sharing with everyone. Our little journey. She's right. So Britt and I, over the last couple weeks have really been paying a lot more attention to our health and our nutrition. We worked with Jamie Jet, who is a nutritional therapy practitioner. You might have heard her on a recent episode. It was really good. She gave us a bunch of simple tips on how we can love our gut and be more healthy, and we've been making these awesome adrenal cocktails for the afternoon, and it's not like fear and loathing where we have to get someone's adrenal clans. It's really simple. A little cocktail that you take in the afternoon to give yourself that afternoon en energy boost. I'll actually share it in the show notes, but one thing that we are adding to it is collagen. Collagen is hard to find vegan because a lot of collagen, as you know, a vegan, and that's why I love moon juice collagen. It's only three ingredients. It's completely vegan. It's so good, and it's 35% off right now. So y'all, if you're looking for vegan collagen, Get on it. Moon juice, limited time, only 35% off. Find it in the show notes. And the good thing about shopping in our show notes is that when you buy something from there, we get a little kickback and it helps keep this podcast going, so we really appreciate it. Again, moon Juice, 35% off that collagen right now. It's awesome. It's all vegan. You should try

Britt: 4:53

it. All right. Are you, what do you say? We just get to the show now. Let's do it. I don't think this is gonna work. Why

Lindsey: 5:01

is it okay? What is wrong with this other than you? There we go. Ooh. Isn't that like the question of all of life? What's wrong with this other than you? Anything we're making wrong? It's like, ugh,

Britt: 5:17

what is wrong? What a shit way to look at the world. No, it's not though.

Lindsey: 5:20

Why? No, it's not. It's taking full accountability and responsibility for your experience. Mm. Because anytime we're feeling shitty about something, it's like, oh, well, what is wrong with this other than me? Mm

Britt: 5:32

mm

Lindsey: 5:33

Oh, it's like nothing. It's only you. Yeah, I guess so. It's whatever you're. Uh, perception. You're placing on top of experience. Yeah. What is wrong with this other than you? Mm.

Britt: 5:50

Well, welcome everybody to the freestyle edition. Uh, we are comfy in a bed right now, and it's gonna be a little rough and tumble. We're just hand holding these microphones. I'm hoping it works out, but you know what? I can't be bothered to get outta bed right now. So

Lindsey: 6:12

we're in the depths of winter. We are. It is almost winter and that is still something that I just don't understand how I thought. I understood like, like I think I understand Earth and it has a shape. And it has a sun that would be closer to some places and further away from other places at different times. But really, I don't get it. Yeah. How is it

Britt: 6:41

winter? We're in Australia. That's how I don't think we explained that to anyone before.

Lindsey: 6:48

What is wrong with this country? Other than me?

Britt: 6:54

Not a whole lot. So far I'm really enjoying it here.

Lindsey: 6:58

Yeah, it's nice. It is great. And I'm cold. Yeah.

Britt: 7:03

Uh, well we came here, um, one week ago, a little less than a week ago, and we came from, uh, sunny. Uh, where were we? Thailand. Yeah, we were in Thailand. We were in Thailand. It's hard for me to remember because I think I blocked a lot of it out. Aw. It wasn't the worst experience, but, uh, everything that was wrong there, it was me. It wasn't, it wasn't Thailand. Thailand's doing fine on its own without

Lindsey: 7:30

me. The thing about it, we might've already talked about this last week, but. The thing about it is where we were is just so for tourists. Yeah. And where we're we? Were not in the tourist mood. So when everything requires a cab ride and a this and a that, and you're not in the mood because you've been on a vacation for the last seven months and you kind of just wanna be able to walk to where you need to go or, or anything, it's. I'm over it.

Britt: 8:04

Yeah. Also, um, I'm just like a little soft and it was hot and humid there and I was not feeling that 85 and humid is like 110

Lindsey: 8:16

in Texas. You're like, 1000% a dad like sweaty back of your shirt. Oh man. You need to get, man, you need to get some of those fishing shirts that have the um, oh yeah, the air condition Air con in the back.

Britt: 8:31

I will fully become your dad. Yeah. No, that's weird. Happy Father's Day, everyone. Uh, we're recording this on Father's Day in the US somewhere. Um, we're actually in the future, so it's not Father's Day here in

Lindsey: 8:44

Australia. And also they don't even do Father's Day right now. They do it probably in when it's nice outside, so everyone's happy.

Britt: 8:51

Yeah, that would make more sense. Uh, but yeah, that's what we're doing. We've had a great week or I've had a great week. How about you? Has this been all right?

Lindsey: 9:01

It's been okay. It has been good.

Britt: 9:04

Well, let me tell everybody about the amazing things we've done before you shit on it. Um, uh, for Father's Day, Lindsay got us a, the whole family. A scavenger hunt picnic. It was really cool. We get, uh, on the phone and the phone asks us, uh, questions and we answer these questions and it tells us where to go. And we go pick up food at a place, and then we look for another question on the phone and it points us to another place across town. And we spent a whole day gathering food for a picnic, and then we ate it. How fun. It was

Lindsey: 9:41

great. Uh, it's called Amazing Co and this was the first place we've done it, but they have this same style of, it's called a mystery picnic. They have it. You can do it like all over the world. So next time you're traveling in a city or maybe even in your home city and you just are looking for something to do, look for Amazing Co. See if they have one in your area. And it was really fun, and especially the eight year old twins. Loved solving the clues. Yeah, it

Britt: 10:10

was good. Uh, the neighborhood that we're staying in, it's called St. Kilda. It's by the beach, but as we said, it's too damn cold for the beach. We do go there every day though, just to look at it and. It's nice,

Lindsey: 10:25

send it our well wishes, fixes

Britt: 10:27

something in me every time for

Lindsey: 10:29

sure. Water, go down there. Gotta look at water.

Britt: 10:31

Yeah, stare

Lindsey: 10:32

at water. That's like a proven thing that I saw on Instagram, so you know, it's for real. And that is that sta looking at water, it's probably all nature, but like specifically water, um, is very good for your nervous system and. You should look at water, natural water, not like water in a cup. Bullshit.

Britt: 10:54

That might work. Water in a cup's gonna be just fine. All water ends up in a cup, right? No,

Lindsey: 11:03

most water never ends up in a cup.

Britt: 11:05

You're probably right. Anyway, this neighborhood's really cool. It's very walkable. There's lots of food. There's lots of toasties and pokies. Toasty is a sandwich here. Uh, when I asked what a toasty was, they looked at me like I was crazy. They're like, it's stuff between two pieces of bread. I'm like, well, isn't that interesting? I'd call that a sandwich where I'm from. Uh, and then I said, well, here, riddle me this. What's a pokey? I keep seeing that on signs and that's poker or, um, or actually slap machines or anything in that room of pokey. Huh A pokey room. So they got pokies and toasties here. Um, they call sweats, jockeys, maybe, or trackies. Trackies. They call'em trackies. Uh, everything has a cute little e on the end. Yeah, everything. I e and I love that, love that about it. It makes so much, it makes everything fun. I'm like, I feel like I'm in a better mood because I get to say things real cute here. And I say it with a smirk on my face as if everyone's in on the joke, but that's just what they call stuff here. So I probably just seem weird.

Lindsey: 12:13

You absolutely seem weird. And also, uh, I think if you were in any other place, you wouldn't like cute little names. I think you're right. Why does it

Britt: 12:24

work so well here? I

Lindsey: 12:25

think you just want to be here.

Britt: 12:27

You're right. I did want to be here. A lot of my favorite music comes from here, so I thought like, there must be something in the water. I think I need to go to Melbourne. And so far it's worked out. I did hang out with Mick Harvey from the birthday party, the Bad Seeds.

Lindsey: 12:44

So Fi I'm sorry. You should finish. Oh, should I then have an

Britt: 12:48

important question to ask? Oh, should I finish that? Okay, cool. Well, he is uh, uh, one of my favorite musicians and I got to hang out, ask him questions. Drink some wine and that was that. Pretty cool. The next night I got to go see El Grand Mono. It's a sound system. If you're not familiar with sound systems, look'em up. Uh, this one was, uh, originated from Columbia where all the, uh, there's like a whole sound system culture there that's been going on since the fifties or sixties. And look him up there. There's one guy that does all these amazing paintings on the sound systems. And that's what I did. Those were two things that were so Melbourne for me and I got to do them all in the first week that we

Lindsey: 13:31

were here. That's amazing. I have a multiple part response. Okay. Gimme one

Britt: 13:36

at a time cuz I'm kind of dumb.

Lindsey: 13:38

I. No one's gonna look up what a sound system is. Tell'em.

Britt: 13:43

Well, it is, uh, it could be a lot of things. Uh, they started in the Caribbean, so like in Jamaica where DJs would put together these giant stacks of speakers and play music on them. Uh, it's called a dance. It's where people go and dance to the music. And that's also kind of what sparked hip hop in the United States. When sound systems went to the United States, DJ Kher, all those dudes set up speakers out in the street, they would play the breaks on records, uh, on repeat, and MCs would come up. Do a little wrap. That's how Wrappin started. It's called toasting in Jamaica. I could go on about this for a long time, but I don't think y'all need me to. Anyway, a similar thing was happening in Colombia and they still have a bunch of sound systems there, and they play this badass Colombian music, and the thing that I saw was kind of a mixture of both.

Lindsey: 14:40

So a sound system is a bunch of speakers mm-hmm. That someone puts together. Mm-hmm. And then they battle another sound

Britt: 14:47

system. Not always, but that is what happened the other night and happens a lot. Yeah. There was a second sound system there. Um, I won't name it because I didn't think they were good. So I won't tell you what it was called, but they were playing the Jamaican music that I like, but it just wasn't the right music to get the dance going. So

Lindsey: 15:06

yeah. Sounds like you need to make your own sound system. I do. But the thing about sound systems Yeah. Is like the like it's like this Click and crew Yeah. Thing. It becomes a whole crew. So if you just say it's a bunch of speakers, someone might be like, like, that's stupid, but it's. It's all of it. And it was at a time when like it's a big deal at time and places where it was a big deal. Like not everybody has speakers, right? Mm-hmm. And not everybody had access to music like we do now. Yeah. So it was an incredibly important to have a really cool sound system. Yeah. That then you could battle people with and it, yeah. It becomes like this whole click

Britt: 15:48

around it. Yeah. It was a DIY thing to get a party going. And you know what, I'll, we'll go ahead in the show notes and put some links to some, some info just so you can research it for yourself cuz it's worth it. It's a whole lot of fun.

Lindsey: 16:01

Yeah, it's very

Britt: 16:03

cool. Yeah. And in the US we don't have sound systems like that. I mean, I'm sure they're around, but it's probably in New York. Yeah. Yeah. But the culture's not as big there as it is in other places. Australia has a lot of sound systems. Um, London, that Yeah, it's big European thing. Columbia, Texas, not so much.

Lindsey: 16:23

They're not doing it at

Britt: 16:24

Billy Bob's not at Bill. I mean, they got a sound system, but it's honking something different. I can tell you that second part of my response. Yeah.

Lindsey: 16:35

Should have forgot. I'm really glad. You got to have more than one like musical experience in a few days because I know that's really important for you and it keeps you inspired and like keeps you going. So I think that's really cool and I'm really glad you're in Melbourne. Third part, I also forgot, damn, that's why I should

Britt: 16:58

write note. I was waiting for the butt there, but you left your family at home alone without food or electricity. To do so

Lindsey: 17:06

we had to wait in the Uber for

Britt: 17:09

seven hours. Seven hours. Well, daddy was dancing. Daddy went dancing. Never came

Lindsey: 17:15

home. You really might have, I do wanna think of it, but it might take me a minute. That's okay. Okay. Now I remember. Okay. This part of the response is actually a question. What's his name from the birthday party? Mick Harvey. Mick Harvey. So did he help Pen the Happy Birthday song with the sisters that wrote it or is that something else?

Britt: 17:43

I don't know anything about sisters, but yes, he did. Write. Happy Birthday. Happy Happy birthday. Happy. Happy birthday. Happy. Happy. Happy birthday. Birthday. You know the one, everybody sings it. Birthday parties. Dun Pablos. Dun Pablos.

Lindsey: 17:58

Okay, cool. Well, now I know who he is. Yeah, he wrote Happy Birthday. Mm-hmm. That's the one I tell

Britt: 18:01

people. The singer in that band was a guy called Nick Cave. You may have heard of that one too. Heard of him. Heard of him. Yeah. So cool. Yeah. Got to do that. Uh, so yesterday. Oh, okay. Well, here, let me backtrack. The first day we got here, almost immediately we made some friends. Oh, that was cool. Um, just like what happened to us in Ohio, we got a phone number. As soon as we got to town, we were eating at a nice little vegetarian restaurant down the street. Sister of Soul or Sisters of Soul can't remember, but it was tasty.

Lindsey: 18:35

I think it, I think it's the Happy Birthday Sisters. The Happy Birthday

Britt: 18:37

Sisters of Soul of Soul

Lindsey: 18:39

and, uh, the Happy Birthday party. Sisters of Soul. Yeah.

Britt: 18:43

Uh, featuring that cave. You're right. So we met some friends there with a little baby around the same age as Otis. And yesterday we went and went to a play place with them and our kids hung out and it was like an art museum slash play place for kids. And we had a dang blast. Yeah. We did that. And then we went to Luna Park. It's kind of like, uh, Coney Island. It's inspired by Po. Coney Island and it's over a hundred years old. So it's uh, very similar actually. It's like carnival rides. Yeah. And a little park. And that was really cool. But what an exhausting day. It's uh, it's only around noon here, and I've already taken a nap today. That's how hard we went yesterday. How appropriate that is for Father's Day. Daddy took a nap at 9:30 AM Yeah.

Lindsey: 19:32

Yeah. You had a whole Father's Day weekend extravaganza. I did. Yeah. I am loving that. It's extremely walkable here. Mm-hmm. I am loving a grocery store. That was a challenge in Thailand, although we didn't up finding a grocery store. That was pretty, that was pretty good. Yeah. But this one's very good. Uh, so I'm loving being able to walk to the grocery store. Mm-hmm. We can go get coffee in the morning, we can go to the park. We really honestly haven't even left this neighborhood this week, except, well you did. Yeah, a couple times,

Britt: 20:07

but, and for the picnic we did too. Took a tram to,

Lindsey: 20:11

um, the very next neighborhood over. Yeah. Forgot

Britt: 20:15

what it was called. But yeah, we did do that. Uh, that's another thing. There's public transit here. That is really nice. You just hop on a tram and go to the other side

Lindsey: 20:24

of town. Yeah. But yeah, we've been here a week and we actually haven't done a lot of exploring. I had no idea how big Melbourne was. I had no idea how many people lived here. Almost, uh, more than 5 million people live here. For anyone who gives a crap about. Boring facts, but that's more than Los Angeles. Mm-hmm. And that's a lot. That's big. It also doesn't feel that busy here, but we've only really been in one neighborhood. Yeah, you're right. So we haven't done, we haven't done a lot of the things we haven't. We're gonna do a lot. We're gonna be here for a month. We're gonna see a lot of it. And yeah. I think of the looming thing, the only thing that takes me out of the, the only. Problem with this is myself. Mm-hmm. The only thing that takes me out of it is I do have this kind of looming, where are we gonna end up? Yeah. And I think you're feeling that too. Definitely. And I don't know why we can't just drop that and be like, we're here. Let's just finish out this experience and love it and let it feel good. I'm just feeling this like. Underlying, okay, let's figure out where we're gonna be. And it must just be like consistently moving further away, further into the unknown and further away from any familiarity. Yeah. That makes it like. Where I, I'm just kind of always get this little undercurrent of anxiety or something. Yeah,

Britt: 22:06

I totally understand that. And I feel like if we were in another place, I probably wouldn't be doing as good as I am right now, to be honest, cuz I'm feeling that as well and I'm like, woke up this morning worried about money also. Like where are we gonna go? Have we found the place we wanna live? How's all this gonna work out? And it was, it just felt like a heavy weight on me. Another reason I took a nap felt pretty recharged after that though, and haven't been worried about it. Also, Otis woke up around 2:00 AM last night or this morning, uh, which is about the time you have that big, uh, what cortisol dump. Oh yeah. So it, it was just a, a rough early morning

Lindsey: 22:47

for me. Yeah, it was difficult for me to go back to sleep too. Yeah. And yeah, I think there has to be, there's like wisdom in anxiety and there is even wisdom and worry, but it's not the way we think it is. Like, it doesn't mean like, oh, I should keep worrying because that's gonna fix anything that's worrying. It's never fixed anything. But there's some kind of wisdom. The wisdom is that, okay, something's making me feel off balance. I really need to tend to that. So I probably actually need to slow down and like check in with my body, check in with my feelings, get quiet and stop trying to figure things out and stop trying to like map out this scenario in my head. Yeah. That's just like the worry and the anxiety getting a job. And so it's like on this hamster wheel, the wisdom is taking that out and going like, okay, there's something for me to learn here, but it's not in the hamster wheel of worry.

Britt: 23:58

Mm. Yeah. I feel you there sometimes that's hard to do. Yeah, it can be. Yeah. Uh, but I, I have been pretty good at distracting myself from it here. Yeah. But there's lots of cake shops. Distraction.

Lindsey: 24:14

Distraction doesn't actually make it go away. I agree. It's really taking the time to be like, okay. And, and I think we get scared that if we pay attention to it, that it's gonna become this big. All encompassing thing and that's just not true. Yeah. You like let something pass through and you feel it and you like explore it in your body and then it's just done. Yeah. You can even, and you can even find like, oh, it's connected to this childhood experience or this way that I'm scared that I won't be provided for. And then once you have clarity, it's like, oh, okay, now I can let that worry go. Yeah. But we get scared of. We as humans, I'll say I, I can get scared of letting the worry go, let it, like I get scared that it's gonna be too big for me to feel, and that's just not true. And not possible.

Britt: 25:09

Yeah. Another source of anxiety here is that we're staying in an old building. It's like a fourplex, right? With wooden floors. We're on the top floor and the first day that we were here, we got a, a note on a dry erase board in the common area that we were treating This place like a park or what, what was it? Some, some,

Lindsey: 25:35

it's just a, it's a shitty message, please. Please stop running and jumping upstairs. This is not a playground. This is not a playground. And it does have, so actually this is, it's the funny thing about Airbnbs because I'm pretty sure it doesn't say anywhere in this description that this is a house where you need to be quiet. And I will preface all of this by, we're also feeling anxiety. So any critique is gonna make us that more anxious. I think we're feeling out of place and not safe. So then a critique is like, it hits harder, you know? Yeah, yeah. This house is totally set up for kids. It has toys in the living room, toys in the kitchen, a kid's bedroom. When you look at the pictures, you're like, that's for kids. And it is. But once we got here, there's multiple, there's two, at least two little notes in different parts of the house that say, please, Be quiet in the house, respect our neighbors. No loud noises in the hallway and fair, but also the space is set up for kids. Yeah.

Britt: 26:45

And this, like I said, it's an old house with wood floors, like you can hear everything. So I, I mean, even if we're walking. They can hear it. They can hear it. They can hear it. And you know, I really wanted to write something like Your mom's a playground or just something really shitty. But I did, you know what we did? We let our eight year old write the word sorry,

Lindsey: 27:04

which is still passive aggressive. It is totally passive aggressive. Should, I don't think

Britt: 27:08

we should have done that. Probably shouldn't have done, done that, but that's okay. But it was

Lindsey: 27:11

pretty funny, funny. Eli wanted, or Eli wanted to apologize. And that's okay. And if someone wants to write a note, that's fine. It's not like they're coming to bang on our door. And even if they did that, they can choose to do that. Yeah. I think, again, going back to we are already like feeling this low level anxiety running, so then a critique gives it something to latch onto and it's like, see, you're right. You're, you're not safe. Mm. It's not safe, but it's really funny to try to tell a two year old to stop running or

Britt: 27:44

jumping. Yeah. Funny's a strange word for that, but Yeah, absolutely. I do. I mean, you know, and there's. In your head whenever there's like conflict, you always go through like the shittiest scenarios. So I'm like, what if she comes up here? What am I gonna tell her to like, Hey you, can you tell this two year old something? Let's see what he does. You know? Just try. Yeah, just try it and fucking try do it. But really this person probably isn't even thinking about us anymore. I'm just,

Lindsey: 28:09

it's so true. And making

Britt: 28:11

it a bigger problem

Lindsey: 28:12

in my head. Yeah. That's what our brains do to try to, it's all about trying to keep us safe so they're, our brains are like, Let me, let me already run through this, these five worst case scenarios so you have a playbook for it. Right. And, and I don't need that. Um, and literally like you could always just say, what's the absolute worst thing that could happen in this situation?

Britt: 28:38

We get kicked out and have to go get a new Airbnb. You know what? No big deal. That's not that big of a deal. Oh

Lindsey: 28:44

yeah. It's not big deal at all. Yeah. And why they can't kick someone out for walking through. So that would, you know, it's not like they would kick us out and be like, and you don't get your money back cuz they just can't

Britt: 28:55

do that. Right. I think I just take it personally and that that's been my whole life. I just like have always taken criticism per personally and try not to, but you know, sometimes

Lindsey: 29:06

it still happens. Yeah. Well it's like an opportunity to stop and. Take care of ourselves instead of letting it always be out, out, out, out. External validation. Right. And, and acknowledging, oh, that like, kind of hurts my feelings, or that makes me feel less than. Mm-hmm. Because we don't wanna give ourselves that because we've been taught that it's, we don't need it. It's stupid. It's silly. You're a, uh, Piece of shit. You're a little bitch for having feelings. Um, especially men, you know. So to be someone who then

Britt: 29:46

Happy Father's Day,

Lindsey: 29:47

bitches. Yeah, especially men are taught that. So then to, it is just, it comes out expressed in other ways where then we turn, turn it onto someone else of that person.

Britt: 29:59

That was a joke. I would never call anyone a bitch. Unless they were a female dog being a little bitch like our dog.

Lindsey: 30:10

Yeah. So that's what's happening here? Yeah. Oh, in this apartment.

Britt: 30:14

One other thing. There are penguins

Lindsey: 30:17

here. We haven't seen any of though. No. Allegedly there are penguins. We haven't seen any of the Australian animals. And we will. No,

Britt: 30:25

we have, we, there's love birds everywhere. There's parrots. Parrots. Parrots. That's it. And ma uh, mags. But we went to see the penguins and the pier is closed off for construction. Um, and that's where they live is under the pier. So you have to take

Lindsey: 30:40

a boat. Yeah. Which we didn't do yet. And we'll go to the other part where you can see penguins and kangaroos and koalas and we'll do all of that.

Britt: 30:48

Right. We thought a little boat trauma in the last few weeks, so we're probably gonna hold off for a minute. Tear

Lindsey: 30:54

going on

Britt: 30:55

a boat, going on a rickety, uh, Thai long sailboat. Really messed him up. They all asked if we were gonna die, not the two year old. He can't say

Lindsey: 31:07

things like that and I don't think he understands the concept of death. Yeah. But he did cry,

Britt: 31:15

uh, anyway. Not going on a boat just yet, but, we'll, we'll figure it out. I wanna go on a boat. I wanna go see some more stuff. I want to be on a boat all the time. Mostly, yeah. But we'll figure that out later too. Uh, so it's around 50 degrees here and rainy. Uh, we have to do a lot of conversion because the United States is weird and still uses the imperial imperialist system. I don't know what they call it. I have no idea. Feet and miles and Fahrenheit, all that dumb shit no one else uses. So I sound like an idiot when I try to talk about measurement here. Uh, but yeah, it's a little chilly and that's lame. Still not as cold as it gets in Fort Worth. So that's, that's cool for me. Yeah. No ice and

Lindsey: 32:01

snow, which doesn't happen that often in Texas either or only for like a week happens. It's too much.

Britt: 32:08

Happens too damn much. Uh, but yeah, that's where we're

Lindsey: 32:13

at. Um, okay. Here's something I wanna ask you, Britt. Okay. Here's something I wanna ask you. What is something you're excited about?

Britt: 32:26

In life

Lindsey: 32:27

or anything Oh, ooh. Or something that you're looking forward to?

Britt: 32:34

God, I wouldn't have said this until recently, but I'm looking forward to living somewhere. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. I need to, I want a house. I want my own space. I want a job. I want a routine. I wanna make music. Yeah. That's where I'm at. I want my kids to have a place that's very important. Yeah. And I know they're feeling it. They're actually doing really well right now. They're

Lindsey: 33:01

like, loving it here. Yeah. And yeah, they're, they're seeming great. I think that I really can see how I. We're come, like how we can balance and be not how we were, where it was just so separate and go, go, go and like no time together, but where we can still also have our own space and time and yeah. I, I can, like, I have that vision now for what that looks like. That's good. I

Britt: 33:36

guess that's a step forward.

Lindsey: 33:38

Yeah. Because when you say you want a job, I mean, what do you mean by that?

Britt: 33:45

Um, I don't necessarily mean a money maker, but of course I do need that. I, but I just, uh, more than that, I feel like I need to spend my time creating something. Mm-hmm. Or working towards something. I

Lindsey: 34:04

need a little work. Yeah. Uhhuh. And that's been challenging for us to do on this trip. Yeah. And I think both of us thought we're gonna work on our creative projects and we're gonna do this and that, and then that just hasn't actually really been the case so much because that's, it feels hard to do in the mix of everything else happening. Yeah.

Britt: 34:30

And then in a lot of these places, we're moving around. Uh, to different houses every week. Well, we were

Lindsey: 34:36

for a while.

Britt: 34:36

Yeah. Yeah. And in some of these places right now, we're in the same place for a month and that's awesome. Yeah.

Lindsey: 34:41

We've done both. Yeah. Um, yeah. But you're always dealing with someone else's space. I think that's something that's like, maybe we're both just sensitive to space and the way a place feels. And then if it doesn't feel right. Then, at least for me, I'm like, well, I can't do any damn work here. Right. It doesn't feel right.

Britt: 35:04

Our spaces we've always curated. Yeah. Like

Lindsey: 35:09

very much so. So yeah. So to just like plop down at the kitchen table can work, but it's not, it's not the same. Yeah.

Britt: 35:18

Uh, another thing I'm looking forward to is new friends. Um, I love my old friends, but we keep meeting people on this trip that I'm like, oh, we could be good friends. Yeah. And then we leave, you know? Yeah. And so I'm, I'm excited to see wherever we do end up, how meeting

Lindsey: 35:37

friends goes. Yeah. Community. Yeah. Has been a major, uh, point of lack for me, especially lately, especially when I am feeling that like, Underlying anxiety. And then when I think about, oh, I could like call a friend, then I have to think, wait, what time is it there? Oh wait, it's midnight and it's yesterday. So no, I can't just like call someone and chat. Yeah. Um, and part of that is the way that we keep ourselves even more and more separate when we're already feeling separate. You know? Cuz I could just be like, let me just text someone and say, Hey friend, let's talk in two days at a time. That works for you. Right?

Britt: 36:21

And another part of it, which we talked about in the Ramdas episode was that we spent that time at Ramdas's house and we were talking about like deep shit to everybody. We had these like deep connections there. We were talking about stuff you can't just like talk to a stranger about, you know? Yeah. Or someone that you just met that if just. Out of nowhere. You know, like at Rom DA's house, we were there knowing where we were and what we were there to experience. So, um, having those deeper conversations, uh, has been non-existent outside of that. So I feel like wherever we go, we're gonna. Have friends that we can talk about stuff like that too, you know? Yeah, yeah. Whatever. Whatever shit we think is deep or whatever. I don't know. We need to talk about. Yeah,

Lindsey: 37:16

well just like what is this all and the meaning of it all and Yeah. I think that's important. You can dress it up in all a thousand different ways, but it's really just coming back to like, oh, we are like this consciousness. Happening. Yeah. Right

Britt: 37:35

now. Yeah. So what about you, Lindsay? What are you excited about?

Lindsey: 37:41

Ooh, what am I excited about? I am excited about nothing. I'm okay. I, you know what? I'm excited about the same things as you. I am excited. To live in a house. Uh, this is, I don't know if I mentioned this or not, but when we went to Tokyo, Disney, we went on the Winnie the Poo ride, and at the end there's Christopher Robins room. And like it was just such a sweet little bedroom and it's actually all that makes me cry right now. But I was like, dang, I really miss having space for our boys. Yeah.

Britt: 38:25

Yeah, they definitely need their own space.

Lindsey: 38:27

Yeah. And that's really funny to get choked up about the line of a Disney ride. But I thought it was, it just reminded me how we've been moving so much and they have been so awesome and they're so adaptable and, and I'm excited to have their own little space cuz they're so creative. And as they get older, it just gets more and more so, so to see what they'll do. In their own little imagination in their rooms. I'm really excited for that.

Britt: 39:01

Also, on this, on this travel that we've been on, whenever they buy something, they're like, oh, I want this. I want this. A lot of times it's like art, like a painting, or like yesterday they, they got these little like shelf garden nome sculpture kind of things. A lot of it's like stuff to make your home cozy, you know? Yeah. And yeah, I guess I never, I haven't really thought about it like that, but they're like trying to nest too, you know? Right. Mm-hmm.

Lindsey: 39:30

The things that make them comfortable. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That's, yeah, that's a really good point. I never thought about that, but yeah, crea creating another, that actually, it's actually now exciting to me to think about like, we get to create a new home somewhere, and. I think when you get, when you live in a place for a long time and you get bogged down with your stuff, and then even if you just move to a new city or a new part of the city, then you still have the same lamp. Or it's like, and you might get rid of some stuff, but it might be like, well, I gotta keep that sofa. But to be like clean slate. We do have some things, but it's mostly art and records, right? To be able to like build a home. That is very exciting. That is very exciting because we can be like, choose, we can be really discerning with what we choose and we can let the boys just like decorate their room however they want. Right.

Britt: 40:34

And now we have the knowledge. We know what we want, we know what we want, and we're starting over. Like if it, if this would've happened when we were younger, we would still have the same, you know, like personal things to work

Lindsey: 40:46

out. That's

Britt: 40:47

true. Yeah. And now with the knowledge we have now and the growth that we've had, like this starting over just seems like a more profound Starting over. Yeah. Yeah. Like really letting go of whatever bullshit we

Lindsey: 41:00

had. Right. You know? Yeah. Yeah. So that's exciting. And I am all, I'm gonna just piggyback, I'm also excited to work. I wanna work on something. I wanna create. I have like little wheels turning that I, of things I wanna like put out there and then, and then I just feel stopped because. Yeah, it doesn't feel it's difficult for me to work on the go. That's what

Britt: 41:31

I'm finding out. And we also don't have alone time, so Very, yeah. Back when we did live in a place, the boys would have school or daycare or whatever, and you would have time at home alone to work on things or go to a coffee shop or something. I was at work. So you had quiet to do what you needed to do. Now it's been hard to create that. Yeah. Because we're all together all the time. Yeah. You know, I guess you could go to a coffee shop, but that's also not your own

Lindsey: 42:04

space. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. I think that that this journey, and we've been taught that it's like it has to be like we're a bit getting hit in the head with it. How many times, this is the lesson, the journey is about the journey. It's not about how much shit can I create while I'm on it. It's not about anything else other than just be on this journey and then, and then create the thing after, you know, or right. Be actually inspired when you're actually inspired. Of course we can, we can like carve out time and, and work on things we wanna work on and we should be doing that. And it can be small. I think we. Or getting stuck in that. All, all, all or nothing thinking.

Britt: 42:53

Yeah. That reminds me to be more present and not get bogged down by this shit like this morning. Yeah, I do feel it and do notice it, but also let it pass and be where I am and I've always wanted to be a Melbourne, so do it. Be here. Right. Actually be here,

Lindsey: 43:10

right. Yeah. We're like putting ourselves in some. Future, unknown future, which creates stress and anxiety. Yeah. Instead of being like, oh, like the future's unknown. That's incredible. Right? Because isn't that what we wanted? Because our future was kind of like mapped out and we were feeling like, okay, we, we actually wanted. Switch gears and do something different. So it's incredible to have an unknown future. You're right, it's not anxie. I mean, you can have an anxiety or not, but it's, it's incredible. You're right. Yeah. So here we go. And one more thing I'm excited about, um, because I am feeling uncomfortable this week and right now and today I think that I am on like another growth edge. And so some new expression is about to pop out or some new. Knowing I'm, I'm like right on the edge of that cuz usually when I have a high level of discomfort. And I can feel it, and then I'm noticing it and I'm kind of like sitting in it. Then it's like, okay, boom. Next level. So I'm excited about that. I'm like excited about using this shitty feeling I have. Nice. Because that's all the only thing you can be, is excited about it. Right. Upcycle

Britt: 44:44

that shitty

Lindsey: 44:45

feeling. Yeah. And I did actually have some stress last night and this morning when I woke up. The, the first thought that I had was like, oh my God, I can literally do anything. I've done a million challenging things in my life, way more challenging than this. Why am I a little stressed about money? Or why am I, you know, that like the voice was like, you can do this bitch. Nice. So that's what I woke up feeling.

Britt: 45:18

Very nice. This is a little off topic, but let me add that this bed that we're in right now is very comfortable. We've been sleeping in a lot of very uncomfortable beds and I think that's been fucking up my trip a little bit cuz I haven't slept well like at all. I just keep waking up and being like sore and these hard ass beds. And this is a nice bed and not enough can be said for a nice bed. So enough can be said. I just wanna shout out nice beds right now.

Lindsey: 45:46

Yeah, we have a lot to say about Airbnb, so much that we're gonna do something special this week and record a mini episode at the end of the week where we just rip fully,

Britt: 45:58

fully rip Airbnb. Airbnb, a new asshole.

Lindsey: 46:01

Just we need to just talk about all the ex, we've literally stayed in at least 20 Airbnbs now I. In the, in the last seven months, way more than that in our Airbnb, uh, lifetime, because we've been using Airbnb for a long time. But I really have a strong love hate relationship with it right now. Oh, we, we've

Britt: 46:19

got some thoughts. We, we've got some

Lindsey: 46:24

things to say to you all. Yeah. Kenny has notes. Okay. Kenny Kimmy broad notes. To the gap management meeting. Oh

Britt: 46:33

man. Yeah. So we'll get that to you. And if you own an Airbnb take, take these notes to heart because we're telling you what you need to put in your damn Airbnb and what you don't need to put in it, and what you need to disclose before we get to it. Okay? How many deaths have happened in your Airbnb? Ooh, before I get there, I need to know. I don't need these weird feelings. People looking at me. Anyway, I think that's all I have for today. Yeah. How about you? Was this to freestyle everybody? Is it weird? I. Felt pretty

Lindsey: 47:09

good to me. Yeah. Oh my gosh. I wanna say something that when we were in Thailand and we moved to a new Airbnb, we stayed next door to people from Houston and they were so nice. Oh yeah. And it was so refreshing to meet nice people. Uh, everyone in t people from Thai people are so nice. Yeah. So nice. Like, Like instant family. Nice. And a lot of the people that are visiting Thailand are not that welcoming or friendly. They're doing their own thing.

Britt: 47:45

Yeah. You don't exist. Yeah.

Lindsey: 47:47

They're pushing right through yet. There's a lot of highs when you're walking by. Yeah. Thai people. Very nice vacationers visiting Thailand. Not that nice. Meeting people from Houston. That was awesome. Yeah. And, and we talked to them a bunch and they were so nice.

Britt: 48:02

Something about Texas people, I guess, cuz we're from Texas, we just instantly kind of relate, you know, have the same way of Well, it just communicating. I don't

Lindsey: 48:11

know. Well it's like the universe winking at you and being like, uh, the world is really big. Right. And also here's people from Houston. Yeah. That's all. Yeah. So there you go. That's your, that we can end there with the world is really big and also incredibly small and just all laid out in perfect timing.

Britt: 48:33

Yeah. Well, if, uh, if you have any questions, hit us up info at, can we start over podcast.com or on Instagram at. What is it? Uh, McDonald's, mcdonalds.net.

Lindsey: 48:51

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Britt: 48:57

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Lindsey: 49:44

Aw, thank you. So

Britt: 49:46

let her heal. You we're holding hands now.

Lindsey: 49:49

First time in four months. Oh, kidding. It's been about six. Oh

Britt: 49:55

God. All right. We love y'all.

Lindsey: 49:57

Bye-Bye. Bye.