Gratitude and Inspiration: Lessons Learned from Leaving Home and Traveling the World

In this episode of the Can We Start Over podcast, Britt and Lindsey reflect on their journey of starting over and express their gratitude for the experiences they had along the way.

They discuss the importance of exposing their kids to different cultures and ways of life and the inspiration they found in the beauty of the world and the people they met. They also touch on the significance of places of worship and how their travels have opened their minds to new perspectives.

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Britt: 0:15

Hello, everybody, and welcome to this week's episode of the Can We Start Over podcast. My name is Britt.

Lindsey: 0:20

And I am Lindsay. And we are two fine people who met, got married a long time ago, and then this past year decided Sell everything and take our kids on a very, very long journey to find a new home. And now you get to hear all about our starting over journey.

Britt: 0:39

I'd also like to apologize for no episode last week. We've kind of been getting settled in here in California and Ojai. And it's been a great experience, but also, we're still trying to, to get our schedule worked out. Yeah, we're like... So I deeply apologize. So deeply.

Lindsey: 0:56

From the depths. From the

Britt: 0:58

depths of my bowels, I apologize to thee.

Lindsey: 1:02

Uh, but now that we're like more settled, uh... Can feel that we'll have well, not only we have a lot more space for the episode creation, but like new kinds of episodes, many episodes, all these things are in the works and it feels really good to be creating them. And we're so glad you're here with us. Thank you so much. We want to tell you about a free guide that we created. That is the three. Steps that we use to stay connected and committed in our partnership. It's called how to start over in your relationship so you can do awesome stuff together. It's the things we learned in over 15 years of marriage and how we went from an unconscious partnership to a partnership. And how anyone can do it. So if you're interested in that, head to the link in the show notes, grab our completely free guide, which will also sign you up to receive regular emails from us. That's where we share our travel tips, our hottest, best travel destinations, relationship advice, and really cool affiliate links where you can save some money on some stuff that we love and use. It's a completely free guide. Grab it. Speaking of free guides, I have another free guide that you're going to want. It's how to reconnect with your body so you can follow your intuition and fall in love with life. These are the simple and practical somatic mindfulness and breath tools that I teach my clients and that I use myself to heal trauma, to move through blocks, and how I really started over in life, and how you can too. So if you want to begin exploring somatic healing or mindfulness, this guide is for you. Find it at the link in the show notes. One last thing I want to make sure you know about is that all of my one on one sessions for the month of August are 25% off. We are in a collective, transformational time, and I want to share that value with you. It's time for you to heal. It's time for you to feel. It's time for you to level up. Let's do it together. 25% off. You can't beat that. Head to SunnyLandonCo. com. You can find it in the show notes for all the details, and I hope to see you in a session.

Britt: 3:17

Awesome. Well, let's get into this episode. It's the gratitude

Lindsey: 3:20

episode. Yeah. Everything we are grateful for about this journey we've been on. All

Britt: 3:26

right, let's do it. Okay. This is the ASMR episode. It's deep

Lindsey: 3:36

exhale because we're gladness facilitators. Whatever makes you glad. Um, that is, that reminds me of the little card that I have that I got at Ram Dass's house. That's like the ministry of fun. Oh yeah. If it's not fun, don't do it. Yeah. And if you gotta do it, make it fun. Nice. If you're not glad, then don't do it. And if you gotta do it, do it glad.

Britt: 4:02

There you go. Make some cards.

Lindsey: 4:04

Make some cards. I'm a minister of gladness. How are you feeling on this fine day? I'm feeling

Britt: 4:11

pretty good right now. We just dropped, uh, most of the kids off at

Lindsey: 4:15

camp. Two thirds of our, our cohort off at a day camp. Yeah, at

Britt: 4:21

the beach, which is awesome. How cool is that? Camp on the beach. Yeah. I never went to camp when I was a kid, did you?

Lindsey: 4:28

I just went to daycare. Yeah, daycare. Me too. Yeah. But I think we did like summery kind of. Things sort of, yeah,

Britt: 4:36

I remember going to the water park and then I don't know. I don't know.

Lindsey: 4:41

Yeah. Anyway, it wasn't at the beach. Well, my daycare had a pool. Oh, that's great. So we just swam all day, every day in the summer.

Britt: 4:48

Um, yeah, no, I've, I feel good. We're sitting here looking at mountains, dropped our kids off at the beach. Life is pretty good. Yeah. Went to a comedy show the other night. That was cool. That was that in a while. I haven't done that in a while. Had a babysitter. So cool. We had a date. Can you believe it?

Lindsey: 5:06

It was

Britt: 5:07

great. We were dating. We were dating. Each other. How

Lindsey: 5:11

would, how'd your date go? Oh, it

Britt: 5:12

went fantastic. I took her to a comedy show.

Lindsey: 5:16

What'd you learn about her family? What's her stock like?

Britt: 5:22

That sounds gross and weird. Really?

Lindsey: 5:25

Yeah. Because what does that mean?

Britt: 5:28

Like, isn't that a term you would say for, like, livestock? Like, yeah, we'll breed this heifer because her mom's real nice. Or, you know. At least that's the vibe that I get.

Lindsey: 5:39

What does it mean by her mom's real nice? Like she's a nice heifer?

Britt: 5:44

She's a nice looking heifer. She's great tempered. She's got longer teats so you can get more milk. Yeah,

Lindsey: 5:50

we can not whip us up. Yeah. Just standing out there. Doing their

Britt: 5:55

thing. Not hurting anyone, okay people? They're not hurting anyone. So don't hurt them. Uh, yeah. So the beach. That was awesome. How do you

Lindsey: 6:02

feel? I am a little tired. I'm still recovering from staying up late two nights in a row ish, not even really, but I'm noticing that I'm tired as I sip my decaf coffee. I am glad to feel, speaking of gladness, I'm, I'm glad to feel like I'm working on something. Things a little more, you know, like doing work feels really nice. Yeah. I'm glad to be for two or thirds of our cohort to be at summer camp so we can have a little space to work. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And what else? Yeah, really. I'm just kind of like. My vibe right now is kind of tired, so we'll see if I spring to life during this episode.

Britt: 6:57

How lucky are we to just be tired, sitting in a beautiful place, being tired. It's true, to

Lindsey: 7:02

like not have to rush off somewhere. Rush off to, it wasn't even a rush, but like, it was, this was the first time in almost a year that we got up. And made lunches and like, put them in lunchbox. Yeah, that's,

Britt: 7:14

I guess I didn't think of that. That's crazy.

Lindsey: 7:16

Or like nine months. Yeah. I mean, almost a year. Yeah. Because that

Britt: 7:19

was like our lives back then. That was the thing. I would get up real early before work. Make breakfast, make lunch for the kids, rush, get them ready. I would go to work and you would take them to school. Yeah.

Lindsey: 7:33

Yeah. That morning thing of like rushing kids is such a bummer. Yeah. There has to be another way. That's why school should just always start at nine. This has been a very long experiment in like finding what true balance is. Yeah. Because once you, you have all the, we have all these, um, responsibilities. Which is fine, but then you just have to weigh what responsibilities actually matter. So then you can, maybe you kind of go, we kind of went completely the opposite way where it's like no responsibility. And then we're like, oh, that doesn't always feel good either. So we're like settling back into the middle of the kind, the right kind of responsibility. Yeah.

Britt: 8:19

I think a lot of that will come once we have a permanent house. Yeah. Or a more permanent house. Yeah. Right now we're still living in Airbnbs and toy. Get a new situation

Lindsey: 8:30

going. Yeah, like find our perfect spot. Yeah, and

Britt: 8:34

that brings us to gratitude that's what this episode is about today all the gratitude for the things we learned on this trip and Some of it we expected some of it. We didn't expect.

Lindsey: 8:44

Yeah, it feels important to explore All of the reasons why we're still really glad that we set out on this journey, especially because we thought we were going to go longer. And then we were just kind of like, oh, I think we're done. And that maybe felt a little abrupt. And now we're like, okay, now we're gonna. The starting over is like, let's see what life is like here in this spot and not traveling. So I think as another way of like integrating the whole experience, we had to sit down together and be like, there's so many reasons why this is so good. Right. And I'd

Britt: 9:22

say one of the things I'm most grateful for is being able to show our kids the world. And that was something that. We knew going into it. That was kind of the plan and you know what I'm grateful for it. It happened Well, we were able to take our kids out of a small town worldview and show them new languages New people new experiences and show them that life wasn't just what it was like in our little bubble

Lindsey: 9:48

Yeah, like different things happen different ways everywhere And that's like, it's a little bit of stretch. You have to kind of get used to it to be like, Oh, now we're here. And they say this and they do this and people act this way, kind of have to stretch it. It keeps your, it just kind of keeps you on alert. And that can be, I mean, that can be hard, but that can be a good thing to be like, Oh, I'm, it's really stretching your like subconscious and nervous system to like a new level. Yeah. And

Britt: 10:17

learning how to communicate with people. That don't speak the same languages as you is such an important skill, you know? Especially for kids to know how to, I mean, communication at all is hard for kids because they're just learning all these, you know, norms, quote unquote, that we're putting on them about communication.

Lindsey: 10:38

That reminds me of just how easy it actually is to communicate with people without language. Right. It's pretty easy to be like, we understand what each other needs now, right? Okay, let's just be kind to each other and we're going to get this thing done.

Britt: 10:56

Right. And it seems like that's kind of a skill you have when you're a baby and when you're, before you have words. And then once you have learned words, maybe you kind of lose that because you're learning so much and your, your whole world is different. And you kind of have to bring yourself back

Lindsey: 11:10

to that. Right, right, right. Like everything becomes language based. And it becomes like, I mean it is like the primary way that we talk to each other. And there's this other level. We're talking to each other on so many other levels at the same time. But maybe we're just like not noticing them. So, when you take away the language, it's like losing a sense. So your other senses get heightened. So maybe I'm like paying attention to body language more, or to, to my own like facial expressions. Oh, right. Or context clues, what's happening around me, just like heightens those other senses. Right. So I'm glad you said that. Yeah. And showing

Britt: 11:46

the kids just like how beautiful the world can be. These are mountains. You don't see these where we lived, you know? This is a beautiful ocean, you don't see this where we used to live.

Lindsey: 11:56

Yeah, yeah, that's definitely one of the things that was highest on my list when I was writing about this. Like, what am I most grateful for is just like the earth inspiration. Like how beautiful the world is everywhere and it's so different. And to have this long time and space to really sink in. And notice it beyond a vacation feels so important.

Britt: 12:24

Absolutely. And that actually brings me, uh, what I wrote down on my list as another point is inspiration itself. Just being able to see all that stuff and exposing ourselves and our kids to a new way of life. New art, new music, wildlife, languages. It's important to keep your eyes open and notice things around you to be inspired. And some of the things that I noticed, even, like in Japan, all of the buildings, even the most basic buildings, didn't look like the buildings in the U. S. And that was cool. That was, like, inspirational to know that not everything has to be cookie cutter. And especially, like, the town that I grew up in, Grapevine, everything felt like it was built in the 90s. So it had a very specific look, you know, like, light colored

Lindsey: 13:11

stone. Suburbs. Yeah. Is a vibe. Like, it's an aesthetic. Yeah. Like, 90, 80s, 90s suburbs is an aesthetic. And I feel like that's how my town was, too. Yeah. Although, albeit a little more low rent than your town, but still, it is the, yeah, it's like that feeling of, of suburbs is just so stamped on and the same. Concrete and strip malls. Yeah. And I guess I also want to say. Say that even under that, there's like the potential and ability to be inspired. Yeah, absolutely. I, I actually like think back to being driving age and how I would like find these little pockets of inspiration, just like driving around my town. I'm like, Oh, that's where, look at where the sun sets right here. On this like back road or whatever. So it's possible to find it anywhere. Yeah. And. It's cool and amazing to be able to expand your worldview and see it in a place you'd never thought you would go.

Britt: 14:15

Right. It was also really inspirational seeing different places of worship in different countries and how, like, especially in Japan, there's temples and shrines everywhere and they're beautiful. They're just like beautiful and the people go and use them for whatever. They need and whatever their practice is and that was really cool. That was something I read in a book years ago I think it was called Like the atheist guide to religion and it talked about how all of these really cool parts of religion Where like, especially in like old Catholic churches are just beautiful. Like the point was to be inspired, to be in a place that inspires you. Right. And that's why those were so beautiful. And then I think back to the town where I was from and the churches were just, again, you know, light colored stone buildings and just blended in with everything. And it, it didn't seem like a beautiful, inspirational place. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And there, there's reason to have inspiration. And it's cool that in other places... It's still

Lindsey: 15:20

really beautiful, right? And that actually brings me to another thing I wrote down is like the being inspired by people. And I think that's important when you're talking about like sacred spaces or places of worship. Because I remember when we were in La Paz and it was the day of the lady of Guadalupe and we went to the service. At the big church and then we got candles and we like did our little blessing at one of the little, um, roadside altars and it's it's just amazing to be around a bunch of people who are believing in something together for the benefit of the togetherness, like for the benefit of

Britt: 16:08

Yeah, and to show, show our kids that people can be so devoted to something and have like a purpose, no matter what it

Lindsey: 16:17

is, you know? Right, right, right. Yeah, there's not really a right or wrong way to do it, honestly, as long as, well, the right way, there's a right way, I guess. The right way just doesn't infringe on someone else's right way. Right, exactly. Yeah. And that can be anything. And so, then everything, then anything and everything can kind of become sacred and become a place of worship if we allow it to. But that day was really special because typically we wouldn't go, but I felt like this is important for us to go to. We need to go to this. Yeah. And then, it was Everything kind of wrapped in one that is the inspiration of people for me, so it's like getting inspired by all of the people going and praying and then being inspired by like the grandmas who loved Eli and Jack and Otis and they would walk by and like touch their hair and just like, like, say how beautiful they were. And being inspired by like the people selling things outside, whether it be like churros or altar pieces or flowers. Yeah, just the inspiration of everyone coming together. I'm also just remembering something right now and it all really ties into like people inspiring. Me through just their every day. This is who we are that same night when we were leaving there was Basically a parade of 18 wheel of like 18 wheelers. Oh, yeah Honking, they're like loudest horns like the 18 wheelers there They're tricked out. They're like, yeah, they're fancy. Yeah. And everyone's rigs were legit fancy, like painted beautiful colors. And they all had these like crazy horns that were so loud. And there was a parade to the mass of these 18 wheelers just honking their horns so loud, too loud, but it was beautiful. I'm like. These people, this is so important, and it's important to, to be witness to people just doing their damn thing, you know? Slab rigs.

Britt: 18:24

Yeah, yeah. That's what we were witnessing there was slab rigs. It was really cool. And I, I feel like an important thing that I'm grateful for was my whole life, I, I've always been like, Totally turned off by places of worship, and church always made me feel really uncomfortable and I had like a huge block against that and people, I didn't want to talk about religion, I didn't want to, you know, I went through phases of my life, especially in college, you know, where you drink a bunch of coffee and talk about philosophy, where I did want to talk about it, but, uh, I wasn't open minded and now that I've, I've seen this, that it can be something beautiful and not infringe upon everyone. And it's just totally changed my way of thinking, and it's beautiful, and I love it, and I'm so much more open to everyone

Lindsey: 19:10

now. Yeah, I love that. I'm really glad. Kind of just doubling down on, like, people being inspiring and how grateful I am for this experience to witness so many different people. Is that everywhere people have these amazing hearts and whether they're at the day of Our Lady of Guadalupe or they're just working at Starbucks or they're like your cab driver or you meet them on the beach, like people want to connect and that and we saw that every place we went. Like people want to connect even people that you don't even meet in real life, but like an Airbnb host, you can just feel that people everywhere want essentially the same thing, even though it's packaged in all these different ways and how inspiring that is. It's because if you put it in the context of like, okay, I'm getting out of my small bubble, then you see, Oh, a lot of people, they have the same basic wants and needs as me. It, it puts. Where I'm from in perspective, because I'm like, those people want the same thing as me too, even like horrible people really just, and I'll put that in air quotes because we could get into that. Are they horrible? Uh, whatever. Uh, they really just want the same thing. We're all kind of like work. There's a lot of layers that we have to uncover, but we're all kind of working towards this creativity and kindness and like heart centeredness. In a million different ways. And we got to see that over and over again.

Britt: 20:47

Right. And that actually speaks to something else I wrote down, was showing ourselves the world, not just our kids, but ourselves. And it all kind of blends together, you know? Yeah, yeah. And something that I noticed was, you can live a slower paced life and still be successful. And probably be happier. And that's not something I ever witnessed here. Like, it, it was always go, go, go. Get up and make those breakfasts. Hey, get, get the kids dressed. You gotta get them to school. If they're late, then, you

Lindsey: 21:16

know. Right, right, right. Yeah. That's bad. And

Britt: 21:18

I gotta get to work. And if I'm late, then everyone's gonna suffer because I'm not there to help, you know. I saw in other countries, everyone is just relaxed. And everyone expects everyone to be relaxed. And it works so much

Lindsey: 21:31

better. Right. Right, and it takes a little getting used to a more relaxed pace when you're used to things going fast. And I've really been working on this, honestly, for like the last five years now, is like unlearning hustle, unlearning that ingrained culture that we have, because there is a need for it. In some ways, like it's important to get up and do work every day. Whatever that work is, could literally be anything. Like the work could be getting up and meditating all day, or it could be painting, or it could be laying gravel. Like it can be anything, but over it's like, we're so used, we've now over consumed even work. It's the over consumption of, of responsibility and really like. We have a really out of whack way of being responsible.

Britt: 22:26

Yeah for me. It was like an anxiety hustle Yeah, it wasn't a hustle to to do to me the word hustle Feels more like a like a power thing, you know Like I'm I'm taking control of the situation and I'm getting things done to me It doesn't really seem like do this faster get it done. Oh, yeah kind of thing. So Yeah.

Lindsey: 22:50

Yeah. Yeah. And really when we're just constantly, anxiety is exactly the right thing because when we're constantly, uh, going, it's really just like, we're avoiding something. Right. What you avoiding? What you avoiding? And you might not be ready. I might not be ready. But that is something that I, essentially I wrote down on this, on my list is that this time that we've had to really, we like let go of so many layers. Of all the shit that you like think you need or think you need to do and set sail on this adventure and when you do that things still come up there's like this inner work that is allowed to be done it's not like you like let it all go and now like okay now I have no like nothing I have no issues but really the space that we created through this allowed me to see a new level of, like, the way I interact in the world, the way I, my patterns come up, the way I make choices. And how those, I can let go of those. Yeah. So like the, I'm really glad to be able to do a new level of inner work, even though sometimes it feels shitty, you know? Yeah, yeah. But the, I don't know, there's just a lot more space to see, oh, I, it's really interesting that I do X when Y happens, and I've always done that. Why do I do that? Yeah, nice. Without the, hopefully, without any, like, self shame.

Britt: 24:36

You know, another thing that I'm grateful for is that we scratched the itch. For so long, we wanted to go do something like this, and it even talked about it years ago. And it just wasn't or we didn't think it was the right time, you know,

Lindsey: 24:51

it didn't feel

Britt: 24:52

possible. It didn't feel possible. Yeah, exactly. And I'm glad we finally got to do it and prove to ourselves that it is possible, right? Completely

Lindsey: 25:00

possible. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'm glad you said scratch the itch because It's just like perfectly summed up that we all have these like things that we want to do and we keep pushing them down, kicking them down the road. I'll do it later. I'll do it later. There'll be a better time and really It's not always going to be like rationally, okay, now's the time and it might, it might still line up perfectly and you might still be like, is this right, but you need, you just need to go do some different shit. Whatever has been like quietly singing it song in the back of your head, just go do that because there's not really anything to lose. Other than some old patterns and some old choices, and you'll gain some lessons, but we have a, oh, I'll say this just for me, and I think it's probably true for a lot of people, is that there's just this worry that it might not work out, and I think that's why we deem things as not possible, so that's why there's like, oh, I can't scratch this itch of traveling for a long time because Well, I'm not 20 and I'm not 60 and those are the times when you do those things like right like when you're very young or You're when you're very old and when you're in this season that we're in which is family and career or whatever You just don't do that. So Fuck that Just go if it's truly been Speaking to you for a long time. There's absolutely a way to do it and there's a reason it's been speaking. Yeah Yeah, and it's probably a lot simpler to get there than your brain wants to tell you. Your brain wants to tell you, no way, that's way too many steps. And then you just take one step and then the next step is shown and it actually becomes so much easier.

Britt: 26:59

Absolutely. And scratching the itch was a, really a huge part of us settling down at this moment that we're doing now is because we did it. And we saw it and we were like, we learned the lessons of what we need and how to listen to that.

Lindsey: 27:15

Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because it could go where you're like, no, let's just keep pushing through. Maybe there's a benefit to that too, but I'm yeah, you're exactly right. I'm glad that then it was like, ah, okay. Itch, scratched, take the lessons and now go use them in your life. Yeah, absolutely. This really flows into one of the things that I wrote down is to just do the thing now, which we kind of just already covered. But don't wait until every step is laid out or don't wait until it makes logical sense. I mean, again, there's a balance. It doesn't mean like the first idea that you have, then you just get in your truck and drive away from everything. But there, there is some level of planning, but just do it now. And that can be anything. It could be anything. It could literally be anything, but go do it. You're worth doing it.

Britt: 28:11

Right. Another thing that I'm grateful for that I wrote down was problem solving. Uh, especially like logistics of travel, especially with three little kids, that was a lot. Yeah. So even just starting to think about what we were going to do was a big challenge. Actually booking plane tickets is a challenge. Getting there once you've booked the plane tickets all of it had there was so much that came up and we learned how to smoothly navigate all of that by Now, by the end, we were the, the end of the travel portion of this, which may still happen again. It will still happen again. But on the way back to California, by then we knew how to pack when you had to get easily from one Airbnb to another, because in the beginning we just had all of our stuff in all of these bags and we'd open it up and we'd be in a place for a few weeks. And then we would dread having to put it all back into bags and move to the next spot. Maybe you would. Okay, sorry. I would. But as we went, we learned where stuff went, how to like, you know, this backpack is going to be for the things we're going to need immediately, or if there's a layover. We learned how to navigate it all to where it was super easy. So the, by the end it was like a well oiled

Lindsey: 29:27

machine. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think. No shame to dads, but I think maybe for moms or that kind of parent, that stuff already happens a little more like the one who packs the backpacks, the one who makes sure they have the summer camp things or whatever. So I think that's why, and maybe just also that's the kind of person I am that I don't, I like, I like packing and unpacking. I like moving. It's that's never really bothered me, but you, but I do agree with how we like just streamlined it. Yeah. And by the end we could like pack up everything in like two hours. It's not like, it wouldn't be like, oh, we're leaving in seven days. So we better like start getting ready. Like the way some people think about getting ready for a trip. We'd be like, all right, here we go. And not, not that doesn't also mean that then it was like. Thrown in hastily, but we just knew how to do it. Yeah. And also going along with traveling or is just learning how the train works in a certain place or learning, you know, you don't know when you're, when you live somewhere. Especially when you live there that your whole life. So me living in North Texas, my entire life, I know where everything is. Even the shit that I don't know where it is. I know where it is. You can't tell me about a place in North Texas that I don't know where it is. I think that's also something that comes naturally to me as someone who has like this natural navigation sense or whatever, but being in a city over and over and over again, where you're like, I don't know where it is. And then you have to figure it out and you notice how pretty quickly you do know where it is. It's not like it takes you years to figure out where that coffee shop is in La Paz or in Todo Santos that you went to. But it does take a little bit to just re, you're like relearning the maps of the places. It's where you're going. Yeah.

Britt: 31:26

And see, I'm, I'm the opposite. Like navigation for me is so hard. All the times that we went to New York together, I had no clue how to get us anywhere. And you were navigating us through the subway system easily. And I'm like, how does she do this? This is crazy. It just doesn't, doesn't. Didn't come naturally to me. I'm sure I can work on that.

Lindsey: 31:48

And, you know, well, no, but I think that you did like grow so much in that way where a lot of time, most of the time you were like navigating where we were going, especially when we were using subways in places. You would be like, all right, we get on here and we get off there. And you were probably paying a little bit more attention to it, like in your mind. And then you're, I think you were like doing it.

Britt: 32:08

I think it was a block that I had when I was younger too, because my household was very high anxiety and it was always like, don't drive at rush hour or don't go to it. You can't go to a town over. You'll probably flip the car and die, you know, stuff like that. So I didn't even drive out of our city until I think I was going to college, you know. I mean, I'm sure there was a time or two, but I mean, it had me scared to navigate, to do anything. So I think I was always just, like, really anxious about it. And that's, uh, and so part of this trip has taught me, you know where it is. You know where it is, yeah. Like, it's where you think it is. Yeah. You know? Don't double, don't

Lindsey: 32:50

second guess yourself. Right. And even if it's not, like, exactly where you think it is, you can stop and be like, Regroup, and then you know where it is. Right. Yeah.

Britt: 32:59

So yeah, the, the subway system in Japan was a good indicator of that, that like, oh, I've, I've calmed down and I can figure this out. And it is, it can be very confusing too, especially when you're in a place where you don't. I don't understand the language, it might be kind of hard to communicate with someone to get directions. But it always worked out. Yeah. We always ended up getting where we needed to go. Same in Australia, they have the tram system all through Melbourne. And that's actually, I felt like I had no trouble at all there. That made the most sense to me. I'm like, how have I been dreading this my whole life? Yeah. Like, this is so easy to do. Right, right, right, right. Because we don't have that kind of stuff in North Texas. There's like buses, but I never needed a bus because I had a car. Yeah. Um, and there's...

Lindsey: 33:46

Yeah, there wasn't there's like trains and stuff in Dallas, which I used a little bit. But yeah, there's we didn't really have that much of it. Yeah. Yeah.

Britt: 33:53

So it's cool to learn all that stuff.

Lindsey: 33:56

Yeah. And this, it just kind of gives you this confidence that we can problem solve, like even on a deeper level. And that it can feel really good, like there is this level of trust in like being guided, but also just exactly what you said, like trust that, okay, I already know where it is. So letting everything in North Texas go and like going on this journey, it brings you to this new level of confidence. Where you do, I think, I think we did need some time to integrate that, but I think that's going to continue to integrate where we can, we're like, bitch, I can do anything. Are you kidding me? Yeah. Like, I can do anything. I've taken a 10 hour flight with three kids. You can do anything if you can do that. Right. Just, I think that's going to continue to, like, reinforce itself within us, and within our kids too, that we can do things.

Britt: 34:54

And these are all things that I didn't do as a kid. You know, I wasn't taking a trip to another country, I wasn't riding a subway, wasn't riding a bus, any of that. So maybe if I had done that when I was a kid... Well, definitely if I would have done that as a kid, I would have a better idea of what's going on and what to expect and not have been so scared of it as an adult. Yeah. So I think that was a big gift to our kids.

Lindsey: 35:18

Yeah, you know what I'm just thinking of is like our different personalities and how they showed up, you can see how they showed up, like, even when we were young, that, and, and some of it is upbringing, but when I got a car, I was like, I drove as far as could, as far as I could away, not exactly, but I drove to Austin when I was like 16, I drove to Dallas all the time. And it's just that need for, it was like, I've, I guess I've just, this is so true. I think everyone would be like, duh, but I've always had this like, need to like, get out a little bit further and explore a little bit more. And you, you have this like innate home safety, but you still get out and do things and I still have like the home and safety too, but we're like bringing these kind of opposite qualities that compliment each other. And we're growing. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And we're like using the other's strengths and qualities to like, to again, integrate them and within ourselves. So if I have like a little bit more adventure and you have a little bit more like home and safety, we bring those together and then they like amplify each other. Yeah. Nice. Yeah. It's cool. Yeah.

Britt: 36:35

So what other things did you have on your list, Lindsay?

Lindsey: 36:38

We are I, I, with you, we've already talked about all of them except for one. Oh, no two. And one is family connection. And we spent so much time separate in our old life with work, with school, that to have one of my like main intentions was I want to spend a lot of time together. I really want us to see what it feels like to spend a lot of time together. To actually like get to know each other. We all know each other, but like in a deeper way. And we did that. And I think we can see that our kids have blossomed a lot and there have been challenges, but they're growing into like this new sense of who they are and what their interests are. And exploring that outside of school has been really cool, especially with the older ones. Like you don't have to have your interests in. School or home or one of the other like they can be just in your everyday life and We've spent so much time together this year that I think we haven't really Appreciated it's been easy to not appreciate like just how much we've like laughed Right. Yeah, together at nonsense as a family, just like laughing in the car or wherever, or like watching the worst movie together, but enjoying it. And that time that we've had as a family. I don't, I think that that's like in an investment that we can't even fully understand the payoff yet. Like the return on that investment yet and how it will completely shift how we do everything moving forward. Will we always spend as much time together? I mean, no, it's going to look different and it's not going to be the way it was. Like we're fine again, going back to, we're finding a new balance. Of we're finding a pair of new balance shoes and they're not that worn out. So I'm going to wear them, but we're finding this new balance of like, Oh, this is what I actually want. I actually do want to have a lot of family time and I actually like to have time where I like work and create stuff on my own too. And, and I like to go do stuff on my own too, but yeah, I really think that that time, this time that we've spent as a family. It's almost like not even calculatable how important it will be to everyone's growth going forward. Absolutely. And the, the last thing that I wrote, like the thing that I'm most grateful for is just Is possibility and you said it before, but belief that anything can happen. And I used to live in this world of, I didn't even think about possibility. I had these like whimsical dreams that in my mind would never happen. And then I had the shit that you actually need to do. And it was very black and white. It was very like, here's what you do to survive. And here's all this mountain of things that you have to do, and then here's your dreams of what life could be, but... Anything, you can do anything, anything can happen, as long as you just set the intention and move towards it, literally anything can happen. And so it's completely, I'm, it's probably the thing that I'm most grateful for with all of this. And it really just, it holds all of it also, is that anything can happen. You want to go somewhere? You can go there. You want to leave somewhere? You can go there. You want to create something, you can do it, anything can happen.

Britt: 40:23

And that's totally true, and I feel like I was talking about that earlier, like, we never thought we could do this. We were like, we have to work, we need to get through this part of our lives. We're not young enough to do that, we're old enough to do that, we're in a place where we can't do it, and it's proved that you, we absolutely

Lindsey: 40:40

could. Yeah. And, we kind of set this very loose intention a couple years ago, and then, it wasn't, I think it just kind of doubling down on its... Easier probably than people think it is and I'm making helping myself remember that this can be easy Anything you want to do can be easier than you probably think it is It does require you to be uncomfortable at times But we set this intention where we had this like knowing between the two of us. We want to live somewhere else And then at that point there was like, Oh, we have like a, an enormous IRS debt. Okay. But, but it, something shifted when we set the intention of, Hey, I think that I don't want to live here anymore. What about you? Where it wasn't like, and we can never, because we have an, a huge IRS debt. It was like slowly with our common intention and our commitment, things just like worked themselves out. And it was easier than I thought it was going to be when I was like holding on for dear life being like, Oh my God, I have a huge IRS debt that I'll never get out from under so I could never do anything so I can never sell this house because where will I ever go? Yeah, for a while we couldn't. Yeah, but I'm just kind of looking back and being like, this actually was a lot easier than when I had no idea of possibility. So you have to have the idea of possibility. Because that, that before I was just like weighed down by all of the reasons why I can't do something, you know, I'm in debt, my job, my, my job, I own the business, I can't leave it, my kids. You know your studio and even my friends my family what my you know And these are also

Britt: 42:30

things we worked really hard to build so that I don't want to discount that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah It wasn't just things that we were doing. It was something we had worked really hard to build too. Right, right So there was that I'm not being scared of leaving it because it's like I've spent 10 or 15 years building this, and this is, you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And being scared that you won't have that again. If you get rid of it, I can't have the success again, right? Mm hmm. But you, we

Lindsey: 42:59

could, and we will. Right. Yeah, and I, you know, I'm glad you said that because, That's kind of like where I am now with a level of inner work as being like, you were, you let it all go because you were called to let it go and now like, let the next thing be born. Right. Just like actually let the next thing be born. That was this journey and then it will be something else. And it's a good thing.

Britt: 43:25

You know, I'm sure there's going to be more things that come up after all of this that I'm grateful for. But one thing that I can think of now that kind of ties it all up is I'm grateful to start over. And to be able to rebuild, maybe not even rebuild, but just have something completely new.

Lindsey: 43:46

Yeah, yeah, yeah, you want to talk about possibility. It's like, now there's just nothing but possibility. Oh, you want to, oh, you want to surrender, bitch? It's

Britt: 43:56

possible you will be mopping floors, Brit. I learn that lesson every day when I'm looking at jobs.

Lindsey: 44:06

I feel really grateful that now we have even another new opportunity and it does require an even higher level of, like, expanding into discomfort and being like, I'm, I'm pretty sure I'm supposed to be here, like, okay, I'm pretty sure that this is exactly where I'm supposed to be. So let me just let it feel uncomfortable. And I feel so grateful that now we get to find a new house that we're going to love to live in and like build a new community and. Connect with the earth and, you know, like, get to know a new place that we've already been and we do know, but like, know it in a deeper way. Yeah. So, it is a rebuilding, but it's with this deeper level of wisdom.

Britt: 44:56

I think it's important to let everyone know that every day we do feel scared. And we, we take that and we use it. And we appreciate that feeling, but it's there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're feeling it. We're not just blissed out all

Lindsey: 45:13

the time. Right, right, right, right. So speak on it a little

Britt: 45:17

more. Yeah, I mean, I I'll wake up in the middle of the night. I'll wake up and be like. Oh my god, what am I gonna do? I need to like find a job tomorrow, you know, like at some point this money is gonna run out And there's like a clock ticking, you know, and that'll be my reality when I wake up But then as I get more into my day and I realize like I I have skills we have skills We've worked we've been working on things like it's all gonna happen. It's all there and it'll happen in its own time I'm trying to rush it. I just wake up and have no sense of time I just have all these feelings going on, and I'm thankful for that because it keeps me in check. But at the same time, it's just a story.

Lindsey: 45:57

Right. It's that anxiety hustle. It's like trying to creep back in in a different way. Right. Like, oh, you don't have a commute? Well, did you ever think about that you're a fucking loser? Yeah. you? Why are you in my head? Yeah. Oh, you don't have to get your kids to school, but did you realize that nobody likes you? It's like, it's not that like my, my like, uh, inner critic doesn't say those things, but she might as well, you know, she's like saying it a little nicer, but that's the kind of thing she believes somewhere. And so, yeah, I really just, uh, To check that and say that's not based in reality, right? But there's a lot of vulnerability. It's we're in a completely vulnerable space that we have been for the last nine months. We've been vulnerable, but it's been through we've been traveling. So you can't. touch into the vulnerability as much? I mean, you, but now we're here. And so it's just nothing but a sea of vulnerability of like, I don't really know a lot of people here. I don't feel like I have a lot of strong friendships here yet. I don't know what I'm exactly doing for work here yet. And there's just everything, you know, like it is so vulnerable and we really are creating like another way of just tapping into that vulnerability. And letting it just be there.

Britt: 47:23

We really are starting from scratch. It's wild. Time to integrate all this stuff. Awesome. Well, this has been a good talk. Yeah, it really has. Thanks, guys. We'll see you next week. Bye bye.

Lindsey: 47:33

Love you. Bye bye. Hey, Eli. How are you? Good. Good. What are you doing today? Good. How are you feeling today? Something. Something. What do you want to tell us about? Blank minded, staying at home, computer failing. On computer, failing. What do you think was the best thing about traveling? Best thing? All the Lego sets we could get in different places. Yeah, those are awesome, yeah, good answer. What was the coolest thing that you've seen on your travels? Parrots. Oh, the parrots in Australia? Yeah. Those were cool. You really like animals a lot. Mm hmm. So, what animal have you not seen yet that you want to see in real life? A parrot! And, uh, yeah, me too. Maybe we should go to China. I want to go to China! Are you excited to be living in this town? Yeah. And why? Because it's fun, nice, small. You like small towns more than big cities? Yeah. What feels good about a small town to you? Well, you always know where everything is, so it's easier to find your way around stuff. Yeah, that's really cool. Into stuff. Yeah, good point. And are you hoping to meet people here? Yes. Where do you think you'll meet people? At playgrounds and stuff! Yeah, playgrounds and stuff. Is there any final thing you want to tell the listeners? Well, it's that... Oh no! I'm falling into the Mario world! You can end it.