The Consensus of One: Breaking Free From External Validation w/ Corissa Saint Laurent

We are taught that to be rational, our decisions must be backed by evidence and agreed upon by a majority. But in the mystical world, the majority does not rule, alignment does.

In this solo episode, Corissa explores the concept of the Consensus of One—the radical idea that you, in alignment with Source, constitute a majority. She shares personal stories of following the nudge, from the seemingly trivial impulse to redecorate an office to a life-saving hesitation on a street curb.

Corissa also gets vulnerable about the shadow side of relationships. She recounts a recent moment of jealousy regarding her husband's new podcast and how she used it as a mirror to heal a hidden part of herself. She breaks down the difference between doing what feels good and true spiritual orientation, and why we often demand our partners jump through hoops to fill voids only we can fill.

In this episode, she covers:

• The Consensus Myth: Why we think we need permission to make changes, and why true rationality is simply alignment with your higher self.
• The Hoop Jumping Trap: How Corissa realized she was subconsciously testing her partners to prove their worth, and how she broke that cycle in her marriage.
• Small Moves, Big Impact: Why the decision to pause on a sidewalk can have as much weight as the decision to move to a new country.
• The Office Space Fallacy: Deconstructing the idea that spiritual alignment just means doing nothing or hedonism, and how to tell the difference between intuition and escapism.
• Shadow Work in Real Time: A raw look at how jealousy manifested in Corissa’s marriage and how she used it to identify a block in her own wholeness.

Notable Quotes:

• "The consensus is one. It is you in relationship with all that is. That's all that's necessary for you to make decisions in your own life." — Corissa Saint Laurent
• "We expect that this relationship shift... or this new career path... will make big changes. But they are only big in how we hold them." — Corissa Saint Laurent
• "If things are not to your liking... then there are blocks to you existing in that field of what you already are." — Corissa Saint Laurent

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Transcript

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Hello, beautiful souls. I was resetting up, or I guess redesigning, redecorating my office. And I thought about something I heard Abraham Hicks say. So if you don't know who Abraham Hicks is, Abraham are entities, multidimensional beings that are channeled through a woman named Esther Hicks. And so together they are Abraham Hicks. And when Esther is channeling and speaking as Abraham, Abraham is coming through her, she'll refer to Esther as another person. And so Abraham was telling a story about Esther and how she'll get this notion to like, oh, I need to completely rearrange or redecorate my room. And this has got to go over here and this has got to over there. And she'll just get up and go and do that. And I'm I'm like that too. I'm not saying I'm channeling off-planet entities when that's happening, but I am following a thread, a nudge, a call, or my own intuition to make a shift, make a change, to do something that to we'll just call it the rational mind, the ego mind, maybe to somebody else in your family or in your office may not see the reason to do that, or the need, or uh understand why you need to step out of the meeting for a minute to get this download from somewhere, or why you may need to rearrange, redecorate, reconfigure your office, or why you might need to do anything. We think in our human minds that things have to be rational, that things have to have this solid reason, and that reason needs to be backed up by evidence, and that evidence needs to be agreed upon by enough people, a consensus for that to then be rational. Okay, yes, that makes sense because X amount of people agreed that it makes sense. In the multidimensional world, in the spiritual world, in the world that we talk about here on the Everyday Mystic, the consensus is you. If you're ready to tap into your inner wisdom and the energy of all that is, you're in the right place, and we're so happy you're here. Let's get this party started. The consensus is one. It is you in relationship with all that is. That's all that's necessary for you to make decisions in your own life. Whether you're gonna redecorate or move to another country or change jobs or buy that thing or eat that food or drink that drink, whatever it is, from minuscule to very grand. And now all of those decisions are only big in how we hold them and value them in our lives. Is it a tiny decision to follow a nudge to go, oh yeah, hmm, I'm gonna wait here a little bit longer before I step out. And then when you step out, you're nearly missed by a car that was gonna run you over. Now, that little decision to just wait for a moment and not make a move seems so small, right? It seems like it's we're not talking about packing all your shit up and moving to another country and upending, you know, your life. We're talking about something like not taking a step for a moment. But in that decision, if we're looking at it from this perspective, you've just saved your life. So what then has more meaning? What decisions, what steps, what moves, what actions have more weight? These little ones or these grand ones? Neither. They all have the same amount of weight. If we are moving consciously through our life, if we are in our life in a flow that is in connection to our soul, our higher self, which is therefore connected to source creator, the energy of all that is, and that field of information. When we're connected into that field, we are getting and receiving information that will impact our life, big and small, but let's not discount the small actions we take in creating big impacts, or that those big changes and shifts and actions may only have a little impact. We expect that this relationship shift and you know, marrying somebody different or changing up our entire career. We expect a lot out of these things. And it's true of partners, right? We expect so much from our partners. I'm married, I've been married for 16 years, together with my husband for 18 years, and over the course of our relationship, we have gone through so much relieving of expectation. Meaning at the beginning, there was a mountain of expectation. You just expect so much from this person. At least I did. He needed to prove to me this, this, and this before I was going to move forward in these ways. And I had actually a tarot reader tell me once that I expected my partners to jump through hoops for me. And she said, You can continue to do that. You know, there's nothing wrong with any of the decisions that any of us make, right? We can continue to live exactly the way we are living. But getting that information and then her giving me this opportunity to think about it and say, but do you really want those people that are going to jump through those hoops? You can expect the hoop jumping and then therefore attract those who are going to jump through all those hoops for you and then end up with that type of person. Do you want that type of person? Do you want that type of relationship? And that's what she was asking me. And it was the first time that I ever thought about that. And it was an instant no. I don't want that type of energetics in my relationship. I don't want that type of person who would feel the need to placate me in all of these ways and allowed me to see both my partners and myself differently. But I was doing that subconsciously or unconsciously until that was pointed out to me. So we expect so much often from our partners. And just because I heard that back then does not mean that I did not go through those same patterns with my husband. I absolutely did. It was just a little more on the surface. It was more conscious to me that, ooh, oh, that behavior actually is evidence of that hoop jumping that I'm forcing him into or that I'm trying to force him into. The beauty of a relationship is that when you meet somebody who is meeting you in the field and in that place of evolution, because there's different energetic fields. And we can spin with people who we are spinning up into a higher vibration with them. And there's all sorts of spins, all sorts of frequencies, all sorts of ways that we can exist. And with my husband, he wouldn't allow me to exist in that place if I wanted to be with him. So I wanted to be with him because I called him in through my own manifestation techniques and my own praying and my own visualization and my own clearing of so much past programming and bullshit and stories and traumas. I knew that I had called him in and I knew that he was the person that I was meant to go on this journey with. So I also then knew that his challenges to me of, oh no, we're not going to play that game. We are not going to expect those things from each other. Now he was coming too in this relationship with his own traumas issue stories and had certain expectations of me that were trying to fulfill past slights that he had had from his family and life in general. And so we we did not come into this relationship perfect, but we're whole. And that's the beauty of this relationship is that it's been working to create more wholeness in us. Not because that other person, I don't believe in, oh, they're your other half. We are already whole. We don't need somebody else to fulfill and bring a half to us that we don't have yet or already are. It's that they get to reflect the half that you aren't seeing. So the expectation that we put on relationships normally are well, if they don't take me out on this many dates, or if they don't ask me something in this way, or if they don't act in this manner around my family, or if they don't blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, or if they aren't making this amount of money, or if they don't have this kind of ambition, mountains of expectation that we will put on a partner because we are hoping that they fulfill that half that we don't see, because we don't yet see it. So it's not that we want them to be that for themselves. We want them to be that for us. And we want them to be that for us because we don't think we have that yet, but we do. We have the other half, we just don't yet see it. So that relationship is a mirror to you seeing what you don't yet see. And some of it's really hard to see. So human expectation that we put on a partner, a job, you know, this career, this position that I just got hired for, this new career path, this place that I've moved to, these big things in our life, right? The big themes, we put a lot of heavy weight, a lot of heavy expectation on those things to make big changes and shifts in our life. Can they make big changes and shifts in our life? Absolutely. Yes. If we are willing to look at what they are reflecting back to us, not if we are expecting that thing, that person, that shift, that action to give us the thing that we're missing. We're only missing it because we don't see it, because we don't recognize it, because we don't yet think we have it. So when living life from a more conscious place, a more aligned place with our higher self and source, in living this life as the divine, we see that we are already whole, that we are already one, that we already have everything that we need. And then therefore the expectations from the big things in our life don't exist. They melt away, they fall away as the object of our expectation. And we turn that expectation within to say, well, why am I not seeing it? Where is it in me? Where and what is blocking me from seeing, having, knowing that I've got it all already, that it's already there. Whatever the thing is that you feel like you're missing. You might feel like you're missing love or peace or security or willpower or a vision, whatever the thing is for you that you feel you're missing, it's not going to come from out there. The out there is an opportunity to reflect into us where it is and what is blocking us from having it. It's not that we are living this life by ourselves in a vacuum, but it's that we are seeing everything and experiencing everything as a mirroring of our own inner state, our own inner understanding of self and where we're currently at. So if things are not to your liking, if things are not to uh the way you want them to be, if things are in a state of being out here, reflected out here in the world that you don't want or is dissatisfying to you or is unfulfilling to you, then there are blocks to you being fulfilled. There are blocks to you having and fully embracing that satisfaction. There are blocks to you existing in that field of what you already are and what already exists, the thing that you think is missing, the love, the peace, the joy, the harmony, the willpower, the anything. When we're operating from this place and orienting ourselves to this way of being, we are not expecting things from the outside. We are reflecting to the outside. So no longer are we looking for that thing out there to validate us, we are seeing it as a reflection of us. Oh, okay, huh. This is showing up. This repeatedly is showing up. Let me go within to see where that's coming from. Why am I reflecting that out here so often or repetitively? That type of orientation to life gives us both the responsibility but also the power to make those changes for ourselves, to live into our truth, and to live into who we really are, which is this powerful multidimensional being of a divine nature that is whole, that is already everything that you want, is already everything that you desire, that is already everything that you feel you might be lacking. Our job in this lifetime is to open ourselves up, remove the blockages and the darkness within ourselves to be able to see all of that. Going back to Abraham Hicks, when they talk about being in a frequency with your vortex. So we have a vortex of possibility of everything and desire, everything we want, everything that we expect of life, that we want of life is there. We have put that desire into this vortex, and source is ready to deliver that when we're ready to receive it. Source says it's right here for you. We're spinning it up, you're spinning it up. Now, are you going to walk into that frequency? Are you going to be in that frequency of receiving? How do we get in that frequency of receiving? We do things that feel good to us, that feel right to us. The moving things around because that feels right, or the, huh, let me stop for a moment, not step off this curb because I'm getting this feeling, honoring of self. We're listening to ourselves, we're listening to those nudges where we are following the feeling of what is right and what feels good. Our feelings or our emotions are that energy moving through us. It's the energy that we get to play with and go, oh, does this feel alive and light and good and whole to me? Or is this a feeling of good enough? Or is this a feeling of, oh well, I'm scared and so this is just going to help me not be scared? Or what's the feeling? What's the feeling you're following? It might be misconstrued that, oh, well, if I just do what feels right all the time, can't I get myself into a lot of trouble where I'm maybe drinking alcohol all day because that feels good? Or I'm, you know, smoking weed all day, or I'm just like sitting around eating cake all day, or I'm just doing nothing. We watched Office Space last night to show it to our son. My son's 13 now, and we've been showing him a lot of movies that we feel have messages. I mean, we watch other movies too, but but there's a lot of movies out there that have big messages. And Office Space has a big message. And we watched it last night, and you know, the main character just wants to do nothing. He goes to a hypnotist, and the hypnotist ends up dying in the midst of his hypnotism and doesn't end up bringing him back out. And so he just leaves the office in this state of, oh, well, every thing, everything just feels amazing. And oh yeah, I'm just gonna do nothing and no consequences. And that's another example of okay, yeah, that might feel good for you to lay in bed all day. And it might be good for somebody who has all the money in the world to do that. But what about you've got a job and a family to feed, and you know. Is it right for you to just lay in bed all day because that feels good? Maybe one day because you need it, because your body and mind are exhausted and you need it. Maybe a week, but there's human things that need to be done as well. So how do we reconcile all of that? I want to do this because this feels good. Isn't this going to bring me everything I want? Everything that's in my vortex, if you will, everything that I've ever desired. Kind of. But we also need to get clear on where we're operating from. And that's this orientation to our higher self, this orientation to ourself as a divine being. If we're not oriented from that place and working on that alignment with our highest and best and the highest good of all, if we're not working from that orientation, then we're working from another orientation. And that's typically from the ego state, from purely physical state. We're not operating from our wholeness at that point. So then to that being who's not operating from their wholeness, who's not operating from that full understanding and truth that they are a divine being, it feels good to smoke weed all day. And I'm going to do that. And why isn't this bringing me everything I want? Why am I not manifesting millions of dollars? Why am I not finding my dream partner? What's wrong with this scenario? Well, you're not operating from that place of wholeness where you are honoring all aspects of yourself. You're not honoring the fullness of who you are. Now, I'm not here to tell you you shouldn't smoke weed all day and just lay around. That might be your path in this lifetime. That might be what you're here to do. I don't know. I only know what I'm here to do. And what I'm here to do is led by that understanding that I'm a whole being. And that wholeness is informed through a field of information and understanding that goes beyond just the physical and beyond just my mind. So if we really drop beneath that need, let's say, to lay around and smoke weed all day, what's beneath that? What is driving that need? Oh, well, actually, I've always been in hyper alert and hyper-vigilant my whole life because I had to be, because I came from a family where uh there was an abusive parent or a single parent, and I had to step in and be an adult too early, or whatever the situation is. Maybe I was put under tons of pressure because my older sibling was a high achiever, and my parents wanted me to achieve in the same ways. Pick your story. There are countless human interactions and interruptions to our understanding of ourselves as whole already. There's a lot of information coming from outside of us to tell us, no, you're not. No, you're not whole. No, you're not perfect already. No, you don't have everything you need. You need this. This is what's going to make you better. This is what's going to make you feel good. This is what's going to make you whole. There's so much coming at us from outside of us that we believe that that's the path to our wholeness. We believe that that's what we need to do in order to fulfill and feel whole, to have and be everything we ever wanted to be. We already are everything we want to be to drive this point home again and again. And I'm going to say it over and over that we're already all of that. So do you need anything? Not really. But the things that we bring into our life to remind us that we are already whole, that we are divine, that we are multi-dimensional beings living here within this human form and in this human life and navigating this earthly field. Do we need reminders of that? Do we need to have a tarot reader or an energy worker or a spiritual guide show us that? Yes, absolutely, because we've had all of these other programs to tell us the not version, the anti-version of that. So then getting that information and those messages from those sources can be extremely valuable. But only if we're listening, only if we're taking positive and inspired action on those, and only if we are taking that in and orienting ourselves to the fact that we already are the I am. If the thing you've chosen to do that feels really good to you, that you think is of your highest and best, okay, this is my highest and best vibration, I'm in this and I'm feeling amazing, and I feel like this is the right thing to do, and I feel like this is how I should be spending my days in my life. If that is not bringing full satisfaction, a knowing and a reflection of your full wholeness, if it's not embracing you in a field of love because that is who you are, then there's an opportunity to go deeper, an opportunity to get clearer, an opportunity to see beyond. Well, if it's not this way that I'm spending my time in this way that I'm acting and thinking, then what is it that I'm not seeing yet? And you'll know. You'll know because it'll be reflected out here. You're going to be shown it. Life will show you what it is that's missing, what it is that you need to go to that next level. The mystic life is being in this field of awareness of our divine nature. And when we're not fully in and in trust of that field, we'll know. You will know because life will show you that life is always going to give us that reflection, and it's beautiful. It's like you've got a teacher with you at all times, and that teacher is life. It's showing you exactly where you need to go, what you need to do, what you need to avoid, what thoughts or actions or feelings are working and not working in your life. I'll give you an example. My husband started a podcast recently, and he is a brilliant storyteller. He has always been a brilliant storyteller, whether he's verbally telling a story or writing a story down or just thinking. And he's also really funny. So it's just makes for the perfect storyteller. So it makes perfect sense that he started a podcast. And I am so thrilled for him. It's so freaking good. I love it so much. And yet, when I heard the first episode and heard, or maybe it was the second one, maybe it was like the first one. I was still in this excitement, like, oh, he did it. I'm so happy for him and so excited. And then the second one came around. And it's so not just amazing in its storytelling, but it's so well produced too, because he's a super meticulous guy. He's not gonna let any detail go undone and be like, eh, that's good enough. They can just hear that whatever in the audio. He will do everything in his power to make sure that the experience of or the thing that he is doing is its best version. He's a perfectionist in that way, but I don't say that pejoratively. He's just so meticulous and thoughtful. So I was listening to his second episode, and I started to get these feelings of jealousy and like this is so so this is so good. And not the like same excitement of oh my God, this is so good, how I felt at the beginning, but these feelings started to creep in, like, oh, this is this is too good. Uh oh. And I was feeling a part of me, right? I was feeling threatened by this. So the third episode comes around that he produces, and he's like, Oh, you know, you want to listen to my episode this Friday night, or you know, this was a couple weeks ago. And out of me was just like, Well, you know, I just want to listen to it on my own time, like not together. Do we have to listen to it together? And he just stopped in his tracks and he was like, okay. And as soon as I mean, as the words were coming out of my mouth, I was just like, don't say it, don't, you know, this this part of me was expressing the threat that they felt, the jealousy that they felt. And it was coming out, not in a mean way, but just in this dismissive way, like, oh, you know, I'll just listen to that some other time. And as soon as I said it, I was like, shit, oh, why did you have to express that? Like, why did you have to? And and I had to because this was my deep dark shadow coming out. This was this aspect of me that was being beautifully reflected by life. Life was showing me this part of me that I hadn't yet fully faced. I mean, I knew about that aspect of me for sure. I knew it was a shadow, but obviously I hadn't fully dealt with it. Obviously, I was being triggered by this, and it was an opportunity for me to bring that into the light. Thankfully, I could see that and then talk about it and repair with my husband as well, because he understands and he, you know, just like any partner on the true journey with you, they see your shadows before you do. So if you ever want to know what are my shadows, just ask your partner and they will tell you all of them. Uh, but obviously that takes a readiness, it takes the vulnerability of stepping into what that is going to show you and what that journey is going to be to face that side of you, that aspect of you. So I bring that up as just, you know, this is life showing you, show it showed me what I needed to see. We could have dismissed, I could have dismissed that. You could dismiss anything that comes in as these life teachers. But then we wouldn't be fully living in our full field of possibility, our full and open field of ourselves as this all-knowing being, because that information that we need, that we don't think we have, that we think is missing, is right here. It's right here if we open ourselves up to it. It's right here if we allow ourselves to see. It is right here if we allow it to come in and work the magic in our life that we may be expecting to come from somewhere else. So that's what I want to leave you with today is to spend time opening yourself up to the wholeness of life. Because when we do, we are reflecting the wholeness of ourself. And when we do that, we are living in our full field of possibility and getting and having everything that we ever wanted.