Sean Michael Crane's Unstoppable Mindset
Sean Michael Crane's Unstoppable Mindset
The Man Who Refuses To Quit Cannot Be Stopped
Can mastering self-control and emotional regulation be the key to unlocking your highest potential? Join me, Shawn Michael Crane, as I share my transformative journey from a prison cell to running a seven-figure business, all while managing the demands of family life and professional responsibilities. This episode of the Unstoppable Mindset Podcast emphasizes the importance of consistent habits, including morning and evening reflections, visualization, and self-analysis, to build a disciplined, self-aware, and successful life. You'll hear firsthand how these practices can shape your reactions and behavior, setting you on a path to high achievement.
Discover the unparalleled benefits of self-reflection during the calm moments of your day, and learn how honesty with oneself and regular exercise can significantly enhance personal growth and resilience. We'll explore how these habits not only improve your self-control but also sustain your composure under stress, contributing to greater success in both personal and professional spheres. Elevate your mindset and develop the self-discipline necessary to thrive in every aspect of life by tuning into this powerful episode.
Welcome back to another episode of the Unstoppable Mindset Podcast. I'm your host, shawn Michael Crane, and I'm here at my home in beautiful Goleta, california. We're in the home gym right now. We're doing some content. We're filming some podcasts. I'm multitasking this week.
Speaker 0:You guys and this is what it looks like inside the life of a high achiever. Like, things aren't always perfect and easy, but you improvise and you make it work no matter what. This has been my mentality since day one, and this is what's allowed me to go from a prison cell to getting out with just $200 to my name, to build in a seven figure business and creating the life of my dreams. It's I always find a solution mentality. I never quit. I never give up. I never look at any scenario and think about why it won't work or why I'm going to lose. I always find a way to win and persevere, or I learn and grow through whatever circumstances I'm facing, and today is just a small example. Like nothing bad is going on in my life. My wife's not feeling well, the kids are home from school and so we're juggling things. I've been watching them, been helping out with my wife and still maintaining my presence in my business, taking care of coaching clients, putting out content. I'm checking all the boxes. I'm not missing workouts. I'm not breaking my diet. I'm not breaking my character.
Speaker 0:How many of you right now, how many of you men listening to this, have something take place in your life and you allow it to negatively affect you? Your reaction is what negatively affects you. It's not even the life circumstances, it's your interpretation of them and subsequent actions or your subsequent emotional reaction. And I learned a long time ago how to take complete control over my emotions. Now, I'm not saying I'm 100% perfect, but I'm damn close. You know, 98%, 99% of the time when I reflect on my day, I look back on a man who I'm proud of. I look back on character and reactions and a man who I'm proud of. I look back on character and reactions and demeanor that I'm proud of.
Speaker 0:And I actually had somebody ask me a question about this today and I want to touch on it. It's how to control your emotional reaction to life events. You know he was saying that he's a young business owner and when things are going wrong or not really going the way he wants them to go, he gets frustrated and he gets angry and upset. And I told him man, you simply don't have control over your emotions. Like self-control is so important and it takes a trained individual to have self-restraint and self-control because a lot of times people react impulsively and a lot of times it makes situations worse. Like have you ever been in traffic and maybe you got in a fight because someone cut you off? Have you ever been in a moment where you were stressed out and your kids did something and you lashed out and yelled at them and then you regretted it? Or your wife or somebody at work? That's because you didn't have the ability to pause for a couple seconds and think about how you wanted to act or what you wanted to say.
Speaker 0:So the way I've trained my mind to not be an impulsive individual but to be someone who's always in control over my reaction, I can accredit it to two things my morning reflection and my evening reflection every day. And if you're somebody that wants to achieve at the highest level, what you have to recognize it's not just about skill sets, it's not just about making money, it's not just about relationships, it's about you and your demeanor and your character and your self-control. So in the morning, when I get up every day, I carve out 30 to 60 minutes to sit and just be in the moment. I just sit and think about my life, I sip coffee and I let my thoughts come to the surface, I reflect on them, I analyze myself and I'm always holding myself to the highest standard and I'm always putting myself under the microscope, meaning I'm objectively looking at everything that's taking place in my life and I'm asking myself is this the type of man I want to be?
Speaker 0:Is this the man my children need in their lives? Is this the man my wife and my children deserve? Is this the man that can bring his dreams to life? Is this the man that can crush all his goals? Is this the leader? Is this the person in my heart that I want to be? And I have to be honest with myself in that moment.
Speaker 0:If there's things that stand out that I'm not doing to the best of my ability, I got to course correct. I got to do something different. I got to make an action plan right then and there that I can be held accountable to, and so by doing this over time, I'm cultivating an image of who I want to be. I'm cultivating a vision and an image of who I want to be. So I'm cultivating a vision and an image of who I want to be. So that's the first step is you have to know what kind of man or woman you want to be. You have to have that image and that vision imprinted in your brain.
Speaker 0:When you get up early like that and you reflect on your day and how you want to show up, you're more likely to follow through with the correct actions. This is about habits and repetition over time. If I do that sometimes, it's not going to really become a program in my brain that I can live my life by. But if I do this every day and I'm reflecting, I'm visualizing the character, certain scenarios, certain moments in my life and how I want to behave and how I want to act, I'm more likely to react that way. I'm more likely to react that way. I'm more likely to behave that way. You see, my reactions now are programs that have been set over long periods of time through visualization, through self-talk and auto-suggestion and through actions that align to that person. You see what I'm saying. Like everything you do is based on learned behavior. It's a program that you have set in your mind. Maybe you yell at your wife or your kids because you saw your dad do that. Maybe you treat employees at work a certain way because your previous boss or your first boss did that. It's learned behavior. So we can unlearn bad behavior and we can learn new behaviors or new reactions, new habits that will serve us, but it takes time.
Speaker 0:The reason the morning is such a prime time to do this is because you haven't made a bunch of decisions, you haven't done a bunch of things that cause fatigue. You're not already in a reactionary state where you're working, you're answering calls, you're doing all this stuff. Stress isn't high. The morning, when you wake up, that first hour is the best time of the day to program your brain, and you do this through visualizations, through your self-talk, and then, when you back it up with the right actions, it becomes, you know, a concrete program that you start to train yourself to live by over time.
Speaker 0:So every morning that's what I do I get up, I sip coffee, I reflect on my life, I visualize how I'm going to be that day, I visualize specific scenarios. And this is why the self-reflection is so important, because, let's say, yesterday there was a moment where I just I, I slipped and I raised my voice to my daughter and I. Maybe maybe I used a curse word around one of my children. I'm like dang, I don't want to be that dad, right? Well, in the morning I'm reflecting on that, I'm thinking about that specific scenario and I know in my heart that's not who I want to be. It doesn't make me feel good to look back on certain moments like this.
Speaker 0:So that day and that morning when I'm reflecting on what happened, I'm thinking of specific scenarios where the kids might not be listening or where there's a million things going on, and maybe that's a scenario where I would lose my cool, I would curse or my temper would get the best of me and I would react in a way that I don't want to react as. And I visualize that and I envision myself calmly and patiently addressing and handling the situation. That's just one example, and you can do this in any facet of life. Let's say you're having a certain issue in your marriage and it keeps happening over and over. What if you sat there every morning and visualized the same scenario, but you handling it accordingly, you having the right energy, saying the right words, having the right demeanor to resolve that issue or to prevent it from happening, do you think you'd be more likely to follow through the right behavior when that situation occurred, or do you think you would just continue to do what you've always done? You see, you have to prepare to be successful in life and visualization and getting your mind primed and your energy primed to handle these situations accordingly. That's when you start to develop self-control, because you're putting in the effort to fix things, you're not just hoping that it changes.
Speaker 0:A lot of people in life hope that things are going to change. They hope that patterns are going to change in their life, they hope that results are going to change, but they're not actually doing something to make sure that that result transpires right, I mean in business. If you kept getting the same results in your finances, with employees, with customer service, and you kept doing the same thing over and over, would you expect your business to change? No, you put safety measures in place, you do trainings, you make corrections, you pivot, you make adjustments because you want to change the outcome.
Speaker 0:So I do the same thing in my personal life all the time, and the last thing I do is every night before bed I reflect on my life, so that self-reflection in the evening carries over to the morning. But again, I'm always analyzing myself in the morning time and in the evening time specifically, because that's when, typically, like right before bed or right when you wake up, your mind's a little more fresh, you're calming down, your heart rate's slowing, you're getting into more of a sedated state where you're either getting prepared for sleep or you're coming out of sleep and for me, my clarity is so much more crisp. You know my thoughts, my energy, my emotions are so much more aligned and pure to who I want to be versus in the middle of the day. So look it Message for the day If you want to achieve life at the highest level and you want to be the best husband, the best parent, the best team leader, the best version of yourself, you need to self-reflect and you need to be honest with yourself and you have to learn how to develop emotional and self-control Self-control over the words you speak, the actions that you depict and carry out and your emotions, the way that you react, the emotions that you show people and the energy that you transfer.
Speaker 0:Last thing I want to share, too, is somebody who's taking care of themselves. You're working on personal development every day, especially working out. You're going to be so much more equipped to developing self-control, like exercise is such a powerful tool. You're putting yourself in these moments where there's a lot of adversity, a lot of stress, and you're maintaining composure. You know that's called equanimity, right? That's the word looking up in the dictionary. It means you know keeping your composure in stressful situations.
Speaker 0:So, going to the gym, put yourself under stress and working on your attitude and working on your character it's a catalyst to be able to show up that way in all aspects of life, right? So, self-reflection, get to the gym, do personal development, work on emotional control and self-control. If you don't have that, you're never going to be able to achieve at the highest level. You're not going to be the best family man, the best lover for your wife, the best parent for your children. You're not going to be the best team leader. We all have seen people who can't hold their tongue, people who react, they get angry, they're stubborn, they're not pleasant to be around. If you want to really influence people and you want to crush your goals and you want to be someone that people want to be around, you've got to develop this self-control and emotional control to achieve at the highest level.
