18: 7 Signs He's Into You

Are you constantly wondering if that special someone is as smitten with you as you are with him? It's time to stop guessing and start knowing. In this episode, we'll unveil the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that indicate he's truly invested in your budding relationship. Get comfortable, pick up your headphones, and prepare to unravel the intricate language of love!

Top reasons to listen to the entire episode:

• Break down seven practical signs that indicate whether a guy is genuinely interested in you.
• Learn to recognize a man's true investment and intent.
• Understand the importance of keeping promises in a relationship.

Mentioned Resources
James 5:12 KJV

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Transcript

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Have you come to the point in your life where doing that work, church, home, repeat just isn't working for you anymore, and you know there's gotta be more to life than this? Then girl, you've come to the right place. I'm Kimberly Knight, and this is the Position Podcast. As a certified coach, consultant, author, and speaker, I've had the privilege of helping women to position themselves for success in life-loving business. So if you're ready for some wisdom wrapped up in a little bit of girlfriend, join me and other experts each week as we give you the conversation, coaching, and keys you need to take you to your next steps. Welcome to the Position Podcast. I am your host, Kimberly Knight, and today I am going to start a new series called Seven Signs. So you know we love our signs, and we're always asking God for a sign. Give me a sign that he's into me. Give me a sign it's time to walk away. Give me a sign that he's the one. So we're going to talk about this in this series. So we're going to get it started right here, right now, with seven signs he's into you. And so we always want to know when we're in a relationship, is this man equally invested in this relationship as I am? There's this song called It's In His Kiss. And it says, if you want to know, if he loves you so, it's in his kiss. Some of y'all remember that song, and it's really cute, but it's a lot. Yet so many of us judge whether or not a man is genuinely invested in the relationship by things like this, right? His kiss, that feeling of butterflies, and Lord have mercy. Listen, let's take it out of the pie in the sky. Let's take it away from the romance channel. Let's make it practical. Here are seven signs that a man might be invested in the relationship. So here's the first sign that he may be into you. You're dating, and whenever he talks about the future, he says, we. See, that is a subtle sign that he sees you as part of his future. So pay attention. Too many of us just want to ask the question, are you really into me? Are you being genuine with me? As if he was going to say yes if he wasn't. Make it make sense. But but if he is talking about his future and he says we, that could be a very good sign that he's into you. Here's number two. He might be invested in this relationship if he takes you into consideration when he's making his plans, decisions, and schedules. And I'm going to take that away from Might and say, probably. Yeah, probably. If he takes you into consideration when he's making his plans, his decision, and his schedule, yeah, this is probably genuine. He's probably into you. Men don't waste time. They're not as complex as we are. Most men, if they're being genuine and honest and authentic in the relationship, they're straightforward. So if his plans and decisions take you into consideration, that's a really good sign. Now let me say this: that doesn't mean you will always get your way. That doesn't mean that sometimes there'll be things that are inconvenient for you or that you wish would go another way, but he does take you into consideration when making those plans or decisions or crafting his schedule. Speaking of that, here is another way you can tell if he's genuinely invested in the relationship. He's consistent. How do I spell love? C-O-N-S-I-S-T-E-N-T. Honey, let me tell you something. If his energy for you, about you, to you, for you, because of you is consistent, that's a really good sign. If his communication is consistent, that's a really good sign. You should not have to wait three days for a text to be returned. That's not a good sign. If you are in a relationship with someone who is inconsistent, that is a sure sign from a man that he's not fully invested. I'm just saying, again, I might not be right, but I'm probably not wrong. That consistency is very important. Number four, he's probably invested in this relationship and really into you if he is willing to share his thoughts, his hopes, his dreams, and his vision with you. Oh, that's a really good sign. When a man shares his vision with you, he is sharing his lifeblood. Remember, men are equipped for work, conquering, and reward. So if he is sharing what he plans to do in order to gain those things in his life, oh, that's a really good sign he's invested in the relationship because he's going to be careful to protect it from anyone or anything that could negatively impact it. So when he is sharing his thoughts, hopes, dreams, and plans with you and his vision for his life and for his future, that's a great sign that he's into you. Number five, he respects your boundaries even if he doesn't agree with them. Now, this is kind of tricky. You set a boundary, what have you, and he doesn't necessarily agree or like it, but he respects it and he honors it because he is invested in you. He may want to discuss it, he may ask you questions about it, he might even ask you to reconsider it or to revamp it. And depending on what it is, it may be something that you want to consider. However, even if you don't or he doesn't get his way, he respects the boundaries. And it doesn't make him say things like, Well, if you do that, then I'll walk away. So just pay attention to how he handles your boundaries and how he handles the word no in your life. Number six. Oh, this is a big one. Ladies, ladies, ladies, ladies, ladies. I need you to hear this. I need you to hear this, and I need you to share this show with some of your friends because you are going to identify with this. So here is a number six sign that he just might be into you and invested in the relationship. He sees you in person. He doesn't only call you, he doesn't only text you, he wants to spend time in your physical presence. Girls, listen to me. Please listen to me. Hear me when I say texting is not a relationship. Let me repeat that for the people in the back. Texting is not a relationship. Texting is the way he asks you when he can see you in person. Texting is the way he reminds you that he's thinking of you. Texting is the way he maintains communication with you in between the times he sees you in person. That is what texting is for. Texting is not the relationship itself. So if the only way this man spends time with you is through texting, you're not in a relationship. Oh, I just helped about a thousand people right there. And you need to send this to one of your friends. You haven't been able to say this to her, but she needs to hear it. You're not in a relationship. A man who is truly invested in the relationship wants to spend time in your presence. Oh, yes, he understands the value of your presence. And if he doesn't, he's probably not into you. All right, here's number seven. And this goes hand in hand with spending time in your presence and seeing you in person. He will make time for you. Even a busy man will make time for the right woman. Mm-hmm. Trust me when I tell you, my husband, he has a responsible executive position. He had a second job at the time. We were living in separate states when we were dating. We were not spending the night together. We did not live together. And we still saw each other every week and we spoke every single day. And that was consistent. I don't think we missed one day. And I wasn't the only person calling. He was calling just as much. Our energies were matching, right? So he was calling me just as much as I called him, if not more. See, when a man is really invested in the relationship, or if he sees a future with you or he's into you, ladies, he is not going to want to lose contact with you. Go back to the things that I said to you about consistency. When a man is consistent in making time, energy, and effort for you, he's probably invested in the relationship or he's into you. Yeah. Now I did say there were going to be seven signs that a man was invested into the relationship or he was into you, but I want to give you an eighth because this is a bonus because it is so important. This is really big. Really, really, really big. Another sign that he is into you and invested in this relationship is that he keeps his word. He does what he says he's going to do. His yes is yes and his no is no, as the scripture says. And when he can't do what he promised to do, he won't leave you hanging. He will explain to you and find ways to either get that done at a later time or by someone else or find a way to make it up. And it's not all the time, right? So things may come up. Like I'll give you an example. When I was dating my husband because of the nature of his work, he got called in on an emergency, which meant that we weren't going to be able to go out on that date that night. I think that has happened once. The reason was legitimate, and then he made it up to me. He didn't leave me hanging. I wasn't waiting for him at the door, dressed and ready and checking my watch. He did what he said he was going to do, and he still does. Watch how a man keeps or does not keep his word to you. Because a man that keeps his word to you, that takes pains to do what he said he would do, oh, he's probably into you and vested in the relationship. So those are seven, uh, eight signs that a man is invested into the relationship. He's probably into you, and that you can use that are practical, yes, and not just butterfly feelings. They are practical. Be sure to share this show with a friend because you know there's a sister in your life that needs this badly. I would love to hear from you about some of the signs you've noticed, the practical ones. Um, when a man is invested in the relationship and he's really into you, my contact information is in the show notes. And until next time, be wonderfully blessed. That's a wrap. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode. Be sure to subscribe to the show wherever you're listening so you never miss one. I would love it if you would share the podcast with your friends, post about it on Facebook and Instagram, or leave a review. That way you can help me to bring you more great content and expert guests. Until next week, be blessed.