Perfect Marriages Don't Exist! A Real Chat About Relationships and Communication

Perfect Marriages Don't Exist! A Real Chat About Relationships and Communication

We strive to keep it real and raw on Inspired to Be. This week we felt called to chat about our marriages, the ups and downs and how when 'life happens' our relationships change, challenges arise and we can easily forget that all relationships need love, nurturing and continual attention. 

Sammy talks through her journey, falling pregnant after only dating Brad for one month. Then, after Cooper was born, they navigated months in hospital with him and many life threatening health challenges. Through this time and pressure, Sammy says they focused on their solid grounding and individual independence while navigating the ups and downs of a relationship and life together.

Elise talks through the ever changing experiences that can be challenging on a relationship like babies, moving, deaths and illnesses in families, as well as financial constraints. These are all so hard and can make you question your marriage but this is totally normally. 

Some of our best tips and thoughts that we feel help our relationships are:

• Are you equally finding time independently outside of your relationship and home life?
• Have you given yourself permission to have self care time and time outside of being a wife or mother?
• Find confidence in bringing up conversations and being vulnerable together. This is where change begins.
• Communicate how you’re feeling.
• If you feel like your needs aren’t being met, think about how you have communicated this. Can you communicate differently in a calm space where it can be received.
• It’s ok to feel emotional and voice that you need a break before coming back when you feel calmer.
• Listen to listen, and understand. Don’t feel the need to respond straight away. Pause and honour what has been said.
• Schedule in and find pockets of time where you can be present, feel balanced and checked in to conversations.
• Make sure you understand correctly what your partner is communicating by reflecting back to them what they have said. 
• Remember, Every day YOU have the choice to fall in love with this person again.
• Commit to falling in love through the person you are, today. 
• Make a conscious effort to show up and nurture your relationship. A weekend away or time to reconnect.
• Notice the small moments of connection, play and fun.
• Check in with your goals individually and as a couple.

Sammy Recommends - Esther Perel Relationship Cards

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