Do vows and commitments ever cross your mind? Today, we share intimate reflections on marriage and divorce, navigating its delicate intricacies from a personal perspective. We'll explore the weight of promises made to our partners, the after-effects of not honoring them, and the pivotal question of self-safety in abusive relationships. It's a conversation that doesn't shy away from the often-overlooked impact such a decision can have on the children's emotional well-being.
Switching gears, we'll discuss the essence of family and relationships, juggling daily life with the ceaseless demands of a full-time job and child care. It's about the compromises, the balance, and most importantly, the love that binds us together. We'll also touch upon engaging our community through social media platforms and podcasts, emphasizing the importance of interesting content. Peek into the work behind-the-scenes through discussions about our donation page on Buzzsprout that aids the show. It's a heart-to-heart on love, commitment, family, and the struggles in between. Stay tuned for a candid conversation.
Do vows and commitments ever cross your mind? Today, we share intimate reflections on marriage and divorce, navigating its delicate intricacies from a personal perspective. We'll explore the weight of promises made to our partners, the after-effects of not honoring them, and the pivotal question of self-safety in abusive relationships. It's a conversation that doesn't shy away from the often-overlooked impact such a decision can have on the children's emotional well-being.
Switching gears, we'll discuss the essence of family and relationships, juggling daily life with the ceaseless demands of a full-time job and child care. It's about the compromises, the balance, and most importantly, the love that binds us together. We'll also touch upon engaging our community through social media platforms and podcasts, emphasizing the importance of interesting content. Peek into the work behind-the-scenes through discussions about our donation page on Buzzsprout that aids the show. It's a heart-to-heart on love, commitment, family, and the struggles in between. Stay tuned for a candid conversation.
power. Well, hello everyone. It's Saturday night, 7 o'clock Central Time. This is Project A podcast, your host, steve Mann. I really don't have anything prepared tonight, but there's something that's been on my mind that I've been wanting to talk about. But, first and foremost, thank you for tuning in and to the Project A podcast. Give us a like and yeah, and if you want more information about what Project A podcast is, you can go to wwwprojectapodcastcom.
Speaker 1:
Excuse me, so I don't have a hat on today. This is it. This is my head, so I didn't want to wear a hat today. I just want to change it up a little bit. Let me get this thing out of the camera shot there. It's not the loopy goopy, it's not the Mary Jane juice in there, it is just nicotine. It helps me because I used to smoke three packs a day of cigarettes and I tell you what vaping I feel better. A lot of people have their opinion on it. I do enjoy it better than smoking a cigarette and I can walk without being out of breath or anything like that, and I'm not inhaling all those toxins. Okay, so anyway. So I had to get that. Get that out of the way. But what was really bothering me is and the something's on my screen here, it's bothering me. I just got to get the X on that says that one of my streams is having problems and it's probably more likely YouTube. So because I didn't have a problem until I put YouTube on live. So, anyway, what I want to talk about today and I'm not going to take too much of your time, I feel, to put anything together, but this is what's really been bothering me.
Speaker 1:
I come from a broken home, an abusive broken home by my father, but that's neither here or there. But what my mom had to get a divorce in order to get custody of the children it was that it was. It was that bad. Okay, so my mom got custody and whatnot, and we lived with her for a while. You know, my my father failed to pay any kind of support at the time and my mom was really struggling. So me and my brother went to live with our father and it was what it was a rough time. But anyway, my point is, if you're in a abusive relationship or your children are being abused, you're being abused, you need to get out. Okay, you need to get out and find somewhere to go and start the proceedings, because you need to get out of that situation.
Speaker 1:
But for those who just wake up one day and decide well, I want a divorce, I'm not happy. That is un-able to me because if you were married in a church, you took a vow and that you would honor and cherish that person the rest of their life, to death, to it, till death, do us part. And I take those vows very, very seriously. I know people in recent months that have gotten a divorce. That's none of my business, just like it's none of my business what any of you out there. But you have to try a basket of sunshine all the time. You make it what it is.
Speaker 1:
If you're not happy and you're married, what it is to making you happy? Is it the person or is it that you feel trapped? I mean, you wanted to get married, right. The other person wanted to marry you too, right. So then you go down the road and you see something else that makes you feel real good and fuzzy and all that. It's the grasses and green around the other side. It may be at first, but let's say, five, ten years down the road you're in that same situation. I feel stuck, I feel trapped. I don't love this person anymore. I got to move on. Well, I mean, I don't think you should get married period. Then if you feel that way, if you feel like you're going to you know tend on ten years down the road, you're going to feel trapped and you're going to make that other person suffer during you know of your finding yourself, then don't get married. I've been married for 15 years now. I'm happily married.
Speaker 1:
We fight, we argue, just like any other couple. Sometimes we see eye to eye, sometimes we don't. That's what partnership is and you got to keep going. You can't just give up and I'll be honest, I'll be the first one. Anytime we get into a really big fight, I'll be like you know what? I want a divorce. I'm done. Let's just split it all up and just leave each other.
Speaker 1:
But then I'm thinking I took those vows, I committed myself to this person, and what would my life be without that person and what that person's life be without me? I don't want to find out. So what I'm saying is we have to try to make things work. You got to communicate. You don't feel unhappy? Maybe time apart, maybe need a weekend to be by yourself and be by yourself. Don't say, well, I'm going out this weekend, I'm just going to myself, and then your nightclub, jazz it up with your friends, and then ain't a good weekend. Okay, a good weekend if you want to go camping with somebody, with your friends, your friends, not anybody else, but your friends, the one you know, one night, weekend stand or whatever like that. I'm just saying go out camping with the friend.
Speaker 1:
If you don't want to camp along or go on a trip by yourself and think what you really want, because if you have children involved, the only people that you're hurting is the children, because then they got to you know, back and forth, back and forth, and then they see something at mom's house and then want to tell dad, and then dad gets upset and you know, then mom and dad's got a problem. And that's why, why are you putting them through that, bro? Why, you know, I don't. I don't think, unless there's fidelity. But there's no reason why you can't repair a marriage unless you're just not willing to. It's you have to try. I mean, you took the vows till death, do us part, and you owe it to your children to try.
Speaker 1:
I mean, if they're like in, let's say, high school and you guys decide well, we don't want to be together anymore. I'm done. Well, that's fine. They're pretty much pretty much on their way to adulthood and they realize what's going on. Have a great rest of your day. But when it's a child let's say, kindergarten first, second, third, fourth grade they don't know what's going on. All they know is that they've been living with you ever since they were born and they were living with mom, they were living with dad. Everybody was happy and now, all of a sudden, you know someone's missing from the household. Mom left, their dad left.
Speaker 1:
You know, I think in today's world that we need the families together more than ever. You can't find that simple escape. I'm not happy, I'm done. I feel like you're not doing enough for me this and that we don't get to do this. Well, you have to make the time to spend time with each other. You know there's been plenty of times where me and my wife are going to eat together without even having dinner by ourselves. So we always go out to eat with the children. Sometimes the grandparents watch us, especially if it's a milestone anniversary. We just had our 15th anniversary, which I think is pretty good, and I think I cooked at home. I made us some steaks, made the kids some and we had a good anniversary. So it's just a little compromises like that that you need to make to keep the relationship going. So you know it's a give and take. Okay, I take care of the kids as far as getting them off to the bus stop, and I make sure that I'm here when they get home.
Speaker 1:
I work a full-time gig. This is not my only gig that I do. I'd like to make it my only gig, but you know, it's just, I don't have any sponsors, you know. But anyway, and I'm not really looking to monetize it right now until I get an audience, but anyway, that's neither. So I work a full-time gig and I'm home. I come home, I cook dinner. The kids take turns each night loading and unloading the dishwasher Got a schedule for that and then they all take their showers.
Speaker 1:
I take my shower, we all go to bed A normal bedtime and then get up the next morning, get all over again, get them off to the bus stop, make sure they get breakfast first, but anyway, get them off to the bus stop, come home, pick them up, make dinner. Da, da, da da. So that's what I do. And then I come home and do yard maintenance and stuff like that on the weekends and whatnot. So I do everything that I need to do on the weekends, but during the week it's work, kids, family time, shower and bed and then get up the next morning and do it all over again. Is that tiring, yeah yeah, but it makes it worth it. You know, I mean, my kids are growing up so fast. Some of my older kids have grand babies already and they're growing up so fast. So I don't need that me time. I get that. I get that at work. You know I got friends to talk to at work and if there's a problem, I talked to a, you know, a couple of friends at work and and work it out within myself. But there's.
Speaker 1:
For the most part we don't have really any personal problems between us because we make it work. So I guess you can say that we fight for one another, we fight for our love for each other. We fight, you know we don't have to fight for affection. But Somebody said one time if that's, that's very close to us, that's it. You know I don't Hear you guys ever saying that you love each other and I'm like we do. We don't say it all the time every day. But the one knows, I know she knows that I love her and I know she loves me and we don't. If we say it every day doesn't it doesn't mean it, you know, I that's what I think. It doesn't doesn't have that meaning. But when you look, but when you wake up or you know, you make her a cup of coffee and be like I love you, and then she just looks at you and be like I love you too, or vice versa. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:
So it's not that I came from a broken home that I try to make this work. It's just, statistically, anybody that comes from a broken home, usually their children, ends up in a broken home. And I have other children that are part of a broken home. Either me and their mother didn't, you know we got into an argument or there was a infidelity issue and we're no longer together. And then you know they had to come Over to my house. They made my you know wife, using my girlfriend at the time, awkward moments, stuff like that, and and it wasn't good for the children at the time. But I mean they love her like she's their mother, so they don't call her mom, they call her by her first name, which I'm fine with that, because when I was growing up and my parents were divorced, my dad had Wives that he wanted us to call our mom and I I did, because I seem like you know, if you make my dad mad, well you know you're gonna get the horn. You know what I mean. So I did what I was told. But once I got out of that situation, I Never wanted to force my kids to say that to a step-parent If they didn't want to. So I am fine. You know, sometimes I do feel bad.
Speaker 1:
I do have a stepdad, my mom. We married. He's a wonderful guy. I love him. My brothers and sisters call him dad. I call him by his first name only because of my dad being, you know, forced me to call my stepmother's mom. And Ever since I'm I can't, even though he's, you know, this guy's a great guy and everything. I just can't. I love him Like he's my father. I, you know, I hang out with them. I, we do stuff together. He teaches me stuff, just like a normal father would. He's a great guy and I can't say it enough. I do love him and you know time is not on our side and I dread the day that you know we have to say goodbye. He's fine right now not to worry about, but you know that day of come, especially as we get older.
Speaker 1:
So so my point is it's all about the children and how they feel. If you're going to be weird and awkward during the proceedings, you're going to scare them. And if you just be nonchalant, don't do any kind of communication in front of them, don't show anger, don't berate the other party, tell them their mom's being garbage and this and that, or she's some kind of street walker or whore for that matter, it's not. You're saying that stuff out of anger and the only thing it does is hurts the kids and makes them scared of you. So my advice is don't do it.
Speaker 1:
This is such a hard thing to go through. I know I'm not talking political stuff today, but this is on my mind. I know too many people recently that are going through something and my heart goes out to them. It's a rough situation. It's a rough situation for the child, it's a rough situation for the parent. Until the proceedings over and you can get on with your life, it'll get better. It'll get better. But, man, I try to try to work it out. I know sometimes you can't, you know things just happen, you know beyond your control. But you had to love that person at some point, to ask them to be their partner, to be their wife or their husband, whatever. You had to feel something for them at the time. So, anyway, that's my take on it. And you know, again, we just hurt the children, we make them feel uncomfortable, so anyway. So what do you guys think about the Trump, the Trumpster? You know what? I'm not even going there. I'm not really going there at all.
Speaker 1:
So next Friday night, the 22nd, at 6 pm, we're going to have single brass faction with their release, their album release party. They're going to have a VIP part. I think we're going to be running it on the podcast from 6 pm all the way until he's done. This might be a four hour show, folks, four hour show next Friday at 6 pm. Make sure you, if you're interested.
Speaker 1:
I mean Gil faction with single brass faction. He's an amazing man. He's got an amazing voice. I love his music. He's a good guy. Manny can play the guitar and it sounds really good. It sounds awesome bro. It's awesome Gil. If you, if you see this man, I love you. I can't wait until Friday. This is going to be an exciting event. He's got a gentleman open informed. I don't have that information right now, but if you go to single brass faction on Facebook you can get some of that information off of his page Single brass faction.
Speaker 1:
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Speaker 1:
So, anyway, you can follow us on Twitter, also known as X. You can see our live videos on YouTube. We're on rumble as well. You can see us there. You can see us on Facebook or on Facebook Live. So I'm sorry I didn't have a whole lot prepared today. It's just been a messed up week. I'm going to be doing a lot of stuff going on preparing for for Gills show on Friday, the 22nd. Next next Friday, man Tune in. I'm telling you it's going to be awesome. It's going to be. It's going to be 100% live and it's, it's, it's, it's going to be really, really good. So, anyway, yeah. So follow us on Twitter rumble Excuse me, spotify, twitter, also known as X Just about anywhere you get your podcast, buzzsprout.
Speaker 1:
You can find us on Buzzsprout and I also on Buzzsprout. I also have a donation page there as well, or support the show page. You can check that out. Just go to go to pot. Sorry, I'm new at this guy's, but I love it. So if I seem a little nervous, I'm a little nervous, never really done this before and I'm hopefully finding my footing, and I know my content is a little amateur, but I'm working on that. So, anyway, you can, yeah. So that's, that's it for tonight. I just wanted to speak something from my heart and I will see all of you next Friday at six. He and him. What is going on there? We go, yeah.
