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Expectations : Wedding gifts and Impact on juvenile offenders
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Ever wondered why some wedding gifts make you scratch your head? Or why certain social events have the uncanny ability to morph from mild to wild with just a change in the playlist? Well, saddle up, because this episode of Triparency is a rollercoaster through the quirks of human behavior, hosted by your boy Bobby Frost and Jus Mystie. We'll be serving up stories that'll have you laughing, nodding, and maybe even rethinking the way we celebrate life's milestones.
We've all been there, right? That moment when you realize you've stepped outside your comfort zone and it feels exhilarating. Join me as I recount my own leap into the unexpected—the world of modern dating—and how embracing the unconventional led to joyous cookie dates and a fresh perspective on body positivity. But it's not just about personal growth; we're also peeling back the layers on wedding etiquette, from the sincere to the downright absurd. With a toast to diversity and a side of humor, we're tackling the tangled web of expectations that come with saying "I do."
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Podcast Reflection and Future Plans
Speaker 1Yo, yo yo, it's your boy, bobby Frost, and Bobby Frost Media presents Tryparency. I hate to say it this way, but it's just one beautiful lady.
Speaker 2We fire Courtney. No, I'm just playing Courtney. Courtney Lynn is sick today, damn.
Speaker 1Yeah, she couldn't get in. You know stuff been going around. I just got over my little bug.
Speaker 2Don't come past that shit to me, but you're here with your girl, though. Just missed you, just missed you.
Speaker 1So yeah. So, man, you know I can't wait to get this out to y'all to see the live event we did. I'm mad we ain't got it yet, but it's coming out. We got to make sure we edit everything. Good, we all see that y'all gonna like it, and we got a couple other things and works with that too. So, yeah, and it was great how you felt about it, miss.
Speaker 2It was fun. I had a great time. You know, we of course we brought back some guests that was on the show prior to our anniversary, like Alex DeGray, presidential P, and it's always great to have Alex on the show, that's my dog man.
Speaker 1He's so fucking funny. He's like motherfucking man. He you know you have recurring guests, like on shows. He's a recurring guest man, cause that's my dog. That nigga is funny as fuck, it's definitely funny.
Speaker 2And we had, of course, my glam squad was there my makeup artist, my hair stylist, Davina, and Latoria Coheal. They talked some shit. It was really nice. I mean it was nice.
Speaker 1Yeah, it was good.
Speaker 2It was, it was. It was the older lady coming through and making us feel like she was talking that shit. Y'all got to. Y'all got to tell me when y'all was talking.
Speaker 1We had that conversation about about three or four episodes ago, about OGs and TTs and shit like that. That's the TTs. He came in and I'm a fucking no. This what y'all lost, this what y'all need to regain.
Speaker 2Yeah, it was. It was nice. I'll make sure y'all tap into that. It's going to be on YouTube. I'm excited cause not only is it our anniversary, but it's our first visual for real, and it's just, that's dope.
Speaker 1I can't wait. Yeah, she was I. I. I want her back on too Cause she kept.
Speaker 2She kept it real. She definitely said she is sliding on anytime for us.
Speaker 1So yeah, that's what's up. It was a good time. It was different. You know what I'm saying. People have a little liquor in them, and you know.
Speaker 2I think it's always dope to hear the perspective, I don't care what nobody say. I done said this a lot of times on our podcast. I think it's dope to hear the perspective and the thoughts of people that's on on the same spectrum as you, I don't care what nobody say. Celebrities, rich people, the higher tax bracket, whatever. Y'all think differently from us, and you know what I'm saying. Just like we think differently from us because that might be poorer than us. You know what I'm saying Exactly. Middle class think different from the poor class, but rich class. So issues that we have in everyday life, relationship problems, whether it's relationship, financial hell, religion, whatever I just like to hear it from the regular person standpoint.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's the truth. That's why I like our show. You know what I'm saying. We going to get to the point where we're going to start getting bigger people out. You know what I'm saying? I'm going to say this right now for the bigger people, because I done talked to a couple people and I'm like, yeah, you got to spend money to make money, but I ain't knocking you. But I don't know if what you're asking me is good enough to have you come on my motherfucking show to pay you that.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm not paying. You got to want to come on this motherfucking. That's how I want our podcast to be. I ain't saying we ain't going to pay nobody because we will, but I'm just saying I want you to want to come to this motherfucking, because this where you can tell the truth at, this where you can say what you want to say at, and this where you be try and parents.
Speaker 1Like I said, I ain't no knock to nobody. You know what I'm saying. That's why I always will co-platform me and I will go on somebody else's show and do it like that.
Speaker 2Let me tell you something. I'm going to be on this motherfucking for free. And now shout out to him and I'm always going to be thankful that he came on. John Connor came on here. He asked me for nothing. He didn't say damn it, you got to pay this. I'm cool with Dre. He ain't say none of that. He said I'm coming off the streets to help y'all.
Speaker 1You feel me. That's the type of love I need. That's the love I want. I don't want to in that fake show Shout out to John Connor. That's my boy. If I'm going to pay, I'm not lying to you. If I'm about to pay a motherfucking, it's going to be a motherfucking like, for instance, I'll pay him off with like metastalion.
Speaker 2I know what she's coming to do. I thought you were just going to say methaman the little man. I thought it was methaman, no methaman.
Speaker 1I would pay methaman Like guys like that you know what I'm saying People like that. I'm only saying that because I know methaman coming in this. Bitch my feet for the females.
Speaker 2they about to jump on this bitch For the females. They better sit the fuck down. They're going to jump in this bitch.
Speaker 1No, I'm saying, you get it, they're going to jump. They're going to jump through the fucking the phone to come see this nigga. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2I can't wait till we have Lorenz Tate on here Another one.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2Yeah, look at us manifesting our future. That's what's up, man.
Speaker 1You know I'm saying for real. So that was, that was I liked it, that man. You know what I'm saying, so I ain't even got to ask. You know, we normally go through what we did this week. That's what we did. That was the big thing for all of us. I wish Courtney could have came in and said what she had to say, but she said she had a good time too, baby Y'all going to see.
Speaker 2Courtney was about to seat the whole time arguing with the man. Aggressive dinner, Do I say oh?
Speaker 1She ain't aggressive on the show, but, baby, that's a goddamn. You know, I said, I said back and just watched it.
Speaker 2I said put the Lulu down for him. Yeah, I don't know, she was drinking Hennessy.
Speaker 1That's what it was. That yet I got the Hennessy. That yet she was man. Anything possible man she was on, for sure, for sure.
Speaker 1So I'm going to start off with mine, like I've been doing with y'all. I'm going to give y'all another quote. I'll be loving doing these because I be looking through a lot of coats and it's a good one right here. Meaning isn't everything, but one to win is, and meaning that is like. You know what I'm saying. You might not always come in first on some shit, but if you strive in to get there, that's the big thing you really putting your energy and you really working to win. You know what I'm saying. You're not always going to catch a W. Michael Jordan then. He played 15 years in the league.
Speaker 2That ain't what Ricky Bobby said. Ricky Bobby said if you're not first, she lasts.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying? Shout out to Tyler Bennett at night. That's my shit.
Speaker 2No, that's a good quote, though I like that.
Speaker 1Yeah, I got to talk like you. Look at Mike. Mike played 15 years in the league. He only won six championships. That's not even half Right. You know what I'm saying, lebron? I think this is LeBron 20th year or 21st year.
Talking About Myths and Dating Tips
Speaker 2That's a long goddamn time. I just had to talk to my son about this, though, because he was saying like he was saying he couldn't wait for football season to come, or whatever, and he was just like when I know I can go out there and win and do this and this, and that I'll be going so hard, he's like, but if I lose I'll be so mad, and I'm like you can't be mad because you lose, like nigga, you're in the competition, you're going to lose Long as you give 110% every time you go out there and you had the wheel to win, you can't be mad, and it's hard to teach a kid that because, baby, they're losses.
Speaker 1The losses hurt.
Speaker 2They're your character.
Speaker 1And that's the thing. You know what I'm saying. That's what's going to build your character in life. If I, whatever you want to do in life, man, you're going to have stumbles. You might not hit the goal you want to hit, but if you're trying to win, to get to that goal, that's all that's going to matter, because you're going to get back up. You're going to dust yourself off like Aliyah says. That's mine. So, mr, you Know we're coming to yours. Let's know what's been going on.
Speaker 2My God, I have found me a fat boy y'all and I know I said that I didn't like fat boys, because I'm going to still say I don't, but this particular one, you know what I told y'all I was going to just drop everything and I'm just was like fuck it, whoever want to go out on a date, I'm going on a date. I'm trying different niggas. I don't want to try the same type of niggas. So I tried a fat boy and I have been having the time of my life for the last 30 days. Okay, so, um, I lied, it's been two weeks Now.
Speaker 1let me find out, man, that you keep in the um, the, the, the, the, the mom and her daughter like 68. So now you got your big nigga and I'm going to keep you warm.
Speaker 2Listen and do and and, and I don't need like being in the bed without him now. We haven't. We haven't had sex or anything but when we've watched the movie together. We've been on a couple of dates and it's going good. And for the bitches that was mad about, um, what was the place called?
Speaker 1Cheesecake.
Speaker 2Cheesecake factory. Our first date was a crumble cookie and we out, cause I wanted some fucking cookies, no, motherfucking cookies. And when we're in the go, I didn't want to go to know out to eat and I didn't want to go to know motherfucking movies, I wanted some crumble cookie. I feel like the first date should be whatever the fuck you wanted to be, or whatever the fuck he may have wanted to be. He came and picked me up and said where you want to go? I said I want some cookies.
Speaker 1That's where we went. No, motherfuckers, be hidden man. You know, my daughter, my third oldest daughter, she have me cause they ain't nothing close to where we at. You have to go on a little drive and I be going to do certain things and I'll be like oh shit's a crumble cookie over here, let me go get it. She be super happy. But they hit and they season what I think like they change every season.
Speaker 2No, they change every fucking day.
Speaker 1Oh, I thought it was season.
Speaker 2It's new flavors that they make every day, like they just make certain flavors a day, and so it's crazy. Cause that's a good way to make money, though, cause for the most part, you just got to come in and get a spread at one of each cause you know what I'm saying, but that's what I had got.
Speaker 2I had got two of each, and they was good as fuck, and I mean, like I said, I had a great time though, but, ladies, I'm going to keep you all updated, because everybody that I know told me to go to fat side, and once I went to the fat side, I was never going to come back, and I'm going to say this about big brothers.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying, Cause I'm from that community.
Speaker 2You admit you ain't no fat nigga.
Speaker 1No, I'm from that community. I ain't going to say I'm not you from the community, but I'm going to say this is the thing I always say about big dudes is don't knock. You know what I'm saying to non big dudes, gay dudes, whatever it is with that. I know when you're big it's harder to dress compared to little niggas and the reason why I say this when you go to certain stores they run they're going to have the medium, small, large and maybe an XL.
Speaker 1Once you go past that motherfucker XL, it's hard to find shit, so you really have to get your shit together.
Speaker 2That's why that's where the face fat fly nigga came from. When you see one of them, you got to give him his props because, nigga, you fly his hair with your fat ass and that ain't usually a thing, but you know it is. I'm feeling it, though. I'm having a good time on this ride. Like I said, I'm going to keep you all updated. If you all ain't never had you one, go get you one, okay.
Speaker 1So that's how it's to the big brothers big nigga brigade.
Speaker 2I ain't going to tell y'all what that dick getting like, cause I don't know. I heard fat boys got a little dick. I'm going to have to let y'all know that later on down the line, but for now everything is smooth selling.
Speaker 1Yeah, well, you know what I'm saying. Like, again, there's be a lot of myths going on with shit man. I think the myth start from up. I could just hate him because I don't heard it be so many different stereotype and myths out here, like and it'd be. Like, is that true? I'm like, no, like you know, this is different shit.
Speaker 2Like your big feet, you got a big dick. That's a lie.
Speaker 1I heard like oh, I think girls can't take dick. Well, I have seen some big girls that could, and I've seen something I couldn't.
Speaker 2Well, I've heard that skinny bitches can. Yeah, I don't know what skinny bitch that can.
Speaker 1I know about. I know some skinny ones that didn't.
Speaker 2I know something All of those, all of the, we definitely going to have to do a top. We going to have to do a topic one day about all of the myths, just period, because it's funny. But it's crazy because it's more for me than it is for women. Y'all ain't got nothing for us Like oh, if she got long hair, she got good pussy. You know, we got so many, we got a big nose, you got a big dick If your hands big.
Speaker 1It's time for females. You know what I'm saying. Like, I mean in general ones. You got, the ones like a blond are done Just because she blonde. She gotta be stupid that.
Speaker 2Did we prove that that was wrong yet? Nah, just.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying. It's just, it'd be myths. I'd be like man, like, but I think the myths come from up. I could just been hurt by somebody and they going that bitch is just, you know, like they, you know.
Speaker 2I think myths come from consistency of shit. You know what I'm saying. Like me and you might get together and you might be. Like I encountered a blonde. She was dumb as hell. And then I encountered one and she dumb as hell. You know what I'm saying. I tell our story Now. There's two people that's saying a blonde, dumb, and they just build up from there.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying. Like I ain't never really dated outside my race heavy. You know what I'm saying. Ever what's heavy. I mean like more than one person. You know what I'm saying. That's heavy. Just if I sit down and I want to talk to you know what I'm saying? Spanish shit, you know what I'm saying. If I ain't talked to one Spanish shit, can I really say what Spanish shit is? If I talk to two, can I really say what Spanish shit is? Nah, Now, if I'd have been through three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, Right, you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2Well, that yeah.
Speaker 1One thing about Spanish shit is I've heard about, especially like the Menikins and Puerto Ricans and stuff like that. I've heard that they against, they just got great sex.
Speaker 2Yeah, I did hear. I heard that there's some. They got some.
Speaker 1But you know again if I ain't ran through enough of them, sorry to say it like that.
Speaker 2Well, I think you should go through.
Speaker 1Try it out, you won't know, so that would be my thing.
Speaker 2How many of you think you need to try out. So you know.
Speaker 1You got to. I say at least you have to go about five.
Speaker 2Well, I'm going to Cancun for my birthday next year. Maybe you could come and maybe you could run through those five while you're down there. You know I oh shit, you marry Rob.
Speaker 1I'm sorry For me it's not Like I said, it's just I forget that's where I think the men's come from. You know what I'm saying Because, if I have, I talked to this man's shit before. Yes, but it's only been one, so I can't really just judge her off what she did.
Speaker 2Well, I talked to one white man and he was real fucking nasty. So now I just feel like every white man nasty, see what I mean. So if you went and said that, they are nasty on the porn.
Wedding Gifts and Financial Expectations
Speaker 1Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Like that's what it is, but that's neither here or there. You know what I'm saying, Miss. That might be a good topic one day we get on with this. It definitely is Good and that, so let's get into the topic today. Miss you going to crack this one open?
Speaker 2Yeah, because I was confused y'all and I hope don't nobody judge me and be happy feeling like I'm retarded or nothing, because Let me tell y'all, I keep the posts keep going away. So this was about wedding gifts. Okay, so apparently you're supposed to give money for weddings. I haven't been to a lot of weddings. That's sad. I'm a young black woman. I haven't been to a lot of weddings because a lot of motherfuckers ain't getting married around me, but y'all can't see. So I'm going to read y'all what the posts say and I'm going to tell y'all the race of the posts and y'all we going to go from there.
Speaker 2The Jackson's, of course, is a black family. They had 264 wedding guests. They collected only $1,457. The Kremlins is a white couple. They collected $1,75 guests and they collected $29,764. The Gonzalez's, of course, are Mexican and they had 220 wedding guests and they collected $34,895. The Chong's are the Chinese couple and they had 125 wedding guests and they collected $25,785. Now the post says above it if this is true, this definitely speaks volumes about our people. What volumes? What volumes, because who says that I have to give you money for your wedding gift?
Speaker 1It's like an unwritten rule and that's the thing. It's an unwritten rule. I got back to comparison with an open house. I didn't have an open house. I went to many open houses in my life. Usually you knew if I sent my homeboys or people around my age they weren't going to bring too much of shit. I noticed the people who did have open houses, like my cousin homeboys they were looking forward towards the great uncles or the older people to come in. If they had a parent that was in the shop, they were looking for them. People to come in because they're dropping money, people around your age. Well, they coming that bitch with just a high five or might give you a card or some shit like that. I don't think it's like a per se, an actual thing you got to do, but I'm saying it's like an unwritten rule you should bring money.
Speaker 2I think once again, like always, that's a horrible comparison. Only because when you graduate from high school, you have an open house. Because we want to give you a we know to bring money to that, because we're trying to build you a cushion to go off to college, to help your mother not have to spend so much money, because we know college is expensive, we know you're going to need stuff for college. We know you want to decorate your dorm room. You could probably get a car with that money or a type of stuff. We know we're helping a person that's on their way to being an adult.
Speaker 2I feel like when you get married, first of all I see that they, they, they emphasize the number of guests. Now, yes, black people do go crazy with the number of guests, and for you to have that many guests and only collect $1,000, that is kind of sad. But my thing is we're coming to a wedding to support and to see two people, two grown people, who are supposed to be getting married because they're financially together. You know what I'm saying. They assist each other, their partners, they're straight. We're just coming to celebrate them coming together. Like I don't understand why money has to be the gift. Not to say that I wouldn't give somebody money, but why is money the gift that's expected? You don't want no motherfucking sex toys or something. Y'all just got married. Y'all don't want no comfort or sex. Y'all don't want no like. You know what I'm saying why? Why do it have to be money? And, like I said, and that's just it's just, I don't care how much you spent on your wedding.
Speaker 2That's your fault. You see, the white people only had 22. How many guests they have the white people? Let me see that's your problem Cause. That's the problem right there. Y'all want to have all these people. Lord Jesus, I don't know where my Facebook app. Okay yeah, the white people had 75 guests. That's it.
Speaker 1Y'all think, yeah, but look how much they got. Though that's the other side of it. Think about what you just said how much they just got.
Speaker 2They got $29,000, while the black people had 264 people there and they had. They wedding probably was the most expensive. The black people wedding was probably the most expensive. That's why they be wanting money, because they want to get paid back for that church, for that expensive ass dress. They want to get paid back for all the 29,000, what they call it bridal party and all of that shit. Don't have such a big ass wedding that you wouldn't expect to get no more fucking money like that, or you wouldn't think you need to get no money like that. I don't think that this post is speaking volumes about shit.
Speaker 1No, I, like I said I I'm only, I'm a go from from me. I got you know I was married, so I'm a go from this right here. This is the truth. You know what I'm saying. I was on the side of going, cause I'm a man, though I was on the side of going, like man. I'm not about to spend this much motherfucking money on a wedding. You know what I'm saying. Other shit I could have been doing besides spending money on a wedding. You feel me? But I'm going to say this right here what's the truth? Once you spend a lot on that motherfucking, do you think you the most I ain't going to say most some will keep it real? Hell yeah, I'm looking to recoup some back because, like I said, my wedding, I can use mine.
Speaker 1My wedding wasn't super expensive. We came out about eight K. You know what I'm saying. That's what I was putting the wedding dress and sitting there. Just eight counts. I'm talking about that shit, about eight K, I know. And we thought we had a small, decent wedding. I know weddings, that's man. I'm up and spent 70 K, 60 K.
Speaker 2I was just in the wedding, a big wedding I know bro came out of I don't know exactly, but I want to say bro came out about 40 K, okay, but you're supposed to have a wedding that come out of 40 K and 80 K and shit like that, when you can afford to come out of 40 and 80 K. You know what I'm saying. Like people have weddings. That's why, like I said, the white people had 75 guests. That was only 75 invitations. They probably didn't even need invitations. That was probably fucking immediate family. Exactly A wedding that's supposed to be. I get it that you want everybody to see it. You know what I'm saying.
Wedding Gift Expectations and Cultural Differences
Speaker 2But for me I feel like weddings be a fucking fashion show for black people and a competition for black people, especially around this motherfucker. But I don't expect when I get married, if I spend 50,000 on my wedding me and my husband I'm not tripping if we don't get a dime back because we did this wedding. I wanted my wedding to look like this. I didn't spend it because I wanted y'all to give me my money back or none of that. I just want to know where the fuck the money become. A wedding gift. I mean, like, like I said, why do it speak? Why do? Because the black couple, because we talking about this specific post, because the black couple had the most people that they were in and made the least money. Why do they speak volumes? That's all I want to know. What volume is it speaking Other than y'all shouldn't have invited those fake ass people who didn't want to?
Speaker 1And I'm going to say it from this standpoint. I hate when people do that again, like we had that last. I hate them narrow ass minded opinions and statements and shit like that. But I get where they was coming from with that and it's what I said. Like I said, I had to win. If the whole thing about weddings, to be honest about it, it's for the female in the first place, it's not really most of the time for the nigga. But now we in the age now where I watched my daughter go watch weddings and they be on YouTube and he's my fucking.
Speaker 2I'm like what is she going to do on?
Speaker 1YouTube and he's my fucking wins. Be like, I'll be like God damn, like you know extravagant fucking ice piece cost $2,000. This motherfucking gonna melt.
Speaker 2Is there to melt?
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm gonna go melt Like and again. That's why I said like it's not that you have to go do it, but a lot of people feel like, hey, when I had this big ass wedding or extravagant wedding and reception, you come in here, you about to eat, you about to. You know what I'm saying. It's going to be a good time. You know, give a nice gift, because most of the time black people don't get married for long. They get married to say they married. Oh for love, my bad for love. They get married to say they married. That's true, I ain't gonna lie about that. That is true. But that's what I said. I had been in a wedding, I done a wedding, and that's the truth. Like we got back a pretty decent amount when we got back almost half of what we spent on the wedding, but we didn't have a big wedding either. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2I just feel like, like I said that don't make no sense to me. I hate that the narrow minded people always make it seem like black people just so fucked up. I mean we are. I hope that makes sense to y'all. We are fucked up, but y'all not gonna just put everything on. But just because they didn't make no money at their wedding, it speaks volumes about our race.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's some bullshit.
Speaker 2That's some bullshit. Like first of all, I just, like I said, I don't expect nobody when I've never been married and got no fiance, and got no husband or boyfriend for that matter. But I'm not tripping if I get married at the courthouse and have a huge reception or not have a reception. I'm not tripping if my wedding costs a million dollars. I don't expect my guests to give me money. If they do, I appreciate it. I expect them to come and watch me have my moment with my husband, the way I wanted it to be. Like I just I don't expect money, I just don't, yeah, because that's what I said.
Speaker 1Like I know, when I did mine you know what I'm saying I didn't. We didn't go in there with thinking like, yeah, we're gonna get this back in this night. It was really like, whatever person did, if you didn't come in with nothing, I was cool. You know what I'm saying. If you got the invite, you was cool. Right, you know what I'm saying. I didn't give a fuck what you brought. Long as you was in there, you can help us celebrate our union. That's all that mattered. But, like I said in other cases, I ain't gonna knock them. I get it. You spent 50K on a fucking wedding and now you got motherfuckers and that bitch and I don't people feel like that. You got motherfuckers and that bitch just came in as bitch.
Speaker 2Like you know, I think that should definitely bring a gift. I'm not gonna say that you shouldn't bring a gift, like because you do come in and you get fed. You drink it, good, depending on the way. And I went to my home girl, ashley, when I ain't never went to no white wedding. Okay, y'all, this is white people wedding. That's my white friend, ash O'Lay. Okay, shout out to Ms Lone. I went to her wedding and I was like, okay, this is my first time going to a wedding, a white person wedding. We're gonna see how this go.
Speaker 2First of all, that motherfuckers started on time. Do you hear me? She said four o'clock. That motherfuckers started at 4-0-1. All right. Secondly, the reception was open by all right for a certain amount of time. So, yes, you should have bought a fucking gift when you're coming to eat for free, drink for free, but they wins are totally different from ours. Like, first of all, you know we come to the reception, we eat first. You know what I'm saying. So the fucking liquor line was out the door Soon as we got into the reception. I said, damn, they ain't even started serving food. Jt, these motherfuckers want to get drunk. Okay, it was a good ass time, but it was nothing like a black win man. Hold on, listen to Cal.
Speaker 1Cal said I want minds like the good fellas, envelopes full of racks.
Speaker 2Man, that's some shit. I wish if they come like that they come, but it just, I don't know. Man, black people be tripping with their expectations sometimes and I just feel like that's crazy.
Speaker 1And the other thing I'm gonna say about that, like you know. So that's why I use the comparison from an open house. That's why I said I didn't have an open house, but I know when you have an open house, anybody that's in the viewers. Y'all tell me if I'm wrong. You knew the older people that came. Like if your parents worked at Jim Hurley, wherever, and you knew like they co-workers or certain family members came in, the older ones, that's who you was looking for to get your money back. I'm not money back, but get money. When you got you know what I'm saying went to your box. If I'm not inviting nobody, or the people I'm inviting, I know they not land like that, they not well off and up like that. I'm not expecting to get that type of money back either. You know what I'm saying Me. I'm the type of person I don't expect none of that anyways, but I'm saying if I was, it's who you invite. If I'm inviting doctors, lawyers, gym workers, uh.
Speaker 2See, that's what I don't agree with for your wedding, because I don't care what you do. You're my friend. I want you to come and have this moment with me. Watch me say I do to the person I love, or whatever the fuck the case may be. It just shouldn't be about gifts. I'm saying that it is different from a fucking uh, what you call it open house. I keep telling you that we're helping a kid who's transitioning from high school to college. We're helping him get a little cushion in the bank. We know to bring money there.
Speaker 1That's what they're for Hold on, hold on. I'm going to change that for you, though, Because I'd have been in, that's, I'd have been in weddings and had a wedding. When I go to a wedding, I'll bring money. The reason why I put money in there, because I understand.
Speaker 2It's because you, a man, and y'all don't want to go out and get the gift.
Speaker 1No, it's not that I guess in money. This is the reason why because I know what you just I can look from having them wedding. I can look at a wedding now and be like, yeah, this motherfucker came out of Okay.
Speaker 2And.
Speaker 1I understand you got a whole life to live. Now I can respect that. I don't mind dropping no bread in there.
Speaker 2I can respect that, but you see how you.
Speaker 1That was your choice. That's why she's sick. She ain't here.
Speaker 2That was your choice and that is a great gift and we appreciate it. But when I opened up your fucking card and it said congratulations, misty and whoever the fuck you may be, and blah, blah, blah, blah and it wasn't no money in there, all you got us was some fucking 575 thread count sheets or some shit. Guess what I'm gonna say. That was so nice. I'm not gonna be like no, rob, no goddamn will, he could have gave he know how much money he spent. People is acting like the comments and shit. They're acting like you're supposed to expect money. That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1But that's why I said what I said. It depends on who the wedding is and who you're inviting. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2Listen, money got us so fucked up down here on this earth. I'm always keep telling you all this because when the apocalypse happened, I don't want nobody to say I didn't warn you all. Money is gonna be the fucking reason we don't survive when the apocalypse happened, because you're all so worried about it. Fuck that little piece of paper. Man, it's about me.
Speaker 1You got things I already said and the love of money is the rule of all of you. You don't say that that is wild.
Speaker 2Why do you gotta?
Speaker 1pay me.
Speaker 2Why do you gotta pay me to come see me say I did?
Speaker 1It's again, it's an unwritten rule. That's why I said like, again, I'm not gonna knock black people because it depends on who the black person is. You know what I'm saying. If, again, if I'm inviting motherfuckers, like no, not well off enough to do that, then I'm not expecting that type of money. But again, if I go I'm being honest if I go to a certain wedding, I'm getting invited to a certain wedding by a certain person, I can tell, like what's cool and what's not cool. You know what I'm saying Unwritten, you don't have to tell me, I can tell.
Speaker 1You can look around. You know what I'm saying, what you looking around, like what Calvin just said, the only way to get money is the rule of evil. I mean the love's, like they go parallel. But like I'm saying, if I go to a wedding, right and just no knock to nobody. So I hope that nobody takes this the wrong way. I always do this claim, but I don't want nobody to get mad at me. I'm gonna say this right here If I go to a wedding and motherfuckers and this bitch only got, let's say, 200 wings, you invited 100 motherfuckers, you got 200 wings.
Speaker 2That's two wings each, ain't it?
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying. I know coming here. I know coming here. You should give them some money. No, that's not somebody I'm looking to give money to, like that why?
Speaker 2Now that's fucked up. They got 200 wings. I'm gonna tell you why. Hold on.
Speaker 1I'm gonna tell you why. You didn't put any effort into your own shit. I put all but all that I could, so you shouldn't even invited any I can't help that.
Speaker 2I like 200 people that friends would be. I'm a popular person, but all I could buy was a 200 wing. That's a lot Look it's the truth.
Speaker 1Like you didn't put none into this, I did Like this, if you knew.
Speaker 2Like the cook 200 wings.
Speaker 1They ain't cooking 200 wings. You going to motherfucking fish and chicken land. It take them a minute to. So this is what I'm saying. It's the truth. If I go on a wedding, I see in the wedding, like I said, motherfuckers got an ice culture and shit like that. It's Hold on. Let me hear what my dog Tee just said. I just seen a post where the black couple had invited. That's what we talking about.
Speaker 2Yes, that's exactly what we talking about.
Speaker 1That's what we talking about, and the 1400 versus the motherfucking 170. Here come my thing. I'm pretty sure if I go look at the occupation of them the white people or the motherfucking Mexican people and see what they did, then too, if I go look at the people who they said they occupation, I bet it was more well off people. It's just I ain't about the sugarcoaster shit.
Speaker 2That's what it is. First of all, I think that if you do a more, the white people have 75 people. That's a small, intimate wedding right. First of all, I spend less money and that allows for me to invite motherfuckers like doctors, lawyers, and control who I invite. So I mean, yes, I'm still saying that money shouldn't be a gift, that shouldn't be an issue. That black couple one divided 294 motherfuckers that they know goddamn well, wasn't going to give them that anyway. Not saying a couple complained it was a post, but still that was on them. If they expected money and you all invited two, did you all invite that many people because you all expected money? I don't think so.
Speaker 1I think above way, because it's the thing. It's 294 people. You can look at it from this way. I didn't, but I can understand somebody doing it like that. $10 from each person, that's $3,000.
Speaker 2Man, don't invite me to your fucking wedding.
Attitudes Towards Weddings and Gift-Giving
Speaker 1They love motherfuckers just trying to get a married two pieces chicken for all. You hate motherfuckers, but that's what I'm getting at, that's what I'm saying. If I'm going somewhere like this is no lie. I would never put nobody on blast on this bitch. But I know niggas that that went to receptions and females just to eat and drink because they knew it was free liquor, free food. I say this all the time Receptions are the funnest thing I do, I go.
Speaker 2yeah, I don't even want to go to y'all. When, fuck that, when is this boring?
Speaker 1I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 2Let's just put that disclaimer out. Wedding is boring. I don't want to cry. I don't want to hear you say I do. I don't want to see your husband get all ugly and cry. I just want to come to the wedding. That's fun.
Speaker 1I wouldn't expect anything, but I'm going to quote my uncle have better friends. That's what I'm getting at. You know why I do money? What do?
Speaker 2you mean.
Speaker 1Listen, this is my thing again, if I'm coming to something that I've seen that you spent money and time on putting together.
Speaker 2if you need my money back, you shouldn't have spent time and money on that, but that's what I said. You should have told me to meet you at the courthouse.
Speaker 1That got to be blow fire. I told you that, calvin. I like that quote because that's what I'm getting at. You know who you invited?
Speaker 2You get what I'm saying. Well, Calvin, just get engaged. We're going to see what the fuck his wedding look like soon.
Speaker 1Listen, that's my bro. I'm going to give you some money regardless. But he all right if you talk to Calvin right now.
Speaker 2Calvin already going to know like, yeah, calvin, don't invite me to your wedding and open my card and think it's going to be money in there, because it will not be Okay. I'm going to get you off some 200 thread count sheets and that's it.
Speaker 1I'm with you. Burst on that one. Let's go to Vegas. I'm with you on that one. If you have better friends, things are always better. That's why I'm getting that.
Speaker 2There was 70 mothafuckers, that that white couple said they knew it, how they were coming around. So my loyalty, the fact that I had nothing, my loyalty and my friendship. I'm here. I might have flew from fucking Texas that that plane ticket killed me. I don't know. I could have 12 kids. I probably ain't got, but I'm your dog though, man. This is the account.
Speaker 1I'm here. This the account said Mr you, my Conkerbind.
Speaker 2I'm not Fuck Calvin. Tell Calvin, fuck him. What burst is said.
Speaker 1That's a valid point, bro, what he just said. If I'm not looking to do a stravagan wedding, I'm not looking to get a lot of money out of it, so I'm going to Vegas. I go to Vegas couple of my homies. We won't be out this thing If you come in and spend 30, 40, 50, 60, whatever you expect people to bring money. Is that just saying that's? I don't know, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 2That's stupid and I don't agree. Like if I spend $40,000 on my wedding, like I said earlier, it's because I wanted my wedding to look like this, and God damn it. I want a job to see my wedding look like this, not because I want you to put a little money back in my pocket, Because if I spend that much money on a wedding, I should have it. That's all I'm saying. I shouldn't.
Speaker 1I should have it, but that's the mindset. See, what I didn't like about that post was I didn't like that they was making it because of black people. That's what I didn't like. That's the mindset. It ain't black. I'm pretty sure it's the white people that had weddings and didn't make that much money.
Speaker 1But it's the mindset of who you're sending. If I'm going to my dog wedding and especially I know it's my dog I'm already thinking about bringing him some money. But especially once you come in this bitch you looking like damn. He really put this bitch together.
Speaker 2Yeah, okay, okay. Let me go even farther to this, though, other than for somebody that's going to college, because I understand an open house, because we need money. We know I'd have been to college. You need money. What makes I'm talking about anything Valentine's Day, birthday, whatever the fuck the case may be, he is a horrible gift period. It's not a gift. Yes, I like money. Let me say that Disclaimer under the side. Know what they call it, footer? I love money. I don't mind If that's to give. You give me, okay, but it's no thought into that, it ain't. No, you didn't even give me. You went in your pocket and was like you know, I'm just going to give me a $500, $600 that you had to win.
Speaker 1That's lame. You know what? I'm not going to go with that one. Because that's I'm not going to go with it. I agree with Misty. If I spend that kind of brand my wedding, it's going to be about my bank account. I just want people to come celebrate.
Speaker 2That's what I said. That ain't what you said. You said that you, if you spend for no, I said that I understand.
Speaker 1I told you I spent on my wedding. I'm about to fight this I didn't expect no money. I'm saying I understand where they coming from spending a type of money, what's up, boy, what's up? That's how you been man. I just I didn't. I'm telling you I didn't expect that, but I get it, like you just said, with the open house, so I can use another open house.
Speaker 2You have the open house from you can't use open houses. Hold on, I'm going to use a good open house.
Speaker 1Motherfuckers who have open houses when they graduate college. I think that's stupid. Most people have open house when they graduate college. Yeah, I think that's stupid because you already graduated and you expecting.
Speaker 2a lot of people expect money. Because now I'm on to my second phase and like yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2Let me tell you what my thing is about the open house. This is one individual who's trying to push their life forward. Okay, when they go, whether they go from high school, even though I don't agree when you graduate from college this is one individual who we're assisting to get their life together. When we bring our gift as money, right, when you marry me as a man, we should be getting married because we're financially together, we're partners and we got this. We spent 50,000 because we can, because we wanted our friends to see our way, and this is what we wanted. It shouldn't be because, when they come, we think they're going to give us some money, or they should give us some money because they see the ice sculpture and the fucking chocolate fountain. The chocolate fountain is here because I wanted the chocolate fountain here, not because I expect for Calvin and his wife to come and bring us some money back.
Speaker 1I'm telling you why, though? I'm telling you why I got you Nas man. Whenever you want to come in, just tap in with me, bro. You know I ain't about to charge you to come up for an interview, man.
Speaker 2Who the fuck is Nas we here in Shadgin. I'm not charging. This is my little homie man.
Speaker 1He got his shit together.
Speaker 2He was revolving door coming to GBRC and I used to talk to him all the time.
Speaker 1Hothead. He'd have got mad at me multiple times, but you know I ain't never give up on him, and I told him. I said man, you bright, just get around and write people and you'll do better.
Speaker 2Yeah, he definitely got to come talk to him. Yeah, a show. My boys from my facility did not like their facility and they told me there's a little bit off subject. But they told me that it was preparing him for jail and I felt like that was a good topic to talk about.
Speaker 1We getting off real quick. But I'm gonna cause he in the live, I'm gonna talk about it. Nas felt the same way. Nas felt like that with our facility. But this is the thing Again, when you got people, it's not the facility, it's the people, workers. So if you got some workers that's going to be in there really trying to invest in the kid, like I used to tell him. He in there, he'll tell you, tell them all the time, hey, man, it's other things I can do to make more money than I'm in here with y'all. I come here and kick it with y'all, cause I want to see y'all do something. If you're going to come in and you around, Mr Williams, once you leave Mr Williams, you're going to be like well, at least I know I can't go through life and say that nobody tried to do shit for me. I know Mr Williams tried. He tried to help me out, that was all, cause I could have been easily that kid Right, Nope, that's what's up?
Speaker 1That's how I feel about the boy. They ain't want to come on. Nas man, just hit me up and get on on here. You got a good story, bro, so that's going to be very entertaining. Them type of like. It ain't going to be an interview but you're going to let you get your story off and what you want to talk about. I always like bringing people on that got something really to say that's the best thing and, like like Shay said, say, being in a situation like that it's preparing you for prison. If you going that much, just a system of that, it is. But if you got somebody in there trying to kick the real to you, it can change you around Bad.
Speaker 2But if you ain't got that, it won't change. No, it's definitely for the people, cause I had. I had people, boys, reaching out to me on Facebook after I'm like y'all know, y'all can't supposed to be writing me, but they calling like on Facebook, answer this phone, miss summers. I'm in this situation I need, and I'm like damn, so it's definitely deep. I mean, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1Whenever you want to come up. I've been wanting to get into that, to have a topic about that, but I want to have somebody on there that can really go in there and talk about it. You know, I'm just talking about it for me, being a youth specialist in there. I want to hear from the kids. I know what they saying, but I want the viewers to hear yeah, I want to understand I'm all talk when I'm about to get back on topic.
Speaker 1A lot of people don't understand how deep that is mentally for them to be in there and if you in there with like I never blast nobody but like Nancy, he knew who was in there at GVRC. That was just there for a check.
Speaker 2He knew who was in there. You definitely can't work in a facility like that. Just for a check.
Speaker 1And a problem is that the ones that be there for a check I'm in this note, the ones that be there for a check is, though usually the more higher ups.
Speaker 2Yeah, because you can't help with the falling low with them fucking kids, and not be there just for a check. The higher ups to be the ones Now.
Speaker 1I used to kick this to the kids all the time I said you see the people who really run this motherfucking. How many times do you see them? Come kick it to your own.
Speaker 2That's because they don't be down there on the floor knowing what the fuck. I always say that. I say that in any business, though it's like the people, because I'm a property manager but my owner of my company, you calling and telling me with this tenant and calling and told you but you wouldn't down here when she came in here. And you know what I'm saying. You ain't on the field out here, you ain't shooting in the gym when they come in here and cousin me out about they rent and I ain't got no choice but to. So anybody that's not in the actual field and they're above, they never know what the fuck going on.
Speaker 1That's the reason why and I'm going to wrap it up that's the reason why when you up that high, you really ain't giving a fuck. Exactly that's not what I'm here for. I'm for this check. I'm getting paid, right, I just seen them. I just seen them motherfucking job open and come up in the JNC County. Man, I'm up with six figure. You made 94 K a year. Yeah, they don't give a. I ain't going to say what the job was, but they ain't giving a fuck. What's going on with these motherfuckers getting convicted and nothing like that? They don't give a fuck about that. That's not what it's about, and I used to tell them this all the time like, man, when you look up. This is why I used to tell them. I said, man, you look up, I saw them, documentaries and everything.
Speaker 2The ones up don't give a fuck, they here fuck they getting a big bang and it's just fucked up because you started right where we at let's be real, Everybody, that's most of the people that's up there they started out as IRAs basically that's same shit. Residential advisor, Y'all know they call us all the same shit.
Speaker 1Like what teacher say I got about five kids who got my number when they call me in time and need anything.
Speaker 2Yeah, they going to. You know I didn't raise teenagers my damn self. I was a teenage reggie. I had a baby at 23. I had five motherfucking teenagers living with me at 24. And I was hell. I felt like I was a teenager, but we held it down. That's how I go. Another type of photo of the day.
Speaker 1But yeah, let's say let's do it. I'm glad you told me to focus on my music. I got skilla baby sleazy world.
Speaker 2Tell him I love skilla baby, and I know I'm old, but can you tell skilla that his ain't T said tell skilla, your auntie said man, I love you too, Nancy man.
Speaker 1That's why I was there, for I'm glad you listen.
Speaker 2That's what I'm about. I'm glad you listen.
Speaker 1I'm glad you listen, but back to the uh with that.
Speaker 2That's back to me. Not getting married for money, you're not, you're not getting married for me.
Speaker 1I didn't do it. When I'm saying what Burt said, if you go to Vegas and you bring four or five months with you, you know you're not getting nothing back.
Speaker 2That's what I would expect. I'm not expecting y'all to get no money.
Speaker 1You coming into the kick.
Speaker 2We about to have fun in Vegas If I just put 60 K you, that's because that's cause they bought plane tickets. So why can't you care about the people that flew into your win from out of town?
Speaker 1Appreciate it, nancy, that's what I'm saying. Like you get what I'm saying. If we go to Vegas or I go, like I said, if I go to down in the courthouse, it's just me and the witness. I'm not expecting no, motherfucking, I don't have a box.
Speaker 2First of all, why do people get married? They get married Hold on, Hold on.
Speaker 1Let me say this real quick. I'm gonna go back on because you're on live. I'm gonna tell you what it is. This is the truth and I had this argument with my wife. If you're going to get married and you're going to have a ceremony and a reception and you got a wedding coordinator, you got a wedding planner, you got somebody, you got a shelf or a catering, this is not for you. Listen, we had romance bars. We had at the village. We had romance bars.
Speaker 2No, no, no, Not. Why do you have a wedding? Why do you get married?
Speaker 1I'm about to break it down because this is what we're talking about. You're not talking about the marriage when you're talking about the wedding. The wedding is not the marriage, right? No, that's why.
Speaker 2I asked you no, you're talking about the wedding right now. I said why do you get?
Speaker 1married. You get married for the love and this is somebody you want to be with for the rest of your life. This is you bringing it, but when you're talking about the actual wedding and the reception, it's not for you. That's what me and wifey bump tears at. I said we were spending all this money to make other people have a good time, right?
Speaker 2So they're supposed to come to enjoy and have a good time in our wedding, so why do we expect them to give us money?
Speaker 1back. I'm gonna tell you reason why. When I'm going to fuck the wedding, the wedding ain't the one cost you the most. They'll tell you the wedding don't cost you that much money, it's the reception.
Speaker 2I know.
Speaker 1And what does the reception do? It's a party. It's a party. Well, try and just find out that the door Listen, I'm about to break this down. Once you go out in clubs and sit around here, wherever you go and wherever you at now, you're not gonna sit around here. You know, across the world, when you go in the club, the club expect to give you a good time, a good atmosphere. You, a host.
Speaker 2But you get married. I'm not about to let you correlate that. That's what it is. It's not.
Speaker 1I'm smiling.
Speaker 2No, it's not. I'm smiling because you know you will put anything together.
Speaker 1I'm gonna ask anybody here right now when y'all go to reception. I'm talking about how many receptions you didn't have a good time. I want y'all in here and alive to comment. How many times have you?
Speaker 2went to reception and not had a good time.
Speaker 1I have never been to reception. I've been to. I didn't have a good time. I didn't went to way more receptions than I went to weddings, because I don't want to be in a wedding. That bitch's long, it's forever. It's nothing going on. Well, reception, I'm there, I'm in there for the reception. The reception look, the guy said zero, the reception, you gonna have a good time. It's love in the air If they really spent some time. They got a decorator, then they got a catering. That's to make sure that everybody that's going to show them they love for the union they got. They're having a good time.
Speaker 1You supposed to give something back, but what I just said, you know who on your list that didn't give you a good time Because some people have you have to RSVP to be in their the way of the reception and some people have reception where whoever come come. If you letting whoever come come, then you might not be expecting nothing because you might have had. Like I said, I went to Romans. Whoever came came RSVP with the people who was older, who I know they want to RSVP. I told everybody else man, just come. You fuck with Rob, pull up. We went to Romans. I think I spent like 1600 with Romans and this was the funniest shit about it.
Speaker 1When I got to the crib, the shit I wanted to eat, I didn't even have they smashed the lasagna. I said, god damn, I got one plate lasagna but I ain't trippin' though. That's me, but most people. When they spend all that money, like I said, I was just in my dog's wedding. He came out about 40K. Can I say he expected a lot of money? No, but he expected some money. You came out of 40K. I made this bitch good for you to come in this bitch. You like to come in this bitch and just preload.
Speaker 2No, that's where I think the confusion comes in. A we do make it. You're supposed to make it an experience for your guests, but I just don't feel like they're supposed to their thank you has to be money. I just don't think that's what it is. It's not. It's okay Because again, you keep saying I see how you looking at it, and I'm not saying you're all the way wrong, but you saying like, we make it right for them. But, as the female who will be the bride, we make it right for them because this is what I want my day to look like wedding and reception. So it's like, yeah, it's for the guests, but it's for me as well. So I just it's just, I'm not never gonna feel you on the. I expected money back.
Speaker 2That's why I said, I didn't expect money If I come, if I get married within the next couple of years and I call you and be like nigga, all we got was $3,000 at this wedding, then I probably understand. But for right now I just don't.
Speaker 1And, like I said, you might not want no money. I don't know if that white couple expected money. It's just who you what.
Speaker 2You supposed to be shocked like what we got $29,000. You ain't supposed to be.
Speaker 1I'm gonna go back to what blow fire said to Calvin you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's his rest in peace. That's his uncle man. I wish you could have met he funny as hell man, but he kicked real wisdom to you. You gotta have better friends, because if I'm going to any one of my dogs in here, get them. I don't get how the wedding go If they got a wedding box, even they got a wedding box. I'm gonna slide up on here, bro, with a car Now when I used to have a bad thing doing back in the day but, wife, he got me together with that one. I would just give you the money. She's like no, go get an envelope, write a car, write something in the car and put it in the envelope. Don't just go up there and hand somebody some money.
Speaker 2Right Now.
Speaker 1that was definitely ghetto, but I just that's what I said but if I'm going to a wedding cause again, I've been had a wedding, I did a wedding. I know what a marriage is. I don't know why you keep saying that I don't care, no, it's not for you. I'm saying overall the listeners don't care, we this.
Speaker 2let me tell you something. If you all expect money, you're wrong.
Speaker 1I'm gonna ask the comments. Anybody seen one person coming? If you, when you get married, do you expect I ain't say how much do you expect to get any money if you had a reception? That's anybody comment that we?
Speaker 2gonna ask them Do you expect Do?
Speaker 1you expect to get some money.
Speaker 2Or is it just a a big thing, or you just coming at them, Like okay.
Speaker 1For me, like I said, it wasn't for the money, I was happy with whatever I got, and then, like you said, somebody who came in that motherfucking gave us some sex toys or a sex game I still was going to be happy about that you know how many people come to kids' birthday parties and don't bring no motherfucking gift and you just spent all that money for them kids to have fun, and ain't nobody mama boy, shit for the kid, that's some bullshit.
Speaker 2So you think a wedding? They don't give a fuck. Hold on.
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Speaker 1That's why I motherfucking said man, certain people are like man Rob, crazy. I used to argue with my BMs about this all the time. I'm gonna give them the money. But I didn't give a fuck, Like why are we? Why the fuck are we getting 12 boxes of pizza or 15 boxes of pizza and this, this and that? Like goddamn. My daughter would have been cool with just going to the fucking McDonald's Playhouse. We could have went to the park and she was going to be happy as fuck. Why are you putting this thing it's a whole fucking thing why we got a thing. She don't give a fuck about this. I know four, five, three, two, six, seven. I can see when you get a little bit older, but then I just didn't give a fuck. Man, I'm out here with some other kids and we having fun. That's all that matter. Why are you got to spend all this money on this motherfucking birthday party? Cause most motherfuckers ain't about to give you shit back. We about to be bringing pizza back home to. Ain't nobody about to be waiting for this?
Speaker 2The same reason we make the win look like that cause. We want everybody to see what the fuck we did for our celebration is not because we want no money back.
Speaker 1She, like a teacher, said Tisa, I wouldn't expect money, but it would be nice some money going back in my pocket to break even somewhere. That's all, that's it.
Speaker 2Okay, but he said he doesn't expect so he's not going to go home and open all of their cars and they gifts and be like damn babe, we only got $500. He going to be like damn, somebody gave us some money.
Speaker 1No, and what you just said. That's what I was. I was saying Like I ain't gonna lie to you, if we would have came out that box and I wasn't looking for money, but I came to the box and said I would have cracked it up like that, all we got was $500. I would have said I would have cracked me out of crack Jaws, I said damn, you know what I should have been a DJ? No, dj costs, I think, $600.
Speaker 1Yeah, no, dj is definitely high and this nigga didn't do shit. He didn't mix shit in the South.
Speaker 2The DJ was cool, but I can make sure I make sure I get some money at my wedding because I'm going to my first dance, going to be just my dance. Y'all got to throw ones fuck, pin ones throw ones.
Speaker 1And see, there you go. You already got him to let him know I'm going to crack the joke about my DJ. I said man, god damn. I said this nigga didn't play all the songs I wanted to play. He didn't mix it down. I said nigga did what I could have done. I could have went in that bitch and hooked my mother Playlist.
Speaker 2Playlist.
Speaker 1But I said you know, that's, that's what I'm saying. You spend all that money for the reception. It's who you bring it in there is going to determine what you expect. That's why I said them 70 people that sold out to that white. And well, when I got 24K, I'm telling you the people that came in that motherfuckin, they probably went today when and I gave you 2000 because that's what I'm getting- that I'm going to say this right, hold on, miss.
Speaker 1I'm going to say this right, this common sense. If I went to your wedding, right, and you got a car from Rob and I put $300 in that motherfucker, now you come into my wedding, that average good hearted person would be like shit. If I got it. Or save up, I want to give you some. I might have been getting 300. I give you. What if I?
Speaker 2don't give you the money at all. What if I go give you a gift that?
Speaker 1that is what I want to give you See, that's what I'm saying. If it's a good gift, here you go. Good gift, that's not spending money.
Speaker 2No, I wanted to give you this. What if it's not a good gift to you? But I thought it was. That's what I think the problem is like, all jokes aside, a motherfucker don't know how to appreciate something somebody do for him, no matter how small. It is Not true per se, but just because you spend 300 on me don't mean I probably didn't have that. What if I only wanted to go by you? What if I want to go by you and your wife? Some curtains, because I saw y'all had a blue living room. I don't know why do it have to be equivalent to what you got me.
Speaker 2Hold on.
Speaker 1That's what I said. You didn't hear what I said, for I said it could have been 50 dollars. You still got me some.
Speaker 2What you said. Yeah, you definitely supposed to get a gift for somebody, but what he just said.
Speaker 1That's another thing what he just said. But if you are acting like you up, I'm going to expect something from you. That's why.
Speaker 2I did, even if I am up. If I want to give you this gift, that's what I wanted to give you. I don't give a fuck if I'm a millionaire, if what I wanted to give you was a fucking listen of China said that's what I wanted to give you just because I got millions in the bank. You want to count my shit? Tell me what I should get you for your way.
Speaker 1So I'm gonna say what I said. I don't. I didn't expect nothing from now. I didn't have a problem. We got about half back what we did, but I wouldn't expect anything. But I will say this much right here I asked some homeboys nigga, I didn't see you at the bar spent $200, $100, $300. Nigga, you would have came through that bitch if he had walked about that bitch. What I looked at you different from that moment, on your damn right.
Speaker 2I think people do shit for gifts and that ain't the reason you're gonna say it gives and the gift.
Speaker 1That's what I'm saying. You can have the gifts. You feel me, they get gifts on your birthday. Yes, yes, the gifts. This is because the and it's the thing about even compared to a birthday a birthday If you live 60 years, you got 60 of them. Business, if you have a marriage and really personally be one, you you posted to go harder on a wedding than you do. A birthday, this bitch annual, this wedding ceremony, this marriage, this reception, this bitch only posted to be a one time theme. One time, that's it. I would say this right here for a wedding, I expect you to go harder on a wedding reception than you go on an open house. A birthday because you can graduate again, you can graduate from high school, you can graduate with a.
Speaker 2No, you only graduate from high school once.
Speaker 1No, high school, but you can graduate from college.
Speaker 2That's why I told you I think that one's stupid, I agree.
Speaker 1Most people have them, though Most people have them. That's stupid. A wedding this is big. This is my wedding.
Speaker 2A wedding. You can get married seven times.
Speaker 1That's what I said. You supposed to do it once. Now, some people don't Like baby showers. I don't. I'm not into the thing of keep giving up baby showers. You got seven kids, why the fuck you keep having baby showers? That first baby shower I'm with. Once you keep having baby showers over. I'm like, hey, goddamn dog, you have a baby shower, baby girl, every two years.
Speaker 2I agree, I'm not gonna keep coming in the only way I would have a baby shower is if I have another baby of a different sex, like I had a son. If I have a little girl I would have a baby shower, but if I had another little boy I wouldn't See that she go.
Speaker 1She T went right. That's what I said. But I think you should expect gifts based on how you live, and do that make sense? It does. Or if you got all rich friends, you expect money. That's what I'm saying. If I went to.
Speaker 2Why? Let me tell you the word that's throwing me off Expect. Why do you expect gifts?
Speaker 1I'm gonna tell you the same thing. You gonna say it's a bad comparison. If I go live in a motherfucking gated community, I expect this bitch to be secure.
Speaker 2That's not a good comparison it is. It's because it's who you're around, because a wedding is something for the couple. Is what I'm saying? Right, it's a celebration. First of all, it's not a celebration, it's a union. It's uniting two people. The reception, yes, is a celebration, but my thing is it's supposed to be just a party. A celebration we feeding y'all for coming to our shit, like I'm gonna use my birthday party.
Speaker 1I have one birthday party.
Speaker 2No, because birthday party is supposed to get gifts.
Speaker 1No, you don't.
Speaker 2Yes you is. No, you don't.
Speaker 1If I go to your birthday party, I don't mean to many birthday parties and clubs. You think I came in that bitch with a gift.
Speaker 2No, not that type of birthday party we talking about. Like if I throw a birthday party at a hall and it's a birthday party, you better bring me a motherfucking gift, not at a club, when I ain't got on the flyer. Listen.
Speaker 1I didn't mean to birthday parties at halls and then bring a gift.
Speaker 2Because you ghetto.
Speaker 1No, it's not ghetto, because you're gonna think this is an annual thing. So what's up? One, one, one, one. But here come my thing. Now I'm gonna switch this around.
Speaker 1My homies any of them in here even to you notice, if it's your birthday to you and you invite me over, you not saying you gonna get mad anything. You expect Rob gonna come through with some type of bottle or something like that. That's how I'm always, that's how I am. So when you look at your list of who you invited, you know who the fuck you invited, who gonna bring gifts or not. I got homeboys and homegirls. I know when they come to a certain function they gonna bring some for me. I got other ones. I know they just type they ain't giving you shit. Am I mad that they not giving me shit? No, I knew that before I invited you. But that's where it come in at.
Speaker 1Now I'm pretty sure that black couple that had an issue when you invited 294 motherfuckers some of the motherfuckers you expected to come with some and they didn't, and that's where the issue came in at. I don't expect, I don't care if nobody come, or do I expect? Yeah, I'm not gonna say a lot about that If I'm like I said, I had my 35th birthday party. I hadn't had a birthday party since I was in the I want to say, the 4th grade. I expected that people who I invited they was gonna bring some and they did, but that's what I invited. It's other motherfuckers I invited that I knew if they showed up they wouldn't come in with a number of lips and tips. That was their celebration. Nick, we about to get high. We gonna drink.
Speaker 2That's ghetto, but that's how it go. That's why I'm not gonna have no way and I'm going to Cancun to get married and fuck y'all if y'all don't come. Don't come, Because I don't expect no gifts from y'all anyway. How about that?
Speaker 1And and you know, that's just, that's just it. You know what I'm saying. It's, it's, it's just how it is. You know what I'm saying. Like you know, it'll not to it.
Speaker 2So the moral of the story is marry a white man. No, I ain't going down like that, but that's moral of the story is marry a white man and don't marry a black man, or else y'all want to go to get $1,000 from y'all 294 gifts and for y'all viewers, because y'all friends might not have as much money as y'all. And since we expect $300 gifts and $7,000, three account sheets then.
Speaker 1I'm going to get a disclaimer because y'all know she bullshitting, because some viewers won't believe that shit. But that's the thing. That's why I said it's not a race thing, it's a really who you are thing If you around other rich people, it's a class thing. Yeah, you around. You know what I'm saying. Who you around? That's why I said I couldn't even say if it was rich or whatever. It's who you around. Like I said, all my homeboys ain't super, duper rich, I ain't got no to my knowledge no millionaire friends.
Speaker 2Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. You said all your homeboys not super, duper rich? Yeah so is some of them like rich. It's something doing well off they. Good, you know what I'm saying. Write their names down on this. They, they, they.
Speaker 1well off the ones that's not married, they, they well off and they good. But you know what I'm saying. I don't know for say no millionaires. I'm just cool. I know some millionaires, but I ain't super cool, cool and I'm talking about my niggas. I'm cool, cool with it, and this is what we kick, yeah, but I know no ones. I'm talking about they going to come through and drop something. What I'm expecting. Can I look at it and tell you exactly what this one going to bring? No, but they going to bring something, whatever the vent is. Then I got other people. I do know that I don't expect shit from you. I can't say I don't expect shit for certain people. That's a lot. I wouldn't I'd be lying up here if I said that certain people it's family members why?
Speaker 1can't people's presence be?
Speaker 2enough. That is enough. People is listen. This will be enough for me, and I'm being dead ass serious. Come into my wedding no phones. Be there. Enjoy the moment. See what happened at my wedding. When we come to the reception guess what? Put your phones in the box. Be here, this is what.
Speaker 1I'm going to ask you right now and you are, but I'm putting this claim anyways If I came to your wedding or birthday, you had a birthday at your crib, but you had a birthday at the hall. Even if you had a birthday at the club or you had a reception me, I'm just using me, not saying you upset. If I did or didn't, would you expect me to have something? Be honest right now.
Speaker 2Yes, because the type person you is, that's why I'm getting that.
Speaker 1But if you, didn't.
Speaker 2But if you didn't, you didn't, you went. True, I wouldn't be like. But let me tell you, the only reason I expected is because I know you Like now, if you was just somebody like. That's what I'm saying, you know what I'm saying. I only know. I know that you're a gift bringer. So if you didn't, I would be like, damn, rob didn't bring no gift, no surprise. But I wouldn't be like Fuck, rob.
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Speaker 1Honestly, that's the point I'm at, that's what I'm saying. If you do that, 70 from the white club, like you said, that was immediate. They know what they're expecting.
Speaker 2No, what I'm saying is I don't think they invited those 75 thinking like no, no, no, no, no. That's what I'm saying. That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1I'm with you. They didn't go down. That motherfucker put out a like when they was doing a buzz and said when we invite such such, they probably gonna come with this. This is not. They just knew that they was gonna come with something when they invited them to 190, for I'm pretty sure they was just invite motherfuckers and they didn't look good enough at who they was inviting to expect that they was gonna get something. It's who you invite. That's what I said. Like it's who you invite. If you invite this bitch to everybody's bitch open to everybody, cause 294 people, I'm pretty sure they just let motherfuckers swing through that bitch. And they signed the. What's the name of it? I wish I still had the live going, but it's the book.
Speaker 2I can't take a name of the book, yeah.
Speaker 2Okay, and you know yes, let me tell you I'm happy, you, brother, that I think I told you I'll be photo, but my white, the white way, no way to why they have a fucking phone or voicemail, right Like. You pick up the phone and it was the couple saying you know, we're probably at the reception having a great time, leave us a message. And you can leave them a message like congratulations. Blah, blah, blah, that was dope. I like that better. I'm going to white wins from here on out. I don't want to go to black people wins.
Speaker 1I'm we're going to end it with this one, let's. You got something else to add to a message? I remember this video right. It was motherfucking international players and it was a white guy got married to a black girl, or was black girl married to a white guy? It was something like. That was interracial and I remember when they was playing that shit, half of the thing was black. They was in that bitch rocking. The other side that was white. You had a couple motherfuckers move, but they was looking around. That's my point. You know who would you invite it up? Because it was white. It was who the white people were.
Speaker 2Yeah, because my wedding was lit. Yeah, the wedding I went to was lit. They didn't start that night and, like I said them, motherfuckers was up drinking liquor before the fucking. The wedding was over. It started at four. That bitch was over at four 15. And then motherfuckers was drinking at four 20.
Speaker 1It depends on who you is. Like I said, I ain't trying to be funny, but I'm like if I go to a crackhead wedding I might see some crackheadic activity going on this, motherfucker.
Speaker 2You know what I'm saying. When you come to my wedding, do you expect to see bitches hanging from the wall or dancing on the wall, like no, okay.
Speaker 1That's it, that's what I'm saying. Like, there you go, I pull up at a motherfucking crackhead. Anything might pop off in this motherfucker. Okay, I expect that. So that's what it is. So we ended up what's your environment? To? A misty little lady.
Speaker 2Um, actually, my Apple is fucking having building issues. I don't can't figure out why the fuck they can't take money off my card because it's there. I don't know what the problem is, so I ain't been listening to nothing, I'm just playing y'all.
Speaker 2No, for real though I am, my Apple is tripping, but I have actually been listening to a lot of Megan Estalion. I listen, I've been listening to her little song. I fuck with that heart. I've been that little beef been keeping me kind of listening to the female rappers, but outside of that I still been vibing to Louis Ray. I can't shake that last album. My boy is going to.
Speaker 1We got to get him on it. I'm gonna hit cause up to. I'm gonna hit Mike up and see what's up. I don't see Mike.
Speaker 2I love him. Every time somebody say his name, I say that because I just want to try to know I don't give a fuck. I love him and that's that. On that, his birthday just passed.
Speaker 1What I've been on. It just been I can't say what album, because I've been going through on the playlist I've been off and funny we say in our display I've been off of UGK.
Speaker 2UGK to all.
Speaker 1UGK. I've been off. Let me see it Go. Girls Drills murder. I was at.
Speaker 2Walmart and a white boy pulled up. It's so crazy cause we be so shocked to see we don't be shocked, no more, especially not to some you used to be shocked when they listened to rap music. But he was pulling up listening to Sippin or some scissors. I say he was rocking in that bitch. I said you got to rock to that bitch. That's what I listen to. You got to rock to that bitch, please. I said man that niggas in there listening to three, six mafia, do you hear?
Speaker 1me man RRP my nigga Pimp C, pimp C. Come on that bitch. So motherfucking hard man, you got to rock, oh yeah.
Speaker 2I got to go listen to her Take that monkey shit off, oh you embarrassing nuts Period. Okay, I'm going to listen to it.
Speaker 1Yeah, you got to listen to it. So, man, we about to get out of here. Before we get out of here, we got to give out some social media handles where they can't find you at Just Misty.
Speaker 2Yeah, I can find me on all social media platforms, at Just Misty J-U-S, underscore M-Y-S-T-I-E. Yeah, make sure y'all follow me on everything. I got a lot of content coming. I keep telling y'all that I'm working on it and I'm delivering as much as I can, and if y'all want to hear about these boyfriends on the regular, then y'all got to get on there, because that's where it's happening at. That's where you get the exclusions. Yes, you might even get a glimpse of one.
Speaker 1Oh, you can find me at Bobby Frost Media, on all social media. Man, check me out on the Brust Drive. On Chronicles I don't know if I could do Chronicles at my other job because I don't think I can. You know what?
Speaker 2I'm saying, yeah, you can't, but yeah, I don't think I can. And it's crazy, because it's so crazy when you have jobs like that, because then, be the best fucking stories, listen I man, there's some shit going on.
Speaker 1Remember, I tell you it's my first podcast. That was literally gonna be me and one of my old coworkers. We was gonna get on this bitch and talk about, without saying the names, old situations and shit that was going on there. Because I tell them when I was at GBRC, if they had man listen if they had a motherfucking green room and all that shit there, this motherfucking would out of doubt be a top 10 reality show. Man, it's some shit that went down that much boy.
Speaker 2It'd be some shit in them. Yeah, and I was in Detroit on the East Side, I was like ooh, Lord Jesus.
Speaker 1This crazy. We had some of them kids down here last year for about a year because they was overran at JDF.
Speaker 2So they sent us. Oh yeah, I see, I wasn't even at JDF, I was at Cal. You remember? Jdf was bad man.
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Speaker 1They sent us about eight of them kids down here. They took them a while to summon the staff in that joint. Now again, I won't say their name. They were scared of the kids. We had one cat in there, man, big kid man. He was about six, five. He was cool. I didn't have an issue with him. But I seen him intimidating staff and shit. I'm like man, what the fuck? Another one of the Detroit kids is intimidating staff. I'm like boy. Y'all sound crazy.
Speaker 2But, like I said, if you could put a camera in that, muff boy and then people that's listening before we get out of here is so crazy to hear. You know we talking about kids and you saying that a grown person be intimidated. But what y'all don't understand is the intimidation come because you can't do shit, not for real. You know what I'm saying? Not to no kid. So it's like that's what I did learn working in that system, like what the fuck they say go. So you got to be cautious of what you say to them, kids. You got to be cautious of what you do if you like your job.
Speaker 1Like I said, I hope Ness y'all's Ness again, man, I'm going to get his information for his music too, man, I'm going to shout him out yeah, ness, get Ness on here, because Ness was a kid that had been in the system for literally like 12, 13, all the way up. He didn't have any different placements and all that, so he can tell you some real stories, some shit you going to be like damn and he can speak on shit and not get in trouble about it.
Speaker 2That's what he did, but I can't say shit.
Speaker 1I'm still employed by Jensie County. He can say some shit and be like yeah.
Speaker 2And before I go I want you to let y'all know. Y'all need to tap in a Sunday service by Lotto and Young Miami. New little shit they dropped because they the ladies is coming right now.
Speaker 1I don't need to say that this is the best time I think it's been when they're coming. Female rapper MC.
Speaker 2And I think it's coming, because ain't nobody saying shit about no sucking no dick. Ain't nobody saying shit about no ass shaking. These bitches. That's been bars and I'm here for it, that's it. Don't nobody want to bring Remy out of the retirement though. I just wanted to say that she need to man.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying. That bitch got bars, that bars, that's it. So they all mean hey and again, go follow, like and subscribe. Go to Tryparency, go to YouTube, go to Bobby Frost Media on YouTube, go like and subscribe Just misty.
Speaker 2Go to Courtney Lynn, go to everything I would have.
Speaker 1Hey, I would have shot Courtney Lynn shit out, but I don't know all of them. We don't know it, Lord Jesus she got a, she got a streamline, that shit man. I swear For real and we out.
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