Boujee Blondes
Boujee Blondes is presented by Melissa Clarke and Simone Grace.Join the ladies for girly chats full of fun and laughter - chatting about life, relationships and much more in a comfortable safe place. women empowerment and sisterhood is the sense of belonging that this podcast interprets. the atmosphere hopes to provide a safe place for everyone to go for advice whilst feeling accepted and understood. Melissa and Simone share their own life experiences which entails lots of blissful, loving and embarrassing moments but also mistakes throughout life. Speaking to diverse groups of people from different walks of life on various subjects. A weekly episode not to be missed - every Tuesday on all major podcast platforms. If you would like to contact the girls please email Boujeeblondespodcast@gmail.com
Boujee Blondes
"We may freeze our eggs" #38
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Hey welcome to the Boujee Blondes Podcast
Ever felt the holiday season's pressure to find the 'perfect' gift? Is the constant reminder of ticking biological clocks driving you up the wall? Join the gals, your Boujee Blondes, as we navigate through these and more in our latest podcast episode. They candidly share our experiences around the changes in our bodies as we age, the societal pressures surrounding motherhood, and the potential solution egg freezing presents. In the spirit of the season, we also weigh in on the romantic vs cliché debate about holiday engagements.
Stepping into the second half of our episode, we discuss an issue that has vexed many - the financial stress of gifting within affluent circles. A listener shares her predicament regarding buying high-end gifts for her wealthy boyfriend's family. They chip in with our experiences, stressing that it's the love and respect you demonstrate all year round that truly counts. Moving on, the girls explore the impact of social media on young women, discussing beauty standards, body image, and even the 'lemon bottle' procedure. Here's a spoiler - we firmly believe in embracing our unique imperfections!
As they wrap up, they probe deeper into the world of social media, its deceptive portrayal of 'perfect lives,' and the pressure it puts on us. Sharing their personal struggles, they discuss how they strive for a balance between the virtual and real world. On a lighter note, the girls also take a fun detour to explore some outlandish conspiracy theories sparked by the fact that Australia is wider than the moon! As they bid goodbye, they remind you to align with freedom, growth, and joy! So, are you ready to get Boujee with us?
Christmas Pressure and Engagement Timing
Speaker 1It's the Boojee Blonde's podcast with Melissa and Simone, available on Spotify, apple or wherever you get your podcast. Now let's get Boojee. Welcome to the Boojee Blonde's podcast with your co-host, melissa Clark, at Spokers. On this week's episode, we're chatting a little bit about Christmas and I've been under pressure to buy gifts that we really can't afford to buy.
Speaker 2We're also talking about our thoughts on how social media can put so much pressure on young girls and women, and are we spending too much time on our phones?
Speaker 1I really hope you enjoyed this week's episode. Of course, simone's under the weather lads, I was so under the weather.
Speaker 2I'm sorry if you're new here and you're listening to this episode and you're like it's Simone the man. My voice is just gone.
Speaker 1It's like we're alternating our sicknesses.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's like true of the face time that our illness, Melissa, is not contagious.
Speaker 1And like trinity, across the globe.
Speaker 2I'm not even joking, but from somebody obviously that comes from Ireland. That's like perished 12 months of the year. I feel like the temperature drop here has really affected me.
Speaker 1Really.
Speaker 2Yeah, like I don't know what it is, it's just insane. I don't even feel like ill in, it's, just like all of my nose and my chest, you know that kind of way.
Speaker 1Well, I feel like literally, but in the last two hours I got like hit by a ton of bricks. Is it just me? But as you get older, like I feel like my periods, like my symptoms of my periods, go on like longer than they've ever did before. Like I feel like I'm getting like a week before I'm getting symptoms, before I actually get my periods.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm the same Like. I just never get like really bad cramps. And the last, like year or two, I can tell like from a week before they come like I'm in bits.
Speaker 1Mine is just like cravings, though, like last week oh my God, like I just I couldn't just not control myself for chocolate Like it was literally just like I just have to eat this now, or I'm actually going to stab someone. And I know it was ridiculous. Like I just not, like I was, like I just have to have. I don't care, that's it, just give it to me, I know it's hard to, isn't it?
Speaker 2And then like the kids that when you're like intelligent and all this will be like, give me a little monster.
Speaker 1Yeah, but it's like, yeah, like I feel like it's in like a full week before I actually got them and then it's like bang and I'm just like fatigued, like really bad fatigue, like I don't know. Like I don't think I was ever like went on this long. I used to be like day before and then I was like period big bloat would grant. Now it's like I feel like I have one week out of the whole month where I'm actually like energetic.
Speaker 2Yeah, you know what I found works. One, just what Iron supplements. Really yeah, they have massive like, so go get them girl.
Speaker 1They make a really constipated daughter.
Speaker 2Obviously, if you like, take loads of them. But like Joe and you feel like that, just know you'll be fine, Just drink a heap of coffee.
Speaker 1Yeah, I think. Just I know I made it some I actually have. I'm on new tablets, though, like they're like for your skin and stuff and they actually do give me energy. But just in general I just feel like I've one week out of the month now where I can like do things, that I'm energetic, Melissa. If not, I'm like I don't know.
Speaker 2Very menopausal or something. You're definitely not that, no way.
Speaker 1I say though that like from like your late 20s, early 30s, you start in Peri menopausal. So yeah, my friend told me that and a freak the life out of me. I was like what she's like we need to go for a surprise. I know I need to freeze my eggs like because like it's terrible. Isn't it like pressure that women are?
Speaker 2I think it's just insane, though. Like I feel like back years ago, though, it was such a thing like to have kids so young, and now I feel like women are more like dedicated into their businesses and trying to progress and be successful, that they're kind of, you know, waiting it out, which is okay to do that, but then it comes down to as well you're like, yeah, age, like, do we actually what will?
Speaker 1be, fine.
Speaker 1I think it'll do, or 360 dog again. I think it'll start like in a couple of years, having kids really young again. Do you think so? Yeah, because I think, like the generation, like looking at us growing up, because we're that kind of generation where I feel like we're a bit older having kids that the younger generation will nearly be like I don't know, see, maybe as old parents they won't want that, like the way we looked at our parents when, like other, so young, having us like and it is good to have kids young as well, Like my mom hadn't even went when she was young and yeah, so close you know, so like there's nothing wrong, whatever floats your boat makes you happy.
Speaker 1Yeah, exactly Like everyone's, life choices are different. I don't even have this ended up in the conversation.
Speaker 2I know, we just were so random.
Speaker 1Freeze and eggs. Like what then? So I was at a wedding fair at the weekend and it made me think about like is there still a thing like of people? Do you think there's still be a lot of people getting engaged this Christmas? Like is it for you like cliche, like I don't know?
Speaker 2I think Christmas is a really nice time to get engaged, though.
Speaker 1Yeah, I think it is as well like. I think it's like it just is the excitement, cozy, vibes, mamas around you, more time off one another, so you can really kind of like enjoy the moment. Or would you prefer to one those people like that gets engaged, or would you like one those people that like rather in the middle of the year, like do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2and like Paris, or something Like I definitely but I don't know where you ever really proper expected an engagement like, yeah, you can have like your wish about your book. I ever really like full on exception, like when is the actual right time, you know, like with some people together for so long they go on Like a really big holiday to Mexico or the Maldives or Paris or wherever they may be going and they're like Joe, your friends kind of have that like yeah. Little thing where they're like they're definitely gonna get engaged.
Speaker 2Yeah but I don't know. I don't know when it's really the right time. But. I do think Christmas is definitely a lovely time to get engaged 100%.
Speaker 1Magical, isn't it? Christmas Eve. Would be nice to get engaged.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Or maybe New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1You can go into like the new year then, do you know, I mean, why do I often see you instead of like after Christmas? Like the influx of bookings come in always and like I just wonder, is it going? Is it like? I feel like kind of the cliche kind of dates they're gone out now I think that people are just kind of like a more casual with their engagements, like it's kind of like a thing, oh, let's get married, like, do you know I don't know.
Speaker 2I know I feel like if I'm like down the line obviously, like I'm not saying I'm going to or whatever happens, but I would death, like I'm just like I'll definitely be given hints about the engagement.
Speaker 1No, I actually. Everyone thought that. I was like I knew like we're gonna get engaged. I think it's because we're already just so long. Yeah, like I got to the point where I was like It'll happen, like it would happen, it will happen in future. Why didn't I have any clue that I was gonna be close to like? I Think literally about maybe 30 seconds before happened. I was like this is gonna happen, this is what's happening. Like you know what I mean, just like the one tell us I've been tricked.
Speaker 1It's just like the awkwardness of them, like he's just so weird like working. I Like why are you actually like a, like a creep, like you know? And then I was like, ah, now I know it's gonna happen, you know I can't, but I actually didn't think he was gonna do in New York, like so where did he propose? Actually, and Central Park in New York. Oh my god, that is so nice. I think he was like awkward or like who was looking Do I kind of well it was a winter time or it was in summer.
Speaker 1We went in November.
Speaker 2Yeah. Yeah it's so magical, how romantic.
Speaker 1Romantic, yeah, so I don't know like. I think Christmas is definitely probably the most popular time to get engaged, isn't it? Like Any, I need to bridle makeup artists, hit me up I.
Speaker 2Did you hear this theory of like? This is how I kind of would talk. Sorry, I don't know what is wrong with me, and again I apologize, yeah we're so was trying to keep it together here.
Speaker 1It's the. You know what is. It's like the itchy troll. It's like it's like a tickle, your troll. It's like terrible, yeah, like you get a coffin.
Speaker 2Swear to God. I feel like I'm dying. I know I did you hear off the bird toast theory?
Speaker 1on, take no, fill me in. What is all this about?
Speaker 2like so basically it's a, basically it's like you know, thank you. It's like there's a reason for everything in life and not to take life so seriously. So basically, in the morning, first thing in the morning, when something goes wrong, you're always like, oh, today is going to be set off into like the worst day. When first thing goes around in the morning, you tend to think that the whole day is going to be bad. But it's just right, we control our minds. So, okay, the first two minutes it takes you to remake that sense of rent toast, it could save your life. You could get into a car and you could be driving down the road and a good crash and then, from Remaking that brand toast, it could save your life. Or you could walk out the front door and meet a friend that you haven't spoke to in a very long time, or just little things.
Speaker 2So it's basically saying Not to take life so seriously, that everything happens for a reason. And if you're five or ten minutes late, say, like for the podcast, for example, I'm late, come long since stuck in traffic and you're like okay, I'm not really prepared. It's giving you an extra ten minutes to prepare yourself for an interview or For a podcast or whatever you may be going into that. Yeah, obviously it comes to a stage where it's like okay, you're 20 minutes late, you're half an hour late. That's taking the face, yeah. But it's basically just saying that life is way too short, and I think that we're also very serious In the same age about constantly like being on time or whatever. We can never get that time back. So it's basically just saying that we need to kind of take life in a perspective and enjoy every moment, because every moment counts and and yeah. So I was like that's a really, really it's like a domino effect.
Speaker 1I love that, like I totally Resonate with that, but sometimes around the moment it's like, yeah, hard to like think, like that Isn't it, like it really is, and it's understandable, like I know.
Speaker 2I just feel like, since I moved over here in a city like something that I'm not used to, everything is go, go, go, go, go on. That kind of person, anyway, and you're the same, like we've all loved being on the go, but I feel like it's 24, like seven, like constant, constant and then Like five minutes, and even when you get time to even breathe and unwind and just take little things that happen during the day into perspective, like having been able to get up and like two other ways. Some days were like, oh, I really don't want to go to the gym now, but instead of saying like, oh, I really have to, like I get to do these things.
Speaker 1Yeah, get to go to work.
Speaker 2I get you know. So like it's. It's basically just I just thought was a really good thing to say on here because I know sometimes when bad things happen, you know you feel like the whole world is ended because you burnt your toast Like you spilled I don't know milk on the floor in the morning. That you know, just constantly think of the positives rather than the negatives and that just because you had a bad first two minutes or five minutes every now and the day, Doesn't mean that your whole day or your whole week is going to be bad.
Speaker 1Yeah, I do like. I think I tried to do that this year and last year. I tried to change, like to try to complain into myself yeah. So I tried to say, oh, try, get to go to the gym like I tried to be like you know, make a positive that I have legs. Go to the gym.
Speaker 1Like you know me or some people would love to walk again, like I tried to say like, oh, I get to do this or I get to come on like and you know, like work here. You know, like I do try to. I think it definitely does work when you change a few words out of your mindset. But speaking of bad days like that happened to me Tuesday morning or is it Monday morning? It was Monday go up on my gym gear, got downstairs and I was like, oh my god, it's on fucking back to front and I was one of those like scrunch bum ones. I go back upstairs and change and then like Then I was like, then I tried to go leave and then I had to like move kids car I was a cheese cries will ever just fucking get to the gym like this is like half five in the morning, like you know. I mean it takes energy to get up that air to the gym. Oh, good job.
Speaker 2It's like what were you ever do? Like, when I think about like our moms and stuff like that. Our mother is out there. No, they have like you know, you know warm babies when they have to get up and go to work and they have other kids or whatever, like the lack of sleep, and then I know, it's like it's crazy, isn't it?
Speaker 1I'm mad, isn't it like? It's like I don't know how they do it, like because if they're in, if they actually for seven, like they're obviously up at like five trying to prep the baby and stuff, like I don't yeah.
Navigating Gift Expectations in Wealthy Family
Speaker 2So we just want to say as well I know we always got topic for all the moms out there. We appreciate you, yeah, and your time keeping, because at some point yeah, but I like that.
Speaker 1The and burnt toast series. It's a. It is a thing that can save your life, like being delayed or even stuck in traffic, like you do have to try feed the positives out of the bad situations. You know, so like, yeah, I like that. So let's everyone take that with you for your week. Burnt toast theory I heard of your first and the boogey bland pot. Just breathe, melissa, simone are here to listen. So on this week's juicy jammy Dodger's dilemma, we have a very interesting one. So, simone, see what you think this.
Speaker 2Okay, give me a smile. I.
Speaker 1Right. So this is from our listener. Hey, I've been with my boyfriend for the last year. This will be our second Christmas together. Last year we're only seen each other a few weeks, so we didn't do presents as it was an official.
Speaker 1This year, I'm really anxious about the gift situation. My boyfriend's family are extremely wealthy. His mother looks like an ad for Gucci. I have been invited over to spend Christmas evening with them and I really like his, his family. They have been very kind to me, but I don't come from a family like this and it's freaking me out. I will look for or miserable. I'm from a working-class family and I just don't have this type of money. I'm afraid they will buy me expensive gifts and I cannot compete with buying these types of gifts back for people. My boyfriend has a different mindset to money than me. He would splurge money and designer items and I have to work very hard just to get by to pay my bills every week. I feel under pressure to buy them. I feel like under pressure to buy all of them gifts that look expensive. My boyfriend told me not to worry about it, but I don't want to look on a pretty day if are on grateful on Christmas Day.
Speaker 2Yeah, it is sticky and you know, yes, there's always going to be times, okay, when You're going to feel this way in every aspect of life, okay, whether it's with friends, family by friends, partners, or whatever. Christmas is a hard time. It is, and I feel like it's a lot of pressure, but for me, yeah, it's nice to get nice things, but in the last while, I've just Take a little step back and realize that it's not all about the gifts.
Speaker 2No it's about who you're surrounded by and how they make your day feel so special Each and every other day. And obviously who's sat at your Christmas dinner table. You know, we have so much pressure, I think, on presents and gifts and we don't realize like it's the people that are surrounded by your table that matter the most, not the gifts. So I Know it can be quite tough in like trying to you know me in the middle of me, halfway because obviously she's saying like yes, so much money or whatever, but he obviously doesn't think that way, or he doesn't think of you any less because you won't be with you otherwise. So if he's happy to buy you them gifts, then okay, happy days. But you should never feel pressured or feel like you know you're kind of unworthy or you know you're I Don't know, even know how to explain it like it's, it's tough and it is quite hard to Not be able to buy them gifts back when you're not in that financial. Yeah, it's a, you know, but I don't know, I don't.
Speaker 1I think. I don't think the family will judge you any different.
Speaker 1Like no I mean, I think it's just if they have like, like, if it's like me, right, when I have money, I'm like, I feel like I just, you know, when you're out in the bar, you're like, I buy you a drink, I buy you a shot, you over there, yet Come here like I'm the satire person. If I have money, I spend it on anyone. That's right. Yeah, I'd never look for a back and there has been times where I'm fucking skint and cat having a for my breakfast, do you?
Speaker 2know what.
Speaker 1I mean, and you're, and you get into those situations where you are under pressure, like there could be an event or something they have to go to. You're like I actually can't afford to go here, and like you know, like, so I get what she means. Like she's under pressure, like she doesn't want to feel that, like that she can't buy them gifts, but like I don't think that like expect her and I think if they're any, like intelligence, are people they're gonna know she's not on the level of income that they are on and people have to respect that as well. For other people, not everyone's on the same income, as you do not mean see, have to look at people situations differently. So, like, obviously her boyfriend gets that Do you know what I mean? And he is no problem with it. So I don't think he's family or one having problem with no, I'm process the thought that counts.
Speaker 1But, we do put so much pressure on ourselves. Oh, don't we to buy every second present life for Tom, dick and Harry like yeah, but at the end of the day, what exactly are we trying to prove? Exactly who are we trying to please, or who are we trying to prove that, as you said, it's the top accounts, it's the family or way, and it's more about what kind of person you are through the whole year than a fucking present at the end of the year.
Speaker 2Exactly, but guys, much rather, in my opinion, someone treat me with a high level of respect, love and attention. Rather than having 300 Gucci bags or Prada lives under a trail, christmas day I'd rather be like a 12 month period of like happiness rather than a day of Like luxury pleasure.
Speaker 1Yeah, exactly like you, don't? You rather have whether it's a friendship or, like you know, a love relationship or whatever it is you'd rather have, you know, as you said, 12 months of joyful moments of that person, rather than shit time with them and then destroy a Gucci bag. You know, I mean like, and I was actually speaking of that.
Speaker 2I was watching, and by blink. Have you ever watched it before?
Speaker 1Oh my god, I'm obsessed. Yeah, it's so good.
Speaker 2Well, oh, it's depressing. So we get it. We get where you're coming from, money wise, and it's hard, but like one of the girls. So her husband was going away with their son on Valentine's Day and One of the guys on obviously has some radio show and she was against on it and he ran him up, obviously just joking around taking the piss, and he's like can't believe you left your wife on Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day, man, what are you doing? And she's just like well, that's one day of the year. I'd rather him go off with my son and treat me with a high level of respect For the whole 12 months of the year, rather than that just being one day.
Speaker 2Yes like every day, should be Valentine's Day together.
Speaker 1I actually seen that episode, yeah. Oh my god, I was obsessed with that, the girls or the makeup and everything. I'm actually obsessed, obsessed with it Like it's not even funny.
Speaker 2Manifesting this life.
Speaker 1Manifesting that wealth. But yeah, so back to our dilemma. Yeah, I think just have a little conversation with your boyfriend and just be like do you know what I mean? Like this is how it's going to be. I feel I guarantee he's going to really just comfort you and just he obviously knows your income and your stats and obviously he loves you more.
Speaker 1Yeah, he loves you more than we are, Rather than like you know what money you're bringing in every week and I wouldn't feel a pressure like just all you know. Your kindness, as you said on Christmas day, and having chats with his mom and helping out is more than a gift. Do you know what I mean? So if you have any dilemma or stories and if you resonate with anything that we've talked about in the pod, make sure you email us at the mootagrantsorg us at gmailcom.
Speaker 2So this week's topic of the week, we're speaking a little bit about our thoughts on social media and how much pressure it can be on young girls and women, and are we spending too much time on our phones and the positives and negatives.
Speaker 1Yeah, so, like I know, we spoke briefly about like the pressure on young girls and social media and stuff.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1You think it's gone worse, or?
Pressure to Change Appearance, Self-Acceptance
Speaker 2something like that I think it's gone 20 times worse In the last few weeks. I was just saying to you, like, about all these injections, like fat dissolving injections and all this kind of stuff, we don't know what we're putting into our bodies. Number one we don't know the effects it's going to have. We're not saying, we're not judging anyone, but I think, for a young influence of girls that are watching influencers and also social media, going off getting things done and thinking that it's okay to deal with these things, yes, if that's what you want and that's what you're happy with. But at the end of the day, we're humans and it's okay to have a little double chin when we laugh, it's okay to have a dimple because God put it there.
Speaker 2We're built that way, you know, and I think sometimes we need to accept your imperfections and see the beauty of them rather than thinking that we need them, fix them. In my opinion and I'm tired, I know to be the self confidence and stuff like that you look at some pictures some days and you're like, oh, I wish I could change this, I wish you could change that. But, like I said, we should be blessed with what we have. We should be blessed with the fact that we're able to get up and go for a walk in the morning or go for a run and we can change these things ourselves rather than having to go under the skin, and I feel like there is pressure, and even on us. Melissa, like looking at other people like I look up to a lot of people on Instagram. You open up your Explorer page and you see all these women like the Kardashians for it and then say you know they're perfect, but are they actually happy? They always seem to want more and I think that's like an addiction 100%.
Speaker 1It's like. I think it's like you have to kind of step back as well when you realize that you're overdoing it as well. But back to these, because I actually seen these. The lemon bottle is out there called patent dollars and actually it's funny you said that because I actually went researching what was in it. Because the first thought on my head was because I seen it rapidly all over my social media TikTok, instagram, facebook I mean in the space of one week this has literally like took over Ireland, like all the clinics have it in results before and after is, and the first thing I did was when researched it couldn't really get much gauge on like the exact ingredients that were in it.
Speaker 1But what I'm gauging off of is I don't trust it because normal fat injectors because I've known someone who got them in underneath their chin doesn't work straight away. It takes a while and this is from a well known, like totally professional doctor who is actually a surgeon but does like procedures as well. It takes a while for fat injectors normally to break down those cells. So when you see the lemon bottle results within 12 hours, like aren't the results phenomenal? Like they're so quick, like isn't it scary?
Speaker 2It is like a part of me, like when you look at it, I'm just like, oh my gosh, I need that, I need that. And then another part of me is like wait a minute, what? Kind of effect is this going to have for me in the long run?
Speaker 1And I like. So for some people who obviously do have like the feel like that they have a double chin, like that. This surgeon actually told someone that I know that it can actually happen to like, even extremely like, slender people. It's actually just a build up of fat cells that can be like genetic. So that's why some people like might get it done. But the problem is with this lemon bottle where I'm seeing is they're injecting people's faces so they're not even doing underneath your chin, where it builds up a flight fat cells can happen and no amount of exercise is going to break it down. But I've seen it. They're injecting it. Did you see that? Like at the sides people's faces, like underneath your cheeks, bones and stuff. It's actually making people look extremely slender in the face and it's like we need a bit of fat cells in our face to look healthy because, like it can actually age us if we're too like, you know, if we're too like, sculpted as well.
Speaker 2Yeah, exactly, and plus the fact, like in years to come, I know us, you know, like when you're in your 20s or 30s or whatever, your face does change with age. Yeah, I even noticed myself from like and it's not about even exercising sometimes, like I look back on pictures of myself like when I was a teenager and I'm like, obviously now, like I'm into the gym or whatever, yeah, it's a little bit changed, for it's just you have, like that much more fat on your face when you're a teenager and as you get older, it does tend to kind of go in a little bit. So what's going to happen to these girls if they're getting these done, you know, when they're 20s In?
Speaker 1their 20s. Yeah, yeah, they're going to gradually like want that fat back when they hit 40. Do you know what I mean? Like it's, it's, it's scary, I don't know. Like I just, yeah, I think there is like just so much pressure between like back and bum lifts and back and BBLs and lip fillers and, just now, fat injections, and I think the fat injections one is like the new trend, though, definitely this year, um, but it's hard.
Speaker 2I don't know what it is, but I feel like you tend to be like sheep sometimes when I go to this, because it's like you're seeing everyone get this done and then you're like feeling like you have to, because you're going to look completely different to everyone else if you don't.
Speaker 1And it's hard not to compare yourself, though, to others as well. Like you know, I think the main thing, like to take from it is like you have to remember that, like your body and your face is unique to you. So like even, for example, like if I wanted to look like someone like Kim Kardashian, like I'm just completely different. Like, obviously, like skin tone, hair color, body type do you know what I mean? Like I'm never going to. Even if I've got everything to look like her, I'm still never going to look like her. Do you mean? So you're better off? Like working with what you have and working with your best features? Now, I'm not. I'm not against getting that thing done at all. Like, if someone is insecure about something, get it done, but just don't be getting it done because other people are getting it done Like do you?
Speaker 2know what I mean.
Speaker 1Like.
Speaker 2I think you need to be aware. We did speak about this before like a natural beauty is amazing. You know that kind of way. Yeah, like it is. And like I saw Monica from Friends recently removing absolutely everything, she looks unreal again yeah.
Speaker 2Like you know, she said that she was following this trend and, you know, when she got older, like she was such a natural beauty and she started just messing around because the influence of people and who she was surrounded by she felt like she needed to do this to look better and feel better. But it just a major look 20 times worse and her self confidence went down more because she kept putting so much into herself that she just looks unrecognizable.
Speaker 1I think you're better off investing money in skincare treatments. So I have you know me, I am obsessed with skincare and I love any skincare treatments. I think you're actually better off investing money in getting the likes of, like a medical skincare treatment. So the likes of like even you know, like micro needling, or you can get like the laser, or you can get the more advanced ones, like the high foo machine and the hydration facials. Like yes, they're expensive, but maintaining your skin is what's going to keep you looking younger.
Speaker 1Like I think people are getting confused. I think the putting in filler is going to make you look younger, but you're not looking after your skin. So, like the main thing to look in younger is like working out, taking your vitamins, eating healthy, drinking your water and getting skincare. Like I mean, that's, that's, you need that before you do anything else. Like so I just I do think you're right, it is, it is influences so many young girls. Like you know what I mean. And like I've often got approached by companies to do collabs and stuff and I just wouldn't do them because I just I don't really like promoting that kind of stuff, like on my social media personally. Like if I want to get it done, I'll get it done. It's not like I would never really promote billers or stuff and share it on your own.
Speaker 1Yeah, I just don't feel comfortable sharing it because, like, maybe more so now like I wouldn't remind, but a couple of years ago I wouldn't, because I knew I had, like, a younger audience. I suppose my audience now are after grown up with me. Yeah, like it is hard for young girls right now, like, but I do think the younger generation now are a bit more reserved than like Gen Z, like I think Gen Alpha are going to be a bit more reserved, not showing ourselves in social media, because I think they've seen the effects of what it's had on people's mental health, definitely.
Social Media's Influence and Self-Reflection
Speaker 2And like I even look at like I was younger siblings or whatever, like I'm trying to be a better role model to them. So it's kind of like you know you don't want to be saying like you need this, you need that done. Like, yeah, you know we've all got stuff done, but I don't want to be splashing it out there to the whole world. Like if I'm insecure about something, yeah, I'll, you know, go off and do my own few bits, like you said. But I don't think I feel like when it's out there on social media it tends to draw attention to a younger generation of people that are looking up to you, that are following you and thinking that they need this to look like you or to fit in. And I think that's what it is.
Speaker 2It's all about like fitting in, and I see it massively in Dubai, massively, like I've never seen so many BVLs in my entire life. It's making you know what. It makes me realise like when you're back at home right, you know the way in winter you're like you know what, don't care, you don't. It's Sampochini season, you can put up a few pounds and you know you can enjoy like whatever, like we shouldn't never have to feel that insecure or pressurised, but it's. People do tend to think that it is a lot over here, but it's not really to be fair. You know like everyone comes in different shapes and sizes, but the amount of work people have done it just shows how much money they have to just wake up a little more and be like I'm just going to get a BVL because I can't, why not, like I have the money?
Speaker 1There you go. You know what I mean, but I'm sorry. The only thing, right? I well, I might as well be honest, right, I do think, the only thing that you like you can't grow boobs, right, you can fucking grow an arse if you go to the gym.
Speaker 2It's just laziness.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm sorry it's going to be blunt to say it.
Speaker 1It is like you can grow an arse, like it's the one muscle in your fucking body where, if you get up and be consistent every day and eat your food, eat your protein and your carbs, you're going to grow a fucking arse, like do you know what I mean? I understand, like, whoever boobs are like, and you can understand people getting liposuction from like massive weight loss and stuff. You can't get rid of that skin right, and I'm all for the women. I'm like, yeah, you go girls, give your best lives and be hot. You know what I mean. But you can grow an arse, you can.
Speaker 2It's just you have to just get out and fucking do it Like do you know what I mean, and I don't think they realize how dangerous it is, like I've seen so many people regretting getting that done, though.
Speaker 1It's one of the most dangerous treatments you can get done, like mental, I know. But see, that's the problem is because we're all spending too much time on our phone now, like that's why we're.
Speaker 2That's what I mean. Like I even find myself like I'm not actually spending a lot of time on my phone at the moment, where everything that's going on Obviously like I've been really busy and stuff would work and stuff like that, but I actually haven't spent time scrolling through socials like I can see stuff or whatever, but I don't spend as much time as I would. You know, back at home when you're kind of it's raining and you know a weekender, if you're snuggled up or whatever. I tend to kind of feel like if I have that extra hour I'll go out in the first year and go for a walk and bring my parents or a message you or my friends, or you know they'll spare a few minutes that I have to interact with other people and not be on my phone.
Speaker 1Yeah, I don't know. Even yesterday I was on my phone from 2 o'clock to half 11 last night between editing content for brand work and editing clips and things like that my eyeballs.
Speaker 2But you're not actually scrolling through socials, you're working to get me. Yeah, it's the same with me and I'm, after finding like a like, transform myself over to my laptop rather than being on my phone, because I turn to Instagram straight away.
Speaker 1Yeah, when you're on your laptop, you're actually doing work, like when. I find that like I've actually switched my editing like style to the laptop because I feel like if I'm doing on my phone, I get distracted with like somebody in messenger, someone writing a WhatsApp, someone doing this, and then I'm scrolling and then I'm not getting any work done.
Speaker 1You know what I mean. Where, if I like, if you're on the laptop, if you like, right, I'm a girl boss and I'm going to get this done. But like it is it just it takes over your life. You wake up in the morning on your fucking phone, Like it's just not good, Like you know what I mean.
Speaker 2We're not leaving. I think it's so scary, though, how, like, the first time you check in the morning is your phone, and we all do it, and it shouldn't be the case.
Speaker 1The first thing you should check is yourself and your mindset of how your day is for the week we should let try to get up and literally just have the first 30 minutes without any phone or like any work things. Just enjoy your coffee, have your breakfast, have a little talk to yourself and, like I know I'm preaching about it, but sometimes I'm terrible I mean we're like I'm the one that's on my phone, yeah, I know I'm the same.
Speaker 2I can't say I'm not because I do. It's yeah, but it's the way we've been brought up in the world. We don't know any different. But I feel like it's such a bad habit that we've gotten ourselves into it and it's all down to mindset again, like you need to just take action because at the end of the day, like no one else is going to control your mind or your thoughts, only you, and I feel like you'll need to like sit there and have a good talk with yourself because I know I had to.
Social Media's Impact on Life
Speaker 2And like stop putting yourself into like this dark hole of like this is reality. Instagram, social media is not faith. You're seeing glimpse of someone's day and not their whole life. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1And I do try to get out every day and just have a walk, like I think it's so important to get fresh air every day, like and just listen to music or whatever. But yeah, like it's just, I do think we it's just how we were brought up with our generation, isn't it yeah?
Speaker 2And it's like Joe and I go to my grandparents house when I'm at home and Annie is always like I remember I was always on the fucking phone, I know, and they're like I'm working, like I'm actually working, and they're like take a few minutes. They don't understand but yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1I try not to like. If I'm out in the company now, like if I have to do something, I do try to put my phone away, like or like, especially, like, you know, if I'm with my friends and stuff. We're not into social media and things like that. Like, obviously we'll take a few little pics and stuff, but I will try to like put it away. You know what I mean, because a lot of people that you know they're just not into that as well.
Speaker 2So yeah, obviously like back at home. I will admit, like most of my friends are into social media, Obviously the way I am or the way we are, and like they'll be like okay, let's go for dinner. I'm going to be home and just put my hand up and say it. I'm always the first one to get my phone out.
Speaker 2My little light and like go around the table and take like a little video of food, and then I'm like no, I have to do that again. Yeah, they're like can we just eat? I'm like no, fix your mark. Yeah, I don't look. Okay, I have to say it, though.
Speaker 1Like I try to get them like yeah, quickly. And then I'm like right, I don't know, do you know what I mean? Maybe if we get wrong, by the end of that I'm like, whoo, yeah, that's the thing I feel like we're not enjoying the moments that we should be enjoying.
Speaker 2To get me, it's constantly like, oh, I need to put this on my story, like in the last few weeks as well, you probably know. It's like even my socials and stuff. I thought my story is literally just being defeated of trying to juggle everything. I'm like I don't even have a minute to post and think of my story. Creatures is just all so much of my hurry. But it's also after making me realise that I'm actually enjoying having my dinner or enjoying being another women's company rather than just constantly constantly, constantly.
Speaker 1Yeah, 100%. Like I feel. Like I feel like you can get a bit lost in the social media world as well. Do you know what I mean? Like you're, like it's actually, since it's so like I feel like it's very clicky as well and like, yeah, it's just, it's hard, like you really have to be sure of yourself. I feel like going into that kind of way Like it definitely is like it can influence so many people in the wrong ways as well. Like, obviously there's very like positive, like influential people out there and a lot of people like like following them for like no, their journey and things like that. But like, yeah, it's just, I think we're we're spending too much time in our phones comparing our lives to other people and not living our own life and focusing on our own healing journey and our own just our own journey in general. Like in that.
Pressure and Random Facts
Speaker 2Definitely and we just need to. I feel like even you listen, you listen in, I don't know but age, year or how old you are, but I feel like sometimes you can kind of, you know, look at other people. I know we, we're constantly on our Instagrams so we can say that's their job, we love doing it, but like I feel like it can become a lot of pressure, even with us like to constantly have Even most like yeah, yeah, even like, even for like two like confident women, like it can still defeat you, do you know?
Speaker 1what I mean Like certain times, or like yeah, it's just it's, yeah, it's, it's, it's a it's a tricky one, isn't it?
Speaker 2I don't believe her when I say it. Our lives aren't always rosy and posy. Like I said, you're only seeing an hour or two hours of someone's day. It's not all what it seems to be. So on this week's fact of the week we have Australia is wider than the moon.
Speaker 1That's actually mad. It is, isn't it? Yeah, it's not. What the hell? It's crazy. Yeah, it actually like it. Yeah, that's mad because, like you wouldn't think Australia is that big. But then when you see the moon like far, far away, all those light years, you're like how is it like bigger than the moon? You?
Speaker 2know. And then it's just like my conspiracy theory brain kicking in again and being like they're only telling us that I'm we're believing that.
Speaker 1Yeah, I know. Well, now there's a little random fact of the week. So now we have our game of the week and this has come shopping with us, my favorite segment of the week, and I'm at presented some moon. Three images Right. So first up, simone, have you got the pigeons? Why are you having to put me? It's from Turtles and County Tip, so you have to guess how much these lovely pigeons are.
Speaker 2Well, you know what pigeons are? Very high intelligent creatures, to be fair.
Speaker 1So yeah, how much do you think?
Speaker 2Is it three or is there one?
Speaker 1No, it's per pigeon per pigeon.
Speaker 2Say a hundred yours.
Speaker 1They're actually only 35 euro yeah.
Speaker 2I think I'm going to buy a picture that said you let them know every day.
Speaker 1Do people actually like you to do that years ago?
Speaker 2Like I think it was an actual thing. You know, it's kind of cool to think that people don't know.
Speaker 1I call my pigeon Dorothy. I'd like Dorothy as my pigeon. I'd like Dorothy. Why would you call your pigeon?
Speaker 2Dorothy.
Speaker 1Because it looked like a Dorothy, I'd be like now pigeons, send your go, send. Give that note to Simone, their pigeon, dorothy, dorothy the pigeon, I'd call it a red corner as well. Right Next up we have eight smashing bulls, and these are from Gennard in County Longford, so it's a beef cattle.
Speaker 2So there's some baby else. There's some baby else, yeah.
Speaker 1So how much do you think a smashing bull is?
Speaker 2I think they're very expensive, though, bulls, aren't they?
Speaker 1They wouldn't be the cheapest. Now you know what.
Speaker 2I mean I'd say, for a bull it's probably, or jeans, I'd say check. I'd say ten, nine grand.
Speaker 1Nine grand for a bowl. That must be some sperm and that he didn't break me everyone, the whole field.
Speaker 2You know what we need, like they're supposed to be, like Harry got the English to half a lot. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1It's 795 euros, so you get ten of them for a rice and a grand.
Speaker 2It's 790 euros for a bowl. Yeah, how do farmers make that much money then? If that's all they want, they don't.
Speaker 1They don't.
Speaker 2Oh, that's so good 9000 for a bowl. It's very good investment, I think, to buy myself a few more bowls when I get back.
Speaker 1Right next up we have. We have a crow, magpie, pigeon, jackdaw and starling trap.
Speaker 2So it's very I'm sorry, but that is my worst nightmare Crows, crows freak me out.
Speaker 1I'm friends with the crows around here.
Speaker 2Of course you are.
Speaker 1Of course I have one crow and he knows me like my granddad is the same.
Speaker 2he put bird in his hand and whatever, and then come up and just you know a crow.
Speaker 1A crow is able to memorise a face that I'll always remember. So if you ever mean to a crow, it'll know.
Speaker 2That's so weird. Yeah, no, it's just freaking me out in general. I remember I got chased, but I'm sorry a parrot attacks me. Remember, remember, yeah.
Speaker 1My friend is terrified of birds as well. I can't so anyway, I want to take this beautiful big wooden netted thing to keep all your crows in it. I'd say 30 euros. No, Simone, it's actually 280 euro Yep, or a piece of wood and a piece of chicken wire.
Speaker 2I'm telling you now, I'd much rather get the bull. I can't tell. I think, she could try to make a bit of a uni out of it.
Speaker 1Oh God, it's funny, isn't it? So that is our Realities round. Yeah, you want a Randy bull, like you want him to. You know, get the lady sorted. That is our little cum shopping. That is our little cum shopping. I hope you enjoyed Simone's purchases. She's a happy lady going home with a very Randy bull.
Speaker 2So our information of the week is today is going to be a really good day. I'm excited to wake up today and experience this beautiful life that I'm creating with my thoughts and visions. Today, I align myself with freedom, growth and joy. I'm grateful that my life is so happy and successful.
Speaker 1Oh, I love that, that's a nice way now to finish off our week. Yes, it is so.
Speaker 2tell yourself that every morning and all those good things will align too. Yeah, we'll put that up on the pod page as well.
Speaker 1We actually may start putting up our affirmations on the pod page, if we can Really hope. You enjoyed this episode. Make sure you follow us on Spotify, apple or wherever you listen to your podcast. Follow us on our social media as well. We'll see you next week. Bye, talk to you next week.
Speaker 2Bye.
