Ever caught yourself compulsively cleaning your home before a trip, just like your dear mum used to insist? That's us – Melissa and Simone – chuckling over the quirks we've picked up from our folks, as we explore the bittersweet journey into adulthood. From the peculiar obsession with weather to the eye-opening experiences of Dry January, we're unpacking the emotional rollercoaster that comes with the territory. Whether you're wrestling with the gloom of an overcast day or the peer pressure of a pint-filled pub, join us for a heart-to-heart on how these cultural norms shape our lives and perhaps, how we're subtly shifting them.
Have you ever faced the mirror, frustrated as your hair defies the laws of physics, or found yourself stuck in the endless loop of scrolling through your phone instead of tackling your to-do list? Oh, we feel you! This episode isn't just about the gripes of hair maintenance or the modern-day struggle with digital distractions; it's a candid discussion about the realities of being a woman today. We're diving into the nitty-gritty, from the challenge of finding that elusive perfect pair of jeans to the daily decisions that leave us second-guessing at the dinner table. And trust us, we're keeping everything relatable and light-hearted, even when the topics seem like they've come straight out of a personal diary.
Now, let's talk about the sensitive stuff. In a switch of gears, we tackle a listener's heartbreaking dilemma about infidelity and the hard path to mending trust, dispensing advice with a dose of compassion and realism. Then, we lighten the mood with the Big Hat of Mystery game, debating the merits of material wealth versus emotional fulfillment in relationships. If you've ever questioned the authenticity of a selfie or felt baffled by how different you look in pictures someone else snaps, we're right there with you, dissecting our insecurities and the pursuit of genuine connections. So, are you ready for a mix of laughter, honesty, and that sprinkle of Irish charm? We've got it all in this episode – no clichés, just real talk with your pals.
Ever caught yourself compulsively cleaning your home before a trip, just like your dear mum used to insist? That's us – Melissa and Simone – chuckling over the quirks we've picked up from our folks, as we explore the bittersweet journey into adulthood. From the peculiar obsession with weather to the eye-opening experiences of Dry January, we're unpacking the emotional rollercoaster that comes with the territory. Whether you're wrestling with the gloom of an overcast day or the peer pressure of a pint-filled pub, join us for a heart-to-heart on how these cultural norms shape our lives and perhaps, how we're subtly shifting them.
Have you ever faced the mirror, frustrated as your hair defies the laws of physics, or found yourself stuck in the endless loop of scrolling through your phone instead of tackling your to-do list? Oh, we feel you! This episode isn't just about the gripes of hair maintenance or the modern-day struggle with digital distractions; it's a candid discussion about the realities of being a woman today. We're diving into the nitty-gritty, from the challenge of finding that elusive perfect pair of jeans to the daily decisions that leave us second-guessing at the dinner table. And trust us, we're keeping everything relatable and light-hearted, even when the topics seem like they've come straight out of a personal diary.
Now, let's talk about the sensitive stuff. In a switch of gears, we tackle a listener's heartbreaking dilemma about infidelity and the hard path to mending trust, dispensing advice with a dose of compassion and realism. Then, we lighten the mood with the Big Hat of Mystery game, debating the merits of material wealth versus emotional fulfillment in relationships. If you've ever questioned the authenticity of a selfie or felt baffled by how different you look in pictures someone else snaps, we're right there with you, dissecting our insecurities and the pursuit of genuine connections. So, are you ready for a mix of laughter, honesty, and that sprinkle of Irish charm? We've got it all in this episode – no clichés, just real talk with your pals.
I would add, slapping their laps in right I'm off, you know, and they go right I'm off, and this is that dove. Why do they do that? They actually do, don't they? But there is some women who, like, are completely fine with that, like they.
Speaker 2:Are they though?
Speaker 1:I don't know, I don't think they are. I think they let on. They are, but like no they're not.
Speaker 2:They let on to their friends and their families and they're like oh yeah, it's fine, I got this. I'm not a good systemist, but deep down, their insecurities are all over the place, like.
Speaker 1:It's the Boojee Blonde podcast with Melissa and Simone, available on Spotify, apple or wherever you get your podcasts. Now let's get Boojee. Hi, I'm Melissa, hi, I'm Simone. Our podcast is serving you, bestie vibes, we are just two country girls chatting about all things we struggle with daily life.
Speaker 1:And, of course, talking about certain issues that some people are afraid to speak about. We give it to you real, while having crack along the way. Remember, these are just our opinions, girls, so don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice. Oh, it's a dull and dreary day in here in Ireland, but look, we're bringing the vibes to the podcast. We forget about that.
Speaker 2:Exactly. We're forgetting about what's on the outside.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's taking in between the four walls today. Yeah.
Speaker 1:We're keeping a positive vibes, so we are. How are you Any crack, any goss?
Speaker 2:Spill the tea I'm good, I'm, good, I'm with a busy little weekend of events and stuff like that this week, trying to get everything in the juggle of life. But it was actually raining here this morning, so I kind of feel like the similarity on both sides of the world today.
Speaker 1:Yeah, bringing a bit of Irish vibes to Dubai, yeah, but it just makes you feel you know what.
Speaker 2:It's actually crazy how the weather can just like mentally drain you. It's like the rain just surprises me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like it's. I kind of feel like it's that here at the moment, because I feel like there's just not anything to do, like when it's raining, like you can't get out and do anything.
Speaker 2:You just feel so unproductive, don't you?
Speaker 1:You feel a bit stuck as well. Do you know what I mean? And like we can keep you even speaking at this, like unless you're actually out and like a pulp, I feel like there's not much to do around. I know that sounds really negative and on the podcast, but it's the truth. We speak it real here, you know. Yes, and especially when we're trying to like draw a January sober Nellie's yeah, yeah, how do you find it in Dubai? Because obviously it's more like hip and happening over there events and not drinking.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I to be honest with you, like when I go out in general I never really drink that much, but doing draw a Jan and working on events and stuff like that and constantly being around it like it just opens your eyes so much about like what people actually you know, when you're kind of have a few drinks and you don't really take no stuff like that. Yeah, like when you're in or around a crowd and they're all nice you don't get me wrong they're all having the time to do that. So, whatever, there's no judgment, we don't judge you, but it's just like I can actually have the best time ever without it. Anyway, yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'm not really finding it hired Like. I think it's all in your head, it's all a fomo. I think it's just a fear of missing out on like having a laugh and like a good time or whatever, instead of just kind of enjoying the moment. But it kind of made me realize as well as that, like we depend, not depend, but it's like your own brain how we think of approaching situations when it comes to alcohol. To get me like how confident you are when there is a little bit in your in your system, in comparison to when you're going into a room without 200 people and you don't have anything in you like a little bit of tipsy vibe going on. Yeah, but I think I'm going to get like used to it. I'm sounding like I'm an alcoholic.
Speaker 1:It's like she's actually going through an AA like support group meeting. You'll get the details on screen Coming home for.
Speaker 2:Christmas has withered me. Like I, just like I had enough baby Guinness in me to fucking last the year.
Speaker 1:But yeah, it's like if you are suffering, we can provide you help. I will leave details on screen for a minute.
Speaker 2:I'm just like oh, I'm sorry and I say something. But Melissa, you know me like I never like anytime we went to events and stuff. I don't even drink that much, so I don't know why I'm saying that. Oh my God.
Speaker 1:It's because we're getting old. We're not able anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah, halfway to 50. That's all I think.
Speaker 1:Do you think, though, it is like it's just normalised, as, like Irish people especially, to like, our socialising is what revolves around drink. But do you think that it's just, it's become a habit to all of us, that it's like our normal, that that's how we socialise?
Speaker 2:Yeah, but in a way I do think it's wrong, and especially on young people as well, growing up, but now that we have so much more social media, I feel like people are after kind of monitoring down a little bit when it comes to nightlife, because they know that everything they do is going to be bought on social media anyway. But yeah, you are right in a way, but then I think it's it's a really bad way of looking at. It is because, like it's peer pressure, if that makes sense I got a joke. Feel like when you're out and someone's handing you a shot or they're handing you a drink is like go on, go on, have one, have another one, come on, we'll get a shot, we'll get a shot. The kind of looking at you is if you say, jesus, there's something wrong with you if you're not having a drink or you're not, are you OK? Like why aren't you? But it's not like that anywhere else in the world. I don't think it's like people just accept it.
Speaker 1:I think it's an Irish thing. I think it's been passed down from generation, generation, generation. That that's what we grew up as like normal, like, I think, irish people grew up as it's normal to have the crack in the pot.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And there's not anything really outside of like socially for young kids, especially in small towns. Yeah, there's not much for them. So I think for people to like, let loose, go to the pub. You know, and it is the thing, when you're in a pub you drink. So I get what you're saying, though there is a lot of peer pressure that like. I feel that myself as well, especially like if you're working and stuff, I'm like well, I can't, I'm working tomorrow I should go on one of the grand. I'm like do you want crooked eyeliner? I'm like.
Speaker 2:Well, it's an automatic regret, though. I don't like, even though, like when we go out, like I don't, I don't know about you, you don't see the tipsy, but I haven't seen you like drunk, so that's kind of like. But like, don't get me wrong with all. I had there a while and I said whatever, and not saying that I'm letting my sense into whatever. I proved, yeah, like I don't know, I feel like it won't bother me again If I do like I'll go out and have a feel or whatever, but I just if I never drunk again, I won't really care. Thank God, I feel like that.
Speaker 2:You never regret not drinking, though Like I've got a bit, like there's not a better way to no fresh I just love being the type of person, though because even if I did have a little hangover, I could just do a man of it but like so, when you're like leaving and everyone is still enjoying it and you feel so good about yourself, like look at me. I'm Cinderella. I'm going home to bed.
Speaker 1:And you're like I'm actually going to remember going to bed, I'm going to take up my makeup, I'm going to wake up fresh, I'm going to have a nice gym routine in the morning. There is nothing better than like having that feeling of being. I think, though, it's healthy, though, to have your sober era and then have a party girl here as well, like I think just all about balance, like yeah, exactly. Isn't it Like yeah?
Speaker 2:it really is. So there's no judgment. You're not saying Jesus and I've chosen anyone. Don't mind some more, she has a bit of an issue.
Speaker 1:We have to get her off the drinker. It is a point. Yeah, it needs a point it needs a point. I know, but there is so much peer pressure though, isn't it? It's like you drink on a night out. It's like. It's like you nearly have to like prep yourself for the excuse to go there. They're going to ask you why I'm not drinking, and you feel like you have to have a reason not to drink rather than just been like oh, I actually just don't fancy drinking tonight. I just don't want to.
Speaker 2:And they're going to look like, but I always find back home with Ella. If you said that, like Jesus, she's definitely pregnant.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's. If you say, now, you're not drinking, you're actually definitely pregnant. So just wrong with her. She's sick, is she? She's perfect. It's terrible though, isn't it? Because it's been loads of like thrive, and I'm not drink like, and I say people like gosh, I must be pregnant. And then I said they're shocked, they're like where's the baby?
Speaker 2:There's no baby, just a baby Guinness and my baby yeah.
Speaker 1:But there is so much pressure, I feel Well, I enjoy. But I'm not going to lie, I didn't really have like sober January, right? I always like if I can go out for dinner. I always have a glass of wine with my meal. So Keith says well, that's not sober January then, but I'd already count that as like going out yeah.
Speaker 2:But that's kind of more like a chill relaxing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, isn't it.
Speaker 2:I feel like at the end of the week you're working hard and whatever, and it's nice to go to a joy meal and chill and unwind.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel because I'm cooking all week, like when I go out for dinner I like to like totally relax. So I always get a glass of wine at my dinner and he's like, well, that's not really sober January then. And I'm like, but it doesn't really count. Like do you know what I mean? It doesn't count.
Speaker 2:Just close your eyes for a minute, pretend you can't see. Yeah, do you know?
Speaker 1:I feel like you're out in a session. Then that's like not sober January, yeah, so I think a glass of wine is not going to hurt anyone, I mean so. So I was talking about adults, what adults do that we find are weird. Or, like, when we're younger, things that we taught adults did was weird, that we do now.
Speaker 1:Yeah so like there's like a couple of things that, like, I used to always think was like so weird. Like even, for example, like if we went out for dinner right when we were younger and my father wouldn't buy us like a full adult meal, see, like no, you're gonna waste that, you're not gonna eat it, all that's a waste of money. And like in my head I'm like, oh my god, he's so miserable like I just want my own dinner.
Speaker 1:So he used to like this is a really small like. So he used to like, obviously like get his dinner and mommy's dinner. And then, like, he used to get us like a plate and he used to like give us foods, bits of like food off their plates, but sure we wouldn't eat it anyway. But now I look back and I'm like you're so right, because the price of everything, oh no, and I'm like I wouldn't have a full dinner, like, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:It's just you know it's just when you're a child.
Speaker 2:You're just like it's not fair, yeah, yeah, literally.
Speaker 2:Another thing as well is like you know, when you're younger and I started out with some more as I got older, as I've younger siblings but like Joe and you're getting ready when you're younger, you're going out with your friends like out, playing or whatever outside, and your room is messy or you didn't bring your washing down or whatever, and my mom would be like they're not leaving the house until the bed's drift or until your room is clean and I'm like, oh my god, get a life, just close the door and pretend you don't see it like. But as I got older, my brother and sister hate me and I'm like, oh my god, tidy your room. It's an absolute disgrace. I always said to myself like when I was growing up, even when I was 18, I was like I'd never be like that on my kids. I'd just go in and do it, I would never give out to them whatever. But I started seeing like little things in me now as I get older, that my mom does, and it's kind of scary.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm the exact same, like things. Like cannot leave the house if it's dirty.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Now, I know that's probably an OCD thing, but I feel like I have to have the house clean before I go anywhere.
Speaker 1:Yeah, on the same Are things like I used to really bother me when I was living at home and you know it's like early on a Saturday or Sunday morning and mommy behoovering. I'd be like why the fucking behoovering? She just helped put the over off the skirt board. I was like she's like doing that on purpose, now try and get me out of bed. But like I'm the same like if Keith was in bed hungover I would do the exact same thing to him. I would purpose sake it up and make so much noise and start hoovering just to get him out of bed because it's annoying me like so.
Speaker 2:I'm like you know what I find. Why is it even annoying us? I don't know, I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1:It's just annoys me him being in bed and me like it's, like he's dirty in the place. Yeah, it's terrible.
Speaker 2:I know it is that, but it's so true.
Speaker 1:Yeah, someone wrote in and said sharing batwater as a family. But like, yeah, well, no because like I meant mommy used to like so me or younger, like mommy'd have a bat and like me, like I'd get into the bathroom, like I was really young, and then she gave the leftover water to my father so he'd have to get into our dirty water.
Speaker 2:No way. Yeah, I'm like you're a man soon when.
Speaker 1:So obviously it was a thing, oh my God For a lot of fathers I say are just like stuck with like the dirties, like stingy water, oh my God.
Speaker 2:No, thank God, and I ran to that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, like on the marathos, because we weren't the fathers so they got the leftovers, so like we were in a versus wash and been washed as children, you're from the incident with her. Yeah, someone wrote in shaving their toes. I remember I used to find this weird. I think it was an auntie used to shave her toes. Like I was like, oh my God, she's hairy toes. And now, like I see like as you get older, like you start like getting like hair.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm like no wonder she shaved her toes, like. So it's not weird anymore. So that's one thing that I thought was weird as a child. Looking at an adult, and now I'm that weird adult, it's like. I don't have hairy toes, but as you get older, women do get hair on their toes.
Speaker 2:I see a lot of people no, they do I get that? I actually do have hair, I actually do have hair Like that random hair is because when you get older, like you need more like like warmth.
Speaker 1:Oh, I think it's just I think the hormones are all over the place, so like you're starting to get fucking hairy nipples, hairy toes, hairy toes.
Speaker 2:I know what really pisses me off. Like I never thought I'd see the day. Like I literally have to. Like I get laser and I still have to shave every single day.
Speaker 1:I'm not even joking.
Speaker 2:I have to Melissa At home. I would like it's fine, it's winter, like whatever you're covered, but like I, literally like I'm not joking, like I'm fair or whatever, but my, I hate my father and his dark hair because yeah, for me nuts.
Speaker 1:Small or big bush? I'm joking with a loud voice turning to that she doesn't even get to that stage.
Speaker 2:The day I get to that stage is when I need to be put in a home.
Speaker 1:Oh stop. Another thing is worrying about bills. Listen to our parents constantly going on about paying the bills. And now I'm one of those people. I have sick of bills. I don't want to be an adult anymore.
Speaker 2:It's horrible, isn't it? Like I literally what I do to go back into my mother's womb sometimes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just not worry about anything. Stress and I'm sure all people listen here will have a father who have said, sure, we're not an electricity company here and they're going around switching off the lights. My father does that. Put on here, you've lights on, there, you've lights on and he still does it in my own house. He'll ring you like do you realise your, your backyard is like it's on as I go, is it? Yeah, yeah, I was like alright, they're obsessed. They're obsessed with lights and switches and turning things off?
Speaker 2:I don't think. But then again I'm like when I lived out back at home and the electricity, but I was conscious, like when I had my own place. Yeah, because I had to know the meter. Yeah, you had to know the meter and I was like, oh my gosh, like no, and I was like, thank god you were putting me my ex for work and like or whatever, because I was like the bill was ridiculous for two people living in a house in their own anyway, because I'm a devil with the washing machine. Like I have a clean obsession. Yeah, like it's not okay, I have obsession. I feel like I'm literally like the wash machine to be going at, like when you think about it, your pajamas, your work clothes, your gym clothes, towels.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's every day.
Speaker 1:Every day.
Speaker 2:Like. So I'm dreading the day when I get kids because I feel like I'm going to be like Koella.
Speaker 1:I could have my wash machine go on twice a day and that is no joke, and then my tumble dryer on top of it, like sometimes it'll rotate. I like I'm washing on tumble dryer, washing tumble dryer, like literally, and like I'm the cycle, like that will come back from holidays. I could be any hour of the night and unpack the suitcase and wash things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it has to be done, though, because it gives me major anxiety.
Speaker 1:I'm turning into my mother with the washing machine. Like literally you could have not. And when I lived here in my mother's house, like you literally leave down a towel and it'll be out like washing the lime, and out in the hour Some moments to wash, and I don't know where she gets the time. Here's another one. This is funny. And he actually does this lower in the volume of the car to see better, like, so, like, wait, no what.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so if he's trying to like concentrate and look at things, he'll turn down the radio. Or like, if he's, if he's trying to concentrate and drop it, he'll turn down the radio.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, well, I'd have to do that as well, because actually, before we come on the podcast, I said to Chelsea I was like I was doing, I was working like on like filling in notes or whatever, and she talked to me and I was like one minute. So I was like I can't multitask, I can't, like I physically cannot. I got no help. People even watch the telly and text at the same time. I can't do it, it's impossible.
Speaker 1:Apparently multitasking, because I actually listened to this from Steve Bartlett's recent podcast with Dr Akassi, I think for a second name, but she's a book out and it's actually fake. No one can multitask, so you're only given a certain amount of your energy to each task. You're actually not giving it 100%. Yes, I give 100% to every task. Exactly girl. You are just given 100% to each task you do, but it's actually fake, so no one can multitask.
Speaker 2:That's mad though, isn't it? Yeah, mad, like, don't get me wrong, I do think women can multitask in many different ways, but just not when it comes to that.
Speaker 1:It says you can do two tasks, but it's impossible to be able to do two tasks together and give them 100%.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so you know when people are texting and they're talking to you at the same time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm like are you listening to me? I can't, because sometimes I'm trying to read something and it's an important email, and then Keith would be talking to me and then I'm putting down my phone trying to listen to what he's saying, but I wouldn't be able to read it and listen to what he's saying. Do you know? See, just have to put your phone down. Yeah, and sometimes I like Keith, stop talking to me because I need to read this email. Do you know, Like it's? Yeah, I know we got off track there. Another one is why are our lads obsessed with the weather?
Speaker 2:Oh, jesus Christ, they're obsessed. My granddad could watch like we'd be all in the sitting room and he'd be like shh, shh, and he'd stand up and he'd put like his hand to his ear and he goes up trying to listen To the telly Do you hear it? And then he'll ask me oh my God, he'll kill me if my nanny tells him we're talking about Motherfuckers. But he'll go up to the telly and then he'll be like shh, will you, shh? I'm trying to listen. So what we actually done. Sorry, I'm going off track, but I have to say this because this story is hilarious.
Speaker 2:My granddad is so obsessed with the weather that one Christmas I don't know why we've reached on this, because he's the nicest man on the planet, I love him to bits. So there was, we recorded, there was Mike Little-Consum was there and we're after recording like I think it was inside out or something like that. So one of them put him he was watching it before we were having a Christmas dinner, whatever, but we recorded it in summertime. Bear in mind it's December, it's Christmas or whatever. So the weather, because it's on RTE, the weather came on before the movie and it came up, and tomorrow it's going to be 23 degrees Stop.
Speaker 2:And he taught us we played it on purpose because when it'll cause him to watch it every time he come in. Okay, so we played it on purpose and my father was looking at me and like don't say it. And I'm warning you, don't say it. And he's like Jesus, the world's gone, it's definitely ending. He was like what's going on? The man gone, cracked for the whole time. He's like that can't be right. It's more look at your phone, go and do your act your way. Like going absolutely bonkers. But like they're so obsessed with it it's the weirdest thing ever. They listen to it about five times a day.
Speaker 1:Like it's not going to change, but like all they do is talk about the weather brand day and I was going to be like this for the week. Yeah, great, yeah. No, it's going to be like this nice and dry for the week.
Speaker 2:All right. Cheers Jesus. It's an awful day out there now. Staying into it, yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I wouldn't be obsessed. Obsessed with it. But I know some people who are obsessed with like the AccuWeather app, another one like this is another one, I will add slapping their laps, saying, right, I'm off, you know, and they go right, I'm off, and this is that dove. Why do you do that?
Speaker 2:They actually do, don't they? Are they the sleeves? Yeah, they pull off their sleeves, yeah, like let's get cracking and they pull off.
Speaker 1:Right, they'll exaggerate. If they rub their hands, they're like, yeah, and then they slap it. Yeah, right, I'm off. And then why can't you see you're going like do you have to do Huh?
Speaker 2:You do, don't you? Yeah, they only do it with the weirdest thing ever.
Speaker 1:Oh well, that was some of my weird adult species. What things adults do that we are after kind of slightly turning into ourselves. Yeah, we're gradually getting there. You know, just breathe. Melissa and Simone are here to listen. So, and this week's juicy Jammy Dodger's dilemma? Here we have from a lovely listener. Where do I begin? I'm in the messiest of all messes. Okay, where the hell is this going? Whoa, I'm intrigued. I'm so stressed. It's not normally. It's not normal. I honestly don't know what to do. I don't even know how it happened, girls. Basically I was on a hem party in Liverpool with my boyfriend's family. Me and one of the girls went back on a session and I ended up getting with someone and instantly regretted it straight away. She's saying now that she has to tell my boyfriend and the guilt is eating her up. We're together almost seven years and I have never, ever cheated. I don't know what to do and I don't want to come from her first. How will he ever forgive me? Oh God.
Speaker 2:I think. To be honest, I feel like the girl is either his cousin or related to him in somewhat way, because she is saying that she was on a hem party with her boyfriend's family. Oh God, what a time to do a girl.
Speaker 1:Seven years, oh God. To be honest, I know people make mistakes but I think seven years is too far gone to make a mistake.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, like me, honestly, I could never cheat. I feel like it's just something in me that I could never do. If I'm falling out of love with someone, I just have to call it a day. I just don't see the point. But I know people make mistakes in life and it can be resolved. But in my opinion, I think you should go and approach him and say it to him yourself, rather than him hearing it from somebody else. It's just going to make the situation way worse.
Speaker 2:I think that she I don't think she should hide it from him, though.
Speaker 1:No way. I think she needs to own up to it, to tell him. She needs to be prepared, though, that he is potentially probably going to break up with her.
Speaker 1:And if that does happen it's going to be hard but you're going to have to deal with it and maybe he might need a bit of time to get back together. But you have to remember from his point of view he's going to be very hurt and going to feel betrayed and this is going to be devastating and it's going to be hard for him to trust you again. So either you let him have his time and then maybe show him that he can trust you again, or it's a tricky one.
Speaker 2:It's a tricky one. I definitely would just say it to him, though, and just be like look, I made a big mistake, I was drunk. I know it's no excuse. Instantly when it happened, I regret it straight away, and you have to believe me, I would ever. I promise you I'll never do it again. I'll make it up to you if you just give me one more chance. It's like you're a second life. Seven years is a long time. Even if you're together a year, it's still treated on. It's still that betrayal and that hurt and that sadness deep within you, and it's hard to kind of earn that trust back because it's bitten twice, shy as I say. So I don't know if it is a hard one, but I definitely would not let her get there before you, even though I know she probably feels sick as well, but it's something that you're going to have to do first, 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think you need to take as much as you are probably regretting it and you were deeply hurt and afraid of the outcome that's going to happen, I think you need to take responsibility and tell him and be the first one to tell him as a sign of respect for him and your relationship, and I think he will appreciate that more than coming from someone else. Then it's going to feel like a whole other betrayal.
Speaker 2:Exactly. It's better to say it now than another month down the line.
Speaker 1:That you might end up, the relationship would work out like a potentially could. But I think if you go ahead with having the respect for him and telling him, there's more of a chance of it working out in the long run, rather than from him finding out from someone else and give him his time if he needs it and just the only thing he can do is that you can show him that he can still trust you again. And if it was a thing because I'm just picking up on like okay, it was like a session she says so I feel that maybe she might have been very drunk.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I feel like she might have been very drunk or just a bit out of it, and you just know that like you're on a hen as well.
Speaker 2:There's just no.
Speaker 1:So I'm feeling sorry for that. It was a thing that she was like kind of out of it a bit and maybe didn't really know what was going on. But yeah, you just owe it to him to be completely honest and he's gonna respect that more as well, and you know, maybe there's a thing that he's will be able to work through it.
Speaker 2:And even if she wasn't there, that girl, if he let the guilt to still eat you off the side, that you would have to still admit it to him anyway. So I won't even be going down the line, as in all falling out with her because she's like feeling guilty or whatever. Don't put the blame on her either. Just be like to yourself. Look, the guilt would eat me up in general, no matter what if she was there, if she wasn't there, it's just something that has to be done and it needs to come to the stage where you need to tell him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, 100%. Well, I feel sorry for you at the same time. So let us know how you got on and if anyone has any dilemmas or even funny stories, don't forget to send us into it. You can send us a DM or you can email us as well at the Booty of Lawns podcast at gmailcom. Okay, so we have a little topic of the week Struggles. Being a girl, we have so many struggles.
Speaker 2:Yes, we do. Yeah, Money, money struggles.
Speaker 1:What is your top struggle of being a girl?
Speaker 2:Me, mm. I think my top struggle would be I just think there's overthinkers in general. Yeah, but that's cheap, right. But one of my top struggles is drying my hair. Yes, it takes three hours to dry the weave on my hair. I can't, I swear, I hate it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I hate it. That's my top struggle. Like I feel like you're after doing a full on arm workout. Yeah, your shoulders get locked up. You're washing your hair, trying to dry your hair. Then you're trying to straighten your hair, style your hair. Like literally your arms are just like upheld for like three hours trying to sort out the weave. Like it is literally horrendous.
Speaker 2:Sweating bulk is just after coming out the shower trying to straighten your hair.
Speaker 1:It's like you're sweating Half.
Speaker 2:it's so easy.
Speaker 1:It's like you have a sweaty back neck after you blow dry your hair. Like it's like you're needing another shower because you're such a mop. Like that is the heavenly one struggle. It's like I feel as a girl, it's just I hate it. I hate it. I'm trying to get into the mindset where I'm like trying to like romanticize, Romanticize is that what you were saying? Like washing my hair.
Speaker 1:Romanticize, romanticize, washing my hair, but it's not working. It's like a chore. I actually just oh, it drives me mad. Okay, here's some of the ones of girls struggles. Being a girl, girls make up in the bathroom versus outside. I feel this Like I could do my makeup inside in the morning. It'd be lovely, and then like into the car and like holy fucking God, what is that what's wrong?
Speaker 2:It's a light and it's different in every room.
Speaker 1:It drives me mad.
Speaker 1:And I'm sure there is many girls listening to just that feel the exact same. Like it's like what happened? Who's shit in my face Like why do I look orange when it didn't look like that 10 minutes ago? Why find that with some foundations as well? You should be very careful of the oxidize in like 10 minutes, like a half an hour, and if your face starts to get oily, it's just goes a bit orange or so. You have to be so careful. Periods in TV ads versus reality. So I know that they're all like in gym gear in the TV ads and they're all like yeah, I feel so great and they're jumping around. No, no, like what is like? My period days are me sulking, been a psycho bitch, water bottle on my stomach and just hate life. That's my period.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that was me last week. I actually thought I was going to a major military and I was like what is actually wrong with me? Someone said boo to me and I'm both in pain. Why me?
Speaker 1:Hate her, hate life, like. So I don't know why you do this in TV ads Like the, make it so like rosy posy, when it's not like that. We need a negative period to be at. Give us some like. Give us some negativity, negative tampons. No, this one. I know you're going to agree with Trying to make decisions on food. Like, when someone asks me where do you want to go for food, I cannot decide. Like, is this a girl thing? It has to be.
Speaker 2:Definitely is because I am the worst. I'm a nightmare when it comes to chosen food. Like it gets to a stage with me. I don't know about you. I'm a little simple. You're so hungry and you're trying to think do I want sushi, do I want salad, do I want pasta, do I want pizza? And then it comes down to it and I'm just like so over. I'm like I'm sitting there and I'm eating banana and peanut butter on toast. I'm just like I can't even be bothered.
Speaker 1:I stress myself out over the thing, people like Rosy want to cook I don't know, like, and then, like you know, you call out the call out places. You're like, it's like you want someone to decide for you because you don't actually know what you want yourself. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I feel like as well when you're in a relationship don't get me wrong. Like I know men have a hard time with us sometimes, but it's like can they ever just say come on, get ready, Get yourself, we're just going for dinner. Stop asking me.
Speaker 1:You know what?
Speaker 1:Like I would like you to play. Yeah, come on now, get dressed there. We're going here. I'm like, all right, grand, you know, instead of like we're doing a goal and then like get confused because I can't make decisions. You know what I mean. But speaking of hair, another thing that girls struggle with is hair falling out, like the hair brush situation Drives gives me anxiety, like you know, in your brushing your hair and you see all this hair, you're like and I know you're meant to lose hair, but still gives me anxiety when you style your hair and then five minutes later, the humidity just destroys it, after having your arms up Like Joe Mann for three hours and then you're like why did I bother? I don't know, it's so annoying.
Speaker 2:I know, it's literally the pain of my life.
Speaker 1:And while we're talking about hair, dry ends on our hair as well is not a girl struggle.
Speaker 2:Oh, we feel the tear. But you know, we check my hands Like I know I actually you know what I start looking.
Speaker 1:That's all dry like long dry ends.
Speaker 2:Scrolling on your phone for hours to avoid things to do.
Speaker 1:I do this yeah.
Speaker 2:I would put my hand up and say that I literally, like when I get stressed, I'm like, yeah, I don't know, I don't know, and I just I'm looking, and then I'm sitting there and you're aware that you're doing it.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, you still keep doing it. Like just times, I'm like, yeah, like I even say to myself Melissa, you're procrastinating, now Come on, get off your phone and go do that, and I still keep school. Like what is with that?
Speaker 2:I don't know when I oh, I guess myself boy boy Like and I said I said we talked about this last week and we were like don't leave things for the last minute, get things done ahead and advance, stop stressing ourselves out. So we're gonna start doing that.
Speaker 1:We need to keep ourselves accountable. And I was actually saying this. I need to get rid of my phone from under my pillow when I go to sleep, so I'm gonna try put it on like the locker across from the bed so I can't reach it, because I'm going into this habit again of waking up. I check my fifth bit nine times. I woke up last night nine times. So no, just waking up.
Speaker 1:It's like this week the cortisol level just keeps biking at three o'clock in the morning so I keep waking up. So if the phone is there I will go on it. So now I'm trying to get into the habit of getting up without looking at my phone for at least 10 minutes. So I get up and have a cup of tea and then check my phone. So I actually can this feel like a little task for everyone that's listening. Can we all like try to do that Is not look at our phone for 10 minutes when we wake up?
Speaker 2:Yeah, In the morning.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm trying to do this and it's really hard because I actually heard it on another podcast.
Speaker 2:So you're basically, when you open your phone, you're open like you want to let somebody walk into your room the minute you wake up in the morning, like a random person off the street okay, open your bedroom door and just walk in, walk in and you're wide awake in the bed.
Speaker 2:So the minute you open your phone, you're opening it to thousands and thousands of people, letting everyone in. So for the first hour or two hours in the morning, you should try avoid, like obviously if there's something serious that needs to be done, because I know that's everyone's way of contact but for the first two or even an hour or a half an hour, maybe try to go out, have your coffee out in the daylight or I know, like at home, the hours and stuff, the sun, you can rise as different or whatever, but like just try and take the moment in and in your own thoughts or journey for the first hour or even in the morning, because the minute you wake up and you unlock that phone, you're allowing thousands upon thousands of people's lives and people in on you. So it definitely is.
Speaker 1:I feel like I need to gradually increase it. So if I do 10 minutes of just getting up, having my breakfast or a cup of tea, like that, a bit of like meditation even if it's five minutes meditation I'll be so happy with that progress, because I usually wake up with my phone in my hand but then, like that I'd love to be able to for an hour. But then if I go for a walk, like our music is on our phones so it's so hard not to look at it. So that's what I think if you've no contact with, like nearly 10 minutes is better than nothing, isn't it like? Just for the, yeah, but I want everyone to try this. If you do try it, let me know, because I'm going to try it starting from today. Hard, it's going to be hard. It's just it's going to be hard, like not having your phone under your pillow, like, or near you anywhere, like do you know what I mean? I know some people are like oh my God, it's so dramatic.
Speaker 1:But, like it is hard, it's like stuck.
Speaker 2:It is.
Speaker 1:Stuck to me hands, try to do it. This is actually a really annoying one. Buying bras, the struggles of buying bras, versus images, versus reality, and again, arms are bras that give you armpit fat. Drive me that like oh my God, and you can be any size.
Speaker 2:I know, I just think bras do that in general, though I don't know what way they make them, but it drives me insane, like you know, when you're wearing a vest, top, and like you have, like your bra, and then you have this, and then there's like a little ass.
Speaker 1:It's like it just like and I've got measured for bras and everything and it still happens to me and then you get a bra that, like on the model, you're like, oh my God, that's lovely. And then you get it and you actually look like your boobs are squashed. There's a nipple hanging out, you've armpit fat. It's either like compressing your boobs or it's too big that your boobs are just not like. They're just like. It's like space between your bra and the boobs.
Speaker 2:And then the ones with the wire underneath give you like a roll.
Speaker 1:Bras and women. I can pull them yesterday as I kick it home. Okay, can they take off this bra? And he's like. He's like it's where you had a massive hair, melissa. I think his bra is killing me. It was like taking it into, like I don't know. Yeah, it was just. It just wasn't going to as. I can eat. Get this bra.
Speaker 2:There's no better feeling though I don't care what anyone says there there's no better feeling. Finding jeans to fit. This has always been a big problem of mine. I don't know about you, melissa, but I feel like every girl on the planet is the same. I literally my waist always has been the smallest part of my body, and then it's like my stomach is in my ass, so all my food just goes to my ass and I cannot find a pair of jeans to fit me because they won't go up over them and then, when they do, they're too big on my waist.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I find that like so why are the high waisted jeans getting higher every year? Like, I find that some of them are actually up underneath that I touch in my boobs now, and I'm not even exaggerating that. I actually had a pair that's sent back. I was like it went from like a little bit, you know, over your belly button. Then I was like a bit more, then a bit more, and then a bit more, and then a bit more. It's like eventually we're just going to be like covered, just like oh, and then it's probably because we're five foot, nothing as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the length is another thing, like so, so bloody, and I'm nothing. Women that we suffer with spots, patchy, tan, yeah, it's just. The list goes on. But you know what I do think girls like really do like struggle with it. I think like we need cuddles, like I think I'm especially. We were like have our period and stuff. It's just nice to be cuddled you know, Isn't it? It's something just like cuddles I need, like you know that security.
Speaker 2:I just need someone to like tell me everything's okay and like rub my head tell me everything.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, last one your selfies versus pictures people take of you.
Speaker 2:I swear to God, some people. I feel like even my mom. I know she's going to be listening to this. But there was, she was like I love to take and train pictures of you. How come you don't like anyone, like it's not the right angle, like what way are you take? I'm not a photographer, I'm not used to doing this. What do you mean?
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you know, even when you're at events and like the photographers and stuff take pictures of you, it's like I get really awkward. So I like, I just look like it. I don't know, in Egypt, I just like freeze yeah.
Speaker 2:I hate when other people take pictures of me, though it's like. It's like right, isn't it?
Speaker 1:But it's like I get stayed for it and I stand awkwardly, I'm like I'm like, oh my God looks like. I'm like a little girl lost at like a party or something. It's really embarrassing.
Speaker 2:But it is, and you know what as well. I noticed, and I don't know if you know this as well, but we're just on about like photographers and never I feel like I look a lot bigger in pictures from a photographer's camera than I thought yeah same, and the color of my skin is different.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I look completely different on one of those cameras than I do on a phone. That's mad, isn't it?
Speaker 1:I was like why does it do that?
Speaker 2:I know it's the lens, but yeah, maybe I don't know.
Speaker 1:I just feel like it just it's like expands a bit or something, you know.
Speaker 2:I don't. I don't need that negativity in my life.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but don't say that, don't tell you that, like you actually look bigger.
Speaker 2:I think you gain like seven pounds or something like that. Isn't it? Is it yeah?
Speaker 1:Wow, that's mad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, it's crazy, kind of the scariest feeling. It's whatever way, because when you think about it, like the camera angle and the lens you got me, Not yourself. It's like I'm just trying to figure, like, yeah it kind of stretches, yeah, more.
Speaker 1:Right, so you're stretchy, then You're stretchy, Not yourself. In case I'm ever on TV this year that I will look seven pounds bigger.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it's trying to shed a few inches off right now.
Speaker 1:Okay, so we're on to the Big Hat of Mystery. Guys, if you missed, last week we have a new game, big Hat of Mystery, which basically it's this big bougie ass pink hat that there is loads of topics in that an external source put them in for us and means someone has to pick one out and talk about a random topic that we have no clue what's gonna come out for five minutes. So I'm picking this one here Again. Could be anything. I'm scared, oh God, this one's long. Okay, would you rather a boyfriend who is extremely rich and buys you anything you want and is good to you but he cheats, or one that is flat broke but adores you and is loyal? Answer honestly and discuss. Oh, you're doing a sturdy, oh.
Speaker 2:God, if I'm being honest, you can have all the money in the world, okay, and you won't ever be happy. It's not gonna if you get cancer and I know I'm getting deep but if you get cancer in the morning, it's not gonna help you out the money you get me, anything like that. So I'm just at the stage in my life where, like a few years ago, I might have looked at things different because you're younger and you're more, kind of like oh my.
Speaker 2:God, imagine having all this, that and the other. But it's not about the money, it's about the attention and the love For me. If I'm with someone, I'd rather them be full on about me and give me all their time and energy and all the attention, rather than diamonds, gifts and parrots. You know that kind of way.
Speaker 1:But I don't know. Yeah, see, this is different. It's a different angle than all they're trying to do here, because they're saying right, they're extremely rich and buy you everything, but it's good to you, so they're obviously still.
Speaker 2:It's not being cheap, that's not being good to you. I know that is not. I'm sorry, but I still got no.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I. I think like if I was like maybe younger, but like, oh yeah, I should fucking, I'll have this and I'll have that.
Speaker 1:I'll just cheat as well, it'll be all right. So, but no, like I think if you actually were put in that situation, like I feel you could have all the materialistic things and you want like in life, say, if you were with this person and you could have any you want in life, but you're never going to be happy. Because I think love is the main goal of life. Yeah, and I don't even mean like like a partner, I mean like in friendships, obviously, a sexual relationship. I think love is the end goal. Like I think that's what life is about. We're trying to find love because it's priceless.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:No, I mean, don't get me wrong Like obviously we like our men to like buy us things and stuff, but like you're just, I think Of course every woman does Like.
Speaker 2:if I had a choice to pick between both, I'd definitely rather throw one of nothing 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like you. I think you just you'd rather be like someone that has no money and like is going to do anything for you and respect you. So respect your value, value, support you than having a man that just draws You've got to buy that you and goes out and bangs the one in the Hilton Do you know what I? Mean Like like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:No, I'm saying no to the handbag.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you don't want him to cheat no that's the one thing that I just know.
Speaker 2:I just do not accept it at all.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, it's just it's. I tell you, they make you feel about yourself, though. Yeah, it's just kind of saying like Like downgrading them, like it's horrible. Like I just know. It's just I don't know. But there is some women who, like, are completely fine with that. I don't know, I don't know. I don't think they are, I think they let on the air.
Speaker 2:But like no, they're not. They let onto their friends and their family and like oh yeah, it's fine. They're like it's fine, it's fine. I don't know if this is the case, but deep down, their insecurities are all over the place, Like there's no way their mental health is okay.
Speaker 1:No, it's like I am what Edgar Tully said, like it's the ego. Once you drop the ego, the main goal is just the present moment and love and I think that's what life is. A lot of women do let on their okay and the showcase off through a lot of materialistic things and that rich lifestyle and we even see what a lot of like the programs where they're like wealthy, rich and have everything they want, but the husband's never there. He's always gone and just kind of horrible some parties, and so it is sad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, like never I can't because you know that.
Speaker 1:No, I could live rich, but like, I'd like my husband to love me and not cheat on me. I mean, I'm not not saying I don't want to be rich, but yeah, I'd like, I'd like a nice close family, like, and the husband and the happy owners. Yeah, yeah, that was our mystery hat of the week. That was a good one. It was so. It was a good one, so tune in for it next week.
Speaker 2:So, on this week's little game, I have one for Melissa, and there's some food questions and some random tree requests. So are you ready?
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:So number one right which fruit seed is on the outside?
Speaker 1:Why can't I think of this? Oh no, I actually don't know this. I'm trying to think of seed on the outside. I'm going to say A banana oh my God, I can't think, I don't know. I'm trying to think I'm like right, orange, apple, pear, strawberry oh my God, it's a strawberry. They have seeds, though. You said seed Seeds on the outside.
Speaker 2:Oh, sorry, right, okay, I don't know why.
Speaker 1:I panicked and said banana. I don't know why I said that. I don't know why I said that. No, I can't even think straight.
Speaker 2:Okay. What foods will never spoil or expire? Spoil or expire, these are hard.
Speaker 1:No, the first one was easy. This one is kind of like Spoiler or expire. Food Okay, I'm going to say I'm going to say Food, okay.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, it's more like a salt syrup.
Speaker 1:Oil Like coconut oil.
Speaker 2:An animal, makes it An animal, makes it Not an animal, an insect.
Speaker 1:Too busy to go back and forth An insect. There's my dog working. I actually don't know what is that? A bee, oh a bee.
Speaker 2:Oh, my God Funny.
Speaker 1:God, it's very silly today, aren't we?
Speaker 2:What vegetable is known for being high in vitamin C?
Speaker 1:Vegetable Right With vitamin A is carrots With vitamin C Vegetable Peppers.
Speaker 2:What vegetable is high in vitamin A?
Speaker 1:Carrots.
Speaker 2:Yeah, correct yeah.
Speaker 1:Thanks, thanks, no more vegetables.
Speaker 2:What is the? What is Japanese sake made from Japanese?
Speaker 1:wash. Japanese fish. Green beans make sense. Japanese meat Original. What is that? I actually don't know.
Speaker 2:Rice. Ah, hey you.
Speaker 1:My God, I think I fucking know am 8. Oh, is that even wrong Hearts, not Huns? Oh hearts, I'm sorry, I'm going to say tree, yes, you're right?
Speaker 2:Am I right? Yeah, I'm right. Okay, what's the hardest rock in the world?
Speaker 1:Heart is rock, volcanic rock, basalt. No, the where on your finger.
Speaker 2:Rose quartz.
Speaker 1:The where on your finger, diamonds yes.
Speaker 2:Okay, I think you're right. Why did you give me these heart questions?
Speaker 1:I'm like she's trying to make it show me this is the last one.
Speaker 2:Which planet is the hottest in the solar system?
Speaker 1:Saturn, the Sun Jupiter.
Speaker 2:Your name, and what do the solar planets do?
Speaker 1:The hottest one. What's Saturn? I lost the Sun and then Saturn.
Speaker 2:It's beside Mars.
Speaker 1:Venus. Is it Venus, the hottest one? It did not know that. Yeah, what is that Venus? I don't even fucking know that. I guess Venus, that's a little game of the week. Melissa failed miserably. I'm going to give you a little affirmation of the week. One small positive taut in the morning can change my whole day. Today I rise with a powerful taut to set the tone and allow success to re-verberate through every moment of my day.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 1:That's cute, isn't it? That's the end of the episode, simone, for this week.
Speaker 2:The end of this week's episode. Thank you all for listening and we will catch you next week. Bye.