Hey, I wanted to share this special episode with you. This is my birthday episode, I'm turning 50, and I wanted to share three life lessons with you. This is quite a different episode from what I normally do. I haven't done anything like this before. I hope you'll stick around, listen and enjoy this podcast episode.
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Hey, hey, guys, guess what? It's my birthday tomorrow! It's my literal birthday tomorrow, the time of me recording this, and I'm so excited and I'm so grateful. It's a massive milestone birthday. I'm 49. I'm about to hit 50 tomorrow and I'm just really grateful to still be breathing and to be experiencing life here as a model on planet Earth, just really, really grateful. And so I know normally I talk about you know manifesting or selling, or your, your offers, or you know marketing all the things. But in this episode I just wanted to share kind of three life lessons that I feel particularly. You know, as a woman, I want to speak heart to the heart to heart, to the other ladies out there and, of course, regardless of gender, this you can apply, this life advice. But, yeah, this is particularly for the other women out there who, I know, like me, really have made a decision to love hard in this life, to make as much difference as possible in all the areas of your life. And you know, you, you want to go out blazing, and so, if you're a little bit like that or a lot like that, I just want to share three lessons that you know have, um, the lessons are like nothing that I do I do, completely perfectly right, but I just want to say these are three lessons that I have served me so well through my life and I feel like, for the most part, I get better and better at it, and so let's just, let's just go, let's just dive into the conversation. So I want to start like by talking about your body, my body, and the this life lesson is that you have one body. You've got to, you've got to, you've got to, you've got to you've got to put in so much effort and intention and energy and love and care for your body. Love and care for your body. You have one, and I know, for those of you who might still be pretty young and be entrepreneurs, right, kudos to you. And there can be a lot of things that you can do and be burning the midnight oil, as they so say. I don't know if they say that anymore, but it's really easy to be preoccupied with the work that we do. I've checked a lot of late nights over the years. You know.
Also I some of you may not know this, but I'm a New Zealander, so I was born in New Zealand, raised in New Zealand. I moved to Australia when I was 13 and I grew up in a town Cunupia. It's a beach town, some of you may know it. It was a great place to grow up and when we moved there there was actually an ice cream factory that was in a nearby town and we could get these boxes of ice cream that were like 32 liters. Now if you don't do metrics and liters, I don't know google and see what. That is right, but it's a lot of ice cream and there's six children in my family. Just can I just say we have eaten a lot of ice cream over the years and still love it right, and in New Zealand we love our dairy products and there's just, like you know, food, food, food. And of course that's not just a New Zealand thing. Food's important to people of all different backgrounds and ethnicities and cultures. It's like you know, it's part of the experience is gathering together over food. But for me I talk about the ice cream because a lot of the time we ate really really well.
My mom was a fantastic cook. We ate really high quality food. Also, my dad would hunt
and you know we just ate so well and we ate a variety of dishes and we sat down at the dinner table. It was a beautiful dinner table and we sat there and ate and talked, you know, every night and just enjoyed great food and we also had the ice cream and the other sweet food and that's fine and it feels great when you're young and even now I sit around with my family and we eat foods that are like really decadent and rich and all the things, but it's just so important.
I know I'm like talking food, food, food. I hope I'm not make you hungry, but it's just so important that you take care of your body and for some of you, that's going to mean a change in diet. I know that I've changed the way that I've eaten over the years a number of times because I wanted to love and respect my body, and every time that I've approached a change in my health routines whether it's diet or whether it's the amount of movement that I'm getting, or whether it's like massaging or like you know, something like manual work on my body, whatever it is like, it's my, it's always been something which has been a positive thing for me as the person who occupies my body, which means it's really great for anyone else who I have responsibility for. So it's great for my children, it's great for my husband, it's great for my friends, it's great for the church members at church who I serve and help, and you know it means that my mind is more active. It means that I have more energy to go and do things Like sometimes I've been and I've been helping people clean their house when they're moving to like midnight or something right, or when I'm out with friends and we're like or my husband, we just got back from a holiday to celebrate my birthday. We spent a couple of weeks overseas, in Korea and Japan, and I have the energy to go do all the things. I have more energy than my husband. Not that I should brag about that, but I am a little right but just the quality of life that you can experience is so much better when you love and care for your body.
Now I know some of you. You might come back at me and say, well, life isn't really fair because I was born with this problem, or like this is the case for me, or this is the case, and you'll argue for your limitations. And, yes, life isn't fair and some of you have limitations which really suck. Life isn't fair and some of you have limitations which really suck. But regardless of whatever limitations you have now, it does not excuse not doing the best to love and care for our bodies. You've got one and it's going to take you through this journey, this mortal journey, for now, and I just, I just am filled with so much gratitude for, um, you know, every day I get to live and every year I get to live, and I just want for you to enjoy your life as much as possible, and some of you are kind of just dragging yourselves through the days. You're not feeling very energized, you're feeling really lethargic, you're hurting a lot and I have family members in a lot of pain and a lot of different things. And you know, some of it's the unfairness and some of it's their lifestyle choices.
And if you haven't been caring much for your body now or lately or up until now, now is the time to make that change. And there are so many things you can do to improve your health, change your life. I don't care how old you are, it doesn't matter what your limitations are. There are things you can do. There are people that can help you If you want to. If you have no idea where to look, reach out to me. You know I will like help you to get facing in the right direction. You know, as a coach a business coach I get to work with so many brilliant people so many of them have been health coaches or wellness coaches over the years who can massively obviously help you and my apologies for our dog, who's decided to start barking anyway.
So that's number one is you have one body like loving care for it. Every time I've cared and loved my body, I've been so grateful and sometimes we forget and we we are taking care of other people. Or we're like, feeling like we can't do all the things that we want to for our bodies, so like, why bother? Or we do things like try and eat our emotions with food and cover them up and all those things, right? Uh, or we want to like Netflix binge. I love Netflix binging, by the way, confession, because I love K-dramas.
If you don't know what K-dramas are, you really need to look them up Again. You can message me. I'll tell you a whole ton I have. I keep a written list of them, right? So maybe you want to do those things and you're not getting out and moving. It doesn't matter what other things you have an interest in. It doesn't matter that you're an entrepreneur and you're a coach, like you have to prioritize loving and caring for your body, and I know that was a big kind of thing, but I just don't think you'll ever regret it. I don't think you'll regret caring for your body and, by the way, caring for your body means being really kind and compassionate.
So some of you are doing some things in the name of you know quote unquote health, which really isn't quote unquote healthy for you. It's not healthy, maybe for your hormones, or maybe it's not healthy for your joints or maybe it's not, you know, kind for your gut or whatever you know. I can break it down my background for your gut or whatever you know, I can break it down my background. I started in natural health, so I don't want to like kind of talk too much about health specifically and kind of go down that rabbit hole, but there's so many things you can do that you're not doing, I promise you. And so if you want help, if you're open, then reach out to me. If you don't know what to do or where to look and I will try and point you in the right direction, my friend, because I love you and I want you to live the best quality life possible during the rest of your mortal existence here. Okay, this is number one.
Number two, this one um, you heard me a little bit, teary almost this one, this one I'm again so, so grateful for and I see a lot of women struggle with this one and men too, but I want to speak again to the ladies specifically. So, friendships, create and nurture high-quality friendships. Okay, and let me say that again, create and nurture high-quality friendships. Okay, so again, I feel very, very blessed that I have amazing friends, like I just have amazing, amazing friends and men and women, by the way.
So of my I say my best friends, and whenever I'm with one of these four, I'm like, oh, this is my best friend, and you know. So I have four best friends. Three of them are women, and one of those women, her husband, is also one of my best friends. I just love and cherish them and I see or speak to them to different amounts and, honestly, like to be absolutely honest, my best friends, probably out of all my friends, I don't speak to them like perhaps as often as some of my other friends. So I've got my best friends and I've got, like other friends that I love and cherish as well. And then there are other friends. I love everybody, but you know, know, there are a certain number of relationships that we can honestly sustain and give our intention to and our energy to, uh, and so I will tell you it is a blessing as a woman. Women need other women. The way that our bodies work, the way that our bodies work, the way that our biochemistry works, everything about our lives works better when we have other women in our lives who love us and care about us and who we also love back and care about.
It is really, really important for your health and your well-being, your peace of mind, your enjoyment through this life, to create and nurture quality friendships. Now I'm actually taking another trip overseas when in September this year so not too far away with a group of girlfriends, and it will be my first international trip. I mean I, oh, maybe not, no, actually it won't be but, um, it will be my first international trip with a group of friends like this and, um, these are friends from church, actually, and also friends from my K-drama group and we're going to to Korea. So this has been my like fourth trip there and, uh, you know the others have been there before and others who it's their first time and anyway, it's, it's it's effort to create experiences like that.
It takes money, it takes time, takes attention, and I know some of you you're like you're struggling. Takes money, it takes time, it takes attention, and I know some of you you're like you're struggling, maybe to hold it together, functioning and working on your business and your family, your children, and I do think there's a season for everything. So there have been times in my life where, like you know, definitely my business has been the thing that's gotten more of my attention, or my children and my family have gotten more of my attention than my friends, right, and this happens to be a season where my friends are getting a lot of attention as well. But regardless of, you know which relationships and which kind of things are your priority I still think there's always room. Like you know, there's a certain number of things that we can do with our time and energy attention.
I still think there's always room to maintain and nurture your friendships, whether it's's with, like you know, sharing a funny gift in this group of friends who those of us who are going to South Korea often we'll share like these funny little gifs, some of them like a little inappropriate, which we laugh and giggle about, not really like not not smutty and appropriate, right, but like we just laugh together and it's like not heavy in our relationship a lot of the time. Sometimes we do. We talk about the deeper, meaningful stuff too, but it's like an investment of energy and I know some of you, you think I just mentally I'm not there and okay, if you're not there, you're not there, but I want you to open up to the possibility of you creating beautiful friendships. I just think there's nothing like this in the world.
I've been married for how many years? I think this is our 27th year of marriage and you think I'd know off the top of my head. But anyway, like and that's wonderful, and you know, I've got like five siblings and like, like you know, tons of nieces and nephews and grandnieces and nephews and all my other relationships are beautiful and I love them. But there's something significantly different about a woman's friendships which really do sustain you through the hardships of life sometimes. And you know I'm someone who I'm like a really optimistic, cheerful kind of person and personality, but even so I'm like you know, we live in a world where there's equal and opposites, and so challenges come to all of us and there are hard times that come to all of us. We might not feel like it sometimes, you know, when we're feeling chipper and all that stuff, but the reality is we do all go through difficult things, myself included, and there is just nothing like the peace that can come through a beautiful friendship with other women at times.
Now there are different types of peace, like there's like the love that I have for my husband, there's love that I have for my children, and for me, the most beautiful relationship is my relationship with God and like that's like a whole other conversation. But right up there is my relationship with my girlfriends, and so I know some of you. When I speak to other coaches and clients potential clients some of you have a difficult time with your relationships with other women. I'm going to encourage you to heal whatever needs to be healed so you can do this. To heal whatever needs to be healed so you can do this. And, yeah, there's just an exquisiteness in having great friendships. And if you've tried and you're really sad that you don't have the quality of friendships that you want, keep trying. My friend, I love you. Um, there are great. There are other great women out there waiting to connect with someone just like you. My advice at first is to connect over common interests with other women, um, but it's, yeah, there's just a beauty and, um, an exquisiteness to life that you don't experience without great friends.
I will also share another thing. So earlier this year, I took a trip to Tasmania, which is down the bottom of Australia. My best friend, Kelly, and I flew down, had a ball of a time, and every time we're together we have a great time and like we're similar but different and we love each other hard and we just laugh so, so much. I don't laugh like that with most of my other friends. I can laugh hard and I do have a great time with all my friends, but you know and this takes, it's taken effort for us both to be able to have this friendship, and so I'm not going to say it's always going to be easy to have these relationships. I'm just going to say it's so worth it. It's so worth it.
Okay, so that's number two, and the third thing that I want to share with you is, um oh my goodness this is so powerful, is to know yourself and actually outwardly be that person everywhere you go. So, yes, I'm talking about authenticity and I know that word's thrown around so much and sometimes in ways that I don't really vibe with, but that's irrelevant to what I'm sharing here. I just want to say, really, really know yourself and be that person everywhere, and life is so much easier when you know yourself and you can just be that way everywhere you go. It's surprising, um, how many times I've heard people tell me yeah, like I'm just like how they say see me online. Like I'm just like that, you know, and I just don't feel like I have to put on any pretenses everywhere that I go.
Like anyone who knows me well knows that I cry easily. Like you guys saw me get a little bit teary Normally, like in my stuff online when coaching. There's not going to be tears because I'm holding space for my clients. But, yeah, like most people know me know that I can cry like this. I can laugh equally, just as easily. I'm just a very passionate, emotional person and I think it's really healthy to let your emotions, you know, come and go and it just makes it so, so enjoyable to live this way and to authentically be myself.
There are times when it's been challenging. So, for instance, through you know some of not the last couple of years, but the years before that there were times when, like, my differences in opinion were really really obvious compared to others and it was like challenging and as it was not just for me but for, like, pretty much everyone too, like you know bravely hold space for being yourself, even if it was really different from other people around you usually people that you love, and so it's not always easy to authentically, boldly be yourself, um, take a stand for the things that are important for you, while being respectful of other people who think really really differently. And I'm sorry, by the way, there's going to be some noise in the background. People are starting to get ready for tomorrow and so, just excuse, excuse it, I haven't actually even told them that I'm in here right now in the office doing this recording. So, anyway, if you hear stuff, don't worry about it. And so, as I was saying, I I want you just to uh practice saying what you really think with people, not not seeking to upset people, not seeking to offend people, always seeking to be loving and respectful of other people, um, and, at the same time, just authentically being you.
While some people won't get you, there will be people who do. While some people won't get you, there will be people who do. While some people won't resonate with you, there are people who will. While some people won't notice you, there will be plenty of people who do, and vice versa, you get to notice other people who, when you are really being authentic, it's so easy to connect with other people who are really great at being authentic as well and just holding this awesome space for each other. I just think it's powerful.
I know in my experience you get to inspire more people when you are authentically yourself, and I'm talking about intentionally like, knowing your values. I'm talking about knowing your values, knowing all like, like, not I say all the things about yourself. Of course you can have blind spots, but get to know yourself. You ask me a question about myself. I can promise you I'm gonna know the answer, like 98% of the time. I'm gonna know the answer because I know myself really really well. I've put in the work to knowing what I like, what I, what my preferences are whether you're talking about how I have a sandwich sliced or a toast or like the food that I eat and all sorts of things right, so what I believe, what I definitely don't believe and, of course, being open to changing my mind about things. But I just think there's a power that you have when you know yourself and you're authentically yourself, you express yourself authentically who you are in the world and be okay with other people doing the same with you.
So, anyway, those are three life lessons that have, like, served me really well to love and care for my body, really focus on creating and nurturing high quality friendships with other women in my life, and also knowing myself and putting in the effort to know myself. And that includes all the kinks in the armor, includes the weaknesses, includes, like you know, like being able to really look at my failures and my mistakes and also my strengths and where I'm like, really amazing as well. Looking at all of that, acknowledging it and authentically being that person and out in the world and hopefully spreading lots of love along the way and inspiration for others along the way while I'm. I'm, you know, being a participant in other people's love and inspiration as well. Anyway, my friend, I turn 50 tomorrow. Yeah, I'm so excited, um, by the time this recording goes live, I would have celebrated my 50th birthday by.
By the way, we're going to a restaurant in Sydney called Nel's you can look it up N-E-L-S and we're going to have this 11-course degustation meal and the theme, because they have this famous chef. He has themes every few months and at the moment I think it's once upon a time and he's done this before. So he has chapters and I think it's like maybe chapter four or five or something. I'm so excited to go and, um, participate in this, like this man's creative genius when it comes to food, and to try beautiful food and to like feast on it with my eyes, and to connect with my family of five as we go. Do this, um, yeah, so that will be what I would have done by the time you listen to this and maybe I'll, maybe I will tell you, like, what it's like. I'm sure if we're connected on socials, um, I'll share some photos because, yum, um, and I am doing all sorts of other cool things for my birthday as well.
I am give. Actually, if you are not in my Facebook group, please make sure you come to my Facebook group. What's it called? Um, the Confident Coach Academy, business, oh, business, something, something. I'll put the links in it. I've forgotten off the top of my head, but you can come and join that group because I am doing giveaways, not just this week Like I said, my birthday would have come and gone but for the rest of June I'm doing giveaways in honor of me turning 50.
It's a celebration of me turning 50. I want to be generous with my community and one of the things I'm giving away is some private coaching which, like you know, to coach with me for one month privately is it's like currently it's five thousand dollars a month to coach with me privately anyway. So I'm doing all sorts of really cool giveaways. Come, click the link and come to my Facebook group Also. Yeah, if you don't see the link or whatever, you can just like, dm me in the Instagram. So go to @kushlachadwickofficial on Instagram and you'll find me there and we can have a chat, see how I can help you to grow your business, create a business and life that you love and authentically, you know, be the best version of you. So, my friend, I love you so much. I'm grateful for you. I'm grateful for my community, my audience, my clients, my life. Thank you for um, for blessing me and for listening and hanging out with me, and I will catch you soon. Bye
