Becoming The One

Dating Tips w/ Matchmaker Tammi Pickle | Ep 22

May 23, 2023
Dating Tips w/ Matchmaker Tammi Pickle | Ep 22
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Becoming The One
Dating Tips w/ Matchmaker Tammi Pickle | Ep 22
May 23, 2023

FREEBIE: The Ultimate Dating App Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

In this week's episode:

» Juicy dating tips for first dates and finding the one
» What it's like being a matchmaker
» When to go on a second date or call it quits
» What makes two people compatible
» What men and women are looking for
» Should you make the first move as a women?

Tammi Pickle is the VP/Partner of Elite Connections. Elite Connections is a family-owned company has been in business for 28 years with an A+ rating with the BBB. They have nationwide and international offices. They match busy professionals that are wanting help to find them “the one” they have been searching for.

Connect with Tammi:
Tammi Pickle VP/Partner
Elite Connections
800-923-4200 l Office
Tammi@EliteConnections.com l Email
www.EliteConnections.com l Website
IG @TammiPickle @EliteConnections_

FREE ATTRACTING LOVE MEDITATION

HOW TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:
Please Share, Subscribe, Leave a Review on all the platforms!
Follow me on Instagram @becomingchrissyt for updates, giveaways and lots more dating and relationship content :)
Let's work together-Coaching [Everywhere!] Apply for coaching
Let's work together-Therapy [CO Only]: Beyond Thought Therapy

xx Chrissy T. 

Themes: compatibility, finding love, matchmaker, dating tips, dating advice, first date, long distance relationships, what men want

Show Notes Transcript

FREEBIE: The Ultimate Dating App Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

In this week's episode:

» Juicy dating tips for first dates and finding the one
» What it's like being a matchmaker
» When to go on a second date or call it quits
» What makes two people compatible
» What men and women are looking for
» Should you make the first move as a women?

Tammi Pickle is the VP/Partner of Elite Connections. Elite Connections is a family-owned company has been in business for 28 years with an A+ rating with the BBB. They have nationwide and international offices. They match busy professionals that are wanting help to find them “the one” they have been searching for.

Connect with Tammi:
Tammi Pickle VP/Partner
Elite Connections
800-923-4200 l Office
Tammi@EliteConnections.com l Email
www.EliteConnections.com l Website
IG @TammiPickle @EliteConnections_

FREE ATTRACTING LOVE MEDITATION

HOW TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:
Please Share, Subscribe, Leave a Review on all the platforms!
Follow me on Instagram @becomingchrissyt for updates, giveaways and lots more dating and relationship content :)
Let's work together-Coaching [Everywhere!] Apply for coaching
Let's work together-Therapy [CO Only]: Beyond Thought Therapy

xx Chrissy T. 

Themes: compatibility, finding love, matchmaker, dating tips, dating advice, first date, long distance relationships, what men want

What's up everyone? Welcome back to the Becoming the One podcast. I'm here with Tammy and Tammy is a matchmaker, so I'm so excited to have her here today. Tammy, say hi.

Hi. Thanks for having me. Super excited to be with you today.

Yeah, I'm super excited. So my, we're gonna jump right in today and my first question for Tammy is, what is it like being a matchmaker? Because we are all wondering,

I know I, every time I tell someone on a matchmaker, they're like, oh my God. Tell me all that. It's so exciting. But you know, it is super fun to be able to help people meet the right person. Typically, people that come to us have done online an app or just don't wanna go that route. And so they reach out to me because they appreciate that.

Like, we meet and screen and background search and vet our clients. And then we just make appropriate matches. We know everyone personally. We do meet and screen everyone personally, so I get to know each and every person. And then I have maybe a feeling of two people that might be good together, but I do put together pictures and profiles of all of our clients, and I send them over so everybody's seeing, you know, recent photos and a profile on the person.

And I am, you know, vetting that and meeting that person. So the photos look like the person, they are authentic. You know, I'm back doing a background search on every person, so they are who they say they are. So it's a nice, safe way of meeting other professionals. And typically someone that comes to us they are a bit more serious.

They're working hard. They are, you know, wanting to focus on finding that right person. So they hire a matchmaker, like, look at my company.

That's awesome. What has been your experience with matchmaking? Like, do you find like trends or anything as you're doing this and has that changed over time?

I think we have gotten busier since the boom of the online a you know, the dating apps and those types of things because people are more receptive to meet people that way. In the last, what, you know, five years or so. So it's not so much taboo to use a matchmaker. It's more like no, I'm just, you know, wanting to invest in a matchmaker because I wanna meet the right person.

And, you know, apps are a lot of work. There are a lot of sifting through people and people are not always authentic about who they are or what they're looking for or what they want from you. All those types of things. So I guess People have been more open-minded to using a company like mine since, you know, everybody's kind of done the swiping thing and it doesn't always work for everyone.

And so then they may look into a company like mine next if the other isn't working. So we've definitely been busier than ever you know, in the last five years or so because it, it's, you know, people are open, they're open to meeting someone that way. You know, a different way of meeting the right person, and I think people appreciate.

It, it's safer. You know that we are pre-screening and meeting and vetting and background searching and all those types of things, especially for women, right? Like, you let somebody into your life that you don't know who they are, giving them your, you know, name and your number and, and people can find you.

So it's just a nice, safe way of meeting people that that I know. I have a very big network of my clients, so it's almost like I feel like. I'm a friend to my clients, introducing them to my other friends, but I won't be mad if you don't like my friend. You know? And, and, and that's also nice with a matchmaker.

Like we get feedback on all dates and if somebody says, well, I liked him, but I'm not sure. He was talking a lot about his. You know, baby mama drama and this and that. And I might be able to go back and relay that instead of like just getting ghosted from someone. And you never know what happened. Did I do something wrong?

So I kind of play that middle man that can let somebody know how to be a better date on the net. Date or even sometimes people are like, well, I dunno if I wanna go on a second date. And I was like, he really likes you. Give it a second shot. And then they listen to me and then they end up together because they took that plunge to go on a second date.

I mean, so many times after our first date, it's awkward and people are just, you know, maybe there's. Weird silences. You don't have to talk about. It's uncomfortable. Maybe it's almost like an interview, and not everybody is, is you know, themselves a hundred percent on a first date. So so many times my clients will come back to me and like, I don't know, I, I don't know if I really felt the spark.

I was like, it was an hour. Try it again. And then they end up together. So it, it, it's, I I, I love being able to help people. I love being able to work with people and talk to people and guide them and help them throughout the whole weird dating process. So it, it's super fun. But I think it is super helpful for people to get that feedback.

I mean, people might not realize. Oh my gosh, I'm talking about all my drama and I have to move and I'm fighting with my parents or whatever. And, and sometimes people don't even realize they're, they're like, oh you know, I, you didn't ask him anything about himself. All you did was talk about yourself and people might not even realize that.

Or like, maybe somebody will give us feedback on. Oh, he was like dressed really bad or like his shirt was too tight, you know, like saw like all, you know, the belly that he needs to work on and you know, things like that were like, I can kind of step in as a friend and be like, let's go shopping. Let's get something that fits you better, you know?

Cause first impressions are huge and you might not have done well with that person, but maybe we can tweak a few things and you can do better with the next person.

It's amazing. All right, Tammy, you've given me so many juicy things to even ask you. This is so good. So you're basically coaching them, not just like being the matchmaker group, but you also are able to give the feedback and. Coach them through the process because dating is really a skill. Like, it's not like we got like a manual, you know, when we graduated high school.

Like, here you go, here's how you date. And you're helping them do that. You're helping them build that skill and be able to show up and be more authentic in like who they are and make that first impression that's gonna show more of, of who they are, rather than like someone getting distracted by these other things or you know, them talking about. All the, all the stuff going on in their life.

Right. And I mean, I think a first date, just like connecting on any kind of level is so huge. I mean, even just think about like, You connecting with like a new girlfriend. And there's some similarities that you connect on or like travel or you know, your kids are in the same sports or like, you find some kind of commonality and that's what makes you feel like there's a connection between you and anyone.

So that's really huge. It's just like talking and being open and letting them see you and, and. What you love to do and your hobbies and things that you are passionate about. You know, just kind of showing the real you. And then, you know, they will connect with you on certain things like, oh, I'm, you know, on a, I work with different fundraisers, I'm on different committees.

I'm, these are things I'm passionate about. I'm passionate about my kids and their sports. And like maybe you'll find some commonalities in things that you're talking about. And that's just really. So important and to find something that you relate on, and then that's where you feel a connection with that person.

If there's nothing in common you might not feel a connection with that person because you're just on two different worlds, two different planets. Then you have to have things in common, whether it's travel or you know, foods you like or you know You know, maybe the way you were raised religiously or things you believe in or politic.

I mean, you know, you don't wanna talk about all those things on the first date, but those are things that bring you together kind of unite you and feel like there's. Some things in common that you both agree on and that you relate to. And it could be hobby wise you both like to play pickleball or golf or, you know and you don't have to have everything in common.

But I really feel that that's important is to find what brings you together. And that's all about chatting and getting to know someone and being open. If you're just kind of a closed book, they're not gonna see you and you're not gonna let them see you. So just really being open and kind of having your guard down and letting your true self out and trying to let them get to know you and vice versa.

Right? It's a two-way street. And. It's hard on a first date, right? You're with somebody for an hour. How well can you get to know someone but you know, be open and, and outgoing, and I know nev not everybody is, but do your best to like be positive and outgoing and really just try to get to know them and let them get to know you.

Yeah. I love that you keep talking about being open because I don't even know if like outgoing is exactly it, cuz you're right, like some people aren't. But I think through the openness comes that it's almost like a willingness to like. Just see how things go and like the, just energy of like, yeah, like I'm gonna see where things are.

And then I wanna go back to something you said about like going for an hour and it how you don't really know somebody and what do you, what do you say to people who are like, well, I didn't feel like a spark on this, this date, you know, in this one hour. Like, I'm not sure if I should go on a second date.

What would you say to them?

I mean, if the other person was interested and wanted to go out with them again, I would tell them. I would give it a second chance. You know, he's really interested in you. He'd love to see you again. How well can you get to know him after one hour? I would say give it another go. And if she's like, no, no, no.

I just was not attracted and I did not feel any kind of love connection. I. We'll never be attracted to him, then that's one thing. I don't wanna push anything, but if it's just like the connection part of it that can grow and first dates are sometimes awkward and you, you don't really know someone. So that's just kind of what I relay to them.

And, and I would just say he'd love to see you again. I would love to see you try again and get to know him a bit more. And I usually do tell them. So many times people come to me and say that there was no connection, and then they go on a second, third date and then they fall for that person because they really did get to know them better.

And and so usually people are receptive of that and they'll give it a another go.

That's good. Yeah, I completely agree. I think that if there's even like a party of you that would want to learn more about somebody or like they seemed interesting, you know, enough, like you said, like the connection can grow and I would say like, go again. You know, just see what can happen.

Yeah, especially if they're showing interest and they're asking you out again, that would probably even make it more appealing for you to, oh, okay. He's interested. He wants to see me again. Let's try again.

Yeah. Yeah, definitely. So let's shift into that around like compatibility. So you were talking about like having like some things in common, but you don't need everything. Like what do you think really makes compatibility, what do you look for when you're making these matches? I.

You know, when I talk to people people have different things that they are wanting in another person. So, you know, maybe someone. Wants to get married and have babies and they want someone with similar morals and values and maybe religious background. Sometimes that's important to people. Maybe, you know where they live.

It might be important because they're working hard and it's not that easy to date, especially if someone is like hours away from you. So people are always giving me what, what they are wanting. Some people are like, I want somebody that's, Super active and you know, is always out doing and going and traveling and, you know just they're not sitting at home, you know, on the watching TV and kind of homebody ish.

Those two people are not gonna be a good match. So if somebody is like, go, go, go, and always doing something and always hiking and biking and, you know, on the water and whatever. You don't wanna match them. When someone doesn't enjoy those things that's not gonna be a good fit because they want someone that is gonna do those things with them.

Not that you have to do everything together. I mean, a lot of, a lot of men golf and women don't, you know? So it's not like you have to do all the same things, but someone that's always on the go, go go and somebody that's a homebody is not gonna be a good fit together. You want somebody that's like-minded, especially.

The things that you are passionate about and that you love. So those types of things, when I, when I speak with someone, I take all of it into consideration. But I probably would say religious background, if that's important to them. If somebody wants to date somebody with kids, with no kids location is big.

Religion, politics is big right now. You know that if, if someone is opposite of their, their ideas and their beliefs that it's probably not gonna be a good fit. So that's a lot of conversation that we have right off the bat, you know? So they'll let me know what's important and what's kind of not, and then I take that all into consideration and then, you know, make those matches.

Yeah, it sounds to like a lot of lifestyle things, like how they're actually living their life like. And not necessarily, like you said, like the exact things that they like to do, but it wouldn't really make sense for somebody who doesn't like to, let's say, like be outdoors to be with somebody who doesn't like that.

Like the lifestyles have to be compatible. And then like more of the values like, you know, wanting kids or religious backgrounds, like things like that are more, they're gonna be more compatible if more of those things are in common.

Right. And a lot of times people, you know, come to me with a laundry list of once, and I always advise them to be more open o open-minded than less open-minded, because. You know, maybe you have like this type in your head or this type that you've always been with, but maybe that type isn't working because those people are not working out for you.

So maybe we look outside of your typical type whether it's Woody looks like or she looks like, or line of work, like maybe. She's a nurse and she's always there. The doctors, maybe we look for something else, maybe that's not working for you. And we look for some kind of business-minded professional of some kind.

And like I have like, you know, actors that like maybe dating other actors is not working out, so we look for something different. And so I get that a lot where somebody has something in their head. Of what they want. I want the six, two, tall, dark, handsome, you know, attorney, whatever. Okay, well maybe we have to veer a little bit and you might need to be a little more open-minded.

But yes, you know, you have this something you're attracted to and, and that's everyone. But more so. Men than women, they have, you know I think men can grow on us and we can become more attracted to someone. And men are very visual and they'll usually tell you in the first 20 minutes of meeting someone if they're.

Attracted, interested in seeing that person again because of the connection of what, you know, if they're attracted to that person. And women more. So he's stable and he's kind, and he's a good father. And he is a good person and he is all the things, you know, like that we're looking for. But he's not, you know, drop dead.

You can still he'll, he, he can grow on you. You can become more attracted. For the most part from what I've seen in my experience,

Yeah, I completely agree with you on that. I do think women can grow more to feel connected to someone and have the like romantic connection where I feel like men are a little bit less likely to do that. In romantic situations where they're like, no, pretty well, or like pretty early that they're, this could go somewhere or it could not go somewhere in terms of like how they feel physically about the person.

A hundred percent. Yep.

Is there anything else you think that is really important to compatibility or like when even like looking for a match with somebody?

I probably would say, I mean, really. I can't strive enough to be open to someone you don't, wouldn't normally think is your type. And you meet them and there's, you know, so much in common and they're, you, you, you can laugh together and you feel like you've known him forever and you feel like he's a friend.

I feel like you don't know until you meet that person in person. So say yes and give somebody a chance. You know, to sit down and see if there's a connection and, and I know like you don't wanna waste your time and all of those types of things, but like even sitting down with someone for an hour over a drink or an appetizer or even a coffee that, you know, you just see if there's a connection.

And I would just say, you know, to say yes, say yes to people that are approaching you. Say yes to getting out there and just. Getting more experience dating and getting more comfortable with it and just saying yes and making a friend with someone you never know. Like I, I have had a lot of people that have made friends with someone and it wasn't a love romantic relationship, but they, they stayed close and they were invited to a New Year's Eve party and they met someone that way.

Just kind of opening up your social. Circle and just getting out there and meeting people in the area and your community and who knows what could happen. It might not be a love connection, but maybe they'll introduce you to someone through invitations and different things.

Yeah. Yeah. I, I love that. I agree. I, yeah, just being open and understanding too that, you know, just cuz you're going on a date doesn't mean that you're walking down the aisle with this person. You know, it's just an opportunity to like get to know somebody.

And you, yeah, you, you wanna be in a good place. Like you don't wanna be desperate to have to find someone, need to find someone. You wanna be happy with your life, how you are with your family, with your kids, with your job. You know, you wanna be kind. Happy content, and then finding someone to just be icing on the cake and going into things desperately looking for someone, people feel and, and smell that desperation and it's a turnoff.

So really just like find you, find your happiness, find your peace, find you know yourself, and then. Look for your person. You know, you don't wanna find someone to make you happy. You wanna just be happy and then, then you can go find someone. And I see a lot of that where people are looking for someone to give them their happiness and you're not gonna find it that way.

Yeah. How do you manage that? When a client comes to you and they're saying this, like, what are the things that you tell them or recommend them to do before they continue on this journey to find their person? I.

You know, I, I suggest quite often for people to talk to a, a counselor therapist. I know it will not hurt. To talk about past relationships, past trauma, a lot of people come to me and they're not over their ex, and it's coming out on dates and things, and, and I usually suggest maybe you talk to a trained professional that can get you through some of that trauma of your past.

You wanna get over it. You, you don't wanna have your guard up and think everybody's that same person that was your ex and. And you bring that out and you're not trusting because you were cheated on or whatever. You maybe need to work on some things. And I don't ever think it's gonna hurt. I mean, I talk to a counselor, I talk about, you know, things I've gone through in your life and in my life, and you work through things and figure out how is a healthy way of coping.

You know, you don't wanna, you know, Drink to make your sorrows go away. You wanna do it a healthy way. So I always suggest if, if things are coming out on dates, like oh, maybe you're talking a lot about, you know, the drama with your ex and, and the custody battle and this and that. Maybe you need to deal, maybe we need to table this, deal with that, and then come back around when you're, you know, a little bit more healed.

Yeah, healing that is so important because when we are in relationships or we're getting to a place of dating, Those actually just highlight what's really going on beneath the surface, right? They can be huge triggers for us. So I think that's great advice that you send people to do that because it's a really important,

Yeah. Hey, great.

I wanna take a little bit of a different direction.

So I'm wondering if you can tell us what are men looking for? What are they asking for? What trends do you see with that?

Like I said men like what they like, they like what they're attracted to. And that is a type which, you know, I just said don't have a type, but men are very visual, so they'll typically tell you. I prefer, you know, a certain ethnicity. I per prefer a certain look. They don't really care as much about what somebody does for a living.

But more so that They're attracted to someone. Maybe you know, men do want somebody that can have a conversation with, you know, someone that's intelligent enough to have a conversation with and invite, you know, out with their friends and colleagues and things like that. And I mean, I think that they want maybe. They want to have a family, they want somebody that is open-minded to those types of things as well. So I'd probably say those are some of the bigger things that men are coming to me looking for a specific look and that they're gonna be attracted to. And then, you know, also educated PO possibly and just can have a conversation that they're an intelligent person and they can have a conversation with them.

What are women looking for?

Women want, you know, stability. They want somebody that's, you know, kind and I would say comes from a good background, comes from a good family. Know, loves their mom and family oriented, it's gonna be a good possible dad or, you know, stepdad or whatever that may be. But women appreciate someone that's educated and has a good career so that they feel like you know, they can provide for them.

Especially if like a woman may. You know, stop working to have a family that this person can provide for them. I mean, I worked all through my babies and all of that, so that's not always necessarily that you are gonna stop working, but that, you know, women look for stability. I would think in, in the person they're wanting, they want somebody stable that can provide.

Women don't typically wanna be the breadwinner.

Yeah,

somebody that they can look up to that they you know feel that they

maybe like taking care of like,

Yeah. Right, right, right, right. But yeah, can, can take care of them if and, and be the man, you know, we still want the gentleman that can be the provider for the most part.

Yeah. Yeah. So interesting. So what would you say are some of your best dating tips that you give to people?

I would say being positive. Nobody wants to hang out with the Debbie Day owner that's all down about their life and their drama. You know, you want somebody, even like, Friends, right? You, you want to be around someone that lifts you up, that's positive, that's upbeat. So just, you know, be as positive as possible.

Really go into every introduction, like or every date. Like this could be the one best foot forward look and feel your very, very best put on your favorite outfit. That just makes you feel great. Hair and makeup and all of that. Men have your haircut and groomed, you know, and just look and feel you very best cuz then you'll have more confidence and you will go into it with more confidence.

And men and women, confidence is really big. You'll be more attracted to the person if they exude confidence. And I would just say looking and feeling your very best will give you that confidence. So just. Every day, right? Like every day go out there, like you may run into the person that you're gonna be with.

And so just, you know, look and feel your very best and be put together and be happy and positive, and try to make friends and be open.

Yeah. That's so great that you said that about like every day, like you should be showing up and just like that way where you feel confident, right? Like just really channeling that, not just when you go on the dates, but letting it become who you are.

Right. Every day. Right? Every day. Like, you know, we, we all wanna go to the gym and we wanna be comfy and all of that. But for the most part, if you're not doing the gym, like go out there and look and feel your best like, Do get yourself together or wear something that makes you feel nice. I know I always feel better when I look nice.

And I also like to be casual, but you can still be put together and be casual. So,

Yeah, totally. Alright, what are your other best dating tips?

Maybe the things you shouldn't do on a date.

yeah,

on a few of them.

You know, playing games just, you know, be upfront and honest with people. I, I think let them, let them know, you know, what you want and try to get to know what they want. Cuz nobody wants to waste their time. Like if you, Not that you need to be pushy about it, but like, if you wanna be married and have kids, make sure you're all on the same page.

You know, you don't, you don't wanna waste your time dating and dating and dating the same person, and that person is not right for you for whatever reason. So I, I would just say be honest about who you are and what you're looking for and what you're all about. And

You know, tell people how it is. If, if you, if you, you're attracted to that person, let them know. I mean, I know it, it, it usually comes from the man, and then the woman can be more open. But if you like him, then you'd like to see him again. Maybe you thank him for that drink or that coffee, and I'd love to see you again.

You, you know, you can take the initiative too and let them know that you appreciate. The them, you know, taking it to dinner and you like to see them again. I think it's nice for people to relay their thoughts and, you know, don't have to play the games all the time.

Yeah, I agree about being upfront about what you want because you don't wanna waste months and months with somebody if it's not right.

Right.

Sorry, hold on.

Little coughing attack.

Nothing worse than coughing. When I have like five questions in my head, it's okay. It's probably the allergies here. It's been crazy. Okay.

Oh, I have so many times people will. You know, not make time for someone. It's like texting is really easy and you can make the time and you need to make the time to let somebody know that you're thinking of them, that you'd love to see them again and make the time to see that person again. Because if you don't make the time, they're gonna be like, well, they're not interested, or They don't have enough time for me.

And either way, you're gonna drop the ball and that. Will never work out. So really try to make an effort, make the time. I know everybody's busy but if you're interested and you wanna date, make sure you have that time to date. So many times people come to me and they're like, I wanna meet someone. And you're like, well, I can't meet John for three weeks.

And you're like, well, he's gonna go find somebody else, girl. Like, get it together. So yeah, definitely make that time an effort. You know, in dating and meeting that right person, you like, someone, like, make the time, text them back in a reasonable amount of time. Like let them know that you care. And it's you know, doesn't take that much time to let somebody know by text or whatnot or, you know, make a phone call.

Let's have a phone chat. Let's meet in person once a week or possibly more. Especially when you're first starting to date, you know, you wanna make the time for the person.

Yeah. And people are gonna match your energy where you're at, you know? And if you're not making the effort, they're gonna just assume that you're not interested. And like you said, they're just gonna move on because they are looking for somebody.

Right, right. And they seriously wanna, you know, be with someone. They wanna date someone, they wanna see someone once or twice a week. And if you can't give them that, they might have really liked you, but you just don't have the time to commit to them. And so then they're gonna move on.

Yeah, I know you said too that you have different cities that you look for matches in, and so I wonder when you have these matches in different cities and they're starting to meet, like what would you say are some tips for like long distance since you see that happen?

Yeah, I mean, long distance is always harder. Of course, you need probably both to be flexible, to be able to go back and forth within those cities. Closer is obviously going to be easier, but you know, you may find someone that's an hour or two or more away from you, and that's the ones you gonna work it out.

You're gonna make the time, you're gonna make the effort. They're gonna come to you, you're gonna go to them. But you need both people to be flexible to do so. So yes, I would probably say that's one major thing. People come to me and they want somebody that's closer than too far away. But then if somebody is maybe.

You know, they go to a certain area quite often then that could be open to be able to match that person there. So everybody's different. But that's one major thing that people don't wanna go too far, especially the how crazy the traffic is. And life is too short to be sitting in traffic half the day to go on a date.

It's, it's, it's too hard.

I agree with that. Awesome. Well, tell us about your matchmaking service. Like what is it, like, how can people sign up for this?

Yeah, so I mean, we can help anyone anywhere, but some of our areas where we currently have databases are all over Southern California, Northern California, New York, Miami. Vegas, Texas. So those are some of our larger locations. And you can go on our website, elite connections.com. There's a form you can fill out and you can be kind of entered into our database.

We wouldn't charge you for that. But there's no guarantee of course, of, of matching you if you're just put in the system. But it is a good way of just kind of being in the database. And then if we have someone we're searching for, we'll ask you if you're interested. And then we have full membership.

And that's of course where we're actively searching recruiting for you on a regular basis, and we're sending you profiles, you know, every week or more of, of potential matches that we think are gonna be a good fit. And then those matches, you know those memberships start, you know, at a certain amount and go up.

But we can explain everything in more detail. But you can reach out to us on the website. You can call me. My number's (800) 923-4200. And we can explain everything in more detail, but we really can help anyone, anywhere. We work for professionals that are, you know, wanting to find the right person.

And, and like I said, we meet screen interview background, everyone we work for, and we've been in business over 28 years, so we've a very large database and love to be able to help you. Just reach out to us.

Yeah, and you said you have an 86, correct me if I'm wrong. Percent success rate for people who are like actively looking and like working with you regularly.

Yeah, 86% of our 86% success rate that will introduce our clients to someone they date for six months or longer. So eight outta 10. Kind of meet someone that they're dating exclusively for six months or longer, and typically it's, you know, they end up in long-term relationships, marriages, those types of things.

That's amazing. This is so awesome. Well, thank you so much for being here today. I super appreciate this conversation. I think it's You know, fascinating to hear all this, the, the behind the scenes of a matchmaker in, in what you're doing. So thank you so much.

Yeah. Thank you so much for having me. It was so fun chatting