How To Feel Whole and Complete On Your Own ft. Douglas Peacock | Ep 27

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In this week's episode:
» Tips to move out of feeling stuck in your love life
» How to feel whole and complete on your own
» Importance of staying connected to love
» How to know you are in love

Douglas Peacock is an ordinary guy with an extraordinary gift and ability to read energy - in people’s bodies, in peoples businesses and in the environment around us. With over 20 years of travel and experience, he now helps people release the energetic tensions caused by psychological dis-functions, so they can live a life they love. He has worked with Olympic and World champion athletes, movie stars, business owners, entrepreneurs and even the Under-Secretary of State after 9/11.
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What's up everyone? Welcome back to Becoming the one. I am here with Douglas Peacock and he helps people release energetic blocks so they can live a life that they love. Find peace, joy, and wholeness within themselves. And who better to come and chat with us because today we're gonna be talking all about feeling whole and complete on your own.

So Douglas, go ahead and say hi. Hello. Welcome blessings. Thanks for having me. Yes. I'm so happy you're here. So let's jump right into how we can start to feel whole and complete in ourselves. Well, the first thing when I look at this is first thing we're gonna know is, hold on, we're not broken. We're not.

We don't need fixing. We actually are whole in ourselves, if we can remember. But one of the things that society teaches and we learn as a kid growing up, we're always trying to fix something or go from a problem to find a solution. We're always looking to grow. So our, our focus is that there's, there's always something wrong, and that becomes a pattern in our lives where we are trying to.

Always make things better, and we're never actually satisfied or happy with just who we are. And, and that brings a lot of pain up for a lot of people when they, you know, they're always striving to get somewhere. And so what happens here is we get str our structure is in our thinking, in our unconscious mind in that is that there's something wrong.

And this is where we don't feel worthy, not good enough, and, and all those underlying belief patterns that we end up with. But at the end of the day, if we can shift our consciousness, our awareness, our orientation to, hold on, what do I wanna create? And remember, I'm not a victim to no circumstances.

I'm this powerful creator, I'm this amazing being of light. That when I am in my power, I can create whatever I want. And the thing that you see everywhere in the world is people are caught up in this cycle of trying to be better. And if you are trying to be better, what are you saying to yourself unconsciously?

What are you saying to yourself? You're saying, well, I'm not good enough. And this is where people say, oh no, I'm, I'm going for my goal. I'm going to create this. But where are you looking at it from? Are you choosing that as an end result that you want to create and be that? Or are you trying to get out of the pain and suffering where you are and, and sort question.

I've ask, you know, people all the time and, and they'll say, oh no, I'm trying to create this. And you go, are you or are you actually really trying to get out? You know, are you, are you feeling lonely? So you're wanting to be with someone? Are you financially struggling with something and you wanna be able to pay the bills, but you say you want a million dollars, but you, you're caught And, and, and, and it's like an elastic band.

It keeps pulling you back into that pain. And when we become aware of that, we realize that, oh my goodness, I've been a victim. To these unconscious thoughts. And when I change it, when I become aware of it, I can now shift my orientation to where I want, want to go and actually what I want. And the, and, and you know, the good thing about that where, where I get excited and quite often we don't get excited when it happens.

All your stuff's gonna come up. And the thing is, you don't gotta go looking for your stuff cause it binds you. And you know how, how often have you experienced that in life? You start pushing towards something and you're wanting to grow. You're wanting to be this new version of yourself and you're wanting to really enjoy life.

And all of a sudden these energy blocks or traumas come up and you go trying to you know, you and what happens as they come up? What do you do? Do you go to fix them? Do you go to work out what the problem is? Do you get caught up in trying to release the energy of what's going on? And if we look at it, here we are, we were going after our goal, our, our emotions and stuff comes up, and then we put our focus on that.

Now we've got our focus off what we're doing. We're focusing on what's wrong, and we're back in problem thinking again. And so long as we do that or we lose all our energy, And momentum to create what we want. Yes, we deal with it, but we don't gotta spend a lot of time there. We just go, oh, this is here, but it's not who you are.

And when you understand that, and we really get that, cause that's multilayered. When you really understand that, man, you become so powerful. And I've watched people from all around the world. Heal themselves from illnesses, diseases turn their relationships around into these loving, amazing experiences and businesses go from having the tax man and everyone after them for money to multi multimillionaire things.

And, and it's, it's such a beautiful experience when you watch someone when you are able to walk someone along their journey and witness them being that powerful creator that they are. It is. Mm-hmm. I've also seen people change so drastically and it's so cool to watch it. It's, it's, it's such a gift.

It's so beautiful. The gift is to me, to be able to watch that and for you. Yeah. You get to see it too. It definitely is powerful. Yeah, people are really powerful. It sounds like what you're saying is that a lot of people get stuck in this idea of feeling like broken or there's something wrong, and so they just end up sort of staying there.

Even if they have this goal or even if they're trying to achieve something. Maybe they want like this really amazing relationship, but they're so stuck in all the stuff. It prevents them from being able to move forward and like step into their true, authentic self. Yes. Yep. There's three, there's three structures that we live by.

There's the stuck structure, and as you know, and when I, when I talk about a, a stuck structure, it would be like a post in the ground or a, or a high rise building. It's going, you aren't gonna move it. And the po the stuck structure, it comes about when you don't actually know what you want, so you're just stuck where you are.

You haven't chosen a. Desired goal or what you want, and you just feel stuck in life and, and, and so you, you know, you just don't move. There's no movement. The second one is an oscillating structure. When we look at it, these are, these are, and people that get caught in this are people that. Have got all sorts of goals.

I, I want this and I want this. And you're bouncing all over the place and you're not lining creating one. No, I, in my finances, I choose this and my relationships. I choose this, you know, one of the ones that I love with people in relationships. I, I try to get them to think about this. Just choose the end result of loving a, a life that you love in a harmonious relationship.

Now, if that becomes your choice, On where you're going. That's what your focus is on. As you move towards it, you will begin to create it because it just naturally happens. Cause that's where you, what you're choosing to go for. And, and and the third one? Yeah, cuz you get the oscillating one. What happens with people is they don't get any movement because they don't know which goal they're going for.

And then the third one is the flowing structure, and that's where we wanna be. That's where we we're in the river and we're going down the river. And as you know, if you go down a river, you have rapids and you have places where it's nice and just calm, and then there's other parts, there's waterfalls and that's life.

And you enjoy the dance of consciousness of what you are creating. And at no time are you a victim to it. You can get out of the river if you choose, or you can stay in flow. And when you look at your relationships, Of loving yourself and loving others. You get to choose how do you wanna play the game?

And when we opened it up, you go, oh, what sort of relationship do I actually really want? How do I love myself? And we see this all the time. You'd see this in your work all the time where people. Get in a relationship and it's all going well. They're loving each other, and that's going great. And then all of a sudden the wheels start falling off because it's getting too good.

And what's happening underneath is the trauma or whatever's going on is pushing up and they go into overwhelm and all of a sudden they, and this is where while I talk about wholeness, they move into separation. They get caught in their mind, so to speak. Or you can call it the unconscious or whatever you want, but that's the I call it the egoic mind, the, the separation.

And you start seeing what's wrong. You're focusing on the stuck, the stuck part of you, the part that's in the problem yet when you stay in love, when you stay in wholeness. What happens is that all just falls away and it energetically does, you know, and I'm lucky enough to be able to see energy, so it makes it easier.

But the way through this, and you know, a little tip here for you guys and every situation there is love, every situation. It's there. If you look and you think about it, you know, if you, you're having an argument with your partner and You watch, you watch it, you watch the dance of the conversation, and the conversation will start off, okay?

There'll be a little bit of a niggle and a bit of a, and then you feel tight and soon as you start to feel tight or a resistance or there's a a difference in opinion. You, you start shutting off your connection to source, your connection to love, and you go into defense mode, you go into the egoic mode asking, and it asks, how is it?

It's all wanting, always wanting to know how is this, and if it's asking, how is it? Am I, you know, am I winning? Am I losing? You know, where am I? Mm-hmm. Yet, at the same time, if you can slow yourself down and step into awareness. You step back and you will see that love's just sitting there. It's sort of sitting at, at the table with it's coffee, you know, waiting for you to come back.

It's just hanging out. It just goes, Hey, you can either get in to get caught in that illusion of whatever's going on, whatever argument it is. Or you could just be loved. The choice is yours and this is where. You know, this is where I basically spend all my time working and helping people to learn how to be in this and stay in this place no matter what's going on.

And this is, this is, this is so cool. And you know, it's so much what I hear you talking about. I just use different language in of it. So yeah, I love all of that. I agree. In relationships, we get like very caught up in. Just a lot of the emotions or like what the other person's saying, and there's always the choice to step into that love and react with that love.

Mm. Yeah. When we, when when we actually stop and are able to hear them, we actually, and, and, and you, you hear beyond what they're actually saying. You go, oh. Hold on, what's actually here and, and, and one of the things that I do, and you know, you guys try this on, I'm gonna give you away a tip here that I do myself.

I get everyone to do. Can you look at the other person? And see the divine in them. And what I call this, you know, I, I I look at everyone because we're all souls. We're all beams, arelike, zooming around the planet, just being little balls alike. It's cool. And, and, and you know, one of the sayings that I, that always say, I say, can you see that, that they are the divine in drag.

I've just got a drag suit on, you know, and when I look at everyone, they are just the divine and drag. And, and, and you watch it. And, and if, you know, if you come from that context or from that depth, What you're looking for is the light in them. They may be covered in dog crap and all sorts of ugliness there and, but hate the divine and drag.

I know the divine is there and if I can see the divine in them, I wouldn't be arguing. I know they are loved just like I am. And, and what happens, and this is, this is the cool part about it, because you will struggle with this. And, you know, like I'll be totally honest, I, I went down to training, you know, cause I, I, and, and I met this lady.

She was there and she was just snagglepuss, you know, I don't know whether you guys know who's Snagglepuss. She was just a just, and, and I looked at her. I went, wow. And, and, and I felt the irritation. You guys will feel this with people. They, they just, the vibration is irritating. You're, and I go, wow. And I looked at, I go, I know you're the divine and drag, but God, you're pissing me off.

And, and, and I went, wow. And I said, hold on a minute. She's doing nothing but be herself. And so I stopped and looked inside and I says, what's my judgment, what's my meaning and definition that I'm putting on her? Because I'm feeling a certain feeling from her, a certain energy coming off her and I'm making a judgment.

She was just being herself. And so this is where I use that process of. No, that's the divine and drag. And I said, no, I would choose to only see her as love and all this other stuff I know is just my old meanings and assumptions that I'm making and I'm just gonna keep letting them go cause they're all stories.

And then I saw the light. It took me about four times of seeing her over a period of weeks, and then all of a sudden she just. Ignited into light and she, all I see is this joy and beautiful person now and, and our interaction is now joyous. But all that happened, she didn't change at all. But what happened to the changed in me, and this is what self-love is all about, is you take ownership for that which is there inside of you.

And you go, oh. And then you do, you do see the divine, and it is, it, it is you know, they are in drag. Everyone's in drag. It's just cruising route in drag. And, and when you said it's comical to me, I go, well, you know, wow. Look at the suit that you've got on, man. You're really got thee on today and doing a great job.

But I'm aware because cuz what we look at is our meaning that we associate to anything and you feel the pain in you. You feel the fizz, you feel the anger, you feel the helplessness or the powerlessness. No one's doing it to you. You are choosing it and you go, oh, and this is where you feel you're broken.

Yet when you recognize it and you also recognize that you are the divine yourself. You're able to step into it. And the way for you guys to become really aware and be able to move through this quickly is we have to step into these fears. And the way that I try to get people to do it is just imagine you go into a room and you see this thing and it's not nice that problem or that that thinking's there.

Turn the light on. Imagine going into a dark room and just turn the light on. And all that is, is you are are aware of it. You become aware of it, you just see it. The biggest mistake that people make, and this is all over the world, is they try and fix it or they try and get it out. Soon as you do that, you are pushing against it.

You are saying it is wrong. Now if it's the divine and you're saying it's wrong, it's just in drag, you can't see it, you are separating yourself from wholeness. Does that make sense? Definitely makes sense. Mm. It's cool wonder. It's really simple and it's really joyous. Yes. That's so funny. Oh, you were cracking me up over here.

That's That's awesome. That's what life is. It, it's, it's just, it's a big game and joy and when we live like that. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I know, I know. You, you, you, you'll use different language. I bet you on your work you use may use different language, but you go to the same place. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. I mean, I teach people how to feel love, how to be love, and that's exactly the same and live from a place of love.

Yeah. So, And it is just joy in self. Yes. And, and, you know, and, and people that, that's a great point there. Cause people go, yeah, but how do I know I'm in love? Well, you know, when you're cranky, don't you? Well, just don't be that for me. And, and, and, and that's a, that's a, that's a nice little point there, you know, when we look at what does love look like?

And for me, I answer that in two ways. Love is everything. And everywhere you try and show me where lover's not impossible, it's, it's everywhere. You know, it's like that saying where there's, there's that teaching where a monk goes into a church and or goes somewhere and, and he, there's a church and he puts his feet up on the store and the, and the guy and the priest comes out and says, take your feet off the church.

That's where God is. And he says, and the monk said to him, well, show me where God is not. And and it's like, oh, okay. Yeah, good point. So it's the same with love. Where is love? Not. Love is always everywhere. Cause you think about it when you see a little baby and new little baby and they just join and you just have so much love for them.

Mm-hmm. And that same little baby, when you have five nights and no sleep, stress at work and it's screaming, its lungs out, it's still love. But then can you see it? At times you're like, and, and you think about it, you go, oh my God, love hasn't gone anywhere, but all you, you're tired, you're under pressure.

And you can either be caught up in being tired and under pressure or you can see love and one of the things that we do, so, so love for me in the second part of this, love is a choice. You choose it. See, at any moment you can either be caught up in the stories and the problem thinking or you can be loved.

The choice is yours. And the thing about love, it never fights to be seen or to be there. It's just there, it's just resting the whole time. And, and it's, you know, like for me another thing that I'll do to help people, as I say, you can either feel how you are and crunchiness and, and you know, for those that are listening, just notice how you feel listening.

Just notice what's going on for you. Now you can either be caught up in the mind, Or imagine there is a light there and all you do is stand in the light and you know, I got a little saying, you know, step to the right and stand in the light. And so I'll have my noisiness in my head going, telling me everything gets wrong, everything can change.

And then what happens is we, I go, okay, no, I can either be there, which is basically not love cause I'm criticizing everything, I'm being in fear, or I can stand in the light. And when you stand in the light, it becomes peaceful. The noise doesn't go away, but you become peaceful. You, it, it just, it just stops.

It all, all just sits there. Just practice while I'm talking to you and saying this, and, and what you do is you hear your egoic mind, you hear the feel, and you have the feelings in your body and you're noticing it, you're really aware of it. And then you just go, okay, I'm gonna choose to step to the light, step to the right and, and sit in the light.

And when I sit in the light, there's nothing. It's just space. And that is love. Yeah. You go and, and, and when you sit there, you just notice, you go, oh, but there's all noisy over here carrying on. And this is what one of my teachers told me in the early days. You said, don't, yeah, don't try and get rid of noisy, just be in the light.

So this is a choice. Where do you put your attention? When you put your attention in the light? So shall your experience be, you will have more of this love. And so for people, when they ask me, you know, what does love look like for me? It is joy and it is just this peace and the way for you to experience them more in your life.

Maybe try this orientation. I choose the end result of living a life I love. And all you do is that's your mantra. Every morning you get up. I choose the end result of living a life I love. You're not saying how it's gonna look, but no matter what you're doing, you choose to be in love. And I tell you, I might have been up to my eyeballs and how your things going wrong and, and everything pushing and poking and fighting at you.

And I said, no, I choose to stay in love. And what happens is everything just falls away. And it's a beautiful way to live. And what happens is you raise, you know, for those of you that know, understand energy and manifestation, you raise your frequency to be at that level of consciousness. And the more you're at that level of consciousness, you then attract to you because you are a magnet.

You know, when you manifest stuff. You don't go and you know, you wanna manifest that love in your life, that person that you want in your life, that relationship, that loving relationship, you don't go and get it. You attracted it to you because you are the vibration of it already. And when we are the vibration of it already, then it just starts happening to you.

Everyone starts being nicer to you. All of a sudden, you know, you're no longer getting, you know, abused or told things are wrong and people are accepting of you. Because you become more accepting of yourself. And that's, and you know, the biggest thing that I really teach is, is a pulse. And if you can feel that pulse, it's a vibration in you, you feel it's like a boom boom that's almost like a heartbeat, but it's beyond, it's steep inside of you.

And that just goes out into the world. And ah, every time I go there, it's just, I just bliss out. So I'm there if you can. Okay. So yeah, that is such a beautiful way to live. And you're right, it is the choice. And when you become what you want to attract, that's when it's going to come to you. Yeah. Easily.

And yeah. And people hear that, but it's be it cuz you, and I bet you get this in your stuff, they, they say they, they say the words. And, and this is something that Reverend Michael Beckworth talked about. And yeah, I love that that guy is just, he is just such peace and, and, and, and talks the feeling tone.

You must step into the elevated emotion of it. And when you step in that feeling tone, you know, we all like feeling good. We love it. Mm-hmm. I do. And you. Yeah. Yeah, it really is. And, and what you said there is, you know, like I, I love the teaching of what Ramdas talks about. I know whether you just know who Ramdas is or not, either, beautiful teacher.

And he says, you know, in relationships we are like little ducks wandering along the road looking for our desired partner and. Here we are. We're just wandering along the road and someone comes along in front of us and they may have the key that undoes the lock with inside of us, that opens that love inside of us.

What said another way? They are the key stimulus. That helps us open to a deeper level of love in self. Now, what people make a mistake here, Bo, with love in their relationships, and I tried this, so please don't try this, I, I, this lovely lady, and I, and I said to her and I, cause I'd, I was working with this practice and I says, oh, I'm not in love.

Cause what we do is we say, I'm in love with you. And, and I says, and, and I was listening to what Ramdas was saying, thinking I was learning about this stuff. And, and I said, but he says you're not. And, and he says, they are the key stimulus that opens that love in you. And so I said to this girl that I was going out with and I said Because she goes, oh, I love you.

And I go, oh, you're the key stimulus that opens love in me. And that's not very romantic, she said. But at the end of the day but the key stimulus, because the thing, think about it when, when your partner or someone looks at you and you feel that love inside yourself, Did they do it to you or did you allow it to happen inside of you?

It's like when you hold their hand and you feel that jumbo feeling inside, is it their hand that's doing it or is it, are they just the stimulus that gets you to think, oh, and feel that chemical reaction inside your body of that love that job, but it's all you. And the depth of the love you have with someone, they, they help, they can help you open it, but they will not do it for you.

You do it in you and then you allow that to just be expressed. Yeah. And. It's, it's so true. But the mistake that we most of us make when we are first, when we are looking for love and wanting love, I need to be in love with you. You're gonna fill me up. No, you're not. They're just gonna be a reflective, this beautiful thing for you to see in good and your bad.

Absolutely. Yeah.

Because they'll, they'll, they'll challenge you. They're happy you grow. They, they shine light. And quite often when people show much, so much joy and light for you, you can get cranky and get irritated because they're showing you how bright you are. And you may have been holding it back. And, and now we've all been there and.

I, I know what it's like. I know what it's like to be on that other side. Me too. Yeah, it's horrible. You know, when you feel so unworthy that you're not loved. I used to grab me and my first wife, I've been married twice. My first wife, I used to grab her and try, push her into my chest to try and fill that pain that was there because I felt so unworthy.

But I made a, made a decision that I wanted to know myself as love. And then I met my teachers along the way and they showed me how to do it. And so now that's what I am able to help because I, I get what that's like. That sucks. That's a horrible place to be. And everyone, no one deserves to be there and everyone can get out of there.

And I bet you you see that in your work all the time. All the time. Yeah. And I've experienced that myself where. Even unknowingly, I think a lot of people are searching for someone else to fill them up, to complete them, to fill that void, make them feel loved, and it never ends well. So, I mean, even if you, like you said you got married, you know, to this person, and you were feeling that way.

Like it doesn't matter, even if you get married, if you're not feeling that way, your relationship will not be what you want it to be long term. Mm-hmm. You have to be loving yourself, giving yourself that feeling whole and complete on your own so you can be the best partner to this other person as they can be to you.

Yeah. So, And, and and what you'll find there, like, like in that marriage, like talk, talk about my first marriage. I was in the wrong structure. I was focusing on trying to make them happy cause I felt so unworthy myself. I would dig and work harder and blah, blah, blah. And, but, and, and she was loving me, but I couldn't receive it because of.

Where I was. And she, she was like pouring love into a bloom and empty bucket, you know, like a bucket of a hole in the bottom. It just kept flowing through and, you know, and we, we, we were just doing that dance. But no matter what she would've said or what she could have done, I would never felt it. But I had to realize until I realized inside myself that, Hey, I've gotta change my structure.

I think these or these. I was listening to noisy one, and I wasn't sitting enjoy or loving myself. And luckily, you know, through my life, I've had a couple of awakening experiences that have helped me. But my teachers would turn up, they'd say, Hey, dog, you realize you're doing this? It's not working, dude, have a look at this.

Go. Really? That's simple. Yeah. You know? Oh crap. And then in time I would let that go because, hey, I bet you a lot of you people out there are a bit like me. You're a stubborn mule. And, and you'll hang on to this stuff. Oh, this hurts like hell. Yeah, but it's all I know. And so you keep coming back to it until one day you'll sit there.

And I can remember the day it happened, I sitting on the couch and I says, I can either do that or be loved. Which do you choose? And the pain of that yuckiness, he says, well, this sucks and I always feel good here. Well, why not just be this. Why not just be joy? Why not just choose to live in joy in a place of love?

I don't know what I'm gonna do. I don't know what it's gonna look like, but hey, it's better than feeling horrible and thinking all these horrible, these forms of attack that I do on myself. That's really such a beautiful thing. When you master it, when you, when you, and, and the thing in the mastery of it comes really quickly, that doesn't have to take forever.

But the thing is, it's about moving the structure, moving your awareness into going, what do you wanna create rather than trying to get out? A problem is going back to that problem structure. So long as you are trying to, looking for a solution, you must have a problem. And so long as so, so long as you've got a problem, you're looking for a solution.

So long as you've got a solution, you have a, you're, you're trying to get away from a problem yet creative thinking. And the stuff that, the way that I look, look at life and view live is you, well, what do I wanna create? Hey, I'd love to experience this. Okay, what needs to happen to experience that? And you get propelled from your heart towards it.

And this is, this is where alchemy comes in and I won't go into that, but the alchemy where you unhook yourself from problem and you hook on to what you want and you turn all the negativity into gold. And you are pulled by your heart towards what you love. It gets, it's really weird cause you can actually feel inside your body pulling you towards it and you're sort what it really is.

And yeah, but, and, and I'll picture you people out there, you're listening to this and you go, oh yeah, I can remember experience like this. I sort of met this person. I went on this trip and I was just starting to pull out cause it was like I was getting I was getting pulled along. I wasn't having to do anything.

It was just happening. That's what it is. That's you are creating. You are in love, you are in flow, and yeah, bet you've done it in one area of your life. All you gotta do is map it across and do it to the others. Where we live like that, we're whole, well Bob, when we're in flow, when we feel whole, yeah. What would you say?

What would you say is like the biggest tip for somebody who is feeling like they are trying to fill this void? They don't feel whole and complete on their own. What would be like your biggest tip or even the first thing that they could do to start to move towards feeling this way? The, the first thing I would do I would, I would, I would let you know, is know that you are loved.

Know that you are loved and you're cared for. And not, you're not broken and, and, and you're not broken. And you don't need fixing. If you can get that, that's the first thing. The first thing is that to know that, that you're not broken and you don't need fixing. The, the, the part that goes with that is to do the practice and it's the consistency of the practice and it's consistency.

And know that you are walking a pathway, and when you walk this pathway and you are willing to let go, then the practice, I would, the, the, the, the mantra I would say again to you is just, I choose the end result. Of living a life. I love just, just say that banter, what that will do. If you do that every morning, I do it two to three times a day.

So that's what I do. And the way you do it for a person that that's in that pain and that s suffering is you.

Imagine what that'll be like. And for most of you that are in that place, all you're gonna see is a blank screen. Cause you're not gonna be able to imagine what it's like. But the thing is, your intention is to imagine it. The second part about is just to sit in the elevated emotion of what that's like.

And that could be as simple as sitting there. And like I said before, sitting in the light. Of just having peace there or the mind being quiet for a moment. That's where you start and, and you just sit there and you may just breathe through it and you just sit and the noisy one will come back again. But you do that practice, the more you do that practice, what you're learning to do is you're learning to let go of the problem and just be okay where you are because.

We're all love. You're just the divine and drag, and you've got a, you know, you've got a bit of a grouchy, you know, drag suit on and you look, go do, man, I look like crap. Yeah, you kinda do, but hey, I can see me beyond, but I see the love in you. Don't you see that? And it comes out. But the thing is you see that and you go, oh my God, there I am.

And that peace. And, and, and we get into quiet and you may get a moment. Peace in the day. That's moment more than you had yesterday. And then you do that same thing. Don't, and, and, and the big mistake that a lot of people make is they try to rush to get somewhere. You are already there, so where are you going?

The thing is, you just gotta recognize it. So my, my, my, my big ear is there is, is to look at the structure, say, okay, I realize I'm looking this through the lens of problem thinking. There's nothing wrong with me and I don't need fixing. I may need help. I need help to orientate me to go in the right direction.

Yeah, that's fine. But you're not a victim. You're a powerful creator. And what stings a little bit when I tell people this is you created this because you wanted to master. And a lot of people when they're struggling with love is they're, they're trying to find out what love is. And so the, the mastering what not lovers.

Okay. I know what not. Lovers. So love the opposite. Once you know, when you know both, like I had to myself, I had that big hole in myself where I felt so unworthy and I realized what unworthy it was, was, or un non love. But then now, so I know what that's like and then now I know what the opposite's like.

So now I'm it's like you get mastery of both cuz you know where they are. And so if you are in the, your journey where you are. The thing for you to do is know that it's okay where you are at. Just relax. The light is always there. Like I told you this before. Step to the right and stand in the light, and you do those practices.

I do that all the time and I'll watch people that I know that I've worked with and they'll be at a party and they'll be standing there talking to someone, and then all of a sudden you see them step to the right. And what they're doing is getting themself back into balance, getting themself peaceful, you and that peaceful space.

And you may go out and you may see this guy, this girl at a bar or something. And yes, I just do it at bars. I still do. And you'll, you'll be there and you're talking away to them and, and you get this little uneasy feeling rise inside of yourself and you think, oh my God. And you start going into your head, you start going into the ego.

And what you do is you step to the right and you go into the light. Okay? And I'll stand there, and then I just feel myself calm down. And then we go ade, and then the cheekiness comes out and, and then away we go. And, and, and you know, that's all you can do. So I hope that answered the question. And just one other thing for that, that I do as a practice, that if everyone did you be, you ask that love inside of you to be, for you to be the best energy you can be in any situation.

So when I go, like if I go to a. You know, go out to the pub or go, you know, go out with friends or whatever. I ask my, my, my thing is to be the best energy I can be there. Sometimes I'm cheeky, sometimes I'm quiet, sometimes I'm rowdy. Yeah, it's whatever is needed. When I go to network meeting or business meetings or whatever, I ask to be the best energy I can from the room.

And sometimes I'm there just holding a space for someone and that's all I'm meant to do. So that's all I do, and that's always perfect. When you get out of the way and just allow yourself to be the best energy that you can be in any situation, just like you're being today, then magic happens. Oh, that's so good.

Mm-hmm. I love this little, I tip about like stepping into the light. And it's so funny for anyone who's listening, Douglass can tell when I do it when he's saying it. It's true. Like you just, you feel so differently when you imagine yourself feeling that light on you. It's really wild. Hm. Yeah, it's on you.

It's in you. It's just, it's just there. And it's really bizarre. But all noisy and, and, and, and, and noisy one, don't, don't worry about a noisy one. It's like having the TV going on in the other room. That's what it's like here, huh? Yeah. And half the stuff on the TV is crack and you know, you don't watch it anyway, but that's what's going on inside our heads all the time.

So, you know, and, and, and what happens is you become calm, you become more peaceful, and then, and then you find you, there's just a resting and, and you know, like what I said with my, my teacher, he would hold me there in this place and he would just hold me. And that's what I do, you know, with you know, with my group that I work with, I just hold them every day.

I just hold them there and, and we just hold in that beautiful space and, and, and, and you don't gotta be there for long, but if you can touch it every day, It's like anything, it compounds. And I just got a beautiful email this morning from someone and how, how deep they are resting in themselves now.

And yet they were really they were a snaggle plus. They were cr they were crunchy at work, they were struggling at work and, you know, feel like people were attacking them and, and and, and they've let it go. And now, now they're just becoming more and more chilled out and, and attracting to them what they want.

They're living the life they want. And that's what I want for all you guys because when we're all just living a life that we wanna live, why would we be cranky with each other? This wouldn't happen. And it's not a race. Yeah, it's not a race. No one's better than you. We're all the same. We're all just little beams alike.

You know, hanging out there and you know, you've got nothing to prove to anybody. Mm-hmm. Just be loved. And you'll find that your experience in life is just one of joy. I agree, and I think a lot of people, and, and I've experienced this too, where you are feeling not good in some way or something's happening.

It's even like back to this problem space that we're in and we're so desperate for the problem to just go away, that it's like we're trying to rush it. But I love how you're saying like, just be right now. I think that's so important. Yeah. And yeah, that, that, that is such a exactly what people do. We all do, you know, we get a problem, got a try and work for it, and rush through it.

And, and all we're doing, all we're doing is going into struggle. Mm-hmm. But have you ever noticed when you let go, it all seems to work itself out? It does. You get, you get guided because when you let go and you go in that piece, your intuition kicks in. And your intuition may not be logical, but how many times have you been driving in a car or going somewhere and you go all.

Parking Karma please, or whatever, you know, people do. And you know, like I I, you, I do that and we go, oh no, I choose, I, I I choose to park right out in front. And most times what it happens. And, and, you know, driving along in traffic and, and you know, some of you guys can use this if you want to play with energy like.

I will send a beam of light out from my heart in traffic to clear the road when I'm running late. And it does. And you feel you'll be driving along in the car in front of you all of a sudden just get outta your way and you're just moving through traffic. I play with it all the time. Yeah. We, we need to be somewhere.

We just, and we just move into this place of openness and allow and, and cause you can use energy in so many different ways. But the place when, when, when you are in that place and you get out of the problem thinking you're creating what you want, you, one of the things that happens is when you get outta the way, become quiet and you listen to your intuition quite often, most of the time it's not logical.

Because you know, you, you're gonna do something cuz you're not trying to solve the problem, you're creating what you need to do. So you, you're looking outside the box and what happens for you is you'll find a fear rises up inside of you that, oh my God, if I do that. And what, what's happening there is your unconscious doesn't know the framework.

It like can't put it in the box. So it, it's freaking out the, and, and in the teachings of you working with consciousness. When you have a fear like that come up, step into it in the place of openness and, and, and it will dissolve. It'll fall away. You may feel it pushing on you, things like that, but when you just choose to be love in the center of it, what happens is it just collapses and, and, and, and we watch it unravel and, you know, Most of you guys that are listening here can imagine, you know, can think about when you have been to a pub, you know?

Yeah. I go to a pub. I used to go there all the time. But you go, you go there or you go out and you see a hot guy or a hot girl. There you go. Damn. And you're doing the, I want love and all that sort of stuff. I want love. And then there's a battle that starts inside your head. You know, guys tend to drink a lot more drinks to try and get the Dutch courage up.

But, but, but there's a battle and whoever is the strongest will win in your mind and you'll have your conscious mind that sees something that it lights and it wants to go for it. The unconscious goes into the problem of thinking. Oh, well, what will she think? Yeah, she's too good for you, or, you know, he's too good to you, da da da.

And then you've got the essence of you, of wholeness, of the divine in you or the super conscious that you say, well, yeah, why not go and just say hi. And there's this battle, but whichever one's the strongest, you'll find that you do that pattern. And if you don't feel, you know, worthy enough or good enough, you'll find you won't go and say something or else you'll go and have a lot of drinks, and then you get drunk, and then you go up and say something really dumb and, and then she rejects you or he rejects you.

And or you, you, you feel like you make a fool of yourself. And all that is just the unconscious programming. Showing you what was going on cuz you were coming from problem thinking. But if you can step into wholeness, you just go and say hi. And you go, hi. Yeah. And it's funny cause you feel really awkward.

And that takes you into a whole different realm of all your traumas start coming up and blockages inside coming up. Just breathe. Just breathe and stand in the light. And it just, it just opens. So I'm gonna get a whole lot of people here that have been listening to you, are listening to us today, and they're gonna go out and they're gonna go to a bar and they're gonna go to a coffee cup and go, hi.

And, and be. Just notice, I, I, I idea. I'll find this out there. I dare you. Go out there and just say hi and just be loved. Don't, don't have any expectation of what's gonna happen, but just be love and be joy. You know, it's, it's really funny with your joyous with people. They can't help but be joyous. Because it, they see the reflection and it, it's, it's really, that's really quite fun.

And I'll play with this a lot and, you know, I teach people to go and play with it and, you know, get people to walk through shopping centers. Start at one end in the mood you're in, but choose to be joy by the time you get to the the other end. And as you are walking through being joy, just notice what happens to you as you go through it.

I do it all the time that we play. You can part the sea like blooming Moses if you want. You know, you go through a shopping, shopping center at Christmas time and you just be in this joy in your cell and you are just in so much joy and everyone gets outta your way. Cuz they, they, it's like, it's just like you get to do what you want to do and we, okay.

So many people that go and experience this in the and they go through shopping centers and they, they're amazed at who comes and talks to them and the experiences they have, but you could just be conscious. It's just being conscious of it. Yeah. Imagine what the world would be like if we all were living from this place.

It'd be beautiful, wouldn't it? Would, yeah. We wouldn't, there'd be a lot of. Arguments and the wars would go away. And, and the thing is, cause you're in this place, you can listen to different people's opinions at different versions of life, what they think. Mm-hmm. And you don't judge. You go, oh wow. You're just curious the whole time.

You say, well, I never thought of looking at it like that. And you can understand each other. And when we do that, you go, oh, that's so, that's so nice. Hey. Haven't mastered it. I do it a lot, but I, Hey, I still get caught. Everyone still gets caught and, and when I get caught, like I said earlier, I know it's not them.

I know it's a judgment inside of myself somewhere where I, I'm in an old structure hanging on to something where I may not felt worthy of blah, blah, and then they don't have a lot of charge on it, but I notice it. As soon as I notice it, bang, it goes straight into the light and dissolves. Oh, that's amazing.

Well, this has been such a fun conversation. Thank you so much for coming on today. Where can my audience find you at? They find me on Douglas Peacock on Facebook. You, you got the little tag of everything there. I've got an I've got, I'm on. The best place for people to find me is on Honeycomb Academy.

And, and that's on, that's, that's sort of like my website. And then there's douglass peacock.com. And I'm not Douglas Peacock, the blooming guy that wrestles bears and things like that. He's out there and I, I just don't admire that guy. He's so cool. But he's, he's a wildness guy. But the, and the other thing is on Facebook, on Instagram, and you do see me on TikTok.

My Instagram handle, hold on, I got it written down here somewhere. That's not something that I look at a lot. But I think it's well it's is it Douglas P at 22? I think. I think that's what I actually, I don't really know. I don't do a lot of Instagram. My wife does it and the team does it, but yeah.

Well I'll make sure to put in the show notes so everyone can go check you out. And you guys definitely should. Douglas is amazing. He is incredible. He is can definitely help you. And thank you so much for coming on today. Thank you. I've really enjoyed it. It's been fun and enjoy. Everybody. Have an awesome day and hope you got  shared.