Enneagram Springtime Edition!

Spring is in the air, and guess what?  We're talking fresh starts, shaking off that winter funk, and maybe even hiding some chocolate from over-enthusiastic pets (we've all been there).

Join Damon and Kelly as we talk Easter adventures (because who doesn't love a good egg hunt story?). But buckle up, because we're also diving deep into the Enneagram, that personality decoder ring that helps you unlock your own path to springtime renewal. Think of it as a cheat sheet for self-improvement – how cool is that?

This ain't your grandma's Easter brunch, though. We're serving up a side of self-care that'll leave you feeling as energized as a baby bunny. Pickleball craze got you curious? We got you covered. Yoga zen more your vibe? Namaste, friend. Even the tech gurus glued to their phones will find tips to unplug and reconnect with the real world (because trust us, sunshine is way better than a screen).

So, dust off your sneakers, grab your yoga mat, or just get ready for a breath of fresh air. This journey of wellness and fun is about to be as refreshing as a spring breeze – let's do this!

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:04

Welcome to Enneagram U with Damon and Kelly, where we explore the mysteries of human personality and help you learn more about you. Whether you're a skeptic or an enthusiast, together we'll take you on a journey of self-discovery using the ancient wisdom of the Enneagram. This is Enneagram U. Hey everyone, welcome to Enneagram U. My name is Damon. I'm here with my friend Kelly. Hi, kelly. Hey, damon Spring is U. Hey everyone, welcome to Enneagram U. My name is Damon. I'm here with my friend Kelly. Hi, kelly. Hey, damon Spring is in the air. Kelly, it is. It is Easter week. It is. How are you feeling?

Speaker 2 0:33

I'm excited we're hosting Easter at my house this week.

Speaker 1 0:35

That would not excite me, but good for you. Yes, we're getting my cousins, their littles. We'll probably have about 30 people. You're giving me anxiety. I love it.

Speaker 2 0:49

I know you probably do matter of fact, one of my favorite things. We do this big, big easter egg hunt. Um, so the neighborhood we live in there are just some open field areas, so my son will go and one of my cousins or a couple of maybe my nephews will go and they just hide like I don't even know how many Easter eggs, I don't even know if we find them all, because they're just the plastic ones.

Speaker 1 1:07

They're empty yeah.

Speaker 2 1:09

And then the kids just love finding them. Yeah, and then they bring them back and then they exchange the eggs, so they just dump them in this big tub that we use every year and then they get their little Easter basket. Okay, me is finding like fun things to put in their Easter baskets, like Easter eggs, lime something I found this year and, um, as the kids are getting a little bit older you know they're a little more uh, can't just get like Play-Doh.

Speaker 1 1:33

Well, we won't be doing that this year. We used to do that when my son was little and we'd do things like that with extended family and hide eggs and and then we got a. We used to like take jelly beans and put them around the house and little treats around the house. Then we got a dog. We're like you can't do that anymore.

Speaker 2 1:49

Our dog one year when we did hide candy in the eggs. She found the eggs in my husband's office. They were on the floor. Oh, no she tore through those, Thankfully we did not have the plastic eggs. Yes, she opened the eggs and then ate through the foil um thankfully they were mostly like greases, uh, so they were mostly peanut butter, so we didn't have to go get her stomach pumped for the vet yeah, dogs are not supposed to have chocolate.

Speaker 2 2:16

No, they're not so anyway, she was fine. And then I refilled all the eggs again and I am not kidding what yep. Twice she got into them again Same year. Oh, because they were on the floor.

Speaker 1 2:28

Why are they on the floor? Kelly, I don't know, it was in my office.

Speaker 2 2:31

I wasn't supposed to put them up. Okay, gotcha. Well, we can talk about that in a few weeks, but she survived and Hartley's on the show.

Speaker 1 2:38

I can't wait.

Speaker 2 2:40

But it was okay. Yeah, now it's a funny story, but at the time I was like are you kidding? Yes, so anyway it's fun.

Speaker 1 2:47

Yeah, I love Easter, I love springtime, easter at our church, I kind of help with the Easter thing a little bit, and I've had to do one for work as well. So there's kind of two Easter's for me every year. So I have joy in it all because I love doing that, but it is definitely a heavy lift for me during this time. It's like Christmas again for me, and it's the same thing at Christmas. There's two Christmases now and there's two Easter and all of that.

Speaker 2 3:26

That's right, and there's not a whole lot of space between.

Speaker 1 3:28

No, yeah, no, no, no.

Speaker 2 3:30

And then you get the rest of the year off.

Speaker 1 3:31

That's right. Don't do anything the rest of the year, mama couch. Evidently it's actually a recliner. Let's get this. Let's get the facts straight here.

Speaker 2 3:49

Yes, well, we thought, since we're talking about spring, that we might go off-road just a moment on this podcast and talk about just the Enneagram number and spring, like the different numbers and what they can do in springtime, just to kind of check in, to maybe even kind of have a fresh start.

Speaker 1 4:01

All right, so it's like a New Year thing.

Speaker 2 4:03

Kind of yeah, I always think that, well, I shouldn't.

Speaker 1 4:07

Okay, I think that Easter would be a better new year than New Year's.

Speaker 2 4:11

Well, I mean, it really is, If you think spiritually you know it's when the resurrection of Jesus happened.

Speaker 1 4:16

That's right. So it's like it's a new day, it's a new thing here.

Speaker 2 4:22

And it's spring where you can get out and walk and exercise, or it's daylight longer.

Speaker 1 4:28

I mean.

Speaker 2 4:28

January is a sucky month to start resolutions it is. Because you're depressed. It's after Christmas.

Speaker 1 4:34

I'm with you on this, damon. Yeah, ok, we can agree. But I think all the gyms would disagree, because I think they're like, yeah, you can't really go out in January.

Speaker 2 4:42

So you got to go to the gym and start your physical fitness goals, but how many last going to the?

Speaker 1 4:47

gym. I'm done. I've been done for months.

Speaker 2 4:52

Well, maybe not. Maybe after this podcast, maybe you'll be back in.

Speaker 1 4:54

Well, right, because this is the real new year. That's right, easter is the real new year.

Speaker 2 4:57

It's the fresh start After you recover?

Speaker 1 5:02

from your Easter's yeah yeah, yes, it's all good.

Speaker 2 5:03

So we'll just start with the one.

Speaker 1 5:05

Okay.

Speaker 2 5:06

So for the one speaking of New Year's resolutions, they probably it would be helpful for them to look at if their resolutions are even still happening at this point.

Speaker 1 5:16

Well, yeah, they know though, don't they they know? Well, they do yeah.

Speaker 2 5:19

But to do something to maybe change up their routine.

Speaker 1 5:22

Okay.

Speaker 2 5:22

And so, as they have been looking at maybe goals, maybe new habits that they wanted to start at the beginning of the year, really look at, okay, where am I at now and what might be a change that I could bring forward from this place? Yeah, so I think for one. Sometimes they may beat themselves up because they're not doing those. If they're not, I mean we know the ones. If there's anyone that keeps their resolutions, it's a one.

Speaker 1 5:53

It's true, Would they just if?

Speaker 2 5:54

they uh would a one. Just stop, though, like if they fail at the resolution and they're just like okay, I'm not going to do one, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 5:58

Right, so ones, we can give you a new, a new beginning.

Speaker 2 6:01

Yes, To, uh, change up your routine a little bit kind A new beginning. Yes, To change up your routine a little bit kind of look at what's working or what you'd want to add. Not a lot. We want to just encourage you one thing, just one thing. You don't have to make the whole list of here's the hundred things I need to change Into it, perfectly, yes, that's right.

Speaker 2 6:18

Okay For the two. We want to encourage them, now that it's spring, to take a little break from the social aspect of your life. So what I mean by that? It doesn't mean you have to become a hermit, but it might be to just to have a time during your week, or maybe a few times that you intentionally schedule, that you are off people. You're off the grid for people.

Speaker 1 6:41

Yeah, and I think they should just mow their yard.

Speaker 2 6:43

Yeah, well, that could be something by yourself.

Speaker 1 6:46

Yes, push mower.

Speaker 2 6:47

Do you have somebody in mind?

Speaker 1 6:48

No, I just this is what you do, that's what I do yes. Get a push mower. It takes a lot longer. It does, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 6:55

But for the two, and the reason we say this is that twos give and give and give to everybody else, and so they may not realize it, but a lot of times they get peopled out. And when they get peopled out, instead of taking a break from people, they tend to maybe go and engage with people more, but it's going to be from an unhealthy place, and so if they'll just be willing to maybe mark off one night a week, that's just for about replenishment for them, or a part of your day or of the weekend, it's just about them. And when I say social break, I mean no texting, no social media, even Just think about some things that are good to pour into you.

Speaker 1 7:35

Mowing the yard.

Speaker 2 7:35

Mowing the yard or journaling.

Speaker 1 7:37

It's really hard to text when you're push mowing the yard and dangerous if you're on a rider, I don't know by experience.

Speaker 2 7:45

And that has a whole spring theme too, damon like getting out and cutting the grass.

Speaker 1 7:48

I know, yes, yeah, it's a good one.

Speaker 2 7:50

Yeah, okay, so twos mow the grass.

Speaker 1 7:52

Yeah, that's it.

Speaker 2 7:53

All right, the three. What we want to encourage for threes is to maybe replace something that keeps you busy with something that would be good for your wellness. And so, for example, it may be, you know, if you're looking at your schedule and you're just, you know, saying, okay, this thing really isn't life-giving for me, but it's just something that's on my schedule every week that maybe, instead of doing that thing, you decide to go to the gym or mow the grass. Yeah, another person.

Speaker 1 8:23

Another. I'm actually looking for the grass. Yeah, another person A mother. I'm actually looking for someone to.

Speaker 2 8:27

No, I'm Send all inquiries to. Unless it's free.

Speaker 1 8:30

Then maybe I have a job for you. It's all about therapy.

Speaker 2 8:34

It is For me. It's all about what's going to help you. It's a win-win.

Speaker 1 8:37

I have a therapy yard. Yes, here, take this mower, push it in circles. You'll feel better when you're done.

Speaker 2 8:43

I promise you may even have like Zen music that you could encourage them to listen to as they're mowing your grass.

Speaker 1 8:49

You can listen to whatever you want.

Speaker 2 8:51

But if you think about for the three, like they do have a busy, busy schedule, lots of activities, and so this is going to be the challenge to look at what activity do they need to set a boundary with? And then you know, as we think about wellness, it could be exercise, it could be massage, it could be mowing Damon's grass or your grass.

Speaker 2 9:13

And don't say journaling. You know it, it is journaling. I was going to say that I can't believe you have that on the list. Kelly, it is on the list, you say that so many times.

Speaker 1 9:20

I just like, everyone knows I. I just like everyone knows.

Speaker 2 9:22

I know no one does it. I have a broken record. No one does it. Okay, I believe that is not true.

Speaker 1 9:27

Really People do it. Okay, I think they try it.

Speaker 2 9:30

Yeah, I think. Well, all right, let's see. We need to find out. How are we going to find that?

Speaker 1 9:35

out. Do you really journal? Like I mean daily, we should Four. Do you journal 20 minutes or an hour?

Speaker 2 9:42

Oh no, my journaling is probably five to 10 minutes.

Speaker 1 9:48

I can't even get my thoughts together that fast.

Speaker 2 9:50

Well, I've been doing it for a while though. Yeah, okay, yeah.

Speaker 1 9:53

I think you're journaling in your head during the day and then you're like I'm just going to write this down. Yes, well, I typically kind of know.

Speaker 2 10:00

I sometimes wear my emotions just out there.

Speaker 1 10:02

Yeah, okay.

Speaker 2 10:02

Yes, but the reason? Journaling is important and you've heard me say this over this last month for threes, threes working to get back to their true self. One way to do that is through connecting with their emotions.

Speaker 1 10:14

I'm not going to poo-poo journaling too much, thank you. I just don't want it to be the go-to for everything when there's grass to be mowed Right.

Speaker 2 10:26

Well, this is like symbolic. You know they're mowing their emotional grass.

Speaker 1 10:28

Oh my gosh, we better stop with this.

Speaker 2 10:32

Or pulling the weeds. There's some.

Speaker 1 10:33

That's a good one. Yeah, there's some illustration there, okay.

Speaker 2 10:36

All right. Moving on to the four, we want to ask the four to be open to try something new, to broaden their identity.

Speaker 1 10:46

I wonder what it could be.

Speaker 2 10:47

Yeah Well. And so I think for four, sometimes they get kind of blocked in and they may think, well, I'm just really a creative person so I don't do sports Right. And I'm not saying that all fours have to become like sports people, but, like again, it's that mindset of like we close ourself off or fours do to new experience that may actually broaden something that they would really enjoy. And so be looking for. That fours like just a new experience that could broaden your horizons, you know.

Speaker 1 11:20

That has nothing to do with a lawnmower.

Speaker 2 11:22

Well, it could be. I mean, maybe, if they've never cut the grass.

Speaker 1 11:24

Maybe they could stripe the yard. That's a thing.

Speaker 2 11:27

I don't even know how to do that there is the artistic way of cutting the grass where it's diagonal.

Speaker 1 11:32

Right.

Speaker 2 11:32

Yeah.

Exercise and Self-Care Tips

Speaker 1 11:34

We're going to get mowing the grass this was not even planned, but this is the theme. It doesn't need to be the theme anymore. We can stop.

Speaker 2 11:40

But you think about again for the four is there something active in the body to do Like trying something? Roller skating, pickleball, pickleball? Pickleball is fun and I have to say this I've never played it. I've got a good friend who's a four and she tried pickleball and she really likes it.

Speaker 1 12:00

Okay.

Speaker 2 12:01

Yeah.

Speaker 1 12:02

Well, that's good. I want to play pickleball.

Speaker 2 12:05

It's not that hard.

Speaker 1 12:06

But I've heard it's not hard. But I think everyone's pretty vicious with their pickleball. Well, because I mean it's right in reach of everyone to be pretty awesome at it.

Speaker 2 12:16

Yes, well, we did a little pickleball clinic where it was two weeks of learning how to play, so if you played with me and my husband, we're like just for fun. Yeah, I bet you are, but I did hear recently from an orthopedic surgeon that it is their favorite new sport. Okay, because it causes injury.

Speaker 1 12:37

Well, all of us let me say that back All of us older people think we're still young when we get on the pickleball court.

Speaker 2 12:46

Well, and the thing is is that you're tempted to run backwards because when the ball goes, and so I think that is the thing, because that was one of the first rules in our pickleball clinic that they taught us was not to run backwards.

Speaker 1 12:58

Because you'll fall and break a hip.

Speaker 2 13:00

Or an arm, or arms.

Speaker 1 13:03

Yes, all right.

Speaker 2 13:04

So try something new, but don't break any bones.

Speaker 1 13:08

Pickleball. I love that. I like it better than mowing. Actually, I think I do.

Speaker 2 13:12

Do we have something we could put out there to just help us not be legally responsible?

Speaker 1 13:16

Disclaimer, disclaimer Nah, okay, play at your own risk All right, that's right.

Speaker 2 13:20

Okay. So number five Similarly, pick up a relaxing exercise, so try something that can be a relaxing way of moving your body.

Speaker 1 13:34

So yoga is one of those things, but no. I mean. If eyes could roll back in the head any farther. I mean, I know some fives. Yoga is not the first thing I think of, no, but it could be. Yeah, I guess it could.

Speaker 2 13:49

I could, that would be helpful.

Speaker 1 13:51

And the great thing about yoga. I'm with you now. It just takes me a minute to catch up, okay.

Speaker 2 13:55

The great thing about yoga is that you don't have to go out in public to do it. You can get on YouTube. There's some really great, it's true. Have you ever done yoga? Oh yeah.

Speaker 1 14:03

Okay, it's awful. It's awful. Here's why it is awful it takes too long. Okay, it takes too long. I mean, at least the yoga that I participated in is like an hour to an hour and a half Wow. I mean it's crazy yoga.

Speaker 2 14:18

Yeah, that is. That is intense yoga, but how long is?

Speaker 1 14:20

yoga supposed to be. I mean, I thought you had to get into Zen and all this stuff. It takes me a while.

Speaker 2 14:24

It would take you a week.

Speaker 1 14:27

But I'm a pretty good balancer and it helps my pickleball and hence then I'm able to mow the yard. Okay, see, it's all full circle, we're back.

Speaker 2 14:37

Well, fives, don't listen to Damon. No Yoga's.

Speaker 1 14:39

Damon, no yoga's fine Yoga and when I've done yoga.

Speaker 2 14:43

I think maybe it's 20 minutes or so. I don't even know if that's real yoga. Well, fives, go to YouTube and find short yoga sessions just to see. Or maybe it's getting out and taking a walk, but again doing it to relax.

Speaker 1 14:59

I like that one a lot, doing something in the body.

Speaker 2 15:01

That's always something for a five moving out of the head and into the body. Yeah, or maybe there is another exercise that you would like to try.

Speaker 1 15:09

Should a five listen to podcasts and things when they're walking, or do they need to completely disconnect?

Speaker 2 15:16

I mean, I think it would be okay. It's just sometimes and this is going to sound kind of out there probably to a five, but sometimes the body has things it wants to say to us that, if we're filling our head with other information, we don't hear.

Speaker 1 15:27

Yeah, fives didn't hear that at all. They were like no, listen to your body. It has a lot to say, it has a lot to teach you, okay.

Speaker 2 15:34

So try something new as far as a relaxing exercise, and then for the six. What we want to encourage the sixes is to just have some boundaries with your technology. Okay, so sixes, they are the ones that are really, of course, hardworking and practical, but they're also usually the ones that are really attached to their phones. I guess I don't know why that is with the six, but Maybe kind of like a two, like they got to be there for their people.

Speaker 2 16:01

Because of the loyalty and they also want to be, prepared, keep everybody safe, make sure everybody's doing okay and so for them you know, being able maybe to even have a goal of reducing your screen time by an hour each day, or having a boundary before you really get into the day, to not get on your phone until after you've had breakfast.

Speaker 1 16:26

That's good.

Speaker 2 16:27

Yeah.

Speaker 1 16:27

It's the first thing everyone does when they wake up, right, it is so I assume with the six it is definitely the first thing they do, yeah, and for the six they probably already checked their email, looked at the news, looked at the weather.

Speaker 2 16:37

Again, they're preparing, but then that's a lot of stress that that puts on a six to get the day started. So, sixes, just have some boundaries. Maybe have the do not disturb on your phone a little bit more. So, yeah, some boundaries there.

Speaker 1 16:54

Love it.

Speaker 2 16:54

All right for the sevens.

Speaker 1 16:57

Springtime with the seven.

Speaker 2 16:58

This may sound I didn't want this to sound offensive but do things to continue to increase your self-awareness. Offensive to who? To the sevens.

Speaker 1 17:09

Okay, it wasn't offensive at all. Welcome to my side of the world, where we offend regularly.

Speaker 2 17:16

This isn't at all a slant against sevens, but to do some things and again get ready to eye roll. Damon Journaling is good for sevens, just to connect with what they're feeling. This is where the threes and the sevens have some connection, because they're both doing other things. Springtime for the seven is probably the time yes, I can finally do whatever I want to do, which is not mow the grass.

Speaker 1 17:43

Right, they probably do not want to do that.

Speaker 2 17:45

No. Well sometimes they like it, though my son, who's a seven, when that was his chore he really liked it. But, of course he had his music playing and everything.

Speaker 1 17:53

Right.

Speaker 2 17:53

But for the sevens to create some space, and again it doesn't have to be an hour long, but to create some space where they can just sit with their thoughts and their feelings and connect to that true self.

Speaker 1 18:07

Sevens are into a lot of different things, right, they like to change Like the sevens. I'm thinking of one particular seven and this person who I love dearly photography, yeah, runs a drone, just loves music, plays the drums.

Speaker 2 18:25

Yes.

Speaker 1 18:25

You know, all these things just so varied.

Speaker 2 18:28

Oh, they are like a juggler of life.

Speaker 1 18:31

There's so much that they juggle.

Speaker 2 18:33

And they're able to be like jacks of all trades.

Speaker 1 18:36

Yeah.

Speaker 2 18:36

They can do so much Again, like the three.

Speaker 1 18:40

But the difference? Here's what I think the difference is. The seven stuff is fun. Yes, oh, it's what I think the difference is. The seven stuff is fun.

Speaker 2 18:44

Yeah, oh, it's not going to be done if it's not a fun thing.

Speaker 1 18:47

The three stuff's probably not that fun. No, they're doing stuff they probably don't want to do, even though they love to do what they don't want to do.

Speaker 2 18:54

Right, wow, as long as it's getting them where they feel like they need to go. Yeah, but for the sevens or the next thing they're going to do, they say that their garages are full of all the hobbies that they wanted to start and maybe started but aren't doing anymore.

Speaker 1 19:20

Are sevens readers.

Speaker 2 19:21

Yeah, yeah, sevens are in the head triad, so they're readers.

Speaker 1 19:25

Okay, I was just trying to think of anything besides journaling. It seems to dominate this whole Enneagram thing Journaling and mowing and emotional health.

Speaker 2 19:34

Yes, Journal, journal, journal, Well again it's this path back to connecting with ourselves, because so much of what we do and keep ourselves busy doing is because we're not dealing with the feelings.

Speaker 1 19:50

And journaling is a pathway.

Speaker 2 19:51

Okay, okay, point proven.

Speaker 1 19:53

Yeah Well, you have to win, I know that about you?

Speaker 2 19:54

All right, I do feel known by you saying that, damon, all right For the eights.

Speaker 1 19:58

Got to practice my arguing. Yes, it's safe.

Speaker 2 20:01

It's safe to do with me.

Speaker 1 20:02

Okay.

Speaker 2 20:03

Okay For the eights, for us as eights if you're an eight like me to really connect with the emotions that are behind your anger.

Speaker 1 20:13

All right, I don't want to go there with you. I'm scared.

Speaker 2 20:18

Well, anger is a secondary emotion and it's the one that we can tend to really focus on, because when it gets triggered, when we get triggered whether it's frustrated, whether it's agitated, annoyed, impatient, whatever that might be sarcastic even is sometimes how anger presents. But to be able to look like underneath that and say, okay, what is it really, what is it that I'm really really feeling.

Speaker 1 20:43

How are we going to do that as an eight?

Speaker 2 20:44

Yeah, well, we just notice what we're feeling.

Speaker 1 20:47

Okay.

Speaker 2 20:48

Yeah, so I'll give you an example. So we're hosting Easter.

Speaker 1 20:51

All right.

Speaker 2 20:52

And I love it when everyone gets to come to my house for Easter, and so when I find out that relatives aren't able to go or aren't able to come, they're with other other family members. It's not that I'm angry at them, but I'm like it's just frustrating.

Speaker 1 21:08

But then I'm like no, which is a lower version of anger. But, it's still anger.

Speaker 2 21:13

But then I'm like no, I am happy that they're have other family that they're with. So really my true feeling is that I just feel sad, because I love for us all to be together.

Speaker 1 21:22

Okay, so you're trying to really pay attention.

Speaker 2 21:24

Really pay attention and be intentional about how you're feeling.

Speaker 1 21:26

Yes, and why you're feeling that way. That's right, and what the emotion is. And this has nothing to do with journaling.

Speaker 2 21:32

I mean, I could journal it.

Speaker 1 21:33

You could, but I could also say it yeah, okay, ah.

Speaker 2 21:38

Because, as eights, we probably say it you probably do, or it leaks out sideways.

Speaker 1 21:42

Yeah, and write it down later.

Speaker 2 21:43

Yeah people in my life are my verbal journal or my human journal.

Speaker 1 21:47

Oh, let me tell you.

Speaker 2 21:48

Okay, thank you for listening, damon, but yes, just remember for eights, because if we don't do that, those drops of anger feelings then build up and then anger comes out and it's destructive or it can cause hurts in a relationship. And then anger comes out and it's destructive or it can cause hurts in a relationship. So think beyond what's behind the anger.

Speaker 1 22:09

Okay.

Speaker 2 22:09

Yeah, All right. And then the nine are you ready?

Speaker 1 22:12

I'm ready. I'm always ready.

Speaker 2 22:14

Nine this would be a good time of year to really trim your social circle.

Speaker 1 22:21

Not hard, not hard at all.

Speaker 2 22:23

Damon's social circle. Not hard, not hard at all, damon's social circle. Bye Kelly, the well-trimmed topiary in the front of his house Gotta go Few little leaves no.

Speaker 2 22:34

Well and I say this for nines because so often nines again have such great connections with people. People love to be with nines, but yet for nines they may be in relationships that are more people-pleasing, that aren't life-giving to them. So this is just a good time to just evaluate, like who do you want to pour time with into, or who do you need to maybe set some boundaries with, so that it doesn't still be life-taking? Yep yeah.

Speaker 1 23:03

That's all I have to say about that.

Speaker 2 23:05

I think I've already done that. Damon doesn't have friends because he has to mow his grass.

Speaker 1 23:10

That's right, there's always ways around friendship. Yes, no, that's really really good. Yeah, I get that. And relationships, sometimes four nines is more difficult.

Speaker 2 23:21

It takes energy from a nine yes, and relationships can mess with your peace et cetera.

Speaker 1 23:26

And especially certain relationships.

Speaker 2 23:28

So you're looking at the ones that are messing with your peace and you're trying to find out how do we take a vacation from that for a while, yes, and it may just be, yeah, having some boundaries with not feeling like you have to say yes anytime that person may ask you to go do something. Or you know again, I know for a nine it may not be like a confrontation that you'll have, but you know just.

Speaker 1 23:48

But it'll feel like it. Yes, it'll feel like it, because if you turn somebody down or let somebody down, it can feel like it's a conflict, even though it's not so. I guess I would just say try to let the guilt go if you can yes. And look out for a numero uno. You heard it from Damon. That's how he's. Yeah, that's how I live my life.

Speaker 2 24:11

That's how I roll, it's spring. Another t-shirt Look out for numero uno, yep.

Speaker 1 24:17

Yep, oh, that's hilarious. Might be a commandment, Not sure. The 11th.

Speaker 2 24:21

According to Damon, chapter 6, verse 12. Yeah, that's right.

Speaker 1 24:26

Well, Kelly if you wouldn't mind, can you just go through all those?

Speaker 2 24:29

real quick? Yes, for sure, I know that's a little bit extra ask oh no, that's fine.

Wellness Tips Based on Enneagram Types

Speaker 1 24:32

But I think just recap really quick yeah, that's right, each one.

Speaker 2 24:34

So we would say for the one just to look at your routine and change it up a bit. For the two to set some boundaries on your social life. For the three to look at an activity that you might be doing that's more life-taking and replace it with something that's for wellness. For the four to just expand your identity and try something new, something that you wouldn't think that you might like. For the five, pick up a relaxing exercise like yoga.

Speaker 1 25:04

I'm just trying to stay out of it. I know, I know I'm trying to let you finish here.

Speaker 2 25:07

Go ahead For the six, to have some boundaries to reduce their technology exposure. For the seven, to increase your self-awareness. For the eight, to look at the emotions behind your anger. And for the nine, trim up your social circle. Okay, yeah, that was really good.

Speaker 1 25:24

Good Spring is here.

Speaker 2 25:26

Spring is in the air.

Speaker 1 25:28

And so I guess we can say to everybody thank you for joining us on Enneagram. U, have a very happy Easter and mow your yard. I will see you later. Bye Kelly, bye Damon. Tell me what to do Without love in your heart, without love by your side, without love playing part.