In this podcast episode, the host explores the idea that even people who appear to be very happy and successful can still struggle with challenges and difficulties in their lives.
The episode begins with a discussion of the common misconception that people who are happy and successful have it all figured out and don't face any significant obstacles. The host emphasizes that this is not true, and that everyone faces challenges in their lives, no matter how successful or happy they may appear on the surface.
In this podcast episode, the host explores the idea that even people who appear to be very happy and successful can still struggle with challenges and difficulties in their lives.
The episode begins with a discussion of the common misconception that people who are happy and successful have it all figured out and don't face any significant obstacles. The host emphasizes that this is not true, and that everyone faces challenges in their lives, no matter how successful or happy they may appear on the surface.
All right guys. Welcome to our very first podcast. I'm Kelly, aka Chunki Panda. You guys might know, but yeah. And then we have Carmen Marie, beautiful. Yeah, I love that name. Carmen Marie. I feel like Carmen's such a very unique name. I don't feel like a lot of people have it, and it just, I don't know. Feels like sexy garman.
CARMEN:Yeah. Oh, do that again. Gar Garman. I got some chills. Garmen. Can you say that? There you go. It's not as good as you, but you can roll your R'. That's impressive. Yeah. That's not easy, is it really? Yeah. People have a difficult time. Uhhuh.
KELLY:I feel like I swallowed my tongue a little, trying to do that. It kind of sounded like you did too, honestly. I was like, come on. I'll, I'll learn. I'll master the art of the r. This is our very first podcast together. I think we have been talking about this forever and we said, Hey, you know what, we're gonna do it tonight. You know, no pushing back, no anything. It's not gonna be perfect, but it'll be really cool to kind of look back and listen to it and see the progress we've made. I feel like a lot of our thoughts are gonna be a little scattered, but, you know, that's the
CARMEN:whole point. Okay. Kelly, you just committed to posting. This is what you just did. Yeah, we're
KELLY:doing this. We said we're gonna do it and
CARMEN:all right. We're doing it. It's gonna be great.
KELLY:Fantastic.
CARMEN:All right. What are we talking about,
KELLY:Kelly? So today we are going to touch base on, mental health, but we're gonna start off with, mental health for people who the world sees as. I feel like a lot of the times people don't really touch base with them because they're like, oh, they're happy. Like nothing can ever go wrong in their world. but I honestly feel like the happy people are the people that go through the most, and they just reached a point where they said, Hey, you know what? I'm gonna change my mindset. I don't wanna feel like this anymore, so I'm gonna think of life in a different way.
CARMEN:Yeah. And I completely agree with that. And I, for me, from my perspective, the way I see it, you say happy people. I relate that to the healers. You know, our energy workers, our light workers our empaths mm-hmm. So it's the same, you know, it's those that heal also need their own healers, their own men mentors, their own guides. You know, consistently taking on and, being that light for others is going to require that you also continue to fuel your lamp. Yep. You know?
KELLY:And I also feel like a lot of people who are empaths, like energy healers, light workers, I feel like a lot of the times when you don't realize that that's what you do, it's like you have an idea and you're like, oh, I'm supposed to help people. But the thing that a lot of us don't realize, the release, you know, cuz it's not just your energy when you're dealing with a lot of people or you're trying to help a lot of people, sometimes we forget that we do carry that with us as well. So if we don't release those feelings and we don't call them out and acknowledge that they are not our feelings, it can make you crazy,
CARMEN:well then they become stuck energies. Right? So, and, and that's why it's important if you do feel, you know, that you have intuitive abilities or that you, are sensitive to. energies and, it can be somewhat scary to dive into that for fear of judgment. just fear of the unknown and not knowing what's happening. But yeah, really being in a place where you can, grow into that. Give yourself space for, you know, meditation and learning how to differentiate between what is your energy and what is not. Because when you're, when you're able to do that, then you. you can not, you can learn to not take on. Mm-hmm. other people's
KELLY:energies. Right. And I also feel like it's the fear of burdening other people. Um, it took me a while to learn this, that you're not really a burden. And it's like we also need to have somebody that we can talk to. Yeah. To, to make sense of things, you know? Cuz when you have that third person, it's like, oh wow, they're not in like this energy field. They're outside looking in. So they can kind of help navigate you a little bit better than if you were gonna try to do it just yourself. But meditation does definitely help because I've started doing that. It's made me a little. More sane.
CARMEN:All of that, all of those practices, all of those disciplines, that's just the start. It could be a commitment to anything. A commitment to growth, A commitment to knowing yourself, right? Because, happy people, empaths, our readers, our community healers, our medicine, women and men, it's so important that we take care of our own. Mm-hmm. energy. Right? And it starts with, with knowing that you gotta learn how to do that, right?
KELLY:Learning when you need to reach out. I think that was the biggest thing for. me and I feel like reach
CARMEN:out for you mean asking for help? Asking for
KELLY:reaching out and just being like, Hey, I just need to talk to you about this. Yeah. I just need to release this. I just need you to listen. I just need you to kind of navigate me through the, the, the, the waves, you know? cuz it does come in waves connection.
CARMEN:Mm-hmm. someone to connect to. So where do you, how do you know, how do you, how do you find, you know, Who you're gonna connect and who you feel comfortable, you know, being vulnerable with enough to, to have these conversations.
KELLY:I've also realized over time it's an energy thing.
CARMEN:So you're saying you feel Yeah.
KELLY:When you feel energetic, safe, and you feel like, that, that's a, that's a pretty tough question. I think you just kind of have to establish that relationship with the. and I mean their energy has to kind of be calming to yours. You know, you can't really go to a chaotic person and then spill the beans and they're just like, I, I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. And if not, you both are gonna go crazy cuz nobody has a direction. So you just find people that you can connect with that you feel safe with, that you, you don't feel judged or looked at funny
CARMEN:yeah. For me it's always been energetic as well. You just know, you know who's there to hold space for you, and who you can be authentic with. And if you don't have that, because a lot of healers, a lot of happy people don't necessarily have that person to go to, right. They're always that person for others. And if you don't, then. it's important to kind of, to pick your path and to, to find and seek out mentorship or guidance or, a group or community where you can be with other like-minded individuals. you
KELLY:know, and I think it's also being in that head space of just being comfortable with your. because I mean, for you to even open or share, you have to be comfortable with yourself. So it's working through the triggers or the traumas of thinking that, Hey, I have to harness this. This is my job. And I feel like when we let go of that and we realize that our job is just, just be, just to exist, you know, we don't have to fill a mold. Cuz I feel like that's pretty much a lot of impasse. Feel like, Hey, I'm supposed to be this person. I cannot show any sign of weakness. I cannot do this. and it's just like feeling that people need you. So you don't wanna let them down, you know?
CARMEN:So, yeah, for me, it's interesting cuz we've talked about our stories before and you've talked about how, for you growing up, this, this, these gifts that, that, that you have, we're. To make others happy in a sense. Can you, I want you, I, I would love for you to tell that story because what I find interesting and so we'll flip sides, is that you and I both have a different reason, a different purpose in a way. and I think it's really cool. So, yeah. All
KELLY:right. Oh man, I wanna say I did not have it easy growing up. I'll tell you that. I, I had a very hard, childhood. I didn't know where I belonged. I was bullied. My parents, you know, the traditional Asian parents, tiger mom, tiger dad, and it just, I just never felt like I could. Fill the mold or be good enough. And for the longest time I was just like, what am I good at? and I just had so much heart for people that like it. It's sometimes it's overwhelming. Like it makes me wanna cry because I'm like, I really just wanna help people. I just, I just wanna love people. I remember when I was like five or six, some, I think it was probably five. I was at the temple. and there was a girl that was at the temple with me and man, she had eczema. So back then I had no idea what eczema was. You know, for me, I was just like, oh, it's something on her skin. So I just rubbed my arm on her and I just looked at her and I said, Hey, like I have what you have, you know, like we have this together. You know, you're not alone anymore. And I think for her, she, she was still crying, she was still upset because people were making fun of her. When you're little you don't really understand. And I think that's why it's so important for parents to kind of guide kids through that and to make them feel safe and loved because that's important. I remember just doing that. It, she didn't stop. So I got on top of the toilet, not that I was using it, I was just standing on top of it and I pretended to. and she laughed. And I swear to you that resonated something inside of me and it was just like a light bulb. And I was just like, that's what I'm supposed to do. I'm supposed to help people. I'm supposed to make them laugh. I'm supposed to make them feel better. And then, so for me, I pretty much like became that person. But the problem was I didn't do that for myself. So I literally lost my five year old. into like just throwing my love into people. And that took me a long time to kind of step back and be like, Hey, I deserve this too. You know? Because as a child, what you lack, you have a tendency to just give so the love that you need and the your love language is pretty much what you give to other people without even realizing it. And then you get like upset because you're like, Ugh, they don't love me back the same way. But you know, everybody has a different way. But yeah, that's where I got my whole like, ah, I'm gonna be this goofball, I'm gonna be this personality, I'm gonna be this person, you know? So well,
CARMEN:For sharing that. That was Mm, my heart. Yeah. Like, you know, I know that you see your five year old self from a perspective of lacking in a sense, and what you said that that came from a place of lacking. But honestly, all. Here an interpret is that you were born an angel like No, honestly, like a child as young as five. Like with a heart, you know, like that. Like that's, you were born an angel so Yeah. No, you say lacking. I say, you know, I have, I just, I was about to say the worst mom joke and I stopped myself. Oh my gosh, it would've been so bad.
KELLY:Uhoh. I feel like you might have to say it now.
CARMEN:I mean, okay. I'll say it, but I promise you it's neither funny. or it's not appropriate. I was trying to be rhymey. Mm-hmm. Okay. You ready for it? Yeah. I said, what did I say about lacking? I said remind me what I said. I said, uh, you said, uh, you see us lacking. You said, you said you're lacking It's bad, bro. It's so bad. Okay. I said I was gonna say Okay. I You okay?
KELLY:I can do it. I believe in you. Yeah,
CARMEN:I was gonna say, you say you're relaxing. I say you came in packing. Oh God. What was that like? What was that?
KELLY:I dunno. I'm just like still getting the hang of this guys, this road caster has so many options and I think I hit the wrong button. I was trying to hit the woohoo button. We'll have to, we'll get that. We're we're working on that. Okay.
CARMEN:So that was my very first mom joke on there. I love,
KELLY:I love it. I love, you know, I, I stay packed, you know. Fucking ew. You
CARMEN:came back in with energy, like you came packed with it,
KELLY:you know. No, I like, It's not bad. It's pretty bad. It's the kind of joke that I would, I It's okay. I could, I could
CARMEN:bleep that. Don't worry. So they're gonna get to see the many different personalities of Carmen Marie. Yeah. Yeah.
KELLY:Let's see. Here we go. So now it's, uh, you're, how long has
CARMEN:of our episode Ha What did I, how long? We're 14
KELLY:minutes. Okay. Yeah.
CARMEN:Is this how we end the episode? No, girl.
KELLY:We got, we gotta get yours.
CARMEN:I
KELLY:don't, what am I sharing? What are we talking? you asked me where and how I,
CARMEN:oh, okay. So let's go back to that. Yes, yes. So for you it was others. For me, my, because, you know, we all have an origin story I like to say, because, The truth is, we're all born into trauma. Right? Just different experiences. Yep. Um, no degree is less or more whatever trauma is. Trauma. Um, so, you know, I, I have an origin story as well. Um, and I, I don't, it's difficult now to like even talk about the past because I'm in just such a different place right now. But, For me, it always this intuitive, this knowing, this, sensitivity towards others. Like really taking in what is absorbing, I wanna say, absorbing the energy of what's happening around me and knowing that I was doing so, or being aware in some way, started at a young age to survive, you know, in many ways. Get through some pretty traumatic situations and for me it was always just a deeper knowing that I was here for something more in a way. And that whatever was happening around me at the time was temporary. And I remember feeling this way as a child. So it's interesting to hear you say like the knowing that you had at such a young age, right? At. I experienced the same type of knowing, bit from a different like, you know, different path. For me, I knew I was just following something, you know, and I wouldn't really understand that until the last year and a half or so ago, you know, what that was or what that calling has been since I was a child. But yeah, carrying that with you from such a young age, grow, especially, you know, fueled. Traumatic situation that you're trying to escape from survive. Understand because you're a child, right? Mm-hmm. as you carry that into adolescence, into early adulthood, into even middle age, if you don't really learn, if you don't learn how to, how to separate, you know yourself self. everything else that's going on around you, you are just, you're packing on and you're just caring and caring and caring. And then you wonder why you can't seem to break certain patterns and why you can't seem to, you know, progress. And you can't seem to just stop doing all the same things that you're always doing. And it's because you haven't yet learned that there's, you know, there's something much more going on than just. what you believe is your, your own personal things, you know? So, and to be honest, a lot of people don't and they don't ever get the opportunity really to, to understand this. And unfortunately, you know, that's why we're talking about mental health for a reason. Because all of these energetics, all of these experiences, all of these things that we tack onto ourselves and carry with us is what contribute. To our different breakdowns that we have in our, you know, healer, community, community, spiritual community, you know, our empaths, our sensitive people, our lovers, our, you know, it's, it's super, super, super important that we have these conversations within our community of the happy people, you know? Right. Yeah. Because it's. They're the ones who are least likely to say anything, and they're the ones that's like, you know, I would've never, I had no idea, you know, I didn't think that they would do that. I just didn't expect it. Mm-hmm. Right? And I mean, I just, I made a huge dramatic jump there, but I'm saying that when mental health is not taken care of at the root, that can be what it becomes, right? Mm-hmm. And I don't wanna, I don't wanna miss us. I don't wanna miss this community. I don't wanna miss you. I, yeah, I love that. It's a lot. But, yeah, so for me, you know, like, what, what's important for me, or I guess my, my path, my purpose, is to, to be the healers healer in a way. And also, rock with, and you know, like I have my. I wanna say team of guides and mentors, you know, that I, I, I call on, on a continuous basis now, you know, when I need different things and I wanna be able to help others build that, you know, I wanna be able to help them find their tribe. so that, yeah. So that we have a space to talk about these things and we have, yeah, I don't know. I lost,
KELLY:lost my train of thought. I wanna say the breakthroughs are, are so important because like I said, we're all wandering this earth just like lost creatures. And when we don't have people that we can relate to or touch base with, it just makes it harder to navigate, you know? And like you said, people take on a burden and they feel like this is my job. And I think a huge thing that Impass do is they take on the burden. because they feel like, you know, they, I think no one talks about this, but they get codependent. They get so codependent on the feeling of being needed that they form that, and that's what happens in a lot of their relationships, you know? Well, because
CARMEN:they believe that the purpose is in them being that they have purpose in the being needed. Mm-hmm. right.
KELLY:It's no purpose because it gets misunderstood and misinterpreted along the way. So, but it makes sense cuz a lot of people get in these relationships and they're like frustrated and like, they just keep pouring into this cup even though they know that like, hey, like this isn't, this, isn't it? You know? Yeah. So, but, and you're right, people repeat things and they tack on things and they carry things with them through like different lifetimes. Friendships and like situation ships and relationships and they don't realize it. And I also believe that through these like experiences, it gives you more strength and power once you realize, cuz it gives you such a huge, like broad like base to even like relate to, you know, like if we didn't suffer and if we didn't go through all the shitty things that, you know, people call. then there's no way that we could be sitting right here today connecting to others, you know? So, yeah.
CARMEN:Well, you know, there can't be light without the dark and yeah, that's a. What were we? Wait,
KELLY:No, you're good. I was just saying that, you know, like if we don't go through these situations, then Yeah. The
CARMEN:trauma. Yeah, the trauma. Well see the experiences. That's that's what we came, that's why we're here. That's why we're in a human body. We're here to, have a central experience. Senses, you know, that is a gift from like, but with having a. You know, so we came to experience, and that comes with what we deem traumatic events, right? And I'm not, I'm gonna be careful what I say there, but, you know, yeah. E everything, every experience that we have, we are perceiving, right? Mm-hmm. in our own way, from our own filters, from our. Past traumas, right? Mm-hmm. we're perceiving, constantly perceiving what is happening around us in front of us from these filters that only we see that only exist within us, you know? Mm-hmm. So, I guess the point that I was making because, you know, I go on these little tangents. No, I, I love it. But the point that I was making is that, the experiences, it's so much more than just. Growth. It's like here on this earth, it's what we carry with us, right? Because we don't, we are born in a physical body for a purpose that is to be able to have these experiences, right? And to be able to process, absorb, and process, transform energy. We won't get into all that but going back to, we, we don't leave with a. we just leave as an our energetic mm-hmm. soul. Right? And so these experiences is what we take with us. Mm-hmm. and that, you know, what we do with that. I mean, there's many different things I can say and I won't go into that either, but that's why we're here, you know, is to have these experiences. And so when you, when you really understand these things, it makes. it makes you an even better healer. It makes you an e even better, person to lean on, or a friend or, you know, a mentor guide, whatever. Because then you're, you're able to not judge y yourself your situation, other situations, which then allows you to consistently apply love to things and to bounce that dark to light, right? Mm-hmm. So wherever there is darkness, you're able to shine. You know, by, by perceiving it from a different angle at times, like seeing things a little differently, but the experiences, that's what, that's what life is like. That's all that we have. You don't take the money, you don't take the physical things, you don't take any of that other than the experiences, the knowledge, the things that you, you know, learn the connections you make.
KELLY:Because at the end of the day, when you look in the mirror, it's like that's all you see. You don't like, it's like, yeah, you can earn, you can get like, you know, I don't know, a lot of money, like the coolest car, the coolest house, the, you know, whatever it is that your heart desires, you know, in a physical form. It's like none of that matters because at the end of the night, it's like you go to sleep with yourself and you wake up to yourself and it's just, it doesn't carry over into your field. It's just stuff that you just have just to kind of show the world, if that makes any
CARMEN:sense. And another, you know, these are, these are the ch the chases. This is the chase that will push people into depression, anxiety, all of these other things, right? Is mm-hmm. chasing things, right, because Yeah. And even as you. Empaths or mm-hmm. healers. Even consistently trying to help everybody thinking that you can, you know? Mm-hmm. so taking on more than, than you're able to handle, et cetera. It's all chasing something outside of yourself. Mm-hmm. anyway, you know, so that is gonna always take away from your. You know, your energetic
KELLY:health. Yeah. So, because I feel like we're all put on this earth to find our purpose, and when you have all that distraction, all those distractions, it's hard for you to, to pick out what it is that your purpose is. And some people turn it into, like I said, you know, physical things, and they're like, this is, you know, my purpose is to achieve this and achieve that. But it's like at the end of the day, it's like, who are you without all this? Because like you said, you know, that's all you take yourself. no car, no anything. I mean, it's just your soul.
CARMEN:It's just, yeah. And no one cares about your accolades, you know, like, I mean, beyond this, like the achievements, the physical achievements, all of that, that doesn't go with you either. Mm-hmm. you know, so it's, there's always a balance, you know, there's goals and there's, you know, it's important to have that mm-hmm. but I think always from the foundation of understanding that, your relationship with you. Mm-hmm. has to come first, or you can't help others, you know? Sure. Like, you can't, you really truly cannot because if you're not operating, you know, like with all four wheels going, you know, and a, and a tankful of gas and all of these things, like, you are not gonna be able. Keep going. You know, like no matter who needs you, you're not gonna be able to get there. You're not gonna be able to get to people. Right. Yeah. Like the car won't go, like you're not going to anyone's house to help anybody. Like you're,
KELLY:you know, I dunno. And then I know we're getting kind of towards the end here. I do wanna ask you one question before we get off of here. What would you say to Young Carmen, like with everything that you
CARMEN:know today? That's like such a happy question, Kelly. Wow. Inner child, Carmen? Mm-hmm. Hmm. I'm gonna get into my chicken with my breath real quick. Calm my nervous system down cuz this is an emotional question, you know? Yeah. This is a good way to practice. Thank you Kelly.
KELLY:Mm-hmm.
CARMEN:man. I would tell her she's fucking awesome. yeah. I would tell her how adorable she is and how funny, how sweet, how kind, how loving. basically everything that I say to my children on a daily basis. Mm-hmm. a million times a day to them. Yep. I would say to to little Carmen. Yeah. that's all you know. That's beautiful. It's the simple things that's mm-hmm. that's it. Because it, no matter what, like little Carmen, big Carmen, half or whatever, Carmen's always gonna get through the shit. Oh yeah. That's always like, Carmen's, I will never. I would never say to her like, Hey, don't worry. No, I know you got it. You know, I know you fucking got it. Mm-hmm. And that's it. And I love, and that's why I love, like looking back on, you know, little Garita is what my family would call me. I love that. That's
KELLY:beautiful. You gotta say it
CARMEN:again. Garita. Oh. But yeah, like she was always, she's always gonna get through everything. I just wanna acknowledge her, you know, like that's all she wanted, you know, at the time. Just wanted to be seen. And all I wanna say is I see you. I see you little Carmen, and I love you. I love that.
KELLY:I love her too. I love all of it,
CARMEN:so Well, I love you and this was kind of a cute episode. I mean, I sound cute, like I haven't slept in a million years because Kelly, you have to tell them that. Usually it's 1132 You know my ass is in bed by it. Like 9 30, 9 o'clock. Yeah. 9,
KELLY:9 30. You're, you're like laying down nine and you're like, you know, takes you a little bit, but nine 30 you're
CARMEN:probably gonna stop. So I'm a pumpkin. Yeah. That's what's happening to me. I do wake up at like four 30 in the morning. I'm just saying balance, balance. Anyway. All right guys. Thank
KELLY:you. Thank you. Thank you for joining us. I cannot wait to add more, you know, so stay tuned. We're definitely gonna talk a lot more about some more topics if you guys have anything that you want us to talk about or if you guys have any personal questions. Please send them. We would love to answer them. We're here for you. All right. Goodnight guys. Bye.