Ever found yourself laughing in the face of chaos, only to pause and think, "What the f just happened?" That's exactly the sentiment Autumn and I chew over as we recount the rollercoaster ride of the previous year, peeling back the curtain on transformations, hard-earned realizations, and the bizarre moments of clarity that only hindsight can bring. From personal empowerment to the quirks of numerology with Gary33, we're not just reminiscing—we're setting intentions and inviting you to join in shaping a year that's more 'you' than ever before.
If you've ever given yourself a proverbial pat on the back, you'll know the sweet satisfaction that comes with self-acknowledgement. This episode isn't just about us; it's a shared journey of shrugging off self-blame and learning the delicate art of self-validation. As we relish in recounting our steps towards growth—like ditching the victim mentality, embracing forgiveness, and even our peculiar fascinations with solitaire and fungi—you'll find yourself nodding along, inspired to give yourself those much-deserved 'flowers'.
Wrapping things up with a heart-to-heart on relationship dynamics, we confront the bittersweet symphony of change—how we grow, how we part, and how we set goals that actually stick. I get real about accepting different life paths and Autumn weighs in on the beauty of small, achievable resolutions. Trust us, there's a method to the madness of New Year's aspirations, and we're dishing out the inside scoop on making them work. So, turn up the volume, grab a notebook (or a heart-shaped cookie), and let's toast to a year of attainable ambitions and personal revolutions.
Ever found yourself laughing in the face of chaos, only to pause and think, "What the f just happened?" That's exactly the sentiment Autumn and I chew over as we recount the rollercoaster ride of the previous year, peeling back the curtain on transformations, hard-earned realizations, and the bizarre moments of clarity that only hindsight can bring. From personal empowerment to the quirks of numerology with Gary33, we're not just reminiscing—we're setting intentions and inviting you to join in shaping a year that's more 'you' than ever before.
If you've ever given yourself a proverbial pat on the back, you'll know the sweet satisfaction that comes with self-acknowledgement. This episode isn't just about us; it's a shared journey of shrugging off self-blame and learning the delicate art of self-validation. As we relish in recounting our steps towards growth—like ditching the victim mentality, embracing forgiveness, and even our peculiar fascinations with solitaire and fungi—you'll find yourself nodding along, inspired to give yourself those much-deserved 'flowers'.
Wrapping things up with a heart-to-heart on relationship dynamics, we confront the bittersweet symphony of change—how we grow, how we part, and how we set goals that actually stick. I get real about accepting different life paths and Autumn weighs in on the beauty of small, achievable resolutions. Trust us, there's a method to the madness of New Year's aspirations, and we're dishing out the inside scoop on making them work. So, turn up the volume, grab a notebook (or a heart-shaped cookie), and let's toast to a year of attainable ambitions and personal revolutions.
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Speaker 2:The outtakes would be amazing.
Speaker 1:Oh man.
Speaker 2:How are we doing? Okay, what are we? Oh, okay, New Year's.
Speaker 1:What's your?
Speaker 2:name Adam Alright.
Speaker 1:Welcome.
Speaker 2:It's always an awkward moment on that, one for intro.
Speaker 1:Welcome back, guys. We are so excited to have you here today, and I am back with Autumn Berrier. You should really make a sparkling water with Berrier. You know, with berries? Ooh yeah, I don't know. Now you got an idea. Trademark.
Speaker 2:No one can take it now.
Speaker 1:Mic drop Welcome back, guys. We are so excited to be here with you guys today. All I got to say is man, it has been a wild ride this year. I can't believe. We are pretty much a couple days from this is over, yeah, and the year's about to be over and we're about to be in a new chapter. Guys, that's crazy.
Speaker 2:Well, next year's going to be an eight. Yeah, so it's a funding a love out.
Speaker 1:I'm a number eight.
Speaker 2:Oh, there you go. So if you guys, are confused.
Speaker 1:We're talking about life path numbers, which is something that I've been into lately. Thanks, gary33 and Autumn, for introducing me to Gary33. So if you're out there, I hope you were listening and, by the way, I would love to have you on here just saying, oh my God, that would be so cool. I feel like the whole time my mind would just be like right, but if you guys are confused, gary33 is a numerologist and he's incredible and I just think he's an interesting human.
Speaker 2:He puts astrology to shame. Yes, for sure.
Speaker 1:There's a lot more logic in his process than Woo-Haw, woo-hee, woo-haw. I don't know.
Speaker 2:Mystical. I was like Woo-Haw.
Speaker 1:Woo-Hee Hi, my friend's name is Woo-Hee. Shout out to Woo-Hee out there. Woo-hee Rim, she is beautiful, she's Korean, she's great, so, but yes, so on today's episode, I guess we're going to start off with a question and then we'll go from there, since it is the end ending of this 2023. So I'm going to ask you, autumn, what title would you give this chapter in your life, and why?
Speaker 2:Since we're recording on my phone, I'm going to have to remember what the fuck I wrote down. I think it was what the fuck just happened. It was my title for this year. Yeah, it has been one. It's been a roller coaster of nothing but emotions and I just I'm trying to finish up my last remaining weddings and once I can finally get those off to my couples, I'm like all right, now I can officially close out 2023. What about you Me?
Speaker 1:Ah man, it has been a roller coaster as well, so it's hard to put into words, but I want to say it's been all about empowering myself and a lot of healing with family, friends and just bonding.
Speaker 2:That's good. Yeah, that's a good roller coaster then.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's the one that you actually look forward to, the drops.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's where you're exploring yourself and you're like man. Just when I think I know myself, you're like no, not quite yet, that's awesome.
Speaker 2:Damn, I love that. So what about your new year's resolution? What is that?
Speaker 1:My new year, oh, I have an array I want to say definitely, if my brothers or Matt or my friends are listening punctuality, guys, and that is one thing that I struggle with. I'm always like there's always something that I have to do or there's always something that happens and I'm like, damn so. Punctuality is probably something that I am definitely going to be on my oh so you're late to a lot of things.
Speaker 1:Yes, I am. I get distracted so easily and it's just. I don't know what to do with that. Yeah, I've been working.
Speaker 2:I could.
Speaker 1:I could definitely be better. My goal for 2024 is to be at least at least 15 minutes early to things or to doing stuff, so that I can be mentally prepared.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree. What about? Is there any other ones that you are trying to do?
Speaker 1:Man, that's a good question. I don't know why they all just dropped off. Definitely I want to read more.
Speaker 2:That's a good one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I want to at least read one book per month, just to start, as a minimum. Okay, because I feel like that's definitely doable. I feel like a lot of us start off with these giant goals and then we end up not being able to finish it. Yeah.
Speaker 2:What about yours? Mine is going to have to be going more keto with my diet. I'm very strict when it comes to my diet, but I think I need to just challenge it, just to tap it more and see what all that can do, Because apparently keto can help out with a lot of things that your body may be having issues with. But we did the test, like I was telling you before. It's called the motherfucker gene.
Speaker 1:Just because of that, I'm like I want to take the motherfucker gene test.
Speaker 2:But it's supposed to tell you what you're deficient in and then you can fix your body from there. Because apparently the one thing that Gary Brekka says is what a lot of his clients. They come and tell him hey, we're feeling amazing now, Like I can't believe, like you fixed us and you just feel normal, that's all yeah. Oh, my God dang.
Speaker 1:That's crazy. And it's crazy you say that too, because people who have neck pain, back pains or all that stuff. It's become such a norm to them that they're just like, oh, and I'm sure if anything got resolved and they found a different method, they'd be like, oh my God, I feel super human. And then no, you're just feeling normal.
Speaker 2:Well, we blame it on aging, and we're that. We're just getting old. My legs hurt, my back hurts. Oh, it's because I'm getting older.
Speaker 1:That's it? Yeah, it's not, and sometimes we just don't move as much. That's true.
Speaker 2:So I do need to be able to do like a goal of 10,000 to 15,000 steps. I have it down, but I'm not really it's not really my regimen that much I mean. Maybe that'd be another goal too, yeah.
Speaker 1:I usually use my dog as my excuse to go walk. It helps me get up in the morning too. I think another one of my goals as well would be to probably walk a lot more and just explore everything, because sometimes we're always like, oh, it's too cold or it's this or it's that, and there's always an excuse. But setting these goals or I'd rather call them goals and resolutions because I feel like when you say resolution it's very short lived- in my mind it is.
Speaker 1:But yeah, to set these goals, to just be more present for me it's to not be on my phone when I'm walking around, but yeah, I think being more present is also another big goal of mine. Right now I'm doing 10 minute meditations when I wake up. Now I want to extend it, now that I'm good with getting it every single day. Oh, that's so how long have you been doing that? I've been doing this for the past three months, damn. Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah, I do the cold shower thing. It sucks, it's very hurtful. I ask myself why I do it every single day, but honestly, it gets me up Pretty much. It shocks me until being awake without the caffeine, because I know that back in the day I used to just drink coffee first thing when I woke up, didn't give it any time, right, and then now I'm hearing that it's more efficient if you wait an hour before you drink the caffeine, because it gives your body a chance to actually adapt to it.
Speaker 2:Did you know that coffee does not give you like a boost of energy. It literally blocks a certain part of, like a signal to go to your brain to say you're tired. That's all it is, mmm.
Speaker 1:But I feel like it makes sense, because sometimes you know you're drinking coffee and you're like why isn't this working? And you're so zapped because maybe you just overstimulated yourself.
Speaker 2:That's true. What do you feel like your lesson has been this year? Oh my, lesson Balance.
Speaker 1:Oh, I think my lesson is constantly balance. Too much of anything, it's just not going to be good for you. And just learning to take a step back and give back to myself, because I've always struggled in the past with people pleasing and just being over sympathetic and just wanting to give everyone my heart and sometimes I don't have enough left for myself. But I think that also another lesson would be don't expect things from people. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like a lot of the times it's just because we give so much in a certain way that we think that's what it takes to get back what it is that we need Right, and it becomes an expectation for people and you can't really place that on people because it doesn't work that way.
Speaker 2:Well, even before we went to the coffee shop we were talking. It was, I feel, like expectations are. Not only we develop them as we're growing, but we are initially starting with them, with our parents and what their expectations are. So everybody grows up with a first starting point and so they just grow with that. So giving someone an expectation that's your own is always going to be unfair and you're never, going to get what you're wanting.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think that when you expect things from people, you take away their free will because now they feel responsible or they feel guilted into things. And I feel it's equally important, everything that we expect from people to give that back to ourselves. When I feel like a lot of us, instead of doing that, we seek it in others and we expect that in return, which causes a lot of chaos in relationships, friendships, all situationships.
Speaker 2:I feel like mine has been trying to find how to be more independent because, as with my mom, growing up with her as well as my dad but my dad wasn't very much hands on as far as my mom's concern compared I never had I wasn't able to branch out. She always put me in this little fucking bubble and try to protect me, and so I don't know if we talked about this on the last one, but it wasn't up until I was probably 35. I had so much anxiety going downtown and driving by myself, and so finally I just had to grow and get myself to be a little bit more courageous and brave and, as stupid as that sounds, that's really helped me take other steps and other directions and be independent on things. Yeah.
Speaker 1:No, I definitely resonate with that, because I feel like when I was younger I grew up in like a bubble cage, oh yeah. I want to say but it's scary when you actually hear your voice for the first time and it's like, hey, this is what you need to do?
Speaker 1:Hey, this is what you should do at this age Be married, have kids, yada, yada, yada. There's so much of it that it's scary and you're just like is this what I want right now, or is this something that I'm doing because I think I'm supposed to so definitely resonate with that? I think that that's pretty tough. That's what is it.
Speaker 2:The Lion King voice is when you actually hear yourself roar for the first time.
Speaker 1:Whoa, I was about to sing I want to be a mighty king. It was such a great movie. I'm still sad about Mufasa.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, if you were to take yourself back five years ago, what is something that you feel that you have definitely grown out of?
Speaker 1:I want to say, as bad as it sounds, I grew out of like my victim mentality and when I say that it was more of I always felt like the world was against me. I grew up just always defending myself, always being like I, and it's not, it's more of a I didn't do that, I'm so sorry, kind of thing, and I think that I've grown out of that and it's taken me a long time and, like I said, I have the right people around me to be like dude, why do you think it's your fault? I've been talking about you and I'm like why am I feeling this way? I think yeah. So just growing out of that mindset of the world is after me, or growing out of my own prison that I've set for myself, does that make them kind of sort of your own prison guard too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you don't let yourself out. Yes, but maybe, maybe 10 times every 24 hours.
Speaker 1:Yes, I think I'm going to give myself flowers cheer myself on, I'm smiling, I'm smiling. Yeah, I can buy myself flowers, but yeah, no, I think that a lot of us think that it's something that other people are supposed to give us, but we have to give us our own flowers first, before other people can give us our flowers, I had to go along with you being in like your own prison.
Speaker 2:I've been using this quote a lot lately, at least for myself, which is when you have a life lesson, it's not a. Your past is basically your life lesson. It is not a life sentence, and that's been something that's been helping me through. A lot of stuff is just this feeling that I'm having is literally only for a moment in time, versus five years down the road. I won't even remember feeling that way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I guess I mean that is right. I mean, you aren't your past, but you grow from every single situation that you go through and think that forgiveness is a huge thing. Oh yeah, what are other things that you felt like you've grown out of? I think I've got.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to think, because you had such a good one of being feeling like more self-victim Mine is something similar to yours taking fault for things that technically aren't mine is and realizing that people have their own faults and in their own insecurities and not, I guess, not taking responsibility for it and I think a lot of the things too, is. I felt as though what I had to say was not important, that it wasn't valuable, and I am trying to, as of right now, trying to find a decent fine line to where I go. Okay, this is me being stubborn, or this is me actually just voicing my opinion and standing my ground on something like my core values. So that's actually what I'm battling through right now, at least trying to find that filter, versus before, it was just like oh, it's definitely my fault. This whole.
Speaker 2:yeah, like you like this whole scenario is my fault, yeah.
Speaker 1:No, definitely finding your voice. Yeah, I feel like a lot of the times. For us it's uncomfortable when there is a situation you're just like, oh, fuck, like how do I fix this? Oh, I'll just take the blame, like I usually do, and then maybe I'll go away and everybody's going to be Gucci.
Speaker 2:Yeah, how are you? You with sorry.
Speaker 1:I'm working on that. I say it way too much and I know it and I think that acknowledging it and being more aware of it is helpful. But it is a habit that I've had since I was little, so that goes to the part of victim mentality where it's wow, everything is my fault, oh, I did this, I did that, or even people bumping into me. I'm sorry and I'm like I should be sorry, you should be sorry.
Speaker 2:Mine is more of along the lines as I like you, I said sorry too much and then I'm like, okay, I'm catching it, but now I've stopped saying sorry and then I'm like shit, that really was my fault. So having to actually take the pride away from it and own up to and actually saying what I was sorry for, that's been hard as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So hard, because then you're having to admit a fault. It's not fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's when the stubborn kicks in too. I definitely it takes me time to fully apologize sometimes, but if it's something that I definitely was like oh wow, there's no way around it, then yes, I will be like hey, I'm sorry hurting people's feelings, or if I said something out of that I wasn't thinking clearly about, but like other things where it could be like in question, where it's like who's actually right, then yeah, I might be a little hard to admit. I'm getting better with it.
Speaker 2:What is something that you feel like you're addicted to this year, or you were addicted to? Oh man Anything like food or anything like that.
Speaker 1:That's a good question. I'm really solitary on my phone. I know that. I know that sounds so awful because you're like how old are you Kelly? I know I love I cannot. I'll watch movies with Matt and I'm on my phone playing Solitaire and he's just what are you doing?
Speaker 2:I literally just deleted that two weeks ago off my phone.
Speaker 1:I don't feel so bad. That is weird as shit. But yeah, no, I really playing Solitaire.
Speaker 2:We are definitely old. We're getting to that point. Mine is mine's mushrooms. I know this is like the weirdest. I hated them when I was younger and now I like have to put them with everything. And I've yet to have one of those expensive mushrooms that I can't even remember the name it's like a truffle or something like that. It's the M Yep can't remember.
Speaker 1:Money, money, money mushroom that's what we're going to call it. Yep, that's money, money, money Shit. I can't remember it.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I literally will. I can eat the dampings raw, where I used to just absolutely hate them. Wow, so that's what I'm currently addicted to.
Speaker 1:Well, at first, when you said mushrooms, I was like no mushrooms, and then you're like I put them with everything and I was like regular mushrooms. Yes, okay, I do love mushrooms too, though.
Speaker 2:I love it.
Speaker 1:Have you ever microdosed? Not exactly, but I've done a regular dose.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, I tried doing microdose with the mushrooms only because it's supposed to open up like a third eye in Europe, get more of a creative mind, and did not see a damn thing after that, like I, just I did it for three months. I'm like, yeah, that's not really good, oh interesting, I've done a full dose, though.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think the full dose for me is more of a release. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Have you ever smoked? I weed.
Speaker 1:I was like smoked. I'm always like I smoked Tuka Weed. I have a tough time with that one. I feel like I've tried to smoke it to go to sleep before, but during the day I'm complete toast. Oh yeah, I'm just a zombie. I'm there with you but I'm not there with you. But it works differently for everybody. I mean, I feel like I have friends who can do dabs and be completely productive and be able to design a whole entire website.
Speaker 2:I'm like how I don't get that. Yeah, I used to smoke it at night, just so I can get the edge off, take all the energies that I absorbed that day and be able to release them and laugh. But something glitched inside of me. It was probably about four I was to actually say about five years ago, when I was I had smoked, and it gave me straight into a panic attack. Oh man, Because you have no control over what you're thinking. So I was like I remember vividly where I was. It was with my daughter and Corey had stepped out at that just to go grab us something to eat. And we were running around the house and I had to be. I was singing let it go Like from frozen, Because I was like I got to get my mind off of this, but I love that because you were like let it go, oh my God.
Speaker 2:I never actually thought that. That's probably the reason why I was saying that Subliminally they were like we know what we're doing. Well, thank God he was gone for, I think, literally two minutes, because he went right up the street and I was like I need to be alone for a second. I'm not good, but I apparently, from anxiety, I went to a convention not too long ago. I won't even say what convention because I know people would judge, but that's okay.
Speaker 2:But this awesome guy named DJ was saying that if you just put a sour candy in your mouth when you're having anxiety he takes it when he goes on a plane and it completely knocks anxiety out, oh my, God, I wonder if it's like a focus thing.
Speaker 1:It probably like takes your mind off, because you're like oh man, this is really sour. Yeah, I'm really enjoying the flavor, so I'm going to have to try that one too. I am too, yeah.
Speaker 2:One of those really really sour citric acid ones? Yeah, wow, but you're drooling now.
Speaker 1:I know.
Speaker 2:You're just. That'll really distract the shit out of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're just the whole time you're just trying not to drool, right yeah. Wow.
Speaker 2:Never thought of it that way. Where is somewhere that you want? You need to go in the next five years? Japan, oh God, yeah.
Speaker 1:Why I just want to eat all the sushi I want to.
Speaker 2:You can buy two plane tickets, one just for you and me, right, matt can just take it home, yeah.
Speaker 1:Matt, you're out. He doesn't even like fish, so it's fine.
Speaker 2:Oh, then he's definitely out.
Speaker 1:Damn it. Sorry, matt, you're out dude. Yeah, no, but I just I want to see the cherry blossoms, I want to see all the scenic stuff. I want to go and get those weird pictures that people go and they dress up like they're Japanese and stuff. What? Yeah, like they. Whenever you go back to Asia, even in Vietnam, they have like alphas for you to choose from and you get to do this weird, cool, crazy shoot where you're like wearing the traditional clothes and stuff. Like that. Is it like the?
Speaker 2:one at Six Flags, where you go back in time and you're in this like Pretty much.
Speaker 1:They'll dress you up as like a queen or you know like whatever. Back in the day it's actually kind of cool. I know Korea does it too. I didn't know they did that Damn.
Speaker 2:All right, I think I want to go back to Arizona and go to. I think it's, I think it's Sedona but, you're going to have to go with me on this too, because they have what they I mean, it's portals. Basically, you sit there and there's just a calmness to where they say that you, when you sit in a certain spot, you can literally hear the winds and the ground like rumbling, as the as it's coming.
Speaker 1:That is so cool and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:I'm like I need to sit there and meditate for about 30 minutes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it almost feels like. It sounds like it'd be like a little vortex where you're just kind of. That's what it is, Not a portal, I mean technically it is a portal because it's taking you to a different place.
Speaker 2:Okay, you know, if you can validate me, I'm good with that, totally validating you. No, I think that we should go. I think that I was supposed to go last time, two years ago, and we weren't able to. So, yeah, that's where I want. I'm dying to go back.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm so cool to see a cactus in real life.
Speaker 1:I know this sounds right, I mean I have a mini cactus fairy castle but to see one in real life is insane. No, like how big they get. Yeah, yeah, okay, what.
Speaker 2:My God, you're gonna have so much bloopers from you with the random shit that you say I love it yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean, I feel like it keeps people on their toes.
Speaker 2:It really does. Yeah, I mean like wait a second. What the hell did she say?
Speaker 1:Did she say something about her? My ear, that's how I am too. I feel like. Whenever people introduce me to people, I'm like oh my God, I love your ears. They're like what the fuck?
Speaker 2:You've said that to something, yeah, I have. I've said, hey, I like your elbows.
Speaker 1:I'm sure anybody out there can definitely attest to this. You've never said you like my elbows, are they fat? I love your nose, oh Jesus, and I've also said I love your face too. So you know, most of the time your elbows are pretty covered by a jacket, a really cool jacket from like Lululemon or Alloyoga, yeah, or what, alloyoga, alloyoga.
Speaker 2:As far as relationships and it doesn't have to be even with you and Matt, just in general, maybe even your relationships with family, what have you?
Speaker 1:what do you feel like you've learned to how to communicate with them, me and this whole move to Charlotte has been getting closer to my parents, just pretty much healing the things that we haven't talked about or the things that were misunderstood, and also realizing that, like my parents, aren't the same people. You know what I mean. So it's like you get to see them. Well, I get to realize that you know whatever happened in the past or whatever we've said to each other in the past, like it doesn't stand anymore. Yeah, so I've learned to not I've learned, but I've had the opportunity to actually understand them more. And I feel like the older you get, the more you realize that half the things that are said or done is just for us to be better. Yeah, and it's never meant to harm or affect us in the way that it does.
Speaker 2:I got a good question for you. So when, usually when a relationship is about to end, that's usually someone saying you've changed. How do you feel about that statement? When someone says you've changed?
Speaker 1:How do I feel about it when someone says that I've changed? Yeah Well, it's, either the other person hasn't grown too, so it's just here. It is when you meet somebody and you have that interest.
Speaker 1:You're at the same level. It's like you can bond over it. You can whatever hurt, whatever it is that you guys have been through. The problem next is I've seen it in all friendships, I've seen it in like relationships, I've seen it in like family the problem is when one person starts growing and the other person doesn't. That's when it becomes an issue. It's because now this person that's not moving is insecure at where, whoever is moving, and it becomes more of projection. And then you know, you try to mend the relationship and you try to continue on with the relationship, but it doesn't serve you anymore. So, yeah, granted, I guess I have changed, I've grown, and maybe that person hasn't or maybe some other stuff happened, but I feel like a lot of the times it's more of one person just wanted to grow and the other person wasn't ready, or they just don't want to you know, so that's how I feel about it.
Speaker 1:I feel like I've made some growth or this relationship is no longer serving me.
Speaker 2:I agree. Yeah, I think usually when someone says the same thing, I'm like well, it's either. Someone has not necessarily. I think everybody changes to a certain extent. Like you said, one tends to probably grow a little bit more than the other if it starts to have a rocky relationship, While the other one they're staying stagnant, but they're also getting more angry, they're also getting more resentful.
Speaker 2:So, they are changing in that aspect. But I always thought that the whole you change is like such a negative thing and I'm like no, thank you God. Yeah, I did change.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I don't feel bad about it because it's more of I'm where I'm supposed to be and maybe that's not with you and not and that goes back to not everybody can come, yeah, and I think that we spend so much of our lives thinking that, oh, these friendships are the ones that I'm supposed to carry with me. Then you start to carry dead weight and then you get frustrated and you get in this bad space because you're around people that don't want you to grow, that don't wish you success or happiness, they just want you in that same bubble. But the reason why I feel like a lot of us get unhappy when we're stagnant is because, naturally, humans are meant to grow. They're meant to evolve.
Speaker 2:One other quote that I thought of, when you said that is when people stop or start dropping off out of your circle. It's because God and universe heard the conversations that you did it. I'm like God dang that one's pretty good.
Speaker 1:And then sometimes, when you don't listen to the signs that the universe and God gives you, they will strip you and they will make it hurt. That's the power moment, yeah, so that you cannot come back because they're like dude, we tried to warn you, now we're just gonna have to make it hurt so that there's no going back or in the bridges.
Speaker 2:Yep or in the boat and be done.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Man.
Speaker 1:I know we talked about resolutions. What is the biggest thing, that biggest mistake people do in making their resolutions?
Speaker 2:You said it best which was not on the podcast, you said it best when we were having the conversation which is they put too much on their plate. It's just like going in Thanksgiving dinner and overloading that one plate because you waited till freaking four o'clock in the afternoon to eat and so you think that your eyes are gonna decipher how much you should eat when your stomach is no, and you have so much left over and you're like that was not what I expected. But then you're rolling out at the door and miserable because you didn't, yeah, so much on your plate and you didn't even touch it all.
Speaker 1:But yeah, no, I definitely agree. I feel you're right. A lot of people just try to do a thousand things at once and, instead of taking the baby steps, they're like I'm gonna sign up for some competition and do this crazy workout and I'm gonna do this crazy workout for the rest of the year and then the only thing is the moment they fall off or accidentally miss a day or I can't keep up with it. We also are so hard on ourselves and I think that giving yourself compassion is going to help you keep your goals, resolutions, goals but I feel like giving yourself some compassion when you have those days. But I mean, I think the best way I can pretty much describe resolutions fitness is probably the best place to start yeah.
Speaker 1:So it's. If you wanted to start at the gym, you wouldn't say, hey, I'm gonna go seven days a week and I'm gonna do this crazy workout plan. No, the whole point is take the first steps as in, go however many days that you want and start off at 30 minutes. Hey, I want to go to the gym for four days for 30 minutes and then slowly build up. Once you get there, you can start adding more stuff. But I feel like a lot of people just try to head in first.
Speaker 2:I think by doing a lot of people will do what? The fitness and the diet. And then they take the diet to the extreme and the fitness to the extreme, and it's no just start with one One one is going to change. If you're not doing anything and you're in your sit on the couch and you're in the gym 30 minutes a day, that's going to change. And then if you're eating, if you're already in the gym and at least one or two times a week, get started on your damn diet.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:No, that makes sense. I see I it sucks because I go to the gym. I go, I think, six times, six times a week, and then when January comes around, it's fun to watch to see, or it's fun to watch to see who is going to come in and then all of a sudden, within a month, leave. And it's also so damn sad because you really do feel for those people. It's like they have such an energy to them and then when you just you don't see him anymore, damn.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Cause you're like I was rooting for you.
Speaker 2:I know I was rooting so much for you, but it is hurtful and also really no, cause the machines aren't taken out, but that's why I go at four o'clock in the morning. Half the time is no one's going to be there, that's fair.
Speaker 1:I don't, yeah, and if they are, they're going to be very slim. But yeah, no, it is. It is sad and it is hurtful to see that, because I feel life happens and, like I said, being kind to yourself and not beating yourself over that, and, if not, find someone that can help you with the plan, I feel like a lot of the times, even for me, when I first started off at the gym, my brother was like this is what you're going to do this day, and I was just like all right, I'm going to follow through, and it helped me formulate more structure to my life, and then also it pushed me. So I feel like when you have somebody kind of show you a little bit of the ropes, that kind of helps you with some guidance as well too. So don't be shy.
Speaker 2:I may have to add the fact that you know you made a good point as being like empathetic and consider it for yourself. Maybe, instead of even starting with any fitness for diet, just start learning to be kind to yourself first. That way you already set yourself up for success, that is true.
Speaker 1:Actually, that's pretty genius, because I feel like a lot of times, as soon as we do something and a lot of us get discouraged because we didn't finish reading something or we didn't finish I don't know, a course or something like that, we're just like, oh you're such an idiot. Definitely the way you talk to yourself, guys, and work on that, and that will definitely help.
Speaker 2:Well, words have such energy. I can't even remember. I used to know the person, but there is a doctor that did how powerful words are with water. It's moto or something Damn it.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to be able to remember, but he did like certain cups and he did it to where he said I hate you, I hate you, I hate you. And then one was like I love you, and then it was like you're ugly and the water molecules that are there, it's so true that being like saying out loud at how amazing you are really does affect your own energy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's not about what you manifest, it's about what you believe. And if you just if you don't think you can do some things, it's like you've already quit before you've even tried. And I think that's important because, also in relationships, I feel like when someone makes a mistake and they're trying to do better, I think the worst thing that you could do to somebody is tell them oh, we'll see how long this lasts.
Speaker 2:That's when you want to punch them on the face.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like that's the most hurtful thing you can do to somebody. It's just almost wow. You don't believe in me, so why should I believe in myself, or or do you?
Speaker 2:really want to do that? Is that really what you want? Do you think you could do? Maybe go. Maybe I would go a little lower than that. Oh no yeah.
Speaker 1:Condescending that one's yeah, oh man, yeah, that one hurts. But yeah, guys, definitely work on your self-talk and believe in yourself a little bit more, even if you have to stand in the mirror and say, hey, I believe in you. I know it sounds so silly, but just keep saying that every day and one day it's going to click.
Speaker 2:Tony Robbins is a good one to listen to, just to get started. He's got some powerful stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, definitely. But yeah, guys, let us know what your New Year's resolutions are and what things that you want to see within this New Year on topics that you guys want us to discuss or bring up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we could even go over cookies, like what the favorite cookie is.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I'm really good with that.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to even say mine because I don't want to spoil it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm not going to. Yeah, but cookie butter, though. Guys, think about that, just think about that. I hope that you guys take from this episode just some tips and tricks and you guys really think about what it is that you want to set for your next year. Intention is everything, energy is everything, words are everything. If there's anything that you think that we should talk about, please let us know. We are definitely open to it. Like Autumn said, we are good with just talking about cookies, what our favorite cookies are and what shapes that we like. But yeah, no, would love to hear from you guys, and I wish you guys success and abundance in all your dreams and everything resolutions come true in the next year. Love you, bye. Okay.