41. Finding Passion & Purpose in Your Everyday Life: How Embracing Authenticity Improves Self Love, Self Trust, Self Worth & Self Care

Embark on an inspirational odyssey with the radiant Ati, who, in her fight against self-doubt, emerged a champion. Her tale, stretching from the streets of Argentina to the pinnacle of bartending glory and into the embrace of motherhood, proves that within each of us lies a dormant spark awaiting ignition. In our candid exchange, we celebrate the essence of personal branding and the sheer joy found in rooting for others. Ati's transformation, powered by her experiences in network marketing, serves as a beacon for anyone seeking to unearth their unique brilliance. Together, we dissect the rollercoaster of personal evolution and the gratifying realization that each individual has an extraordinary gift to contribute to the world.

Success—often boxed into societal norms of wealth and status—gets a much-needed makeover as we traverse the landscape of fulfillment. Our heartfelt conversation meanders through the profound shift from financial aspirations to life's intangibles—the empowering influence on women and the irreplaceable moments with family. As we examine the intertwining of passion, purpose, and prosperity, we uncover how embracing our true selves can make even the most arduous tasks feel like a calling rather than a chore. We also venture into the transformative power of mindset practices, meditation, and the importance of recognizing our achievements. This episode is an intricate tapestry of strategy, inner work, and the boundless potential that lies within aligning with our highest selves.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Welcome to. It's the Human Experience Podcast Hosted by Hazel Brown, a healthcare leader, wife, mom and career coach. If you're big on authenticity, personal development, perseverance and transparency, you're in the right place. Get ready to be uplifted, inspired and empowered as you become fearless in pursuit of the life you desire and deserve. Our goal is to help you level up by creating a safe space to learn and reflect, while listening to transparent stories from our host or successful professionals and business owners who've agreed to share the parts of success that typically gets x'd out on social media, because that's the part you need to see and hear the process. Go ahead and subscribe. You don't want to miss out on these transparent stories and discussions that reveal highs, lows, aha moments and nuggets that'll help you to grow and glow.

Speaker 2: 1:14

Hey, hey, hey. You are now tuned in to the it's the Human Experience Podcast. I'm your host, hazel Brown. Today I have Ati on the episode. Ati's actually going to be at the upcoming conference Women's Empowerment Therapy. Women's Empowerment Therapy I completely butchered that. Workplace Therapy, women's Empowerment Conference Welcome, ati, welcome.

Speaker 3: 1:34

Hello, my friend. Thank you for having me again actually.

Speaker 2: 1:40

Yes, yes, again, I was on your podcast. It was definitely nice to pull up and talk about all the things.

Speaker 3: 1:46

Yes, yeah, I'm like so excited about the conference. Yes, Quick.

Speaker 2: 1:52

I looked it up today and I'm like, oh my God, like we're at less than 60 days out. Oh my God, Is it what? Five weeks out? Yeah, I want to say that we're kind of getting closer.

Speaker 3: 2:04

We're there, we're getting there.

Speaker 2: 2:06

We're getting closer to the home run. Yes, but if this is your first time tuning into the it's the Human Experience Podcast, please go ahead and scroll up to the top. Hit that follow button, for you're watching us from YouTube or listening on any of your pop platform streaming platforms Definitely want to make sure you don't miss an episode, but we're going to go ahead and jump right in Ati. Tell us a little bit about you. Who is Ati?

Speaker 3: 2:28

Okay, so I'm going to give you the human experience and I'm going to give you the pro intro. So, at heart, I'm a cheerleader, and that brings me to what I do today. I'm a personal branding coach, a photographer, I'm a speaker, but my passion lies on really helping women shine and really helping women make a difference in the world through what they do, through what they're meant to do with work and stuff like that. So, ati, at her core, is this cheerleader right that it's out there helping women believe in themselves?

Speaker 2: 3:09

I love it. I love a rooter. Listen, I'm definitely a rooter at heart, so I know what you mean. It's like let's go, let's go. We can all do it. Let's get to our goals, let's get to the end of them, let's stay on course. So I love that for you and all the women that you're working with, to kind of help cheer them along.

Speaker 3: 3:25

Yes.

Speaker 2: 3:26

Amazing Like. When did you realize like in terms of holding on to your authentic self that being a cheerleader and being a rooter was so deep rooted that it needed to be a part of your everyday life?

Speaker 3: 3:38

So I actually didn't realize that for a long time, like I didn't really know what my magic was. I didn't really. That's part of the reason why I think this is so rooted. So I'm originally from Argentina and I grew up with a lot of like not self-confidence, like I didn't think that I was truly good at anything. I'm an only child and you know, a lot of my friends were boys. I was a tomboy growing up. I didn't even. My mom always says I didn't even become a girl until I was like 25. Right, well, I was a tomboy Like, and when I look back, I think that a lot of that came down to like lack of self-belief, like I didn't really believe I was good at anything and I ended up living in Argentina really early. I left when I was 21.

Speaker 3: 4:39

I went to live in Spain and came to the States and I actually, once I became a mom, what happened was I had this need for more. Right, I was a bartender. I don't know if I told you, did you know this? I was a bartender for many, many, many years and I came to the US because I actually was a world champion for bartenders. So when it wasn't until I was like 19, 20, 21,. I started traveling and I became good at something. I was like, wow, actually I am good at something, but that kind of like winning in the years, right. Because then I came to the US, I got a job I was working here in the last week as a strip for 16 years at the same bar and I stopped competing and that lack of self-belief came back, because now I was trying to prove something right. I was like in this place where, like if I didn't have a title right the world champion for bartenders, who I was, who was I? And that actually started a huge quest because I really wanted to live bartending and I had a photography degree that I did through the years and I did that because I wanted.

Speaker 3: 6:01

I was building this business on the side and I actually stumbled upon network marketing years ago.

Speaker 3: 6:09

I don't do network marketing anymore, but what happened was I got in a room and I don't know if you've ever been in network marketing. You go into those rooms and all of a sudden you start looking at possibility and that was the first time that I was like, oh my God, there is so much out there and there was this lady on stage and a speaker, and I remember thinking, oh my God, that's what I want for me. And since that moment I knew that my story, and I knew that there was something there for me. I didn't know what it was and then with years, when I quit, I ended up quitting my bartending job, obviously like years ago, and that first year was so fucking dark. That first year of business was so dark. But when I came out on the other side I was like I know that there is women that are going through this and I knew that at that moment I knew that my whole mission was helping women walk on those shoes.

Speaker 2: 7:22

Yeah, I love that. I think that you touched on so much from the perception of understanding how important it is to find your purpose, because what I heard you say was that you didn't necessarily know like your worth, but your worth needed to come from your purpose, because that makes it bigger than you. So once you realize that it was something bigger than you, and then being able to be exposed to those room full of people, the possibility now came into play. So now you're able to tell your purpose and your belief together and you're like, wow, I'm going to be unstoppable. And you knew that that's what was going to happen.

Speaker 3: 7:58

So there was a true visceral feeling to that. That was like I never knew, also being an immigrant and like being I don't know if the immigrant is truly the thing but like being in the bartending world and being so high up on that tiny world Because for me that was my whole world and once I stepped out of it I was like, oh my God, there is so much out there, there is so much growth, and that also exposed me right to mindset, work, inner work and really understand that there was people out there doing something for others. There was and this is something I never experienced so there were people out there that were rooted in impact and once I saw that, I couldn't unsee it and I knew that was for me.

Speaker 2: 8:58

Yeah, I love that. I think that when you touch on the immigrant part, that resonates because I was born in Jamaica, so I completely understand what you mean when you say essentially figuring out, is it that part of it that's creating this perceived obstacle in my mind? Because you come here from another country, you don't necessarily have family who've done it here, so you know that you want more, you feel that calling over your life or knowing you could do more, but you don't necessarily know the how. So that exposure through networking really helps you see that, oh, it's possible. Now I'm gonna figure out the how. So, yeah, I love that.

Speaker 3: 9:36

I love that. Yeah, so that was the beginning. That was the beginning, and then the whole personal branding. One of the things that I realized once I started working with women because I did portrait photography for a long time so I went to school and I was building my business on the side while I was bartending, but I was doing like baby photography and portraits and stuff like that. And one of the things that I know now is I wasn't taking the leap to leave my job because I couldn't see myself doing that forever. I couldn't see the future.

Speaker 3: 10:12

The moment I pivoted into personal branding and I started working with women that were building their business, and these were women that they needed I don't know photos for their website or photos for their social media, whatever the case was, that's when I realized that I loved being that cheerleader, because one of the things was like these women were like, in my eyes at that moment, so big and they were doing so good in their business, and I would look them up and I'm like, oh my God, they're rock stars and I'm gonna be taking their photo. And then they would show up and they literally were going through the same bullshit I was going through in their mind, even though they were 10 steps ahead, right, like they were making more money than me. They were more successful. They've been doing it for longer and I was okay. There is something here.

Speaker 2: 11:03

Yeah right, I wanted to touch on that because I think that for me and it sounds like even what attracted me to you I think that when you're authentic and you're a heart centered woman because that's all I work with is heart centered, purpose driven women your focus is never on how far you are in life and what you've accomplished, though you set goals out for yourself to achieve all these things, their humility and the humbleness of still feeling like there's so much to do, there's so much to become, that person doesn't necessarily walk in in the way that you think they're gonna walk in, because they're walking in as their everyday self, because their value does not come from their titles, their accolades, how much money they're making, and so they are still showing up like whatever that new goal is the next door.

Speaker 3: 11:52

Right, I'm gonna be there. But I think that when I first started and when I first transferred from job to business owner, I was very confused on that. I thought I thought my self worth was low, so I thought of all these women as higher up than me. That was my filter and it was my own growth that not only brought me closer, but there was also women that actually reached their hand and kind of brought me up right.

Speaker 3: 12:29

That were like girl, you're awesome, like, what are you talking about? Like, and the truth is, nobody really knows how much is in your back and cow, what are you doing? Nothing. It's us that we're putting all those kind of like, beliefs and thoughts and feelings and all of that into ourselves. So, but what really like? I awakened that cheerleader and like that was like these women would walk in or we would meet for the photo shoot. And there was always different parts right the part that, like other people see, the part that they saw themselves as their insecurities, their insecurities whether it's their body or their clothing or how they're thinking. And that's where I got so much pleasure, truly, from being like girl, like you are amazing, like, and then kind of creating this synergy where they didn't even know it, but they were helping me and I was helping them.

Speaker 2: 13:34

Yeah, I love that. I love that for you and it's funny cause you really touched into like how you were able to use your own pain points to be able to position you to create a situation where now you're using that to help provide power to other women and to yourself.

Speaker 3: 13:53

Well, this is the thing, though, like, what I started seeing is and this was very early on that I loved and I was so attracted to, and that's how I pivot my whole thing, and that's how I decided to leave my job, and I was like this is it, this is it.

Speaker 3: 14:11

It was the passion which, with women, were building their businesses, and that's what attracted me to helping women show a bigger, really talk about their brands, their purpose, and then I started seeing the difference between somebody that could come for the photos, right, and they didn't know, they didn't know who they wanted to help, they didn't know truly their purpose, and that woman that didn't have that background, that knowing, usually their photos were different, like the way they were showing up online was different, their success was different, their level of fulfillment was different.

Speaker 3: 14:56

And the women that were coming truly like, no, like, I'm passionate, I wanna do this and I wanna help women, and I felt so drawn to that because that's what I wanted to create, but I didn't know it yet, right? So then, when the pandemic hit and women were like, oh my God, now we have all these photos. Can you help us with content? Can you help us with this? I actually started asking the questions that I wish people knew how to answer. Okay, who do you wanna help? What is the difference you wanna make in the world? And that's how the whole personal running came to be.

Speaker 2: 15:35

Yeah, I love that Cause it's so funny that some of the things you just talked about really ties in well to like the evolution of why the conference is a thing right. So a lot of times, as women, we're trying to define ourselves initially around societal standards as it relates to what do you wanna be when you grow up, Like what is it that you wanna do? Like what kind of titles do you wanna have? And so the glass ceiling from society standard becomes graduating from high school and then taking up a notch and graduating from college. And so then people come out and they do those things and they're like wait, I did everything that you said I should do. I'm still not fulfilled.

Speaker 3: 16:11

And I feel like shit.

Speaker 2: 16:14

Okay, let me go chase these titles, like, okay, I got these titles, all right, still don't feel good. Okay, maybe I need six figures. Okay, let me get six figures, still don't feel good. And then, in that quest, realizing that the women that end up showing up very humble, what they're looking for is feeling her is seen, valued, and showing up as theirself, not as all of the things that society told them that they needed to get, while still trying to find purpose, so that the life that living is bigger than their selves. And I feel like that's where you meet them.

Speaker 3: 16:48

And I think a lot of that comes down to the growth that happens and how we're defining success Right. I am sure if you and me sit down and we're going to meet in person really soon we'll like we sit down and we talk about what success means to you or what success means to me. It may be similar, but it may not be the same.

Speaker 2: 17:14

Yeah, how do you define success?

Speaker 3: 17:16

So for me okay, actually I have a cool story about this so when I got into network marketing, I truly bought. I drank the Kool-Aid and I was like I want to make a million dollars and I want to travel the world, I want to work from anywhere and I want to retire my husband. Everything was defined by an income like number. There was a lot that I had to work on personally to actually realize that actually, for me, success today is on the transformation I'm facilitating for women and I want to say facilitating because women and all of us, we grow at different paces. So as long as I'm facilitating and I'm opening the doors and the opportunities are there for people to take in, success for me is defined on the impact and making on people, on the time I'm spending with my family and I'm not going to lie, I love making money. I think everybody can make a shed lot of money but it's not defined on the actual number Right, it's defined on do I love the work that I do every day.

Speaker 3: 18:40

Lately I have been talking a lot about frequencies and the inner work and the emotions, because if I'm sitting here and I'm talking to you and I am feeling less and I'm feeling less done and I'm like what is truly the message that is going to come through?

Speaker 3: 18:58

Yeah Right. So for me and I think you and I talked about this I actually meditate a lot, I do a lot of breath work. I try to be on that high frequency as much as I can, like my highest self Right, because I know that is how I empower other women. That is how women say if she can do it, I can do it too. And I think that while all are chasing making more money, the truth is that what we're truly chasing is not the money. It's the peace, the time, the fulfillment, being more connected to each other, to our children, to other women, and when we actually do what we're here to do like our passion some people will do it through photography, other through coaching, other through teaching, others through business coaching. Whatever it is that you're here to do, when you're actually doing what you're meant to do, the money will come.

Speaker 2: 20:00

Yeah, absolutely. I love that you said that, because I feel like a lot of times people in chasing the money don't realize that if you're not aligned to your passions and your purpose, it's going to be harder to get the money. And when you're aligned with your passion and the purpose, the money will come. You're not going to skip hard, but hard would feel easier because you know why you're doing it. Yes, and so I'm happy you touched on that.

Speaker 3: 20:24

Let me okay. So let me ask you this, because I put my own event together and I know that is a lot of work. But one of the things that I keep sharing with my husband I think you and I talked about it when you came into my podcast was it felt easy. It was a lot, but it felt easy. Yeah, because I was so aligned and so excited of what I was creating for other women. The same happened to me this weekend. It was a lot that came on we, we just for the listeners. We just hosted a retreat for my mastermind. There was a lot right that we had to put together and speakers that came and like all the things that we had that we held through the weekend. Yeah, it felt so easy. Now, the day after, I needed a whole day to recover. But I think that when, if we can follow that feeling, if we can follow the knowing that we're making a difference through what we are here to do, then it becomes easy and the money comes yeah.

Speaker 2: 21:32

Yeah, no, that's so true, and it's to your point. Like when it gets hard for me and anything that I do because everything that I do has to be in full alignment with who I think it is that I am supposed to be be in that moment and the things that is that I'm supposed to be doing and so whenever it gets hard for me, I take a nap. It's like okay. When I say hard, I mean hard mentally, not hard physically. It's like okay, something's going on here. I don't like this energy Girl. Go take a nap, because this is bigger than you and whatever it is that's supposed to happen and in the way it's supposed to happen, god's going to align it properly for you. So you're getting in your way at this point, go take a nap, and that always helps for me, whether it's a 20 minute nap or not.

Speaker 3: 22:12

I love that you said that, because part of that is we are always and I say we especially at the beginning we are on the doing. Okay, you need to do more, you need to post more, you need to, you need to talk to more people, you need to okay. But I, for everybody, listen, I want you to kind of think what is the energy you're bringing behind that action?

Speaker 2: 22:36

Yeah, absolutely Like you shouldn't be chasing anything.

Speaker 3: 22:39

You are from a place and I was this person. So I remember feeling so much pressure around like content and doing and and then when I realized that every time I would do something in alignment, it would feel easy, that and I want to make a distinction you still have to take the action. Yes, you still have to take action, but that same action, even if you have 10 hour days, yeah, sometimes I feel easy because you know why you're doing it. Is that inspire action people talk about?

Speaker 2: 23:16

Yeah, inspire action and then making sure it's not coming from a place of scarcity. I think that the differentiation and distinction is knowing that you've done everything that you know you're supposed to do, and you can't force things to happen faster. It's going to happen in the way it's supposed to because you've done the work. Now you have to wait for the magic to happen, as opposed to that younger mindset I'm going to kick down a door and climb through the window and go through the back door. No, honey, I need you to knock on those doors. Talk to the right people, but you don't have to use that much force if it's meant for you.

Speaker 3: 23:48

Yeah, and I was forcing at the beginning on the first, especially on that first year. I talk about that year as a year of darkness because that year was also a change in identity. It was regaining my confidence again, from the person I thought I should be to the person that I really was.

Speaker 2: 24:06

Yeah, no, absolutely. What would you say to your younger self, and just kind of someone trying to come out their comfort zone, because a lot of times like that comfort zone is so comfy I guess that's why they call it the comfort zone. What would you say are best practices to kind of move into your higher self and to become the person that you know you're deserving of becoming? Very loaded question, but I needed to wait.

Speaker 3: 24:30

It's loaded, but I actually, I honestly think we don't know what we don't know. So a lot of the times you may be on your comfort zone and you may not know it. So I think, getting different rooms, get in different rooms. This could be in the form of reading, book clubs, conferences, events, networking events, and the reason why I'm making so many options is because when I was still in my job, I didn't know what was out there, and it wasn't until I actually got into a conference that I was like oh my God, what is this? And then that took me to books, right.

Speaker 3: 25:21

But I think that when you are exposing yourself to different groups, different people, different cultures, different happenings, now you start seeing what it's outside that you may not be aware of. Correct, absolutely. And then, when it comes to actual business, don't be scared of being the smallest person in the room. And when I say a smallest, that can be the newest, I always say I love being the dumbest person in the room, because when I go to a room and I am the one that makes the less money, that maybe I know the less in that particular group of people, you know what happens. I'm expanded, I'm expanded, so it doesn't matter where I am with my income. I want to go to a room where people are making more. Those people know something. I don't know for sure. I want to go through the group of women that they have A lot of the times. Look at, what are the people that are doing what you want to do. Where are they? Where are they hanging out? Who are they hanging out with? What books are they reading?

Speaker 2: 26:41

It's like hunting for how can I be stretched? Because that's exactly what would happen if you're the one in the room that knows the least. This is a great opportunity for you to be stretched, and so many times your ego, especially early on, likes to be stroked so much that it wants to be the smartest person in the room. But then you realize that you're super stagnant when you're always the one that's the smartest in the room. And in order for you to grow, you have to be able to put yourself amongst others who know more than you, have more resources than you, networks than you, so you can be able to grow and develop.

Speaker 3: 27:12

You said something that for me is so important, which is one of the things I didn't know, and I didn't know I didn't know was how ego driven a lot of my decisions were.

Speaker 3: 27:29

I didn't have the awareness, so I think that and these at any level kind of being, I didn't even understand, to be honest, what that meant to be ego driven Right, like I didn't even understand it until I truly got into a place where I don't care, like I just had this conversation with my mastermind.

Speaker 3: 27:53

I was like the fact that I am the person that actually put this together, because we're writing a book all together, I collect a book and I was like the only thing that means is that I had the vision and now we get to fulfill it together. Right, whatever you're at, that is the power of a mastermind, where you can actually have the connection to other women or men or whatever, where you can feel safe, so you can actually ask the questions, and in another room you may actually feel dumb. There is no dumb questions. You just don't know what you don't know and really allowing yourself to be a beginner, no matter where you're at, and be humble enough to be okay. Obviously, there is something I don't know here, yeah, and that doesn't take away from what you do know.

Speaker 2: 28:48

Absolutely not.

Speaker 2: 28:48

No, I completely agree with that and I love that you were able to kind of talk through that Extendrix pressure versus intrinsic, and understanding that you know it needs to come from inside and not in terms of everything that's being validated for the outside.

Speaker 2: 29:03

Yeah, yeah, the other thing I wanted to do before we close is really go into like some aha moments and evolutions that you had around, debunking any of the myths around your personal development journey. Like we talk about chasing and going after things and reading all the books and doing all the things and being the one that's up early, staying up late and trying to just spread yourself thin essentially, like what would you say as you've evolved, is the best way for people to really start prioritizing growing into their highest self, becoming the person that they know that they're destined to be. Because there is like a feeling of knowing you should be doing more, that you have like within your heart, within your spirit, and no matter what it is that you're doing. When you're having that feeling of that calling, you know you're supposed to be doing more and moving away from doing more, as in doing more work, what is it that you think people really should be focused on?

Speaker 3: 30:01

Okay, I love these questions, so I want to preface it with this. When I first started teaching women to build their brand, everything was about strategy. You need to be more visible. This is how you create content. This is right, this is how you put yourself out there, and all of the things that you can hear. And, of course, a strategy is necessary. There is no way around it. However, and this is so alive for me right now in my heart, I can't even believe you asked me. This.

Speaker 3: 30:36

For me, was when I started doing a lot of mindset work and reading the books and the morning routine, right like the checking of the box, and like, okay, I'm going to read for 20 minutes and I'm going to meditate and then I'm going to go exercise it again. It became forced, so I was like, why is this not working? Why things are not moving farther? Why am I still feeling like crap inside? And for me, and also, what happened was, you know, you read one book and you go that direction, and then you read another book and you go in another direction, and then you hear to another guru and you're like, oh, I should be doing breath work and I should be doing tapping and I should be doing the, and I was. I literally about a year and a half I was okay. This nonsense has to stop. I am taking action. I am doing all the things. I was the girl getting up at five in the morning doing that and everything felt like a freaking checkbox. So if you're that girl right now, I want you to stop.

Speaker 3: 31:41

And the thing for me was the inner work, not just the mindset work, and the way I define this and I tell people this is there is three levels of change. There is three layers of change the conscious, the subconscious and the body, the somatic, because we have all the things that we all bring from when we were children and beliefs. And this is where it's so crazy, especially within women. I think that guys are still resistant to a lot of this work and it's a little taboo between men, but women are talking about this, which is like I start my business and all of a sudden I have so much resistance. I feel ex right and I think it goes back because our body literally has memory, memory from when we were children. What you were talking earlier, right. That society, what Delta we should be over. What we, who we truly are, right, we are not able to shine the way we are because we have been told you're too loud, you're too quiet, you're too white, you're too black, you're too these, you're too that, we're not too nothing. Yeah, all the broken hand triggers, oh, exactly.

Speaker 3: 33:04

So then, when you go in business and you have to put yourself out there, right, and talk to people and be on social media and talk about your thoughts, oh, what I have to say is not good enough, I am not good enough, I'm too short. Who's gonna look at me, who's gonna listen to me? And all of this starts coming up as, like these feelings, which is a frequency. So the biggest aha for me has been, yes, reading the books. All of that is great for gaining the awareness. Okay, where am I? Where am I that I don't know what I don't know? So, yes, be exposed, put yourself out there so you can be exposed and gain awareness. But then the inner work, which is truly getting on the right frequency, and this is loaded too. It's a very loaded answer, right, it is a loaded thing Because the thing is is when you start going deep into yourself and the way actually I do this is like journaling, breath work, tapping right and I always tell people have a routine where you can tap into the conscious, subconscious and somatic daily.

Speaker 3: 34:23

It could be a 15 minute routine, five minutes, five minutes, five minutes where you are journaling. You're okay. How am I actually feeling? How are you really? Are you showing up in your business today from a place of I am so excited about doing this, or the thoughts that are actually you're having are ugh another day? Because if you are coming from ugh another day, I'm gonna tell you, girl, you need to take more time. Yeah, pause, to pause and dig up whatever is telling you that move it out of the body, which is the somatic. And again, it could be a walk, it could be truly doing breath work, tapping, meditating, so then you can show up on your best emotional state, that whatever action you take at your best emotional state, it's gonna pay 10 fold, yeah.

Speaker 3: 35:22

And I wanna add one more thing that you mentioned, which is the highest self vision Vision. How many women they're working daily. They are working in their business. They don't even know where they're going. Yeah, you're just working, working, working. I want you to write it down. I literally have it in my phone. This is who I am, this is how I'm behaving. This is how I'm feeling. Who is your highest self? Write it down, record it, listen to it every day and aligned all of your actions to that.

Speaker 2: 35:57

Yeah, I think there's something to add to that. It's also knowing why that's your highest self, like knowing what situations you've been in before didn't serve you and made you feel like you were not in alignment with your authentic self. And then knowing that there was still a calling to feel like, no, I could be doing more. And knowing that this is why I'm working on getting to my higher self, because the level I was at before it didn't feel fulfillment, it didn't feel like me, I wasn't happy. And knowing that happiness is gonna come and go. It's not a constant existence right, we're human, we go through things. But knowing that working towards becoming your highest self is absolutely you know what?

Speaker 3: 36:35

I didn't have anything prepared for your audience but, like, literally, I have a highest self hypnosis meditation that I do with my clients and I would love to give that to your people Because and it kind of flew right I didn't have anything thought, but this is like already recorded, they can go. I'll give you the link so you can put it on the show notes and we just did it with my mastermind and this is what I tell people your highest self, as you're growing, she's evolving with you. You are evolving and she's evolving and your subconscious knows best. Your highest self already exists.

Speaker 3: 37:19

And this is where people get tripped, which is if you, how many times you said I wish I was more extrovert, I wish I felt more confident, I wish X1C and I'm not talking about, oh, I wish I was blonder. No, I'm talking like deep inside you, like well, you are. If you have the desire for it, she's already inside you. And this meditation that we did is something that you can do on a regular basis. I wouldn't do it every single day, but I would do it every few weeks, every like, every time that you have a new stepping stone, maybe a challenge, because you have everything you need inside of you and you don't even know it. Yes, absolutely.

Speaker 2: 38:09

I love that you shared that. Absolutely. Send that over to me and I'll include it.

Speaker 3: 38:12

Oh my God, and this makes me so happy, Hazel, to be able to do that, because it's some of the things like her from women was, like I didn't even know she existed.

Speaker 2: 38:25

Yeah, it's that, knowing that you have everything that you need already inside of you and that's why you don't feel in alignment, that's why you feel like there's still something missing, because you're trying to grow into that person and knowing that everything that we go through in every stage of our life is preparing us to become that person, so that we could actually fulfill our purpose and make a difference in the world. So I love that.

Speaker 3: 38:48

Another thing I'm gonna say and why I'm so drawn to the whole highest self concept is because when I first studied personal development, I didn't understand the concept. I was like what the fuck is she talking about? Like what are they talking about? And once it clicked for me and I actually went through some of these exercises, like shots, like that meditation I was like oh, and everything changed.

Speaker 2: 39:14

Yeah, I think that something that I wanna share. It's kind of off topic, but I feel like a way to help the listeners understand how real it is is simple. Things Like you could be showing up in a room and they ask a question and you think you don't know the answer. But then you know the answer but you don't raise your hand Like you already had the answer. You were just eluded with fear, worrying whether or not you're gonna be embarrassed because of the fact that it's the wrong answer. And then when they answer it and someone else is like yes, that's the answer. I did know that. I did know that it's trusting yourself, it's understanding that you have what it takes and if you don't to the outtakes point, you're showing up as the one in the room that doesn't know the answers. Now you know Like don't be the reason that you're in your way because of fear of not knowing.

Speaker 3: 40:02

So I love what you're saying oh my God, I love that. I love that. I love that. Well, oh my God, this conversation was see and we let it. She asked me, so I want the listeners to she's like do you want me to know what I'm gonna ask him?

Speaker 2: 40:15

like now Is he right, I'm giving the raw conversations. These are really good.

Speaker 3: 40:21

Because I always love to have my most authentic answer and for the people listening. It took a long time for me to get here.

Speaker 2: 40:30

That's why I'm asking the listeners find you.

Speaker 3: 40:33

So I'm an Instagram Junkie. You can always find me at atig, that branding. They can also find me at wwwatgreenspancom. And then Greenspan is actually GRI, and I say that because it's like people put Greenspan with double E all the time. So Instagram is great. My website is great. Come say hi, come say hello, and let's connect.

Speaker 2: 41:00

Yeah, definitely go check atil. If you're coming to the conference, definitely you'll see her there. And thanks so much for tuning in to the it's the Human Experience podcast. Ati, thanks so much for joining the episode. Definitely, gems were shared.

Speaker 1: 41:15

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