Have you ever felt like a shadow among others who shine? I, Hazel Brown, invite you on a transformative expedition to conquer self-doubt and raise the banner of self-worth high within the intricate dynamics of relationships. With heartfelt candor, we dissect the self-imposed barriers that shroud our potential and the silent envy that dims our inner light. Together, we will learn to dismantle these invisible walls and foster genuine connections, replacing the empty pedestals we've built for others with foundations for our own growth. As we journey through stories of resilience, embrace the affirmations that resonate with your spirit, and let's collectively cultivate a supportive community that thrives on authenticity and mutual empowerment.
Embarking on paths less traveled can be daunting; yet, I challenge you to join me in harnessing the power of self-love and steadfast belief. In the sacred spaces of our minds, where we often relegate ourselves to the audience rather than the star, this chapter heralds a new perspective. We'll explore how to turn personal trials into triumphs and recognize that the narrative of 'greatness for the few' is a myth waiting to be debunked. With encouragement and strategic insight, we will take actionable steps toward our aspirations, reflecting deeply on our unique stories, and understanding that our individual worth is the cornerstone of true success. Let this episode be your catalyst for embracing the originality of your journey and the beauty of your distinct successes.
Have you ever felt like a shadow among others who shine? I, Hazel Brown, invite you on a transformative expedition to conquer self-doubt and raise the banner of self-worth high within the intricate dynamics of relationships. With heartfelt candor, we dissect the self-imposed barriers that shroud our potential and the silent envy that dims our inner light. Together, we will learn to dismantle these invisible walls and foster genuine connections, replacing the empty pedestals we've built for others with foundations for our own growth. As we journey through stories of resilience, embrace the affirmations that resonate with your spirit, and let's collectively cultivate a supportive community that thrives on authenticity and mutual empowerment.
Embarking on paths less traveled can be daunting; yet, I challenge you to join me in harnessing the power of self-love and steadfast belief. In the sacred spaces of our minds, where we often relegate ourselves to the audience rather than the star, this chapter heralds a new perspective. We'll explore how to turn personal trials into triumphs and recognize that the narrative of 'greatness for the few' is a myth waiting to be debunked. With encouragement and strategic insight, we will take actionable steps toward our aspirations, reflecting deeply on our unique stories, and understanding that our individual worth is the cornerstone of true success. Let this episode be your catalyst for embracing the originality of your journey and the beauty of your distinct successes.
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Speaker 1:
Welcome to. It's the Human Experience Podcast Hosted by Hazel Brown, a healthcare leader, wife, mom and career coach. If you're big on authenticity, personal development, perseverance and transparency, you're in the right place. Get ready to be uplifted, inspired and empowered as you become fearless in pursuit of the life you desire and deserve. Our goal is to help you level up by creating a safe space to learn and reflect, while listening to transparent stories from our host or successful professionals and business owners who've agreed to share the parts of success that typically gets X'd out on social media, because that's the part you need to see and hear the process. Go ahead and subscribe. You don't want to miss out on these transparent stories and discussions that reveal highs, lows, aha moments and nuggets that'll help you to grow and glow.
Speaker 2:
Hey, hey, hey. You are now tuned in to the it's the Human Experience podcast. I'm your host, hazel Brown. If this is your first time listening, welcome to the podcast. Thanks so much for tuning in. Be sure to follow us. If you're listening from Apple, it's just a quick follow. Some of the other platforms you're just going to go ahead and hit subscribe. Regardless of which, I want to make sure that you know that we're in it for the long haul.
Speaker 2:
Definitely go back and listen to previous episodes. If you've just tuned in to the podcast, because all of the episodes really try to play on each other. If you go back to the beginning and you work your way up to where you are today, hello and welcome. You're going to realize that it really helps you to unfold some of the layers of the onion, if you will, so that you can make sure that you're growing and you're glowing and you're not leaving anything uncovered and untapped. You're making sure that you address the things that are showing up in your life and you're growing into your highest self. If you're a return listener, welcome back, listen. I sang to you guys on the last episode, so we won't sing to again. We won't do it again. Actually, we will Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back. Yeah, I'm gonna do it again. I'm like, yes, let's get these vocals to where it needs to be, because it's not it, but nonetheless I wanted to make sure that we spent some time there.
Speaker 2:
Definitely, leave a comment, share the podcast with your besties. Like, don't keep this to yourself. Share podcast with your besties. Like, don't keep this to yourself. Share it with your besties, post it on socials. Listen and tag it's the human experience. Tag redefine in the future. You, you can even tag workplace therapy, lv. Listen, I'm here on all the things, all the platforms, and I just want to make sure that you're being poured into and I love hearing your comments, your feedbacks, like when you guys tag me on socials or comment and tell me what you thought about the podcast. Like, that is amazing, because you'll hear in other episodes that I'm big on affirmations. I am a yes for hearing the impact that I'm making in your life. If you listen to the last episode, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about when I talk about what I'm a yes for. Into the last episode, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about when I talk about what I'm a yes for.
Speaker 2:
Nonetheless, this episode I wanted to make sure we continued talking through self-doubt, talking through self-worth, talking through the things that sometimes triggers us and creates these unfair disadvantages in terms of the negative thoughts in your mind around the perceived gaps that exist that actually don't truly exist in the way that we think they do. So I saw a post recently on social media that said there is no gap between you and your desire. Stop placing one there. And I was just like wait a minute. Yes, and I think the irony of that was I had just talked to my daughter that same morning about how people create these gaps in their minds about their selves, in terms of how they separate their selves from other people, separate their selves from their goals, separate their selves from the life they're deserving of, and so it was just like wait a minute.
Speaker 2:
Universe Listen, I'm always on big on God, but I hear people talk about the universe. But it was interesting because that was really a universal moment in the sense that it's a theme, right, it's showing up for me, and I was like, okay, let me talk about it, because I feel like one of the biggest things that we always hear if people talk about is really how important it is to make sure you're not hating on other people, and I feel like there's three tiers to this gap that we create, the fact that sometimes you're hating on other people. Then the middle ground is admiring other people, and then the far left is idolizing people, and so I wanted to spend some time really talking about those, because that's what kind of came up for me in the moment. It was like for me, personal experience, when people meet me and they have not met me in person. They didn't know me from early on in my life, a past life, listen. I don't know why that came up. Whatever the case may be, they did not know who I was.
Speaker 2:
So then they meet me and they're like oh, my God, I love what you're doing, I love whatever, whatever, and I love that. Right, I'm affirmation. So, okay, cool, I'm glad you love what I'm doing. But then it's this separation that's created between me and them that they create. I'm not creating it, because I try to make sure that the space is warm, welcoming. You realize I'm just me.
Speaker 2:
But then it's like oh, my God, I love what you're doing, and it's almost like I don't know what to ask you because I am scared of what you may perceive the question to be, or how you may judge me or look at me, because somehow I'm put in the category of the idolizing, which is when people put people on a pedestal as though they're perfect, as though they're not flawed. And I just want to say, like, everyone is flawed, everyone struggles. Like, stop doing that to yourself, stop admiring people and thinking that something is perfect about them. It's not. Y'all see, especially now on social media, these celebrities have 90 people in a room glamming them up. Child, you only had you.
Speaker 2:
Why are you idolizing people that have a whole entourage to get them to look that way, to script them in terms of what they're saying and how they're moving? They have a whole marketing team, they have a whole strategy behind what it is that they're doing most of the times, and the reality is like, how can you compare an army of one to an army of many? That's not fair to you. So you're creating this gap for yourself that you're human, just like them. They have a team and you don't. You still have the skill set, you still have the power, you still have the ability. You just don't have the team yet.
Speaker 2:
But don't separate yourself from people. I think it's very important, I think early on in my career, I would always remind myself that my boss put on their drawers the same way I do. The doctors do too, and so creating this God complex for people is really not a clean and nice way to do things. And I'm not going to tell you we're going to sit here for a minute y'all. And I'm not going to tell you we're going to sit here for a minute y'all. I'm not going to tell you to point fingers in terms of pointing out their flaws, to kind of humble them down into a human figure. I want to make sure you realize that we're not going to be here looking at them and say, oh yeah, you're right, hazel, like they have this wrong with them, that wrong, that's not cute, that's really calling the kettle black.
Speaker 2:
Spend more time figuring out what you need to work on so that you can get to a place to where you're not idolizing people yet you're not demeaning people and hating on people. We'll go ahead and dive right into that Like really hating on people, which is around having negative feelings about other people simply because they've accomplished some of the goals that you would like to accomplish. You're like, ooh, they're doing it. Ooh, it makes me feel some kind of way Like no, it's literally a sign that you can do it too. Like those feelings that come up from a negative standpoint are rooted in jealousy, insecurity, past trauma. It's really signs that you need to heal. So I need you to know we talked about this on the previous episode that I want you to make sure that you are figuring out why those feelings are coming up and you're healing from that. Grab some therapy, grab your journal, take a walk and really reflect and sit in that to figure out, like why am I feeling this kind of way when people are doing better than me or they're sharing their wins? Because I need you to learn to get to a place, to the middle ground, if you will. And that's really where you can admire others really, where you can have positive feelings and look at it as oh my God, that's inspiring, that's really good, they're winning. That means I can do it too. I'm so happy for them. I'm going to celebrate them.
Speaker 2:
I'm actually going to share this with someone else, because allowing someone's light to shine does not dim yours Like it doesn't. Like when we look at our lights in our bathroom there's typically three, four or five. One doesn't get upset because one is brighter than the other. They all have their own timing. They all do the work. All of them together is what brightens your bathroom, brightens your bedroom, brightens your living room. So we have to get to a place to where we don't feel like someone's else brightness is dimming us. That collectiveness of all of the lights going off together creates a vibe that is unmatched. Could you imagine if the other light bulbs and I know I'm taking it real left field, but I want to go there because could you imagine if the other light bulbs were like I'm just going to not even come on because of that one's real bright. They don't put a new one in? Like, no, stop it, stop doing that. Like all of it has a lifespan, all of it runs its course.
Speaker 2:
Like, don't get in your way in thinking that other people need to dim their light to make space for you. No, they can shine their light. Learn how to clap for them, learn how to make sure that you understand that you're going to get a turn too. And when your light is at its brightest, but maybe the other two in the pack came out first. Listen, we back on the lights again. You know they shine too, and so just don't do that to where it's from a place of scarcity mindset, lack mindset and fixed thinking. Right, when you think about the growth mindset versus a fixed mindset, that you're thinking that other people can't do well and you, at the same time, like, cut that out, you can do well too. You're a yes for it. They're a yes for it. Like, yes, let's make it happen. But I wanted to make sure I touched on that because I feel like it really needs to be used as a motivator so that you can understand that you can get it, you can make it happen. You're a yes for it, you can win.
Speaker 2:
And I think it's just so important that we don't put these thoughts in our minds when we think about the idolizing piece, because that idolizing piece I want to touch on that more because I feel like that puts us into a box and separates ourselves from other people in a terrible way. Like, honestly, I feel like even more than hating, because I feel like hating you know that is toxic, you know that's not cute girl. Like, why are you being mean to them? Like, why are you saying that? Like, why are you saying that? Why are you thinking that why aren't you happy for them? I hope that people could feel that I feel like that should come up clearly and easily. But I feel like when you've gotten to the stage of passing admiration and now you're idolizing folks, you don't realize how much you're creating that gap by thinking oh my God, it's Beyonce.
Speaker 2:
Oh my God it's Oprah. Oh my God it's Obama. Oh my God, like, yes, like you're not thinking to yourself yeah, that's cool, like they've worked hard, Celebrate them, clap, clap, clap, expand their light. They deserve it. But also make sure you understand that if you're in a place where everyone else is amazing and you're not, we got work to do, because you're amazing too. They're human, just like you. They were created for greatness, but so were you, and so I wanted to make sure we touch on that a little bit more, because I think that society talks so much about, like, the hating aspect, but not as much as the idolizing aspect, and for me, they're both bad. And again, I feel like you should be able to see when you're hating more, where I don't think enough negative connotation goes toward idolizing, and so you may not realize that all the idolizing that you're doing is separating you from your goals, is separating you from your greatness, because you're self-sabotaging, essentially, and you're telling yourself you're not enough. You're telling yourself these people are so much more lit than me, since we talked about the light bulb. You're telling yourself that, oh my God, there is a huge gap between where I am and where they are and there is because it takes work, it takes practice, it takes time, it takes discipline, it takes dedication. Eventually you'll grab a team, but it takes making sure, like you're getting in that ring, you're developing that muscle, you're putting in the work, you're putting in the steps, you're healing, you're figuring out who you are, you're figuring out what direction you want to take, because you're not going to take the same as them, because you were created for something different, you were created for something great and even if you're in the same swim lane as that person meaning you're in the same niche, you're in the same kind of work field, you have a different sauce, you have a you.
Speaker 2:
So you have to figure out what trauma, what triggers, what trials, tribulations, successes, greatness, great experiences and bad ones that have happened in your life that has defined you, that have made you the person that you are today, and those are the things that separates you from everyone else. So it's very important that you understand that the people you are idolizing the ones that have these faults, the ones that have these greatness they are using everything that came in their bag. You're not leaving any crumbs behind. They're making sure that they tap into whatever domestic violence situations they've been exposed to or experienced. They're tapping into their homelessness. They're tapping into the poverty that they experienced. They're tapping into any hurt that they've experienced in their life and they're using these lessons to help to elevate them, because they understand what other people are going through so they can connect to these other people. But if you keep leaving all of your baggage on the floor, you keep hiding it, you keep leaving it in the garage, you don't pack it out, you don't do what you need to do with your crumbs and you look at your hardships or things you want to leave behind. Those things that you are leaving behind is why you're leaving your dreams behind, because you think you need to leave them behind, but they're not leaving it behind.
Speaker 2:
I don't know why I decided to go that deep with you, but I felt like I needed to. I need you to understand that you have what it takes. You are great, you are deserving. Stop thinking that everyone else is perfect. Everyone else can do it and you can't. Because you can't, and until you believe in yourself to recognize that you have what it takes, you've been put through everything for a reason. You are going to continue idolizing instead of putting yourself on that pedestal and working for those goals, putting that action in to make it happen, being disciplined, not only motivated, to make sure it happens.
Speaker 2:
Guys, I want you to win, I want you to succeed. I want you to look back and say, my goodness, I didn't think I could, but I did and I'm doing great. And I'm thankful that I decided to take other people off the pedestal and take a tippy toe on it for myself, because in that moment I was able to see wow, you wanted this too. You wanted this greatness. You decided to move that gap. Close that gap through support, close that gap through community, close that gap through journaling, self-care, self-love, self-belief and self-awareness and reflection to make sure you understand who you are, so that you can work on becoming the person that you're destined to be. I am rooting for you. I want you to win. I want you to be as amazing as you could possibly be. You want it for yourself too.
Speaker 2:
Now put in the work. Let go of those limiting beliefs, let go of that self-doubt. It's going to take time to do it, so I don't think that, after listening to the episode, you're going to be like, yes, I've arrived, light bulb, come on. It's not going to happen that way. It's going to take time. Everything takes time, but move little by little in the right direction and you will win. Things will start to feel right for you. You will create home for yourself, because you are deserving of it. I am rooting for you, wishing you all the best. I hope this episode was meaningful. Don't forget to tag me on socials, hit me up in my DMs, reach out, I am here for it. Follow, subscribe, leave a comment, share this with your bestie. I'm rooting for you. Let's grow. Let's go together.
Speaker 1:
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